You may imagine that a man who is adept at housework would be attractive to woman But sociologists claim that mopping the kitchen and washing up dishes won’t help men get lucky in the bedroom - with middle-aged women at least.
A study has found that men who regularly do housework, such as cooking and cleaning, have less sex than men who don’t bother.
Researchers from the Juan March Institute in Madrid studied data based on relationships of 4,561 middle-aged US couples over 20 years, including their sex lives and how they divide household chores.
The study, which was published in the journal American Sociological Review, found that home tasks such as cooking and cleaning are traditionally perceived as women’s work – and 80 per cent of housework is still done by females.
The results showed that men performed around 55 per cent of 'masculine' tasks such as paying bills and mowing the lawn.
While egalitarian marriages tended to be happier, men who did ‘feminine’ tasks had sex less often than those who shunned the iron and oven.
In fact, men who divorced themselves from core chores, had sex one and a half times more a month than those who pulled their weight in the home.
Overall, couples had sex once a week.
Sabino Kornrich, a sociologist at the university, explained that gender stereotypes may linger in the home and could explain the results.
‘What we do in the house is really strongly tied to how people think of themselves as men or women or as masculine or feminine,’ he told Live Science.
He explained that women may see men doing ‘feminine’ jobs as less sexually attractive.Alternatively, couples with similar roles may feel more like siblings than lovers, he added.
While egalitarian marriages tended to be happier, men who did ‘feminine’ tasks had sex less often than those who shunned the iron and oven.
ANOTHER STUDY CLAIMS MEN WHO EMBRACE CHORES HAVE BETTER SEX
Men who do more household chores are more satisfied in the bedroom than those who stick to ‘manly’ tasks, according to a 2013 study
Men who embrace their 'feminine side' around the house have more satisfaction in the bedroom than those who stick to ‘manly’ chores like cutting the hedge and mowing the lawn, according to a 2013 study.
The quality of the sex they had was superior as well if they were prepared to do their share of cooking and cleaning, the scientists found.
The research by Cornell University contradicts the Washington study, but it used data on a similar number of families from 2006, arguably showing that attitudes have changed.
Professor Sharon Sassler said that using old data has skewed the Washington results because the couples had married in the 1960s and 70s when things were very different.
She said: ‘Couples who shared domestic labour had sex at least as often, and were at least as satisfied with the frequency and quality of their sex, as couples where the woman did the bulk of the housework.
‘In fact, these egalitarian partners were ranked slightly higher in all these categories, reporting more frequent sex and greater satisfaction with the frequency and quality of that sex than conventional couples.’culled
What about the ones who dont do anything at all.? Some dont even know ow to bend down and pick clothes they dropped..LOL.
Or should i just say that this study does not apply to Nigerian men?I am not trying to start anything but I am Nigerian so I know .
The percentage of Nigeria who might even attempt any domestic work at all should be 1%
Only a mature man can stand up to his peers and say he does chores at home. I like it very much.
ReplyDeleteHelping one's wife at home with house chores should be a thing of joy for couples, it should be fun time and play time, but it shouldn't be a regular thing else the man will be turned into a house boy, and he'll lose his respect and self worth. It should be done once in a blue moon.
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DeleteShockingly, my hubby does the laundry in my household. We both take care of the dishes 2geda immediately after eating. In fact he does more household chores than I do. Our sex life is average I think, 2-3 times a week but it's always worth it.
DeleteYour hubby dey nack foroutside
DeleteShout out to my hubby whose love for cleaning has made me lazy. Dude loves cleaning . you can't clean anything for him and he will feel comfortable. He's been like that from childhood. Thank God for this man. When I was growing,mumsy always said pray God gives you a man that can accommodate your laziness whxh I got in boarding school. And God did. Dude loves cleaning. Loves putting the clothes in the washing machine,taking them out but doesn't like bringing them in so that i do. He even loves cooking . chai. Just that he's cooking takes too long,you would have died and resurrected before the food will be ready. And they are never normal dishes. Always have one continental name . And the bedroom nko?
DeleteBut he still has small skoi skoi cha.
