STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
THE PAINS OF LOVING THE WRONG WOMAN.
This lady has a step brothers/sisters who lived away from them. I was planning to school abroad when we met(my sister was my sponsor who lives abroad). I learnt about how she was been maltreated in her current location when we met and how she left 3 other places she lived, I felt bad about her story and decided to talk to my sister if she could help her too though my sister was busy with building project back here in other to relocate our aged/sick mum from our old house. She told me she was 18yrs old while I was 21yrs, so we both decided she come stay with me while we run the processing together so that she will have access to movement incase we needed to go full some forms and other things.
While she was with her family friend, I will call her and as well speak with her friends including the daughter of the woman who took her in when she needed a place to stay (her elder brother was in school during that time). I was going for an aviation training (ticketing/reservation) when I met her and I would leave after training to her place which is about an hour plus trip, I will take money to her and other things. I was so much in love with her, I left all my female friends to start a life with this lady. She decided to stay with her aunty who lives closer to where I reside inorder for us to see each other and do the school runz together. She told her aunt about me and her dad but her aunt was not ok with her traveling and she believed her aunt is wicked and she has an hand in their family problems. I was not happy she told her cos I was scared of been jazzed as well but she told her.
The aunt had to convince her dad not to support it. And we ended up not been able to meet up with the processing and traveling package. My sister believed I was not serious to have thought of bringing someone while she was trying to raise funds for me to join her and study. Due to the disagreement with her aunt over the schooling things, we planned she join me in my parent's house while we hustle our way out, she got preggy along the line and the day we got to know, she was unhappy and the only thing on her mind was to abort, I go against abortion and never want to be involve in it. I had to talk to her that night that we should keep the baby while we try to see if we can still make our way out.
I started working for my uncle(family friend who runs a company in Nigeria but lives in the UK), I took control of their computer rooms and other devices cos I'm very good at it. He decided to rent an apartment for me on the island but I rejected the offer bcos I needed to make sure she's ok and not troubled, anytime I go to work, I make sure I filled the generator with diesel from morning till when I return late at night and as well run it all through the night , so that she won't be get in any trouble with anyone in my house bcos the place is more like a place where we have visitors regularly and we both agreed she stays indoor so that no one that knows her will see her. Sometimes I will forget large money in my pocket 5k,10k upward and she will take it and after sometimes she will tell me about it and how she spent it and we both laugh.
I was busy helping my sis with her projects as well and I had to stop working when my elder brother who was in-charge of the project was not keeping the project moving and he kept spending when my sis sent money and he over bill her, she got to know about it when one of the laborer got my sis's contact and told her about how my brother was not paying them. I had to stop working to focus on my sister's project and as well take care of our mum( take her to the physiotherapist). I was always following her to the clinic for antenatal till she gave birth and I was in the labor room with her, most night is just a no sleeping night and if the generator develops some fault, I won't sleep I will be busy chasing mosquitoes, blow her some air when it's hot at night.
I will wash her clothings, do all the chores she's suppose to do inorder to avoid her getting into trouble with anyone of my family or those who visits us. I started taking a lot of responsibilities at my early age. I will make sure I get things for my mum and as well my lady everyday(bags,foods from the eatery NA everyday thing), I will sort all the repairs for the generators In the house both the diesel/petrol. She will order anything from konga/Jumia to be delivered to the house, she has it all. There was a particular day her aunt and her dad came to our house and met my mom at mum and they warned her while I was out with my woman. I put mama through a lot even the day she was in labor, it was my mum that was there and even accepted Her when she wanted to move In with me. After some months her brother got to know about her sister's having a child though she told me her brother through her out in the midnight because of money.
