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Tuesday, 29 August 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

This Chronicle has a different tone............






STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
A CHRONICLE THAT TURNED AROUND FOR THE BETTER....

Good day Stella and my fellow Bvs, I really appreciate your work it’s very inspiring, I tank my friend immensely for introducing me to this blog though I’ve been a very silent Bv. So to the main cause of my writing in my own chronicle, this is more like a testimony. Please kindly hide my email address...



I’ve never had a wonderful relationship, love has not really been so good to me, and I have a beautiful daughter from a failed relationship when i was just 21 though I don’t have any more regrets because my daughter is my consolation and she is 7 now so you can guess my age. Since then i have not been in any meaningful relationship i decided to keep to myself but i have not given up on love either.


 I reside in Abuja actually so in 2015 i met a young man but there was nothing between us we just had each other’s contact and said hi once in a while on whatsapp not until last year he decided to become active. He invited me to have a drink with him and while we were together i realized that he works with the Police an ASP actually (no offence to the Nigerian Police) so i wasn’t excited about it in any way.


 he told me he was interested in me and i told him my status immediately so he would know what he was getting into because I’ve met men in the past after telling them i am a single mother they would cut off from me, so i told him so maybe he would start running but he told me that he also has a son so being a single mom wasn’t a problem for him,(but he lied because he told me later) but he did something that got me thinking after the drink he just drove me down to his house without asking me and the next thing i heard was lets go inside, i was speechless. 


I told him i couldn’t as my daughter was alone at home with the nanny that i have to go back to them but he insisted and suggested that i should call a neighbour i just left him and walked out of the compound to get an okada because i saw that he wasn’t ready to take me back home. After that day i decided to cut him off but he came pleading that he knows that am scared of men and bla bla bla that he would like me to visit him with my daughter which we did and he apologised for that day.


 Suffice to say i just decided to give this man a chance because i was really lonely. Due to lack of job i decided to relocate to my state of origin but on getting there i realized that it was worse there so i decided to move back to Abuja funny right. I got serious wit this young man without knowing that i was dating myself the guy was so good with lies that i believed him but i had my doubts, this same guy that told me that being a single mum wasn’t a problem turned around to tell me that his mum wasn’t in support claiming that he is from a royal family and as the first son that it was forbidden to marry a single mum.


I was broken but he still gave me hope without knowing he was looking for a soft landing to get rid of me. But i knew it was ova from his attitude, but i just longed for somebody to cling to. When i moved back to Abuja i had no place to stay i had to put up with my former neighbour a guy, he also came with his own wahala but i told him i wasn’t interested he let me be. 


This police guy kept on lying to me; he wanted to move from where he was staying before a self con to a bedroom flat i helped him to secure one, that is i became his agent without him showing any appreciation for my running around that was quite stressful. when he finally got the house, just to get me out of his life he told me he doesn’t have enough money to pay for the house so wasn’t paying for it, he also lied that he was travelling to the village to meet with his grandpa concerning marrying a single mother, he tried to confuse me to believe that he was really keen about the relationship, but what i didn’t know was that he used that opportunity to move out of his former place to the new house, the story of not having enough money for the house was for me to think he never moved to the new house he just wanted me not to know his where about. 


The next thing i saw was a lengthy whatsapp message from him telling me that he is back from his trip but that he has bad news for me that we can’t be together and all other rubbish he wrote there. He told me how he would have loved for us to be together but he has to obey his parents. God was i shattered? I wanted to die i was rejected once again. I was shocked as to why he had to tell me such a heart wrenching thing via whatsapp instead of face to face. I left where i was for his house to my greatest shock this guy had moved, his neighbour told me that he moved since 3 days ago.


 I comported myself and left but on my way home i couldn’t help myself anymore i broke down inside the cab crying my heart out without caring if the man was hearing or not. His neighbour must have called him to tell him i came around because he started calling me, meanwhile i had been calling him since i received his message but he did not pick. I was broken not because we weren’t going to be together but because i was rejected and he deceived me oh yes he did he knew what he was doing all along he just made me fall for him then turn around and rejected me. I realized later that he was seeing another girl and they were serious.