Bbb,d housework is wearing him out. Do most of the work n he'll fuck u more
DeleteDH washes the dishes, dresses the bed, baths the children and cooks sometimes. Lol. Cook as in toast bread and porridge yam. Lol. But he is amazing
DeleteI enjoy chores jare..there is this kinda Happiness i get from within after i ve kept everything in place..my own is that if another person does that same thing for me;it would still appear as to me alone that the person didnt do it well(i know it isnt good sha but na just me ooo) unless i do it myself...who get time to dey look woman for face to help me wash,cook or clean?? na my future wife go enjoy me sha cos we go dey do am together every weekend when am home...orikwanma!!
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Hope its true...hubby doesn't help @ all
ReplyDeleteRubbish report... I remember my ex, he cooks and cleans tho he has house help, but he was still very active.
DeleteBLOG ANALYSER: A woman whose hubby mops nd washes dishes is a lucky woman ooh
DeleteOmg!
DeleteHmmm.....
ReplyDeleteIts actually fun nd romantic to help do chores.....bt it must nt b always. Besides a man who comss om v. late 4RM wrk shld nt b expected to do more of chores bt atleast help.
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Kehinde ake ,ngwa come and tell us your own findings ,as doctor of nackson in the house.
ReplyDeleteLol! At least the quality of the sex is better in them
ReplyDeleteShould i begin to worry or begin to act like 'an average nigerian man'?...d only tin I let a lady do for me wen she comes to my place is cook(if she wants to)cos am a lousy cook...n we'l be in d kitchen togeda till she's done(na so my mama train me,u'l sit on d freezer n she'l be sayin bring dis bring dat,wash dis)so am used to it....I love doing d dishes n I clean d house too...@least she'l not hav an excuse dat she's too tired to gbensh
Delete@bp lol! It's all good. At least you dey try. Pls keep it up
Delete'study has found that men who regularly do housework, such as cooking and cleaning, have less sex than men who don’t bother.'
ReplyDeleteBig lie!
I thank God my husband belongs to that 1%. He helps with choress when he is home. God bless my boo over and over again. In my next life, I will marry him all over.
Now waiting for sad people who only like "marriage in trouble" posts to come and debunk Bloggy's comment with:
Delete- Bloglord, continue deceiving yourself. Mr Bloglord is sleeping with me
-He is cheating on you, that's why he does chores
-Fear God, you have jazzed him.
Some men just love to do these things, maybe it is a function of upbringing or passion but there are naija men who help their wives/gfs at home though the percentage may be little.
DeleteReally?? Wow wow wow!
DeleteGoldscent diamond , sup?
DeleteHahahaha. Goldsent Diamond is cracking me up,lol.
DeleteAll these studies and their lies *rme*
I bless God every minute for DH. He dey try,I no go lie.
It has to do with home training
DeleteMy husband helps a lot. Especially now I'm like a whale. I think its a matter of upbringing and frankly we as women should train our sons well to make another woman's life easier
DeleteWell said ladies. I think it's a function of their upbringing and personal convictions.
DeleteIt's partly home training and also depends on the man.
DeleteMarriage is a constant work in progress and most times, what you put into it, is what you make out of it.
So if a man feels helping out with chores would make his wife happier and the marriage better, then it is a welcome idea.
And these studies sef! Contradictory.
DeleteOhhh now Goldscent, why do u like stealing my comments na?? Na wetin I been wan tell BL be dat. That ahh ...u don expose honey and the bees will soon perch on u for this comment o...ehwheh!
DeleteBut I don't understand the sadistic domineering characters of some individuals. I refuse to accept it as a norm because in the real world were I come from, good things do happen to those who live it and believe in it.
Yea yea there's no perfect marriage, mba..but if God has been good enough to u to have it rosy and happy, then share it even if world people go vex.
I couldn't tell you how many times my hubby and I fight and argue in one week. We bully each other and set annoying traps for each other,..like when he annoys me and I want leverage, I can hide his atm card before he goes out and he'll be stuck. Especially on weekends. Lmaoo.
Or I'll hide the toothpaste early in the morning and he won't be able to ask me where it is or whether we have more in d store. Or I'll put off the switch where he's charging his phone at night and he'll wake up to a dead phone...etc. things like that........
and he does his own too. He will loosen the battery head of my car on a Sunday morning when I am going to church, cos he knows there's no driver to fix for me except him.
And on such days he will choose not to go to church and be peeping thru the Window to see me sweating profusely with frustration.
Or is it when he will refuse to turn on the generator and be forming sleep inside darkness when I know he can't do without light o. We will cuss each other tire. But in all when we are cool we are very cool and for the most part always happy.
