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Saturday, 29 October 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
THE PAINS OF LOVING THE WRONG WOMAN.

Hi Mrs Stella, no mind my writing errors o, ever since I came across your blog I've been so addicted to your blog. I met this lady 5yrs ago when she was living with a family friend of hers, we got to know each other through her own friend whom I was suppose to date but he wasn't my type of girl and we never dated. She told me about how she lost her mum,sister and how their dad abadoned their mum before she became late,(I won't want to talk about how her mum became late), her dad left the house when he kept accusing her mum of some things. 



This lady has a step brothers/sisters who lived away from them. I was planning to school abroad when we met(my sister was my sponsor who lives abroad). I learnt about how she was been maltreated in her current location when we met and how she left 3 other places she lived, I felt bad about her story and decided to talk to my sister if she could help her too though my sister was busy with building project back here in other to relocate our aged/sick mum from our old house. She told me she was 18yrs old while I was 21yrs, so we both decided she come stay with me while we run the processing together so that she will have access to movement incase we needed to go full some forms and other things. 


While she was with her family friend, I will call her and as well speak with her friends including the daughter of the woman who took her in when she needed a place to stay (her elder brother was in school during that time). I was going for an aviation training (ticketing/reservation) when I met her and I would leave after training to her place which is about an hour plus trip, I will take money to her and other things. I was so much in love with her, I left all my female friends to start a life with this lady. She decided to stay with her aunty who lives closer to where I reside inorder for us to see each other and do the school runz together. She told her aunt about me and her dad but her aunt was not ok with her traveling and she believed her aunt is wicked and she has an hand in their family problems. I was not happy she told her cos I was scared of been jazzed as well but she told her. 


The aunt had to convince her dad not to support it. And we ended up not been able to meet up with the processing and traveling package. My sister believed I was not serious to have thought of bringing someone while she was trying to raise funds for me to join her and study. Due to the disagreement with her aunt over the schooling things, we planned she join me in my parent's house while we hustle our way out, she got preggy along the line and the day we got to know, she was unhappy and the only thing on her mind was to abort, I go against abortion and never want to be involve in it. I had to talk to her that night that we should keep the baby while we try to see if we can still make our way out.


 I started working for my uncle(family friend who runs a company in Nigeria but lives in the UK), I took control of their computer rooms and other devices cos I'm very good at it. He decided to rent an apartment for me on the island but I rejected the offer bcos I needed to make sure she's ok and not troubled, anytime I go to work, I make sure I filled the generator with diesel from morning till when I return late at night and as well run it all through the night , so that she won't be get in any trouble with anyone in my house bcos the place is more like a place where we have visitors regularly and we both agreed she stays indoor so that no one that knows her will see her. Sometimes I will forget large money in my pocket 5k,10k upward and she will take it and after sometimes she will tell me about it and how she spent it and we both laugh. 



I was busy helping my sis with her projects as well and I had to stop working when my elder brother who was in-charge of the project was not keeping the project moving and he kept spending when my sis sent money and he over bill her, she got to know about it when one of the laborer got my sis's contact and told her about how my brother was not paying them. I had to stop working to focus on my sister's project and as well take care of our mum( take her to the physiotherapist). I was always following her to the clinic for antenatal till she gave birth and I was in the labor room with her, most night is just a no sleeping night and if the generator develops some fault, I won't sleep I will be busy chasing mosquitoes, blow her some air when it's hot at night. 


I will wash her clothings, do all the chores she's suppose to do inorder to avoid her getting into trouble with anyone of my family or those who visits us. I started taking a lot of responsibilities at my early age. I will make sure I get things for my mum and as well my lady everyday(bags,foods from the eatery NA everyday thing), I will sort all the repairs for the generators In the house both the diesel/petrol. She will order anything from konga/Jumia to be delivered to the house, she has it all. There was a particular day her aunt and her dad came to our house and met my mom at mum and they warned her while I was out with my woman. I put mama through a lot even the day she was in labor, it was my mum that was there and even accepted Her when she wanted to move In with me. After some months her brother got to know about her sister's having a child though she told me her brother through her out in the midnight because of money. 


He fought me when he knew Abt his sister having a child. I will have to send money to her brother each time he says he needs money. I discovered she started talking to her ex while Im always away and i started having trust issues. I was feeling insecure and I didn't know she was actually planning with her brother to run from the house. She left the house when our baby was a year old, I was shock when she telling me she's leaving that morning I got to know(probably she might have told her brother something that makes him feel like she should return to him, he got a good job that time and he was doing fine when she returned to him). While she was with her brother, she will call me that she needs money, I was unhappy and so weak to move on. 


I had to go back to take another training maybe I could get her off my head but I couldn't concentrate, I lose my head and I was busy taking care of the lil girl with me, I will back her when she cries, bath her and she always sleeps beside me while her mother was away, it was hell for me. I will send pic of how me and the baby was doing to her and she will ignore my calls sometimes and laugh at times, I felt horrible. It got to a point I had to threaten her I'm going to take the child away from her inorder for her to return. He brother got involve and threatened me. 


