NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CONFUSED SPOUSE
Stella thank you for the great work you have been doing.
Please I urgently need advice from BVs
I have been married for about 4 years now and it has been wonderful except that my husband wants the whole of his kinsmen to stay with us.
Initially we agreed that no family member will stay with us just to avoid wahala. But less than one year of the marriage my husband decided that two of his brothers should come leave with us and I agreed.
Please I urgently need advice from BVs
I have been married for about 4 years now and it has been wonderful except that my husband wants the whole of his kinsmen to stay with us.
Initially we agreed that no family member will stay with us just to avoid wahala. But less than one year of the marriage my husband decided that two of his brothers should come leave with us and I agreed.
After my first baby he also decided that my mother inlaw come stay with us and to avoid been called a wicked daughter In-law I also agreed. Now he has brought in another relative of his to come leave with us to assist with the kids as my nanny is current out of town and he is trying to make this arrangement permanent.
In January my younger brother came visiting cos he was looking for a place to do his industrial attachment and I noticed that my husband did not like the idea of my brother staying with us cos he is always picking at him. my brother had to leave two weeks later. while two of his brothers staying with us are a pain in the neck and my mother In-law is not helping matters.
Recently I suggested to my husband that my mother inlaw goes back to her location but all hell was let loose as my husband accused me of all sorts and have refused to see reason with me.
Please I need advice what can I do for her to leave without making her or my husband feel bad.
Recently I suggested to my husband that my mother inlaw goes back to her location but all hell was let loose as my husband accused me of all sorts and have refused to see reason with me.
Please I need advice what can I do for her to leave without making her or my husband feel bad.
If you ask your mother in law to leave your house now after staying for as long as she has,she will begin a family war with you and try to poison everyone against you,however if you are not comfortable with her being around then you need to implore your hubby to do the needful.I dont know how to go about this cos everyone is different. becareful how you thread on this,its very delicate.
make i drink tea,i have a new cup.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
WHEN A POSSESSIVE SPOUSE DOES NOT WANT EVEN KIDS TO COME BETWEEN.......
Hello Stella and blog family
This is my chronicle and please I need help/advice
I met my hubby through my neighbour in school when I was doing my final clearance. Most of my neighbours in school then were guys and we all got along so well even though they were way older than me, infact they were my closest pals and they never failed to tell me I would end up marrying one of their friends/family member.
They really tried to hook me up with friends, elder bros, cousins etc. I finally agreed to go out with one of their friends that was a graduate and was working.
We were introduced, dated for 2years then got married.
On our wedding day,he was all over me and didnt want me out of his sight, he held my hands tight and was whispering to me how much he loves me and I didnt fail to tell him how much I love him too.
Omo guy kept saying he loves me so much and that I mean the world to him and I thought oh maybe its cos it was his wedding day and he was feeling over the moon (trust me he was never that expressive when we were dating and I liked it that way cos me sef no too like all these "lovey dovey").
Stella and blog family, I havent been sane for the last 8months of our married life. Hubby does not give me breathing space,he offers to help me in the kitchen but na lie cos na so so touch touch, I love you, lets have a quickie etc. He laments before going to work every morning that if he had his way I would follow him to work, my phone is always ringing cos hubby wants to know where I am and what I'm doing infact everything and I work o.
You wont know how frustrating it is unless you are in my shoes. I have to follow him even when he is hanging out with friends. There was a night we had a fight cos I woke up to urinate and he turned and didn't feel me beside him, he got up and was calling my name then I came out of the bathroom and he held me so tightly and asked why I didn't tell him I was going to urinate?
Hian! I couldn't help it na so I explode say wetin happen sef, he was already begging but I was too angry and left the room and he followed me immediately. I explained to him after calming down that I love him and already said yes to him plus I don't have plans of leaving him.
Two nights ago, I suggested to him that we see a doctor since we've been married for 8months with no show of pregnancy. Hmmmmmm! he got angry and said I should not worry about getting pregnant as he is not ready to share me with any one. I was dumbfounded but managed to ask if he doesn't want kids and he said yes that I am more than enough for him. I am so confused and dont know what to do. I love my husband.
Dont know if I should add this; I am dark in complexion, 5ft8", size10 with a very flat tummy, my hips and ass na die but I no get boobs sha and I have a fine face. I am 24 while hubby is 32 and he married me a virgin.
How do i handle this?
Mscheeeew!...very funny you dont have a problem,just get pregnant without informing him,unless he is sterile.
You married a possessive man who might become very dangerous if you toy with him.reminds me of a movie i saw where the hubby became a killer.
*shivers*
poster two...ehya. pls allow ur hubby be. one man's meat...... i think it would dampen after a while.
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Chai! On poster 2 you scared me with your red ink Lol @ shivers,this hubby of yours is funny in a weird way tell him you want to go weewee? Oriegwu
DeletePosted 2, na love just dey catch your husband because he married a chases virgin wife. Who wouldn't be happy marrying a pretty virgin ?? "Nne okwa onu ugu ka ibu" virgins are hard to find these days and am sure he probably never believed you were one until your wedding night. It is too early to start complaining ma'am. One advise, if you want your marriage to last, stop putting it out in the public. People might give you advise that would make you start disliking your husband. Grow up please.
DeletePoster 1:
DeleteMadam
Pray.
That's the only thing.
Because you no fit talk.
I have heard of many many stories of this mother in law iss. And how they resolved it with the power of midnight.
You can ask for my email if you need the prayer points. I no get strength now
Poster 2: hmmm.
Madam. Well, just talk to God. It's a disease o.
I wish you good luck.
BLOG ANALYSER: @n1 nne, I can imagine ur plight! Hmmmm! Only God can fight ur battle. Go on ur kneels and start fasting and praying. U will be surprised on how they will leave without u saying a word. Ur hubby should also be nice to ur brother since u are nice to his family marriage na rub my back I rub urs. @2, ur own na gobe luv, I guess it will reduce after a while bt becareful nt to get him angry nd suspicious. Mean while relax nd don't worry urself too much. Trust in God nd pregnancy will happen in Jesus name Amen
DeleteI live dark girls with big booty die but I dey marry one fine yellow babe sha. But I love una die.
DeleteUr waist na 34,hips na 44 and you are 24...Hnmm in flavors voice. that's why he is all over you.
DeletePoster one: wat u are complaining now wud have bin avoided a long time ago....d both of u agreed on something so y will he now do d opp.....and is. too late to tell ur moda inlaw to go ohhh cuz hubi will not listen to u since u did not object since ....but u can still talk to ur Hubi about dis maybe he mite listen
DeletePoster two: he just loves u too much....just look for a way to get pregnant without him knowing
Poster 2, ur man has a psychological problem.... he needs therapist asap before he becomes dangerous.
Delete@ click Me, the guy is possessive. And that behaviour doesn't wane. I've been in those shoes for more than 15yrs and I've learnt to live with it. Mine has never become aggressive, maybe because all his FBI moves have yielded no results. He gave me a driver and body guards, claiming I need to live like his wife, therefore I need protection and elegance. But I dispatched all of them back to office. But I notice he has not relented because his "friends" who I have never met, pop up to greet me in malls and other busy places. Of cause, they do the introduction because they know I don't and can't know them. They're just his spies, payed to follow me around. He's just very lucky I'm an introvert who could just stay indoors (when not working) for days. Friends have left me because I wouldn't return their visits.
DeleteI tell hubby he's insecure, that's his problem. Did I mention that it's a taboo to have his friends come to house??? He waylays them at the gate and shoos them to an eatery.