So why would anyone say u are forming happy when it's not as if u deny having little issues sometimes, but are always happy MOST of the time? Abeg to hell with sadists.
To the matter o. Me I don't knw about this their statistics as per sex o. My own no send u
He will choose to do anything in the house without being mandated to. Try giving him the guilt trips with sentiments, that's when he will vex and not do it. His own is general maintenance. Like generator ish, lights ish, electrical ish etc. Na to eat, gist with the kids, watch ESPN/CNN, fuck if agro catch am, then do fine boy and go to work. C'est fini.
Almighty epistle. Ok bye
Sisi eko u know I love u ba?
DeleteMy one and only sisi, your epistle make plenty sense abeg. Reality! Of course every couple must disagree over certain things but the ability to resolve it amicably without raising the roof is all that matters.
Delete@Sisi eko LMAO! Your head dey there. Na the malice dey very interesting, the who'll be frustrated first by the others antics and talk first. Lol!
DeleteSisi baby!
DeleteM Reading ur comment n smiling sheepishly....
We argue,we fight and we dont like each oda all d time buh Above all,we love HARDEST! Thats Marriage Boo!
Sisi Eko, high 5.
DeleteYou are just as mischievous as me. Hahahahaha. I'm copying that your toothpaste mischief. I already do the charger wickedness.
Sabongida! Sabongida! How nah?
Sisi
DeleteLmao.....
So funny!!
This one na story.
ReplyDeleteWe don't even need to read this cos Nigerian men are too chauvinistic for household chores.
Some Nigerian men, not all.
DeleteReason why ladies should focus more on character than sex during courtship.
Some Nigerian men, not all.
DeleteReason why ladies should focus more on character than sex during courtship.
Well I don't agree with this observation. Let me relax on this and read comments later.
ReplyDeleteTell 9ja men
ReplyDeleteWho cares about how many times men and women Score in the bedroom. In my opinion, if a man can help with household chores, all well and good. If not, providing for the family covers all that. Speaking about U.S couples which the survey is based on, many of them hire house help, even the average person, to clean their house once a week or a month. The average U.S couple's home is unkempt with dirty plates in the sink, for those who bother to warm their canned food in a microwave since most of them eat out. The living room and bedrooms are strewn with clothes and so on. So, in my opinion, this survey is useless and does society no good. Join the conversation on twitter @ Omoyemi 1 O 1 A 1 Ojo.
ReplyDeleteAnon 3:14pm Who told you that?! America is not Naija o! House help kwa? Who has that kind of money here? Here that peeps are even trying to save on child-care alone. Not everybody in the US is a celebrity. And where are you getting this claptrap of an info from, saying the average US home is unkempt with dirty plates etc? Are you kidding me? You sound like those backward people back home who think they pluck money from trees once you arrive in the US or that somebody will just place chicken peri peri or burger in front of you once you arrive. My friend! Just like people have different levels of hygiene all over the world.. including Nigeria; so are there people with different hygiene levels in America. Not everyone eats microwaved boxed/frozen/canned food all the time. And definitely, most Americans don't eat out everyday; maybe for lunch while they're at work and they give their kids lunch money to get school lunches but majority, I repeat, majority of us Americans cook breakfast in the mornings and make dinner at night; heck we even cook the lunch for the next day to take to work while making dinner the night before. So please miss me with that BS picture you're trying to paint. The survey isn't useless. If you're a guy and you're too lazy to do housework when God gave you perfectly functioning limbs but you just dump everything on the wife; just say so. And if you're a woman whose hubby is lazy as f**k and hides under "nigerian" culture; just say that too so maybe people can pray for you. It is a positive development to encourage husband and wife to pitch in domestically in the house, especially the Nigerian family because Nigerian women have been suffering silently for years and it's even worse now that both of them work all day but the wife is expected to rush home to handle dinner, take care of the baby/kids and other domestic chores while the man just strolls in to sit down with newspaper in hand to read while the wife is about to die of exhaustion. Encourage positive changes, stop attacking and rubbishing them..... Just Saying
DeleteWow! Why are you Sooo angry? Anon 5.44pm. If only you knew. Open your eyes, read and comprehend what you just wrote. The truth hurts...
