*Hiss..*
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
BRAIN RESETTING ADVICE NEEDED
I've never been this confused all my life and for the first time,words fail me but I'd try to keep punching my keypad.
I ran out of a demonic marriage to the devil's identical nephew without visible horns many years ago.A very horrible marriage,the story is unprintable and unimaginable, maybe when I've healed enough to write about it,I'd send it in.
I ran out of a demonic marriage to the devil's identical nephew without visible horns many years ago.A very horrible marriage,the story is unprintable and unimaginable, maybe when I've healed enough to write about it,I'd send it in.
To the issue on ground,i have a 5 year old son that's been living with my parents for three years due to financial difficulties, I've been trying to stand tall without asking anyone for financial support to survive after GOD saved me 4years ago from destruction.
I've been sending money for upkeep to my parents but lately they've been putting pressure on me even though they know that I'm not working at the moment. I've been with someone for a little over a year and even though i don't have a 9 to 5 or a regular business,i do jobs from time to time and bring in my support not holding anything back from him financially and he has been very transparent with financial issues too, he has four kids from a previous marriage and sees his kids every week,most times he just spends weekends at my place which is like his second home.
We've been together for over a year and we've been very good together, I've been 101% faithful to him even though we ain't officially married,I treat him like my spouse and ensure i take care of him well, he censors the people i talk to and those i shouldn't talk to,I'm not even bothered about that because after "front stabbings" from friends I've learnt how to ride and dine alone, he nags over every little thing,most times very unnecessary things and he claims that's how to mould his wife into what he wants,he cheats on me and i know and it isn't even an issue between us because most men do,that has never been an issue and it has never made me contemplate cheating too.
Despite his shortcomings,he's been really supportive and caring,ensuring i lack nothing,he's a wonderful man,and i pray for GOD to bless him everyday,he came into my life when all hope was lost and The genuine hand of friendship he stretched means a lot to me and I've been all shades of good to him too.
The last time i saw my son was almost a year ago and that last time was just for two days,we planned to go see him after two months but that never happened because he said it wasn't convenient for us, and many months have rolled in,still it's not convenient for him, my family have started putting pressure on me to come pick my son and he's saying i shouldn't go yet still saying the time is not convenient. that we should make money first. I told him he's with his own kids while making money and doesn't want me to even travel down to see my son as there's always one excuse or the other why i shouldn't go anytime i want to go.
There's so much pressure from my family psychologically and i know that that's the right thing to do even if they don't complain,truth is they have really tried and supported my child too. Now he's saying I'm not respectful,I'm not submissive enough and competing with him because i told him I'd go and pick my son as soon as possible.He even started saying things about how he'd deal with my family in future and how he never forgives or forgets. Note: we are not legally married and we are not even talking about marriage,i don't even want to go down that path again,his family have done so many wrong things to me which I've deleted from my head because I've gotten to a point in life where there's no space for documentation of negative vibes.
if anyone should be planning any payback it should be me but I've migrated from negativity to a WWJD level and here he is planning the bad things he'd do to my family in future....he's a nice person and has become my best friend but I'm really confused and scared at the moment.
He claims he wants me to bring my son to live with me but the time isn't right,please when would the right time be? And instead of understanding the pain a mother feels when her child isn't with her he's accusing me of not being submissive.most nights i cry myself to sleep when I'm alone because this isn't the life i hoped for many years ago.
I have an apartment that has an extra room and is spacious so it isn't about space, please Stella and Bv's advice me because I'm so confused at this point,i don't know what to do anymore,please someone speak a word from HEAVEN to me...I'm losing my mind,so confused...I've said everything as it is,please tell me what I've done wrong just don't be too hard on me because my heart is so heavy already....
Do you have brains?can you think alone and make independent decisions?In the name of Jesus ,receive sense with this slap AND GO AND PICK UR YOUR CHILD!!!
Hahahahaha stella thank God for this our slap that you gave her. Let me add another resounding slap to her in Jesus name Amen.
ReplyDeleteFoolish woman
Let me quote the part I read up to and decided not to read the remaining part of this Chronicles..
Delete", he nags over every little thing,most times very unnecessary things and he claims that's how to mould his wife into what he wants,he cheats on me and i know and it isn't even an issue between us because most men do,that has never been an issue and it has never made me contemplate cheating too"..
How can a man mould an adult female to the way he wants to and the woman no get sense to reason say na Yeye man him be?
I an a man for your Information but sister abeg leave this man.
E be like una no de get sense at all no matter the amount of daily Chronicles you read here and the advises given you women.
Let me go back and finish the Chronicles
Madam you are a very foolish woman. How can you choose a cheating controlling man or any man for that matter over your own child. Your stupidity is amazing.
DeleteYou have been so abused in your last marriage that you can not recognise that you are in an abusive relationship.
Your self esteem is very low please go and bring your child, break up from that evil man, stay away from relationship now nd learn to love your self first.
Lol.. Yori yori calm Dan na 😂😂😂😂
DeleteAnyhow you want to do it, just go relieve your parents biko. Them no come this world to die for suffer head. Tankio!
DeleteYou are a very foolish woman. I have no time to waste on advising a foolish person like yourself.
DeleteWicked woman go and care for your son and stop chasing prick.... idiot.
You are A VERY FOOLISH WOE-MAN. See how you are praising the man so that we will clap for you. That man hates everything about you including your family and son. He is only using you to release sperm. And please... not all men cheat. Stay there and die of aids. Anuofia!!!
