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Friday, 3 February 2017

Being a Mum: The Joy of Motherhood

“ I enjoyed the silence in my home this morning as I cleared the breakfast table after the Champs left for school. 




I knew the calm wouldn’t last for long, as in a couple of hours, the noise would return and the house will be turned upside down. As expected, only bread crumbs and empty cups (which contained hot MILO a very short while ago) were left on the table. Their appetite for breakfast has been very impressive lately.

My Mum calls at exactly 10a.m., our daily ritual since I got married over a decade ago.

“Maureen, did your father tell you he was traveling today?”, “Yes, he did Mum” and the conversation goes on.

“Love you more”, I have told her before ending the call 15 minutes later. I sighed and walked to the dining table to continue my much deserved breakfast.

Lately, I’ve been expressing love to my mum more than anyone else (don’t tell my husband) and I realise what we have by far outweighs our mother-daughter bond. I’ve literally stepped into her shoes from the first day I became a mum.

Being a stay-at-home mum of two beautiful miracles has been an exciting journey so far with many more years to go.

I’d like to think the pain of childbirth is one of the best feelings in the world, that my children saying ‘mama’ the first time was the best word I’ve ever heard and their cries were like music to my ears.

To know my mum went through this life transforming journey I’m currently on still amazes me and I know one day, we’ll sit together and have that conversation of how she did a fine job of raising me and my four brothers.

Surprisingly, my superwoman isn’t planning to retire anytime soon.

Sometimes, I cling to the memory of the young girl who was bursting with life before motherhood, but you know that feeling of being in a whole different place now, leaves me wondering how the future with my children would be like.

Will ‘having fun with mum’ be a drag because they think she’s boring and they are much smarter than me or is it something they’ll always look forward to?

And a part I dread the most, will they always listen to me?

I guess I’ll ask my mum if she ever felt these same fears while raising us.

Because, I know years from now, when they become parents, what would matter most is the unconditional love and the lessons I raised them with as their mother and hope they’ll teach the same to their kids, after all #MumsAreTheBest.”

What does being a mum mean to you? Do you have interesting Motherhood stories? Share your thoughts and experiences!

132 comments:

Chilaka Christian said...

Calling my mom right now, I always enjoy that moment she picks my call and the first thing you hear is Chibunky Chibunky and I will reply Mummy Chibunky, God Bless her and my 8 siblings but that woman try Shaa, only her 9 Children

Anonymous said...

I spend every moment of my adult life wishing I could become a mother. I've not lost hope yet as God is still God. I really envy mothers.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Soon I will share my story #byGod'sgrace

Anonymous said...

Being a mum is a job i never want to loose...i jst realized i'm 2months gone and my angel is jst 10months..at first i felt very terrible buh i will NEVER TAMPER with my unborn baby...i love my babies

Rosemary Chidi said...

This gonna be interesting.
I'll be back to read comments.

Ada Nnewi said...

I lost my mum 12years ago and became a mum 4years ago. I felt lost as I didn't know a damn thing about handling babies. Some days I cried and everyday I miss her. It's not easy at all jostling homefront work and kids tantrums is overwhelming. I envy friends who have mums to send their kids to for a little me time. Hmmmm I pray for every TTC mums to experience all these I count all as blessings not withstanding. Raising kids is the toughest job of all.

BLOGLORD said...

Simply put- Motherhood is beautiful.

My children, oh my babies!. I just don't know how they do it but they know how to break my frown to a smile especially when they've crossed aa line.

Every woman MUST enjoy motherhood.
Those trying to conceive and those looking forward to getting married, you shall bear forth children.
The feeling is bliss.


Highness Gwen said...

I'm not a mum yet and besides, I was 3months old when my mum died. I pray to experience motherhood someday. so help me God! I wish I could send a message to my mum to tell her that I'm all grown.

Uniq Gem said...

Sweet mother, I love you forever.

Nothing beats the joy of motherhood. IMO tho.
Can still remember the day I held my son for the first time. He was just gazing at me with eyes wide open and bright. I was lucky to capture that mo on camera. The love, oh the love I felt that day is indescribable.

Or was it the first day he called me mummy, I picked him up and kissed him all over. He was just laughing.

It's been a wonderful journey so far. It ain't easy, but it's worth it and fulfilling.

#GodBlessAllMothers
#MamaBoys

missylynn said...

Our mothers are Bae
Long live our mothers

Chidinma Grace said...

I can't wait to be a mother. I have so much to teach my kids

Highness Gwen said...

proudly black/white
#mixed baby

Lolly said...