DeleteIf men can do their normal office work and even tedious jobs and still satisfy their partner sexually, I don't think helping out in a little domestic chores can reduce their performance sexually...my own 2k
ReplyDeleteNigerian men are very lazy....shio
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Deletehmm the thing tire me oh
ReplyDeleteAsi Asi! Big lie u just told Stella. My hubby has always been good with domestic or feminine chores as u call it and our sex life is also a wow. I used 2 think he just wanted 2 impress me with it while we were dating 9 years ago but he shares d chores with me till tommorrow.
ReplyDeleteThat's a good one my dear coco noir
DeleteSuddenly, everybody's husband does household chores, issorai
DeleteJoy will it now sweet you if everybody is suffering and not enjoying their marriage?
DeleteHaba, instead of you to tap good things you're there mis-yaning.
Coco nwanne na God give us jare. Rapu ndi uta
My hubby is so lazy. He doesn't assist house chores at all. All he does is to go work come back and eat. He can't even remove his plates from dining table and take it to the kitchen after eating. It that bad.
DeleteTraditionally domestic chores is for the women, but sometimes some caring DH do assist.
ReplyDeleteMy husband do the cooking sometimes when he have the time, because he is a good cook.
My husband DOES. HE DOES!
Deletecouples in the house pls take over.
ReplyDeleteBiko, ha hapu okwu.
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This theory is just on point i swear......
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Most Nigeria men don't do anything apart from work and provide for their families.
ReplyDeleteAnd most of them can f**k for Africa.
Lol
Even those who help out are still good in bed.
DeleteI don't agree with this findings.
Which of these study shud one believe naa!
ReplyDeleteOK....lazy reader here again
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@Galore
Nonsense, what I blv is that men are supposed to do house chores just like women cos the pressure from diff angles may be too much on the lady. Its also kind of romantic to help a woman with house work but if a man thinks its demeaning for him to do it let him get a maid unless she is a housewife.
ReplyDeleteAny woman who is married is regarded as an housewife, even if u dey work or u be boss 4 office, or u get maid, u be certified HOUSEWIFE
DeleteMy boo does so much,4rm washin d dish 2 washin ma cloths @times......doe we ar nt married bt I hope it continues dat way @least.
ReplyDeleteIdiot, you have jazz him abi?
DeleteI love men that helps with house chores oooh.....no time abeg!
ReplyDeleteAll i know is bf is good with chores, he cooks 4 me whenever i visit and i do the dishes just to be fair, he cleans his toilet,kitchen. I count myself lucky to be blessed with such an amazing man.So, whatever their research says isn't my biz.Whatever works 4 anyone but u peeps should stop generalizing oooo, some naija guys are actually domestic, atleast i'm a living witness
ReplyDeleteOr less than 1%.
ReplyDeleteLazy menfolk thinking we are the Help
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Don't know about sex,but I don't like a man that's into household chores,he will look more like a houseboy to me.however I love me a man that does his own laundry and assists around the house occasionally.I love me a man that knows how to cook,a man that can stir up palatables for me once in a while to pamper me,a man that makes me breakfast in bed occasionally..in my opinion its emasculating for a man to be a hands on in the kitchen and around the house..what then will I be doing If my man is so busy with chores?my man is my king,a king that knows respect is earned,a king that knows his queen is his pride.a manly man..Ok..I better stop dreaming now.
ReplyDeleteYou sound confused
DeleteTnk God u knw ure jus dreaming...if not,u'll be single 'til thy kingdom come,nne
DeleteWait till you marry then come back and tell me the once in a blue moon story.
DeleteY'all should always try crossing the bridge before you can give a full description of the river
You are clearly missing the point. The "dream" man is still domesticated nao.
DeleteWetin concern me. I don't even like guys that do domestic chores. They come across as neat freaks and those sort of guys could be very difficult to live with. I went to visit an old admirer once and you needed to see the way the guy was sweeping the living room with all his strength as if he was an APC member. As if that wasn't enough, as soon as I took my shoes off, he got up and went to arrange them in a parallel way.
ReplyDeleteI sat uncomfortably in the parlour as he went to cook brunch for me ( fried egg and bread). The way he pounded pepper scared me. He also beat the egg mixture for more than 10mins as if the mother of the chick offended him. When he was done, I couldn't find a trace of yolk. smh
To top it all, on my way out of his house, he escorted me with a broom in his house (meaning he was going to sweep all the yamayama I came with). How am I supposed to date that sort of person biko? Just give me a body odour free guy that can cook better hot water well for my bath. I can do chores enough for both of us.