She agreed with her brother never to disclose their location so that I won't come for her, for good 2weeks we didn't see nor talk until she decided to disclose the location to me, i started taking money to her when she complains that she doesn't have enough and how she overwork herself everyday with chores, felt pity for her. I had to take her child to her place so that they could reunite but the lil girl was not getting along with her. After some months, her brother got married and she wasn't comfortable with her sis-in-law and I had to start communication with her dad and we got along very well. She requested we have a little family introduction so that she can return to my places, I hustled around and got it done. It was hell getting her back too. During her stay out there, she met with her 2 of her ex bf and she told me they just kissed and touch but nothing happened.


 One of her ex bf was the one she grew up with who came over to her brother's house when her brother was away on a trip(with lots of pressure before she told me abt it) but I'm this person that doesn't hide anything away from including my past and even if I meet any lady that tries to woo me. She has left me and our lil daughter twice and she's on another wahala again. Recently she disclose to me that she's in love with her and she loves him so much that she needed a place to stay that was why she came to me, it wasn't love. I was very sad when I heard her say such, I got angry and we settled the issues and got back again after so much plea. She suggested that she wants to start learning catering and after some days she wants to learn tailoring and many things like that. I'm jobless at the moment and immediately mum was stroke with stroke recently, she started the I want to leave things again. 


Her family got involve and it was resolved, she recently told me that she wish me dead so that she can leave, she said all her plans was for us to travel abroad and she files a restriction on me. I lost a scholarship offer to canada to study aeronautical after writing an exam and made my scores.


 I sat her down and was scared of leaving her and my lil daughter to face hell back here, she raised a suggestion Abt canada family package, I got a contact which I was duped of the money I was suppose to use in preparing my papers for the training in Canada. I was mocked in the presence of her brother in law and their family friend that I'm jobless at the moment and so many things about me and they were all laughing, I stood strong and accepted my fate that it will all lead to testimony one day. Recently my sister raised her some money to start up egg biz, I was doing the running and the sales for her and give her the money immediately I sell them off.


 I'm 27yrs old now and she's giving me another reason for our separation. 


Everyday is hell for me and I don't want my lil daughter to grow up in a separated home. I'm in so much pains now. She never wants to have penetrated sex with me since the birth of our daughter until recently when she decides to change the thing o. I feel so depress since she told me she only needed a place to to stay back then and she only loves her ex bf but I forgave her and I asked her if she will leave now so that she can be happy with her ex bf but she tells me she has no place to go. 


Her dad is not in support of her leaving the relationship because he believes she's having a problem, since it was same way she left the places she had lived..Aunty Stella your red pen please, I feel empty without her bcos I'm so much in love with her. I always want to stand for her....




Is there anything chaining your leg to this lady?LET HER GO and move on with your life....if she runs away again without taking your daughter,then look for someone to look after her whilst you work and try to plan your life..YOU ARE TO WEAK,GET UP AND ACT!!!

I am trying not to be too harsh cos you sound like a really loving,nice young man who fell into the wrong hands but please wake up,smell the coffee and know the direction you are supposed to go..

I am sure you will get some loving advice from other blog visitors.
MAY GOD FILL YUR PATH WITH LIGHT DEAR.



111 comments:

Blackberry said...

Guy, when u get more mature, you will look back and say 'what da hell was wrong with me'?

Lol, dem jazz you there?

All I can say is, guy GROW/MAN UP, if I were ur sis, aswear, I for beat dat girl outta your head, I for help u chase her! Wth!

Anonymous said...

But why did you have sex before paying her bride price? Your story is too long.

She Listens said...

She obviously doesn't love you. Let her go.

Becky Divine said...

Nna why are you this weak?
Dem carry jazz hold you?? Someone has been tormenting your life and making a mockery of you for years now... and you still haven't picked up courage to leave and move on with your life?? Jeezzz

Nna this one too much oo
It must be jazz! In fact you and your sis that are still helping her till now have been jazzed!
Run to your pastor, you need strong deliverance! Serious one ooo

I'm just so angry at all the beautiful opportunities you missed just cos of that she-devil!! Chai
Maybe she's your spiritual wife but has come physically to completely ruin you. Go for deliverance biko

Becky Divine said...

Nna why are you this weak?
Dem carry jazz hold you?? Someone has been tormenting your life and making a mockery of you for years now... and you still haven't picked up courage to leave and move on with your life?? Jeezzz

Nna this one too much oo
It must be jazz! In fact you and your sis that are still helping her till now have been jazzed!
Run to your pastor, you need strong deliverance! Serious one ooo

I'm just so angry at all the beautiful opportunities you missed just cos of that she-devil!! Chai
Maybe she's your spiritual wife but has come physically to completely ruin you. Go for deliverance biko

Falcon said...

I don't understand this, lemme read again

TUSH BABY said...

