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Friday, 21 July 2017

What Take Home Pay Qualifies A Man For Marriage?

Time to sit on the couch and learn or argue....



I think the couple should fuse their finances together.....Must a man be the one carrying the load?This cracks Marriages sometimes...We have too many lazy women sitting at home and raising the ''I am a housewife'' card.

It doesnt matter what his salary is....Bring something to the table woman!
I am sorry if i missed the point and got on your nerves.....

*flutters eyeslids*

137 comments:

AGELESS T said...

These days, take homes can't even take someone home again. God help us.

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

It's left for the couple to decide o as long as they factor in their personal needs as well as extended family needs. There's is no written law to how these things work. A man and woman planning to do forever together should have something they are bringing to the table to move the family forward unless the man is very rich and prefers his wife should be a stay at home wife,I don't see why the responsibility should rest solely on the man.
I won't marry until I have enough to take care of my needs and my family. I don't expect a man to take care of me to the extent that I can't buy something I like unless my husband gives me the money. God forbid I live my life waiting on anyone for bread. Men these days are even smart enough not to settle with a woman who does nothing.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Stella that your statement "too many lazy housewives is wrong". Women are the ones taking care of the homes not men. Go and do your findings, you will see.

A man when single can manage the sum of N300,000 as a take home pay but when double needs to double the amount ooo.

N500,000 to manage a home in this country is nothing ooo since buhari came to power. Useless old man

Anonymous said...

Stella somebody has answered this question already. If you earn 20k per month, u live in a village with low cost of living and you grow most of your food by all means marry.

It all depends biko. And when u say marriage are u also talking of children cos having kids requires another type of funding

BLOGLORD (MVBM) said...

Relative.

Some men are stupendously rich so...

But for a struggling man, His earnings should be enough to make him and his wife very comfortable.
His earnings should be able to provide basics like a car, a good rented apartment, a lil savings etc
....it may not be in excess from the get go but at least with time he climbs up the ladder of wealth.

Then again, there are some men that are not comfortable with their wives working.
Some men pay their wives salaries much more than what some white collar job offers.

While there are some homes that contributions from both husband and wife matters.

There are even homes that even though the wife works, the husband doesnt bother about his wife's salary and ensures he sees to all responsibilities in the home.

Thus, each to his own.

All homes must not be run or managed same way. Whatever works for you, do.
If the income of both husband and wife is needed, fine.

If that of the man is more than enough, fine.

Every mallam with im kettle.

STARRY LARRY said...

At least, From #100,000 and above




*Larry was here*

Blackberry said...

A man must be mentally n emotionally mature to think of settling down, it's not by money only but from minimum of 300 to 500k a month is not bad

SUGAR. said...

Before he gets married and not during marriage. Read the message Stella.

Well, personally I expect him to have his own apartment (not one room), to have settled and to a large extent relief his family of some financial stress, establish a side business, be prudent in his spending.

150k is quite Ok for anyone who Knows​ what he is doing.

Kamikaze said...

Topic should have been..."What take-home qualifies a couple for marriage?"

Anonymous said...

Stella you live in Europe. Pls leave your European mentality there. A man who doesn't play the role of a breadwinner is worse than an infidel, even your bible talk am. A woman supports where the man cannot complete but if the man has, he should do. Simple! I'm in the US, but I still believe in the African way, men should be breadwinners. If he has 50 and it takes 60, then the woman can bring the 10 to assist. But not that if the man is capable, he will still expect the woman to do it 50/50 with him. No! It's just wrong. Let's stop promoting white mentality, we are Africans. I will raise my sons the same way, treat your women like queens. Be the breadwinners, your spouse is only there to assist when help is needed.
Back to the question: how much salary is okay for a man -varies! I may say 300k but to me, 300k is small and to others 300k is big. Some pple can run homes with 300k while some can't. My advice to women, if you cannot manage, do not enter where you will have to be managing. Marry according to your standards. That's all!

Bianca BRUNO said...

At least a 100k and the wife must be working as well.

EESAH (MR NOBODY) said...

"His earnings should be able to provide basics like a car"

How many guys under 30 in Naija ATM own a car or can afford a car?

So they should all keep waiting until thier earnings can provide a car for the fam before settling?

How many of our parents had a car or could afford okada or even a bicycle before they married our moms?