So my dear P2, learn to live with it or deal with it now.
That man is sterile. Period. So all dis love he is showering u is so dat wen u find out, u will not leave him. U r in deep shit sha. Sorry.
DeleteP.S. This is purely my conclusion n not fact. But it's a huge possibility. Hehehe
Stella well done for scaring her to death.
ReplyDeleteMe sef shivered at that last paragraph.
Abeg no allow her become paranoid oh.
All I would say is I am very sure that he started even during courtship. possessive guys don't just become possessive suddenly.
Exactly.
Delete@poster1 :your case is hard ooooh,ur. Hubby is wicked so use wisdom and follow him.
Delete@poster2 : hmmmmm,ur hubby is over possessive, but his own is 2 much shall.
Try n get pregnant as soon as possible.
Hope he is not impotent dis one he is pampering u like dis.
Poster 1, I'm sure u're ibo, na them dey carry all them family come from village.
Delete@2, u sure say no be juju u take hold this man?
As in...i'm even paranoid on her behalf.
DeleteP1- same case wit my mum o, dey stayed in our house til dey got married ,Hian, i'm guessing ur husband is igbo, jst pray 4 dem 2 go cos as it is, if u talk u don turn winch 4 dier eyes. P2 nna baby ur husband is proud 2 hav u bt he own is nw 2 much o, my fwnd had a boifwnd lyk dat dat even threatened 2 kill her if she leaves, get pregnant witout him knowing so d love can b shared since itz 2 much 4 u.lol.
Delete@anon 16:14, not only igbo, just wait until u meet a shuarab , even granny and cousins go flood ur house
DeleteHmmmm passing by... I Waka
DeleteDese chronicles pass me oo, interesting!
ReplyDeleteMe sef don taya for today 's chronicles
Delete#Abbytohxoft
1,Those issues of family members living wit a couple shld have been sorted b4 marriage,however no matter how much a man loves his family(of orientation) he should put his wife n kids first...
Delete#2,ur husband na craze man o...fighting dat u wento d loo without waking him up?u r in for a big yawa ahead from a possessive/obsessed man...dis one dat he's sayin he doesn't want a baby to come btw u,u sure say no be ordinary water full his sperm so?
Hmmn am beginning to like this blog. SDK!!!
ReplyDeleteUr liking dis blog? Wait till u get addicted 2 it. D blog na dead
DeleteWhere have u been??? This blog is d ish!!!
DeleteBlog na dead ke? e ma sepe mo adura oo.
DeleteAll blog visitors shld mke channels 170 nd 171 on dstv der favt channels. Alot of ppl av personality disorder nd r nt evn aware. Poster 2, ur hubby is mentally ill. Research mre.
DeletePoster 1- your case is very dicey,I go siddon read comments..mother-in-laws and their sons? Whatever you do,be very smart about it. If you will invite your mother too to stay awhile..lol,walahi..don't confront your MIL,no matter what.
ReplyDeletePoster two, enjoy your husband while it lasts. A lot of married women crave for affection from their husbands and here your are complaining, Lol. But on a serious note, telling you he doesn't want kids sounds suspicious. Don't want to assume anything since your marriage is still young, but there's more to this. Please find out more about him to be on the safe side
DeletePoster one.....Tell your husband that u can't go on allowing only his family members to stay with u guys... Haba...make dem move ajoor...mother INLAW too come tanda for una house...... Mtcheeeee ....intruders wen dey find how dey go talk say u no allow their son progress
ReplyDeletePoster two.....Hmmm.,ur case dey fear me ooo....ur husband cud be so deadly... Wtf...he should give u breathing space......are u his life support?..... He wan enter ur intestine?
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I just love you Galore
DeleteHer own case tire me o.
DeleteAsk me ooo!! He wants to enter her intestine. Biko I no want this kain love o? Which kain thing be this?
DeleteBuhahahahhaha, am gonna love you until u hate me things
DeleteGalore on point .
DeletePoster 1 only prayer and fasting will solve ur problem.
The most amusing part is he saying u can't tell him u want to go and weewee.roflmao!
DeleteShe really must be his life support.lol!
Kai Stella why u wan put fear for the second poster body?
ReplyDeletePoster 2,your husband is obsessed with u.
Its a good thing but at thesame time,
too much of evrytin is bad..
Poster 1
Dunno what u tell u
U are in a dicey situation
Just thread with caution.
Stells this ur kettle ma die! Kikikikiki
DeleteLol...these fake ass virgins without hymen...
ReplyDeleteI almost believed your story.
You will make a good writer
Don't waste dis talent
Lol this mamie henn
DeleteM-amie the troublemaker...lol
DeleteMamie u no well ohhh..lol
DeleteWomen, and their palaver, some will say hubby they neglect them,n here u are complaining that ur hubby is showing u too much attention, nawao. Anyway I don't see anything wrong in him except the children matter.or maybe he's doing that to cover up for his being sterile.
ReplyDeleteNN1: I can imagine ur frustration, a friend of mine is also going through same ish. Just talk to your husband, let him do what is expected of him. even if there is going to be an intruder, not ur mother-in-law biko, they know how to spoil things for wifeys oo.
ReplyDeleteNN1: 2 reasons, its either he loves you so much or he is scared of loosing you (not necessarily bcos he loves you oo, maybe he is obsessed). Now, i dont get d part of the "Physical description" abi na bcos of ur "to die for" body he dey fear?
Marriage tho, he doesnt show love wahala,
if he loves u too much, wahala too. na wa ooo
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P1 please don't confront your MIL for any reason though you will subtly set ur boundaries . It happened to me too but minus d MIL part. Eventually they will drift off to their different endeavours in life; marriage, jobs, etc. Until then, stomach d BS that u can stomach and voice out respectfully where needed. It's all a matter of time/patience. Good luck.
DeleteP2 this one na obsessiveness, God help you oo. Just make sure u find out by hook or crook if he's fertile sha. My mum will always tell me, "manage what u have". Best of luck dear.
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Stellaaaaa! lol why u dey fear d small girl na. Which one u cm dey narrate film. Narrator 2. Nor worry it will reduce. But on a second thot. U can use style to Pali ur hubby boss so dey give him extra work. E b like say e get time well well.
ReplyDeleteIdnt even know what to advice,poster1, u would have not agreed for them to stay in ur house n d only way is to beg your husband to find a way of sending them back because if u confuse in any of his sisters or family they wil use it against u nd call u a bad wife , pray nd talk to ur hubby, u can form vex nd dnt talk to him nd wen he ask u y u are moody, let him know dat ur idea of marriage was just u n him plus d kids n u r not happy , u can talk to a close friend of his too, poster2, u r in a serious fix , such men are dangerous , they will call u even we. They are on break in d office nd all that, try n talk to him that's all u can do cos this is who he is nd he might not change , such men can commit crime of passion too nd kill women out of too much silly love, so talk to him Nd maybe he has a problem, this one that he dsnt want kids cos men who behave like your hubby do want their wives to get pregnant to be sure that if other men see a pregnant woman , they wnt ask her out, that's d way they reason. Maybe he has a fertility problem nd that is y he is Sayin no kids nd u r a Virgin do he might be trying to play smart , idnt like possessive men, they can kill a lady by mistake
ReplyDeletePoster2 as ib crime of passion. Things in discovery investigation..hehehehe
DeleteS to the licious dis your new tea cup na die o, I would really love to drink from dat cup I sure know it won't taste the same like other cups. Poster 2 may be some prophets must have told me some things regarding his future wife b4 hyou guys got married. # don't take me serious may be na too much african magic yourba dey worry me#
ReplyDeletekiririrririririr back 2 work . Lerra dolls
Poster 1, You are in a deep shit...Entire generation in your house, deal with it. But 1 thing i think you can do is, bring your own family in too. If he complains, then tell him every1 leaves, including his.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, hope you find help....
