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SISTERS AT WAR
My elder sister is 4 years older than I am. I am 34 while she is 38. We are not close and we hardly talk to each other.
This is someone who met my fiance who is older than she is but insisted that he must address her with respect when talking to her. My mother told her, but this man is older than you and you call him by his name and he doesn't mind so why are you making a big deal about this but she refused and he doesn't even ask after her like he used to..
SISTERS AT WAR
My elder sister is 4 years older than I am. I am 34 while she is 38. We are not close and we hardly talk to each other.
For a whole year we wouldn't interact except on birthdays we exchange greetings and face front. Why I kept my distance from her is that she is very patronizing and wishes to be successful above everyone. She always says she is the lucky one among us all and our parents would warn her not to talk like that. She compares and silently competes with you in her head.
There was one day the third girl called me to complain about her.
She called the third girl on the phone and said she wants to say hello to her children. That one innocently gave her child the phone and luckily for her, the phone was on speaker. Only for her to hear our first sister asking her daughter what position she took in school and if she knows how to recite the timetable perfectly.
There was one day the third girl called me to complain about her.
She called the third girl on the phone and said she wants to say hello to her children. That one innocently gave her child the phone and luckily for her, the phone was on speaker. Only for her to hear our first sister asking her daughter what position she took in school and if she knows how to recite the timetable perfectly.
She said our first sister was trying to pick her child's brain, and she had to take the phone away from her child. She said she kept asking the girl to recite the time table and bragged about how her own son, two younger, could recite the timetable perfectly. She is married with two kids and the second one is too. The second one is very gentle and tolerates her.
I didn't even know the magnitude of her annoying ways until we went to our grandparent's burial. She went to the kitchen to dish food for herself, came back to the living room carrying one plate of food in one hand while the second hand was free. Then, before sitting down, she turned to me and told me to get her water to drink.
I didn't even know the magnitude of her annoying ways until we went to our grandparent's burial. She went to the kitchen to dish food for herself, came back to the living room carrying one plate of food in one hand while the second hand was free. Then, before sitting down, she turned to me and told me to get her water to drink.
It was shocking because we were not raised that way. Right from childhood our parent would tell us to respect each other and send no siblings errands because no one is anyone's parent among us besides they want us to be close and relate like best friend unlike my father's siblings while growing up who took advantage of the fact that their own parent allowed them to order them around and eventually saw it normal to use them as servants for them and their children.
Second reason I was in shock was that she could take food but couldn't take a bottled water and the fridge and freezer were in the kitchen filled up with drinks. Also, we all grew up together and right from childhood, everyone does their errands themselves till we all parted ways and left home after graduating from the university, so I was wondering when everything changed.
When she saw I was reluctant to stand up, the next thing she said to was, is she too small to send me on an errand and called me an idiot while hissing at me? I was furious, but I didn't want to ruin the event. I got up and got her what she wanted but you can imagine the anger and shock I felt when I realized that her 10 years old son sat beside her all along on the tiles, playing a game on her phone and she ignored him and send me instead. I asked her, why didn't you send your son since you couldn't get it yourself, knowing fully well he has been sitting beside you all along? The next thing she said shocked me. She said her son does not know where the fridge is while giving me a dismissive look.
Stella, can you imagine? A 10-year-old boy does not know where the fridge is? Do you know this same son of hers had gone to the kitchen in my presence to take juice, yogurt and ice-cream from the fridge countless times? As a matter of fact, he was already in that house a few days before everyone got there. He spends months there a lot during his holidays. I looked at the boy, looked at her and I felt like pulling her wig off. Why would you let a little kid beside you be and send me who was seated far away from you on an errand instead?
I let that slide.
I am not married yet and to her, I am job-hunting after I left my job, but what she doesn't know is that I have investments and whether I get a white-collar job, I can never go broke or hungry. The one who flaunts her wealth among us, she helps that her to carry her bag even though she is older than her.
Anyway, an aunt had a birthday celebration, and she was there and as usual she asked me to stand up and cook noodles for her two sons. I ignored her. She said it again. I ignored her and the next thing she said, are you deaf? I was so infuriated and I gave her the warning of her life and told her never to talk to me anyhow again. She started fuming and insulting me and our dad was there and told her that respect is reciprocal. That no matter how old she is than I am, it doesn't change the fact that I am also a grown woman like her and simply because I am not married yet doesn't mean I am a child and it doesn't give her any right to look down on me.
