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THE SISTER IN LAW FROM HELL THAT NEVER WAS...

My brother's fiancée was transferred to my city, so he told me she wanted to come over to my place while she looked for an apartment in the next few days and then move to her own place. They dated for a few months before he traveled, but he was intentional and wanted marriage.

When she came, she didn't raise the topic of whether she would continue living with me or leave afterward, and I didn't bring it up either so it wouldn't look like I was pushing her out. She started going to the office from my home, so I figured she preferred staying with me, and I allowed it, thinking it would be fun to have her around. We are the same age, by the way. 

We started attending my church, hanging out, and all.

When she arrived, someone was about to get married in church and brought clothing material for the event to those who would attend the celebration. I had already bought mine earlier and sewn it before she came, but knowing we would both be going to the event together, I ordered hers too. I gave it to her, and she seemed excited until I wore my attire and she realized I bought shoes that matched the outfit. 

Her mood changed instantly. 

I thought I was imagining things, but she was withdrawn, giving me one-word replies. So I called the lady who sold me the shoes to ask if she had another pair and she said yes. I asked her to bring them on her way home. I later handed the shoes to her and Immediately, her mood changed, and she became her chatty self. 

This was someone who was cold to me throughout the day, my impression of her just dwindled.

Later, I figured if I bought anything and didn't buy for her, it was a problem, and when I wore something and didn't get her the same thing, it was also a problem, unless it was something I already had before she came over. Otherwise, she would ignore me and keep to herself. 

Funny enough, sometimes I bought many things for her without buying for myself, but she never saw anything wrong with that until it was the other way around.

This lady didn't spend a dime living with me. Everything was free, but I didn't mind because, to me, it was nothing. This same lady would leave the house with me on Sundays, but immediately we stepped into the church, she would make sure to get a different seat far away from me.

 I thought she was acting weird but shook it off and convinced myself she probably wanted to mingle with others. She would go and sit in a different place but when she noticed I was talking to others, she would appear from wherever she was and interrupt the conversation without acknowledging the other person or saying excuse me before cutting them off. Sometimes she looked at them nastily and even asked me once why was I being friendly to a church member that couldn't I see the lady wore cheap clothes and pre-loved shoes.

She was supposed to go for her passport collection coincidentally I also waiting for collection but the official she called told her that her passport wasn't ready while the guy I called told me mine was ready. 

She applied before she came to my place at a different location so I knew nothing about it. I felt bad for her and I tried to converse with her to cheer her up, but before I could open my mouth, she said to me, ''It is not how far but how well,''.

 I was taken aback, and she repeated that statement again while looking angry until she walked away from me. That shut me up, and I wondered why she would utter such words to me as if we were competing against each other. I quickly brushed it off though it rubbed me the wrong way.

One day I walked up to her, and she stared at the pants I had on, gave me a very nasty look, then walked away while ignoring my greetings. I didn't know what to make of that, but later in the evening, she came to me and asked how much I got the pants for. Then she brought out her phone and took a picture of me. I am a very generous and fair person, but I started to find her rather unpleasant and unlikable.
She also doesn't cook. I wasn't bothered because she already told me that was a chore she hated, so I overlooked that. I cook, and when I'm not feeling like it, I order food for both of us. But one thing I noticed is that whenever I finish cooking, she swiftly walks out of her room to dish her food before I dish mine and goes back in without even saying well done or thanks. 

She will look puffed up most times, like she is angry, maybe due to being famished, I don't really know. I believe courtesy demands she allows me, who went through the stress of cooking, to dish my food first before she comes to take hers, but she always rushes to the kitchen to take hers first.

I ignored all of that as just petty annoyance until one day she asked if we could get something to eat. I didn't want to go because I had menstrual pain.
Sometimes on the first day of my period, I feel dizzy, sweaty, I vomit, and purge a lot, which I had already explained to her, and she had seen it happen herself while we were both in the house. Thank God I have my own firm, else I wonder how I would cope at work. 

One day, the driver had to quickly park beside the road, and I vomited on the street when I couldn't control it anymore. So, sometimes I hardly go out on the first day of my period. But I told myself she was beside me, so there was no reason to worry.

We went to a restaurant 45 minutes' walk from the house. On our way back, the pain intensified to the point that I couldn't walk, I was starting to feel dizzy. Mind you, she was right beside me, and we were walking home together, chatting and laughing after getting the food.

 I saw her look at me and was hoping she would hold my hand or something or even say Sorry. Suddenly, she quickened her footsteps and started walking faster. I thought I was dreaming, but she would walk faster and look behind herself to take a few glances at me, then quicken her steps to walk even faster when she noticed I was about to catch up with her. I was in shock and in pain, but I didn't even have the strength to call out to her to please wait for me until she walked out of sight. I got home later, and I saw her, she stared at me with a sarcastic look on her face but didn't utter a word then went out. I dragged myself in and was too weak to question her about her actions.

The third day, when I was strong enough, I gave her just the weekend to pack all her stuff and leave me alone. I was tired of her, and I couldn't care whether he was planning to marry her or not. This was someone that when a lady in the estate brought an expensive fabric to us for her wedding, and since I would be paying for two people, I called her aside and told her that we should share 5 yards among ourselves since we are ladies and can be creative with the material no matter how small, and the style would still come out beautiful. 10 yards was too expensive but Instead of agreeing or disagreeing, or even suggesting to buy the extra 5 yards, she didn't utter a word and had an angry look on her face. You will pass right, she would go left, when you talk to her instead of responding she will just shrug. She kept malice with me. until I went back and got an extra 5 yards for her the next day, and suddenly she became friendly and started chatting with me.

All of this was with my money. I am very comfortable, and she knows her fiancé is not the one footing anything, so I couldn't fathom where her attitude was coming from. He is comfortable too everyone in the family can hold their own, so we don't need anything from each other, and he didn't have to give me anything.

Anyway, when I told her to leave, suddenly my brother called me and asked what happened. I narrated everything to him and told him she must leave my place. I told him I don't like her at all and I don't want her in my space. She left that weekend.

The issue now is that when I have issues with someone, I am not the kind to start spreading rumors. Nobody will even know we no longer relate because, to me, they just want to be fed free gossip. But this lady has gone to spoil my name in church while I was busy keeping quiet and acting maturely. I noticed some church members whom she was close to would ignore me when I greeted them. 

Until one person she had an issue with recently came to meet me to apologize for hating me. She said she hated me because she heard from her that I sent her out of the house and prevented her from being married and relocating abroad. That was when I even knew he has broken up the relationship with her. So because of that she said the pastor is planning to call me and her to help resolve the matter and also talk to my brother to forgive her.
 The pastor knew her through me. I brought her to the church and she lied to him and everyone that they have done their engagement which isn't true, he hasn't even proposed.

Normally, I wouldn't have accepted the arrangement of her coming to stay with me if I had foreseen it would turn out this way. If it was an outsider having accommodation issues, my kind of person would prefer they go on a house hunt then pay the house rent on their behalf rather than stay under the same roof with me. But they were in a relationship, and I didn't see the need to refuse.

This lady has gone ahead to lie against me in a church that I have been going to respectfully for two years, and I don't like anything to bring my leg outside. This issue is now the latest topic in church. Should I just leave the Church for her?because I don't believe in tabling my private matter before outsiders, even Pastors.
How should I handle everything? I would like your suggestions. Thanks.

In fact no need for long story...Just leave the Church for them and find somewhere else to serve God...Even if you decide to go for settlement, the damage has been done..Move on!

You dont know what you saved your brother from...