Chameleon said...

This post nearly brought tears to my eyes but I swear I won't cry. Moving on to the next post.

GIFT E THE JAMB GIRL said...

If your salary ain't in six figures,my brother, don't come close.I have had enough suffering to last me a lifetime.I don't want it again.

Cynthia Iyede said...

It's not about how much the man earns, it should be what both parties can do together to build a home.

Anonymous said...

It depends on the cost of living where you reside and work. If you live in Onitsha and earn 200k maybe your wife earns 80k. You can be able to provide decent living standards for your family. If you live in Lagos and earn same, I doubt if you will get half of that quality of life.

It also depends on the spending habit of the family.

In Onitsha, I can be comfortable with my kids attending private schools of 20k per term (they are very good schools and apart from the exposure of foreign travels and all that, can compete with the million naira schools in Lagos and Abj. in terms of school curriculum) however some other person might feel terrible allowing his kids attend such schools because of the useless mentality of the more expensive the better, which is not always the case.

Anonymous said...

Chi exotic u should read every comment here very well and pounder on them cos its like u are waiting for imaginary Bill Gate to propose to u.pls time no dey again and beauty fades to worsen matter u are short o.

Pure Nigerian said...

There cannot be a set amount of money. Find a woman whose goals align with yours.

Anonymous said...

SOME PEOPLE GET MARRIED WITH A SALARY OF 25K. SO IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE MAN'S CLASS AND THE CLASS OF THE GIRL HE WANTS TO MARRY. LOVEMEJEJE SAID A MAN PLANNING TO MARRY MUST BE EARNING AROUND 600K. THAT IS TOO MUCH BIKO. ONCE A GUY IS EARNING AROUND 80K AND ABOVE, HE SHOULD START THINKING OF SETTLING DOWN. IF EARNING LOWER, HE CAN STILL SAVE AND MARRY. BUT GUYS SHOULD DATE GIRLS THEIR CLASS INSTEAD OF DATING SOMEONE LIVING IN LEKKI THEN SAYING THAT SHE IS TOO MATERIALISTIC, FIND A BABE FROM YABA

EESAH (MR NOBODY) said...

Priorities and maturity ni. No fixed rule. A man could be earning 25k monthly and he'd start a family and live comfortably while another guy who earns 80k would not be able to.

Once a guy earns enough to provide basic needs for himself and an extra mouth, then he is good to go.

This waiting until a man can afford a car and live comfortably with his fam is the reason why there are so many gwegs out there nowadays.

Anonymous said...

BLOGLORD, A MAN MUSN'T HAVE A CAR BEFORE MARRIAGE. DID YOUR DAD HAVE A CAR BEFORE MARRIAGE?

Chidinma Grace said...

It depends on both parties. It should be a mutual agreement. The whole money must not come from the man.

Anonymous said...

I married my husband immediately he finished writing his college finals. I was on internship then. So basically, both of us had not earnings, no job.
How have we fared: great! had good jobs, lost jobs, great kids, traveled the world etc.

It is foolish to base marriage on what one earns. The value of money is never the same. What more, a plum job can be lost immediately after wedding, it has happened to a lot of folks I know and we've read them here too. I had lost my job along the line and likewise him.

Base marriage on love and character of the individual and you are good to go. And it we have food and clothing, let's be content. A man's life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses.

Anonymous said...

He had no car, no house, no job when I married him and we've been great together ever since.

Anonymous said...

I married my husband immediately he finished writing his college finals. I was on internship then. So basically, both of us had not earnings, no job.
How have we fared: great! had good jobs, lost jobs, great kids, traveled the world etc.

It is foolish to base marriage on what one earns. The value of money is never the same. What more, a plum job can be lost immediately after wedding, it has happened to a lot of folks I know and we've read them here too. I had lost my job along the line and likewise him.

Base marriage on love and character of the individual and you are good to go. In fact, our marriage ceremony was inside my dad's sitting room. The music was from my CD player. We made sure we did not owe anyone after the wedding. I sewed my wedding cloth; skirt suit and wore it for years afterwards before giving it out.
If we have food and clothing, let's be content. A man's life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses.

Anonymous said...