Second reason I was in shock was that she could take food but couldn't take a bottled water and the fridge and freezer were in the kitchen filled up with drinks. Also, we all grew up together and right from childhood, everyone does their errands themselves till we all parted ways and left home after graduating from the university, so I was wondering when everything changed.
When she saw I was reluctant to stand up, the next thing she said to was, is she too small to send me on an errand and called me an idiot while hissing at me? I was furious, but I didn't want to ruin the event. I got up and got her what she wanted but you can imagine the anger and shock I felt when I realized that her 10 years old son sat beside her all along on the tiles, playing a game on her phone and she ignored him and send me instead. I asked her, why didn't you send your son since you couldn't get it yourself, knowing fully well he has been sitting beside you all along? The next thing she said shocked me. She said her son does not know where the fridge is while giving me a dismissive look.
Stella, can you imagine? A 10-year-old boy does not know where the fridge is? Do you know this same son of hers had gone to the kitchen in my presence to take juice, yogurt and ice-cream from the fridge countless times? As a matter of fact, he was already in that house a few days before everyone got there. He spends months there a lot during his holidays. I looked at the boy, looked at her and I felt like pulling her wig off. Why would you let a little kid beside you be and send me who was seated far away from you on an errand instead?
I let that slide.
I am not married yet and to her, I am job-hunting after I left my job, but what she doesn't know is that I have investments and whether I get a white-collar job, I can never go broke or hungry. The one who flaunts her wealth among us, she helps that her to carry her bag even though she is older than her.
Anyway, an aunt had a birthday celebration, and she was there and as usual she asked me to stand up and cook noodles for her two sons. I ignored her. She said it again. I ignored her and the next thing she said, are you deaf? I was so infuriated and I gave her the warning of her life and told her never to talk to me anyhow again. She started fuming and insulting me and our dad was there and told her that respect is reciprocal. That no matter how old she is than I am, it doesn't change the fact that I am also a grown woman like her and simply because I am not married yet doesn't mean I am a child and it doesn't give her any right to look down on me.
He told her to get her sons something to eat herself.
He asked her how can she feel so comfortable trying to order me around at my age when we are supposed to relate like best-friends instead but she refused to keep quiet talking about she is older than I am and she may send me on an errand. I told her if she can't do things herself, she should make sure she always goes everywhere with a servant and stop disturbing others. This is someone I have never disturbed for anything, so I don't know why she wouldn't let me be.
The next thing she slapped me. It infuriated me even my parent does not hit us. The last time they spanked us was when we were all below 10 years old, but since we grew older, they treat us with respect and kindness. Honestly, I got angry but my dad told me never to hit my elder sister, so since I couldn't hit her, I took one of her sons and returned the favour. She got upset and slapped me again and I returned the favour to her second child.
The thing is, people are saying I was wrong for hitting her kids considering she was the one that hit me, but what was I supposed to do? Was I supposed to just watch and let her abuse me? Am I not someone's kid too? She slapped me in front of my parents and I slapped her children too in front of her, so no cheating. Just like her children, I am also someone's child too and I didn't just drop from heaven.
They said I should apologize to her children, and I said I would only do that if she apologises to me too. Please was I wrong?
He asked her how can she feel so comfortable trying to order me around at my age when we are supposed to relate like best-friends instead but she refused to keep quiet talking about she is older than I am and she may send me on an errand. I told her if she can't do things herself, she should make sure she always goes everywhere with a servant and stop disturbing others. This is someone I have never disturbed for anything, so I don't know why she wouldn't let me be.
The next thing she slapped me. It infuriated me even my parent does not hit us. The last time they spanked us was when we were all below 10 years old, but since we grew older, they treat us with respect and kindness. Honestly, I got angry but my dad told me never to hit my elder sister, so since I couldn't hit her, I took one of her sons and returned the favour. She got upset and slapped me again and I returned the favour to her second child.
The thing is, people are saying I was wrong for hitting her kids considering she was the one that hit me, but what was I supposed to do? Was I supposed to just watch and let her abuse me? Am I not someone's kid too? She slapped me in front of my parents and I slapped her children too in front of her, so no cheating. Just like her children, I am also someone's child too and I didn't just drop from heaven.
They said I should apologize to her children, and I said I would only do that if she apologises to me too. Please was I wrong?
This is someone who met my fiance who is older than she is but insisted that he must address her with respect when talking to her. My mother told her, but this man is older than you and you call him by his name and he doesn't mind so why are you making a big deal about this but she refused and he doesn't even ask after her like he used to..
