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Sunday, 20 November 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

Na wah....These Chronicles just got me frowning!




NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

COOKING BROUHAHA


Hi Stella darling, lol

My fiancé and I live very close to each other. I cook for him or should I say for us everyday cos he eats in my house everyday and I equally cook in his place too.

He came to my place late last night around 10pm when i was in bed expecting me to make Eba for him but I told him to help himself from the pot but he refused. 


The thing is I had told him before now anytime he comes late he should just help himself from the pot. Well last night he threatened to end the relationship, called me wicked, poked and even threatened to hit me. I told him he dared not try it. 

 I also said the cooking I do is out of love not duty as he is yet to pay my bride price so he shouldn't see it as my responsibility. people may say but we have sex everyday, no we hardly have sex cos its wrong. Please Bvs am I wrong? Is he right?

Thanks Stella for the platform.


You cook everyday for your boyfriend?as in everyday?he doesnt take you out to dinner?he doesnt also cook for you or for himself?woooooow

Does he not have hands to serve himself or cook for himself?I hope that you have seen the signs now before you marry and not that later when such demands come up you will start screaming...?

there are women out there who dont mind being at a mans beck and call twenty four seven...if you are not one of such,please do not go further...what you experienced now is a warning sign...he needs a cook and not a wife.please decide on which one you will be before you marry this man.


I am not trying to give bad advice but it is only my kids that will keep me in the kitchen cooking everyday.


#Na wah....#Whatdaheck!! #wifeNOTcook!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
CHRONICLES OF A CONFUSED BABY MAMA.


Hi Stella,
I am confused. Love has not been fair to me so SnM was a welcome idea. I am a 35 years old single mum. I look way younger though.
Met someone on snm a few months back,we have gone out twice and he is almost all I want in a man. Bornagain,kind hearted,loves my daughter but dude is BROKE!!!! 

In addition to that,he is inexperienced in gbenshing and confesses that he doesnt last 2 mins. In all his 37 years, dude has done it less than twice. His Wii is also tiny. 

He told me so himself that his ex insulted him calling him a 2 mins tiny Wii guy. He is too honest.

I told him that I don't care much for gbenshing and didn't care about his size.

Na lie. 

size matters to me.Plus I can't imagine showing a grown man the ropes when it comes to it.I really do like him though,very much. He worships me but ain't all broke men loyal?

Finally another issue i have with him is that although he is a graduate, his written and spoken English makes me cringe.

 I have 3 degrees and i love a man that speaks well. He wants me to stop using makeup and wearing trousers soon as we get married. lailai.

I love my trousers and my 3 months of makeup school will not go to waste.when I get angry with him,he won't eat.he will cry and keep begging me.

I have tried to break up with him with style,for where? Dude don chingum me.

I met someone else on a recent snm and dude is fiiiine.

manly.He has all I want except that he is not as spiritual as the first guy but all good .I am head over heels. Dude is also not broke. We clicked like we have known a million years.

Guy wants marriage kiakia. But he is insanely jealous. 

I am confused. I know some will say I should be lucky I found a man cos I am a mum and 35, but I don't want to be unhappy in marriage plus I don suffer for life well well.I don't want to continue suffering in my husbands house.
Stella use white pen write.advice me pls.

Doppelganger,Queen and boss..make una talk abeg.
Thanks.


*I feel really bad for the first guy and how you described him....if he reads this,what you have done is worse than what his ex did...he will recoil into his shell and feel so embarrassed that you brought this here cos he will know hes the one from your description.

Why dont just honestly break it off with him?cos it looks like you have one leg in and one leg out..I feel really bad for him and becos he might be reading this i cannot even go further in other not to dent his emotions.

Your second guy..how far?you check?i hope he doesnt explode in your face?look well and remember when choosing a partner that in old age gbenshing will wear out and it is companionship that will matter more.I hope i made sense?If not,please ignore mine and read others.


111 comments:

Unknown said...

Oh Chikooo

teespell said...

Poster 1, if you don't break up with that your stupid boyfriend first then you fuck up.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

You are right poster one!...
Don't mind him!...na so e dey start...
He should cut off the engagement nah...
I'm happy he is showing you signs which he will never change from...

Stella,but we have read poster two's chronicle here before and we advised her well!...

Doppelgänger said...

Poster 1 you live with a man and call him your fiancé abi na finance. He has threathened to hit you over food and you have still not packed and left.
I feel sorry for you already, he hasn't married you proper and he already has demands and expectations. Anu e o se me sha
You are seeing the signs but won't leave I know till you suffer more from where that came from.