Narrative 2.
ReplyDeleteYou don enter one chance, no be small.
Poster 1 wen it cums to issues wit inlaws tread carefully n make hubby see reasons wit u...
ReplyDeletePoster 2 na ur own dem dey call one man's meat is another's poison.....wat ur here complaining of, another will give anytin to ve it.....buh I dey use 1 eye suspect ur hubby sha....he might b impo**** das y all dose loving n caring....#my opinono
#mistress of spices
poster 1 -tell your hubby you need your space ,and if he says no ,start attitude am sure you making them very comfortable ,when you start making them uncomfortable with your eyes ,you dont need to talk, body language will pass them the messege .
ReplyDeleteposter 2.obssesion ,you have to be careful with that kind of man ,get pregnant joo dont discuss it with him.
Poster 2,your hubby is weird oo..He doesn't even want to share you with his own kids?*mouth open.So when I wnt to urinate at night,i will wake my hubby up huh!!I guess my ex didn't know what obsession is afterall..
ReplyDeletePoster1: invite ur mum to come stay with you for a long tym too, then gradually ur brother mke we see weda the house go contain ur hubby. Then if he makes noise remind him of his family,or threaten to move out. poster 2: ur case na wa o! Ur hubby is possesive so u hav to b careful. U use style dey kirikiri oh!
ReplyDeleteMental case....poster2!
ReplyDeleteposter 1. ...since you've allowed it, be sure for war if you have them sent away....family members from hubby's side is huge NO for any home to work trust me....Other bvs that have been in ur situation should advice you.
MR EDDY said this heat wan kill person o.
ReplyDeleteLol. @Narrative number two. I think ur husband is scared of loosing ur beautiful shape to pregnancy.
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poster 2 u r complaining in 8 months cos ur husband is very expressive when it comes to love. If u don't appreciate it One day it would stop n u would cry n beg for it to come back. Better enjoy what u have n stop complaining.
ReplyDeleteUr first mistake ws letting them come in in d first place.. why cnt men understand that couples need their privacy for pete's sake? Why is it only dia relatives dat giv dia wives trouble? Dats how a frnd of mine dat got married in Aug last yr, her mother inlaw & sister inlaw hav moved in with them.. cnt a man understand it's difficult trying to put up with him alone as a husband considering the fact that dey r both coming frm different backgrounds nt to talk of adding 3 extra 'strangers' to him?where will d wife strt frm in pleasing husband, husband mama, husband brothers, husband sisters, husband grandfather, cousins & aunties huh??? They shud knw that some of these relationships r good frm a distance.. Nna na wa oh..
ReplyDelete@poster 2; Ur story is funny to me oh.. so u shud hav woken him to take permission b4 going to urinate? Hahahaha
These inlaws ain't loyal. Mstcheeew
DeleteDnot mind them.they wan to pak thir entire community to the house. Awon werey
DeleteNarative 2 ur story fonny die.lmao
I just wonder! He complained about her own brother but expects her to serve his own relatives? Poster #1, invite your own people also, when the pressure becomes too much for him and he starts to complain, remind him his own family is here. And don't bulge under his pressure to send any of your family away, and always look unhappy and be hissing whenever you are in your matrimonial bedroom, when he asks why? Say nothing and continue to hiss and sulk. Do this strategically that he too won't feel happy and comfortable In his own house! And find a way or excuse to Leave the house everyday, if you are not working or have a shop to go to. And when at home, stay inside your bedroom more to avoid talking too much because over familiarity brings contempt. And you have to find a way to live with this, until they get married and leave your home, but your MIL has come to stay! These men will still have the gut to complain about their wives when they put so much strain on them!
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Na so everytin wen I type disappear *sad* stella wey my chronicles naaa....abi my own no make sense reach for chronicles??? Pls publish am oooo I nid advice.
ReplyDelete#mistress of spices
Poster 2, i think your husband is hiding something from you. Why does he even feel insecure? I think you should go to hospital yourself and see if the doctor can help you out in becoming pregnant. Why won't a married man want kids? I smell something fishy.
ReplyDeleteUr first mistake ws letting them come in in d first place.. why cnt men understand that couples need their privacy for pete's sake? Why is it only dia relatives dat giv dia wives trouble? Dats how a frnd of mine dat got married in Aug last yr, her mother inlaw & sister inlaw hav moved in with them.. cnt a man understand it's difficult trying to put up with him alone as a husband considering the fact that dey r both coming frm different backgrounds nt to talk of adding 3 extra 'strangers' to him?where will d wife strt frm in pleasing husband, husband mama, husband brothers, husband sisters, husband grandfather, cousins & aunties huh??? They shud knw that some of these relationships r good frm a distance.. Nna na wa oh..
ReplyDelete@poster 2; Ur story is funny to me oh.. so u shud hav woken him to take permission b4 going to urinate? Hahahaha
Stella mk I no find this comment oh. Cos I noticed U've turnd my comments to ur jellof rice spice.
Ur first mistake ws letting them come in in d first place.. why cnt men understand that couples need their privacy for pete's sake? Why is it only dia relatives dat giv dia wives trouble? Dats how a frnd of mine dat got married in Aug last yr, her mother inlaw & sister inlaw hav moved in with them.. cnt a man understand it's difficult trying to put up with him alone as a husband considering the fact that dey r both coming frm different backgrounds nt to talk of adding 3 extra 'strangers' to him?where will d wife strt frm in pleasing husband, husband mama, husband brothers, husband sisters, husband grandfather, cousins & aunties huh??? They shud knw that some of these relationships r good frm a distance.. Nna na wa oh..
ReplyDelete@poster 2; Ur story is funny to me oh.. so u shud hav woken him to take permission b4 going to urinate? Hahahaha
Stella mk I no find this comment oh. Cos I noticed U've turnd my comments to ur jellof rice spice.
womwn,womwn, womwn what do we want?Hubby is over loving u will talk,hes not loving u will talk.My darling this is d early nstage of marriage enjoy every bit of d clinginess cos when reality sets in u will be seeking his face,he might not know a simpler way of loving and this may be his only way till the stress of mmarriage sets in.Why not be calm and not look for problems where there are nt.There are women who will give their left breast to be in ur shoes for a second.Enjoy hanging out with him now so if it ever gets to the point where he doesnt want that no more ud know u had ur fill.
ReplyDeleteposter 1:ur mil and my mil must be sisters, the only diff is hubby doesn't take such from her.Therefore,u need wisdom.I have my bro in law living in my house since the first day i got married(meanining nothing like privacy baa)but who cares and need i say things can get annoying,but i took him like my own blood brother and today he can fight anybody for my sake.What i mean to say is asides ur mil, use wisdom and follow ur bils,ignore their excesses but stam ur feet to the ground where u shud(as a woman no be everything we dey talk,we choose our battle with our inlaws).U will win in the end my love.
Salt E. You always think out of the box and I like you for that. You think like a man. You make mature comment always. Nice one
DeletePOSTER 2- DIDNT U NOTICE THIS BEHAVIOUR B4 HE MARRIED U, TO ME UR HUBBY HAS A PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEM(MEANING HIM DON KOLO) TAKE HRT DEAR. AM OUT!
