Here we go again.....Another does it!
The other woman?you walked in without blindfold? cant deal!...Mscheeeew!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
TEAM #NOSNOOP JOINS #TEAMSNOOP
Dear Stella,
I write you this mail with heaviest of heart and knowing fully well the amount of mails you get everyday I pray you find time to read this one because i am at that point where i just wanna disappear from planet earth.
I am one of the people against #teamsnooping but this time Stella Bae i just wanted to be sure so i tried it....
I have been dating this guy since June last year and from the day we met, we saw each other everyday unless he is out of town.The relationship has been one of the best things that has happened to me and everybody around us just loves the way we are. truthfully Stella i started getting uncomfy with how nice this guy is too. he was too good to be true.
On one of his major trips i decided to go to his house and find out if there are things i need to know (i have a spare key)
Let me not bore you with the whole gist but Stella i found out that my loving boyfriend is divorced with two kids and has a baby mama. please Stella do you think this man ever had the intentions of telling me considering the direction this relationship is headed?. what do i do? This emotional baggage is too much for me to carry but i love him crazy. if only he can open up to me i think i can stlll stand by him.
I asked him if there is anything i need to know and he said NO. meaning he has no plans of telling me. I am devastated. where and how do i start from? this is a man i have rejected all suitors for and he knows. why didnt he tell me to go with any of dose other guys if he never had the intentions of being real with me. I have so many unanswered questions. i just want to die Stella. i cant even concentrate at work.
Please someone should say something to me.
Hmmm...You want to die?because of a man and his lies?I would suggest you tell him about your findings and tell him to open up,no need pretending you dont know....#Teamsnoop members any advice?
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
THE 'OTHER WOMAN' AT A CROSSROAD
If you sent me a Chronicle,dont worry it will come up okay?
Hmmm...You want to die?because of a man and his lies?I would suggest you tell him about your findings and tell him to open up,no need pretending you dont know....#Teamsnoop members any advice?
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
THE 'OTHER WOMAN' AT A CROSSROAD
Hello Stella good day.I am a regular blog visitor I was introduced to your blog by a friend
I am a 28 years old divorced mom.,I got married September 2011 and I got pregnant immediately. I have been divorced from my ex for 2 and a half years. I went through hell in that marriage.
I Am not perfect I made mistakes but I did every thing to make it work,my ex frustrated me but I made up my mind that I will never pack out, to cut the long story short he eventually packed me out when he took my eight months old son away saying he wanted to take him to a birthday party,he returned without my son and I started asking where my son is and he said since I refused leaving his house that he has taken his son .
I was shocked and called his mom who was equally surprised,I held him that he must bring my son and he beat me up,His mom came with his brothers even our neighbours came out to beg him yet he refused. I later went to his parents place and he brought my son the next day evening,I stayed with his parent for over two weeks because his mom really loves me and wanted our marriage to work.
My ex brought my things to his parents place and I left for my family house. He has remarried now. my issue now is that since I separated from my hubby I have been meeting married men who want to marry me its really serious and I have been praying about it.
Now there is this man that I have been close to for a year now he is married too and he says I should get pregnant for him that he wants to pay my dowry ,i am really confused because i am beginning to like him and he has been of assistance to me,he wants to rent am apartment for me and train my son because his father doesn't care because he asked me to take my son to his parents and I refused,am beginning to think about it because am tired of staying in my family house,my parents are late.
I am a fresh graduate currently job hunting. I really want to leave my family house because I have to provide food when my aunt is not around and look after my cousin kids and I have no job.
I am not a home breaker and I never wanted to be the other woman but I really can't help it. please BV advice me.
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?You are not a home breaker but you are f**cking somebodys husband and thinking of getting pregnant for him?
You sound desperate at your age.Please leave another woman's husband alone and find how to better yourself.If someone stole your husband,you dont have to steal another woman's own abeg.
You know what?if you get pregnant and have the baby he so badly wants and he dumps you,where will be your next bus stop?
