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Friday, 29 December 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

Na wah!!!




Good day Stella and bvs. 


Please don't mind my typos as i write in tears. 

I'm a girl in her twenties who has made the mistake of her life, I have tried seeing if i can cry to death but my cowardice self won't let me commit suicide. 


Currently speaking, i am few weeks pregnant for my boyfriend whom i have known for close to ten years although we have separated once but came back few years ago and planning to settle down late next year. 

We started dating from our 1st year in school and during those years, we never had s3x as i was still a virgin, fast forward to being separated and coming back two years ago, we have had s3x few times as we don't live in same city.

 My boo has always been the hardworking type, he is not financially stable but no where near poor and I on the other hand is working in a little private firm which i intend resigning next year to go into fashion designing. But the reason I'm writing this is that I'm seeking for admission abroad to go for MSC or fall back on my fashion designing training if the admission fails..


 my parents are the ones sponsoring me, they are not rich but can do anything for us and meanwhile my boo promised to support them if it works too. He promised to pay my dowry by Easter next year and the wedding proper by December cos by then, his business must have been stabilized cos of the new business connection he just made.

 Now this little bun sneaked in as a result of our mistake, i don't have enough saving to support myself not to talk of helping boo to fast forward the marriage ceremony. What if I'm given admission, how will i cope with my condition
Boo is not ready until next year


He suggested if i keep it, he will support me but can't change his mind on when we planned to get married as his hand is already tied to his business of which I'm aware of....

My parents are very strict and I don't know how they will react if they get to find out..

How will i face everyone?
How am I going to cope?

I'm scared and lonely as i live alone with no friends in the city i reside.....
We are planning to see a doctor to terminate it since it is still a few weeks gone or keep it as the case may be.....

He told me to make a decision and get back to him and he will stand by me on whatever i decide.

Please who has been in my shoes?
What did you do?

I can barely eat, been crying since two days i found out and not doing well at work
I have never been in this kind of indecisive state in my life.
I am so scared..



*Now listen and listen well!!!

Stop this pity party talk as if you are a child..I don't care how old you are,YOU ARE AN ADULT once you cross 20!
You HAD S§X;what were you expecting without protection?

You may successfully remove that child and marry your boo next year but i hope it don't fast forward to 20years later and you are still trying to conceive?I hope he will be patient enough to stand by you?

You knowingly had s3x so you need to own up to your responsibility for crying out loud...DO NOT ABORT THAT BABY!!!
Your parents will not kill you and if they disown you so be it..Keep your baby and postpone your plans for now

70 comments:

STARRY LARRY said...

If I were you, I will keep the pregnancy, the fear of trying to conceive in future is the beginning of wisdom




*Larry was here*

amanda favour said...

SAY NO TO ABORTION

Anonymous said...

When one kills (or encourages the killing of; see Prov. 6:16-17) innocent children, the consequences are three. 1. You deny yourself the joy of having a home (remember the Hebrew midwives who spared babies against Pharaoh's advice to kill them; God rewarded them with families; Ex.1) 2. You risk "sudden death" in the hands of another fellow/accidents etc. remember Gen.9:6 and thirdly, you deny yourself eternal life! What a life! God isn't going to call you to glory if you do not repent. Jesus said; come to me all you that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest; that's Matt. 11:28. If you do not repent, you'd keep on laboring for the Serpent. But if you repent and make Jesus your Lord today and begin to read your scriptures; you'd find peace and the above three lots will not be yours. God bless you.

Dada Toyosi said...

In as much as i want to pity u,e no free come because u have someone who didn't deny d pregnancy and ready to support u,d only problem is nothing will be paid on u till u give birth right?u no get problem at all,ur parents won't kill u after nurturing u to dis level,mba, they can't, u no know how many children u wan born ool,better keep this one bf u start writing sob stories in future

kikki said...

A man who has plans to make you his wife Should never ask you to terminate his baby. That guy man no go marry you. You either keep the baby and face the consequences, or terminate and cut him off your life. The decision is yours.

Anonymous said...