May God deliverer you

SixFeeta said...

Oga calm down.

Only U???

Anonymous said...

Disjointed narrative but from what I could glean from it, you need to forget about your "girlfriend", move on with your life and raise your daughter alone.

JSBunny said...

May the Almighty God not make my sons this weak over a woman.it I'd well sir.

Cherry Wine said...

Sorry bout that poster, I just hate it when people pretend to like/love someone because they need something from them. I know exactly how you felt when she told you it wasn't love, that statement can tear anybody apart. Please just try and let go, she's just using you. To think y'all have a sweet Angel already, just focus on the baby, channel your love to her, stop sending that Girl money, dohh.

Anonymous said...

Pls someone should summarise. I didn't read it. It's too long.

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

Very childish chronicle..

Falcon said...

If someone doesn't love you back, then let them be, you have sacrificed enough for her. Move on and face your life.

Trey Mama said...

I really really wanted to read it to the end, hehehe,but i no fit! Kia! Warris this?
Young man, grow a pair!
I need panadol biko. Brb.

DonMayor said...

Guy send that girl far away from you, if she wants to leave your house, encourage her to go and never come back.
She's not going to get along with you but run you down. Stop running after a woman that's running away from you.

She's born to suffer, can't you see that ?

Victoria's Heart said...

I didn't finish reading cos i got angry half way.
Young man i won't cuss you bcos i believe you're not really in your right senses now. Because if you were, then you'd have known the right thing to do is to get yourself as far away as you possibly can from the toxic relationship. That girl is evil and bent on destroying your life and bright future.

Listen to me.. you're still young. You still have enough time to go out there and seek for better future for yourself and your baby. Find a relative that will help you and take care of your baby for now while you focus on your life and your future. Please do your best to forget that girl, tell her it's over and make sure you mean it. Block her from all your contacts and social media handles, then move on.

I promise you that God in His infinite mercy will bless you beyond your imagination. But first you need to distance yourself from that agent of darkness lurking around you for GOOD! Once you do this, you'll be free and then...you will meet the right woman for you. It's well with you

Lizzy Berry said...

Biko my eyes they pain me

Are u a mumu?

Y are you punishing urself?

U backed the baby.... Boy u are a husband material 8yrds, but sense is less.

Does she have a πŸ’£ pussy?
Yea are you so attached to the demon giving u sleepless nights??



Yea are you doing this to urself?
She had the mind to leave her baby chasing exes for more than 2weeks,,, u even went ahead to pay her bride price.


'Why do fools fall in love'currently watching the movie and I see you playing the lead role of a fool here.



Pls receive sense!

Weed Chic said...

Guy, it seems she was with you because she wanted to go abroad. She has never really liked you and it is obvious. You are to her, a friend with benefits. Break up with her, and move on. I can't believe you forfeited your scholarship. By now, u 4 don dey hammer. Find someone to care for your daughter and travel out. If ur baby mama comes again n forms that she has changed, know that she has plans and ignore her. Her family are using you n sapping you dry

jane okudo said...

I could picture the whole scenario,i feel for you, bur then u gotta act like a man!! She knws ure weak nd at the same tym inluv with her, let her go ND hold on to ur child, u CNt luv a woman who doesn't luv you,pls get ur life going,get smtin doing nd try dating another woman,wat u feel ain't living, Uve been with her for a very long tym to tink its luvd!! She's acting her age nd wants other men...

Anonymous said...

She's mad o!!! Very mad! I'm a lady and I repeat that that girl is mad! Better send her away before she ruins you!

Mrs I said...

Hian! Chronic chronicle!

Anonymous said...

just like that weird doc story, some men can love tire ehnnnn..short of words sef

Anonymous said...

Young man what kind of example are you setting for your child? Are you aware that 27 is not a child anymore. This woman is not ready to be with you but because you want to stand for her, you will expose yourself and child to rubbish. You are stagnant now and you are not worried. Instead you are worrying about a 24 yr old girl without direction. This girl has a father yet you want to become her father by force. You have your own fathering to do, sit there and be playing.

Tuscany said...

At 27 and you cant even decide your priorities and what you want in life? Smp
Better leave her, take your daughter and spend your money on giving yiur child the best u can.
She has told u she doesnt love u and you are just a convenience cos the moment she gets a place to go she would leave u

ThatYorubaChic#wifenotcook said...

Take Stella's advice please

why do good people meet the wrong ones *thinking loudly*

Yummy chick cum mummy said...

God is just merciful.. How does the bitch girls get the good guys..... And vice-versa...
Dude, leave this girl, she is young and want to enter town... Soon, she will learn her lessons that nothing dey Der..... Pls try and remove her from ur Heart for ur own sanity and concentration ... Kip doing things to make u a better man... I just hope she will not lose a diamond, while she is chasing the stone... Sorry.

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

OMG, ur chronicle is too long.. Although I read to the end.
I saw gbagaun upandan....... So I will advise you to free this lady n go back to school if possible.
Or better still concentrate in whatsoever u are doing.