DeleteMadam,go and pick your child. Leave that relationship. That man is evil.
DeleteNote:most men don't cheat only a stupid man that doesn't respect his woman does.
Dick has a way of affecting women! I'm a man and I know what I am talking about...abi no b dick make one woman lock her children inside car for hours till they died!!! Dick!!! Dick!!!Dickson!!! How many times did I call you?
Deletemadam please please please. how can this be happening?
Delete1. this man is divorced for a reason. he is bad news and his wife ran away like you ran away from your fist husband.
2. if you dont live together why would your child staying with YOU be HIS problem? does he pay your rent? does he feed you?
3. He sees his children every week, but you cant see yours? in the past year why didnt you visit on your own time? does he control your movement and free will?
4. wanting you submissive, monitoring your friends, distancing you from your family, all signs of a slave master trapping a new slave. LAST LAST IT WILL END IN BEATING.
CONCLUSION:
He can see your vulnerability because u left an abusive marriage. his friendhsip is NOT real. he will trap you like your first husband. RUN!!!!!!!!! GET A JOB AND GET OUT!
Lol. Mr Dickson!!! LMAO o
DeleteSit down there and be asking stupid questions. Ntchewwwww. You better go and carry your son.
DeletePoster you are a stupid woman,a fool join self,na the prick dey sweet you that much ba?you leave you pikin without checking up on him for a year,but stay put to be looking after a grown man that cheats on you.i give you dozen slap from here.
DeleteIt’s like you’ve been destined to be dumb. Better chase the idiot you call partner and get your son. Your mouth like you are faithful. Mumu.
DeleteShe needs more than a slap to reset her brain mehn.That man is obviously selfish and she's here needing advice as regards her own son? Her family is insisting she comes pick her son bcoz they have seen she's not a serious person at all. Kai, smh
DeletePoster you are the typical example of Kanye's "slavery is a choice". You have decided to be a slave to that nitwit. Does your son whom u introduced into this world without his consent deserve a childhood devoid of parental love???? Maybe you would be very happy in your old age when your one and only child abandons you for some flimsy excuse. U better pray to develop a brain cuz as u are you don't have one and that's y u rely totally on an idiot with epileptic reasoning to process common things for you.
DeleteIn fact don't angry me!!! 😬😤😤😬
Please hope this post is still open for comments because I have to tell this poster she is foolish. Extremely foolish. Don't go and get your child be playing dilly dally with a boy that might be your only child in this world.
DeleteMtcheeeeeeeew
ReplyDelete
DeletePoints:
You are having sex with this man you are not married to
He is having sex with other women
You are treating him like a spouse
He is treating you like a hoe
You are praying for God to bless him
(WHICH GOD: When did God sanction fornication?)
He lives with his kids and the only son you have
cannot live with you?
You escaped a toxic marriage to "devil's nephew?"
You are not talking about marriage and you are okay
being a whore for him?
Facts:
Which relationship is more toxic and illusional than this one?
When you get pregnant, you think he won't want you to abort;
or how many have you killed already?
Your son is brewing with rage and frustration and he may soon
find an appropriate gang like most youngsters do. . . then
you will be minced meat?
This man does not love or care about you and your people whom
he actually "plans to deal with"
Advice:
1. Stella's "resetting slap"
2. Pack and get out of that toxic hole called house
3. In that case, the man will decide whether he needs you or not
4. Repent of your whoredom (this is actually No 1)
5. Work with your hands and earn respect for yourself and train you son
6. Don't go back to a man that does not love you!
Perfect advice
DeleteThank you! She is an olosho without common sense. Forming tough on top stupidity.
DeletePoster, this reply from 16:35 is what you need. Why so desperate? Why allow a man who is not even your father to treat you like a TV remote? Do you think being a divorcee made you less of a woman? Do you think having a son reduced your worth as a woman? Do you blame yourself for your previous marriage? Even at that we all make mistakes and need second chance. How can a man dictate when you are your own child while he sees his? Why make your son an orphan because of a selfish man? Why leave your parents heart broken because of a man who will NEVER pay your dowry? Why go aganist God's command just to please a mere mortal who is treating you as a puppet? You sounds enlightened and industrious,why not concentrate on building yourself and your son, while believing in God for that man who will love you for who you are and not for what he wants you to be.
DeleteTake a moment to reflect on your life and ask yourself if this man really worth being in your life. He is using you and with your eyes open you are mortgaging your life to a man who place zero value on you. Please do not loose your son and parents over a man who does not think of you immediately he gets up from your lap. He distracts himself with you because you are available 24/7. Believe in yourself, build yourself confidence, invest in your life, resign to the will of God and watch your life take a turn you deserve.
After the gbeshen time to ben johnson! period.he have four kids and he spend time with them.and you have one you have not seen for over a year.wonderful
DeletePrick is obviously shacking u. You have practically choosen a community penis over ur child?? Has it occurred to you how desperate you are and the community penis sees thru this hence his yardstick for a model wife keeps stretching?
ReplyDeleteI hope your ex hubby comes for his son
I am very sorry but you sound very stupid asin like someone without a brain, you dare put a broke ass, cheat who is selfish before your own son, (your blood). There is nothing sex will not do to some people’s brain. Cut off the relationship cus the worst person you can be with is someone who doesn’t forgive, let alone your family, stop praying for him to get rich rather pray for yourself cus someone like this would let no family of yours into his house.