Poster 2 relationship shouldn't be by force o. You don't like this guy. He is not what you want in a man so why are you forcing it. Please let him go. He has a small willy and you like it big, what's the contest there? You both don't match. Your own man will come and his own woman will come.

Becky Divine said...

Poster one

Are you kidding me or what?
You cook everyday for a man that's not your husband? Chai

My dear break up with that guy this minute before he turns you into his personal slave. Una no dey learn anything from all these chronicles sef

Anonymous said...

@Poster 1, stop playing wifey duty since he's yet to marry, he won't take you serious, like WTF?

Stella, you've posted that second storry before.





*Larry was here*

em jay said...

Lol @poster1, Mrs chef in d making.
Poster2, why are you using that guy to while away time??? Why???

Iman Bella said...

The Second story seems familiar
Are you sure you've not sent in your story before
Abi you're dating the same man with the other lady that sent in her story as well

Atheist. said...

Poster1: Such a man has "Act of service" as his love language, they enjoy free services at all cost, not considering ur effort or state of mind, its not jst the cooking, expect more when ure officially his wife, he'd prefer to watch u do his laundry with hands when washing machine is by the corner, kneel & serve him his food, take his bag as soon as he steps into the door from work.... Na their life be that for the men, the women will xpect u come down from the car, turn around while she remains seated like one handicap, & open her door for her b4 she comes down, very yeye something.

Becky Divine said...

Poster two

Stella we have treated this chronicle here, i remember

Anonymous said...

@poster 1, I was in ur shoes, though it's my bf, we lived together and cooking for me isn't an issue bt when I noticed that he was seeing it as his right, I made sure I reduced it and then stopped, if he doesn't cook he can eat out, it's damn annoying when guys do that, that's why I can't marry a guys that says he can't eat out.2nd chronicle is not new Stella, we've read it before. Bored outta my mind!

Lara Peperenpe said...

Poster 1. What's stopping that guy from marrying you now? I see you ain't really bothered about that, you brought this chronicle here so that we can judge this eba and soup ish to prove you right for your guy to see ba?
Si e ba puor!!!

Poster 2 seems we've treated this kinda chronicle here few weeks back...

ukwu dimond said...

Is well oh!

Villager said...

The mind is the emperror of the body. What effa desicion you finally gate to make at the end, your harpiness revolfs around it. You don't seem to be harpy around usain bolt. Why forse yourself?

ukwu dimond said...
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ANGELRAY4SDK said...

@1, what do u mean by we hardly have sex cos is wrong, who cares if u are fucking, dat ur guy is an idiot, u are seeing the signs now, better end dat toxic relationship cos, he will turn u into a slave if u marry him plus he doesn't ve respect for you, imagine a man trying to hit u in ur own house, hope he gives u money to cook all this food his coming to eat.
@2, u claim u ve suffered but u are dating a broke guy, who spirituality epp, the annoying part is dat he has a small dick, and why is the other guy in a hurry to marry u, shine ur eye.

ukwu dimond said...

Poster one you sold your self cheap to him as a cook, when I was dating my husband before we got married I don't smile with word come and cook for me, when ever the spirit leads I will assist him, you made him to understand that you can cook for him without being his wife so why the complain? Is either you both share goodness in fellowship or you collect beading from him when ever you refuse to cook.

Ladies stop performing the duties of a wide when you are a gf, if he want you to cook and serve him let him wide you, am out.

Blossom said...

Poster1: you started it all by cooking for him everyday so the day you don't do it,it's like you are depriving him of his right. The ball is in your court if you want to be seen only as a cook.

Poster2: I feel so much for Mr. A. Since you know he has been hurt before,you shouldn't have brought his matter here na. Since his 'kini' cannot satisfy you and guy B is all you want,just tell him so he he will not be in the dark. Remember sha that all that glitter is not gold.

Mrs. Romas said...

Poster 1, why did you put yourself in that position? Why play the role of a wife when you're just a girlfriend.

He has already shown you the red flag as Stella Dimoko said; is now left for you to continue the relationship, or bid him goodbye.
If you cook once in awhile, is quite different from cooking everyday for a boyfriend.
Anyways, what you did was not wrong but what you have been doing is.

Poster 2 chronicles, is a repeated one. It was posted I think few weeks back.
Poster, leave that dictator alone before you put yourself and your little girl in everlasting bondage. If he met you dressing well with makeup, why is he trying to stop you from what makes you feel comfortable?
He should go and get something doing and also see a doctor to help his sex life.