This lady has eating deep into you like a worm.....let go of this negative vibes she is giving u.

U seems like a good n loyal lover!
Take care of ur daughter.
Search for love else where Biko.
Love is not trouble some

chivo anderson said...

My guy you are a very big fool, I have no advice for you. You mean you wasted your life,jeopardised your future and travelling abroad to study because of a woman??? No advice for you man, that's the consequences for your mistake, run to Jesus or bare it.

chivo anderson said...

My guy you are a very big fool, I have no advice for you. You mean you wasted your life,jeopardised your future and travelling abroad to study because of a woman??? No advice for you man, that's the consequences for your mistake, run to Jesus or bare it.

chivo anderson said...

My guy you are a very big fool, I have no advice for you. You mean you wasted your life,jeopardised your future and travelling abroad to study because of a woman??? No advice for you man, that's the consequences for your mistake, run to Jesus or bare it.

Lizzy Berry said...

*Y* not Yea
Auto correct don't piss me off

chivo anderson said...

My guy you are a very big fool, I have no advice for you. You mean you wasted your life,jeopardised your future and travelling abroad to study because of a woman??? No advice for you man, that's the consequences for your mistake, run to Jesus or bare it.

Anonymous said...

Was this chronicle written in igbo and translated to English..... Igbo boy chronicle

Jumiasalesagent contactme. said...

If i slap you!!! Check your age again.So i should tell you wwhen to stop being stupid and foolish..

Sonia Spence said...

My eyes hurt. Jeez.

Young man please borrow brain and move on. That girl ain't loyal.

Atheist. said...

Me too...
Long & boring

Anonymous said...

Too long...couldn't finish.

Anonymous said...

Very long and incoherent story..That is what happens when @21 you start doing things and taking up responsibilities you have no business undertaking..You are not a serious person like your sister said ,you actually expected her to carry you and some girl abroad with her hard earned money..mtcheew..I have no sympathy for you or your schizophrenic girlfriend/babymama/wife..I only pity the innocent child...pleae send that lady away,look for someone or make an arragement with both families as regards your child upbringing,whilst you get your acts together as regards your life and future..SMH

Clara Udeh said...

Just negodu!...

Iman Bella said...

Sorry to say
But you seem too weak for a man
Haba for 5 good years, this lady treated you like trash and you keep going back
Try and set your priorities straight
You're too young, I repeat too young for this mess she's trying to embroil you in
She doesn't love you, never loved you
Only saw you as a convenience or destiny helper
Kindly dust yourself up and move on
You'll meet someone better who will love and cherish you for who you are

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Guy is this jazz?? IS there honey or sugar in her pussy? I don't understand you. You sound weak minded. Take your daughter from that woman and live your life. There are plenty girls. Get a girl who will love your daughter like her own and not mistreat her. Break away from this bad news of a woman you're with

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Summary is a guy who has been jazzed by a good jazzer and who needs immediate deliverance from the spirit of weak mindness

Judy said...

Bros abeg this isn't love,its pure weakness,u r extremely weak,sorry though because if u don't shine ur eyes another girl might treat u same way..u need to throw that girl out of your house, take care of ur daughter by yourself,plan for your life,she's bad luck to u,she's taking advantage of ur love and u know it,man up quickly no matter how hurtful u may feel,u ended up ruining ur travel/study plan because of this witch of girl..if u were my blood brother I will personally throw her out,u have even lost ur self esteem,but don't worry,the moment u get this girl out of your life u will surely meet a God sent,just make ur life happy & beautiful once again..I pray for strength for u to get over all d hurt & move on

Empress CHO said...

Shhhh...listen!
You hear that rush of footsteps...that's your village people approaching.
LIKE SERIOUSLY!!!
Did she tie your destiny in a bottle?
See how you sidetracked your life, mortgaged a brilliant start for yourself coz of some amateur career witch, her sob stories, manipulative antics and of course SEX.

You think this irritating shit you put up there makes you seem responsible and like some heartbroken sensitive romantic.
Nope, You sound like a determined FOOL! Look at you acting like some castrated he-goat, yapping rubbish and complicating your life for a girl who has no serious aim in life.

You are a terribly timid fellow who is excessively grateful for a chance to put that shrivelled micro penis of yours into a vagina, now you can hardly think straight. See what your zero low self esteem has caused you, you've messed up an opportunity of a life time playing premature "king kong". Oga who sent you biko! Who told you it is your destiny to help a self-destructive chick. See all the money that would started up businesses and helped you with your schooling, you've wasted on this girl.

You don't know what to do? Put on a red shirt, leave some buttons open,run in the breeze, while holding your chest....looks romantic! Charge like some love struck idiot and go and beg. Infact fan her and her new boyfriend while they have sex, do not forget to list a thousand and one reasons while she should come back to you while at it.
See how God is saving your life by taking that girl out of the picture so you can face your life, but as the St.cupidinus that you is now...you must die there.

