ADVICE NEEDED URGENTLY
There's this guy I knew back in Lagos, we became close cos we attended the same tertiary institute and he lives close to me,
So one day he confided in me that he's HIV positive, I encouraged him that it's no death sentence, I even encouraged him to go to Igando General hospital and be collecting drugs, which he was doing, but suddenly, I was seeing different women in his house, he was changing them like wrapper, it didn't sit well with me, so I gave a tip-off to the Baale of our street and then they arrested him, found him guilty and he was sent away from my street and the entire local government, we talked on phone a few times but then we lost contact (or rather I stopped calling him but I do see his status updates on WhatsApp).
I later found out that he moved back to Warri, I saw one of our school mates on his status the other day , at first I thought it was just a school reunion thing but last, I saw them locking lips online, let me tell you a little about this girl.
She's beautiful, tall, well shaped but very desperate, infact she can do anything to answer Mrs somebody, about 2yrs ago, I called her like a close friend and told her that she's past 40 and since husband was not coming, that she should try and get pregnant, so she won't end up alone (the reason I said so is simply because, she's an orphan, an only child of her late parents with too many wicked uncles who took everything from her and left her stranded), I knew all this cos she told me, so I suggested she should get pregnant now that she can.
Na so this girl pick me up, finished me with talk, told me that she's way older than me and I don't have the right to advice her, that she no blame me, she blames herself for stooping to become my friend, that do I think everyone would want to be like me? Single mom, struggling to survive, looking tattered always, that God forbid it ooo, she will never have any children out of wedlock, there's nothing she didn't tell me and then blocked me.
Please my worry now is, I know this guy has taken advantage of her desperation, I know he's on fire to spread the virus, please how do I tell this girl to run (that's if she's not infected already), this girl too get sharp bad mouth, what she told me the other time almost killed me, I don't want another one, should I mind my business or find a way to tip her off? Please treat as urgent....
So one day he confided in me that he's HIV positive, I encouraged him that it's no death sentence, I even encouraged him to go to Igando General hospital and be collecting drugs, which he was doing, but suddenly, I was seeing different women in his house, he was changing them like wrapper, it didn't sit well with me, so I gave a tip-off to the Baale of our street and then they arrested him, found him guilty and he was sent away from my street and the entire local government, we talked on phone a few times but then we lost contact (or rather I stopped calling him but I do see his status updates on WhatsApp).
I later found out that he moved back to Warri, I saw one of our school mates on his status the other day , at first I thought it was just a school reunion thing but last, I saw them locking lips online, let me tell you a little about this girl.
She's beautiful, tall, well shaped but very desperate, infact she can do anything to answer Mrs somebody, about 2yrs ago, I called her like a close friend and told her that she's past 40 and since husband was not coming, that she should try and get pregnant, so she won't end up alone (the reason I said so is simply because, she's an orphan, an only child of her late parents with too many wicked uncles who took everything from her and left her stranded), I knew all this cos she told me, so I suggested she should get pregnant now that she can.
Na so this girl pick me up, finished me with talk, told me that she's way older than me and I don't have the right to advice her, that she no blame me, she blames herself for stooping to become my friend, that do I think everyone would want to be like me? Single mom, struggling to survive, looking tattered always, that God forbid it ooo, she will never have any children out of wedlock, there's nothing she didn't tell me and then blocked me.
Please my worry now is, I know this guy has taken advantage of her desperation, I know he's on fire to spread the virus, please how do I tell this girl to run (that's if she's not infected already), this girl too get sharp bad mouth, what she told me the other time almost killed me, I don't want another one, should I mind my business or find a way to tip her off? Please treat as urgent....
You tipped off someone before and he didnt know it was you so you can do it again but it might be too late.....He might be taking his medication though but if you are certain that he is spreading it, you need to report him as well to the appropraite authority ..
If you look for a way to tell her, will she believe you?Get his address and report him plese as you tip her of whats going on....
Hmmm these days we even hear of spouses infecting each other...
Rest in peace to my Big brother Biggie, who died from the complications of HIV/AIDS in 1998
Better face front and mind your business
ReplyDeleteFace front and mind your business is what has kept your country the way it is, yet your likes have been banging on about paternity fraud??? You lot deserve yourselves.Tuehhhh!
DeletePoster your pokenosing no get part 2, what!!!