Please do not quote the bible out of context, the word is; if a man DOES not provide for his immediate household. . . In other words, he has it and DOES NOT. It did not say if he CANNOT. A man has to provide according to his earnings permit not according to the greed of the "wife" involved.

Blackberry said...

Eesa dem dey o! Some young guys that are working in IOCS here have nice rides.

Blackberry said...

Plus they are well paid...as in well paid.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Blackberry thank God you know whats up.

If you dont have money, no marry. It is not by force. Dont put another person pikin for wahala.

If you no get money, go village go pick one small girl there and manage with your N30k job. Yeye.

Eka Joy said...

See as u call 500k like say na 50k. Only a stupid man or man that's married to a woman without head on her shoulders that won't be able to run the house on a 500k salary even if the woman isn't working.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Anons you all should keep making me firmous oooo.

I am still saying it go and make money to keep woman well. Stop eyeing beautiful ladies when your pocket is nothing to write home about.

You cant keep a woman in the house to be drinking ijebu garri and N50k groundnut, telling her he go better. Mba na poor man's language be that.

May poverty leave you all Amen

Eka Joy said...

I later found out that it's only in Nigeria most people are desperate to drive cars. Cos I can now categorically say even a lot of okay people in Europe don't have cars and are very comfortable with it

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

hahahaha Anon 14:22 a guy with N80k cannot manage in this buhari period. Sorry ooo. No gree for them guys of N80k to N100k. Dem no get car oo. You go trek tire for inside rain, sun etc.

World People said...

Sigh. In this recession both parties MUST bring something to the table. If he earns 150k and she earns 100k. That's a combine income of atleast 120k each month, if he brings 80k and she brings 40k.

Men it's better you leave fine slay mama and marry hard working women, who will toil with you. And bring to the table too.

Don't marry women without jobs. The burden of bearing all expenses would kill you. Don't marry a lazy woman either. Choose wisely.

Pastor's Daughter said...

anon it haff do na, she says she doesnt want you is it by force?




kai you people like dragging petty issues oooh.

Pastor's Daughter said...

i trust bvs to take this post south

Anonymous said...

How myopic and brainless most girls commenting here are? So when the man loses that job even if it is six figures what happens . . .divorce?
Why go to the altar and chant for better for worse . . . when you have already set your mind on how much you want to stay? Isn't that hypocrisy? How about recession and job loses; has it not happened to a lot of folks; men and women alike? So it means that we can now appreciate the origin of a lot of chronicles on this blog; it stems from greed!

Anonymous said...

How myopic and brainless most girls commenting here are? So when the man loses that job even if it is six figures what happens . . .divorce?
Why go to the altar and chant for better for worse . . . when you have already set your mind on how much you want to stay? Isn't that hypocrisy? How about recession and job loses; has it not happened to a lot of folks; men and women alike? So it means that we can now appreciate the origin of a lot of chronicles on this blog; it stems from greed!

BLOGLORD (MVBM) said...

Eesah my brother,
My word was 'should' not 'must'.

The post says what earnings qualify a man for marriage.

I cannot give a definite figure as each to his own reasons I started my comment saying it's relative.

My point is...with basic comfort such as I listed up there, there is minimal grudge, quarrel and issues in the home from the onset of marriage.

Many women begin to nag when there is less comfort in their matrimonial home.

In this blog, we read posts where women grumble and refuse to wash their hubby's clothes cos of the absence of washing machine and the likes.

A newly married woman who got pregnant prolly almost after marriage may feel stressed out jumping buses to attend antenatal or even when the baby is born, carrying a baby about in public transport.

There are so many instances...and such makes women begin to feel like marriage is not enjoyable at all.

Some of our parents may not have had these but that doesn't mean they were 100% happy at the time.

This is the jet age. People are stepping up. Nobody wants to be down there....and even if they ain't up there yet, they can settle for at least being in the middle for a start.
And then again, no man ever wants a woman to bruise their who in any way

...It is from this angle I made my submission up there.


BLOGLORD (MVBM) said...

Exactly.
This is how I read the topic in my head

BLOGLORD (MVBM) said...

I never said "must", I said "should."
And yes,
My father had a peugeot before he married my mother.

Anonymous said...

Be there trying to explain your lazy "sit at home ass"

Anonymous said...

You for kukuma call your husband a slave for you na. Ole

Anonymous said...

How much is your own salary?