Young man, you do not need petting and understanding, you have a skewed meaning to such seeing how you going. You need tough loving. Sadly, you are not opening up enough to your family, and i doubt your sister knows how much of a dumbo you have become.
Love yourself enough to never tolerate being bullshitted like this. You can't do without her, says who! That's puppy love and too much time on your hands talking not you. You want to always stand by her, honey, that is not your duty. That chick has her issues, she needs to fight her own demons, she has no need for a messiah so why are you trying to be one.

You will keep yourself forever distracted and on your toes with this girl. That family you desperately seek with her will be dysfunctional. Stop courting trouble. She's probably your "first". Your innocence and naivety makes it so easy to fall hard. But, you must shake off this girl and what she represents...A life of turmoil.

See, cry all you can...it's okay to be heartbroken. Open up to loved ones, try to cut communication with her. Face your own life, you need help. You've barely achieved anything. Hustle for a job, get help for school. Assist your Mama, concentrate on your daughter... if she's really yours. Find motivational books and read. Get closer to God, sex is spiritual and you have dug into the wrong hole. Her mess has been transfered to you.
Ask for forgiveness, for peace, for restoration, for a fresh start, for new opportunities, for the grace to live right. Get your life back on track! Do not be in a hurry pls. Shebi, you want to play husband, you will do it for decades to a woman, be a worthy man that will be a great husband for that deserving woman.

Stop worrying your head about your daughter having seperated parents and all that petty concerns. If you clean up, rearrange your priorities, you will attract a queen that will give you absolute peace of mind, give a warm and love-filled home and be an excellent mother to your child. Think of you first! You deserve better than being tossed around,.

She's Electric said...

Pack your ngwo ngwo and leave this lady. What do you want for your life? Happiness and freedom is all I wish you.

Lady C said...

She don really jazz u,u are educated for crying out loud allowing one small illiterate girl making u sad always abeg leave d girl alone and focus more on urself nd d baby.

Jenny zee said...

Nawa..see as I de pity d guy as I de read,pls she's taking u for granted,let go of her

Sweetest Vivienne said...

*eaten...madam gbaguaun

crouchingTigress said...

She has told you she does not love u.u have to move on.its difficult but u v got to move on. No one is indispensable.

Nneomma said...

Guy this is the one of things u will regret in future...it has happened t me but different story. ..guy so wake up...this d stupid love we build. ..she cried for help..U did..now she remembered she's not suppose t b with u in d name of her ex...guy u r a learner

Loveme Jeje said...

Chai too long. No comment

Anonymous said...

You believe this disjointed concoction? When did Jumia and Konga start operation? He's 27 years now and he said they started dating when he was 21, which is 6 years ago. The guy filled this story with lies and stupidity.

1nigeriangirl said...

Damn,all through reading your chronicle, i was like an ambulance wow wow wow wow.

I'm more shocked this kind of unrequited love coming from a guy.

My dear, when someone shows you repeatedly that you don't matter, the best is to leave them alone, that's self respect.

That girl is bad news from the start, everything she said was lies.

Move away from here, take your daughter and relocate abroad. You deserve better, give yourself time to heal.

It will end in praise

1nigeriangirl said...

I swear. Coming back only when they want something

Stella maris Baby said...

@ poster you need many slap for your brain to be resentπŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹.
Nonsense girl tormenting your live since 1900.
Receive sense joor.

Anonymous said...

I get!!! U were young, foolish and in love... But guy it's been 5years.U need to look back at your life and see that u haven't achieved much... I'm sure she got tired of u.. U need to re-evaluate your life and think hard and well. Remove all negativities and set back and try to work on yourself..U need to leave your baby mama, cuz she is ur major setback. It's so sad u just lost out on a good opportunity.I guess she got your mugs switch). MAY God help you

Blossom said...

Poster, your baby mama is taking advantage of your love for her. At this age of your life,you have this much drama? Pls reorganise your life cos if you continue with this lady despite all the things you have mentioned,you may never make it in life.

The truth is bitter but it must be said, let her go. She is only using you. Her presence in your life won't afford your life is a setback. I just pray you make the right decision.

Lee Josh said...

This guy just got me livid sha, look how you wan spoil your life. At 21 you let a devil change your destiny, do you know how far you would have gone in life if you had traveled outta the country for your education? Instead you let a demon chain your glorious destiny, guy it's better you let this demon outta yo life, you can still go a long way but i bet you ain't gonna go no long way if you continue to be with this cursed lady.... my 2 cent

youngman said...

Sometimes I regret reading chronicles. Stupid and foolish youths of today. Onye akwo n'azu n'akwo nmadu. Onece a boy sees aji on his ukwu amu, the next thing is girl friend and wife to be while the moment a girl sees aji otu and ara, the next thing is which boy or man would become my meal ticket. If it is true that there is time and season for everything, what does a 21year old boy need a woman for? A boy supposed to be concerned about building his future is more interested in getting a girl and being a parent for her. Hmmmnn. Why should I advise such a person?