DeleteHis family do not really even care about you and you are mentioning negative vibes, you really sound dumb, I am so angry but what is my own, if you like continue you will continue writing chronicles
U better receive sense quickly, even me wey my husband no to aspect my daughter is staying with me,atleast i am seeing her and praying for d best from my husband side
ReplyDeleteAbeg keep kwaeeet... .. Mtcheew
DeleteI remember one foolish woman that sent in chronicle one time about har husband maltreating her girl and she was pregnant. Woman are really foolish. Them never born that man well why go maltreat my kids I will kill them
DeleteAnd you are still asking silly
Deletequestions like a billy
goat.....did you notice my billy/silly Rhyme???
I guess you didn't, as you are too busy being foolish. Mtchew
I am angry at you poster, this is me that hardly comments on chronicles
Madam go and carry your child. Whatever will be with you and the man will be.
ReplyDeleteHow do you people let a man control you sef i can be submissive o and loyal but somehow my friends know I can't be a puppet.
How come you only attract the wrong kind of men. You have made a mistake once yet you don't see that you are digging your grave at the moment. How can you choose this monster over your pride and joy. This man can see through you and has come to understand that you don't have any respect for yourself. Don't you see that he is very selfish and this "whatevership" you're in is already a disaster??? PLEASE RESPECT YOURSELF and end this rubbish. Your son needs you more than you need the fool. Where is your confidence as a woman? Why are you doing this to yourself and creating room for your son to be miserable. I'm tired, abeg!
DeleteClearly a case of a woman who hasn’t learnt her lesson.
ReplyDeleteHow can you put a man above your own child? Your parents are even nice to have taken your child in and help raise him while you lounge with a man who thinks love means ‘’moulding’ a woman to an idea that pleases him.
While I feel sorry you I think you need prayers because you are jumping from frying pan to fire. Your divorce from your previous marriage should have at least taught you to lean on God and your own strength instead of man. That man would control you to the extent that you won’t even remember you have a Child and then if you make the mistake of having a child for him you’d be finished. You’re depriving your child of parental love when you are still alive, is that how sweet his penis is? Aunty, please give yourself 3 slaps.
1. For not learning anything from your past at your big age
1. For neglecting your child who has done nothing wrong and you brough into this world on your own will.
3. For letting a man twist and use you the way he likes.
Mind you, this man is anything but nice because whether you want to admit it or not he is no giving you anything order than premium dicking. Soon enough, he’d start to beat you and let you feel inferior. You already think he is doing right by deciding who you talk to or not. Later, he would alienate you from your family and giving you reasons of how bad they are for pushing to have take your kid to live with you. He would be the only one in your life because everyone else would run away from you.
Madam, wake up and smell the coffee. You earn enough to bring your child to live with you. You can manage the little you have with your child, what’s important that you do your duties to that child while you live.
A man tells you about his unforgiven nature and his plans to deal with your family in future and you still don't have the sense to end that situationship really! Is that how low you value yourself. My friend go and pick your child and take care of him the little way you can,single mom ain't dead yet so you won't. The fact that his own kids are with him should tell you a lot, m sure if he marries you he will tell you to forget your child. I repeat break away from that situationship and take care of your child
DeleteYou even forgot the part where his family have "shown her pepper" many times. Like seriously? This idiot is not even married to, and his family can treat u anyhow? Like a man with 4 kids, and a cheat? Madam, u are a big fool. The idiot isn't worth all the stress...last last, that man will kill u or your son. Runnnnnnnn now that u can.
DeleteI love you doppelganger. . .
DeleteEnter your comment...better slap kwa
ReplyDeleteMadam poster, you are in an abusive relationship, take it or leave it. That man is manipulative and the emotional abuse is so deep that you think he is doing you a favor by being with you. He is obsessed with you and can pose a threat to you in the long run abi you don't read about domestic murders?
DeletePlease end your relationship with that man, go and pick your son, turn back to God and start learning to love yourself.
Your son is your son no matter what and he needs you to raise him to be a respectable man. I repeat leave your public commodity of a boyfriend before he infects you with STDs, make you loose your self worth completely or even murder you in cold blood.
Why would he be spending time with his own children and "make" you abandon your??? WTF!!!!
You depend on him so much that's why you are confused. Be independent, work hard, be focused. There is no perfect time for your child to be with you except now. Dam him and the relationship and go get your child. I've never heard someone died from being single. Stop fucking for now, concentrate on building your self.
ReplyDeleteSome of you don't know the problems sex outside marriage cause to ones physical and spiritual growth.
You guys are not even married ,so what gave him the guts to forbid you from bringing your child close to you? And you cried yourself every night to bed bcos of what kwanu? As you can see the guy doesn't love you if he does he would have adopted your son like his instead of hating the innocent child.
ReplyDeleteBetter borrow yourself brain and leave that situationship ..
It's better to be alone and happy than to be in a relationship without love and acceptance.
Stella I follow give slap and knock sef...You're indirectly choosing this man over your son Woman! your only child? because of man, tueh for you. WILL GO AND PICK UP YOUR CHILD.
ReplyDeleteIndirectly??? She has chosen dick over her own child!
DeleteYour sin should be first priority to you. If he is not willing to take your son, what are you still doing with him?
ReplyDeleteHe is a very very selfish man.
You've taken care if him and his 4 children... This man is not thinking about you but himself.