Not yet, I can't wait to be a mother of twins. God please do this for me, by this time 2018 I will be a happy of twins-Amen

Anonymous said...

God pls, make me a mom. I love to carry my baby, feel his skin against mine. talk to him, laugh and be with him. if being a mom is a wish, I would ve gotten millions. God of Hanna, pls, visit me. visit me sooner that I think ohhh. amen.

Highness Gwen said...

U will be fine dear

Highness Gwen said...

He will visit you soon

Candid! said...

For all expectant women, This post shouldn't make u sad but hopeful, u will carry ur own childre amd experience the joy of motherhood(amen). Kisses to my mum and all other amazing mothers out there.

Anonymous said...

Please can someone refer me to where a BV described how to make ukwa, thanks.

Anonymous said...

10months and you want talk. Adanma ohakim had her two kids in a year. Do d math

mama tee said...

I remember d moment I woke up from my surgery and held my son for the first time. The feeling of newness around me after I had my baby. The sky seemed bluer, the future seemed brighter, breathing the air was pure joy
Every moment with my son is precious. God bless all mothers and open the wombs of all TTC women. Amen.

Elixir said...

I'm a mother of quadruplets (with faith). I love multiple babies. A ladies brought twin boys to my place of work today and I was just staring at them as if...

Elizabeth said...

Amen!!!

mama tee said...

God ll make it happen in ur life. From ur lips to his ears. Amen.

mama tee said...

Amen swag la fresh

Anonymous said...

You are a fucking "house wife" don't come here to tush the word to stay home mom. Better go and look for sth doing b4 you will look like house help in the eyes of ur kids.

Ibukunoluwa said...

Most of u will come here now and start talking about how sweet ur mom is but u will use those same fingers to type curses and insults to someone else's mother.
I cherish my family a lot hence the reason I shield them,coa God knows I will tear,cook,roast and garnish you with pepper and onions if u come for my family.
Mothers are way too special to be Insulted

mama tee said...

And It ll happen sooner than u expect cos Jesus lives.

Chidinma Gift said...

I can't wait to be a mom.

Femilicious said...

Being a mum is amazing, challenging, stressful and joyful. Its really hard cos small children are so demanding, they depend on you for everything.

But when I look into their beautiful innocent faces , i marvel that God gave them to me to bring up. I am not worthy. I love the fun times we have, they say such funny things,when we put music on and do crazy oyinbo dancing. I love my lambs.

Jasmine said...

Lol.

My mum is 'mama ejima' and she'll reply 'nwanne ejima'

The General's Wife said...

Awwwww
I'm soo sorry darling.
Come take a hug baby girl.
Your kids wil make u happy. In them u wil see ur mom. And with them,u'l experience mother's love as well. Ok?

The General's Wife said...

Amen!

Nothing beats Motherhood my dear. NOTHING!

Iphie dearie said...

Amen

GenevieveNwa said...

Dis touched me, dat I felt like crying...!!

Iphie dearie said...

God bless all mothers and intending Moms

Lip stains said...

Can't wait to see a miny me running around, but not until I cash this money first And I meet Mr left *chuckle* ๐Ÿ‘„

SHAKITI BABY said...

She try wella,tripple kudos to her.

SHAKITI BABY said...

God has answered ur prayer.

calabar chick said...

Amen!!!

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

This is the best feeling in the world.....
My son's smile always melt my heart.
I have another one on the way.

What more can I ask for?

Motherhood rocks big time

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Amen

SHAKITI BABY said...

She is watching u from heaven.may she continue to RIP.
#hugs

SHAKITI BABY said...

Haterz

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Yeah,i can so relate.
I thank God for my
Sister
Husband
Mum in-law


They were of great help.

Single Mom said...

Motherhood rocks the feeling is out of this world, sometimes I feel like running away, most times I look back and thank God for I am living today because of my child. I am fully responsible of my child's life, may God visit all those TTC this year....


Long live SDK

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

Is well, mama is watching all over u๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜ง๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜จ
You will experience motherhood soon

Justyswt said...

Being a mum, the feeling is so great. When I held my daughter the first time after delivery, the just knew I want to protect her from any harm. And it has been like that with all of them.

Even the joy of hearing them call u mum is something else. And when they start their necessary wahala that one is another feeling. But in all they are a blessing.

My pray that God make everyone ttc to experience the joy of motherhood.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Mama tee ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Yes ooo. Amen

Adanne said...

You will

Becky Divine said...

Amen for you dear

That Uptown Girl said...