Chief Anonymous said...

i guess you see marriage as an escape route from poverty...so when you marry what do you bring to the table? P***y? same thing every other woman have...SMH i pray you have a good character.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Gbam!!!...
Some men no longer do their duties that's why marriages these days are packing up!...

Anonymous said...

There is no fix amount but enough money to keep and meet their needs. They can grow with any amount. No amount no matter how huge or small is enough. It's all about planning together as a couple and building together. I have said marriage is a developmental stage in one's life not a status. And it's an end product to a process which is Friendship,dating,Courting, Engagement and finally Marriage. During this period you have to bond, discover yourselves, have a common goal and interest then start merging your finances in a way that it will grow your home. Even a full housewife that keeps the home clean, gives the man peace, makes the man happy and focus does a lot in contributing to the man's ability to work at his peak thereby making enough money. And trust me such women are great accountants and managers of finances. But a lot of women think the man should carry all the load. Those are the parasitic kind of marriage. The new world Order now is TEAM meaning " Together Everyone Archive More"...... And that's the foundation for a successful marriage. This has worked for me in the past 18 years of marriage and from a combine income of less than N50k a month when I got married I can tell you am a rich man by all standards with the support of my wonderful wife. And I am from a rich family so I started trying to build my own wealth rather than run back home. Yes it has some advantages which I took but I have people I grew up with who are drug addicts and dropouts from very rich home. Planning TOGETHER with your income is the key and success in marriage. Learn to cultivate the habit of savings. Earnings can Never be enough. That's why the rich sleeps for very few hours and the lazy ones sleeps all day!

#come back and thank me later.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

You say what?...
20k school in Onitsha can compete with a million naira school in Los or Abuja?...
With what nah?...
Biko stop deceiving your self!...

Chief Anonymous said...

statistical analysis shows that we have alot of single men and women out there because of the economy(i don't total agree). The women are looking for already made Man, the men are chasing after money and trying to hit it big before for they settle down.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Correct babe!...
So shall it be for you!...

Heartbreaker loves TGW said...

The earlier you guys stop echoing this our parents time, the better. The world is evolving brotherly! Things are changing please . And yes, a car is a necessity.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Cyndy do what together?..
Don't pity these men!...
If you don't allow them carry their responsibilities,they will start keeping side chicks whom they will be spending so much on!...

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

150k?...
In this present Nigeria?..
What of school fees and feeding?...

Amethyst said...

Stella you really should learn how to apply some sensitivity When you talk.
Being a housewife is not lazy work at all. It is exasperating and exhausting and it requires a lot of planning. You should know better.
More than any kind of money a man must be able to have spiritual physical and emotional maturity with that he can conquer anything.
I also believe that a woman must be a help meet. She should be able to contribute financially and otherwise as agreed by both parties.

Chief Anonymous said...

i agree with stella on this matter. Some women see marriage as a meal ticket (my money is my own and his money is our own).

Anonymous said...

Sometimes you people just sit behind your phones and type trash. How many jobs in Nigeria pay up to 100k/per month. When you are thinking ,think of the average citizen. Anyway wetin concern me, when time reach una go run follow even bricklayers sef. Vexing, over forming they worry una girls for this blog.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

A man with no good salary should not even think of getting married!...
Yes,you must have a car and a good three bed room apartment before even thinking of bringing someone's else child to come live with you in the name of marriage!...
Eesah that was our parents time...
We are talking about this present day Nigeria...
Things have changed!...
If I have a daughter,I would rather allow her stay in my house than to marry a riff raff...

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Anon shut up there!...
My princess is right about Vuharia!...

nina chocomile said...

Eesah I beg to disagree with you alittle. A car is not a luxury but a necessity. When the man's wife takes in and needs to move around that's when you'll know the importance of at least a small tuketuke car. No one is saying a man must have a jeep, just have something that can move you and wify around especially for pregnancy purposes. To be pregnant and jumping keke and bike can be stressFUL, I see that alot and it really makes me sad for the women.

Anonymous said...

What happened to gender equality. You want to decide when to play that card and when not to. Thunder fire anybody wey go come here shout gender equality. That same bible,una na go see where e say a man is the head.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

The Queen thank you jare. Dont mind them.

Anyway i am not coming back to read again. Let me carry my kaya go home.