NB. I need to clear something I am not asking if it was wrong to hurt her indirectly with her kids what I am saying is, I told her I wouldn't apologize to the children because she is insisting she wouldn't apologize to me even if I apologize to them, because she was right to slap me for not obeying her and running errands for her. This is not the first time she slaps.
She has rained thunderous slaps on the second one that's 36 years old in the past, for not carrying out duties for her on time. That one just stood there crying because our parent has warned us never to raise hands on our older siblings. So she knew I wasn't going to hit her back. I demand an apology from her too, Simple!
Mind you, It would have been a different thing if she couldn't stand up because she was busy helping the caterers or under the weather and she couldn't leave to get water herself but she just sat down eating and told me to get up to give her a glass of water from the same kitchen she just left.
I dont care who was right or wrong but you had no right slapping those kids..NONE WHATSOEVER!!!!
Please apologise to the kids and buy them gifts and face front!!!
And next time if you must slap, return it like Bianca to the face of the person who slapped you OK?
She disobeyed your parents and slapped you, you also should have disobeyed your parents and given her the beating of her life.
ReplyDeleteApologise to those poor kids pls.
Dear Poster,
DeleteI was supporting you till when you slapped her children...Come on!!! you are wrong for slapping the kids that is a cowardly act on your part.....If your sister is unfortunately acting in an unruly manner...Why turn it on the innocent kids, you should have played the act of a bigger Aunt....Do you know the confusion in your niece or nephew's mind....You have to apologize the kids; you did wrong and it shows you are emotionally mature.....
I will tell you the truth, you are a mirror image of your elder sister but you do well in hiding yours...Nothing stops you from keeping your cool and immediately leave so you can maintain that respect....I always tell people make sure that in whatever issue or misunderstanding you find yourself, you don't take an action that will divert all the blame to you when you were actually done wrong and dirty.....
Learn to control your emotions and not give people a wrong impression about you....Make sure you define clear boundaries with your elder sister...Shame on your sister if she chooses not to apologize to you...Just avoid her at all costs...
All the best...
Simple! The next time, she slaps you, give her a dirty resounding slap so she learns to keep her hands under control. Until you return the favour, she won't learn cos she feels you dare not retaliate. You can apologise to her kids cos they will never forget how you hit them but no apology for their mum.
DeleteNa wa. There’s nothing I dislike more than seeing siblings in rivalry or without love for each other. I always wonder how come.
DeleteLike I said before, you had no business hitting her kids, so you have to apologise to them, (whether she apologises to you or not). Yea your Dad said you shouldn't hit her, reason why she acts like that. If I were you, I would have slapped her twice, left and right, and give her the warning of her life. Y'all need to stand up to her, and put an end to this nonsesne.
ReplyDeleteYou really had no business touching her kids. However, I will never apologize to her nor the kids. Respect is really reciprocal. She had no business hitting u either. Just reminds me of Adler's theory, with birt order, the first kid Cting all superior and bla bla bla. Your parents should enforce that she apologizes to you and then. U can apologize.
ReplyDeleteLastly, give her the warning of her life, tell her the next time she hits you, u would forget home raining and woze her back. A gorgeous slap that would make her see kilikiki stars. U day mad abii, me self dey mad.
Exactly! Poster should not have slapped the children but as she don slap them make e be. Next time their mother will think twice before acting a fool. I do admire her for standing up for herself (albeit in a wrong way).
DeletePoster, next time your sister lays hands on you, make sure you slap her back. She is crazy. Don’t apologize nothing to her, you may apologize to the kids.
You're very wrong poster. Plus all the things,you enumerated,paints you as the jealous and petty one.🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteYou're stupeed. It's always easy to throw the word jealous in the fray. Did you read the he same post we all read? On what badis is she jealous? It's comments as one of the reasons I left this blog. Are you m*d? You ediots give advice you won't tolerate or accommodate. You must not comment. You're so petty with your "see me here" attitude that nauseates. Go get a life.
DeletePoster, too many goody-two-shoes abound here. Don't apologize to her. It will change nothing. To have disobeyed your parents is the height of dis obedience. As siblings, your parts will continue to cross so far your parents are alive and she would want to show she's the eldest as if any one is dragging it with her. In the case she effs up again, rush her and beat her as if you're demented. That element of surprise will leave her immobile and that will be the end of her harassments.
Till she apologizes, don't apologize to her because she's feeling emboldened.