Women are always at the losing end wen sex goes bad, lemme tell u a story, i dont think ive ever shared it on this blog.... its not okay for any of the spouses, man or woman to cheat. But for the woman, the implication is grave; she and everything she represents may not recover from it like that of the "woman caught in adultery" in John chapter eight. Where was the man?
A lady I know was hurt because her husband fucked her bridesmaid and even made "porn" out of it. I asked her, "are you going to divorce him", she said "no". (mind you, the man was remorseful, which she also admitted.) Then I said, "work it out, pray it out, wait it out . . . be calm and let him try to decode you etc." She instead grabbed an ex's penis and sucked and fucked. This was an ex that was hurting from being dumped for the "rich guy". Now, when she eventually made up with her hubby, she dumped the ex again; bad move. The guy sent "everything" to both her phone and the husband's phone and even the phone of her pastor whom they both had had counsel from and earthquakes began. Her marriage was over in less than 24 hours. She couldn't attend church again, she slipped into major depression, lost her job and so on. Mind you that she had her hubby's porn on her phone too. But no one was interested in that one.

Anonymous said...

Thank God you are fertile.
I wish you can contact me through Stella, I will sponsor that education, sponsor your marriage but on the condition that you sign adoption papers for me to adopt that baby. You will not get to see me or know where I live so that you won't ever come for that baby ever. The legal knot will be top notch!

Blackberry said...

Which mistake? U forgot condoms exist?
It wasn't a mistake wen u were doing uuuuh Ahhhhh?
Make una just marry, pregnancy never stopped anyone except u are around unsupportive pple or finances are strait. Anyhow, it's ur cross, carry it.

EkaTre said...

Carry your cross

Chike TEFLON {Ochi Abu Uto} said...

God's blessing that some couples have been praying for years is what you are here calling mistake?

What were you expecting after unprotected sex? Plasma TV?

Tell your boyfriend to go and do small get together introduction. That parlour own. Or do you want to be unfortunate fellow after the abortion?

Anonymous said...

Have you wondered how you will face God; especially if you die trying to abort. Yes, a colleague of mine died while aborting.
You are only wondering how you will face your parents. They will not kill you. they will only be disappointed for a while and that's all.

Messi said...

Poster, u better stop crying and ask yourself the way forward. It's has happened, so accept fate. I will advice young ladies to always be alert when having sex. Don't just leave yourself after sex without condom. It's either condom or tablet.

Chidinma Grace said...

Keep your baby NNE. If he will pay your bride price by Easter, it's just 3months from now. So what's the big deal? Keep the baby and marry him in Easter like earlier planned.

Anonymous said...

Better wipe your tears and stop crying...

Tell your so called boo to do court wedding b4 your belle starts showing. Court wedding will not cost pass 10k what am i saying 5k will do the job(give everyone that attends take away pelu minirasssss). Once you born una can do the rest as planned. Dont you dare take the i dont have money excuse from him because when he was giving you doggy and screaming giving you kpa kpa kpa kpa kpa i'm sure he promised you the world.

Pls ask him did he tink raw sex will born flat screen tv ni or maybe he was experting Samsung HD 4k smart Tv


Mtchewwwww


I cant support abortion o but God works in mysterious ways

Victoria said...

Gbam! You took the words right outta ma mouth stelz. Just leave thet innocent baby jejely ok? The guy has promised to stand by you no matter your decision so what's your problem? Just have your baby and you guys can get married afterwards there is nothing new about it. For now you have to calm down for the sake of the baby ok? Everything will be fine. Ciao.

Chika Vincent said...

The both where not ready why not use condom to avoid stories that the heart,abeg born ooo before you know it your baby will start calling you mummy mummy I want to eat, it is well Dear God will take control...

Bia Linda said...

Poster open your ears wide and listen to what madam Stella wrote. DO NOT EVEN ATTEMPT TO TERMINATE THAT PREGNANCY. The ridicule you will receive now with the pregnancy will only last for a short while and everything will be fine after you give birth to the baby. But if you terminate the pregnancy now and after getting married, you cannot get pregnant for some reason, you will so regret why you killed this baby(i.e if you decide to go for an abortion). Trust me I so know what i'm telling you; two abortions while dating, got married to the very same person and three years going to four now, we are still TTC; damn, it hurts bad!! please no matter what, keep the pregnancy!

Anonymous said...

Your advice is so apt Stella. A word is enough for the wise!

honesty said...

Don't abort... and don't depend on ur boo's promise ooo.u re into this alone. Until he marries u (court,church or traditional) u re still baby mama. Why tell u to decide alone, did you fuck your self.

cutie pie said...