I don close for today

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Anon 14:16 stop deceiving yourself saying N20k in onitsha can compare with N1 million in Lekki. It is good to think like that so that you will feel i belong. Better carry that your abanaya mentality go sit down for bush.

Anonymous said...

The Queen (of the coast) of this blog and brainless silly girls like her are the reason a lot of girl aren't married or get married to the wrong person. By the time they are thirty, they will be asking "where is the man, I will be paying him but let's get married" . Instead of brains, you got potatoes upstairs.

Sassy Meruche said...

Gbam!

Anonymous said...

You are a big fool...what does a man being the head means? It means he should take responsibility of his home,guide and protect his family...but if e reach prayer time man isn't the head abi? To pray una go dey look for woman to pray...keep spilling nonsense from that anus you call a mouth

nina chocomile said...

Pls leave bloglord alone! A man must have a car. Don't go and carry a woman from her father's house to make her suffer. Suffer alone, when you're settled get married.

Anonymous said...

Yori Yori you gettam! Even research has shown that in Africa women are the ones mainly bearing the burden of the family, and definitely Nigeria is not left out. Also, people should stop demonising housewives. It is not a crime to be a housewife and focus on the family if that is what a woman wants, besides most housewives I know have their side hustles no matter how small. Pls to each his own abeg, dis life nor get formula.

nina chocomile said...

Men, y'all better hustle right b4 you go and take a lady from her parents house to suffer. If you ain't working you have no business with women, if you ain't making good money you ahve no business with women. Go and hustle and leave love alone. I go with Stella on the housewife ish. Women learn to make a living no matter how small. I don't know how a woman will feel comfortable not doing anything at all. Even if your husband is a millionaire get something doing, not cos you want to support him, but cos it gives joy to count the money you worked for. You must not work in an office, you can do business and manage your time as a boss. I have 4kids under the age of 6yrs, I'm expecting 2 and I work and earn. My husband has never asked me for a dime, doesn't even care how much I earn, gives me good money monthly but I work cos I love to think of the fact that I can do well without him and not a liability. Biko get up and do something. Having kids isn't an excuse.

Ed said...

At least 150k

Blackberry said...

Anony come phc, you'll see companies who some of their contract staff 1.2milla a month as per 28 days on 28days off.

BLOGLORD (MVBM) said...

*ego

BLOGLORD (MVBM) said...

People are desperate to have cars in Nigeria because it is extremely necessary.

Jumping danfo with all it's risk of been driven by a rough driver reeking of alcohol, drivers who most times are impatient to even let you sit properly and safely before they zoom off, buses that get your clothes torn at point of entry or exit has made many hustle to buy themselves a small car for their comfort.

Abroad, the transportation system works effectively.

EESAH (MR NOBODY) said...

Does Elastic earn 150k? So you'd keep waiting until he can earn 150k sey? Lol

What if he is earning 150k now or more but after marriage, it dropped to 30k God forbid. You would exit the marriage?

The married women whose husbands earn below 50k nko, they should kill themselves?

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm. My husband earns 50k monthly and I'm currently not working. When he was into business and it was booming he built himself a 4 bedroom bungalow and some units for rent as well. He has a car. All this was before we got married. Bihar regime crumbled business. He had to go look for a job.we got married few months after he got a job with his salary and my earnings and savings as I was working then and was earning more. Few months after marriage i had to resign from my job to join him as he is in another state. We have been living in N50k salary and rent paid by tenants plus Gods grace.I'm still in search of a job and he is in search of a better paying job.

Push up said...

Dear ladies it doesn't even matter how much, 100k is okay sha, just marry a man who can save and has his priorities straight cus if you marry a man who can't save or doesn't know how to arrange his scale of preference you will have a peace less home, and even if he earns 1million a month it will never be enough .

slimqueen said...

Anon, even babes in yaba don't come cheap!

EESAH (MR NOBODY) said...

As you girls are throwing figures anyhow upandan like so, remember that over 70% of Nigerian graduates ATM earn 30k and below. Majority jobless. Okay na.

Make una begin dey tell us his many young men for una family dey earn 500k o. How many of una brothers dey earn over 150k!

Haryor P said...

settling down should not be a function of what a man earns in a month. It ought to be dependent on financial capacity,emotional maturity and security and his ability to take care of himself and spouse. It is however important to have a condusive home,steady flow of income and above all love and decent character.