ReplyDeleteN1, you have to be extra careful in that house. Kai, only you all the inlaws for village. Pele. N2, you go fear obssession nau. Now I need Stella that's a massive green one there, hahahahahaha.
ReplyDeleteOne man's meat is truly another Man's poison...poster 2, i wldnt mind such love frm my hubby to be i swear.
ReplyDeleteStella is that a microphone in between the legs of that frog? Hehehhe
ReplyDelete1. You just have to be careful as any wrong decision you take might cause a big problem between you and your in-laws. Talk to your hubby about how you feel and more importantly, talk to God. All will be well.
2. This isn't that much of a problem. Get pregnant for him and don't tell him until after a while. Some women wish to be in your shoes you know cos their DH doesn't even care this much.
STELLA DARLING GOD BLESS U AND ALL THE CHEERFUL GIVERS ON HERE... BUT THIS YA FROG OTONDO NA DIE. E FIT SHIFT PERSON WOMB PUT FOR CORNER...LMAO. AS FOR THE POSTER 1 YA HUSBAND NEVER KNOW WETIN HE WAN PUT HIMSEF..POSTER 2 U SHOULD BE THANKFUL YA HUSBAND NO DEY LET U REST SOME DEY BEG FOR ATTENTION DEM.NO SEE.. JUST DO AS STELLA TALK....NA MY ADVISE B DAT. MAKE I QUICKLY GO NAK MY HUBBY 1 SHORT AS STELLA FROG DON WAKE MY SPIRIT...
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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One: ur husband is crazy and i suggest yu bring ur own people too bcos that was not the deal at first...... Me i will love to stay with mum but is something we will discuss......
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Two: ur husband cant impregnate a lady thats the simple truth......
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ReplyDeletePoster 1. Talk to your husband very well.Tell him you arent comfortable with his family members in your house. If na fight make una fight join.When the fight becomes too much,he'll see reasons with you.hian!!
ReplyDeletePoster2. This life sef, if your hubby nor touch you now,na u go still complain.Enjoy him like that...and please get pregnant.All that story of you being enough na crap.One day he go begin find kids and even blame you join.
Una dohh!
Nigerian mother inlaws like misbehaving , they dnt stay in their house nd let d poor girl and their son enjoy marriage ,dnt confront your mother inlaw abeg
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1: it is what you allowed. U shouldn't have allowed them stay that long. by the time u put fire for their nyash dem go run. You made them feel u'r very accomodating that's why dey're still comfortable. mtchewww.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2: this kind love na wa. but when d nut lose from his head he'll start misbehaving and u'll also start complaining. He's probably so into you cos he married u a beautiful virgin and dosn't want anyone close to you until wenever. This kind of love is obsessive love. When you do anytn to hurt him, u'll know his true character. just try and communicate with him sha. Try to minimise his monitoring. u could deliberately avoid his calls sometimes (may cause trouble sha). try and mould him to get used to giving u space.
Nawao, second poster. I can relate to your story. It's well is all I can say.
ReplyDeleteLol @ stella...ur comment will definitely scare her jesss gannnnn take it easy @ poster 2.y don't u sit n talk to him mayb he has emotional problem lyk all his loved 1nc always leaving him n he is scared u gon do dsame
ReplyDeletePoster 1 Eya pele love you gotta take your husband out or let him take you ou, butter the situation well well and talk to him, tell him how you feel, how this is affecting you, how he didn't treat your brother well... Don't fight with him even if you wanna cry cry well well so he can see how this is affecting you!
ReplyDeletePoster 2.::: what can I say your husband has issues and God forbid he catches you with somebody else chai anyways he definitely is a possessive man and people like him go cray cray if anyone comes near you. So please return he's love and talk to him with love not with anger and Abeg get belle he will love your child too regardless! Goodluck
Hmmmmm! Poster 2 something is fishy abt ur hubby's attitude. I will be surprised if ur hubby is not sterile. He's using all these i dnt want anybody to come btw us thing to deceive you ohh! Better shine ur eye wella.
ReplyDelete@poster number two, at 5"8 you are too tall for most guys, also with flat chest. I beg stop hyping yourself, flat tummy ain't nothing. I'm a plus size still guys chase me up the street everyday.
ReplyDeleteJealousy dey worry you. Hype urself if you want to without making any reference to someone else.
DeleteDid i read from you that flat tummy ain't nothing? I am sure u secretly wish you had a flat tummy. Carry your plus size self to d gym and see how people work out for flat tummy instead of consoling urself with the guyz chasing you everyday.
Nice cup Stella
ReplyDeletePoster 2, u dey find tailor? na wa for your descriptive body detail o, shuuu
Narr2...Your husband loves you but watch that kind of love cause it might choke you someday, and i don't support you getting pregnant for now, What if he goes all ballistic on you for getting pregnant without his knowledge and do not also rule out the fact that he might be hiding something from you to make him say he doesn't want a child. Narr2, your case needs alot of wisdom to tackle so i suggest you handle the whole situation with care and prayers for Gods guidance.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 reminds me of one guy I dated. Chai, the guy dey possessive I had to run. It was more like obsession. Are you sure your husband can father a child? I ask cos this could be the reason why he is so possessive. You really need to handle this with wisdom. All the best.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, your case is dicey and you must really be wise. Honestly, relatives living with a married couple is a big NO for me.
@Poster 1 make your hubby his best dish and at night talk to him and make him see reasons with you...do not argue but make ur points known!
ReplyDelete@ Poster 2 ..you no dey read other chronicles? Please enjoy while it last! And as stella advised get pregnant without him knowing...its well with you
Ha. Poster 1 this hubby's family luv and destroy your marriage so try all means to talk him out
ReplyDelete2. One dey cry say their hubby no dey give am attention another dey cry bcos of too much attention.lol.. Yes stella is right be playing the luvy luvy thing with him bt get prgnant without him knowing. I wish say I get dat kind man e for tire but sha the marriage is still fresh all na initial gragra
#1, please leave your mother in-law ooh, i cant shout.....take your mind off them pls, SDKblog will help you achieve that. thankiu
ReplyDelete#2, your story made me shiver too, what is he scared of? he acts like a freedom robber(whatever that means)...lol prolly insecured or obssessed. i pray time changes him
@poster 1 - whether you good or bad, wife no dey be better person for in-laws, so if you like die in silence. Gather your own people come live with una den if hubby complain remind am say una agree from beginning say una go avoid family members living permanently and e don break d agreement. Open your mouth and speak woman, you are a partner in the marriage and not an object.
ReplyDelete@poster 2 - sorry, e be like say u don enter one chance. Dis your man dey behave like person wey fit be serial killer. Maybe e know say in sterile and no wan tell you so this story of wanting no pikin fit be defense mechanism. BE WARNED!!!!!!
I agree wit u. Poster1 berra invite all ur people to come and live with u,brace up for fights till his tired n ready to let every1 leave the house.
DeletePoster2,are u sure ur husband is potent?
This maybe off point but be sure genotype aint an issue bcoz my ex wanted me to marry him n not have kids because he was over possessive and our genotype were not compactible.