Biko,u said u cant support yourself if u keep d baby so which money r u banking on to use to go and do msc in d abroad? Keep ur baby and do fashion designing. It will keep ur mind busy and prevent d self pity from ur condition. U can do dat while pregnant, wont cost u anything. U ppl will have sex and not want d consequence that follows.

Minnie Rexpect said...

What can I type when Stella has typed it all.

Anonymous said...

Exactly... most men try to be nice at this stage to get you to do what they want. There is a huge possibility this two options will happen, keep the baby and he will run... terminate and he might stand by you... i can’t tell you what to do but prepare to raise this baby alone. All of a sudden he will look for a thousand reasons why he can’t marry you and why so and so fresh meat down the street is much better for him.

Anonymous said...

The correct wording is;
"do not ever attempt TO KILL that baby . . . "

Blossom said...

It has happened already so no need to cry over spilt milk. Keep your baby and love that baby. You made the mistake, don't let an innocent Baby suffer.

Tell your parents about it. They Wil be angry but I am sure, they will come around.

If your boyfriend is sure about marrying you, he will convince you not to terminate the pregnancy.

sugar babe said...

Pls whatever decisions you take,Pls don't abort the baby.

Anonymous said...

Why should the guy tell you to decide alone? Is it not the 2 of you that got pregnant?

Blackberry said...

Anty anty

Blackberry said...

Anty anty

Anonymous said...

I was in the exact same situation 2015 , boo ( now hubby ) said the exact same thing to me . After several thoughts I decided to terminate it. 2 years later we got married and are experiencing our first child together. Do we regret terminating the pregnancy? Yes . But it was a decision that had to be made as neither of us were ready . Am lucky he married me at the end of it all and am lucky we didn't have an issue conceiving afterwards. You may not be so lucky or you may be. Before you take this decision, you have to have a serious chat with him about the future and the consequences of yo Urr actions( I know I did).

Anonymous said...

from experience, do not abort, the guilt and suicidal thoughts you will havr after is enough to make you go mad or run into depression. I have been there and ur story sounds like mine, i aborted and the guilt i feel is out of this world, i also scared u may not be able to get pregnant. although i and boo are still together, the guilt when we talk abt it makes us shed tears like babies..so my dear, keep that baby, i have never seen someone who had an unwanted child and regretted it, the chikd ends up being the best part of ur life, but with abortion, you will regret it all ur life. I pray u keep it dear.kisses

Isolde Fontaine said...

I know you are really scared and all but please make the right decision here... you guys could start off with a court wedding....then others will follow subsequently.

CHOICE (choice) said...

The earlier people realise it doesn't have to be a big wedding involving the whole world, the easier for them. See, why wait till next December seeing the deed has already been done and (from your post) you don't want to have this child outside wedlock?

My suggestion, have a small intro in your parents' living room with only both families present ( maybe one or two relatives from both sides). After that, bride price by easter as you said. Babe, you're already married!

As far as marriage in Nigeria is concerned, it can either be traditional, court, or church. If you go through ANY of these, you're officially married in Nigeria. So why stress yourself?

Please start making arrangements as soon as we enter the new year, okay? Before the belle starts to show you would have done trad in easter so don't even think of aborting pls o. Hmmmm....TTC beyond the normal time can be more frustrating than what you're feeling now.

CHOICE (choice) said...

Poster read this @Chikes's last paragraph and digest it. Those same parents you're afraid of now and the people whose opinions you're considering now will be the ones giving you side eyes when you eventually marry and be TTC for a long time (that's if you abort now and it does more harm than good). Nobody send you o.

Be wise

Push up said...

You are a very silly girl, what are you crying about? For now I think you should forget your msc and face your hubby to be as well as fashion designing
If your dowry would be payed by march/ April, you are legally married so having a child before the white wedding will not kill you.
I think you both should meet with your parents and discuss the way forward, both finances ( from your man and parents) can be put together so you go into fashion designing in a big way, when you finally make it, you can now go for your masters degree. Do not touch that child in your womb

Anonymous said...

My dear I'm in the same delima but mine is he not poor, but he just finished building, got a new land of 5mil the day I discovered I'm pregnant and my pregnancy is like a surprise cos I took postinor2 so it like a miracle child, if I was someone that sleeps around I would have aborted cos I wouldn't have known who owns it, thank God I'm one man at a time, so we doing only t. M or if we have more money coming in we do one day wedding, but initially I wanted to abort it cos my guy told me he not ready at all, but thank God for his sister that told him mbanu, so my dear I'm speechless what to advise you, do court marriage n introduction for now

Intelligentsia princess said...