DeleteHow do you know he is on a mission to spread the virus? If you took some of the time you spent spreading his news to actually educate yourself, you would have realized that one can be a carrier of the virus without transmitting to other people (as long as the viral load is very low) which is very achievable if he takes his drugs religiously.
Guy might have just been going through his hoe era without the intention of actually infecting people but see how you made that guy ostracized from the community because of your oversabi!
You have carried this same attitude to somewhere else when, she warned you off her the last time but here you are again, leave them alone, they are both adults!!
Every educated adult knows that they run the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections if they sleep with someone unprotected, and are therefore consenting to bear the consequences of their action or inaction. Plus if you choose to want to marry someone in this era without first carrying out those necessary premarital tests required, whatever your eyes see later, just bear am, na the price of burying your head in the sand be that.
I agree with goke.
DeleteYes, mind your business.
ReplyDeleteIf you tell her, you’ll be at risk cos she’ll tell the guy and he will figure out it was you who first told your community head.
He will not hesitate to harm you and your child.
If she gets infected, Na she sabi.
Sluttychic.
Hope your thought process doesn't come back to bite you
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ReplyDeleteAbeg, do this thing with sense abeg.. How sure are you that your friend will even believe you? Because once she is totally in love, wahala don come be that ooo and how sure are we now that the lady isn't infected already?
Follow Stella's advice
People should practice safe sex. How many people do you want to tip off.
ReplyDeleteThank you oh, same thing I typed above.
DeleteHmmmm don't know what to advise so you don't implicate yourself
ReplyDeleteThis seems like a tough one. But you will need to be the bigger person here. Find a way to tip her off. But if he is on medication and has been for years, his viral load may be hardly detectable by now. Find a way to let her know. Her fiance is a killer for willingly and deliberately passing on HIV infection to unsuspecting victims. He took away their right to a healthy life. I don't think he should get away with it. Let her know and if she walks away from him, all the better.
ReplyDeleteYou will do well to be as anonymous as possible.
Abstinence still remain the best for me. Sometimes I wonder how people comfortably go raw with someone that's not even their partner? Like how do you do that being pounded without co***m.
ReplyDeleteYou didn't go for test or know the person medical history. So strange to me but I'm not surprise.
There's how you will tip her, she will confront the guy and he suspect it's you and may harm you if he looks out for you. The tipping should be done professionally.
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First of all, what your friend said is true… not everyone wants to be a single mother. Single motherhood is in fact, mostly undesirable… so what gave you the temerity to give her that kind of advice?
ReplyDeleteAnyway, you can tip her off anonymously about this guy’s status.
Lol… that means you don’t know the minds most single mothers ( not widows o). Just like that entitled one on this blog, the way they pray for a lot of other women to be like them ehn?? Misery indeed loves company.
DeleteThey always give single ladies advice that would make them (single ladies) be like them, always quick to tell married women to leave their husbands over the slightest cough and always supporting young girls to go out and have sex as it’s just a normal human activity’. 😅
DeleteLook at these ones! It is your type that will be suffering and smiling all in the name of answering Mrs. Not everyone is like you people, who would rather die than leave abusive marriages. Awon men are the prize.
Delete20:38, and if that was all it wouldn't be so bad. Some of them can't even put a pot of water on the fire to cook a decent meal without first having to ask a single person for help out, even with a husband in their lives. Then when their brutes finally see money the first thing they do is upgrade them. Not to mention how many of us have had to beat their married men off us and use words we don't even like to speak so they would go back home to their long suffering wives and leave our asses alone because we're not interested in what is swinging between their legs. Mtssccchhhhhwwww
DeletePoster you have a good heart..But this lady insulted you before, how sure are you that she would take same advice from you plus she might blow your cover to this man...Then he might add 2 + 2 that you were the one that outed him...
ReplyDeleteLet's just hope he has done the right thing this time around...If you can, tip off the authorities okay but if you can't, just let it be like that...All the best
Send an anonymous message to her.
ReplyDeleteDo it anonymously like the first time, even if it is too late she will at least start taking her drugs
ReplyDeleteThose of you saying her advise was bad, pls think again,I know of a man he should be around 60 plus, during his youths he was the talk of the town,he has everything but refuse to marry or have a child,now he's ill, whenever he's going for a check up he end up calling people to accompany him or one small girl in charge of his ATM! so having child out of a wedlock isn't good but it's better than none..... I'm a single mom, I'm not proud of it but at my age I'm happy
ReplyDeleteThere is no guarantee that your child will look after you. There are lots of abandoned old people who have children all over the place. It’s not news that some even claim their parents are witches and the source of their problems. Best to save for retirement so you have enough money to pay for your own care when you are old. It’s complete folly to rely on someone else, even if it’s your child.