You are hanging unto him for financial reasons right?FINE...PLEASE CHOP AND CLEAN MOUTH WAKA.
Leave another woman's husband in peace please.
You did not even really say why your hubby threw you out..What did you really do wrong before you started trying your best to make it work?
Sorry for being so hard on you but it is what it is!
If you sent me a Chronicle,dont worry it will come up okay?
Poster 1 ... men that looks too good for everything fear them ooo. Even it has been said in the bible that not everything that looks good is good to eat.
ReplyDeleteso you better confront him and stop dying or better still go to Benin and tie him.
Poster 2: chop and clean mouth na u be. If the other woman catch you na ota pia pia u go drink.
leave another woman husband or you want the woman to do night vigil on your head. Take time and wait for God's appointed time.
You can go the village and look for a widower there
Poster1 thats what happens to you when you put all your eggs in one basket. A man hasn't proposed to you and you threw out other suitors? Why? Even after finding out you are still ready to stick with 3rd hand if you tells you the truth? Lady were is your pride? He's divorced and has a baby mama thats too much baggage if you ask me. Tell him your findings and leave him. If you're 40yrs or a divorcee too, fine.
DeletePoster2 you're just desperate. Your husband was stolen so you must steal someone's own too? Judging from your write up I'd love to hear your husbands side of the story, you story is not complete and you seem like a cheat. Istead of you to concentrate on getting a job and giving yourself and child a good life you're thinking of how to steal someones husband. Didn't you just come out of a divorce? Desperado
@poster1:thank God u snooped.
DeleteWhat if u didn't? What if married him without knowing?
Just thank your stars
Is not 2 late
Leave him know
#amteamsnoop#
@poster2 : you are stupid, taught u would be smart by now.
Haven't you learn anything from your first marriage.
My Dumdum looks too good to be true and he is actually too good, stop generalizing abeg.
Deleteposter one, I'm glad you snooped oh.EEven if he opens up, my sister don't take him back. A man that can hide the fact that he has children is sure capable of anything. You better consider yourself single and start accepting suitors. How do girls reject suitors because of mere boyfriends sef? Oriegwu
poster two, you know that God cannot send you someone else's husband right? No, right? Right!
Poster 1, u seem overly dramatic to me. Why not ask him before dying*? All d best!
DeletePoster 2, find ur own MAN
Poster 2: I think u r lazy. Y not send ur son to his grand parents and be visiting him there since u don't have issues with ur in laws. Try n get a job no matter how small. U r not the first person to be sent out of her matrimonial home. Y do u want to break another woman's home? In short, u never talk y ur husband sent u out of the house.
DeletePoster 1 : you wan die because of man matter!!!! You are on a long thing oh.. If he is hiding something as serious as this from you who knows what else he is hiding.... He is just pretending you better talk a walk far away from that guy
DeletePoster 2: when people say I am not perfect I made mistakes??? It means they cheated simple... Breaking someone else's home will not give you the kind of life you seek, you better come to Jesus before his wife disfigures your fine face,
Men I cant deal honestly all these chronicles make me wonder about this world and the kind parents raising children in this generation where there is no shame, just greed and a desire to have your way at all cost. STEALING SOMEONES PROPERTY WILL NEVER MAKE YOU HAPPY!!!
This idoit second poster has gone to Amaras page with this story, e never do she carry am come here mumu united carry belle na
DeletePoster one: u pretend dat u don't know wen u know...just talk to him and see his reply ......
DeletePoster two: dere are many men dat are divorced...or single look for dem and leave oda peoples hubi...u know how u felt wen hubi left u for anoda...did u feel hapi..plz don't let anoda woman pass tru dat
Poster 2: LEAVE ANOTHER WOMAN'S HUSBAND ALONE!!! Is she d cos of ur misery. Leave her alone or u'd die like a chicken. Ur home is broken. U want to break another's. Put urself in her shoes. Na wa for some women sef. I taya
DeleteNarrative 1, confront him and walk away!