Hmm,poster 1-----I sure say ur hubby na Ibo man, anyways, this matter cannot be handled physically and by mouth, the bible says that a man shall leave his family and cleave to his wife and that noone should put asunder, ur hubby's people are putting asunder. So what do u do? my sister take it to the creator of marriage, use Genesis 2 verse 24,Matt 19 V 6 to pray that God should make that house uncomfortable for them all, pray that the sight of that house and everything in it starts to bite and irritate them, AND THAT THEY WILL HAVE NO PEACE TILL THEY LEAVE UR HOUSE FOR YOU.Ensure u dont nag ur hussy abt this issue again, be nice to them, do all ur supposed to do. This is not ur fight but God's.Do this and watch God in action.make sure u come and testify to the house.God bless u
ReplyDeleteLol@ not telling him you were going to urinate. I'm sorry but I couldn't stop myself from laughing. Very dicey situation because from your narrative, your husband scares me. Please don't follow Stella and get pregnant o unless you have fully convinced him and assured him, he'll still be your number 1, the only sugar in your tea lol
ReplyDeleteShe shd also check their genotype cos uDnt know y he dsnt want kids abi is he impotent ?
DeleteLwkmd Stella u made me shiver too. Sorry i cant stop laughing.
ReplyDeletePoster1 : patience is what u actually need in ur home. Since u have discussed d issue wit ur hubby and he isn't cooperating, d best thing is to exercise patience to save ur home. Above all, tell God about it, who knows, God can change d woman's heart and she will leave on her own and if she doesn't, live happily with her and make good friend with her. By so doing, she won't give u problem. Concerning d brothers, exercise more patience too, dey can't be with u forever. Treat dem like ur siblings, dey will soon leave to start hustling for deir lives. I know it's not easy but God will help you.
ReplyDeleteU can talk to ur husband dt u don't lik the way he behaves to ur relatives when dey come around.
Poster2 : Being possessive is more psychological dan physical... U nid to work on ur hubby psych. Reassure him everyday dt u luv him and u aren't going to leave him alone come rain or sunshine and u will be dere for him always. Tell him also dt children won't reduce d luv but make it stronger. Also let him know u aren't happy with his possessive attitude and u want him to change. If possible, u can see a psychologist. God will help u.
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DeletePoster1 : patience is what u actually need in ur home. Since u have discussed d issue wit ur hubby and he isn't cooperating, d best thing is to exercise patience to save ur home. Above all, tell God about it, who knows, God can change d woman's heart and she will leave on her own and if she doesn't, live happily with her and make good friend with her. By so doing, she won't give u problem. Concerning d brothers, exercise more patience too, dey can't be with u forever. Treat dem like ur siblings, dey will soon leave to start hustling for deir lives. I know it's not easy but God will help you.
ReplyDeleteU can talk to ur husband dt u don't lik the way he behaves to ur relatives when dey come around.
Poster2 : Being possessive is more psychological dan physical... U nid to work on ur hubby psych. Reassure him everyday dt u luv him and u aren't going to leave him alone come rain or sunshine and u will be dere for him always. Tell him also dt children won't reduce d luv but make it stronger. Also let him know u aren't happy with his possessive attitude and u want him to change. If possible, u can see a psychologist. God will help u.
Poster 2, I want your husband oh!
ReplyDelete#1... Guess you should accept the fact your mother in law and her kids are there to stay.. Be the best you can.... Learn the craft of household politics... Telling your hubby you don't want his beloved mother in your house will only make him determined to keepp his mum there...without doubt you are in a difficult situation with a man who probably always planned to bring his relatives to the house.. Tread carefully ..Ehimare
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poster 2,dont worry,it will soon decrease but in the mean time enjoy the attention. you people are still very fresh in marriage.This complain can come up if after 3 yrs plus it still persists, then u resort to prayer by telling God to keep him extra busy both spiritually and career wise.Me na prayer I know.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile Star babe sugar, abeg tell me the name of the movie
Poster 2,u certainly don't have a problem.Most women would die for what u r complaining about.Like Stella said just get pregnant without him knowing(unless he is sterile),the baby wld eventually get all attention.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2- I'm usually not like this, but this is my thought right now.
ReplyDeleteIf truly, he was not that possessive during 2 years of courtship, and it all started on the wedding day... maybe (just maybe), he was glad he "nailed" you & has been trying since then to take your attention off having kids- could be he is sterile, and depending on how rich he is, maybe he has ...
(I have to stop here, cos I'm getting paranoid on your behalf already!)
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Poster2... maybe hubby has a problem down there... c a doc!
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm! Possesive men!!
ReplyDeleteI have a story about them buh na for anothe day.
Let the comments roll tOo cuz i nead to learn.
Poster 1 --- look for work that can make you come back very late from the office so that you will not die of hypertension. Am sure you are not working that is why the man is taking the advantage of bringing his village people to live with you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 -- ur case don pass be careful. your husband don dey kolomenta. This kind love na wa. One man's meat is another man's poison. God go see you through
Wow !! Stella of life, IHN rocks.. Keep the flag flying.
ReplyDelete@poster1...name sitdon look be my name. @ poster2... Did 1 DAT you are giving us your statistics so #Lip sealed. My advice is for you to give that guy close marking.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: handling issues about MIL is not easy and very delicate. Your DH tricked you. A deal is a deal. No relations in the house on long terms means it and you should have insisted when he first wanted his brothers over. Now you just have to sit and appeal to his conscience. If you have strength, you can cause a lil scene by bringing in your own people. But it seems you and your people like to mind your business. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: he married out of his league. Men usually don't turn up virgins at 30, he probably had complexes getting a girl for himself to he met you. And since you are pretty, he never imagined having someone like you as a wife. The good news is: he is a guy and will get over the shocks you will give out to him in order to train him.
Lol @Galore u funny
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ReplyDeletePoster two...wat if ur husband cant produce and he didnt wat u to hear it frm anybody even d doctors jst saying cos i neva hear whr man go talk say him no need child.abeg help ursef and see doctor
ReplyDeletePoster one:You have to seek God's face, for wisdom to tackle this issue, because any wrong move,you become their enemy for life, even beyond sef.
ReplyDeletePoster two :I hope you're not the frigid type sha,seeing as you're not comfortable with lovey dovey stuff.
Maybe your husband has been hurt so badly in the past, so he probably needs reassurance.
Loosen up a little, tell him how much you love him daily, send him texts,just be spontaneous.
Hopefully, he gives you a little space,when he sees you're really going nowhere.
Narr2) at first I was smiling and saying to myself dat dis is d kind of man I want in my life but at d end I said God forbid cos I love children. ....
ReplyDeleteLol! Mother in law's. Poster1, don't say anything to ur husband cux dat ll b disastrous, just invite ur mum over, if he complains, dats wen u ll tell him dat as ur mum is leaving so is everybody! Just b diplomatic sha. Poster2, hmm men like dat r funny o, so handle him with care! Okay make I read comments
ReplyDeleteLol@ poster 2.
ReplyDeleteSorry but ur narrative is damn funny.
@why didn't you tell me before you go to pee.
smh!
Poster 1,I have being married 7 years now and pls humbly permit me to say dis: of all the "politics" in Marriage, "in-Laws" are the TRICKIEST.
ReplyDeleteEsp when u have those in-laws that are always in ur face and not minding deir biz and a hubby who doesn't "understand"
One advice for u: Whatever u do,Never,I say it loudly,NEVER be on d the other side of ur in-laws esp when ur hubby is on that same side with them.
Be wise! Be Patient! Be good! Be prayerful!and watch things turn around for ur good.
Poster 2,hahhahahahha na over love they worry ur hubby.Hahhahaha
I remember wen we married newly,everytime d General turns he Wil ask me,lets buy this for ya Mom.lets change her car bla bla....
in shock,I was bewildered....Hahhahahahahha
Fast forward 3 years later....baby pls can u get my mom new set of Ty.....