The second man can be easily and gently converted, but you have to live an emulating life, whenever he's around, make sure you always invites him to church. (faith cometh by hearing, hearing the word of God).
Be with someone who take care of your needs, forget about being miss or Mrs. Independent, it always backfired.
You already have a little child that also needs care, the Christian brother could make you and your child's life a living hell by forcing his opinion and lifestyle on you both.
Be wise.

Editor said...

Poster 1, take to your heels if you like yourself. Whatever happens in a r/ship WILL continue after wedding multiplied by 10. Learn from people's experiences dear.
Poster 2 abeg o madam Stelz, what's sooo special about this poster? This is the second time you are posting her chronicle. I tire joor.

redbotafly said...

Babe see eh stop cooking for him for now and also stop spending nights at his place. Now you have seen his true character so decide if you still want to marry him.
Poster 2 you sent in this same chronicle a while back so all that advice nor do you.

ukwu dimond said...

Poster one you sold yourself cheap to him as a cook, when I was dating my husband before we got married I did not smile with that word come and cook for me, whenever the spirit leads I will assist him, you made him to understand that you can cook for him without being his wife so why the complain? Is either you both share goodness in fellowship or you collect beating from him whenever you refuse to cook.

Ladies stop performing the duties of a wife when you are a gf, if he want you to cook and serve him let him wife you, am out.

PLATINUM said...

We hv treated the second chronicle before. The first dude is a no no, let him go.
Poster one you are the cause of ur prob. You came n started doing wifey duties for a boyfriend. Thank God u knw wen to draw the lines, before u go further in that relationship, u must address all these issues, talk things out n if u know the things u cant condone say it out bluntly. If he is looking for a maid, tell him to go n find her bcos ur not one.

You read abt all the domestic violence issues we see on here, dont allow, greed, desperation or stupidity let u become a victim o. Look very well before u leap!

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

Lol second poster better delete that tiny Wii brother's number from your cell phone now cos dude isn't quite but calm due to brokenesss. He will come back for revenge,i heard people with tiny Wii are usually vengeful when you make mockery of their Wii.
In case he decides to forgive you, fine but check properly if he is the serious and hardworking kinda guy if not poverty will always be your portion. Their is a difference between a broke struggling guy and a lazy broke brother.... Oyo will be your case in the latter.

Ist poster is the type men easily take for granted, can you imagine cooking daily like a mama put for a guy that havnt payed your bride price. Am sure you are the type that can't wash plate at home not to talk of cooking for your parents. Am not surprised if you are doing this home service with your money. Better shine your eyes ooh cos men no longer value over do good girls anymore. Me sef Don turn to obiakpor,always acting like a boneless chicken when I visit boo and he will be like baby you know you ain't strong, please dnt bother yourself with that I can manage..... Please ooh I don't want your people to say I have finished you with work
For my mind I will just be laughing cos he doesn't know am jaki in action although I have this fragile look. Meeeh I love being pampered.
Truth be told Anambra men knows how to treat a lady.

Anonymous said...

The second chronicle has been discussed here but anyways poster 2 think carefully because if you marry tiny Winny indomie guy,you will cheat on him. Any which way the decision is yours

IVORY said...

Poster 2: forget spirikoko o,guy one is a manipulator! Do not marry him. Guy 2,check am well before you marry him.

ukwu dimond said...

Poster two you don't need to ask us who to follow cos already you are head over hills for the second bobo, if the second bobo can Shine your something wella than the first one why waste time?the choice is yours and not ours, but your first guy should work on himself and try to make money, if he was basterly rich you will not be saying all this things

THE KING"S QUEEN said...

Poster one, all you need to do is get married to him and send us another chronicle. The second chronicle sounds like a combination of 2 or more chronicles I've read here. I might be wrong tho.

virtuous woman. said...

Poster1 he poked and threaten to beat you bcos of food? Get out of that relationship now. Run as far as your legs can carry you. But I have a feeling you will still go ahead with the relationship,and write us another chronicles after that.

Bookie Lee said...

Nawa o... singing ko seni tolefe eh tojesu #topealabi

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Am I having a déjà vu or have we read that second chronicle before?

Poster 1,you cook every day?As in every freaking day? I raise Beyonce hands for you o.

BeeVee Boo's Barny said...

Poster one run from that destiny killer.
Poster 2 i think I have read something like this before, you are old enough to know what you want

Anonymous said...