Anon 19:46 a stay at home mom is also a house wife. What you need is to take a tall glass of your bitterness and I hope you choke on it.

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

You're a fool oooh.
So blogging is not a job?
Double job at that n to think u are even her customer(bv).
Olodo...

ukwu dimond said...

God will bless us that are GTC, so that one day we all will share our experience

BLOGLORD said...

Do not give up
Your joy has come, just believe.

BLOGLORD said...

Amen Swaggie

BLOGLORD said...
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Brown sugah said...

May God sweeten your life, so your bitterness would evaporate

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 19:46,, may your frustrations never end!!

You never see house wife wey get pass working class???

You never see house wife wey working class d borrow from???

Respeck
Your old age or sip sniper you blood bitter soul Vagabond.

Daenerys_targaryen said...

You are a fucking "sadist" don't come here showing your bitterness. Better go and look for some sweetness before you drown in your sad and pitiful life!

Lady C said...

Your dreams will become reality soon inshaAllah.

Dope PH BaBe said...

Lol na your house wife? You sound stupid.

BLOGLORD said...

Awwwww...
Come here
*borrows hug from TGBaibay.*
Big hugs darl
You will make a wonderful mum. I believe so

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 19:46,,usu ra kwa gi.

Adviser.you wey d work,,how is your life???

You bloody swine.

Fuck off.

Anonymous said...

Annoy " house wife" u are silly.

Clear your bitter soul or u remain a miserable non entity.
Waste of spermtozoa

#getAlife.

Mum Trio said...

Love that moment when i return from work and all 3 coming rushing *mummyyyyyy*. Thank you Lord for making me a mother. Bless all those TTC father in heaven. Je ki ole ayo ko so ninu won loruko Jesu.

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

It is well with you

Wild Rose said...

Awww. I am sure she is watching over you. Amen to your prayer.

Villager said...

Airmen!

I'yaff alwaz beleaf in lof at faze site cuz I loffed mai mom thee faze thym i opne mai ize.

Villager said...

Airmen!

Wild Rose said...

If she is a full time house wife no? Is it your "consign". What if she works online and bringing in millions of naira. Abeg free her jor

viva ciara said...

Motherhood!!
I loooveeee it. My son is my world.
May God bless every woman TTC.

Anonymous said...

Frustration wan kill this one.

Anonymous said...

Ermm you don chop today? This sounds like a "hangry" comment. Stay at home mum is used everywhere and everytime and we all know the meaning of it. What exactly is your point?

Uniq Gem said...

It's done in Jesus mighty name, amen.

GIFTED said...

Almost there

olaedo said...

I can't wait to be a mum..
God please hear my prayer and answer me.

Sharon Aminu said...

Amen,God I can't wait to b a mother.the joy of motherhood,I must expirance

Sharon Aminu said...

Amen,God pls answer me on time

Sharon Aminu said...

Amen,I am next to testify

Anonymous said...

I dint feel all these when I had my daughter, but now I love her fiercely.
May you experience motherhood soonest in Jesus name.

Anonymous said...

While working wives have d best marriages? Ask nana otedola which company she works for? Ask sade who is sh workig under? Ask Asba who she's working under, etc being a housewife don't mean u sit at home, marry a rich caring guy a u would never slave under any boss, you would have ur own company and work from d bedroom if u like.

Blackberry said...

Motherhood sweet and it's hardwork, d shouting part and chasing toddlers all over,praying for them to grow up n become great personalities, worrying on their behalf, gosh!

Sharon Aminu said...

I lost my mum more than 20years ago, never know what is like to have one,never felt loved,everything I know,I learnt on my own,God it wasn't easy but u made me what I am today,had a step mum who never want me and my brother, so much hurt and pain until I become an orphan 12years ago,had to see myself and my brother tru school,wow,TankGod,father as am TTC pls help me to b a good mother and live to them grow ijn amen

Anonymous said...

Whenever I c my daughter...I thank God 4 giving her to me n kiss her forehead...she's the best gift I got 4 days to my birthday...I love the way she rejects everybody and wants to to be with me whenever she sees me ...it makes me feel special n loved unconditionally...she's 8 months.

Anonymous said...

I got teary reading your comment, God ll answer you soonest in jesus name ..just a few months in marriage and I can't wait to conceive already. Btw, God bless mum, she can call for Africa bck in sch my roomie used to envy me, she calls me morning bfr she heads out or on her way out, calls in the evening to talk about how the day went,same thing she does with my sister, I pray to God everyday for the grace to give her the very best of things in life.

Sharon Aminu said...

Amen,I receive

snow white said...