I no go finish the word sef ...see "wot-do-u-mean-by-that-look hahahhahahahahahaha
CHAI.....dis man won't kee me....hahahhahaha
next thing he wil ask" Bia baby,don't I pay u salary. .
LMAO
SO Poster relax he wil Always love u buh dis phase Wil pass.
Good luck on dose coming babies darling.
poster 2 you're lucky I swear my hubby used to be all you mentioned when we were dating till kids came o he will return from work he'll kiss the kids play with them not a simple hello to me I complain hut he doesn't listen in buying him time
DeletePoster 2: This reminds me of that Julia Roberts film where her husband was possessive and started beating her. Your husband sounds very possessive and it can be rather dangerous but just be careful. Just sit him down and reason with him.. Tell him that E Don do.. You thank him for loving you so passionately but he should pump his brakes a bit before you explode.
ReplyDeleteBut be grateful.. Plenty women would kill to be in your position.. I suggest making new friends outside your marriage... Go out, switch off your phone so he won't be callings constantly.. And if he loses his temper... That's a RED FLAG which means his over lovey dovey behaviour is in fact him being possessive and manipulative.
Poster 1: does your MIL not have her own husband or is she a widow? It's a sticky situation. Try sitting her down woman to woman if she's a reasonable lady... She will understand that over staying of welcome is inconsiderate. Better yet, ask her if her own mother in law did what she is doing to you.. LOL but actually don't try it because I'm sure she will insult the hell out of you. Sit your hubby down and talk to him.. If he doesn't respond, say you want a divorce (but don't mean it oo) lol
Good luck to you both!
Xx
May she not chop slap by the time she gets home from switching off her phone.
Delete@ poster 1 I will advise u thread carefully in law mata no easy the person u have to work on is ur husband he should be the one sending them out not you.
ReplyDelete@poster 2 be careful get pregnant without telling him even when the baby comes u must be extra vigilant I had to break up a relationship because of this it can be very frustrating and irritating
Poster 1.. This might sound funny but you can pray about it. Yes it happen to my sister and she prayed fervently about it. one after the other with different reasons, they all left her house in peace o. No quarrels. But in the meantime please endure and tolerate them.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand this one your husband has packed his entire family to come and stay with you guys. For wetin naa. MIL no get husband again, I presume cos if she had, she would have run back to her own home. I don't subscribe to you driving her, but for his two brothers living there. Hmm. This your case na divine intervention . Maybe if you had a sister, you try and bring her in. If your husband picks on her,then you tell him your own mind about his entire lineage in your house, but in a nice way oh.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, You don't have a problem yet. And I mean yet. Your husband is the possessive type. Be careful how you handle him and his emotions. Give it like in the next one year, I mean 4 mths remaining from your wedding day and get pregnant. Let him know oh. No go carry belle without you guys discussing it before hbp go follow you enter that belle oh. But enjoy the loving as e de shack d bobo. This ya story fit enter chronicles of hope and chronicles of despair. Lol
Stelladoll,u wicked oooo,ur nt helpin matters wif poster2.
ReplyDeletePoster2: u beta dnt mess wif ur husband if nt he will kill ya...I dnt like too much call or lovey dovey too so I kw wat ur goin tru bt manage bfr him go vex kill u.
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Poster 1- You are in a dicey situation & you need the wisdom of Solomon to scale thru. I'll suggest you pray over the issue & that your hubby should be more reasonable.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- Your hubby is the possessive & jealous type shikina. For your own good; do not toy or play games with him, don't lie & arrange a meeting with any body he respects & holds in high esteem to help reduce the possessive tendency in him cos too much of everything & anything is dangerous & deadly.
Poster 1, Talk more to your husband.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, You don enter am o.God go save u.Make I read comments.
Hell Stella,
ReplyDeleteim one of your biggest fan
please I do I comment with my name?
Poster 2, ur hubby maybe having some form of psychological ish. Is He from a broken home? What was his relationship with His other gfs like b4 U met Him? Trust me, it's not normal
ReplyDelete#1 just dey pray make God touch yr hubby's mind to tell his mum to go back to her base. If you can't endure it, may be your mum can come too. Men don't joke with their 'own'.
ReplyDelete#2 Just be prayerful, hope he doesn't have any problem or hiding something from you. You will give birth.
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteYou just have to calm down and manage your present "condition" for now and pray your inlaws become uncomfortable under thesame roof with you.Fire midnight prayer for all of them!
Poster 2
Na juju u do for am?Hian!
Just be patient,e go soon clear for in eyes...take in without his consent,if he tells you to abort,flee oh,b4 something tragic happens.
Today's chronicles pass me oooo
ReplyDelete#1 no confront your MIL or his brothers be nice to them, aswear one day your hubby will do the needful
ReplyDeletePoster1 chase them out with fire and brimstone,if not physically do it spiritually
ReplyDeletePoster2 your husband is paranoid,before getting married to him did you check if his family is mentally unstable,killer alert
Poster 1...you already made the mistake by allowing it. Speak with your pastor or someone he respects or leave d house for them and return when they leave. P2....take in by force.....when he sees baby he will transfer d love or at least share it. Stop picking everytime he calls.
ReplyDeleteI'll read comments.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster 2 if he doesn't want kids don't force him...meanwhile he loves u somuch dat if u mess up wt him he can hurt u...so b carefull...also love n posses him the way he does to u.
ReplyDeleteHello Stella
ReplyDeleteIm one of your bieggest fan
Please how do I comment with my name? thank u.......momoife
Poster 2: I don't think you're in any danger whatsoever, have a chat with him, tell him how much u love him, how u like the way he loves you but you need him to trust you and know ur not going anywhere. its a phase and will wear off gradually, just enjoy all the love and attention. *Hugs*
ReplyDeletePoster 2::::: I'm sorry to let you know, your husband is not only sterile but is obsessed with you....
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, I don't know how you can have a 2 year relationship that led to marriage and you never once knew your husband's thoughts on kids ..when he wants, how many he wants, how closely together he wants to have them even the sex sef
Secondly, he is obsessed with you....that's not love....someone or something must have happened in his past ( esp a family separation, divorce or even cheating between his parents) to make him feel the way he does....it's stifling and I'm sorry , but you won't be able to walk away...
If could get better with time tho, if eventually he feels that he trusts you, he might relax a bit....
On a lighter note, this is what many women are praying and crying on the mountains for oh......ok nau
N2 hmmm possessive men can be very dangerous o. Some can kill anyone dt gets close to dia loved one. So Nne be very careful, n am sure he showed d signs during ur courtship but u ignored dd signs due to love. Don't listen to Stella. O, make sure he knows dt u like children n dt u will like to be a mother. Am sure u guys will sort it out. N2 mother in laws case Is very delicate so be careful. May God help u to sort it out d best way.
ReplyDeletePoster 1- Call ur husband and talk to him. Tell him you love him very much and you want to be able to concentrate on ur nuclear family without distractions. If you are Christians remind him that the bible says that both man and woman shall leave their respective families and cleave to each other and become one. But what you are seeing is not one family but a whole lot of distractions (Just say it as politely as possible, cos these men can be funny at times and in-law palava no be here). Try to be nice to ur in-laws without compromising your integrity. If and when he tells them to leave, call ur MIL once in a while or send her stuff.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- I think ur husband is insecure. Talk to him and Try doing this (just my own opinion o). Call him when you get to work, don't wait for him to call, then tell him to text you if he there's an emergency. Text him too while at work or chat with him, when you do this for a while, start reducing it gradually, funny enough you might begin to like it yourself. He probably just needs attention. Try indulging him for a week and see how it goes, na him go tire except it really is that bad and if it is you both need a counselor.