Why is it that men with small wii don't last in bed.my boyfriend's wii is small,doesn't list 1min after he penetrates, he's never talked about it and I don't. My question is 1.does he know the size is small compared to most people 2.does it bother him/does he worry about it. I shall be reading comments

MAY WALL said...

Lemme comment on chronicles for the first time...Poster 1: RUN for your life & never look back, that your fiance don show you the red light ahead but if you choose to ignore & go ahead with the wedding, then remember yesterday's chronicles (yes the one that packed up after just 1 month).You're WARNED...Poster 2: your chronicles was posted here some time back na. Bvs don already advice you so lemme reserve my energy but I wish you all the best though in making up your mind on what you truly want.

Spanish Lantern said...

Poster 1. Men are like babies. He is already used to you cooking and serving him everyday. If you wanna change things now, then you should probably be ready to change your relationship status.
Poster 2, I guess you must really love the first guy. I mean he is broke, jobless, lousy in bed, childish and a half baked graduate😯
Till you're confused and can't seem to live him? Is he your spirit husband that comes in a physical form?😠😠😠

Spanish Lantern said...

*Still, you're till confused *

Miss inquisitive said...

Ooh

Villager said...
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lastborn said...

Hmmmm wahala dey oooo
P1. Dats a sign u shd not overlook,it nvr gets better
P2. Seems av read dis story b4, all d same,in dis recession POVERty na disease,to some people SEX is Food.make ur choice,love is not enough to sustain a marriage

yoyo woman said...

P2. Pls dumb that first guy fast. He has nothing to offer you abeg. Your happiness matters in marriage.don't settle for less or you will get less than you settle for. I met a guy that I thought I really like,when I saw his small willy,all the love vanished. I couldn't even imagine someone using that small thing on me. And i was a virgin that time o. Abeg if size matters to you,let him go. And dont even try to marry a 37yr broke man.almost forty,and he is still broke,dodge him. But be careful about the new guy,don't rush into marriage with him o.all that glitters is not gold.But the first guy is a no no. And i hate men who cry.cant stand one.

Villager said...
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Villager said...

P1.you brot this upon yourself by north knoying wer your red lights shool ve been placed........ Anywares, Your man frend has a backword mentality where pipul wer made to beleaf that the woman's place is the kichen n she moss be at her nature given place at all time.

This sound too silly to bring problames btwn 2 grown ups. Pliss setle this with caushion.

#a'dews

Doppelgänger said...

Poster 2, I just got to read your chronicle well because I was on transit the first time.
Your story is very familiar, so I think this is a repost.
I think you're not a baby anymore and at 35 you should know what is best for you instead of acting like men are the ones to direct you.
Guy 1 is not what you want in a man according to you, he is small dicked, doesn't write or speak well and isn't doing well career wise. Why did you start something you can't finish? You should be serious at this stage in your life, seeking a man who will take your child as his and love you just as you are not a boy in a man's body like you've described in guy 1.
Secondly, guy 2 might look like 'IT' but you forget the God factor that he lacks that guy 1 has. What if none of them is the God chosen man for you and you're just tying yourself down because you feel time is no longer on your side. Take a leap of faith, tarry a while and don't let any man rush you into marriage until you're certain he is the right now.
Break up things with guy 1 and get it over with for good. Stop holding on to baggage. Don't marry a man who you won't be proud to show off. You have 3 degrees, find a man who won't dim your light. He has shown already that he will control you from telling you not to wear trousers or make up. Don't even go into it at all.
Let your own man find you.

ololade Salaudeen said...

poster one, abeg don't fully mind Stella o, she don turn Oyinbo finish. There's nothing wrong with doing the cooking always, for your HUSBAND, ignore the wife not cook hashtag, but in this case this is your boyfriend, you need to set some things straight, you dont necessarily have to break up with him yet, cus it seems he is used to having you as his cook, and that is your fault, talk to him and make him understand and dont forget to let him know your change is not influenced externally, try and work it out with him provided you know you are not the "bae lets eat out" kind.

poster2, am just going to assume you didnt meet your first guy here, you just added that part so he wouldnt know you are referring to him? and what's with "rush rush" marriage! look before you leap....

DonMayor said...

Confused people everywhere.

Anonymous said...

The second chronicle has been posted before😯

Loveme Jeje said...

Hahahaha what a narration from the 2 posters.

Poster 1 you started it, why you want to end it. Abeg continue jare. He will marry you after much cooking.

Poster 2 leave him because in your mind, you don't need him. Me I don't like tiny Willie thing near me. Abeg go look for strong cucumber.