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Hahahahahahaha! Tht one na disorder oh
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DeleteHahahhahahahahahahahhha you bad gan I was laughing all through reading your comment,that guy is wicked
DeleteOMG.
DeleteHahahahahaha.
Damn funny comment. Laughing like a witch at 2am. Enough is enough.Una good night.
Lmao!
DeleteChei!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DeleteHahahahahaha .
God of Elijah pls have mercy on me !
Naijasinglegirl, you be case i swear .
E get as person go funny reach , dey cause you pain with laughter to the extend that you cross the street if you sight them coming . Nne , that person na you biko !
For the chief chef hubby,boy , man or any prick holder that does the domestic work like a Home Economics secondary school teacher , They are truly, really really annoying to me . And believe me , when you do that , Off goes your right to my body through the window . I love macho men, I can't deal with he dangling his boxers and penis like birthday pinata all over the house. Do what men do & leave the rest for me .Ekenekwamu una ndi ala o o !
OMG, very funny, am rolling on the floor. My 7mths old baby is even laughing with me .
DeleteThe whole neat freak thing is my hubby. He's such a neat freak. Like he's obsessed with a clean place. I'm neat too. Very neat and like tidy places but his is over board. Initially it was a problem as he would rexlean whatever was cleaned by someone else but I decided to let him be and my life has known no joy. I have my own small portion of the house I clean,when I say small portion small portion. And still he will be feeling uncomfortablee. Understanding your partner is key in a relationship and I'm happy I understood the fact that he likes to do house chores while I do little things in the house. This doesn't stop him from been a great provider as we don't lack anything at home. Plus bedroom skills aren't lacking too
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DeleteLMAO
DeleteLol, obsessive compulsive disorder dey worry am. Hahahahhahaah,you are damn funny
DeleteU funny no be joke... I don laugh almost quench!
DeleteYour friend hsa OCD.
DeleteHahahhaahhhahhaa....laugh wan kill me. I know your bobo's type. Your comment has got to be my best on this post.
DeleteLmao......
DeleteAs if the mother of chick offend him indeed.
Your so funny.!!
Sir Kehinde Ake
ReplyDeleteWhere r u?
Madam Stella, 101% kisses to you. I don tire to be anonymous. Been reading and swallowing all d useful comments I suppose contribute. So sorry all bv's. I surfaced. But truth be say, we plenty o. Sdk bv's wil need to fast n pray flor l other hidden bvs.
ReplyDeleteGod wil ssyre help Nigerian men to understand that their wife is their helper n not a slave
which one are my to follow now?So
ReplyDeleteLemme go and grab my popcorn and kunu, will be back to read
ReplyDeleteVery true to men who embrace house chores perform better in bed...God bless my husband...so good at house chores,perfect gentle man. GOD BLESS MY HUSBAND.
ReplyDeleteDH washes d plates and makes the bed @ least. Lol
ReplyDeleteHmmm, not my hubby o. The only household chores he can do will be to make ugba and abacha for us to eat shikena!
ReplyDeleteStella please stop replying those beggars that are begging for xmas give-away....you blog is platform for those who knows what they are doing, not for those that don't belief in themselves and the works of their hands..the lives you touch every single day is more than million yeye give-away..my girlfriend introduced me to this blog and since then am crazily and madly addicts..(God bless you nkechi roseline daughter of odum for introduced me to this wonder home, full of love, mercy and grace)here is where family so strong..I love you stello..abeg shoot your ass out make I lick am...to those prostitute bloggers..you guy can go hug transformer....we are happy here..it is not how far, buh how well
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Abeg nigerian men dnt like to help with the chores at home o,all they want is for their woman to do everything for them,if its possible some will even ask their wives to bath them along side the children....aunty stella I agree with you,oyibo too sabi luv.
ReplyDeleteInaede faith
Like I care
ReplyDeleteLmao @ naijasinglegirl..
ReplyDeleteMy boo cannot cook to save his life n I like it that way..
Anytime I cook for him,allday,everyday
But when it comes to fixing things in the house,he is very good at it.he is my electrician,plumber,carpenter etc bt he hates kitchen duties.the last time he cooked for me(noodles) was a year ago n thats cos I was really sick.
Me sef I dnt mind.i like him like that
Whether he does or doesn't help out with household chores isn't and shouldn't be a standard to measure the couples' sex life. If he helps, fine and if he doesn't good but which woman wouldn't be grateful that her man helps out with the chores and rewards him.