 At this point in my life i didn’t see any reason for living, i was jobless had no money no friends and rejected by someone i thought felt the same way i felt towards him. The guy i was staying with was nice and caring but also had his own demons i had to stay because i had no place to go, he would go to work and i would be alone at home crying over the other guy that rejected me. I ran to God asking him to make us get back together but i was jus wasting my time because God was obviously laughing at me. That was when i embraced God, it’s such a shame that it took me this heartbreak to realize that God was the first thing i needed in my life. I have been heartbroken severally but i don’t know why this one had such a huge effect on me.


 I became very prayerful and started studying the bible and thought of doing something meaning full with my life anything to take my mind off the young man, but it wasn’t easy. Some days i would stay without eating because i had no money and i didn’t want to bother my neighbour because i wasn’t doing anything for him so i didn’t want to take so much from so he wouldn’t expect much from me. But God being so kind the guy was still doing things for me gladly we became good friends. I embarked on fasting and midnight prayers, in fact i went thru a lot that i can’t begin to talk about here in order not to make this chronicle overly lengthy, but in the end God proved himself to be very very merciful and gracious. During Shiloh i participated in the prayers and also with RCCG. During the Christmas hols while people were busy enjoying i was going up and down Abuja looking for job even the organizations i went to were like “ah aren’t u on hols like others, didn’t u travel?” i would tell them that a hustler doesn’t know holidays oh.


 I later got a small job at a lounge though it was far from what i wanted i just need somewhere to be going to every morning to avoid being depressed. Finally on my way to work one afternoon my sister called me and told me that my cousin who stays in Abuja wants me to come work in her company, i spoke with my cousin and she told me to come see her the next day. I was thinking that the place would be in a plaza or rather i wasn’t expecting a big place that i had to miss the road but to my greatest surprise the place was out of this world a very big and popular company i didn’t know that my cousin married a rich man to even have such an establishment.


 I was awed after meeting with her i was interviewed by her husband immediately which was very rare and i was told that they would get back to me. On Sunday evening i got a message that i should start work on Monday (the pay is so wonderful) i was so overwhelmed with joy i celebrated with my neighbour and other people around, but the devil was not done with himself, on my way to work i had an accident just as i was getting close to the office, when it happened i laughed because i knew that the devil was at work. I sprained my neck and leg and was rushed to the hospital after one week of treatment i resumed work to the glory of God. 


Then the Devil came again through this guy i was staying with, he was no longer patient which i don’t blame him because any other guy would have wanted the same thing, he really wanted a piece of me. He wasn’t violent but he came with other styles, this guy started drugging me so he could sleep with me but my God pass am, i beat him at his game so i became very careful i just needed time to save more money to get a place to put up. The next thing he told me to leave his house as he was expecting a female visitor. Meanwhile all the while i was with him, if he wanted to invite a woman over i would leave the house for them till they were done and we would joke about it. So i was never in his way of enjoying himself with other ladies. So because i didn’t succumb to his tricks he decided to throw me out (but we are still good friends because i refused to let my mind dwell on his bad side but i remember him for his good deeds to me in fact i recently lent him some money which he has paid back).


 I had to borrow money from the office account to rent a place and i am proud to say that i am comfortable in my house and am grateful to God for seeing me thru all the tough time, i am writing a book currently and engaged in a little business that is still thriving and about my love life it still sucks though am not seeing anybody right now, i am so in love with myself, but i believe that one day i would meet that young man who would sweep me off my feet. 


To all the single moms out there who are going through what i narrated here never give up on love as long as you believe in it, true love will surely find you and don’t depend on anybody for your happiness because when the person leaves you will find yourself depressed. And also for those who are going through one problem or the other please embrace God he did it for me he will do it for you just be focused.


 I also want to inform ladies out there to be careful and watchful when you visit a man at his place ensure that whatever food you want to eat was prepared by you hmmm because guys of these days have become so desperate with sleeping with ladies that they drug them there’s this drug “rohypnol”i found it on this guy severally and also putting skunk in my food, mind you they can also eat the drugged food with you so don’t think when he eats the food with you that the food is safe na lie just be careful. Bikonu i hope i did not bore you with my long story have a lovely day everybody. Attached is my photo and my daughter for your eyes Stella.


*So happy for you dearie!...Please what is Skunk?cocktail of drugs or what?sorry for my Ignorance oh..



55 comments:

Miss Ess said...

It is well with you, God will make your love find you.

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

Happy for you and may your testimony remain permanent. You took a huge risk moving in with your neighbor but thank God you're over that now and doing well.

miss kenefo said...