Anonymous said...

Then buy a car for yourself. Are you that miserable and lifeless that your whole life is dependent on what a man can provide for you? We know your type, their life ambition is just to marry and give birth yet females like are you are building billion dollar start ups and writing best sellers.

slimqueen said...

In my opinion, if a man earns like 80k here in Nigeria, he should be able to settle down after much savings and a woman should help her husband. We were created to be our husband's help meet and the only way a woman can help her husband is by getting something to do. No matter how small it is. No one not even close relatives would know how far and last last they would be fine.

Anonymous said...

Shut up! Broke idiot

Anonymous said...

Yimu

Anonymous said...

Shut it

Anonymous said...

Shut up please! A woman is no help 'mate'.

Anonymous said...

Well said πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ˜˜

Anonymous said...

150 too small na

300k and above biko

Enugu applicant CUM Employee said...

Once my man can feed us mouths and take care of the basic needs at home, I will be okay to marry him and grow with him.

I am a hustler and will definitely compliment.

I get this heart warming satisfaction when I know I fix things with my hard earned money. The feeling can't be compared to anything.

May God bless our hustle and keep making it fruitful

OGABOSS said...

You see there lazy women? Tomorrow you will say gender equality now we should forget the white mentality and focus on the African abi? I am a young man and by God's grace I am doing very well but our women really need to learn to earn and be self sustaining rather than looking for a man as a meal ticket.

Any lady who doesn't work and at least earn for herself is a huge no no what would you even teach your daughter's find a man to leach on to? God forbid!!! No daughter of mine will need a man to survive

And Stella you keep preaching gender equality so as far as topics like these go it should be couples earn not a man earn

OGABOSS said...

Nina yet you wonder why men treat you like trash

Anonymous said...

Stella there is no right/wrong to this question.speaking from experience when my husband proposed last year October,he was just earning 80k infact as at when he proposed he had less than 30k in his account,my trad/white& court was done by God's grace cos small contracts were coming here and there.Fast forward to this day he works were he earns more than 350k now but he is a firm believer in having other sources of income,so when u put his take home pay and businesses together it's enough to take care of me and our baby on the way,and he even have bigger plans for our finance.He often say marriage brought him good luck.i don't know if what worked for me will work for others sha

Anonymous said...

Don't mind her.her type will end up paying her bride price,then come here and be lying about d cars he bought her.

Anonymous said...

But it is wrong to use portharcourt as the bench mark for all men.

Anonymous said...

Eka, you forgot that the transport system in Europe cannot be compared to that in Nigeria.

Did you see any okada in Europe? Decent buses and trains.A lot of people don't even go to work with their personal cars because the system works here and there are charges.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Eesah,if you earn less,focus on building your self not marriage cos it's not beans...
Unless you want to marry a made woman that would turn you to her househelp!...

gaby said...

Just found out my fiance earns 53k/month and I earn 170k tho he doesn't know my salary and to think he is a civil servant on level 8 gosh I feel so bad

Anonymous said...

Just marry a man who has a good handwork or an intelligent and resourceful graduate even if he is not earning fat. I started saving for marriage on a salary of 35k and within a year I changed job twice with slightly better pay. When I got married I was earning 105k and my wife was earning about 85k so we managed with what we had.my salary was increased to 120k 2 months after wedding. About a year later I got a job with a multinational and the rest is history. God has been good to us. The morale of the story is: do not wait until you get a millionaire suitor. A rich man can become poor tomorrow and vice versa. Take note that I recommended marrying a man with a craft or a graduate whose future seems bright. No go marry lazy man o. If not, you go suffer like fufu.

Anonymous said...

Yori yori, your brother that you paid for his wife's hospital bill when she put to bed, was he earning 500k?

Lol, contradicting

plumpy j said...

With 80k am good to go.

Femi Olu-Victor said...

Stella, how I wish someone can code you a program that automatically extract phone IP and Mac address, decrypt the person's full names, expose their identity, then trust me, people will mind how they say unbecoming words around here. How I wish this can be done, I bet you Stella, we will have less than 50 BVs participating in SnM. because many will have been exposed and the shame will be too much.
So if a man is not earning 6figures,abi is it 300k and above, he should not marry? God is watching us all in 3D.
My opinion is this: provided your current income can provide food, shelter and clothing for you and at least two other people and you're not lazy (Proverbs 10:4) pls proceed. No one knows tomorrow mbok!

