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I met my guy ending of 2020 on my way from gym one evening, met him with his cousins but didn’t give him much attention. We exchanged contact just for me to discharge him before I entered my house cos he followed me and kept insisting I give him my contact before he can allow me go.
I met my guy ending of 2020 on my way from gym one evening, met him with his cousins but didn’t give him much attention. We exchanged contact just for me to discharge him before I entered my house cos he followed me and kept insisting I give him my contact before he can allow me go.
We had an agreement that he was going to visit me after he called me the following day. He didn’t show up as promised, I reached out to him in the evening to confirm why he didn’t show up as promised. He apologized that work took him out town and that was why.
I said it’s alright just have a nice day and safe trip back home.We didn’t get to speak again so few months later in 2021 I relocated from that area and moved to another area but same state.
Fast forward to 2023 July, I posted something on my WhatsApp status and I got a response from him but could not remember his face but his name was saved on my contact. I usually save my contacts on my gmail so contacts are very difficult to vanish.
Fast forward to 2023 July, I posted something on my WhatsApp status and I got a response from him but could not remember his face but his name was saved on my contact. I usually save my contacts on my gmail so contacts are very difficult to vanish.
He asked me if I was still staying in the same area we met but I told him nope, he asked if i was married but I told him nope. He started calling me constantly morning, afternoon and evening we will gist, he started inviting me to his church to come see his pastor at some point I started avoiding his calls, messages just to stay away from him. Towards the end of July I lost my dad and everything changed about me, he was always checking up on me, calling me, encouraging me and praying with me. I stay awake most times cos my dad’s death really gave me tough time to adjust or accept the reality of life.
After so much front and back to see his pastor I accepted to attend his church one Sunday, the pastor called me out and told me about the chain on my legs, the reason why I have anger issues and how to go about it, I started working on my anger issues cos it has destroyed all the relationships I had in the past, men ran away from me,my colleagues avoided me, I was also losing it each time that spirit comes up. I accepted what the pastor said and raised an alter for that to be over.
The following month that I raised alter, I noticed the anger spirit dropped, like I started smiling more, I hardly have arguments or fight with people around me, I was happy of how my life has become.
While I was battling with how to clear the anger spirit, this guy started asking me out. I refused to accept him, I asked him if he doesn’t have a relationship which he admitted he had a relationship but him and his gf are in the process of splitting the relationship cos there is a family issue the lady and her family especially her dad have refused to accept or destroyed.
While I was battling with how to clear the anger spirit, this guy started asking me out. I refused to accept him, I asked him if he doesn’t have a relationship which he admitted he had a relationship but him and his gf are in the process of splitting the relationship cos there is a family issue the lady and her family especially her dad have refused to accept or destroyed.
I kept on avoiding him, sending him back to sort out their differences with his gf and move on, I was not seeing anyone as at then. He knew it cos I told him and from our constant communication, the way he saw my attitude he knew I wasn’t telling him lies about not having any relationship. This guy introduced me to his brother’s gf, we clicked the first day we met, we exchanged contact and started gisting normal gist. I started asking her questions about the guy and his gf but she also confirmed same thing. He has done introduction on the girl but they cannot be together cos of the family issues her dad has refused to take care of.
From July I kept posting him till January when I returned from home after my dad’s burial, I visited one pastor who a friend asked me to visit. He prayed with me and asked me to accept the guy that all he said was the truth, I also saw another person who can see but not a pastor who told me the guy is my husband and I should stop dragging this whole thing. The guy was no longer seeing his gf but he is madly in love with me.
In January 2024 I accepted to be his girlfriend, that same month his ex girl started calling him, he kept on talking with her that he was told not to end things like that cos she is a twin. So many prophesy was spoken about how the girl will not let him go. The guy was all over me and everything showed he was madly in love with me. Early February he stopped loving me and was thinking of going back to his ex but as God will have it we overcame the battle and his love for me returned back.
In January 2024 I accepted to be his girlfriend, that same month his ex girl started calling him, he kept on talking with her that he was told not to end things like that cos she is a twin. So many prophesy was spoken about how the girl will not let him go. The guy was all over me and everything showed he was madly in love with me. Early February he stopped loving me and was thinking of going back to his ex but as God will have it we overcame the battle and his love for me returned back.