Rubbish
If you see any typo, na you know
I like that you respect your parents
ReplyDeleteApologize to the children
Apologize well
Next time if it happens again, take the food (not hot o) and pour it on her
That’s not hitting so you’re still respecting your parents 😁
Not the kids poster. That slap will stay with them for such a long time. They're innocent naw. Why you no face their mother.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, your sister has superiority complex abi Wetin be the English. Your own too dey your body. Honestly, you carry your sister for mind. The both of you should work on your communication so you'd understand each other better. You must not be friends that stage don pass but be respectful.
I know that feeling when some else hit my kid when he does something wrong,talk more of when he is innocent,poster you went too far with the kids,you should have faced your sis alone
ReplyDeletePoster, You need to apologize to those kids, they did nothing to you and you transfered your aggression to them.
ReplyDeleteThe first slap you recieved, you do deserve an apology for but you see the second slap , it was well deserved. I understand you are someone's child but hitting innocent kids is a HUGE NO. That is child abuse to me, it's not like you were discipline them for expectations not met by them.
If I were you, I would avoid this sibling from hell.
If you are both in a family meeting, sit away from her, she asked you a ridiculous favor , you ignore like you never heard, put on an ear bud and out the volume on high, no need walking away while she is talking except she comes face to face in a confronting manner.
If she raises her hand to hit you then you hit your aggressor back in self defense or if you want to stick with your parents injunction and be a punching bag too that's fine as well.
Messed up family. No love between siblings and no respect too .
ReplyDeleteYou wronged those kids and later in life, it would affect your relationship with them.
As if your family is perfect. Mtcheew.
DeleteI agree Prestige, really messed up! This did not start today, it started from their childhood and was overlooked by the parents! Na their adulthood e come dey extreme. Parents, shey una dey see am abi, correct that attitude now!
DeleteThey are not messed up
DeleteJust need some fixing
This is also happening in my family. I am the first born and only woman with three younger brothers but our last born is very arrogant, proud, very disrespectful to the three of us. He is out of the country and he does not care.
ReplyDeleteIf i talk to him, he must be very very rude. People said i shld accept him like that. The wifeis the rudest if theres a word like it. Our mother died recently but this boy did not call us once to symphatize even the wife has never called my mum since the beginning of their marriage. He shouted on the mother who single handedly trained him to university level when my mum was in pains last month before her death.
i havetold him and his wife, they will reap what they have sown. I observe that this also stems from parents when the children were young and when one is richer than the others, the parents might find it difficult to tell that child the truth and also maybe the spouse changed their sibling too
Why do you still call him
DeletePoster
ReplyDeleteI don't know you or your sister but from your write up, you should so troublesome. Like person wey get pepper body. You guys lack love in your family. No respect, especially you.
You are paranoid.
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DeleteNothing like pepper body.
DeleteIf you find yourself in that kinda thing, hot water may be small to use.
Posted you do well oooo better reset make she sef know say jingle done mature ! Nonsense
ReplyDeletePoster it was very wrong hitting her child,just apologize and face front,it won't change any in you.
ReplyDeleteIt seems to me like you are the type of person who has no respect, my dear you are very disrespectful.
ReplyDeleteWhy slap those kids?? What do you mean you can't help your sis get a drink?? What is there that you had to make a big deal out of it?
Apologize to her kids, your issues are with her not her kids??
I am sorry but your parents didn't manage this rivalry properly, how did things get so bad??
Na wa
May God help you all
I was supporting you until I got to the part where you hit her kids. That was so wrong of you pls
ReplyDeleteHitting the innocent children is all shed of wrong. You shouldn't have.
ReplyDeleteFace your sister next time and leave the children out of it
Wow
DeletePoster like everyone has said you shouldn't have hit those kids, you should have returned the slap to your sis... Well apologise to the kids
ReplyDeleteMake una go siddon some where. Apologies ko.
ReplyDeleteWarri pikin hahahaha
DeletePoster, you should have told her kids to always run errand for their mum. That they should be observant and pray for her, not hitting them.
Try buy them snacks and tell them sweet things about life, and use the opportunity to coach them small.
You are wrong for hitting on that kid who will remember for years to come ,it would have been right for you to hit your sister and as sibling you can keep hitting yourself forever but hitting a kid is evil.you are wrong
ReplyDeleteYou shouldn’t have slapped the kids, they did nothing to you. Slap who slapped you, no go Dey transfer aggression to innocent children.
