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Tuesday, 7 February 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

I cannot believe this!




STAND ALONE NARRATIVE:
ABOUT TO END RELATIONSHIP WITH LE BOO
Good day Stella,

I'm broken, devasted, broken and insurmountable at the moment, I cry everyday and can't bear to see me on the mirror.


Its quite a long story but I shall cut it short. I'm a Lady from the southern part of Nigeria, done with service and in a relationship with a guy from the north.


Its two years together, two years of joy, bliss, quarrel and make-ups, my boyfriend has been by my side all through, even though he has trust issues.


I recently got pregnant, two months ago, I thought it would be a thing of joy for the both of us, especially him as he was always quick to remind me of his love for children and how he wanted me to be the mother of his kids.


Then, you could imagine my dismay when he suggested we should get rid of the child, stating finances as his reason, even though he earns over a 100k monthly.


I did after some weeks as I am currently unemployed, he stood by me.


The problem is, I doubt the love he has for me. If he truly loved me as he always proclaim would abortion be an option?


I don't want to fall victim again, I am contemplating ending the relationship and moving on with my life the mermaid way, as I am traumatized by the loss of my child.

Bvns, pls help me with your advice, cusses and thought of this.


*You should have ended the relationship when you were pregnant and he asked you to abort...you are traumatised on the loss of your child?you killed your baby becos of a worthless man..Hissss!



163 comments:

Lateesha Pasteries Ajjah Lagos - 07032392414 said...

Cannot imagine.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

No advise for you!...
In life,you gain and lose...
Move one abeg and stop dating only one person...

Doppelgänger said...

She is equally worthless for having sex and getting pregnant with the hope that it will lead to marriage.
He says he loves children, did he tell you he wants to have them now.
Stop having sex if you're not ready for consequences like this one.
He earns over 100k monthly and you earn nothing yet you think a baby is supposed to solve all the world's problems.
Don't go and look for work be opening legs up and down with the hope that you would tie down a man with it.
You don't know how hard things are, 100k in this economy.
Be lucky the abortion was a success.
Hissssssss

Only wife of Ofagbe said...

Some people are just soo stupid,here I am TTC after 7years and one idiot is saying she is devastated after killing her baby n planning of breaking with with her BF,you nor well.hisssssssssssssssssssassss

Anonymous said...

MTCHEEWWW

Istanbul said...

Stella that man isn't worstless, the poster here its the worst less one, how can you get pregnant for a guy when he never asked you to and you except him to let you keep it, sorry am against abortion but it seems you deliberately took in, not all guys love that.at least there should be an agreement btw the two both of you( in Jennifer's voice) lol.sorry my lady.I don't know if to advice you to break up with him but you were just so wrong taking in for a guy just to trap him down with it.

Lateesha Pasteries Ajjah Lagos - 07032392414 said...

Pray to God
Ask for his forgiveness.
And forge ahead.
About your Dear Boyfriend, You decide if you want to Continue. ✌

Becky Divine said...

You haff try!

Why abort the baby at all
Now your conscience is eating you up, you wanna break up with him? After killing that innocent baby ehn.. wehdone Ma

This one is just a pure case of medicine after death mshewww

Miss Ess said...

No way You did that?

Ehi Grace said...

You boyfriend is not ready to be a husband and a dad. I know you feel guilty for having an abortion and that's the more reason why you should either end things with him or stop have sex be with him be it protected or not.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Why are you traumatised. You open legs and take no precuation. Abeg pick yourself up jare. Just pray to God to forgive you your sin. 5 minutes or 3 minutes enjoyment has brought too much pains.

He is earning above 100,000 and you want to have children for him, sorry for you. You are from the south and he is from the north. Cant you see that the difference is clear.

abeg move on jare or you want me to tell you to love him? oya carry your load for ya head

Atheist ™ said...

Is this chronicle coming in rather late?? The damage has been done already! If ur intuitions are in doubt about the potency of his love, then ure right... If a man trully loves you, you'd need not ask, cus you'd luterally feel it & see it in his actions, not words alone. i'm even dazed ure dating an Aboki & proclaiming love, the diffrences are usually an obstacle.

Anonymous said...

Murderer!!! God will never forgive you

Anonymous said...

Eyah! Clap for yourself, inugo? God is soaking your cane in crude oil & pepper & drying it over the flames of hellfire. I don't know even understand how you're bold enough to write this rubbish when you should be on your knees & praying for God's mercy and forgiveness. Now you have jeopardized your salvation because of another mere mortal & you're hoping to find peace & happiness when you have robbed sleep from another? Issorite...kontinue

BIPOLAR ME said...

Okay...

Let me get this straight..

The fruits of an action you and "a man who has being by your side" came forth and he doesn't want it, not because he is "totally broke" but because he is NOT ready.

I won't go on about the abortion, I am so sure conscience would do a lot to you.

Your man is irresponsible and I don't think he would ever be.

And please please please stop doing things that you MIGHT bear consequences for because of someone else.

You wanna have sex, enjoy it to the fullest and be ready to bear the consequence....it's bad enough that you are sinning against God but can you please not do it for someone else?

CUPID said...

Sad!!!!!!!
If you had waited to be a legal fucker, you won't have to ask us stupid questions. If you must fuck.. Try your best not to get pregnant by preventing it in all ways.. I hope you forgive yourself soon so you can ask God to forgive you as well. Sannu lovergirl

Lady T/ am worth more than a thousand dollars said...

I don't think you still have the relationship after all said and done. Its just a matter of time. Why did you get pregnant or sleep with him in the first place? There are no guarantees in life.
You just did yourself in. Haba! Ladies won't hear...

Anonymous said...

Don't shift blames abeg.

You aborted because of your selfishness, nobody pushed you to it. It's downright stupid of you to have done it.

Afterall, the moans and orgasms came out willingly.

If you don't leave that man, it is just the beginning of your abortion epoch.

Cos you guys are already doing it without protection

LAS GidDY said...