Madam even for the fact that we just celebrated mother's day go and take your child and be a mother to your child. haba! one year and u are alive and in the same country and you have not seen you child. Your only child. I dont want to say you are wicked but you wick ed small 000000000000000
ReplyDeletePls go get ur son, he is ur pride .If u keep waiting for him to follow u it will never happen. Men like him are so full of shit. I have one like dat, he speaks with my son but I can't with his own daughter for d past 8months. I have moved on already, not ready for any negative vibes dis year.
ReplyDeleteMy sister you need a slap: listen to yourself. He controls who you can and can't see; he stays at your house, he cheats on you, his family treats you badly; yet you turn around and say he cares about you and he is a friend!!! My sister receive sense. Anyman who loves you, will not cheat on you. He will encourage you to take care of your son.
ReplyDeleteYour child COMES FIRST, before a man, before anything. Who is he to dictate when you can or cannot see your child.
You moved from a bad marriage to a bad relationship with another abuser. RUN ! RUN! RUN! Your child's welfare is your responsibility. God help the man who will try to come between me and my child....HE WILL KNOW THAT I TOO CAN BE A DEVIL.
Go and get your child. You even have extra room in your apratment, so its not a question of you not being able to provide accomodation for him.
This man is using you.
BREAK THINGS OFF WITH HIM ASAP and go get your child. I dont know if you love this child sef; you are here crying over a man who cheats on you and neglecting your own child.
END THAT RELATIONSHIP, your child is and should always be your first priority. May God give you wisdom!! because you are clearly stupid and Foolish.
This poster is a very dumb fellow. You clearly didn't learn your lessons. Your self esteem is in rags. You have not business still speaking to that man. Break up with him and stop him from coming to your house. Are you mad? With all he does to You,what are you still doing with him. You even placed your child above him! Who is he to tell you when you can see your son or not? Are you Ok? Are you jinxed? I'm too angry please. What nonsense!!!
ReplyDelete****no
Delete****below
As in I'm seething with anger. WTF. I don't know any human being on earth that can separate me from my child!
DeleteBetter go n get ur son, dat man is selfish
ReplyDeletemadam you deserved a very dirty slap. May God punish you there for not having sense.
ReplyDeleteSo you need a useless man's permission for your own child to come and live with you?
Is this even a question that you should be asking? After the last horrible marriage you had, you can't see that this man is terrible? Dictating how you will live your life, to the extent of cutting your child out of your life, and you are here asking us irrelevant questions.
May that his dick choke you there!!! Idiot!!! better money you are not even collecting, just there playing wife, and collecting diseased public toilet prick!!
Ode..
ReplyDeleteIf i were your mom, I would take that boy n change his name into our family name n care for him while u go ur way.
As in who.. This one is not capable of being a mother....wish the parents will keep the boy. .. .I swear I pity that boy cox this woman is not a good example.....
DeleteOmosexy
Madam what exactly does this man do for you that's making you not to think straight
ReplyDeleteYou have your own apartment and you hustle enough to take care of yourself and your son
Madam that boy is your responsibility and not your parent's responsibility...They've tried enough for you
Why are you letting a man who isn't your husband to manipulate and control you like this?
What exactly are you hoping to achieve from that relationship because you already said you're not looking at marriage
Madam where is thy sense?
Your son needs you, go get your boy and leave that man alone..He's not the right man for you
Manipulates and threatens her o. I'm vexing for this poster. May your case not be the next domestic murder we will read online. Imagine a man that threatens to deal with you in future. Choi!!!!!
DeleteI think it's the prick that is snacking her. What a stupid woman. Choosing a selfish horrible wicked man over your only child while that cow has chosen his own children and everything over you and yours. A man sees his kids every now and then and refuses you seeing your own and a bell is not ringing in your brain?
DeleteYour are a.... FOOOOOOL with capital letters... ur lowself esteem is on another level... I pray ur husband people comes and take that son away from u, you don't deserve to be called human, woman not to talk of a Mother. So u chose dirty prick over ur life assurance(Ur Son) ; obviously ur village people are pounding cocoyam with ur brain ... you still have the impetus to ask for advice? Chineke nna,, well my advice to you is that I can't waste my advice on you , cos obviously I would be wasting my time and energy... whatever you want to do, do ooo. *foolish woman* Stella Biko post o
ReplyDeleteAs in eh. She obviously doesn't care about her son and she is as FOOLISH as they come. The man needs to come and take his son from her parents. Useless women everywhere.
DeleteNow I know why ur first marriage failed,its not the men,its u,pls come and take five naira and buy cheap sense,cos obviously ur a mumu
ReplyDeleteI'm telling you. She's empty!!!!
DeleteI'm honestly tired of some women. What the hell is wrong with you? You left a very bad marriage and entered another bad relationship. And you keep eating it with a diamond encrusted plate and spoon.
ReplyDeleteThis man is abusing you if you don't know. Mentally, psycholically and emotionally. You are even loosing yourself to this man who isn't even married to you.
What do you mean you don't care if he is cheating on you? You don't care if he censors the people you communicate with. I'm sure you don't care that he talks down on you. Imagine him telling you that he is moulding you into the wife he wants? OMG. He also doesn't think you should bring your son over and you are listening to him? Someone who sees his kids weekly? You haven't seen your in over a year and you are letting him dictate when you can see your son and when you can't?
See, better leave that relationship. Leave it because you will get married to him and suffer worst fate than you did what your ex husband. Because he will maltreated you, maltreat your son and even your family. He isn't even married to you and he has 1m evil things he will do to your family? You are not married to him and his people are already treating your badly? JESUS. Woman, where art tjow self esteem? Who did this to you? I'm angry
Go get a job or start a business and do well. Stop depending on a man for support. This is why he can control you. Control the way you even breath.