DeleteI gave the exact same advice to a friend of mine, but only because I knew she has always wanted to be a mother. But I suppose adopting is viewed as 'cleaner' than having a child out of wedlock in the minds of some. Now she is still unmarried and has to be looking for a man younger than herself to have a better chance of having a child without complications, because old sperm is just as problematic as old eggs and she is well above 35. It's sad out here for folks who think youth and time will always be available.
DeleteDid you enter for the single mother's giveaway?
Anon 16:42 leave people alone, evil moron, old sperm is bad bla bla bla, life never humble you even with so called children. Mugus
Delete16:42, it’s not ‘cleaner in the minds of some’ as u put it like it is human beings that make the rules. It is God that said get married first before having children, because He wants to uphold the sanctity of marriage and the family institution. Societies that have a break down in the family unit are already beginning to face the consequences, more is coming ahead. So pls don’t talk like the rule is man made. Till today, i have not seen any religion that celebrates giving birth out of wedlock. Every religion in the world frowns upon it, so still want to uphold their faith. Because some people have fallen short does not mean it is something we should keep encouraging. We would keep preaching the word of God, call us prudish, backward or hypocrites but we would keep saying it, just the same way you lot never miss an opportunity to encourage women to fornicate and have kids out of wedlock✌️
Delete18:52, it takes one to know one, so I know anything you speak of others is exactly what you are and more. Misery like you seek ppl to have less than you so you can feel superior. I know your types. You think having a child is a blessing only for those who are married and no one else should have that privilege because they are unmarried. Hop off my comment and go terrorize yourself. Mtsscchhwww
Delete19:20, please direct me to the scripture that specifically states that one must marry before having children coming directly from God and not the cultural expectations of the day? I am not being facetious, I just do not know where this scripture is in the Christian Bible. To my recollection, neither Adam nor Eve were married in a manner that we could call married today, and even Mary, the mother of Jesus, was impregnated without being married first. If these two incidents are to be taken into consideration, it shows that humans are projecting their own interpretations and then claiming it as gospel ordained by God.
You are 100% correct that most, if not all religions frowns upon children being born out of wedlock, but God said the way of men are different from His own and that there is no purity among men. He even went as far as regretting to create humans, even sent a flood to kill off the majority. God is not invested in the feelings, desires, cultures and norms of most humans. God likes rebels and ppl who go against human ways justly, with humanity, and empathy, that’s why Jesus was a rebel and not a conformer!
Is like what that lady told you that almost killed you is nit enough for you, you want her to kukuma finish you this time around and your child will be left alone. You better mind your business of telling her anything, she is an adult who should be allowed to make her own decisions or choices. Face your front or your child, she knows about contacting deadly diseases with Cohabiting so why are you here trying to play her saviour 🤔
ReplyDeleteYou can report that bustard to the right authorities but do not tell her anything cos she will use you yo play love with the same person. If that guy finds out that you told her about his status, you will be a dead person 😂 🤣
At this point, the guy should be arrested. How do you have the nerve to get angry because you refused to practice safe sex and then contracted HIV? Now he wants to spread it to as many people as possible.
ReplyDeleteWicked practices like that is the reason he will never get a miracle cure for the disease.
DeleteWicked practices like that are the reason he will never get a miracle cure for the disease.
DeleteIf you decide to tip her off.
ReplyDeletePlease protect yourself and avoid doing it in a way that it will be traced back to you cuz she will definitely tell the guy.
There's lil or next our authorities can do. Who will monitor him and for how long
I think you should mind your business, before the lady will tell the man, don't let the guy harm you.
ReplyDeleteMany things to unpack here. How do you know that he has not told her of his status already? Plus, some churches require hiv testing prior to marriage and some local govt require it upon marriage certificate request. You have a strong conscience and is trying to help someone, but is it really any of your business, especially if they are in a committed relationship? Some ppl will do anything in the name of love, even willingly contract a std. I honestly would not make it any of my business because you do not know the depth of their relationship or anything about their lives. He may have been horrible in the past, but he could have changed and be taking his medication religiously which reduces the viral load to a level it cannot be transmitted. Now, you go playing superhero and disturb these ppl's lives. It is not your place to say anything without knowing their lives on a deeper level, and you are neither of their friend or family, you know absolutely nothing about their union except that he has hiv. Even ppl with hiv deserve love. Will you monitor his social media and run to every woman he shows interest in. My dear, look at your own life and let your focus be there. Pray to God to take control and to guide and protect them if you feel you need to do something.