Brainless girl like you...

simply because he always sweet-mouth you that he loves children then you stupidly conceived out of wedlock; and you think he would accept?

Not in this economy biko. Nwa guy never ready to be a father.

Be wise otherwise 2nd pregnancy is definitely loading.....soon!

Robyna Wenger said...

I'm sorry for your loss. Personally I don't think that he doesn't love you cos he asked you to abort. 100k a month isnt a lot of money especially if he doesn't have savings. Maybe he is from a family that believes that babies shld come after marriage etc. You shld have insisted that you won't have an abortion. I have a sneaky feeling that you felt that a baby will make him propose now you have lost a child and your relationship is now on shaky grounds. I hope you learn something from this. *hugs*

Anonymous said...

Stella sometimes ur advice sometimes are too harsh. The poor girl is in a dilemma seeking for advice, u really don't have to compound it. No body wants to have abortions, but sometimes situations u find urself make u do it. She isn't employed not her boyfriend willing to accept the baby, why bring a child up in such environment? Tomorrow they will come here and b begging and sending chronicles on how life is hard for them. Plz try and b a little more sympathetic. It could be ur sister or niece. No one is above mistake. It sounds easy to say that she should have ended the relationship while pregnant but we all know it's really a difficult thing to do. Plz b realistic and sometimes let's try and put ourselves in their shoes. Cheers💞

Anonymous said...

I understand how you feel dear,if you feel taking a walk from him is the best,then do it,you will be fine *E-hugs*

I am king EZE said...

You want us to tell you to forgive him and stay? If at your age you don't know what you want in a relationship and when to kick a Nigga to the curbs then...

BLOGLORD said...

Even if you continue with the relationship, this dude will not marry you.
So borrow leg add to your own now and oya! Johnny walker

KIDJO said...

You've made me sad.😩😩😩..You should not ve killed the poor baby nah.I don't ve any advise to give to you.You've done your worst,nothing only God can judge and forgive you.byebye

Anonymous said...

Foolish southern girl.
Murder is not a thing of joy

Anonymous said...

Awwwww... If walking away from the relationship is the answer to your troubled mind then please do the walk.. you will be surprised the dude will get married by March to another lady... *sigh*
But why get pregnant for a man you are not married to? Why don't people learn from other people's experience... you just ignore till it gets to you. i learnt the hard way... Still learning.
*what am i even saying... Lemme read comments.

DonMayor �� said...

Which love this one dey talk about ? He was gbenshing you raw, what was he expecting, plasma TV?

Don't wait for him to break up with you, just move on now. You just wasted two years of your life with him.

healthy ikpu said...

Please stop calling us BVN.
We are BLog Visitors.

Anonymous said...

Men dont no what to say, you did a big mistake by aborting the baby, you should have kept the child, you no get family or your man no get family, you would have reported him, i wonder if people still choose abortion this day as an alternative.

You better walk away fast from such a man

Zinny Chocolate said...

Move one already. Stop crying over spilled milk. Ask for forgiveness and make sure not to repeat the same mistake again. Goodluck with the break up.

PASTOR'S DAUGHTER said...

mtcheeeeeew why are you traumatized? how many times have i adviced una to be using condom?
did he force you to abort your child? abeg shift commot before i carry vex tear you yeye slap now.
what nonsense is this, abeg let me use this "eyes" cream and cool my temper. i hate reading such nonsense.

Anonymous said...

Dear BV,
I totally feel ur pain. Sometimes our partners act in a way that makes us question their proclaimed love for us. I've been in this situation before. Got pregnant and told my boyfriend about it. I literally broke down when he talked about him Not ready for a family then. Can u imagine???? So what were we doing??? Men are heartless sometimes. I never want to trap anyone with pregnancy, I wasn't raised like that. It was unfortunate I was pregnant, but when u date guys of a certain age u just assume they will be on same page with u about settling down. Now I know I'm soooooo wrong to think like that . This guy in question is very well to do and is more than of age to settle (so I thought). Well I thank God I was in England at that time where it's legal to have abortions and not complicate my life. But after that episode, I doubted his love for me. We've broken up now tho. So I totally feel u Hun. 😘

Wendixx said...

Stella, let me follow you and hiss jare.. mtchewwwwww!

@Poster, what do u want us to say na, you have done the deed. live with the guilt. It will always be at the back of your mind, though the pain will recede over time.

Just make sure u make peace with God and keep your legs closed till marriage. Once you genuinely repent and ask God to forgive and heal your heart, He will. Nevertheless, there is always a price to pay your every decision and indecision we humans make.

May God help you.

Cheers..

Sexy Candy YumYum (MIND SO MILITARY) said...

by d time he is through with your jajaina, he will dump you. so count your loss and dump him first.

Sisimi said...

Not God so won't judge you...
Ask him when you guys are settling down..from there u know if you move ahead or not.

Anonymous said...

Are you for real? Asking if you should stay in the relationship after he insisted you should abort and not ready to father a child. He didn't know that when he was unwrapping you and eating your cookies abi? Anyway my advice is run as fast as your legs can carry you. I don't understand why ladies of nowadays don't bother to test their boyfriends and see if they are really serious. Am a man and am married for close to two decades. let me say that once you are sexually active with a guy test him by faking a pregnancy and see how he will react. if he is sincere then its going to be obvious the way he will react in the first 48hours.

Anonymous said...

Stella didnt come here to play with yall. I dunno what the op(owner of post) really wants us to say. Cheer you on? Lol

Anonymous said...

He has another babe he intends to be with...either that or he has a family or yourd that will judge the life out of you for carrying. If you stay with him...use protection and do not keep your heart with him 100 percent. He wont stand in tough times.

Oluyomi Odukoya said...

Dear poster, the deed has been done and cannot be undone. It is time to move on.

First of all, no one is perfect. We have all done things in our lives which we are not proud of. Guess what, we are still doing things in our lives which we are still not proud of, but God still loves us nevertheless. He still loves us just the way we are. He knows we are not perfect and that we have weaknesses, but in Him, we can find strength to do all things.