We are planning for our introduction/Traditional marriage by June 2024. Some pastors have asked him to go and plead with his ex family which he is dragging his feet to go to their house that his ex may pour him hot water or harm him. I also asked him to go and plead with her family since he went for introduction but he is asking for some time let the whole thing cool off, he said his ex has terrible anger than mine that she even slaps him Iand disrespect him in public. I don’t want to listen to all her wrongs or her bad attitude cos is not my business. I told him to sort out things amicably so that tomorrow it will not affect us while married.
Is there anything I need to be afraid here since three pastors has already told me he is my husband. I find peace in him, we understand each other, we flow very well, he is very supportive, he is hard work not rich but is not a lazy man. I believe things will get better if we come together to work as a team doors will open for us. We don’t want to stay away from each other for long, I am happy with him, he can tolerate me and I can do same. My question is should I continue with the marriage or I need to be afraid of his ex attitude since some pastors has told him he needs to apologize to her and her family with elders he took for introduction to her house.
Is there anything I need to be afraid here since three pastors has already told me he is my husband. I find peace in him, we understand each other, we flow very well, he is very supportive, he is hard work not rich but is not a lazy man. I believe things will get better if we come together to work as a team doors will open for us. We don’t want to stay away from each other for long, I am happy with him, he can tolerate me and I can do same. My question is should I continue with the marriage or I need to be afraid of his ex attitude since some pastors has told him he needs to apologize to her and her family with elders he took for introduction to her house.
Should he go and apologize to her family after he has apologize to her on several occasions, will him going to apologize to her family not wake up the dead feelings he has with her and her family? They dated for 3 years or I should relax and be calm while he apologize to her family before we have our introduction?
What makes you think everything will be OK after he apologises to her and her family? I think that you should be very worried, especially as she is not ready to let him go........
What makes you think everything will be OK after he apologises to her and her family? I think that you should be very worried, especially as she is not ready to let him go........
You should be very worried and very prayerful...
What has her being a twin to do with the whole issue?
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ReplyDeleteAll these pastor, pastor, prophesy stories are mind boggling. Some of you ladies, especially, yoruba ladies, believe so much in alagba, woli, alfa, prophets and prophetess ish - both young and old. I can never be caught with a lady with such a mindset - it is tiring.
DeleteRun for what ? She has seen a guy that loves her and she loves him too.
DeleteShe should hold on to what she loves biko. Dem no dey buy good man for market.
On hold and allow God do it.
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ReplyDeleteThis is very tough and I will say you need to be more prayerful with the whole process. If your guy apologies how sure are you that the lady will still not go behind to do something.
Since you have some pastors you are talking to, please ask them to pray and check if that girl will let hom go for real. Before you contthis relationship please be sure you are not entering one chance marriage.
My setiments exactly she seriously needs prayer and serious counseling. Because when it comes to the issues of twin hah no be small matter.
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I'm guessing the ex here is Yoruba where it is believed that twins have 'strong head' and should not be offended
ReplyDeleteYou said he couldn’t marry the girl cos her dad refused to settle some of his family issues. Why should your husband to be apologize for what he didn’t do?
ReplyDeleteAbeg, you guys go on with your marriage plans and be prayerful.
Your husband to be should cut off all means of communication with his ex to avoid trouble.
But how come he fell out of love with you and went back to his ex?
That’s disturbing!!
But in all, don’t stop praying.
Sluttychic.
Exactly! Why did he fall out of love with you? It seems as though you're more in love with him, than he is with you.
DeleteI also do not understand why he needs to the girl's family. Are you sure you know the real reason he's not marrying the girl? I mean even if he really wants to marry you, and not the other girl, he has every right to. He hasn't paid her bride price yet so why the complexity and long story.
My dear open your eyes oh.
Meanwhile you guys seem to believe alot in prophecies . Oh well!
You need to be cautious of who you receive prophecy and prayers from and learn to seek God and hear from Him by yourself.
ReplyDeleteNa only you get eyes. I say it with all sense of responsibility that something is not right with this poster. She is one of these
Deleteladies that jump from one prophet house to the other.
You need to work on yourself weather this works out or not so you do not keep running from one pastors house to the other.
Something is not right with u sis.