Poster pls don't terminate that baby I beg you with God's holy name. Pls,don't even contemplate it.

Anonymous said...

Please keep your baby dear. just have it in mind that your parents won't kill you,and trust me, holding your baby in your arms will be worth the pain and fear you went tru

SheriKoko said...

2of dem got pregnant but it's still her body and as long as they are not married he doesn't have the right to decide for her. But poster don't touch that baby else you will regret it for the rest of ur life. U 'll adore him/her once born. Trust me everything will fall into place. U go dey fine last last

Anonymous said...

Stale! You've shared it over a million times. I was actually looking to read a new story from you. Go back to your drawing board and formulate new stories for 2018.

SheriKoko said...

Nawa o...so pregnancy is what is making u shed tears as u type and contemplate sucide. Drama queen. What ws on ur mind when u both ws Having raw sex and u didnt think of taking postinor2 after. Silly. just silly.

Anonymous said...

This conditio na was o. I don't blame you sha. You eat your cake and have it as well.

Anonymous said...

Thief! Go and beg God to give you your own baby, wicked soul! What did you do with your own womb? Anuofia!

Anonymous said...

Abeg born the pikin. Your parents will not kill or disown you. Na only noise dem go make. If to say I born my own those years I know the age them go dey no be dis one I start to train pikin now.
I had a colleague in you same situation. Thank God she did not abort hers she would have been childless. Abeg leave fear and do the right thing . You would survive and last last you would be glad you did not kill that child. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

Don't abort that baby or babies who knows.
I had two abortions for my husband while we were dating. Twas easy to decide.....why? I am from the most strict and self righteous family you can imagine. It was a no no no case.
Like you, hubby was in different.
When I got married and had a miscarriage...... all I could think of was my past deeds.
Now I know better and more exposed..... The deed has been done already..... sit your hubby down and plan..... It's your life girl. When the child becomes a big boy or girl you will remember today. Cheers

Anonymous said...

My advice is that DON'T RESIGN YOUR JOB yet, that is a steady source of income for you as you don't know if the Bros will stand by his word of supporting you, at least you can feed yourself and baby..


If he does and eventually marries you, you can now plan together for both the fashion designing and the masters, you can even do an online program if separating your family is an issue, you go deg alright last last.

cheeksi said...

Please do not abort the baby, that's an innocent soul
And for the unmarried and those who still have a chance, flee fornication.
Resist the devil and he will flee from you
Walk in the spirit so you do not satisfy the desires of the flesh.

Drama Queen said...

My dear keep the baby/babies even if it neans supporting your man with all your life savings,so you guys can get married do it for the sake of that child,at the end you will be happy you did.

Anonymous said...

Poster pls dnt do anythin to dt baby. I was exactly in ur shoes som years ago. I kept d baby nd suprisingly,my family didnt criticize me mch. Cn u beliv dt is d onli child I hav for 4 yrs nw. After him,i had a stillbirth and two miscarriages. I tell u,dnt touch dt baby. I pray my God answers my prayer for twins soon...peace!!!

Anonymous said...

Blacky blacky
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Anonymous said...

Please I did not share this story even though I told it
Some have copied these stories and share them.
It is still relevant to remind women that they have the shorter end of the stick
and should be more discrete with their "privates"

Anonymous said...

Take up this challenge lady; will you?
You will see that you will love this unborn baby more than anybody else

Anonymous said...

Not having an issue conceiving is not same as not having an issue birthing
It is also different from having "a family of your own"
Except you repent of that murder and mourn properly for that baby, you might find your marriage in jeopardy.
see Ex. 1:10-21

Anonymous said...

Genesis 9:6 read it!
And see the promises of God for you.

Anonymous said...

This is just my opinion and it could be wrong.

If your man is certain he would marry you, why leave the decision as to keeping the child or aborting the child to you alone? I find that worrisome.
It doesn't appear like he is interested in having this child with you. Why the unnecessary rigidity about the marriage date; would he be doing you a favour marrying you?

I understand the opportunities that might be temporarily lost or threatened if you decide to have your baby, but your boyfriend's aloofness and nonchalance has made it more difficult for you to decide to keep your baby.

