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I am a primary school teacher, and there is a girl in my class who I noticed is withdrawn on some days and on other days she's bubbly,very outspoken and playful.
So on one of her moody days, I approached her to speak up and confide in me, the girl opened up and told me how she, and her three siblings and parents are staying in just one room apartment and on some afternoons/evenings when they're all home, their parents send them out to play or make them wait outside till it's late while on other occasions when it's getting too late after they return from work, they will just tell their kids to turn their faces to the wall and gbensh very loudly till everyone sleeps off.
The girl and I spoke before the schools went on break and but till now that schools have resumed i haven't been myself, (the kids are between 11, that's the one in my class and 6 years).
Before the holidays, I just told her we'll see again and I'll pay her a visit at home, I have been praying to God to guide me on how to go about this, the girl is still so innocent. I haven't done anything about it, I don't know what to do, I'm still shaken.
Unfortunately the damage has been done, she cannot unsee what she has seen , unhear what she has heard or unknow what she know...Her childhood has been shattered like a mirror falling to the floor....
I honestly dont know how you can go about this cos its not your business and if you dont handle it well, she will be beaten thoroughly at home if go and tell the parents what she told you........This is really sad!
The height of responsibility!!!
ReplyDeleteI wish we had a functional child welfare department to report the shameless parents. I'm so pissed!
Honestly, this is my wish too.
DeleteWhat?? Oh no! This should be considered trauma. That little child has been robbed off her childhood in a traumatic way.
ReplyDeleteI remember that back in the days I was way above 10 before I knew the abstract (written) knowledge of reproduction all thanks to integrated science in Junior Secondary School. It took me time to know the the practical aspect of procreation. And then here's a little child who has to learn these things against her wish.
Dear poster, you have to be very logical on ways to go about this issue. Be very tactical about it. If you can, do not involve the child or make it look like she told you something because that would only implicate her.
Some parents can be very irresponsible shaa. Very irritating!
Why not relay it to the owner of the school.
ReplyDeleteThis parents are failure and should be punished for traumatising their children with lack of self control.
Na wah o, gbenshing in the presence of innocent kids, they don't even care if the kids practice what they're seeing, they need to be sanctioned by the government.
ReplyDeleteThe best thing to do is to be a mentor and guide her in the right way of life. If she has one adult in her life to trust and teach her good things she will be fine in the end.
ReplyDeleteMany many parents do this and think they can hide it. See at first how it started, they tried by telling the kids to play outside not even caring about their safety, then that was too much they start doing it openly. Some ppl can’t even gbensh with pets in the same room watching much less children. Nothing should ever bring adults to such a place. The thing with living arrangements like theirs is that it turns on the seckuality switch in children far too early. The possibility is there that the children will do their own self exploration with each other mimicking what they see their parents doing which is opening a path that they may never get off because of changes in their brain waves, not to mention the mental and emotional problems that come along with that. These parents need to develop better self control and stop being so selfish.
The matter has to be addressed but I do not know how to tell you to do it.
Selfish Parents. 😌😌😌
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteThis situation truly calls for deep concern......Stella’s red pen is valid, and it’s unfortunate that we do not have a fully functional support system for children’s welfare......
Your case is quite delicate—similar to assisting someone having a convulsion: a wrong move, even if well-intentioned, can cause serious damage...... Since you are unsure how to approach this, I strongly advise against confronting the parents directly........Abusive parents can become more dangerous when they feel exposed, and the children could suffer the consequences.......
It is important to assess the maturity level and discretion of your Head Teacher, Principal, or Head of School.....Sadly, not everyone in authority understands how to handle such sensitive matters...... If your school has a Guidance and Counselling Unit, that would be a better starting point but only if the person in charge is emotionally intelligent, trustworthy, and capable of maintaining confidentiality. The goal is to help, not create stigma around the children.......
You may also consider discreetly reaching out to credible organizations such as WARIF, the Lagos Domestic Violence Unit, or Aunt Landa’s Bethel Foundation, as they are equipped to handle such cases professionally and safely.........
Please do not act alone....This situation requires maturity, caution, and the right channels to ensure the safety and dignity of the children......
All the best....
Tomorrow some people will come and condemn some older people who couldn't conceive at young age for adopting a child. What these kids are suffering in the hands of their young parents both mentally and emotionally, is even worse than what they will experience in the home of the older parents that adopted them . How can you be gbenshing in the presence of your kids? Even when the kids are not deeply asleep. What a damage.
ReplyDeleteI think this happens in many such homes
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