My dear, stop beating yourself up. Do not allow the devil take advantage of your helplessness. Stop feeling guilty for yourself and stop punishing yourself. Your baby won’t come back after all, so why are you doing this to yourself?
You need to quit that relationship. A man who loves you sincerely will never tell you to abort. Forget all that talk that he wants you to be the mother of his kids. Men will say what we want to hear, that’s their stock in trade.

Forget the years, months, date and time you have invested in that relationship. It is another learning curve for you. Focus more on your life, stop living your life for a man because men will always fail, but God never does.

Lift up your head, begin a new life, start afresh and make up your mind to become a mermaid until the right man sent from God comes along.
Sex is overrated and it does more harm than good, especially when done outside the confines of marriage.

God has forgiven you, it is time to forgive yourself.

All the best, dear.

phyco signature said...

i follow stella hissssssss so if u now meet a new guy u will b forming mermaid abii, u better stay with him so dt if anything happen if future as per child bearing both of u will carry d cross abi na who u wan sell 1/2 cartoon for

MAGIC BAE said...

How could be you be sending a chronicle after killing your unborn child or children.You are now questioning the love he has for you, sisi wait o, what if you loss your life in the process of aborting the pregnancy. you know what stay in that relationship and continue loving him,till u flush out your destiny and he will dump you like a piece of rag.
Reset your brain dear,this man is taking you nowhere.just apply wisdom that's all I can say.

snow white said...

The mistake has been made ..just ask God for forgiveness ...believe me that guy don't love you as you claim, I don't even understand (he stood by you)you are talking about.he was fucking you and maybe giving you money in return and you think he loves you.if he couldn't stand with you when you were pregnant,Rather he ask you to get rid it,my dear he does not love you.

Anonymous said...

Why will a man claim to love U and suggest abortion after impregnating U? And the ones that loves them will be taken for granted

Cecilia Solomon said...

Dear poster . Anyman who ask you to abort his baby is not yet a man . Run for your life . If he earns above 100 k n still is not ready to father ur child , then you are on a long thing . Guys this days can promise you heaven n earth when your cookie is sweet and they want to keep choping it for free . Concerntrate on yourself. Get a job, forget that man . N most importantly ask God to forgive you for the abortion . I wonder why women belief all the love talks men say. Fish brain some of us have indeed

Anonymous said...

You need stability in your life first, else na so so man story go kill you. put your mind and energy into making something of your life, like getting a job or starting a business etc. find and grow yourself spiritually too. else na so so man wahala go finish you. thank you.

sexy Daddy said...

Madam poster!Let me advice you as a guy point of view.That guy does not love u at all at all.Hold your ears sister!Run!Run!Run!Find your fellow southerner or easterner that has the same cultural backgrounds and date and marry.stop been decive by this I love u I love u espionage.

LIGHT said...

@Istanbul i refuse to agree with what you said. How can you say she took in deliberately? Did she drug the guy to have sex? Why didn't the guy use condom or why didn't he try the withdrawal method? They are both to blame for what happened. Poster,you don't need to be told to move ahead with your life,the mistake has been made but always remember that no man is worth the stress.

Mao Akuh said...

Be asking question until you hear the bombshell that he has married a Northern chic.

uchenna julieth said...

normally i just read comments smile, learn from some of them n move on. listen , i always tell people even if your bf or anyman tells u he will marry u or take responsibility if u get pregnant, madam don"t get carried away, protect your self because these men will tell u anything wen they are horny, they just want to satisfy themselves.... if he really loved u like u claim why would he risk you life and health to get rid of a child and he earns good salary and is old enough to start up a family. the deed has been done,put yourself together n so the right thing for yourself. i wouldn't ask u to leave or stay but think about how many abortions u will have if u continue becoz u cant be too careful, what if he leaves u after everything. your story made me feel smhow and i was forced to comment. its well

Gift [Mr] said...

You are stupid @Poster!... Why commit abortion because of a MAN??? SMH!... Better leave him cos he has stained your hands with blood! Like stella said "you killed your baby becos of a worthless man.""" HIssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss1... Leave him now and ask God to firgive you.. He is merciful

Anonymous said...

Madam take it easy on her na. Haba! She has made d mistake already. All we can do now is to encourage her to move on and try to have a deeper rlsp with God
You should learn to put yourself in people's shoes sometimes

Anonymous said...

Troubled BV's here's one device for y'all!! Stop bringing ur problems here. People here are mean and could care less how u feel. They act like they are so strong and haven't been in worst situations. Meanwhile they are the ones who cry before sleep. Take ur problems and burdens to God in prayers. He is the only trust worthy friend u have that won't judge u. BVS ON THIS BLOG ARE SO MEAN!!!!! God forbid. Just an advice for the next person planning on sending chronicle here. U won't get solutions. All ull get are bunch of people bashing u, blaming u and judging u. Be wise...... Don't compound ur issues💋💞

Zoey Cabrini said...

oh well, the deed has already been done and you can't undo it. What matters now is the way forward...you need to think with your head to avoid making the same mistake twice.
I'll say..end the so-called relationship or whatever it is that's between you and the guy in question, work on yourself to get a life and yes, stay a mermaid and most importantly hold onto God and ask Him for mercy. Jesus didn't come to condemn sinners, what matters most is your genuine repentance. The fact that you are alive today means there's still room to make amends...start today, start now!

Chidinma Gift said...

Hmmmmm my dear the deed has already been done. Move on with your life and dump him one side its so obvious he doesn't love you. Try using a condom next time abeg

Blackberry said...

Use a condom next time to avoid unwanted pregnancies.

HeartBreaker said...

Lmao.

Poster, move on Biko. When a man is truly in love with u, he will do anything and everything to make sure you are comfortable.


Like Linda said, stop dating just one, break up with him already.

Anonymous said...

Dear Miss,
I cannot relate with your situation but i will try to empathize with you. Firstly you are not worthless! yes you aborted ur baby and it was wrong on all levels but your life isn't over ma.