Exactly @ya last paragraph.
DeleteShes totally dependent on d man, If not, she needs no one to tell her to go bring her child to wherever she is.. I feel she just mentioned she does some jobs from time to time as a cover up.
If you end up with that man,he will maltreat your son,my sister forget about the guy,let your son stay with you abegi...
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, I am so angry & tears rolling down my eyes. How wicked can you be to your son? How can u outsource parenting ur child to ur parents? U are with a man who is actively in his kids'lives...
ReplyDeleteI'm so livid with anger. Who sold you the lie that all men cheat? Hear it clear...not all men do...u have chosen to short-changed ur destiny for sex.
Few years, u will claim ur son isn't taking care of u & want to control his life.
Go ask God, ur son & parents to forgive u.
Please be a responsible mother, go get ur son & double le ur hustle...sex is not what u need!!!!!!
Madam, if I can give 20 resounding hot slap I would. You have no business dating at all. Have you asked him why he is single with 4 kids? No woman will leave a guy with 4 kids. Have you done your own private investigation as to why his ex left with 4 kids?
ReplyDeleteStay single for a while and build your self esteem and your relationship with your son. He is your future.
Run from that man, he doesn’t have any good plan for you at all. He will be 10 times worst than your ex, trust me
That man is very selfish and wicked. How can he try yo separate you and your child when his are with him? Can I ask you something madam,who are you making the money for? His own kids or yours? Getting married is not a do or die affair and besides getting married to a man with 4 kids cos you are a single man is not worth it.
ReplyDeleteIf you have enough money to rent an apartment, do and bring your child to stay with you then make that money. Your child should be your priority at this present time.
God be with you
And pls don't let him (ur situationship) stay at urs when ur son is with u....respect urself n son that much!
ReplyDeleteGbam
DeleteI wish that will be possible...I'm so sure she will pick the go and take your son part and still continue her situationship.....this will really affect The boy
DeleteHave seen cases were step father maltreat their wive's children even molest... Please don't bring that boy to suffer I beg you in the name of God...leave that boy with your parents or take him to his father if you know you can't leave that wicked man....
Madam you are very stupid, yes I said so!!!!
ReplyDeleteYou want to jump from frying pan to fire abi?
That man is living off you and you're claiming yeye love
You better go and carry your son and plan your life with him
Leave relationships for now and concentrate on building your future
I had not finished reading i ran to go type you are a fool. Go and take your child, he has no right or say in your decisions. He is cheating on you and you are talking nonsense. See better leave that man, he even have 4 kids self and sees them yet has the effrontery to tell you to wait. He is an abuse, a user, is selfish and more evil than your ex. You divorced only to be treated worse.
ReplyDeleteI’m shocked by how dumb and stupid you are. The signs of a very abusive man is so glaring, and yet you can’t see the signs. He would be worse than your ex, just wait and see. I just can’t with women who choose a man over their kids.
ReplyDeletePoster all these foolishness because of a man who treats you without any regard for your feelings and happiness?
ReplyDeleteThe earlier you put the wellbeing of your child first and foremost the better for you. What kind of mother abandons her child because a man is spewing rubbish? Yet the said man is fully involved with the welfare and wellbeing of his own children?
You're a big fool! Go and bring back that boy and shower him with the love and attention he so deserves from you. Shebi mother's day was yesterday, I hope you used that day as a sober reflection day 😩
Let the boy stay back at her parent's house until she has made the man leave her house. Or else said man will abuse the boy in her presence and poster will just continue to look and say nothing, infact she will defend the man that he is disciplining the boy.
DeleteMadam Stella thank you for the slap, in fact poster be recieving this slap and be shouting amen oya lets go
ReplyDelete#physicalslap #spiritualslap #materialslap #motherhoodslap #abilitytorememberyourchildslap #freedomfrompenisslap #slaptoputyoursonfirst #everyslaptomakeyouactrightoyarecievenow
Poster you are mad. You make your own money and allow to be treated like this. Because of dick? Omg
ReplyDeleteMumu poster. What a useless woman. They say once bitten twice shy but you're an olodo. Better go and find something doing and stop depending on a man. Because that's the only explanation for your stupidity. You obviously did not learn anything from your first marriage. Desperado. Receive 10 slaps.
ReplyDeletePlease whatever you do DO NOT marry that manipulative son of a b****. You are not the first single mother in the world,stop making him feel he's doing you a favor. As soon as you marry him,you will never live under the same roof with your child I bet you. I know you need love but this isn't it. Na single mother you be,you no kill anybody abeg.
ReplyDeleteDon't think again. Just go to the transportation place, enter motor and go to your child this week.
ReplyDeleteHe is selfish and bossy and you are stupid
ReplyDeletePoster all these foolishness because of a man who treats you without any regard for your feelings and happiness?
ReplyDeleteYou stupidly allowed him to come between you and your baby YET he's fully involved in the welfare of his own kids & sees them ALL the time? What is wrong with you? The earlier you put the wellbeing of your child first and foremost the better for you. what kind of mother abandons her child because a man is spewing rubbish?
Better go and get that baby and spoil him silly with the love, attention and affection that you've denied him.
Yesterday was mother's day, I hope you used that day as a sober reflection day.
please ma, for God's sake bring that innocent child. Then double ur hustle, forget about that man pls
ReplyDeleteI do not know why my blog ID isnt showing. Anyway, it is BELLA D CHEMIST. Stella, abeg you get this lady phone number make i call her to put sense for her brain. Madam Please forget the man, thank God you arent even married and go take your son, build a life with him
ReplyDeleteWhich phone number? Abuse her here and move on.