DeleteNarrative 2, you are sugarcoating your narrative. WHAT DID YOU ACTUALLY DO? INSTEAD OF YOU TO CONCENTRATE ON EMPOWERING YOURSELF FINANCIALLY, YOU ARE TALKING OF GETTING PREGGER FOR A MARRIED MAN! ARE YOU HIGH ON STUPIDITY DRUG?
Magical your comment is utterly stupid....what Sibiu mean she must have cheated? Cos she is here narrating her struggles all u sanctimonious idiots can now come to insult her? Even Stella sounded judgemental and the rest of u are here doing follow follow.....Stella learn to read and stop your biased way of responding to post....her struggles are real and she sounds confused that's y she is venting for advice not all the insults u people are dishing out.....
DeletePoster 2:: pls don't further complicate your life by having another child yet, more so for a married man...I don't advice sleeping with men for money but if u must cos of your condition then pls don't allow and help the man destroy it for the sake of his wife..no woman will find it funny and women r diff oh....
@poster 1 maybe your man doesn't want to talk about his ugly past, but u can chip in what u found out and see what he has to say, not every one likes discussing there past, when u ask him, you would know what conclusion to make.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 please leave another's man husband please, I guess your young n trust me other suitors would come. Just be patient.
Two kids aren't his past but his presence and future so she deserves to know
DeleteDear poster 2, dat man is evil, he doesn't want to marry you, he just wants a permanent mistress, he wants to tie u down with the pregnancy and ruin ur chances of ever getting married again, please run away from him and be wise. Like Stella said, chop his money and clean mouth, he is married and will never leave his family for you.
ReplyDeleteOde ni e stella so would you have loved if she dnt snoop and was neck deep in a relationship based on lies you sit there and be making people think your life is perfect. Her voltrons can come after me I won't waste time answering y'all I hate pretenders
DeleteOmonigho
Poster 1, ur boyfriend is married but his family lives outside Naija, did u see any divorce papers or u just concluded or wishful thinking. Abeg confront him and dump him afterwardsn
ReplyDeleteAnother day, another woman drama ...!
DeleteI agree with u Anon, I don't think the guy is divorced at all...I think he's definitely leading a double life and his wife n kids are either abroad or several cities away.
DeletePoster 2: Of all the men u can have right now (single, divorced or widowed), its the only (married) one that u aren't entitled to that u want...u think ur life is hard now? Wait till u experience d stigma that comes with being a SINGLE MOTHER of two kids by two different men in this our African society or worst still, wait till the man's wife finds out n visit u with acid...then u will know say Jesus is Lord
Tell her SD O! She has a fish brain! Jobless! Then want to have 2nd child for a married man? You think the wife will sit and fold her hands if she hears? What if the useless man abadons you later? You will end up looking after 2 children! I don't blame your husband for divorcing your stupid ass! Go and leave your son with his grandparents, then go looking for job or start small business from all the monies you have collected from the married man, or he fucks you for free? Ode oshi!
DeleteAnonymous you are crazy, why the insults? Cos Stella insulted you idiots won't read but just start insulting.... She is talking about the struggles she has and confused. Has she done it? All u sanctimonious idiots on this blog...
DeletePoster 1::: take a walk before it's too late..na God help you make u go snoop.... Be wise
Poster 2: don't make your situation worse.... Leave married men alone... If you must date cos of money don't believe them when thy say have a child oh....am a married woman and I will destroy any woman who tries to form another family with my husband.... Don't care if he wa the one who chased you oh.when I deal with the woman will then face the randy man..... Poster don't try it, u will complicate your life further...
Oya ohhh waka waka@ poster1,since ur boyfrnd isn't ready to tell u d truth,u den tell him ur findings,his response determent ur next me,if it were to be me I don waka sharper-ly,@poster2,on no account should u date or be a baby mama to someone's husband.shekena!
ReplyDelete********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*********
1. Its best you let him know what you found out about his lil secret. He may have a reason for not telling you. Just hear what he has to say before taking a decision but don't die in silence, speak up.