Lili Sparko. said...

Na wa o! Your own gbagaun dey out of this world, I counted about 5! Take it easy o!

Lili Sparko. said...

Na wa o! Your own gbagaun dey out of this world, I counted about 5! Take it easy o!

CherryCee said...

...but why did you start living this kind of life at such an early stage in life?
That's a whole lot going on there for a 27year old man.
The mistake has been made already...so we are talking about the way forward.
I always say that it's never too late to start afresh. First you have to accept that you are the only one in love here. The girl obviously doesn't love you. She wanted to use you to travel overseas which didn't work out. She sees you are weak that's why she is still using you. How long will you continue to be used? Leave that girl in the trash where you found her and face your life. You have a daughter now, so start behaving like a man and not a school boy. You are are smart, hardworking and I'm sure you will make it big in no time.. I believe in you so please don't dissapoint me.
Cheers!

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Let me take space

Young man, GO! Take your daughter and let her mum go. Leave all this family talk. That girl carried alot of bad luck and has slowed you down for so long. If she was 18 and didn't know better at such a young age, 7 years later she should have had sense. Motherhood alone changes women and makes them
Think futuristically. E don do!! You need to make a success of your life for the sake of your daughter. Have you even been to university? From your diction, I don't think you have. It's okay! You were 21 you made mistakes, now it's time to sit back and get your life on track. Let her go sharply. Get custody of your daughter and plan for both of you.
I wish you well. You also seem like a man that's too soft. Can you toughen up? Abeg.... try. All this family this and that won't pay bills oh.

Anonymous said...

Reading through your own comments, the following gbaguns were duly noted.
* has eating is wrong... should be has eaten.
* this negative vibes... this should go with vibe while these goes with vibes.
* you seems like is very wrong .... you seem like is corrct.

Moral lesson is that no one is above mistake. When you point a finger at someone, four other fingers are pointing at you.

Correct with love.

Anonymous said...

YOU ARE A GOAT!!! If you were my brother I would disown you! Look at you! Original MUGU. Be there and be deceiving yourself.That girl is a self sabotage and you are an enabler. I don't think you even love this girl fa, you pity her and you want to see everything right with her meanwhile she is deranged. Abeg get out here!!!!! Before I lose my temper. NDI ALA! Read your story out loud and listen to yourself and you would realize that you are a foolish somebody. Listen to me if you still have a brain, One day when she leaves the house, pack your things and that of your daughter's and disappear!Start making plans and when you perfect them. get out. DO NOT TELL HER WHERE YOU PACKED TOO. Take her to court for custody of you daughter and demand full custody. live your life after! ONYE ALA, ZUZU PU BIKO! ANU MPAMA, MISTCHEWW!

Anonymous said...

YOU ARE A GOAT!!! If you were my brother I would disown you! Look at you! Original MUGU. Be there and be deceiving yourself.That girl is a self sabotage and you are an enabler. I don't think you even love this girl fa, you pity her and you want to see everything right with her meanwhile she is deranged. Abeg get out here!!!!! Before I lose my temper. NDI ALA! Read your story out loud and listen to yourself and you would realize that you are a foolish somebody. Listen to me if you still have a brain, One day when she leaves the house, pack your things and that of your daughter's and disappear!Start making plans and when you perfect them. get out. DO NOT TELL HER WHERE YOU PACKED TOO. Take her to court for custody of you daughter and demand full custody. live your life after! ONYE ALA, ZUZU PU BIKO! ANU MPAMA, MISTCHEWW!

Anonymous said...

I am finding it difficult to believe that there are guys that still behave like this,mr poster if your story is true please forget about her and move on, it's obvious she was never into you in the first place she was just using you.

Anonymous said...

I am finding it difficult to believe that there are guys that still behave like this,mr poster if your story is true please forget about her and move on, it's obvious she was never into you in the first place she was just using you.

Dauntless Cersei said...

Please travel with your child. Keep her with your sister and further your education.

You literally have been shagging the devil. Biko delete her from your memory and life. She isn't worth it.

Anonymous said...

Too many harsh words for this young man, please pity him.
Poster, you are a good man, unbelievably good i must say. Your heart is like my bf's. Except yours is much better. You stood your ground for the pregnancy, my BF was shaking like a jelly fish!
Anyway, this is the truth. 1, is that baby really yours? Do a DNA.
2) this girl doesn't like you at all. You are her meal ticket. And pal, there is nothing you can do that will make this girl love you like you do her. Nothing!
Please, focus on yourself, your aviation thingy! You see a chance to go abroad, please go. When you are there, you can send for your daughter.
Don't let her take ur baby. Because she will use that one to be collecting money from you.
I have sooo many advice for you, but mehn, your gf is wicked. You are UAD to her. Use and dump! Unfortunately, she is the one at a loss but most girls will kill to have a man, hardworking like you.