He fought me when he knew Abt his sister having a child. I will have to send money to her brother each time he says he needs money. I discovered she started talking to her ex while Im always away and i started having trust issues. I was feeling insecure and I didn't know she was actually planning with her brother to run from the house. She left the house when our baby was a year old, I was shock when she telling me she's leaving that morning I got to know(probably she might have told her brother something that makes him feel like she should return to him, he got a good job that time and he was doing fine when she returned to him). While she was with her brother, she will call me that she needs money, I was unhappy and so weak to move on.
I had to go back to take another training maybe I could get her off my head but I couldn't concentrate, I lose my head and I was busy taking care of the lil girl with me, I will back her when she cries, bath her and she always sleeps beside me while her mother was away, it was hell for me. I will send pic of how me and the baby was doing to her and she will ignore my calls sometimes and laugh at times, I felt horrible. It got to a point I had to threaten her I'm going to take the child away from her inorder for her to return. He brother got involve and threatened me.
She agreed with her brother never to disclose their location so that I won't come for her, for good 2weeks we didn't see nor talk until she decided to disclose the location to me, i started taking money to her when she complains that she doesn't have enough and how she overwork herself everyday with chores, felt pity for her. I had to take her child to her place so that they could reunite but the lil girl was not getting along with her. After some months, her brother got married and she wasn't comfortable with her sis-in-law and I had to start communication with her dad and we got along very well. She requested we have a little family introduction so that she can return to my places, I hustled around and got it done. It was hell getting her back too. During her stay out there, she met with her 2 of her ex bf and she told me they just kissed and touch but nothing happened.
One of her ex bf was the one she grew up with who came over to her brother's house when her brother was away on a trip(with lots of pressure before she told me abt it) but I'm this person that doesn't hide anything away from including my past and even if I meet any lady that tries to woo me. She has left me and our lil daughter twice and she's on another wahala again. Recently she disclose to me that she's in love with her and she loves him so much that she needed a place to stay that was why she came to me, it wasn't love. I was very sad when I heard her say such, I got angry and we settled the issues and got back again after so much plea. She suggested that she wants to start learning catering and after some days she wants to learn tailoring and many things like that. I'm jobless at the moment and immediately mum was stroke with stroke recently, she started the I want to leave things again.
Her family got involve and it was resolved, she recently told me that she wish me dead so that she can leave, she said all her plans was for us to travel abroad and she files a restriction on me. I lost a scholarship offer to canada to study aeronautical after writing an exam and made my scores.
I sat her down and was scared of leaving her and my lil daughter to face hell back here, she raised a suggestion Abt canada family package, I got a contact which I was duped of the money I was suppose to use in preparing my papers for the training in Canada. I was mocked in the presence of her brother in law and their family friend that I'm jobless at the moment and so many things about me and they were all laughing, I stood strong and accepted my fate that it will all lead to testimony one day. Recently my sister raised her some money to start up egg biz, I was doing the running and the sales for her and give her the money immediately I sell them off.
I'm 27yrs old now and she's giving me another reason for our separation.
Everyday is hell for me and I don't want my lil daughter to grow up in a separated home. I'm in so much pains now. She never wants to have penetrated sex with me since the birth of our daughter until recently when she decides to change the thing o. I feel so depress since she told me she only needed a place to to stay back then and she only loves her ex bf but I forgave her and I asked her if she will leave now so that she can be happy with her ex bf but she tells me she has no place to go.
Her dad is not in support of her leaving the relationship because he believes she's having a problem, since it was same way she left the places she had lived..Aunty Stella your red pen please, I feel empty without her bcos I'm so much in love with her. I always want to stand for her....
Is there anything chaining your leg to this lady?LET HER GO and move on with your life....if she runs away again without taking your daughter,then look for someone to look after her whilst you work and try to plan your life..YOU ARE TO WEAK,GET UP AND ACT!!!
I am trying not to be too harsh cos you sound like a really loving,nice young man who fell into the wrong hands but please wake up,smell the coffee and know the direction you are supposed to go..
I am sure you will get some loving advice from other blog visitors.
MAY GOD FILL YUR PATH WITH LIGHT DEAR.