ReplyDelete2. Its so wrong to do what he's asking for. You can't break another woman's home na, its not right at all. He might also dump you after pregnancy.
Why not take your son to his grand parents, try and get a job no matter how small till you are able to stand again. A better man will come. It is well.
Poster 2... You are nothing but a home wrecker. Instead of u to find how to make your self a worthy mother and a survivor you are there 'liking' a married man . Its not fair on your Son and the man's wife. Run as fast as your legs can take you, get busy. You didn't get capital to start a business but you are considering get pregnant. You need to be flogged.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 .... I feel your pain sweetie, confront this man with your evidence and if the outcome doesn't make any sense, please leave the toxic 'situationship' biko , you don't really need that kind of baggage right now.
True oh! @Poster 2 get capital to start business nau! Or are u looking for the easy way out? There is none oh! To enjoy a good life you have to grind for it.
DeletePoster 1 - I, for one, avoid men who seem too good to be true. They always have issues. I think oga is married and you are his side 'bae'. He probably has a troubled marriage that's why you get all the attention.
Tell him someone saw his pic on ur phone and told you he is married. Ask him if you should believe the person or not. Manufacture the name of a new colleague who just resumed. The truth will come out.
Pls Try and concentrate on your job ehn?! Don't loose that one and add to this biko. Everything happens for a reason.
Poster 1,
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't advise you to leave him yet but you have to use your brain this time around....
Most men don't tell their women truth about their past lives...
Sit him down and have a heart to heart talk with him then you will know your next step from there...
Poster 2,
I don't know why single mothers,divorcees and aunty gwegwegwes likes breaking people's home...
Can't you find a man from your category that will marry you,I mean a divorcee like you...
Must it be someone's husband??...
How I wish I know this man's wife,I would have personally helped her to deal with you...
Nonsense...
Ur a very bitter woman if i must say...nobdy is above mistakes...yes she is making a terrible mistake but u sef u holy pass? Oga ooo...ur type will even do worse if u wia in her shoes...ur generalization speaks ill of u nd shows ur a very myopic persn...who wears the shoes knw wia it pinches...dnt tk ur aggro out on her...she isnt d cause of ur marital problems...
DeletePoster 2...havin a baby for a married man isnt the best for u...tk ur kid to ur inlaws,go out there nd hustle like ur mates...ur jus 28 for f*ck sake...get a job,dt small money u must hav made off him, use it nd start up smtin...be independent madam nd stop actn like ur disabled...ur problems started with a man, dnt compound issues for urself alrdy...man up,get ur lazy ass off dt cushion nd get busy madam...incase ur nt aware ur son needs u to fend for him frm now...nd b4 i forget,relax...men will come...at God's own time...ur own man,the man u will hav all to urself will come...its well with u.
Wow must you speak so condescendingly to her? Because she's a divorcee, you speak to her like she's less of a human. Is divorce the endof the world?
DeleteNonye Okonkwo are u a single mother, divorcee or aunty gwegwegwe.. U sound really pained. Lool. It's ok people
DeleteAma william...am a single mom,divorcee nd wat beta than u...i am nt pained but its really wrong to generalize...i for one knw i cant do wat poster 2 is contemplating,but then it dosnt mean i shld b harsh on her...married women even do worse as i hav noticed...so jus shut up and quit acting like ur beta dan ur said "aunty gwegegwe"coz wen shii gets real aunty gwegs will gv u a run for ur money...so mechie onu nkwakwu and nyash down far behind...nd yes its ok ppl...
DeleteNd least i forget...lol.*shinning my teeth wit my cute diastema! Nd leav my name out of ur mouth..
DeleteOh well.... It's true that married women do worse oh! Have we forgotten that one that was killed in Festac? The ring doesn't entail morals or decency. I can't be fooled.
DeleteStella your Advice today is on point .u spoke like a mother .
ReplyDeletePoster 1: confront him with the evidence , I can just imagine how you feel , betrayed ...stunned, heartbroken .. How he reacts would determine your decision going forward. Good luck .