ReplyDelete@D General Wife,,,nne i love u dieeee! Kai,just read story on d previous post nd i just love u more,,awww...u re such a darling!
ReplyDeleteNigerian men with their ego, they rather not eat than help yuu out with house chores. Shout out to all the men that help their wives out with the house chores, they are the best
ReplyDeleteI will choose my hubby any time any day. The guy can help for Europe.
ReplyDeleteIt's no big deal if your man assist you in doing chores but it becomes really annoying if he is a freak when it comes to neatness. He wants everything to be perfectly done.when you adjust the window blinds, he goes behind you to readjust, when you lay bed, he tells you, one part is not well tucked in, there is always something to be corrected.It can be freaking annoying*talking from experience*
ReplyDeletehahahahhahaha...my one and only Goldscent.
ReplyDeletemy dear, i am blessed o! sometimes i think God just over blessed me with my Mr.
my only problem is that i am too stubborn. lol...but all join they scata the guy head even if e de form vex.
S/O to the man in my life!the only one that makes me a MRS, the father of my adorable children. love love love u.
house chores, e dey! sex..oh my!!!! out of this world. e de fire, e no dey taya. kikikiki.
abeg e! love amaka!
Hahahahahaha
DeleteMr Bloggy dey fire shege.
That stubbornness is the spice jare. Most men love it subconsciously
Hehheheheheh. E dey tire person sha o.
DeleteThis study isnt for Nigerian men o. But my husband helps out with chores alottt because he isnt a big fan of maids, so he purchased any and everything that make chores easier. The sex is hotter when he helps, cos a happy and energised wife (me) will give him some aerobic bitchy style in bed
ReplyDelete@Naijasinglegirl ...that was hilarious. lwkmd
ReplyDeletemy Husband isnt big on maids so he got alot of stuff to help out with chores and he helps alot. When he helps out like that, sex is usually fun because i will have energy to do all the aerobics.
ReplyDeleteEven if a man that helps around the house may not seem to be a turn-on for women, men should still help out with domestic work. If we are promoting Gender Equality in order to eliminate Social Injustice, then we shouldn’t make exemptions. A woman cannot do all the domestic work just because she is female. That sort of Stereotype facilitates a lot of other Negative Social Issues of which females are the victims. If the man was living alone, wouldn’t he do his domestic work himself? Or pay someone to do it for him?. Marriage is a Union and a Partnership and not Slavery. We need to end inequalities and fight for Social Justice, in order to achieve a better Society that protects the rights of all Humans. Anyway, we have said our piece. Going back to Pluto now.
ReplyDeleteDH can't do any chore jare and he is capable
ReplyDeleteHelping with house chores or not,when a man wants sex he wants it,and he must get it somehow!infact nigerian men will even ask,why did they marry u if not for sex.
ReplyDeleteSo helping with chores isn't a determinant for a man to get sex from his wife.afterall How many men are domesticated even in africa?my hubby is d worst of them all!he cannot even boil water to save his life',house chores?ha!that one is alien to him,he will even be calling u to leave what u are doing and join him to watch TV esp when they are showing his fav program.
He will be like leave it joor,aint u tired?but he's still irritated at dirts at d end.so imagine oo.smhh
That's why I got me a maid and a cleaner cos I can't be turned to one.
And his sex,dont even bother;it' and house chores are mutually exclusive events!so don't try to get dem twisted.lol
So from my ends,Dis analysis no work abeg.
Abeg just provide for your home, marital duties 101.. You can do the domestic chores after doing no 1&2
ReplyDeleteDis peeps Ãήϑ dia unrealistic findings.
ReplyDeleteNigerian men?hmmmm
ReplyDeleteWow! Sooo many new BVs. Nigerians & ofe eh! Issori, one luv. Nigerian men re lazy & don't do housework or "woman work" as dey like to put it so this study no catch us t all
ReplyDeleteI will go with the thought that said; men who help out in the house enjoy sex more.The economic condition of our country is very poor and also stressful; so fending for the family should not be left for the man alone; likewise house chores should not be left for the woman alone.This will help both parties not to be stressed out in their earthly task and also it will help them have strength for love making.
ReplyDeleteDH thank God I married u. My boo is 10/10 shikena.