Born again who he help

Lady C said...

Poster1:if u marry dat man just knw u are in to become a full housewife.
Poster2:u wicked small ooo but seriously I cant deal with a guy dat doesnt last long on bed talkmore of guys dat has a small dick.just go with d one u will be happy with.

yoyo woman said...

P1.You cook for your fiance everyday?you are very stupid for that. It is your type that brings disgrace and insult to women.the guy don see you finish.from what you wrote above,this guy has no single respect for you.imagine poking you and almost beating you bcos of food. I will advice you to re access this relationship,and stop cooking for him immediately.let him call it off,if he does not,then you do it.if he comes back to beg,then let it be on your terms,if not,let him go. Either way dear,you don't want to be married to such a man. That man will definitely need you in future,let's bet it. If he can act like this over good,imagine what he will do over more serious matters. God forbid.

Yemi7up said...

Poster 1: Let him go now even if he want to continue the relationship with you say a big NO to it. Such a man will never help you as a wife, it will be worst than this.
Poster 2:You know what you want in your man and you only know what will make you happy, don't let a crying man stop you from leaving him, such men are always like that, they have the feeling they don't deserve the wiman they have and they won't let the woman leave. He should not blackmail you with his emotional cry instead he should improve on himself for the next woman he will meet. For the second guy take everything slowly, don't rush in to marriage. It is well with you.

Adeniji Bisi said...

Stellz of life...u ave said it all jooor


Poster1...u need factory reset slap

Post2..ogbeni,gbenshing is totally different from happiness..remember I are a baby mama..ur life time companion matters not ur gbenshing issue.



Mc pinky

SDK Babe @amaq_collections..fashion designer at your service..bbm 58DB44B1 said...

I feel like I've read the second chronicle before.
Just a thought.

SDK Babe @amaq_collections..fashion designer at your service..bbm 58DB44B1 said...

Feeling*

Anonymous said...

Stella, Why are you recycling chronicle? I could have sworn you have posted post 2 before

Anonymous said...

Poster 2: you don't have conscience at all, before I even read Stella's comment I felt really bad for him, you know he reads this blog and u still went ahead to post this, Nna you have mind.. How will you like it, if this guy that u like sends a chronicle to Stella saying reasons why he can't be with u, like u are a babymama and taunting ur ‘single mamaship'in the process, how would u feel? Or the society taunts u because you are a single mama, how would u feel then? Something's are naturally out of our control and will, like him having a ‘two seconds small dick' and you being a ‘35year old baby mama'.. Try and be sensitive to people issues, put urself in their shoes.. You have just succeeded in shattering his already battered self esteem..
And to ur chronicle, go with where your heart lies, don't marry someone out of pity.. Goodluck

ZIONA said...

Poster 1, what kind of guy cant even serve himself already cooked food, his mother brought him up thinking he must be served as a lord at all times, and he hasn't married u he is already threatening you. You guys seriously need to sit down and talk else it's another chronicle after marriage u will senD
Poster 2,leave that broke ma,, that wants to tie u down, broke Bois are loyal now, don't settle for less abeg

Baby Oku said...

Stella u say 'doesn't he take u out to dinner? Dinner ko lunch ni.. lol.
Poster 1, u r nt wrong.. u pple shud stop pleasing these guys, the day u dnt do it.. u become a bad girl and a 'no wife material' they dnt remember ur good qualities. Most of these guys dnt deserve good treatments. Sigh.

Poster 2, stella u didn't give this advice the first time u posted this chronicle oo.. but I like the advice though. Sister poster, please dnt settle for less, that's all I can say...

Baby Oku said...

All these parasitic relationships.. the stuggle to be with a man. Sigh

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Stella you've posted posted 2's chronicles before.

Posted 1 first you cool for this guy everyday.y? Why does he have to come to your house to say everyday??you did this.imagine him wanting to hit you just because of food?!don't ever cool for him again.if he wants to say his mother should have thought him how to cook.don't lower your worth just because of a man.if he wants to hit you just because you said he should go serve himself get ready for punching when you guys marry cos he will beat you up over little things.rethink that relationship

xxxTrinityxxx said...

She's already his personal slave thats why he threatened to beat her up just because she didnt serve him

Anonymous said...