Please, stop loving her! It is going to be hardddddd! (Been there, done that). Just believe that there is a woman out there who will love you and cherish you, respect you for who you awesomely ARE!

You are not a fool! You weren't jazzed! You are just a ride or die for the wrong homo sapien!
Stay strong! And unlove that girl please.
Xoxo

Adanne said...

Poster you kinda gave us a tip to this story the other day...

don't let yourself be dragged to the mud,@ 27 you should have been done with school, you had so many good opportunities, but you allow a woman to mess you up.

Have a rethink, go to school so you can better your life for you and your daughter, let the lady go, it will hurt yes, but you have to be a man.

You are a nice person but don't be stupid (no offense)

Ideato/ilaje blood said...

Poster! Your life is in a bottle in a coven. Run to s strong church for deliverance.

This is not ordinary

Anonymous said...

Lol Liz u don kolo ne

Omalichac said...

Dear poster. You need to leave that lady and move far away from that lady as soon as possible. Her own bad luck is too much. You guys shouldnt be together simple. She doesnt deserve you.

Anonymous said...

Don't you think you talk too much for an Ibo man

Emeka Mimi said...

U need serious beating plus deliverance.
If d girl don't leave u now,she's still going to leave tomorrow whether u like it or not..she opened her mouth and said that she wished u death and u wre stil waiting for her to poison or kill u..sorry ma guy
Bitch nigga if I slap u eh,d thunder wey go fire u go come from Aleppo Syria

Senator said...

You are Idiot that's all I can say for now sorry let me add dis one yu are a fool A big one I mean Big fool Niger girls don't fall in love the one tht manage to fall in love does that after marriage take note Werey

Anonymous said...

Eya I feel for you but wait oh is that how strong your love for this girl is? You made a very big mistake, you don't kill your dreams bcos of other people, imagine if you had gone to school aboard when your sis was ready to sponsor you your life would have been better or you going to Canada when you got the scholarship.... Some people come to your life to make your life better while some come to destroy it, that girl is a destiny spoiler chase her out of your life physically, spiritually and mentally.... God help you.

Anonymous said...

Eya I feel for you but wait oh is that how strong your love for this girl is? You made a very big mistake, you don't kill your dreams bcos of other people, imagine if you had gone to school aboard when your sis was ready to sponsor you your life would have been better or you going to Canada when you got the scholarship.... Some people come to your life to make your life better while some come to destroy it, that girl is a destiny spoiler chase her out of your life physically, spiritually and mentally.... God help you.

Anonymous said...

Eya I feel for you but wait oh is that how strong your love for this girl is? You made a very big mistake, you don't kill your dreams bcos of other people, imagine if you had gone to school aboard when your sis was ready to sponsor you your life would have been better or you going to Canada when you got the scholarship.... Some people come to your life to make your life better while some come to destroy it, that girl is a destiny spoiler chase her out of your life physically, spiritually and mentally.... God help you.

Anonymous said...

Eya I feel for you but wait oh is that how strong your love for this girl is? You made a very big mistake, you don't kill your dreams bcos of other people, imagine if you had gone to school aboard when your sis was ready to sponsor you your life would have been better or you going to Canada when you got the scholarship.... Some people come to your life to make your life better while some come to destroy it, that girl is a destiny spoiler chase her out of your life physically, spiritually and mentally.... God help you.

Robyna Fenty said...

This is the longest chronicle I have ever read. I nearly gave up half way. Seriously what's wrong with you? All this cld have been avoided if you had used a condom. That babe never loved you. She needed a place to stay when her mom died and you were there to provide. With all the headache she is giving you, you are still saying you dont want your child to grow up in a broken home? Lol Sorry to break it to you but you guys never had a "home" in the first place. Besides won't it be better for your daughter to live in a peaceful home with just you than a home where she'll be seeing mommy and daddy fighting every time with mommy moving out for weeks then moving back in? She'll grow up thinking that kind of behaviour is okay. Your baby mama is a bad role model and the further away from your daughter she is the better. It takes more than getting pregnant and giving birth to be called mother and any woman that abandons her child isn't one. She obviously has no maternal instinct. I can't even believe you agreed to an introduction so that she won't move out again. Do you live under a rock? People marry in church and still end up divorcing. From your write up, i am convinced you are a masochist. You enjoy dysfunctional relationships. If I were you i wld cut her off completely, get a job and focus on raising your little girl. Oh and she was 19 when you got her pregnant so it's also possible that she feels like she has missed out on life and wants to reclaim her youth. She may come back to her senses soon.

Soft said...

Eya I feel for you but wait oh is that how strong your love for this girl is? You made a very big mistake, you don't kill your dreams bcos of other people, imagine if you had gone to school aboard when your sis was ready to sponsor you your life would have been better or you going to Canada when you got the scholarship.... Some people come to your life to make your life better while some come to destroy it, that girl is a destiny spoiler chase her out of your life physically, spiritually and mentally.... God help you.

Soft said...