ReplyDeleteWhen husbands help with chores, their wives won't be tired or give them excuses because they still have enough strength. And women should not take their husbands for granted too, because he is helping u out. Men should have it in their mind that their spouses are their "wives" and not "slaves". Most men that don't help their wives are brought up that way. Bcos their sisters and mum do the chores without them helping. So that African mentality can be changed with u bringing up your sons to do the chores equally with their sisters or with u their mum.
ReplyDeleteStory my hubby dsnt do any chores even to. Washing of his boxers nd socks he dsnt even lay d bed very dirty tin ehn to cook sef. Na zero in bed nko na wah so I dnt bliv dis theory at all
ReplyDeletemen who help out with domestic chores were raised by Queens
ReplyDeletedear women are you raising a monster?
I already use Stewie Gilligan Griffin as my ID. Do you mind changing yours to avoid confusion?
Deletewell said @ Adaorah
ReplyDeleteFor me, cooking is a hobby. I assist with it once in a while.
ReplyDeleteBig lie
ReplyDeleteOtaru Samson, but a woman that comes late from work should be expected to always do chores? Both parties should run THEIR home together.
ReplyDeleteO1A1 Ojo, sorry o but you obviously do not know much about people in the US. A place where the standard kitchen is equipped with dishwashers? Please stop lying and exposing the fact that you are only talking based on what you saw in 1 movie.
ReplyDeleteWho cares about all this research tho?..i grew up to see my Dad help my mum relieve stress,he still cooks and washes when he wants to,even though he has grown kids..my boyfriend is that same kinda man,he loves to cook and tidy up and doesnt even care if theres anyone around...
ReplyDeleteI think upbringing is important.my little brothers learnt to cook from my Dad..men that refuse to help out with domestic chores are so 1920!
Thank you ooo @bloglord... My hubby too is among the 1% and even in the afterlife (if I still recognize him) a'l choose him a million times! He does the chores( going to the market, cleaning our home, taking our daughter to school, picking her up, blend and concentrate the pepper and tomatoes for stew, load the laundry, remembers my circle and buys me pad ahead of the actual day, makes the bed, treats me like a total queen) because he believes women are to be loved and served as they are the finest creature!! Btw.... He is 33 German and I am 31 Nigerian! And we. Have been married for 10 years!! (And, I am still madly in love with him!! Ehen,, when he does all the chores, I reward him with a Long hour of sex!! Sometimes The Herr even beats me to my game, ( I wonder his energy though... Lol) to the woman that says she doesn't value men that does the chores.. Nnem, Imbra, (if you are still single).. Try oyibo love!! They drive you crazy with care and respect.. I go out every Thursday for Ladies night and my hussy would be at home with our daughter( 7years old), it's like his whole life is circled around me and most times we role play when he is doing some chores (if you understand what I mean).... The top of our washing machine has been violated so many times, our couch cries out for mercy, the dinning table Nko?? Don't mention.. No part of our home is a virgin (still while he is doing the chores)... Open your hearts ladies, if you are married be very flexible with your husbands, enjoy the love and pamper, give back in abundance and the gods would be at peace... Lol
ReplyDeleteBabe are we married to the same man? But my hubby is NIGERIAN and born in Lagos o. He does everything in the house I do nothing lol. We recently just moved to a new house bought a new electric cooker but my hubby broke it in less than 6 momths cuz when he cooks you will think we are having a party. He just called me one day to the kitchen and said babe the cooker smashed I ask him did you do it he said no but I know his cooking did it sha, av had to call Argos and sort out how they will replace the cooker which they did for free. My hubby does it all name it he does it. We also have a 4 month old son and he backs him and carrys him for me to have a break even wen he is busy cooking or painting our son's room. One of my friends came to visit us and he asked her what she wanted to eat I told him we want this he went to the kitchen and cooked it for us my friend was shocked and told him wow you can cook o. Me n my friend was in the front room just chilling lol. His family know he is the clean freak in the family. He has ocd with cleaning I was initially annoyed but now I have peace I just let him do it cuz I can't bloody shout joor. I can cook and love doing the house chores but my hubby will re clean if I even try it so av left it to him. Most days I don't go to the kitchen at all. But he is currently not in the country but if he saw our room now he will faint lmao. When he is around the house is flawless. I only cook when inlaws are around cuz he said he doesn't want them to know our secret hehe. The sex nko my hubby can give head for Africa o and he can fuck all night if I let him hahahahahaha our sex life is amazing. I love this man, we lack nothing because he has his own business but travels a lot so when he is not around I miss him like mad and he always tells me baby il be home soon to take care of you, he will be home in 10 days and I'm counting the seconds hehe
DeleteYes ooooo!!!!!!