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DeleteLook for a way to tell her..
ReplyDeleteLook for a way to tell her..
ReplyDeleteSo the guy should remain single cos he is positive?.
ReplyDeletePlease mind your business
You're evil, is that what she is implying?
DeleteWawu
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, but it seems you have sooo much on your hands that you monitor this guy even as he no longer stays in your location. What if he has told this lady about his status?
Can you mind your business please?
Please use unknown number to inform her also try and report to the appropriate authorities they know what to do
ReplyDeletePoster, hmmm. Are you sure you were not one of his partners in the past, because you are too invested in this guys life and relationship? What is your motivation for monitoring his life so closely?
ReplyDeletePoverty, unemployment, and sexual immorality has taken over our society, coupled with this unhinged immorality we see daily on the internet that makes people think it’s ok to engage indiscriminately in intimate relationships with strangers and anyone for that matter.
Do whatever you want, but don’t assume she is not a carrier like the guy. Women sef follow dey spread the thing. Be careful, he has rights too.
If only you guys knows how many celebrities are spreading this thing ehn, Married and unmarried Una no go near raw
ReplyDeleteI believe many ppl are unknown carriers .
DeleteYou're just jealous. Face your front
ReplyDeleteJealousy did not arise here, please. She's jealous because of a HIV patient? This your comment did not enter today.
DeleteAnother knuckle head!
DeleteHow can someone that is sexually active be ashamed of having children outside wedlock. You no dey do the do? Na wa o. What are you hiding again?
ReplyDeleteThey probably don't want to drag their kids into problematic lives.
DeletePls find a way to tell her and she should go check her status.people are wicked these days,we need to stick to one partner.
ReplyDeleteKnowledge is power. My youngest sister was ill and almost died. She confided in me that she is HIV positive. I stay far from her. I made arrangements with a doctor and sent drugs to her. Few weeks later he health improved. I brought her to stay with me. Within two mouths you will not recognize her again. Her health and body came back. It's been 10 years. She is married with children. Her hubby is negative and her children are negative. Anon seek knowledge. That guy confided in you for a reason. Changing women Is bad but you can be HIV positive without transferring the virus to another person. People don't disclose their status because of people like you. That your school mate might be aware of the guys status. If he can confide in you, then he might also tell her. Stay your lane to avoid stories that touch
ReplyDeleteGet a new SIM and send her an anonymous message. Do ensure that you discard the SIM immediately after the tip off. In all don't let the guy or the lady know that you are behind the information.
ReplyDeleteToo much of diseases everywhere, one needs to be very careful. No dey spread leg everywhere and anyhow.
ReplyDeleteIf it's me, I would be restless till I can tell the person about the guy's status. Please find a way to let her know. RIP to your brother aunty Stella
ReplyDeleteNigeria has a long way to go with this “it’s not your business” attitude to a man that seems like a public health risk. Just as you all remember that the viral load can decrease with meds also remember it is a CRIME in developed countries to knowingly foot with anyone without telling them. It is the decision of the other party. Many of the things that make a society a good or unbearable one are these seemingly innocuous “little” things. La Raza (Hispanic for the community or the race or the collective) is a philosophy missing among black Africans and it’s the reason a senator who never held a real job can have a luxury car garage of $millions, it’s the reason people are illegally mining in Osun and other states, it’s the reason oil wells were shared among a free people.
ReplyDeleteNo one looks out for the collective, it’s not their business. It is everyone’s business but with the general mindset of many, she could be in danger for talking so she needs to contact the ministry of health anonymously to save many victims. It is not victimless. If he is taking meds and someone contacts it from him and doesn’t know and doesn’t take meds and dies, it’s murder. Just to save himself from embarrassment he is risking the lives of others? It’s not a victimless crime and public health is everyone’s business. They detained covid19 patients in China to prevent the spread before the vaccines were discovered! It’s her business.
If you steal money meant for road construction and people die of road accidents due to the bad road, you committed murder. We have to change our mindset from ourselves alone to thinking of others.
💯 💯 💯 thank you for this insightful contribution!!!
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