Please don’t propose to the man. Give him an ultimatum. Like I need to get married by our fourth year dating anniversary if not I will walk out, see if he agrees and starts planning with you.

Are you that desperate to marry him that you want to propose to him, if he is not ready and from your word you are very ready for marriage , leave him and move on with someone is ready instead of bringing yourself down to propose to him..

You better respect yourself, even if he says yes, his bruised ego will make you regret this act in future. Men are wired to propose to a woman for a reason.

Hello Sweetie ♥️,

Reading your story, I found one thing here. You love him and he's doing very well. A woman won't ask such a question about a man she doesn't love or who isn't doing well for himself. But what I don't understand is him telling you to wait. Did he give an explanation for that? What is the wait all about? I don't support you proposing to him, in the sense that a woman doesn't marry a man but the other way round. You can ask him what his arrangement is towards meeting your family for the marital rites. Yes, you need to ask him to know his position towards marriage. Make sure you look into his eyes when he's talking to you, for truth often lies in the eyes during communication.

NO, I don't see any desperation here, rather just someone who knows what she wants and that's about time. Goodluck to you dear.


©️ TEEJAY

Do not propose to him please. Let him understand that you cant wait indefinitely or you both can discuss timelines but i dont think you should propose If he rejects the proposal your self esteem will suffer a blow. If he agrees you may be expected to foot the bills for the wedding …maybe the marriage sef. But what do i know?

Great idea OP. By all means, go ahead and propose to him. Also tell him you want to go and see his people so they can give you traditional list. I hope where you intend to marry from the groomprice is not high and the traditional list is not multiple pages. Some cultures make it seem as if they are selling their son with the kind of items they include in their list. They forget that you will need to feed their son after all.

But are you sure 3 and a half years is not too short? Why not add another 3 and a half years to make it seven years in total? You really need to be sure he is the right one after all. Don't you agree?

Does he know how to wash, cook and clean? You know when you finally bring him home these are things to look out for. But then again, he must have shown you that he can do this shouldn't be an issue. 3 years now because beans.

To avoid embarrassment whether inside or outside house.Leave him .lf he loves you he come and do the right.

Big Stella she go gbesh him brain out. He no get any choice than to accept pussy cat. My sister u on track propose to him and watch his moves.

Proposing to a man by a woman is not an African thing. Have an open mind because it may backfire on you.

This one is hard. If you propose ( in private oh) , he might say yes to get you off his back and begin finding reasons to drag feet on the arrangements. Pls coming to see your family does not mean anything oh . even collecting list does not concretise anything. If you give an ultimatum, he might choose to call your bluff and are you ready to see your ultimatum through? I think that whilst doing all these things , you should begin to open yourself up to other people, not necessarily sex but expanding your options. All the best.

Pls capture the proposal on camera, I want to see something.

Who even came up with this idea of proposing to a man ?
I mean hinting and stuff is okay , asking the right questions about the future is absolutely fine but an outright proposal?