You will just have to pick up the pieces and start all over, quit that relationship and start a new relationship with Christ, other things will follow. Don't be desperate because you will be happy in the nearest future who loves Christ and respects his will.

Long and short of this is, please don't stay devastated because it cannot be undone, just keep pleading for mercy and start on a new slate. I promise you that if you start afresh with Jesus, you will end well with songs of praise and encourage young girls to not commit the same mistakes.

Jesus loves you too much to ignore you, only if you run into his outstretched arms

Anonymous said...

Dear Miss,
I cannot relate with your situation but i will try to empathize with you. Firstly you are not worthless! yes you aborted ur baby and it was wrong on all levels but your life isn't over ma.

You will just have to pick up the pieces and start all over, quit that relationship and start a new relationship with Christ, other things will follow. Don't be desperate because you will be happy in the nearest future who loves Christ and respects his will.

Long and short of this is, please don't stay devastated because it cannot be undone, just keep pleading for mercy and start on a new slate. I promise you that if you start afresh with Jesus, you will end well with songs of praise and encourage young girls to not commit the same mistakes.

Jesus loves you too much to ignore you, only if you run into his outstretched arms

HeartBreaker said...

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HeartBreaker said...

It is well with you madam.

Anonymous said...

U are from ofagbe ? This is the first time I am seeing someone mention ofagbe on the internet....pls tell me more about that town/village

Anonymous said...

U are intelligent !

Anonymous said...

Why are u always bitter? Every chronicle annoys u..I think u have issues..I'm just feeling sorry for u already .. Find solution to ur problem and stop pouring it on chronicle posters mbok.
U need to see a shrink Doppelganger.

Inimitable said...

Dear BV,
In life, we don't understand a lot of things, and always know that you should love with your heart but make room for your head to function efficiently. That being said, you got pregnant and the guy asked yu to abort it. Although he earns,it's not enough to feed two extra mouths, one being a baby. It's only natural for him to freak out. It doesn't mean he love you or doesnt , it simply means hes not ready, simple. You made a mistake so please take responsibility of it and move on. If the both of you are from different religions, just count your losses and walk away cos there's a high chance that it won't work. Besides that, just sit yourself down and ask yourself what you really want in life and if he fits into the picture or not. Only you have the answer to the question you ask. Don't mind those who throw shades at people; casting stones when they are guilty of same sin. Take care of yourself

Anonymous said...

Yimmu..As if legal fucking guarantees good marriage..All these married women sending their chronicles after legal fucking,how far? Did it stop them from having a broken marriage? Abeg comot here with ur judgemental self.

Anonymous said...

Why u dey Para for Stella? Was she d one dat impregnated her? Free her joor. When she dey hang leg for burglary did she see Stella there?

Candy said...

And u know this cos u r God abi??

Anonymous said...

Not to encourage you, but all those judging you may have done worst . And you alone know the man you are dating and only you can tell if he genuinely loves you. I got pregnant for my boyfriend while dating and he asked me to abort as he was not ready. We were both earning over 200k each at theach time but neither of us were mentally ready to bring a child to the world . We decided to terminate the pregnancy and that was not an easy choicenough but we stood by each other . We got married a year later and we got pregnant almost immediately, we are still not ready to be parents but somehow ,we are making it work. My point is, it depends on you and your partner. Some people are more rational minded than others and don't attach such sentiments to abortion as the rest of Nigeria.

Anonymous said...

I know this is not the right place..but I'm desperate. Please can anyone who has fallen victim of Godwin Offor' lies explain more

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

The mistake has already been made. Ask God for forgiveness and look for a job no matter how small. Forgive yourself too cos you are not the first to make this kind of mistake but taking correction is what improves your person. Dear depend on nobody not even your parent, the first priority should be you and not a boy friend. Package your self and see better things coming your way including relationships, love is never enough to sustain any relationship. I pray things works out better for you dear.

Anonymous said...

Dear poster, sorry to disappoint you. This guy no matter how much he loves you, will not marry you. If he wanted, your getting pregnant would have been the point at which he takes it further with you. You've been had. Pray ask the Lord to forgive you. And pls move on.

Anonymous said...

Sorry, abortion whether legal or not in any country does not make it right. Am not judging you. Am only stating the fact. You removed a foetus, before the eyes of the Lord, its sin.

Akinbobola Korede said...

God will wipe your tears IJN...Ur testimony is sure this year

Anonymous said...

Go and sit down.tout

Anonymous said...

Istanbul, you probably just thought once and not twice. How is the guy blame free in this? When you are having sex whether you use protection or not, it could still happen. They were both responsible for it.
Poster, as a woman, you should have been more responsibile because in the end, you are the one who bears the greater burden. Many irresponsible men abound. I cannot tell you what to do. Use your head very well. The fact that you are worried enough to bring your case here, I suspect you know the answers to your question yourself. There have been people who end up marrying men they have aborted for and there are many more who have been jilted. But my own advise is regardless of your age, take some time off. You need a breather. Try to find something doing to bring you income first and decide on whether you want to conine seeing your bf or be available again. And please don't have sex with your bf again until you are married. Abortion is not cool at all, not for you, not for the poor soul you have both denied a future. May God forgive you and guide you.

Anonymous said...

As in eh.And to think fellow bvs will follow suit cos they don't have a mind of their own.Very annoying.All of a sudden, everyone is judging her. Did she say she doesn't know abortion is bad and not murder? You lots need to stop with the judgemental tones. She needs closure and a little reassurance.

Anonymous said...

Lol. You are a beast! Does she really think she can cope being married to a dude from the North? I mean those people are practically un-21st century. Have you met his family? What do they think of your relationship? Do you share the same religious beliefs because this definitely rules, you know. And I doubt their conservative nature allows preggies b4 marriage. Maybe you didn't take time to know him very well. All in all, a guy makes me do abortion, it's good bye SOB. Abortion is very serious. We women should abstain from it by all means unless it threatens your own life. Please I beg you on behalf of innocent souls. You nor even worry about your future. What if in the process you damage something. The boy name wicked boy o. Chei!