ReplyDeletePoster I no support you slapping those kids oh. Face your issues with your elder sister squarely. Avoid her by all means. Like someone else suggested, in family settings, sit very far from her. If she comes to you for confrontations, walk away from her or rather walk out on her. She will gradually get the message.
ReplyDeleteYou're lucky I'm not that your elder sister . I hit you, you hit my kids !! Omo you will land in hospital by the time I'm done with you!!
ReplyDelete17.10, why hit her in the first place? She for hit all the yeye sister family like thrice!
DeleteYou must be stupid for hitting your sister who is also a grown adult. Hitting others in front of your kids is also very disrespectful.
DeletePoster, you did wrong by hitting her kid. Apologise to the kids and get them something. But avoid that your sister by all means.
ReplyDeleteI hate when siblings are in competition with each other. Sometimes, parents are cause of it.
All this bitterness on top water for your eldest sister? Na wa oooo. Weti my young sister and elder brothers do for me with easy and I also do for them. That is what is making you this angry, hmmm.
ReplyDeleteI can say a family where there’s no love among siblings cos all you explain here is not enough reason to be at longer head with each other.
And you went ahead to slap her kids, it only show you done love them cos you don’t love your sister. Your family dynamics get as e be. Better go and apologize to those kids and get them something that will make them happy with you miss investment. And pls work on your character too
Rest joh
DeleteDoes this sound like an ordinary help me get water to you
The issues you narrated up there, should not have escalated to this extent. Both you and your elder sister are immature and petty.
ReplyDeleteOn your part, simply ignoring her and not sitting where she is seated would have been the best way to avoid her but no. You chose to seat where you are being disrespected.
I hope you know you have just transferred a generational anger to those children by slapping them when they are not the cause of your issues. You have to apologise to them and let them know you love them. For your sister, send her a long message of how exactly you feel and how disrespectful her behaviour is without sounding rude but factual. Let her know you expected friendship from her but she disappointed you. After that, you should avoid her like a bad habit unless she comes to her senses and makes amends.
you messed things up by involving her kids into your fight, you should have returned back the slap to her face just the way she slapped you and forget about what your parents are saying. After all she did not respect them by slapping you Infront of them. You should have slapped her immediately and apologize to your parents that it was a mistake than slapping her children.
ReplyDeleteI don't see any big deal for your elder sister to send you on an errand. The whole issue here is because you both don't love each other or don't get along. Your elder sister can send you on an errand no matter how old you are and you can chose to avoid her whenever you noticed she is talking to you. What stops you from pretending to be making calls while you walk away from her or from everyone and go get some fresh air since you already know who she is. Someone like myself my silent will send her to a land of crying, next time chose to ignore her or walk away without saying a word since she is your elder sister.
Please call her children and apologize to them, get them a nice gift and also apologize to her and allow peace to flow not because you are wrong first but for the sake of peace as family. You too get your own for body, because you are doing well does not mean you should not respect your elder sister and avoid her. Family members most times sees a single younger sister like a baby. I understand that part cos i wans there some times ago but relax is all about time and you tooo will get over it.
If your elder sister has refused to respect your man just let her be far from you, i hope you did not gist your family things about your man that is causing such disrespect. Remember not everything that happens between you and your man your family must know word to word, be careful what you tell them.
You should have slapped your sister back, no matter how your parents warned you never to hit your elder sister, instead of slapping those kids, you're very wrong for slapping those kids, apologize to them and next time your sister slaps you, make sure you return the favour in double folds.
ReplyDeleteI don't care whether you're older or not, irrespective of the gender, if you slap me, I must return it, unless the person is old enough to born me, if not, my home training doesn't reach that level.
You shouldn't have touched those kids for whatever reasons, you might think you had, it was wrong poster.
ReplyDeletePoster, you did wrong by slapping those kids. If your sister hits you next time, return the favour. I hate nonsense. Nobody fit try that with me.
ReplyDeletePoster you are a coward. And you keep giving excuses about your parents warning you not to fight with your older sister but they don’t do shi shi when your sister disrespects you. I won’t apologize to the kids if it was me, they need to know the actions of their mom has consequences. The lines has been drawn, next time face your sister directly and beat her up to stupor instead of hitting her kids. Or cut your family off or avoid spending too much time with them. There’s too much resentment and toxicity in that environment.
ReplyDeleteThe kids were innocent, and undeserving of it.
ReplyDeleteThey will h.ate you for life.
You would have sla.pped her twice for every slap instead.
Regardless of what your parents said.
Cos she also disobeyed your pad by going ahead with it.
Please apologise to those kids
And when next you are in same space with her, put her in her place.