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DeleteEven if no pastor says anything to him, he should apologize to the family. It’s not fair to them to get happy and have it snatched so just do the humane thing and have a big member of his family call that family to talk about it and say sorry etc etc
ReplyDeleteLife is not always war
The elders that followed him for intro should know what to do
I don't think any apology is needed in this matter
ReplyDeleteI just tire ooo
DeleteFrom one pastito another
Kilode
Ogini
It is well with you o🙏🙏
You have not even married this man I am already having headache on your behalf..if you know you want to be crying every day after marriage or you know you have hard mind then risk it by marrying him.if not just bounce now love is not enough reason for sleepless night..
ReplyDeleteI think you will have issues at the beginning of the marriage but eventually all will settle out and be in the past. The first year may not end up being rosy like the average first year of most marriages. If you can get through the turbulence of the first year then everyone will come together afterwards.
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DeleteWhatever ish or problem he has with his ex is none of your business. He knows what the problem is, he should go and settle it or apologize to them. Let the foundation of the relationship build on or beings with peace not problem.
ReplyDeleteI love your positive mindset. Just hang in there while you give him time to sort things out with his ex. If it's really meant to be like you said that pastors told you that he is your husband, it will be.
Poster do not be afraid, love conquers everything. Since you loves each other go on and marry him. Nothing good comes easy most in most cases. In all put your matter before God.
ReplyDeleteLove doesn’t conquer anything. It is even one of the leading causes of death and pain. It dulls your capacity to think objectively and is like a drug. Common sense, divine wisdom and self presentation are more profitable.
DeleteGo ahead nothing will happen but encourage him to apologize after all we offend God and He also forgive us ;and make God your cornerstone be prayerful but you will be fine
ReplyDeleteBottom line is for you to be very prayerful and know God for yourself.
ReplyDeleteI wish you the very best
You never enter you don dey fight battle, sga be battle ready in that marriage cos na war you dey enter with your eyes open so.
ReplyDeleteYou go to lot of prophet and them say them say places
ReplyDeleteWetin una de fine from one prophet to another?
ReplyDeletePoster pls do not rush into marriage with him.he needs to tell you everything that transpired between them.
ReplyDeleteTradition is tradition! If he was suppose to go to the ex girlfriend's home with some elders for an apology,then so be it.everything must be resolved amicably before you settle with him.
Above all,pray and commit all to God.if he was truly meant for you,no one can take him away.
Take it one day at a time
ReplyDeleteIt will work out
You kuku love him so have no fear
Pray and carry on with the marriage,they were not meant to be together,her own man will locate her sooner.
ReplyDelete1. When you circle your life with many pastors and prophets, you are definitely going to be confused.
ReplyDelete2. Learn how to pray on your own and have faith in your prayers.
3. Your intending husband has no business going to beg anybody. Introduction is not marriage.
4. Concentrate on your up-coming marriage and plan your home with husband.
5. For your information, I did introduction with my ex and left her for some obvious disagreement. I had to cut off completely to avoid distractions. Today, I am happily married with 3 boys. We are 13 years old and doing fantastically well.
4. Don't let anybody put fear into you. Stay strong and fight your battles with prayers.
Poster in all of this have you seek God first?
ReplyDeleteHow is your relationship with God?go and seek God yourself before going from one prophet to another.interact with God your father he made you and he direct your path and he show you great and mighty things before any body will confirm for you peace
Toomuch problems, too much interference from pastors and prophets. Both of you have no minds of your own... easily controlled and manipulated by outside forces. Can't deal! Toomuch struggle to keep a man... omg! I can feel the stress oozing from this chronicle. Don't you like peaceful relationships?
ReplyDeleteUmmmm... What century are we again? OP is still doing the pastor thingy? You ain't ready yet. If your own experiences cannot validate and aid your decision making, then you are certainly not ready for what comes with marriage.
ReplyDeletePutting myself in the exe's shoes, I won't accept the apology. Many of you are saying the ex should move on. Have you put yourself in her shoes? Do you know how much she believed that the guy wasn't going to leave her? Have you thought of the many assurance she must have gotten from the guy? What was her offence? That her dad refused to settle family issue? Ok fine. Did he in anyway let her and her parents know that he can't marry her as a result of that?
ReplyDeleteRaise alter raise alter. What did you use in raising the alter? lol. Money right?
U are not married and u have all diz story, when you get married what will happen,let him sort himself out before getting married to you.
ReplyDeleteI really don't see the need for him to go and apologize to her family tbvh. Just move on.
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