Anonymous said...

Doppelganger you hit the nail on the head. But why don't you calm down a Lil when dishing out advise? You are always angry. If you don't tone down your attitude you would end up with hypertension.

LOLLAH said...

Amen...this is your year. By God's grace Triplets loading

Anonymous said...

Take it easy Doppelganger. No one is perfect

Anonymous said...

Broke people shouldn't be having sex. PERIOD!

Anonymous said...

Precisely

Anonymous said...

Shut up with your cut and join English.What is "worst less"?common punctuation marks you can't arrange.Assuming she had that baby out of wedlock, you would be the first to scream "baby mama "and "bastard".You folks are insatiable.tueh!!!

Anonymous said...

1 million likes.we are all to quick to judge.poster try nd forgive yourself.leave that boy nd start afresh.bt next tym dnt fuck without protection please no matter the promise made to you

Elixir said...

Doppelganger I use to like your comment... but what you typed up there just shows that you don't have sense. People like you that are quick to insult people for their mistakes are usually worst that the people you claim you are advising. Stop sounding bitter mbok!

LOLLAH said...

Poster if you still like him just make sure you use condoms only till you guys make up your mind on what you want . It's the after effect emotions of the abortion that's making you feel bad, just make sure it doesn't repeat itself.
Trapping someone with pregnancy works for some people but it backfired for you. Learn your lesson dear

Anonymous said...

Innocenti swear down that you have never aborted before

Eloho said...

Human beings don't know how to use their mouth. Someone is in an emotionally draining situation and u people are adding pepper to it. As u are all insulting her now, I hope your stomach is now full as it is ur food. Sister, the deed is done! Next time close ya legs tighter Dan a vault till you know u are MARRIED! And ready for children. Fini!

Femilicious said...

Oluyomi kudos to you. Poster please listen to her. The deed has been done. Prsy hard for forgiveness from God. Forgive yourself. God loves you very much and he will forgive your sin. Obviously stay away from sex from now

Anonymous said...

Anon 15:59 God bless you. Same people who spill their guts during anonymous night post will still turn around and bash someone who sent in a chronicle. Most of them calling her a fool have had countless abortions. Tell your problems to God not Awon two faced Bvs that will judge you.

Anonymous said...

Doppelganger you are the worthless one here. How dare you call your fellow woman worthless. All you do is write epistles on every chronicle like your life is perfect and you've never made a mistake in your life. I don't blame you, I blame people that send in chronicles.

Anonymous said...

Why is everyone acting like saints here. All the yeye people saying trash have aborted more than 3ce before and would still abort again. mistakes happen all the time and abortions are ways of correcting some. Busy body siting behind computers judging

HOUSE OF LAWOF said...

End the relationship asap

Mama fifty said...

My dear u committed two sins:formication and murder,u need God mercy ,cry unto him for forgiveness and repent ,He will show u mercy and receive u because He is merciful,then go and sin no more.u shouldn't have opened ur leg for a man not committed to u by marriage. And if u leave him u loose because he will marry anothervperson.

Arsenal Firstlady said...

You no even get sense. Mumu! Is now your through with your abortion that you want to end the relationship. Idiot hear yourself out. What advice do you want again? When you're through with your foolishness. Goat, continue till your womb is destroyed in D&C. My friend get a life.

Shyla said...

I have come to realise that when guys dont want to use condom they always come up with they love kids, they will marry you and all sorts. That way you will be confident and give them skin to skin sex .When kasala don burst, you will never believe the turn around.

Btw, 100k salary in this present day Nigeria where everything is so expensive cannot sustain you, the guy and a baby. #fact
Babe you were not too smart. You were carried away.

GenevieveNwa said...

Kisses to u Lateesha! I don't always comment but ur advice got me.. Love ur advice jare...

Anonymous said...

Anon 15:59 you are so right,BVS here are so mean,as if their lives are perfect

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 16:31, how am I parraing for Stella? Someone is seeking advice on a mistake she has made. Y not b sympathetic???? Is it bad to state the obvious? Plz take ur hateful selves outta my post. Judgemental Lots.....KMT

Anonymous said...

"Before the eyes of the Lord it's a sin". So u haven't sinned before???????? Odikwa egwu!!! The fact u sin differently doesn't justify u to crucify others Hun. In the eyes of GOD all sins are equal so don't bother blabbing on my post. I'm not saying abortions are good BUT sometimes in life u find urself in difficult situations! Holier than thou hateful judgemental Lots😒🙄

Anonymous said...

Stay with him if you think he loves you. He didn't force you to have an abortion

DonMayor �� said...

Don't mind her.

Anonymous said...

I'm travelling to Ofagbe next weekend for granny's burial. Though don't know much abt the place, it's going to be my first time there.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

@Anon 15:59- I think it's unfair for you to suggest that troubled BVs should stop sending chronicles here. Are you trying to kill this segment? On someones blog? Some of you are indeed very very bold I must say!!! If people heed to this k-leg advice of yours and stop what do you think would happen? This is very unfair advice and I really hope stella would delete it.

Yes, most people here don't have a solution but this segment also gives us an idea of the issues that happen in everyday life. And through reflection many of us think of ways to avoid such issues in our lives. You want to tell me about angry and mean comments on this blog from stories shared? 😂😂 well come let me take you back to a few days ago when the whole blog went anonymous and called me 'mad' and depressed because of a non-chronicle story I shared here. But does that mean people shouldn't share their stories? Just yesterday an unknown BV still thanked me for giving her advice that worked on different occasions. I wasnt only shocked but I imagined how many people see this segment as a place to share problems they can't share in their immediate environment. So what's your stress? If you sent chronicle here and no one adviced you in a way you expected then you should honestly check yourself because maybe what you sent in did not need any urgent advice but a brain reset. As you sit behind your gadget and try to discourage a segment on someomes blog just know that God is sees you even if we can't.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...
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Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Lol @15:17. Someone will soon accuse you of being 'chikito. Watch and see

Khaleesi ( mother of dragons) said...