God bless you so so so so much. You're an inspiration and by God's grace you'll always testify about God's goodness to you and your family. Well done!

Ms SSS a.k.a stunning slim shady said...

It ended in praise

PinkLemons said...

This is a breath of fresh air!

I'm happy for you babes. I pray you find that special someone soon who will treat you like a queen that you are.

Adadioramma said...

Olopa? Chukwu aju. Same everywhere. One wife no do them talk more of side chick. Thank God for your life sis, the good Lord that started it will bring it to perfection.

Anonymous said...

Skunk or SK... Synthesized cannabis. More dangerous than the natural one

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

Thank God for your grass to grace testimony!
Such is life, some times, things happen to build you strong for the future.

I wouldn't say that guy deceived you though because, the letters were written boldly on the wall that he wasn't into you but you just didn't want to be alone. So you decided to turn a blind eye and continued with situationship.

The right man will come for you at the right time, thank God you have learned to love yourself which is the ultimate thing to do.

Kamikaze said...

Since you asked,I won't lie Poster,you bored me.

Na Me Talk Am!!! said...

Sk is even mild. What you should be very scared of is that rophenol, that drug can knock you off for hours and when you come to, you will still be confused of your environment.

covfefe said...

All is well that ends well.

Anonymous said...

Aww..this is so beautiful

natabombom said...

Patience is the key

Bibire said...

I'm so happy for you,may God continue to strengthen you.

chim_oma said...

Self love, keep moving and never tie your happiness on anyone.

chim-oma a.k.a. Miss Kapusu

Anonymous said...

@ Kamikaze let it bore you now... as for me iv taken the message in it which is to trust and rely on God. if u lyk dnt learn from it. otele like u.i read it wit keen interest bcos anybody can b in this situation. guys drugging ladies on daily basis with that drug. i gotta shine my eyes wella dez days oh.

Anonymous said...

Says the expert.....πŸ˜•

Chike TEFLON said...

Poster may God continue to bless you.

Simple gold$ said...

God is wonderful! He is not through with you.

chim_oma said...

to

chim-oma a.k.a. Miss Kapusu

Anonymous said...

too long.

LUCILE COCONUT OIL, CARROT OIL AND BLACK SOAP ABUJA 07059605320 Pin- 2BC6235E said...

Yea

Isolde Fontaine said...

Poster I am glad things are working out better in your life. No matter how bad things get we are comforted knowing that in the end God ALWAYS comes through when we rely on him. First comes the job, then your knight in shining armour....Look forward to another testimony from you soonest.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for sharing and thank God for the grace to hold on to him. He alone will grant you fulfillment.
Please to all girls out there, do not give a man sex when he has not paid your bride price.
The stories do not usually end well. The girl always has the shorter end of the stick.
It pains me to note that sufferings like these are preventable.
Please be careful, watchful and prayerful.

Oluchi Obioma said...

THANK YOU POSTER FOR THIS...
MAY YOU FIND THE LOVE THAT YOU TRULY DESERVE

Anonymous said...

it is indeed a testimony darlyn...truth still remains, unless you make God the centre of your dealings you will continue to feel that gap in life. only God fills it.
and many people still carry an empty space thinking is 1 man that will occupy it.
love this chronicle
worth the read
affirms my love for Jesus also.
hi stellz.

Greatlady. said...

Awesome testimony,glad things worked out for you meanwhile can u give a cue of what ur book is about? I guess its about love, betrayal,etc.

Anonymous said...

Stella, Skunk is synthesised Canabis (Igbo)

Anonymous said...

This Chronicle is awesome, very constructive. I like the poster choice of words. You can deduce from her grammar that she is brilliant and educated. Girls nawadays can hardly speak or write good English like this. I also used the opportunity to update my vocabulary

Anonymous said...

Another thing, if you're dining out with a guy you're not 100%sure of and you excuse yourself to use the ladies etc, make sure you don't drink from the glass you left on the table.
You can always request am extra glass glass from the waiter.
There are some drugs that take at least 1 hour or 2 to work.
By that time you would be at his place.
When the drugs eventually knock you out, the animal will rape you or call his fellow animals to join him in raping you.
Be careful.
In the morning you wake up, you have no recollection of what happened. You will just be smelling of rotten sperm.
Too many girls have fallen victim.
Too many.

Just Glamour said...

Thank God for your life,your testimony brought tears to my eyes,God is too faithful to fail,I'm happy for you.

jelly said...