Don't let all these repeat itself again
Slapping the kids, gosh sis, it's seems you're so bitter at this sister's progress. I can feel it from your tone. You should have ignored your sister and walked away. Now her kids would never forget this. You just sowed generational seed of discord
ReplyDeleteYour parents need to call her to order.
ReplyDeleteNB: Forgive me for my long response.
ReplyDeleteOne of the pillars of healthy interpersonal relationships is mutual respect. That said, it's important to acknowledge that you're hurting - wounded by years of unaddressed disrespect, emotional neglect, and invalidation. The incident with the children, while regrettable, was an eruption of pain long buried beneath years of feeling unheard and bullied by an older sibling who failed to offer the care, guidance, and protection you expected.
Still, while your action of slapping the children was wrong, it didn’t happen in isolation. It came from accumulated tension and an unresolved history that has now begun to strain not just your sibling bond, but the wider family dynamic.
You and your sister are both carrying wounds, both guilty of missteps, and both responsible for how far things have spiralled. Sibling rivalry and conflict are bad - they don't often end well. Because it has a way of evolving into a deeper family feud, that may outlive their principals.
While you've been crying out for fairness, balance, and respect - values no one should have to beg for in a family setting. Your elder sister’s long-standing dominance, laced with control, ego, and perhaps even unspoken envy, on the other hand, has tilted your family values. But retaliation, especially one that involves innocent minors, cannot be justified.
No matter how upset or provoked you felt, taking it out on your nephews was in bad taste. They were bystanders in a conflict they neither caused nor understood. They deserved your protection, not punishment - they deserve a sincere apology.
Let them know that what happened was not about them, and that it does not reflect your love for them. Children remember how they were made to feel, and it's crucial they know you love and value them, and should feel safe around you.
Apology should also go to your parents, uncles, and aunties who witnessed the incident. Let them know that your behaviour, though deeply regrettable, came from a place of raw emotional vulnerability, not from cruelty. Ask them not to judge your entire character based on one moment of poor judgment.
Real peace will only come when everyone is willing to heal from whatever pain they are carrying. It will take emotional honesty, clear boundaries, and a willingness to make better personal choices - not by any forced apologies. Not all siblings can be best of friends, but respect must be mutual - and earned regardless of birth order.
I believe she got this over desire to be unnecessarily respected from the family she is married to or from her fellow married friends
ReplyDeleteSpeaking from another angle, the elder sister insulting and slapping her in front of her kids is very wrong. What is she teaching those children? Is that how she's raising her kids? Slapping her younger sister who's their aunt (way older than them) in their presence is wrong.
ReplyDeletePoster apologize to those kids, if possible pls take them out. Their young minds will be traumatized by this. Always show them love so they know you don't hate them.
As for your parents, it's high time you and your other siblings sat your parents down and tell them to call your elder sister to order. Your sister is not only causing problem and enemity in the family but she's also setting a bad example to her kids. I wonder how she's raising her kids if she doesn't see anything wrong in openly disrespecting her sister in front of her kids.
Speaking from another angle, the elder sister insulting and slapping her in front of her kids is very wrong. What is she teaching those children? Is that how she's raising her kids? Slapping her younger sister who's their aunt (way older than them) in their presence is wrong.
ReplyDeletePoster apologize to those kids, if possible pls take them out. Their young minds will be traumatized by this. Always show them love so they know you don't hate them.
As for your parents, it's high time you and your other siblings sat your parents down and tell them to call your elder sister to order. Your sister is not only causing problem and enemity in the family but she's also setting a bad example to her kids. I wonder how she's raising her kids if she doesn't see anything wrong in openly disrespecting her sister in front of her kids.
She obviously has a personality disorder. Please say sorry to your nephews. This wasn't their fault.
ReplyDeleteShe sounds like a right tit.
Jeez
Your Sister needs to be taught a lesson she’s too proud, rude and likes putting people down you should have slapped her back irrespective of what your Dad said then apologize to your Dad later that would have taught her a lesson of her life!
ReplyDeleteI don't support you slapping the kids. But it seems that was the only way for your sister t learn her lesson. Parents don' realise that you can either accumulate generational curses or generational blessings for your kids. Poster your parents no try at all. I'm also a first born but that your sister is too wild. Seems like she has serious internal struggles which she is projecting on other people. I also sense a lot of resentment from you. Cut her off and face your front but apologise to the kids as they are innocent in all this. You need to think of the next generation of your family. What is done is done.
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