Poster one, how u start a relationship determines how you keep it, and how it is gonna be. I'm sure you were forming Wife material and even turning him down when ever he offers to take u to dinner, u gave him the impression that it is always your duty to cook.. So he feels it is his right. Pls don't get me wrong, I'm not saying u shouldn't do some girl friend duty like cooking, but it should be done moderately, not you trying to prove a point to him that you gonna be ‘chef material' at all times.. This is not a relationship, this is a case of the guy going to his favorite food joint.. To him ur house is canteen joint..
I'm sure u are one of those miss independent wife material girls that don't collect money from their boyfriend.
It is gonna be hard ‘weaning' your baby boo, he is already too pampered and use to it.. Carry ur cross as the independent woman that u are

Anonymous said...

So he is born again but already lasting 2 mins with his ex girlfriend. Which kind of again do you folks born these days. Is there a hell-bound born again? Isn't fornication sin? What is happening; someone help me with answers please?

SANDY NEKY said...

Exactly what came to my mind before I got to the end of the second chronicle. Was posted here last week or thereabout na,prolly she wants more advice or something as she's in a confused state. Poster 2,why not kuku follow your mind then

Poster 1:You did well just that you didnt start it earlier you know! If he's really serious about you,he should hasten the process for you to do your job proper proper. For now,make e go rest cos you are not his cook joor

Atheist. said...

He has accepted that he didn't create himself, besides it dsnt stop him from being sexually satisfied, one min or one hour.... Fuck no be government work, no award is given.... And guess what? He can impregnate you wella.
# i'm not small oh.

LUCILE COCONUT OIL ABUJA 07059605320 Pin- 2BC6235E said...

Na waoooo

Iman Bella said...

The line " remain seated like one handicap " cracked me up
Kikikikikikikikikikikikiki

Anonymous said...

Stella u have posted 2nd chronicle weeks back,why reposting?

Lady C said...

Anonymous,I had to lol at ur comment.

Fiona said...

Runs out of post...

BeQuiet Instead said...

Why are some ladies SO FOOLISH? It's quite a pity @Poster 1, that you major concern is who is right and who is wrong. A guy, who is not definitely known by your family, esp parents, entered your apartment late at night and not just demand food but threatened to hit you and you cannot walk away. I am part of those waiting to hear your real chronicle after you tie the knot with him. A word is enough for a wise.

Poster 2 - I will call you insensitive and heartless. A guy you met here told you his issue and previous heart-break, yet you brought his case back here. Why pretend when you are already matured, 35 is not 15, biko. Go for what you WANT and let the guy be. At your age, I expect you to look at your choice of man for marriage more from spiritual point of view and not riches, grammar, certificate, penis size, etc. Grow up sister because women actually reason farther than most men their age and few years older even.

I'm out.

poster 2.* HAPPY* said...

I am poster 2. New snm guy turned out to be a fake rich guy.He is into yahoo and they are like 15 guys living in one house. I just found out friday when he tried to stylishly scam me of a huge sum of money.He is now History.
I will see my 1st snm guy this evening and I will bare my heart.If he is willing to change.I.e take corrections with his spoken and written English,we will find solution to the premature ejaculation.we have not gbenshed so his Wii may just be my size..lol..if not, we will work on it.I am still not in love with him but I am willing to overlook his shortcomings and concentrate on his good sides.Hopefully it will work out.
Maybe I should just forget him and wait for love to find me.I just confuse.

Thanks everyone

poster 2.* HAPPY* said...

Well I changed most of the info.never in a million years will he guess

Omah Cindy said...

Have I read the second chronicle before? Talk about Deja Vu.

Hmmmmm said...

There are many ways to pleasure a woman that doesn't involve a penis. A good tongue game, finger game nd sex toys... Buy a big dildo since u like big things. Everything is nt abt big penis.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Poster 2 is a repeated chronicle. True.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Poster 1 is soooo right! We are in the same boat oh. I just got back to being single after my immediate ex was telling me he needs this and that, I should cook weekly. (The one I randomly do and invite him to eat is not enough again oooh. Wey he dey complain say him ex no dey even offer indomie. 'I like Calabar girl'. Now I gave an inch you want to take a mile) I should kneel flat and greet his dad (yaraba 😂), i should turn in his work laundry with mine. and yet couldn't give me a date to come see my folks. Telling me 'give it time'. After one year? Who's playing with you? If you like be hot cake, I can't take shit. No woman should. The annoying part is now he still has all my pics on his Instagram and I've taken his down. Mscheew! Yeye guys want to eat their cake and have it.
He even dared to hit you? Ah! If you're my friend I for Send am hot text this night. Him go know say you no be one man army. Yeye dey smell for him body well well.

Is it that he can't dish food? He's now too big to go to pot? See person wey wan marry? Fried pant!