I hope the Lord strengthens you to keep your baby, that's the right decision to make. It might cause temporary discomfort but it will guarantee you eternal peace and bliss whether or not your boyfriend finally marries you.

If your boyfriend wants to really marry you, then he should show his commitment; let him go and see your family immediately, tell them he loves you and tell them his plans. After that you can tell your parents about the pregnancy, they won't be so mad. You can have a Court wedding by January,in a beautiful white or milk colour dress and a beautiful wedding ring. Splash pictures all over social media and shut talkers/ gossips with that. Babe you are married already!!!!!!!!!. Elaborate party can come later, after all Yorubas throw parties to celebrate the success of a previous party ( that's a joke. My point is that you can always have a big party with you at the centre of it whenever you please)

If your man is not willing to make some adjustments to his plans, then he doesn't love you.



The Girl ZARA!!!!!

Anonymous said...

I terminated a baby after my then boyfriend now husband told me he will stand by any decision I make and he did. We got married about 1year 6months after the termination,and had twins right immediately me and hubby cry about it sometimes but we are still very strong. God is faithful. Keep your baby since he will pay bride price in March. Just tell your parents now so everyone can help. You will be fine.

Anonymous said...

You have dated for so long Abi? You plan to get married. But he is tied to his business meaning money is the issue Abi? so pls madam just do a small court wedding only your immediate families. Then you will be legally married. You will be protected. Pls don’t abort and whatever you do do not, I repeat do not have this baby out of wedlock with hopes you will marry later. You never know what can happen. When pressure of baby comes other single women may start looking more alluring. Don’t worry about masters. People do msc after marriage. Or even us the Msc money to open your own business you will soon generate profit to pay for the Msc later. This is nigeria job is hard to find who Msc hep sef?

Don’t cry , don’t abort it’s time to be strong. Xx

Anonymous said...

Ayam with Stella. DO NOT ABORT!

Anonymous said...

Seen this story. Lady Igo nor be you?

Anonymous said...

Lmao anon 16:50. Drawing board odikwa very needed.

Anonymous said...

Kikik, you are so wrong. Not all men are wired that way. Poster the choice is yours. What works for A may not work for B.

sholetoga said...

Poster.....please be responsible and bold enough to keep the baby......your parent will come around when they see their grandchild.......doo

Anonymous said...

I was in your position. Got pregnant two months to our wedding for boo. We both agreed to terminate it cos i wanted to settle and get a job as i was relocating. We eventually got married. I still did not get a job and when we decided to start having kids, I almost ran mad when i could not conceive in the first 5 months of trying. I would cry and blame myself. Got pregnant eventually. Poster, I do understand the fear of the financial implications, but believe me, ttcing is a far worse agony! Wish you the best in whatever you decide.

MUMMY SINACH said...

Kiki on point

Magnificent Mo said...

Do not abort. Please face it. Am preg with no support from my fiance but I have asked God for grace. Am preg with twins, imagine if I have gone for abortion. My sis E no easy o cos I had to resign but I am determined to go thru it. Y I no use protection if I no want am. The pain is for a while. I summoned courage, told my father n my normal dad Will disown me, he sent me money for antenatal instead. My dear, ask for forgiveness and grace, he Will see you thru.

Drama Queen said...

*means*

Rixy said...

I have been in your shoes o!! If i tell you my own, you will think we are story twins. We had the baby, i still had a Merit in my masters and today she is the love of everyone's life. DONT ABORT, PLEASE!

Fifiliprincess said...

Why are people calling anon 15:07 names? This is a good deal...I wish I can give you a baby anon.

Anonymous said...

This is a good deal since anon is so clueless let someone else love the baby and she can decide what to do with herself and her man

Anonymous said...

why is your boyfriend not taking responsibility? its also his child and leaving you to make the decision all by yourself is very wrong! You should talk to him more about it and force him to do or say something concerning your condition after all you didn't get yourself pregnant. Even if its to see your parents to tell them he is the one responsible

Anonymous said...

if I had listened to advice or had my resolve I would have been a mother of grown up twins now but I was scared and thinking of survival and then the boo disappeared as well so I aborted. today I can't get pregnant because of that one mistake. nobody will kill you. they will only be disappointed until they Set their eyes on the baby.

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