Lol

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Anon 16:57- and you people still cuss out baby mamas. Okay so what do you want girls to do? Remain celibate forever? You know it's impossible and people wont use condoms everytime no matter how much we chant it. Me I think abortion is solely dependent on the person carrying the child whatever they think is best for them at that point in time. Is it the killing of a human being? Yes. But would I give her money to train the child? Nooo. So its purely her decision.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

So you've 'abnormally' commented? *yimu*

Anonymous said...

When will girls learn that relationship is not "sex".
Now who is hurting and heart broken?
I was in a relationship with my man for 4 years and never had sex,
Married for years and now have peace!

Anonymous said...

There is something ABOUT ABORTIONS which I'd like us to see. When one kills (or encourages the killing of; see Prov. 6:16-17) innocent children, the consequences are three. 1. You deny yourself the joy of having a home (remember the Hebrew midwives who spared babies against Pharaoh's advice to kill them; God rewarded them with families; Ex.1) 2. You risk "sudden death" in the hands of another fellow/accidents etc. remember Gen.9:6 and thirdly, you deny yourself eternal life! What a life! God isn't going to call you to glory if you do not repent. Jesus said; come to me all you that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest; that's Matt. 11:28. If you do not repent, you'd keep on laboring for the Serpent. But if you repent and make Jesus your Lord today and begin to read your scriptures; you'd find peace and the above three lots will not be yours. God bless you.

Anonymous said...

I work in a hospital and the most cases of "septic abortions" (abortions that get infected etc.) that we see is usually during the first quarter of the year; a fallout of vaginal pounding during Christmas and valentine. Chai, come and see beautiful dead girls, lost wombs, bedridden ones and so on. What pains me most is that these girls will continue denying that they had abortion as if the doctor is a magistrate that will sentence them to death. One denied aborting till she breathed her last only for the nurses that were to prepare her body for the morgue to pull out a mangled baby's remains from her vagina.

And these boys just continue to prowl on the next victims -any vagina that opens! Girls, there is no "rest in peace" if you did not let babies find peace in your womb when the "mistake" of premarital sex was made. If this is your case and you survived it; repent, we all make mistakes.

The guilty ones who do not want to repent are those that will come under my post to rant. Having said it, they will perhaps hide under anonymous and talk about how "nothing happened"! It takes just one day for the thief and murderers to be caught!

Anonymous said...

Girls should know that no man will like to marry a girl he knows had aborted.
The womb has been compromised.

I work in a hospital and the most cases of "septic abortions" (abortions that get infected etc.) that we see is usually during the first quarter of the year; a fallout of vaginal pounding during Christmas and valentine. Chai, come and see beautiful dead girls, lost wombs, bedridden ones and so on. What pains me most is that these girls will continue denying that they had abortion as if the doctor is a magistrate that will sentence them to death. One denied aborting till she breathed her last only for the nurses that were to prepare her body for the morgue to pull out a mangled baby's remains from her vagina.

And these boys just continue to prowl on the next victims -any vagina that opens! Girls, there is no "rest in peace" if you did not let babies find peace in your womb when the "mistake" of premarital sex was made. If this is your case and you survived it; repent, we all make mistakes.

The guilty ones who do not want to repent are those that will come under my post to rant. Having said it, they will perhaps hide under anonymous and talk about how "nothing happened"! It takes just one day for the thief and murderers to be caught!

Anonymous said...

Really? Ride on...

beautiful godly said...

Poster ,you and your so called boyfriend have blood in your hand ,
What you should concern yourself with is to
go to God and ask for forgiveness and mercy ,
to wash you clean with his blood
To remove the curse attached to abortions
To help you not to suffer the consequence of the abortion in the future
And to help you live holy for God
And move on ,not attach yourself to a man who wants u to get rid of baby you can't create
Do you know how many women are crying every day just for one baby without committing any abortion
Let me tell you a story about a family I know ,the mother in law hubby side was very worried why the daugther inlaw didn't have another child after so many years of having a baby, God reveal to her that the son and daughter Inlaw have gotten rid of the children he has destined for them, before they got married, they had an abortion bcos they are not prepared for a baby yet, when they got married ,after the first born they got pregnant but got rid of it bcos they said the first baby is still very young for them to have another child now
So they got rid of their babies out of ignorance
Ask God to have mercy

Anonymous said...

@ Doppleganger or whatever your name is , may you never find yourself in a situation far worse ... Calling someone worthless because of a mistake. Mschwww

ukwu dimond said...

Yeye chronicles, so you are still doing abortion in this generation, is OK. You would have walk away d day he said abort that pregnancy, you are still there asking questions. People are looking for babies and someone is wasting one out there.

May God bless you and give you d strength to continue in your bad habits, as if cohabiting with your bf is not enough you went ahead to abort. God is watching us all, father help poster to reset her brain.

Eegor said...

Do you read your bible at all? How dare you say she has jeopardized her salvation? Sin has its consequences but it can't keep you from grace. Where the law abounds grace about ds even more. Dear poster the deed has been done, forgive yourself and move on. Your intuition is right leavery that man alone. You will be fine

Baby Oku said...

Doppelgängster you are too self righteous and utterly annoying.....so with 100 k a month they cannot start a family AbI? She just finished service and u make it sound like she doesn't want to get a job....if he truly loves kids like he claims he would have just accepted that it was a mistake and they move on....always talking as if you have always made perfect decisions in life...hypocrite.....
Poster this guy doesn't love you so pls just move on....I hope he is also not a northern Muslim. They hardly will want to marry Christian southerners and not convert you..be more careful next time and use a condom if you must satisfy mr conji...

Lollipop said...

Most of these people cusding her must have committed several abortions and still judging someone else. Ye who is clean should cast the first stone. We are all fucking humans and we do stuff like this. So pls let her be. Poster if he loves you continue with the relationship but pls be wiser and smarter

Anonymous said...