Came back from work few days ago...have to buy ice cream from an eatery cos the weather was very hot..got to the house rushed to my ice cream and imidietly my mom flashed my mind..I just felt my mom really needs this right now.have to call my brother imedietly,trnsferd sum money to him and begged him to get ice cream for my parents cos I know nobody gives them such things in the village...I can't wait for God to bless me so that I too can bless my mom.please don't laugh at me..I have according to my size.

Pipi Lee said...

Amen and Amen.

Anonymous said...

That's the spirit dear!

Edo finest said...

You will be just fine,my princess was 9 months too.Cant wait to me my lo...

Edo finest said...

Been a mother is the best feeling ever,won't trade it for anything in the world..My daughter is just so adorable and makes me laugh all the time..May God bless all those ttc and safe delivery to all expecting their lo...

Anonymous said...

Amin Jesu!!

Anonymous said...

I NEED to sleep but my son wont allow me oo...putting his legs onmy face, kissing ne, jumping all over me, touching my face...omg, I wish hr cud fall asleep. Hubby is already snoring, tired from today's hard work

Anonymous said...

I love being a house wife oo.

Ps: um not the poster.

Ed said...

Amen o...

Ed said...

U guys be making we expectant mothers in the making wanna go get pregnant soon huh? OK o... Lost ma mum five years ago,wasn't really close to her cos I was daddy's girl... But I damn miss them a lot..... May their souls rest in peace...

Ammy Bee said...

Being a mum is the most beautiful thing that can happen to anyone. My girls are a handful but when they are away, I miss them like crazy. I am a career woman and my mum (God bless her) takes care of my kids when I'm at work. I have a maid but I never leave the kids alone with her. My kids give me the strength to combine an hectic work schedule with motherhood. No matter the stress at work, seeing dem at the end of each day makes me 4get. I can try my best to meet the needs of my kids. Even their dad thinks I over do it. I love my kids and I have the best mum and dad in the whole world. I am a daddy's girl also.

Anonymous said...

Amen

Anonymous said...

I'm a first time mom, my daughter is 6 months old. I just realized that I'm pregnant again, I'm so disturbed. Please who has had this kind of experience? How did you cope?

Elixer said...

Motherhood Rocks ,I thank God for my mum and for the baby in my womb already.
Pls protect my babies O God.
#Side eyes at Coded Milo Advert Stella #

JAMES ADE said...

I can only thank God for my daughter as she add another year tommorrow, dear God I know it's not been easy but with you we can go a long way.I can sacrifice anything to make her happy and though it's been rough and tough from the pregnancy stage till this present moment. I remember how I would stayed over the night to rub your mum's tummy each time U kick her stomach, I remember every contraction and immerdiately I touch Ur mum's tummy, U stay calm, I remember how you use to move Ur mum's navel each U are feeding in her womb, I remember every antenatal and postnatal and how the nurses called me "the only man that anttends antenatal, I remember how I slept at the hospital reception for days after Ur birth, I remember how I cried when the nurses called me while I was away searching for how to clear the hospital bills and they told me U had jaundice and U were placed on phototherapy treatment, I remember how I change diapers for U, I remember this love has been there for long and all I can say today is to thank God for your life, you are 5yrs old tommorrow but I know there is more to celebrate in life. My wish for U on your birthday are so large but God can address it all. To all great mothers who love their children and stood by them, God bless you and may those children grow up to be that child that will reward all your struggles and efforts over them. Lord grant my wish for this lil girl, I wish I can take you on a trip soon. I'm throwing a small party for Her tomoro. I will always be your daddy forever Bell๐Ÿ˜‡

Tilly said...

Nice

Eresco Eresco said...

I'm a new mom,my son is 2weeks old, everything has changed suddenly and i'm enjoying every bit motherhood.

Eresco Eresco said...

I'm a new mom,my son is 2weeks old, everything has changed suddenly and i'm enjoying every bit motherhood.

Manna Bee said...

Ooh BLOGYyy!!! I say a resounding Amen to your prayer.๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡#GodIsNeverLate

I saw you shout out in this morning SP. Tanks swit.๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„

Manna Bee said...

I miss my Mom so much. May God bless her with good health and keep her for me till we see again.๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡

Anonymous said...

The point the commentor above is trying to make is the poster didn't mention having any job whatsoever including blogging (of course I don't think the poster is Stella). Now before y'all start screaming "hater " upandan, remember how y'all berate women who send chronicles for not having their own jobs and only depending on their husbands.. that is when 'wahala burst'. So y'all should chill with the cussing

CARROT said...