Poster 2: you are gonna be backlashed today from stellas BV's. Hope Ur wearing an helmet??
Dear Lola, she doesn't even need evidence to confront him. Evidence for what? Is she trying to make him believe he did what he did when he already knows what he did? Poster confront him, yes. If he denies just waka dey go abeg. Stop wasting time with a loser. Why would he keep something like that from you this long?
DeleteI'm just vexing for the man sef!
Poster 2, let me leave the bashing for the other BV's to do.
No interest whatsoever in d two stories.....
ReplyDeleteBye eee......
Hahaha, Ogbanje
DeleteYou are too full of yourself.
Delete@ezenwanyi...lol.
DeleteI read an earlier post of yours and saw a message you addressed to me. Thanks 4 your opinion of me. I also respect your dexterity and the fact that you don't suffer fools gladly plus you don't peddle clichés and platitudes. You think outside the box. Thing is, im a very liberal person and cannot knock anyone's hustle. Like, there are always many sides to every tale, many perspectives, the joy of life is the diversity. You don't jump on people's posts to judge what they think. Like, you could care less. So, I wonder why people want to always correct others to conformity. Hian. Your opinion is urs.
-i also read from the same post where someone suggested that I'm an alter ego to Ronalda or clone or something. I read from her, sometimes agree but I'm definitely not her biko. Lol. So funny, you saying I purposely jumped your post after your rift with her. Pure coincidence. I recall there was a day you commented on one blog visitor's chronicle. You took a stance nobody took! I agreed and rushed to write one of these my 'dry' long ass comments, I returned. To my dismay, Mrs Korkus didn't post it.(i understand sha cos comments were many and some of us are greedy to be seen, instead of posting down, we rush to the top and post unrelated stuff above someone's own! Lmao. People like me! I guess the woman got the trick and was having none of that), so you see, I actually did reach out.
-Even the said post, I left all the debacle, quagmire in the post before you commented. It's so queer when someone has an erection from your comments and jumps on it every minute to consummate it like rape. It's really tedious dealing with triffles and inanities.lmao. Sometimes i'll rather pass, I nor be Fani Kayode. Atleast he's getting paid.
Thanks 4 the compliment.
Hope your family are waxing strong.
Ciao.
**Bonaparte NN
Bona stop patronizing eze. That she says she likes u doesn't mean she can't tell u off tomoro. Dats eze and dats why I like her. So all d ass kissing is nonsense. Move and and be yourself. Ngwanu
DeleteThanks @ anon for the advice. Lol
DeleteIt's a reply and nothing more.
Thank you so much stella for telling her the bitter truth, this same lady posted this story on AMARA VAN LARE PAGE ON FACE BOOK YESTERDAY, and almost everybody on that platform blasted her and asked her to leave another woman's husband, maybe she felt she was going to get a different answer on your blog encouraging her to go ahead with her selfish and wicked plans, please for your own good and in other for God almighty not to punish you, please leave another woman's husband alone and look for a single man, am not judging you but only God knows why your husband drove you away from his house, please remember that whatever we do on this planet earth, we will definitely give account of it someday when we leave this world.
ReplyDelete@poster 2 you are a fool and lazy please liv anoda woman's husband alone get money from him if u can and start a bizns na wah for u sha na to deh born for different men de hungry u abi u no go sit down reason ur life and plan aw to take kia of ur child u r looking for a home to break hmmm I don talk my own ohh nemesis is real oh
DeleteYes I read it too, brainless girl. Its people like her that deserve midnight prayers and courses that will follow for the rest of her life.
DeleteHmm..Im replying only poster one because poster two, your matter na for matthias. Instead of you to leave men and their baggage and attend to your pocket and son, you are spewing trash.
ReplyDeleteEh hen, poster one. Just tell him you already know and my dear, don't take that relationship serious.