Chikito I see u are attracted to my comments. Keep commenting 💞

Anonymous said...

Chikito I think we reason kinda alike. Although u disagreed with me about people not bringing their problems here anymore. However that's ur opinion! I guess we are namesakes too😉
Chikky💞

Jasmine said...

Anon 15:59, u r correct. They r so judgemental

Jasmine said...

Madam, take it easy. It's her baby afterall. God will give you yours

Anonymous said...

Biko@chikito shut up...it's someone's blog but it's a public utility ...jezzzz people here are too righteous for my liking even Stella herself acting like a sinless princess...you guys should chill abeg....give practical advise and stop pretending like y'all have loved the hoilest lives ever even holier than Jesus Christ himself.I cannot deal biko...or better still kill the segement nobody will die.stop cursing people out...it's the worse form of cyber bullying.

Jasmine said...

U never can tell

Anonymous said...

Mrs.God. ..Georgina. ...onye iberi-ibe

Anonymous said...

Asineh. ...to think that almost all the senseless people on this earth are on this blog is quiet disheartening...

Jasmine said...

U must be a saint. Get lost idiot. Judgemental animal

Jasmine said...

Story story

Anonymous said...

Anon 17:22 may God punish you,SEX IS FOR MARRIED PERSONS,so why do you want to indulge while you are single,you girls must suffer for all the babies you kill.

Anonymous said...

Anon you think everyone is a murderer like you?

Anonymous said...

God bless you anon 15:59. I kinda share the same sentiments too. Although I learn a lot from a lot of the stories and also confirm a lot of gut-feelings through them but people here could be so mean at times and I wonder if the posters really leave with lighter or heavier hearts after unburdening their hearts to bvs. Stella echoes my thoughts at times but sometimes she could be really harsh with her outlook or judgement of situations. Guess we are all human after all. But I will never judge those who have done abortion. I cannot do it and pray to God that I never fall into the situation where I would feel I have no other option but to abort a pregnancy but at the same time, I can't judge those who have because I'm not in their shoes or position. It isn't because I'm better than them, it's just by the grace of God. May God help us all and guide us aright


Poster, please leave that guy already. He's a time waster and confusionist........... Just Me

Anonymous said...

Don't mind the ofada. Did she just drink zobo and got pregnant that way? Your mouth like how can you get pregnant for a guy when he never asked you to. You think women actually have monopoly over the ones that turn to pregnancy and those that donts? If it wasn't by error like broken condom and he wasn't ready for any babies, why didn't he protect against it too? Or if sex results in pregnancy and a baby comes, would it not share the guy's DNA too?

Anonymous said...

Hhhhmmmm!maami. Na you be Chief queen and Boss, na you be heart breaker. Make I waka pass joor. I love u too much to spoil your parole (dual ID)ikwakwakwa

Anonymous said...

You are the only one who's spoken with sense. Take kisses my new found blogboo 😘😘😘. L

Anonymous said...

Chikito, no no accused the anon of being you, smile...

Anon I agree oh, even Stella has aborted before so idk where this self righteousness is coming from.

Poster, the only wrong I see is the fact that you are blaming him. Firstly, I love kids does not mean I'm ready for them now (mentally, financially, physically and spiritually). You didn't plan getting pregnant but you thought he'd wife you up after being pregnant (wrong of you) and you got the abortion because you are equally not ready for the responsibilities. Just seek Gods forgiveness. I'm not in the right position to tell you to break up with him or not, you know him better. Consider how he treats you, and then the tribal differences. Wishing you all the best dear. Remain blessed!

Anonymous said...

Chikito you are right

Anonymous said...

Anon 16:28 May you never get married in your lifetime,and may illegal sex be your portion all your life

Anonymous said...

What is d meaning of this nonsense? Why do most males act and speak without regard for their future. Always self seeking and instant gratifications. Obviously there is at least a 50% chance things will never be same again btw her and her guy. Most likely as in most cases ur specie love to think like this, this guy has already drafted his master plan on how to utterly make this girl's life miserable, it's only a matter of time before he finally dumps her. We dont want that for her Cuz u still share human feelings. Empathy.
I hope ur female kids in d future fall into this ditch so that u would have a first hand experience and bear the lifetime pain of the dividends of deceit. Pure evil!
You had better start valuing the lives you see else u can not say that you love God when u treat others with no regard.


Marjorie

Anonymous said...

Since it is impossible for girls to be celibate,then they should shoulder the torture that comes with disobeying God's word,Very retarded girl.

Dre said...

That's awesome. I love this.

Anonymous said...

The deed has been done and asking for forgiveness doesn't mean you will not suffer the consequences of your actions,you condemn adults who murder adults but are very sympathetic towards aduits who kill babies by poking instruments into the fragile babies body till they bleed,may God punish the poster and all her supporters.

Dre said...

I don't know why some people choose to gamble with their lives. So you were having sex without any form of precaution and you expected nothing to happen? Aren't you foolish. Then you go and abort and come and cry over spilt milk.
I'm sorry but I don't feel sorry for you one bit. You knew what you were doing and you enjoyed it while it lasted. Unfortunately you forgot how cunning men can be. Forgive yourself and keep your legs shut from now on.
Never assume that a guy wants what you want. Always define your relationship. Love yourself and keep God's word in your relationships. Those are the life tips I have for you.

Anonymous said...

Robbed sleep from who? Awon were imbecile po ni bi bayi.are you dumb? Crazy or just unfortunate?

Anonymous said...

100k good salary? Nigeria of today?

Anonymous said...

Really? Mama fifty?2 sins? You be God? How dare you judge her? You think I don't know you? Can you count the number of abortions you have had?your guy even left you with the last child. Don't let me talk

Baddest Puta! said...

You have sense nne

Anonymous said...