Eya I feel for you but wait oh is that how strong your love for this girl is? You made a very big mistake, you don't kill your dreams bcos of other people, imagine if you had gone to school aboard when your sis was ready to sponsor you your life would have been better or you going to Canada when you got the scholarship.... Some people come to your life to make your life better while some come to destroy it, that girl is a destiny spoiler chase her out of your life physically, spiritually and mentally.... God help you.

Anonymous said...

I couldn't resist commenting, and it happens to be my first time...I cant seem to make sense out of what you just put out here...in future, endeavor to proofread before sending narratives to the public.

Anonymous said...

Bros Abeg bring the baby I will take care of her for u, no strings attached. So that u can fix ur life. Face it life o. Leave Dat girl alone. She never know say good men r hard to come by.

Anonymous said...

What's this???

Anonymous said...

Lolz it must be jazz

Anonymous said...

Lolz it must be jazz

Unbeatable said...

As long as u r w dat girl, u will never make progress in life. Infact, at 40 yrs. u will still be a fool. You will never amount to anything w her. Guess wat? She will eventually leave u, either now or later. Choose which is better for you.
From the look of things too, she might be a witch & a destiny destroyer. So, go for deliverance; to be delivered from he shackles.
Also, are u not afraid of terminal diseases like HIV? Go for a test, to know ur status. Cos w a lady dat sleeps around, u never can tell wat she is collecting and giving to you.
Finally, guy 6 whole years of bondage and slavery & God finally picked ur call & u want to throw dis life time opportunity away? If u don't let her go and forever let go of her, know dat u have forever destroyed yourself.
Remember, love no dey for 6 feet down o, nah only d living dey love.
Just go back to school or relocate to another state. Do all u can including prayers to detApach from her and stop sending or giving her money.
God is giving u another opportunity to correct your destiny. Don't blow it.

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

I can't believe what I just read.

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Long and annoying.Can't believe I wasted my precious time reading it.

Anonymous said...

*or better still concentrate ON whatever you are doing

Vivilicious said...

Sorry to say poster, but you are a very weak man and you need to grow the hell up. BTW I want to believe this your writing is typo error and not actually the way you speak.

Anonymous said...

Troublesome is a word, not 'trouble some'

Teacher teach me nonsense!

Tessbaby said...

Wetin b all this? Pls chronicles should be tagged 30 n above.

Anonymous said...

He allowed a woman ruin his life. Geez. Get your shit together. Go to school, get someone to care for the child, and ignore this woman forever. She is bad news.

Anonymous said...

Lai Lai, this boy cannot be Igbo. His family would have called family meeting on this issue of losing opportunities repeatedly because of woman.

Anonymous said...

Bros e be like say dem don knack pigeon for ya head.

Anonymous said...

The girl has told you she doesn't love you and she is using you. Assist her to leave you. Make sure she leaves you and keep your daughter. Straighten up your life, go to school, learn to speak and write good English, get a job and do other businesses. The right woman who will accept your daughter will come. Thank God you have not yet married this one.

Anonymous said...

I have been asking this question tey tey and I still dey ask am.

Anonymous said...

I could not finish reading this poorly structured piece. Jesus!

Anonymous said...

As in ehn! Maka Chukwu, this person can never be igbo, it can't even happen. Igbo man that will be looking for how to make something out of his life, where will he see time for all this rubbish. Poster, you have been jazzed, u no say e no dey hard your people, any small thing jazz.

Anonymous said...

He is just a lil boy mentally who believes he is in luv. Clearly 4rom wat I read, dis boy doesn't kw his left n ryt. At 27 ma elder bro will sit 1 down n give him/her a gud, fruitful n helpful advise on how 1 should handle lyf. Boy, u need 2 sit up n act lyk a man dat u will 1 day becum if actually ur story is tru. #diamondindhouse#

Anonymous said...

Pity u re deeply in love with d wrong person,get a trusted woman older woman maybe in ur church who can help u wit ur child since she's always ill.try nd forget d girl after all u haven't married her nd thank God u haven't o,focus on ur education or business pls

benjamin simons said...

I only like u cuz ure an hustler..but for women..ure a weaklin..a weaker male..forget about the girl..its obvious she dislikes u despite she bore a child for u.there are better and loving girls looking for a man Like..but when u get anoda mk sure u act like a MAN.

Anonymous said...

I concur

Anonymous said...

Did your English na disgbangba. Jisos

Anonymous said...

Dis your English na disgbangba. Jisos

Anonymous said...

poster, please leave her right now and focus on developing yourself. If she wants to leave, let her leave, pour all that love on your daughter. If you want to go abroad, focus on it. So that you can care for your daughter. That girl is bad news and chose to be with you because you offered to take her abroad. she is wasteful, lazy and is taking you for granted. If she leaves, date someone else and be man enough to stand by your decision. Stay away from her family too. They hate you! You come off as a really good person who is unappreciated. God will bless you and may he cause you smile again. I feel for you bease I know what it means to love someone deeply.

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