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Errr.... doppel she doesn't live with him. They live 'close' to each other
That's what she said

St.FranKooL.... said...

#Everything you're going through is supposed to help you develop and make you stronger. Take the lessons out of it and evolve*

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Poster,forget the first guy too...
Don't settle for less biko!...
Broke ass and akamu prick?...
God forbid!...
Abeg wetin you go use endure in the marriage?...Nothing!,..
Hmmmm

Anonymous said...

Ololade It seems u work 247 in a special creche taking care of male adults who find themselves helpless when it comes to their stomach.
With all the DV stories we have been reading up here that leave us wiv chills u still expect her not to run away after his wanting to hit her?
Poster 1 u can never be mother Theresa so end that nonsense ...ship wiv dat potential wife abuser and watch out for a complete man who can offer as much respect as he desires.
You deserve better no use doing patch-patch.It is not negotiable.

Marjorie

Jenny zee said...

Poster one,d guy would hit u when u get married,bet!!

Anonymous said...

This your ogbeni reminded me of a friend of mine...missing him doh

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Becky, #IMO There's nothing wrong with cooking and giving bf some,esp if he lives close. Like actually cooking for yourself and packing some for him to come and get -like a charity case lol. Or him going home and stoping at yours to eat as a bachelor that he IS nau. I don't think it's a taboo. But, you shouldn't be cooking FOR him. You are cooking at YOUR convenience and asking him if he wants some. He can say yes or no. And 'no' shouldn't bother a girl. Cos he's still a bachelor and can eat wherever he likes. Food refusal can naturally annoy a wife. But most girls now get upset when the guys say no, giving 'wife' signal.

But, a bf has no right to demand it. NONE. He should eat and say 'thanks babes. I appreciate'.
Personally, I love cooking, I hardly eat out. I follow food bloggers and If I see something, i go on youtube and make at home. Chinese, continental, native, Even my snacks -cake,meat pie,spring rolls, puff puff I do myself. Doing food and nut in sec. school helped and my family, neighbors, male and female friends take advantage of it ALOT. My younger sister is worse. She can be in kitchen and on food channelmorning till night. So I can cook for anyone,you're not special. if I give my bf food it's cos it's just in me. Not cos I owe him food or I want marriage in return. I like to believe some people are wired like that.... to offer people food.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

I get your point about cooking not an issue. Cos I'm like that too. But the guy should be grateful and not expect it from you. but then again, maybe he did because you were living with him. If you're in your house he probably won't have that guts so easily .

J*Ice said...

Poster2 dts if its truly u,
U should have passed this message to Stella before today.

Anonymous said...

1. You have seen the signs.
2. This chronicle is a repeat. Although poster 2, you have replied above, I will advise you to forget both guys and look to God for your husband. Read The Meeting Point 7 on SDK today and be inspired.

Anonymous said...

I dated a parasite. It was a huge burden. It was like I was responsible for his feeding. He would come to my place to eat, not caring if I was tired or if I had foodstuff. He would dictate when and what he wanted to eat, never assisted, even once with buying gas or foodstuff. And he was rude like he was doing me a favor. I had to borrow myself brain and end things. He was so stingy, I later discovered he had someone else he was spending on and not stressing. Poster 1, borrow brain ooo.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

I've read chronicle 2 before.

Anonymous said...

He is born again and not fornicating.that was his past.He opened up about it.

Anonymous said...

Poster 1... when you are married and you know hubby comes home late, prepare his dinner, put it in a warmer, arrange the table, cover it well then go to bed. There are certain issues we can avoid.Thanks and God bless

ThatYorubaChic#wifenotcook said...

Poster 1, let that man go please



#wifeNOTcook jhor

Anonymous said...

Poster 2 I'm also a single mum and met a few guys on snm and they are either married, scammers or dissapointers(left me in situationships) Now I no dey do snm again only did it twice earlier this year but still talk to a few people as friends nothing else. I agree with the anon above drop both and look to God which is what I am now doing. I don forget man matter abeg. Don't settle for less and stop being desperate, God shall perfect all that concerns you. I have left all to God, please do the same.


Shalom

Doppelgänger said...

Err...Chikito, my bad I was on transit and didn't read well enough. Thanks

DonMayor said...

Linda eze, Sanponna (small pox) go kill you. Unless i scam you or your wretched family.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Poster 2 if that's really you then you are lucky. Don't settle for the first guy tho.move on.You will find love with someone else

Elakeche said...