I read your story and i have never posted a comment on this blog. This is what i have to say. 1st of all i am sorry you had to go through what you did. Sometimes in life giving certain situations, we see ourselves behaving in ways we ordinarily might never have behaved. Most of the people here are ladies, as such they may not comment from the perspective of a man, because believe it or not when it comes to the issue of marriage men and women see things differently. Women then to see the sentimental and emotional value of marriage while men look at the practicality of the whole affair. A man might love a 2016 mercedes benz and have the catalogue in his house, but it doesnt mean he can afford it. As a man i do not doubt that your bf loves you and does want to marry you, however his thinking at that time was simply, how do i take care of myself, a wife and a baby on a 100k+ salary giving the economy. After pregnancy, comes marry me, weddings cost money, which he might not have saved. You mentioned that you are not working, that means your earnings at the moment is zero. My advise, forgive your bf, tell him how you feel. The truth is most guys feel very guilty too when they take the abortion route with a woman they love and intend to marry. Also do not beat yourself up. A lot of Nigerians profess one religion or the other, on this blog mostly Christians, but if peter that denied Jesus 3 times, and the woman that was cught in the very act of adultery can find forgiveness. Then why not ask god for the forgiveness, accept it, forgive yourself and your man, try to get a job no matter how small, and you both plan your future together. you will make many more babies. This is for aunty stells, we all respect you and look up to you, i for one once sent you a chronicle that helped me solve an issue (bv were uncharacteristically not harsh that day lol), but please with the great following and esteem you have sometimes especially with chronicles dont be so harsh. The narrator sounds quite young in pain and confused. I notice also that your comment sets the tone for BVs responses. Usually if you are for or against they assume your position with only the usual independent minded ones e.g doppleganger, chikito and generals wife sticking to their position. BVs biko try to be humane when responding to chronicle. Assume it was a sibling or cousin that was telling you their problem. I believe bvs provide a large pool of wisdom and experience that really does help those who send in chronicles. Poster wish you all the best poster. Your future is very bright, you are young and resilient. Don't let this get you down and biko use protection going forward k. Children are not a fashion accessory or a fad. To raise them well takes planning and preparation. God bless. SOG HAS SPOKEN.

Anonymous said...

God bless y'all for understanding where I'm coming from and leaving positive comments. Apart from chikito of course😒 I pray God gives this BV wisdom to tackle her problems. Amen
Chikky 💞💋

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this comment. God bless you. As harsh as some people's comments were, it would serve as a mind opener just "just in case" but I truly agree, Stella was trusted with a story and she abused that trust by being judgemental. Let's learn empathy even if we try to correct others. We can all agree we all make mistakes. Yours might be different from poster's still they are letdowns. God bless you poster. This one too shall pass.

Anonymous said...

Anon 19:21 Biko stop blabbing. @ "no man will marry a girl who has aborted". Who told u????? Did u conduct a research? Ekwurekwu

Anonymous said...

Thank u. Stella doesn't seem like someone u can confide in. Like she hasn't passed through tough times. When someone needs a shoulder to lean on, b compassionate. That is certainly not the time to reprimand or judge, even if u must do so watch ur tone cos at that point in time the person is very sensitive. If someone commits suicide they will say the person is stupid for doing so, now someone has brought her problems look at the way people are treating her. Not cool at all💞

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 08:14. May God bless u for these wise words. Hopefully the poster doesn't get discouraged from most negative comments and read up to the end. Especially coming from a guys perspective. I don't think she should end the relationship either. Cheers💞

Royal Alaye said...

Babe right now i dont know what to say to you but i think you should move on with your life now coz your boyfriend isn't the man you thought he would be. For him to suggest an abortion that means he can't be responsible to you no matter how he had confess his love to you.

I suggest you put your ass together & get a reasonable life. Go get a job or find something meaningful to do that will be a distraction to your traumatized state of mind. the deed has been done already, so move on with your life

Mama fifty said...

Little girl,am not judging her but isaid what she did,again who told I have committed abortion pls watch ur mouth or u will regret it.

Baroness X said...

This is the wisest comment I have ever seen on sdk. God bless u

Anonymous said...

Anonous with hearts and lips. You are right that people are mean it's true. But sometimes these people have no one to turn to or talk to. We don't know what situation thier day to day life is. This platform also enables them to reach educated people or get some sound advice that can help them. Sometimes 1 sound advice among all the criticism can save a life. Me personally I have.learnt from stories about marriage divorce, the importance of being patient especially domestic violence diaries. I also get a grasp of what nigerians are like. What happens here happens in the real world. Xxx

Anonymous said...

Doppleganger is ignorant. Where does it state the poster got pregnant on purpose and to gain d love of the poster? Even if it's true how does that make her worthless? Foolish in love maybe but still worth something haba. Doppelganger is getting a high from the popularity she gets from her comments. She will be one secretary some wer oh or one primary school teacher lol. No one should take her seriously pls.

Anonymous said...

Leave the anonymous even if she has not aborted if her sister should do it she won't judge her this harshly oh. Anonymous forming holy holy since 1908

Anonymous said...

G9d can forgive every sin as long as you go ro him with a repentant heart.

Anonymous said...

Poster, the truth is that ur boyfriend does not love u enough to marry u. Else, he would have been able to find a way to manage with u on a 100k plus salary knowing that u r precious to him, he wouludn't want to lose you to another. Plus what u had inside too was supposed to be precious to him. I have some colleagues in my office that earn about that amount, married and have kids and they manage themselves well. Their wives r not even working. Marriage comes with a lot of blessings. God can even bless him more because he married u. A lot of people started with nothing bh today they are at the top. Even if u remain in that relationship, it can never be like before and he will never marry u knowing that you aborted for him. He might feel that u guys will have problems of childnessness in future. Quote me anywhere. The best thing u can do at this point is to tell urself the truth, forgive urself, ask God for forgiveness and leave that relationship. A better man will find u. I got pregnant for my hubby while we were dating, I tried to terminate it. I'm not proud of it though. When he found out, he begged me to marry him. Na that time my brain reset. We now hav 3 kids. That was ten years ago so pls leave him, tie ur legs together and find a new life. May God direct u always.

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