It' is well with you dear, love Will come your way soon

Kamikaze said...

Anonymous 15:47 the poster asked and I answered.What's my business whether you learnt from the story or not?Calling me names just proves you are already high on skunk.

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

I'm so happy for you dear, thanks for sharing.

beebumble said...

the story may be long but its good to know that God never abandons people in their down moment. poster am glad that you shared your story but you also took a huge risk with that your neighbor guy. no matter the kind of friendship you may have with him don't visit him again, anu laa taa echi bu nta meaning that as he did not get you while you were staying with him he might try to get you when you visit next time.Stella thank you for sharing

TheLagosShopper(Goods and services 4rm the popular Lagos markets to anywhere in naija?07030493148) said...

Prayer works wonders,may God give u even more reason to rejoice!!

7even red said...

Barracudianusa - Well, this is a nice and worth-reading share of wonderful experience, I assure you, you have better things coming, this is just the start. I wish you 10 times more than you wish yourself, Much love from #Barracudianusaurusuna.

Q.E.D.

Justyswt said...

A different chronicle from the usual. Thank God for ur testimony poster. Ur own man will surely come and very soon.

Emmanuel said...

This story really touched me...I will today seek God and I hope he will also change my story...thanks alot for dis piece and joy will always come to u

Anonymous said...

Hallelujah! Your testimony is permanent my Dear

iuleha virologist said...

Rueben Abati sent in his chronicles...lol.
My dear poster, I assure you that your being single isn't because you are a single mother. Please remove the thought. My sister is 40 and has only dated thrice. She has just not met the right person and she's not bothered. Neither should you. At least you're gainfully employed. I am the same age with you, unemployed but married. Things are as tough as nails. My dear, it will end well with you. enjoy your single status and take good care of your daughter, she will bring you lots of joy. I learnt something today, and I'll share it here, "don't try to change your emotions, change your thinking". Best of luck

Iphie dearie said...

May God continually open doors for you Poster.
I look forward to more testimonies from you.

Kisses to your daughter. Pray she makes you real proud♥️

African na said...

So touching... Thank God it ended well for, hhmmm i really learnt something from this, i've really got to seek God.

Anonymous said...

Oh jeez zzz.... Lol @ rotten sperm.

Jasmine said...

Ha

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

Stop generalizing (Girls nowadays) just change your circle.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

My dear, not only guys. Even girls aren't left out. Just don't leave a drink unfinished on a night out. Don't even leave a glass and come back to it. If you can't get a new glass then let the drinking stop

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ said...

Stay strong woman! Stay strong....πŸ’–

Anonymous said...

@ kapuusu...Ki le elee? Poster good it ended well

#Miss Kay# said...

Nice testimony, but madam you shouldn't stay in a guys house, no matter how desperate you are. What if he had raped you? He is far stronger than you are. Thank God it didn't happen. Ladies don't try this at home o

Dre said...

Wonderful Chronicle. Poster, I'm so sorry for all you've been through but happy that you're doing well.
That guy who dumped you is a narcissist! You don't date narcissists and leave without scars and that's probably why the heartbreak hurt more than the others. You can google this to learn more. He gave you so many signs and raised huge RED FLAGS that you ignored. First, driving you to his house after your first date without your consent and dismissing your concerns to go home and be with your child. This should have made you realise he was no good and run far from him but you continued to see him. Second, him flipping the single mother story with that lame excuse and so many other signs. About your male roommate, I know things were hard for you but do you realise what he could have done to you while staying with him? I admire you for deciding to not forget the good he did for you it shows you have a good heart. Take responsibility for your choices, learn from these mistakes and love yourself and your daughter enough by not putting yourself in compromising situations with men. Listen to your gut instincts about a guy and when you sense something off, turn around and keep walking. I'm happy for what God has done in your life pls keep praying and remain faithful to him. I wish you the best.

Red Wine said...

The Lord is your strength.

Ify Lovie Lovie said...

God bless you real good!
I'm so happy that lines are falling into pleasant places for you, God is good.
Keep holding onto Him, Love will surely find you soonest, God bless your daughter too.

Anonymous said...

Ladies, pls stay away from fornication. Apart from the fact that its a sin, ladies are usually the ones who suffer the consequent most. Lets trust God in his words and get closer to him. God bless u all. Amen

Anonymous said...

very inspiring

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