Delete@poster You deserve at least 4 brain resetting slaps! I'm speaking as a fellow mother and I say that you are STUPID and PATHETIC to value a man above your son. Where you jazzed? For your people to be putting this much pressure on you to take your son, I'm sure that he has been seriously asking for you! But you siddon with a man that is not even your husband and has no regard for you or your child and abandoned that poor boy. Better dump and breakup with that man, settle down on your own and get your kid. Do not bring your child into that home because the man and his family have shown that he is not wanted and will torment him if you do bring him in.
ReplyDeleteMadam wow I'm dissapointed I see why your first marriage fail, you have not seen your son for a year and you're waiting for the man to be ready so that you guys can go together and he telling you to hold on but he visiting his own children oh. Tufiakwa oh
ReplyDeleteThis poster is a fool honestly .your house and a man is giving you all these useless condition .ho nestly you are a bad mother just take it .i feel like slapping you or hitting a cub on your head bIg fool dats what yoh are
ReplyDeleteAfter reading your post, I said a word of prayer for you. The society we find ourselves have made so many women loose self worth. I said so because you seem to me as someone who wants to marry by fire by force to prove people wrong.
ReplyDeleteYou sound like someone who has been brutalized emotionally in your first marriage that your sense of reasoning needs to be reset from trying to please man than yourself.
The first marriage would have been so bad that you now welcome cheating in marriage. You honestly need friends around you. Yes you need people to talk you back to your real self. You are wonderfully and fearfully made. No one should make you think you are a second class citizen because your first marriage did not work. You are working, earning salary, have a house of your own and yet allow another man to come into your house and control your life. Dictate whom you talk to and who you should not talk with. What an empty life you are living. My dear you are fooling yourself with that man.
I put it to you that your so called lover in playing with your desperation not to fail again in marriage. He is using your money to train his own children while yours is suffering with your parents. Your child needs you now more.
Most women are praying to God everyday to make them mothers, even if its one and you are allowing a man who is not worth being a friend more or less a husband to come between you and your child.
I know you need sex that is why you are still with that man. Come off it darling, borrow some sense. Prostitutes get customers every second so sex partners are not scarce.
Leave that relationship. Its an ill-wind. It will blow you no good. Go for your child. Rest your mind. Repackage your dressing and self worth.You will get someone who will genuinely love and adore your child.
God bless you. Much love
You don't love your son enough. How can you choose a man over your own child? Please go and pick your son and forget about that man cos he doesn't love you. His action says it all.
ReplyDeletePoster , you dont have brain after all the suffering you went through in your first marriage yet you're still dumb and confused. you're waiting for approval from a man you're not married to, to approve when you will bring your own son to your own rented apartment.
ReplyDeleteReceive sense
So when does he want you to be with your son? Did you say this man is a good and wonderful man? I don't see your son in the equation.
ReplyDeleteIt's a bit too early to judge that he is good. Is he the same person telling you that you are not respectful etc.? This man is not the man for you. He should be concerned about your son if he wants you that much.
He is not your saviour, stop hanging on him.
In fact walk out of his life and relocate asap. You don't owe him an explanation should he ask.
That man is not yours...am a single mother of two beautiful children any man that cant love my children should forget about me....that boy is your future go get him, nuture him into a good man the right man will find you
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ReplyDeleteYou are having sex with this man you are not married to
He is having sex with other women
You are treating him like a spouse
He is treating you like a hoe
You are praying for God to bless him
(WHICH GOD: When did God sanction fornication?)
He lives with his kids and the only son you have
cannot live with you?
You escaped a toxic marriage to "devil's nephew?"
You are not talking about marriage and you are okay
being a whore for him?
Facts:
Which relationship is more toxic and illusional than this one?
When you get pregnant, you think he won't want you to abort;
or how many have you killed already?
Your son is brewing with rage and frustration and he may soon
find an appropriate gang like most youngsters do. . . then
you will be minced meat?
This man does not love or care about you and your people whom
he actually "plans to deal with"
Advice:
1. Stella's "resetting slap"
2. Pack and get out of that toxic hole called house
3. In that case, the man will decide whether he needs you or not
4. Repent of your whoredom (this is actually No 1)
5. Work with your hands and earn respect for yourself and train you son
6. Don't go back to a man that does not love you!
Nigerian girl's definition of a "good man"
ReplyDeleteANY MAN THAT GIVES THEM MONEY!
It is a pity!
DeleteAs in!!! I see a clearly manipulative, selfish, controlling, condescending, vengeful, unforgiving idiot with a horrible family! And she's been deceived into thinking he's a good man because of carryover of abuse.
DeleteIt's so disgusting
DeleteGo and pick your son joor. Arrant nonsense!!!!! let the man leave you if he chooses to. You will find real love where your son would be accepted.
ReplyDeleteMadam treat no one above your own son.... Abeg go and pick your child.
ReplyDeleteWhat advise do u need? So you need your "boyfriend" to give you permission to go get your son? Did you give him permission to stay with his 4 kids? African women will bring themselves so low because their grandmothers/society told them not to compete with a man and a man should have "power" over you even if it means suffering. God forbid. If u like continue dating him he will maltreat hell out of your son EWU!