Yes. that is the best feeling. whenever I see my son after each day's work I smile and say a silent prayer to God for blessing. I am almost due for the my second child. God grant me safe delivery in few weeks time. Amen.

To all TTC especially BV, my friends and family. I use myself as a point of contact that God will bless all ur wombs and cause children to come forth in Jesus Name Amen.

Bv CARROT.

Cynthia Iyede said...

I loveeee my mum. Can't just wait to be a mum to my wonder kids soon by God's grace. Amen

Anonymous said...

I pray this year will not pass me by.

Just Glamour said...
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Just Glamour said...

Anon 22:47,you have nothing to worry about,I was 7 weeks pregnant with a 7 months old baby,and I was so bothered,but I encouraged myself and I breastfed the baby till 9months,guess what?she walked,started talking and eating all manner at 9months,she's 10years old now and the sister is 9years,my Sister Inlaw was pregnant 3 months after she had a baby,now she has two beautiful boys,so you have nothing to worry about,you will be fine.

Just Glamour said...

@Highest Gwen,hugs.

Just Glamour said...
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Just Glamour said...

Hmmmm,when I had my first baby,I guess I was the happiest person on earth,I gave her over ten names,I will peck her,hold her,throw her up,I practically ran out of names to call her,my husband wanted to buy everything for her,he's questions would be can my Angel take this now?try this baby food,can she take this chocolate?motherhood is hard work mehn

Just Glamour said...

Villager don't make me wake people from sleep,๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

Rukky's cakes @rukky_cakes said...

Ameen Ameen He has heard you, have faith in Him.

Anonymous said...

My dear it's a blessing, please don't consider abortion

Anonymous said...

This story is so similar to mine, I have two boys and four siblings, all boys too. I call my mum everyday and can't thank her enough for all the advices, raising kids is not easy but the joy is profound. I work 9-5, same as hubby, my only issue is that I don't have any friends, just me and my family. If there's any one trying to make new friends, kindly reply my thread below.

Anonymous said...

After reading the article up there, I just Thank God for His Love and Mercies upon every female. This article never gets old, I wonder the name of the author?

Anonymous said...

19.46, the bitterness and frustration in you is so much that it is oozing out of every pores in your body, up to your anus!

Many housewives live better than some of you 'workers', stop tushing it up as career women! That was how a bv said a business woman is not a career woman.ORIEGWU!

My cousin was sacked last week from her bank job, i couldn't believe it is a miserly #60k she was paid! When many housewives get 2-3x of that as chop money.

That your precious job you see and worship as your god can be taken from you tomorrow. OLOSHI! ONIRANU! IMBECILIC BUFFON E-DIOT!

Anonymous said...

To the frustrated anonymous(es)
Some of you are so uncouth and lousy because you believe your lives begins and ends with your jobs.

When a housewife does giveaway here without revealing her status, many of you will download your family history and beg with your ancestors to be picked for the giveaways, then come here to open there mad-cow diease infested mouths to vomit the bile in their stomach about stay at home mothers.

Many workers are also poor! Nothing to show for their years of working! Apart from buying clothes, shoes and jewelries, what else remains? Some of you don't have savings! Your children suffer in the hands of maids and relations, and you come here to abuse women who made sacrifices for their families.
GTFO!

Sdk do post.

oguike akudo said...

I remember in 2008 I was called that my mum was sick... i entered the next available vehicle to see her. getting to the hospital I saw my mum inside the ambulance with my siblings crying and shouting. I felt this sharp pain in my heart and ever since then my life has never been the same. I hated this world and everything about it.
May your soul continue to rest in peace my dearest mum...your little daughter is now a mother .

soblessed ifemi said...

God bless all mothers

Just Glamour said...

Such lovely words,James Ade my prayers for you is for God to open strange doors of favor for you and you will continue to be a good father and husband,IJN happy birthday to your daughter.

Muna said...

The joy I get when I call my mum and first thing she will say is Adanne. I love my mum so much!

Mao Akuh said...

So unfortunately that she's gone forever.

Motherhood rocks

Mrs anonymous said...

This is my prayers every day,the way I admire pregnant women ehn.We have new born twins in my church,my husband always want us to sit close to their mom so he can carry the girl,she is so chubby & cute.May God look down on me and all women in the waiting room,our testimony will be permanent in Jesus name(amen)

Anonymous said...

Location pls.

Anonymous said...

NNE Ndo,God rest her soul.

MOBS said...

Motherhood rocks and it means so much to do, love my boys. God answer all TTC women.

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