DeleteWow!!
DeleteThis is my kind of stories!! Ride on babes!
Yippe 8:16 and co ,
DeleteYou finally got a complete robot/macho houseboy !
Oya , start clapping and add azonto dance, followed by dorobuchi & end it with p square Testimony song .
You all need heavy black thunder slap to throw you in a state of temporal blindness . Sit your silly lazy ass down and be typing shameful nonsense till it gets to STELLA & BVS , PLS HELP !
Because he will not miss you at all , since you made him do both yours & his part, na only to open toto fuck you dey contribute for the relationship .I wonder who does your Landry (that's wash your pant now). Eeya ,hang in there, he will soon be home to continue from where he stopped .
DAMN !
I wonder why i'm this mad with you since the guy is not my brother or you my sister .So nwanyi di ya huru n'anya , jide ka i iji biko !
Lucky you nwata manari mami,
water na-nma .
The only girl in the world with golden toto and diamond boobs .What a lucky girl . YOU GO GIRL ! ! !
Anon 3:03pm I'm anon8:16
DeleteBabygirl don't hate me cuz my hubby looks after me, I don pray taya for a wonderful hubby and God gave me just that. My hubby is addicted to cooking and cleaning n laundry. If I do the clean or laundry he will re do it, it is that bad so I don't bother. He can cook no be small, name the dish he will cook it for you. I am very capable of doing it all but my hubby insist on doing it so what shud I do. Neva in ur life call my hubby a houseboy ur just jel a ya pele dear.
OR YOU SLAP ME AND MAKE ME BACK YOU WHILE COOKING FOR YOU AS WELL 4:07 ?
DeleteI apologize for the part concerning your *MAN* , i'm very sorry because I know i will be mad just like you are tight now . Pls forgive me . I welcome your correction regarding my choice of figure of speech concerning him was wrong . I'M SORRY DEAR .
Apology accepted thank you E-hug, I pray God blesses you with a man like my hubby because trust me your life will be a lot easier especially when you have kids x
DeleteI'm not saying some of the stuffs here ain't real bt trust me, the Internet is where u come to, jst to fantasize on all what is missing in your life. Its a place where u write down exactly the opposite of what you are going through, jst to make yourself happy n create your own world. Kudos to those keeping it real as it is, and to those fabricating stories too.
DeleteSome people have it all while some don't. But Pls don't believe everything you read here. Don't go to your husband and start telling him to was your 'paent' because bloglord's hubby does. Be wise women!
Stella post my comment.
Tenderheart
Btw... We BOTH work, his pay is fatter than mine :P all am allowed to do is to cook.. After meals, he loads the dish washer while I kill myself on the threadmill and read Stella's blog all evening... Lol
ReplyDeleteVery funi article
ReplyDeleteMy hubby is good at supervising everything. That's his best part. Hey, do this, do that. Lol. God will help us women.
ReplyDeleteLmao@omogemanchester I can't shout fa
DeleteGod bless our men! Read some comments that r so hilarious.
ReplyDeleteMy hubby will stick to his ipad, play games but does little. Esp in the morning because we normally go to work with food, when I'm taking my bath will tell him to take care of the stuff on the gas n he will finish the rest for me atimes. When the work is much and on hearing my screaming voice, he will do a little but our sex life is ok cause he's not a sex freak likewise me. So we don't border but when I want it, e go show n when him want'am even if I'm tired....
ReplyDeletehelping one's wife wit the housechores greater chance of better 'bedmatics'. so, i go with the second analysis.
ReplyDeletel like what someone said about focusing on character rather sex during courtship
ReplyDeleteQueen bee, na same same we be oo, my DH is just like ur husband, may God help us......... MUMMY JASON
ReplyDeleteThat article really made me laugh. I really want to know what kind of research they made to collect the information :D
ReplyDeleteMy hubby helps at home and we have a wonderful private life (if you know what it means).
ReplyDeleteHahah, that's really interesting post! I'll show it at work!
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ReplyDeleteThis post made my day! It's so funny !Best regards! Merton Park Carpet Cleaners Ltd.
Hahahaha , my husband is a professional cleaner, what does that mean then? :D
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