A thousand kisses for U Doppelgänger.

James' Lover said...

I have dated one parasite before, he will come to my house to eat and still carry take away. Chai Bright, he will still steal my things to give to his younger sister. The day I saw her wearing my wristwatch and sandals, that was the day I ended the relationship. God forbid bad thing.

Anonymous said...

Please poster don't listen to all these people giving you crap for COOKING GOR YOUR FIANCÉ!. Especially since he lives right next to you!. If you love someone, cooking is certainly not a chore. But...., he was wrong...anh anh, to go to the pot and get food has become work?! He clearly takes you for granted and thinks he's doing you a favour. Can you imagine even threatening to call Igbo the engagement. He has taken your kindness for weakness. Tell him to walk if he must, and don't loss sleep over it!. I know easier said than done, but baby girl you come first.

Madea said...

Chikito, I agree.

Anonymous said...

On point

Anonymous said...

@j*ice,was shocked to see a repost.was planning to.update everyone about what happened next week

Ronalda. said...

#1: Sweetie, ‎you started playing "wifely" duties, you've made him feel entitled to your cooking. Apparently, he already sees you as his wife, because you kinda act the part‎, so he sees no reason why you can't get up and fix his meals. You may have been cooking for him out of love but consistency can easily be perceived as an obligation.

Social experiments have verified this notion. Try giving a friend cash, out of the goodness ‎out of the goodness of your heart, each time he/she visits. Do this consistently for about 3-6 months. Then when next he/she visits, don't give out any money. To your own chagrin, you will observe that you have now become a wicked person in his/her eyes and resentment will set in pretty fast. That person is so used to getting cash from you that he/she now feels entitled, forgetting that you were only being benevolent. This is exactly how your fiance feels.
‎‎
He is 100 % wrong to use emotional blackmail and even threaten to hit you for refusing to fix his meal. That is a very bad sign. If food can make him this aggressive, I wonder how other more serious issues couples usually face will cause him to react? Honey, this is a textbook case of the Biblical "mene mene tekel upharsin". Danger looms ahead and the signs are boldly written on the wall. Your guy is already exhibiting violent traits, you seem like a lady who would challenge him and call him out on his BS, you aren't a pushover. That's like a match stick and a keg of gun powder, a deadly combo, it's only a matter of time before he will start hitting you. After all "out of the abundance of the heart..." He just revealed what is in his heart.

I pray you have the strength to do the right thing because nowadays, it is super rare to see a lady call off an engagement because she just had an epiphany. Most ladies will ignore the warning signs  ‎because they are too scared of not being a "MRS" at a particular age. Please don't rush into marriage, especially with him, until you are at peace within.

#e-bearhugs.‎

ololade Salaudeen said...

*yinmu* she said he *threatened* to do so, a violent person would beat you first before threats, you hear threats like "this one is small o, sebi na only your head. na your leg I go break next", that your younger sis you always tell "i will break your head o" am sure her head is still intact or have you broken it? common lets realistic. i still stand on the fact that she caused it. the guy is accustom to having her as his cook so what do you expect? if you see awoof you no go chop? abeg abeg

ololade Salaudeen said...

*yinmu* she said he *threatened* to do so, a violent person would beat you first before threats, you hear threats like "this one is small o, sebi na only your head. na your leg I go break next", that your younger sis you always tell "i will break your head o" am sure her head is still intact or have you broken it? common lets realistic. i still stand on the fact that she caused it. the guy is accustom to having her as his cook so what do you expect? if you see awoof you no go chop? abeg abeg

Anonymous said...

As long as he is not blind, Im sure he is aware that he is well below average.

You seem more concerned about his feelings about his miniature prick than your 60 seconds sex. How caring of you.

Henny said...

Read properly before commenting, they live close to each other not together.

Anonymous said...

Someone threatened to hit you called you wicked because of ordinary food that you cook all day. Madam see signs please he wants to dominate you nd stand on top you after marriage. end it. end it. end it. Don't say you didn't see signs ohhh

Anonymous said...

What's ring in cooking once a week. you self cool down ur body too dey hot.

Anonymous said...

Chiqito half of this post na advice d other half na advert na wa o

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Anon 11:53- my dear, I'm only casting my bread upon the waters. You should try it too. Once you can come out of anonymous mode

Anonymous said...

I was talking yesterday and my fiance told me to keep quiet. Hian. He is till apologising.It is always very important in a relationship to let the other party know from the beginning what you can or can't endure in a relationship so somebody won't start saying he or she was not like this from the beginning.

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