Poster2; accept your fate and adapt to it. Get pregnant without him knowing. If still unsuccessful.... Hmnnn maybe your hubby is just using defence mechanism to cover up. Good luck
ReplyDeletePoster two this is call luv
ReplyDeletePoster 1, get used to it o cause you are in for a hyper long thing! Inlaws are damn annoying and the way they claim possession eeh, Tufia! Just get used to them and bring out like 10years of your life as a time of misery. When they marry, they will all get out and you will enjoy ur life.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, biko am looking for a man that will love me that way o. Aswear I don't mind!
Not true 10years ke! My aunt's in law av been living with them for 19years and d marriage is 20years. Those in laws are worse than d devil
DeleteThat's what you think until you do get a man that is that way! It can be so irritating...suffocating...annoying
Delete@OmalichaZweetie, ur aunty must really be a strong woman for staying that long with them o. Haba naa, 19 gini! I reject and forbid!
Delete@Ixora, make I jamam first...lolz
What? 19 years? Were they babies when they came living with them? And they expect couples to bond well when there is always a 3rd party present? Later the men complain for lack of spark in the marriage when they killed it on arrival!
DeleteThis tn sounds like love potion wey don back fire. Nne talk true.
ReplyDeleteBabalawo asked her to put a pinch of the "substance" in her DH's food,she went and put a handfull of it.Excess love tinz....Lol
DeleteAbeg where do I get the love portion??? I need it ASAP, drop the number of anyone who can prepare better overdose portion for me.
Deleteposter 1- your husband is selfish.
ReplyDeleteinfact am too angry with his actions to think logically on how tactful you should handle the ish.
poster 2- your husband loves and adores you and he is TOTALLY POSSESIVE. this could turn out very good and very bad.
from you post, you are feeling like he is choking you already with the love. you should be grateful for that but, he may start keeping tabs with your movement, telling you who to talk to and who not to. that's where it gets pretty annoying.
possessiveness has its excesses really!
Poster 1,pack out
ReplyDelete2. What's d essence of listing ur hysical attributes? My dear,he is possessive.
Poster 2 reminds mi of a nursery rhyme "some have food but cannot eat,some can eat but have no food"... C dis lady complaining wen a thousand and one married women r wishing to b pampered even if its quarter of wat ure enjoying. She's just blowing things out of proportion. You Had beta enjoy the honeymoon period,its just 8 months!
ReplyDeletePoster 2 I wish you the best with that o!
ReplyDeletePoster 2, and we are meant to use this fine description of yourself to soak garri abi? Just talk to your hubby.. I didn't read where you wrote you guys have talked and you've gotten to know him or what he wants.. But na wa, this kind of possessiveness pass me.
ReplyDeleteShe thought it might be medically relevant... lol!
Deletehahaha. ..Berty you are funny! one man's meat another's poison... smh.
DeleteLike I care....sheybi una don marry. mschew! u tink say na by 1st 2 marry.
ReplyDeletePoster one, it's a very delicate Matter o.. If I'm in ur shoes I won't knw wt to do but to pray fr divine understanding fr hubby n wisdom fr me.
ReplyDeletePoster two... Lmao, ur hubby funny sha.. I like his love though... I just hope he's not hiding anything sha.. GOODLUCK
Poster 2
ReplyDeleteYour story is hilarious! !!! Hmm it's just 8 months give it time
It'll cool down
poster one, no one has d power to disturb ur mind unless you let dem
ReplyDeleteIf u want a lasting peace, change ur mind towrds ur MIL and realise you can let go of all d thoughts dat disturb you, but don't do it alone turn to God!
God alone...
Poster 1 u should hv stood ur ground in d first place nt to allow any relative live wit u pple,how do u intend to let go of ur mother-in-law now who has stayed in ur huz for God knows when?pls persuade ur hubby to do d needful n send his mum to her base so u can hv peace in ur home,dnt do it urself let ur hubby do dat,why his own relatives alwaz n he frowns @ur own relatives when dey visit,ur hubby is self centered n u allow him to overshadow u in d first place,poster 2 ur hubby might be sterile for saying he does nt want kids,pls take him for test asap cos I dnt understand dis overprotective acts of his,if his result proves he is ok jst widen ur legs n catch d ball,when d baby arrives he ll readjust biko
ReplyDeleteNYDP- New York Delta Pikin
ReplyDeletePoster 1 - careful is the word, cos MIL issue is very sensitive. Please be very careful and let your hubby be the one to tell her not you. Don't let anyone hear you say it excerpt your hubby. And if your hubby doesn't understand, then bring in your mum too. And see how he will take it.
Men needs to understand, you building your own family and not bringing others in.
Good luck dear.
Poster 2- #possessive#. Yes your hubby is possessive. I got really worried, reading the part where you went to use the bathroom and he's screaming your name. Haba, for what na? He should chill please. And as sdk said be careful with him, cos you don't know what might trigger him. With people like him, it's wisdom and not gra gra. Be watchful and careful. Wish you the best.
NYDP.
P2: ur hubby is possessive ooo...intoxicating love I guess...Anyways,just relax..u no get wahala..Monitor ur cycle/ovulation period and make him get u pregnant wivout his knowledge.
ReplyDeleteP2: I will so cry if am in ur situation ...Haba!! next tin he will bring his ancestors to come n stay in ur. Matrimonial home...Biko have a talk with ur hubby buh don't be confrontational..just be subtle and sweet and let him knw you u feel..
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chaii. stella this ur cup na wah. no.2 hmmm are u sure ur husband is okey? am thinking of something oh. i might be wrong shaa. can he pregnant woman? may be he has a low sperm count, abeg make una no finish me shaa.
ReplyDeletePoster 2---pray hard, your husband is the dangerous type. Do not keep male friends, just dey follow am for back or else the minute you slip up...na wahala.
ReplyDeletePoster 1-You started accepting and accepting, I am not sure what you can do now.
Poster 1. What u need is prayer and u need to communicate with уσυя husband with a cool voice, so dat he can listen to u.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. firstly, I tink уσυя husband is possessive type, wch he need psychological help, coz most of it might cause by past experinces. All he need is уσυя trust, when he trust u, u will c d obsession will reduce. Also try 2 check if d man is complete.
Poster 1: follow stella's advise n pray well, don't take a decision u myt regret.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: To me, u have got no problem o, na wetin somepple dey find sef.
Just talk 2 him about d pregnancy ish n make him see reasons. He is just worried d affection myt reduce, be shared or even be gone completely
He's just insecure n obsessed.
Be prayerful, communicate a lot n watch
*Rmn blessed*
poster 1, leave your MIL & her sons. one day you will look for them n u wont find them. Don't push it.
ReplyDeleteposter 2, something is wrong with your hubby. you need babies pls.
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ReplyDeleteposter1: u av to continue wat u started to avoid family war.
poster2: stop complaining. ur boo is possessive and that is it. give him d tin...quickie,fasty name it. or else you might regret wat will happen next.
Poster 2....maybe someone jazzed him on ur behalf, lol
ReplyDeletePoster 2,my hubby was like that initially but he changed,na u go dey ask am to tell u that he loves u lol
ReplyDeletePoster 1- 2 words... patience, prayers! poster 2; your story cracked me up real bad. Might be nothing, maybe he's just deeply crazily, madly, head over heels, fall over a cliff, seriously, genuinely in love with you... my hubby didn't want kids in our first year too... so ain't nothing to afraid of...or not!