Anonymous said...

Esah stop littering this post with your myopic opinion and archaic views. This one is not olden days love! Only a broke ass has such opinions anyway! πŸ˜πŸ™„

Anonymous said...

And how do you know if elastic earns more than that even? Hiss

Anonymous said...

Thank you Queen 😘 the guy just dey yarn dust! #PoorMenProblems

Anonymous said...

No man can settle down with such meagre amount. Thank you

Anonymous said...

You cheap sha

Anonymous said...

Most of the ladies here are not sincere with their comments

Weed Chic said...

Why did you have to insult him? He is saying the truth πŸ˜•

Weed Chic said...

BeefπŸ˜’

Super Model said...

I love your comment

Anonymous said...

A few years ago, a study in America found that if they paid housewives by the hour for what they did while the husband went to work, the amount reached millions. Unless she is a reality tv housewife, housewives are amazing. It takes a lot to put your other dreams on hold and help others get theirs. By the way, very few Nigerian women are true housewives. A typical Nigerian woman is seen as a housewife, even if she's the richest woman on earth. Society still calls her that and expects her to do that work plus more

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

@bloggie so on point!!

@eesah well most of my male friends and even my brothers got their cars in their 20s. Cars arent a biggie the world has changed.

Anonymous said...

Even in the port Harcourt are people earning 1.2 million up to one third of the population in port Harcourt. You people should take it easy

plumpy j said...

Thank You is it your cheap.

Anonymous said...

All these ladies quoting amount, how do your brothers earn?. Some of you are saying car is a necessity, do you own a car?. I know some people will attack me but if the amount you just quoted is the benchmark I am very sure most of your parents won't have married, based on the equivalence of that amount you happily quoted compared to then. My father did not own a car when he married my mum, he was a graduate and couldn't find a job so he was into a little business and was not making much, he lived in face me I face you compound. But after marriage, though they had it tough at the beginning are enjoying there marriage, he has a car, he has built two houses and he is employed. So ladies stop all these nonsense, that he must make 150k or 500k and 1M. If a guy is hardworking go for him and build a family with him

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

You made alot of sense. People should marry according to what works for them - even financially.

However, on this oyibo style of dating that we speak of.... having an annoying break up towards the end of my masters program afforded me that experiment. And honestly, it was sooo like dating a Nigerian guy. No splits or independent woman moves. And he was a very traditional English guy, the type many would describe as elite. So me i wonder why people always made it seems like if you can't split/share you dont date a white guy. Infact! I regretted ignoring him after i realised that i judged him based on preconceived notion. I think we might be generalizing on that one too cos there are exceptions. Just as some Nigerian guys too be doing splits.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

Gbam!! @Queen that's what I was saying on one post earlier this week. If you don't enter his pocket someone else will. Then you start crying foul. @Cynthia mbok forkgerrabout!

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

Kai! Sometimes I envy people like you who are so content with life. Chikito has been vain from birth. My mother tells me i used to want a new pair of stockings to school everyday and I was barely 3. Every morning na spanking to remove eye from shiny new socks. Nne! I just kent. You is strong mami πŸ’ͺ

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

That's a nice blend if you ask me πŸ˜‚ the already made men will marry the women looking for them when they have the money. Everyone is happy 😁

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

At least he was smart when he had and you've seen the him when he had. Don't worry, a hardworking man will always rise again. Trust me.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Hahahahahaha
My princess!!!... Enjoy your weekend!..

Anonymous said...

I bet it's one of those broke, lazy, gold diggers looking for a man to come and sponsor her family in the name of marriage.

Heartbreaker loves TGW said...

Hahahaha I swear this queen eh. I have no words for u. My chest is paining me already . It will be a huge mistake for you not to be all over this post . Can't stop laughing

Miss Candy said...

Thank you my dear Blackberry..come to Phc and see young guys who are doing extremely well

Miss Candy said...

God bless you Queen.The side chic will be enjoying d money while u'll be at home building ur head with him

Anonymous said...

Anon 14:39 πŸ‘Œ

MrsBee

Anonymous said...