ReplyDeleteMadam poster, your boyfriend doesn't want your best. Someone who you said doesn't forgive or forget and is even telling you he will punish your family in the future is the person you are writing all this plenty Chronicle for. He is selfish and self centred and he isn't even thinking of you or your son hence him saying you should still wait before bringing him
ReplyDeleteYou better go and get your son.
Madam you made it obvious that your son isnt important to you thats why he can manipulate you.i m a single mum but I dont joke with my son, he lives with my parents but I make sure he doesnt lack anything. when I date,I make it so obvious that I cant do without my son.. Infact even if the guy isnt comfortable with it, he doesn't have a choice than to accept the love I have for my son .. Like my man I v been with for 3years now, from his attitude i notice he pretends to lik my son but I no send o sofar e dey pay e school fees and him dey bring out money anytime for the boy.He just have to deal with it. If you choose you wanna be with me, you have to take my boy as urs too o.i remember a pastor(in blessed memory) warned me not to joke with my son, that I shd consider my son first b4 I make a decision infact I place him b4 anything else cos i too suffer with that belly.. God's mercy saw me thru. Poster no matter the relationship you are into, put your son's happiness first. If you respect your son people around will respect him. No use bcos of man dey do ur pikin anyhow.. Men go come n go o but your pikin go still dey ur life.Dont let one selfish man seperate the love you have for your son. Man wey go stay go stay, man wey go go, go go. If the man is too nice as you claim, why him no dey take care of your pikin financially even if u nva go see am..As it is with me, my mum wont even let me take my son no matter what, I only send cash or whatsoever they need and talk to him everyday. Poster learn to show your son love..if d man isnt okay with it, he shd go. Moreover must you go with the man to see your son..? Na wa o
ReplyDeleteGive your heart to Christ, Mba!!Establish a relationship with The Holy Spirit to guide your Life ...No way, you will rather be in a relationship with the devil,and have the audacity to complain...continue. Who says if you live by yourself you will die??? you must be attached to a man to stay alive...continue. Look forward to harvesting all youre planting right now.
ReplyDeleteSo we have these kind of foolish poster as BVs too? I am ashamed to be a BV cos of you.
ReplyDeleteSo prick is better than a child you laboured for? May your ex-husband come for his son, Amen.
POSTER Listen and listen carefully.
ReplyDeleteCall that man tonight and tell him you would like sometime alone. He should leave your house by weekend. Then go and pick up your son that weekend. Get that man out of your life! Never bring in your son with this toxin man around in your house. Please get rid of this man and go and bring your baby. You have a son not a terminal disease. Even people with terminal still find good love and men that treat them right!
That man is bad news! He doesn't love you, you can take this to the bank. We all know you won't listen to this!
Madam are you stupid or something? How can you place a random man before your own child. This mans love is clearly conditional and your son's love is unconditional, you better go and pick up your child and kick that no good idiot you call a boyfriend to the curb. If you marry this man he will deal with you ehn! you would think your ex-husband was a saint
ReplyDeleteMadam,please don't get into another HELL-HOLE!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteHe says how he never forgive/forget?u haven't seen your son in a year while he sees his own every week?u have a spare bedroom?ur personal house gangan?GO AND PICK YOUR SON and DONOT ever CONSIDER MARRYING THAT MAN!!!!
Lady poster, a beautiful lady like you should not be desperate to get into a worst friendship than your 1st marriage. Smell the danger ahead and don't you marry him.
ReplyDeleteNOT ALL MEN CHEAT. The fact that we don't praise the faithful ones as much as society hype the cheats doesn't make it common.
Open up and discuss with a few genuine trusted friends (if you've got them) , so they can help you see things in 3 or 4 Dimensions better than you're presently sering..
There are 101% things wrong in this disgusting water (situationship) that you're swimming in.
BE careful not to get drown or die wholes sinking deeply..
I pray for you O... and many others in such unfortunate predicaments. Keep your head up 👆🏼 high.
Without mincing words, Madam Poster You are the most stupid person on earth! I don't have time for sentiments! The idiot cheats on you and you say you are ok with it? I pray he gives you a chronic disease so that your foolishness will clear from your eyes. Your child needs you.
ReplyDeleteFYI, the guy will leave you after sleeping the hell out of you. You don't have self worth at all. Receive sense, stupid lady!
Poster......you need Jesus to re - order your steps.....
ReplyDeleteYou left a bad marriage. One would think that you would have received the sense and inspiration to make something of yourself at least for your child. But what do you do instead? You shack up with another abusive character, abandoned your child , remained as unempowered and impoverished as ever and have the guts to be sending chronicles trying to justify your second beast. May your child not grow up to curse you, Amen. Thank God you have parents that are pressing you to obtain sense, God bless them for me. A nakogheri.
ReplyDeleteBabe!!! You are going back to the twinbrother of ur first husband. This dude is manipulating n u re enduring it cos maybe subconsciously u re scared of being alone. U last saw ur son about yr ago wyl he sees his kids every weekend. Borrow sense abeg!!! Dont loose ur son bcos of dis freak show u call a boy friend a partial husband. What u re seeing as being supportive is manipulation of d highest level. dude is taking advantage of u buh u re using management syndrome to turn a blind eye. for ur sake n dat of ur so, pls leave dat r/ship.
ReplyDeleteYour level of foolishness and stupidity is beyond human comprehension. How can u decide to let go of all your standards, values and morals as a woman? Kai u are a disgrace to your own child. I hope he doesn't grow to find out that u choose a cock over him.