ReplyDeletep2..enjoy it while it last...(it wont last 4eva) buh try n set limits b4 it becomes 'EXCESS'...pls ENJOY it( i made a terrible mistake bk then!!)
ReplyDeletep1...hmmm...tread with caution... be careful...u gatta over-win ur mans heart b4 u can try anythg wit his family..
jus b patient n prayerful..do ur part...get ur hubbys heart n he wil b d one even seeing d "inconveniences"
poster 2:u will soon regret ur comments. when ur husband will leave u for days and dissappear.instead of u to thank God for ur blessings. I wish my own husband was like urs. Stuoid girl.May another woman seize him from u! amadioha bomb ur mouth,
ReplyDeleteNne nawah o! Idi wicked.
DeleteAmadioha bomb her mouth kwa?
But me tire for her complains oh!
Maybe the man is even loving her genuinely.
Its well with dem o
Just reading comments and smiling...see all the single ladies wey don drop cv some days ago dey see fault inside person marriage.
ReplyDeleteOh Lord my God, when I'm in awesome wonder...singing continues
Hahahahaha..I love that cup. N1, I am sure your husband has a good reason for allowing all those people in, all this one sided stories. N2, I am sure your husband did not change over night. Nah werey love your husband get.
ReplyDeleteLol @ poster 2, my hubby was kinda like that at the beginning too. Not crazy like yours sha, trust me it would cool off after a while. And don't secretly get pregnant o, some men don't handle it well.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 don't you have a mother bring her to the house too..well try and sit your hubby down and explain things to him again or better still go and see other relatives about this issue but you need to be carefull before they start saying you don't want your mother in law around!poster2 just don't tell him get pregnant when it's two months gone you let him know.but be very carefull your hubby can poison a frd because of you and it's so obvious his crazy in love with u.....his a sick dude
ReplyDeleteposter :2 I will advice you to enjoy your marriage bcos this over possessive hubby you re complaining about alot of married women re out there praying to have your kind of hubby, please just try to talk to him later about babies, but don't listen to any negative advice,Your Union is still very young, please enjoy your marriage,
ReplyDeletePoster 1: God grant you wisdom profitable for direction o. But as you know, it's a sensitive matter, and diplomacy is key. Try not to see it as 'me against them' though.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I think you are worrying too early. I suggest you match him in the possessive acts (may take some effort as you have declared yourself not the lovey dovey type of). You too, be calling him like he does, ask of his whereabouts often, you too go and look for him when he goes to the loo, etc. Try this and see what results it yields. It might ease his mind/psyche. And if he's hiding anything, you will find out eventually. Na marriage. Enjoy the ride, as the journey together still far.
ALL YOU GUYS ABUSING MOTHER-INLAWS , I WANT TO KNOW WHEN IT BECOMES YOUR TURN YOU WILL TAKE YOUR OWN ADVICE.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Sorry, endure because if you talk, na the end of ya marriage be dat.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. That man has a very bad secret he doesn't want you to find out.
@second poster I don't understand what purpose the details of your stats serve in your narrative and that's why I think your story is very much like all the cliche stories we read in cheap and unrealistic paper backs like harlequin and silhouette where the hero is always so intense and needy.
ReplyDeletePoster 1:Try to look 4 a time your husband would listen n make him reason wiv u,am sure if u keep persuading him,he would yield.Poster 2:if ur husband no love u,una go complain,now he is killing u with love u don't want.anyways be careful cos ur hubby is the obsessive type n dey can kill,do not do things that hurt him ooh.
ReplyDeleteI dont know how pple do it oo....i love my space so much, i cant stand pple living in my house beyond 2 months oo..my house is my sanctuary....not even my mother can live with me...my MIL????....no way...even her son cant live with her...the only reason my mom will stay up to 3 months max is when she comes for omugwo...apart from that 1 month, max 6 wks and u are already inconveniencing me...pls go to back to your house...
ReplyDeleteMy MIL came for 2 months, come and see how she scattered floor...she almost broke our marriage if not for God and wisdom....since then, hubby has said: stay in your house oo...i will send u chop money, we will visit u when we can...but never will i put u under the same roof with my family again....imagine her advising hubby on marriage issues..telling him not to be disclosing all his income n business to me...of course, wat do u expect from someone that has been divorced for over 30 yrs....
I beg make everyone siddon dem house ooo....if i need help, i go employ nanny n housemaid...dat i can send packing in 5 mins...
#1: Honestly, I don't know what to tell you. This is too much. Not 1 relative but 3. Bring your relatives too. Let the place be an extended family house. That will solve the problem. Don't talk to your husband about it again o. Blood is thicker than water. Na wisdom person dey take keep her home. Rose
ReplyDeletePoster 2...make believe!!!
ReplyDeletePoster 1: I was almost in the same shoes like you barely 1month after my wedding but I played a wise smart card on them which I won't say here, long story short I filled my house with my family instead and now he is the one begging that they go lool, I am not Ibo but he is Ibo and I believe in that adage that say always be one step ahead in anything you do.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I wish my hubby was like that sef my hubby is so horrible and I wish I didn't get married to him sef but na my brain I dey use here. As in he is everything I don't want in a man, but what can I do he pretended during our very brief courting and I too was a virgin when I got married to him, I have even zoned out from any affection with him and u can't believe I have never felt any orgasm infact I don't know how it feels, he no dey do foreplay and it's just freaking painful na so I go endure just open leg he will enter, enjoy himself, turn me over do all styles, release inside and then go back to being terrible to me all day.Abeg make we exchange hubby, I go pay you on top the exchange sef and you fit keep the change join. Besides he didn't want a child so I also timed my ovulation and now I'm preggy and it's killing him looool
The things people endure in the name of marriage. And you are proudly writing "Na my brain I dey use here". Continue playing wise cat for the rest of your life. Na by force to marry I don't even know.
DeletePoster 2: I think if u do get pregnant, whether deliberately or by mistake.. u must act very surprised and even cry..lol.. but seriously keep assuring ur hubby of ur love and tell him hw much you long to hold ur baby and how eager you are to birth a little him.
ReplyDeletemay my marriage be like this in JESUS Name amen. my marriage will be like this in JESUS Name amen. i claim this as my portion in my marriage in JESUS Name amen.
ReplyDeleteAunty Claimo! Be tapping into what you don't know or understand. LOVE IS NEVER POSESSIVE, I hope everybody reading this understands that. Tap & jeopardize your future.
DeletePoster one:may God answer ur prayers,,, maybe when u should try n engage ur mil in some house chores like baby sitting..mama pls look after d kids i'm off d market. Make sure u stay longer if she accept this make it her job .. Soon she go tire say dem want turn her into maid. Then u go form "mama u know it's not easy taking d kids along everywhere I go...plus they r also ur grand children.. Frustration n restlessness from d kids go pursue her but make sure u gain from her too b4 she leaves.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:na love dey shark ur oga,try get belle n no quick tell am (that is if his sperm dey ok)
@poster 2....God will deliver yu....i just survived an obssesed derranged so call lover..my dear...you are in soup...pls stay clean oo and be tru to the marriage...i went thru hell but i came out stronger..i wish you all the best....men like that commits crime of passion...be ready for anything...stay blessed
ReplyDeletei know men like you. They dont change. Get ready to endure. Or you could use style to tell him that he is making you uncomfortable and that other men dont do the same to their wives. Find a way to gently tell him that his love is suffocating you and not normal so he will be cautious of his actions
ReplyDeletethe disadvantage of marrying such a man is that if you use mistake and leave him or cheat on him, U ARE DEAD. As in ... going to die
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