I told my hubbys friend that African men wants the respect, submissive and spoon feeding type of African woman and yet wants to split financial duties 🀣🀣🀣 the guy look me πŸ‘€. Asked me not to say such to his 'mumu' wife πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
Traditionally I am my hubby's responsiblity and he should be fit to give me nothing less of what I am used to in my fathers house. See 'eru iyawo' has said it all. You buy from paent up to jewelry before they even gave you a bride😜

Rationally, we should both complement each other in all aspects. Therefore a wife should support financially where she can.

Spiritually, I am his helpmeet.

Queen a man taking care of all bills does not stop him from spending on side chic, the pigeon does thatπŸ‘Œ

MrsBee

lyde said...

Anuty your husband is doing Yahoo, fraud or cocaine . 50k to build house. Yimu yimu

Anonymous said...

Long throat girls. Be waiting for oil company boys. So what qualifies them for marriage is only their pay. And when they are laid off you also disappear.

Bv jay said...

Please a car is a necessity for a married man!!!! Take it from someone who has been there.I married my husband with no car.Had my first baby no car.Do you know ibfell from okada while going to antenatal?Lol.Thank God i can laugh now.It was not funny.On express road.Il second what boss said.I pray my daughter does not marry a man that can't provide the necessities-forget love please.
The woman that the husband is spoiling with the best things in life is not enjoying her marriage any less than you who wants to suffer with a guy abeg.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Eka, if I live abroad, I won't bother about car. Their transport system is πŸ‘Œ.

A man should at least own a tuketuke. It's not easy to jump bus oh especially with pregnancy and kids.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Iyde, did you even read her comment?

chiksman24 said...

Father Lord! Hehehhe

Anonymous said...

Surperb,you have hit the nail on the head

Anonymous said...

Surperb,you have hit the nail on the head

Anonymous said...

You shut it. Lazy fuck!

Ronalda. said...

I think it really depends on each individual and each person's mindset. We already have different opinions on how a home should be run. It not necessarily about European or American mentality. It will shock some of you to know that even amongst the Europeans or the Americans, they are those who still hold the old school traditional views.

My husband is of Nigerian heritage but was born and bred in America. He spent over 30 years in America. The irony of our love story is, he was relocating to Nigeria to head the family business while I was supposed to be relocating to Wales, after my call to Bar, when we met at the airport. Our stars crossed and we were "star struck". My stay in the UK became a short vacation and I "ran" back to Nigeria.(story for another day). It just so happens that my Heartbeat and the love of my life believes it is SOLELY the responsibility of the man to provide for his family. My dad has that same mentality, so do all my brothers. Regardless of my robust income and all the perks that come with my job, my hubby provides for everything and still doubles what my dad pays into my account as my monthly allowance. You see how biased I may be if I were to judge what a man's take home should be? So it really depends on each individual. I grew up to see my dad provide everything in spite of my mum's income. I was blessed to marry my "type".

I have friends who are full blooded Nigerians with no Western influence but some of them have a more "modern" approach. I refer to one in particular as stingy, because her hubby is into oil and gas and his monthly income is 8 figures and he balls hard! Real big "pimpin' style" but guess what? He insists that his wife split the bills even down to the fees for the kids' lesson teachers. Isn't that ridiculous? I know mine is extremely but I find it hard to understand why her hubby behaves that way. We have family friends who are also like us, the husbands are fully responsible for running the home in spite of their wives' income which can conveniently run the home as well. So what we do is, surprise our husbands with very expensive gifts, just to let them know we appreciate them. Naturally, most of us are very submissive wives at home though we are Pitbulls at our various places of work. That's why I believe if you marry the right man, submission comes naturally.‎ You wouldn't feel doing things to please him is "slavery". On the contrary, you will jump at any opportunity to do stuff for him because he is worthy of all the attention and effort. It's all about the mentality and mindset. What works in my house may wreck another's house and vice versa. Cut your clothes according to yardage of your cloth and do what works for you and your family.

Anonymous said...

Real truth @World People.... Allow these lazy,jaw-dropping, low-life,girls waiting for Bill Gate to come marry them. Looking for who will spend on them and not what they can bring to the table. SMH

Anonymous said...

With this your mindset,the guy that will marry you is in trouble....

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