ReplyDeleteHow could you abandon your child that brings joy and reminds you of a better future over a wicked person that isn't related to you in anyway.Madam this is the most important time in that child's life bring him back as soon as possible.
ReplyDeleteI have only 2 things to say to you:
ReplyDelete1.You are not fit to be a mother.
2.Your self esteem is extremely low and your common sense is even lower.
Any military man in the house Please slap this woman to reset her brain .poster there is over 1 billion men on earth why do you keep choosing these ones that will damage you?
ReplyDeleteyou are very very stupid. slap is not enough for you. do you know what i will give to have a child?
ReplyDeleteI know it's not easy but if you don't leave this idiot how can u meet a better man.how u have a son and not see him for over a year . Some people are on the mountain top praying to have one and u have but u 've choosen to ignore him becos of a man that is not ready to marry u ,if that boy becomes president tomorrow do u think he will forgive u for neglecting him. Better leave that idiotic man and go see ur son so that God can bless u .a word is enough for the wise
ReplyDeleteMadam please get financially empowered so you can stand on ur feet. And not allow one man somewhere to control you cos of d financial help his giving to u.to you he is a good man cos of the financial help nothing else.pls get ur self back by being financial independent.
ReplyDeletePoster am so angry right now with you,l feel like giving you 20,thunderous slaps, how can you chose a wicked man over your own child, ur future,is it bcos of money or what,go and bring your son to come and stay with you ,after all you are the one paying the rent.except there is something you are not telling us.END THAT RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT MAN,he doesn't love you abeg.may God have mercy on you
ReplyDeleteA very foolish and confused woman. He nags, he cheat. he mould,he doesn't have a forgiving spirit yet you called him a good man. where is the that attributes that makes him good? So a mere man can dictate when to see your son?Stella let me add to your slap... mgbowaaaaaa!!!! thats punch ewu.
ReplyDeleteSister, how is this man a good man. He sees his children every week and you do not see your own child. This man is not your husband and even if he is, he has no right to restrict your access to your child. This child is your life line. This man is not wonderful, he is as bad as your ex or might be worse. He does not love you one bit. He is looking for who to control. Have you found out why his ex left? Please ma, you will find a man and if you do not you will not die. Your baby needs you. Stop letting this evil man control you. All men do not cheat. I AM A MAN, I DO NOT CHEAT. I am married too by the way. Please madam, this man does not love you one bit. You are deceiving yourself heavily.
ReplyDeleteWow! This is the first chronicle where I've seen ALL BVs agree on one thing. This shows the severity of the situation. This is not to make you feel worse poster but you are currently being a very bad mother. I'm still happy that you at least have the intention to see your boy but you're acting too slow about it because of one foolish man. Do you not know that that little angel is crying out for his mama each day he doesn't see her? If these words don't bring tears to your eyes then you have a hardened heart. You need to love yourself and your child first before you can attract a man who'll love you both correctly. Right now, you are far from that. Take BVs CONSENSUS advice and do the right thing. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteIs like sense don elude this poster long time ago. Is the man paying for your rent? Go pick your son and let him come and be staying with you.
ReplyDeleteE be like say something dey worry you for walnut brain.
Madam I won't judge you, you just need to build yourself esteem, get a job or skill and begin immediately, go get your son, a child is worth more than dick. Your parents have tried, from what you wrote it's obvious you don't have friends, or uncle has driven them away. That man is not good for you, you would waste your time, nothing good would come out of this. He would definitely end up treating you like your ex, until you leave. End that relationship now, tell him you want to focus on yourself. A man shouldn't tell when or not to see your child, your son is feeling abandoned, I beg pity him, he needs you especially at this tender, don't let any egocentric bastardized tell you nothing, he is your son. That man doesn't love you at all.
ReplyDeletePlease give that child up for adoption or increase funds that you are sending home to cater for him.
ReplyDeleteThere are many couples who would be willing to love that child right.
I personally DO NOT support your bringing that child to live with you.
The boy will suffer irreparable damage, the kind that will make him grow up and turn him into worse than the monsters that you are attracting. Because even if you send this man away, you will still attract another damaged, pyschotic, manipulative man. Your self esteem is very low and unfortunately you have conditioned your mind to believe this is the best you can get. Law of attraction. For you to place another man before a child you took 9 months to birth says so much about you and none of it is any good. Either give that child up for adoption or increase the money you are sending home to cater for him. Children are way smarter than we give them credit. These are his formative years, whatever happens to him now, especially from you who is supposed to be his primary caregiver, will remain with him forever. Madam,you need a total psychological overhaul before you can even take care of yourself much less another person.
Poster are you stupid ? You should be able to make decisions on your own, why will you allow a man you both only duck each other to define how you should treat your son or live your life? I walked out on that abusive marriage, I had no child with the maga but today no one tells me what to do to be happy, I don't give a fuck about any man, if you are not OK with my decision you move past. You think no man will assist you I'd t 4th is fool walk away? You better go and pick your son and give him motherly love, if this fool want to end it up let it be, stop pleasing a man and displeasing yourself, work hard and take care of youe son, so not mess up
ReplyDeleteI am so disgusted with this poster. This poster's brain was clearing omitted at birth. I don't even think she will make a good mum to that boy. Grandparents, please hold on to that child, God will keep providing for his upkeep.
ReplyDeleteABI ORI ELEYI NO CORRECT, KEEP YOUR SON WITH YOUR PARENTS AND ENJOY PRICK THE THUNDER THAT WILL FIRE YOU IS COMING STRAIGHT FROM THE DEVIL
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