Poster2,u will only make ur life more complicated than it is already,hope u know for being divorced,ur life is complicated already?(with no intention to spite u)so pls don't make it worse,always remember dat!this man is just enjoying the moments with u,what makes u think he actually wants another wife and not a mistress he's tactically turning u to?be careful pls!
DeletePoster1,ur boyfriend mite not have bad intentions,maybe he was ashamed or afraid to tell u cos he's not sure how u will take it.so he was waiting for the right time(maybe when u are deeply in love with him and can't walk away den.lol!),dat mite have been his plan.,then he will break the news.so take it easy with him.have a heart to heart with him,he mite not have bad intentions.
As in ehn, poster 2 matter tire me
DeletePoster 1: Pele, you will be fine just give it time & ensure you confront him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Poverty na real bastard. Your case is just a confirmation that poverty brings out the evil in people. Wetin make your HORSEband push you out??? Repent now & change your ways b4 you carry yourself enter bigger shit.
Hmmmmmmn
ReplyDeleteposter 1- I go vex for you oh!
ReplyDeletewhat is wrong with you?
you should be proud of yourself for having a phd in snooping.
just look at the heavy discovery!
mehnn snooping saves...
please confront the dude. no need beating around the bush, just dish your discovery on the plate for him and watch his mouth tremble while his eyes looks round for lies.
you should be grateful you haven't yet tied the knot with such a deceitful man before this discovery.
namsense
when he eventually tells you the truth, then the ball will now bw in your court. either to play or to keep tapping it.
poster 2- abeg gerrout! rubbish!
On point! Poster 2 - double gerrout! Looool
DeleteHahahahaha...Bloglord!!!..Poster 2 will hear it today o...lol
DeleteLADY IGO SAID:
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2: You are one of those people that marry for the wrong reason and that must have been the trait that ruined your first marriage (which is actually your marriage until you let us into the cause of "sending you packing"). Any marriage or relationship that is not premised on LOVE; God's kind of love -the no string attached kind that does not fail .. . is headed for the rocks. Look inwards and ask yourself; did I marry for the right reason; who this man is; the one I love or due to what I can get from the relationship. Love gives, is patient, is not self seeking, is not fault-finding, does not envy . . . when you say, you've fallen in love, is this what you fell into?
Now, leaving your parent's house to "marry" a "married man" is not marriage . . .it is at best prostitution . . .baby, you will just downgrade your status from once a wife to a concubine . . . and the wife of this man may take out her jealousy and frustrations on you! Why jump from "a home with prospects"(yes your parent's home) to fire; the fire of hell. God's laws have not changed and he will not spare a home breaker. The man wants you to "get pregnant"? What a news; what else does he want you to get; HIV, SYPHILIS, HEART-BREAK, ACID BATH FROM HIS WIFE . . .? JUST TELL US WHAT? Look inwards and look toward God. If you were sent packing from your marriage with clean hands (you were faithful to that man, submissive etc.) than God will fight for you. Now you've began another journey with copulation with another woman's husband . . .how do you think that this journey will bring any good? Focus on your son, Christ, look for a job and begin to live your new found life in contentment for godliness with contentment is great gain.
Regards.
LADY IGO.
Oooooooh!! Lady IGO, how I love this your comment!! God bless you ma. Some people self, well I hope the poster is reading. To whom brain is given sense is expected. 1000 likes for your comments jare.
DeletePoster1. Sorry dear I know it must really hurt. Confront him with what u discovered.
ReplyDeleteAnd then take a walk.
Your own man will come. One that will love and not lie to you.
Poster2. All I have to say is leave another woman's husband. You are just 28 and sounding so desperate.
Put all these effort into getting a job. And trust God to take care of you.
Dts it, N2. U didn't tell us what wrong u did, dis one u re dating a married man, maybe u were unfaithful to ur hubby n he couldn't take it again. U felt bad wen ur hubby left u n u re here planning on how to take anoda woman's husband. God is watching u n dis time u may not live to tell us anoda chronicle. What rubbish. N1since u av snooped n found out sometin, confront him but don't be too harsh why asking, so dt he won't find an easy escape root. Ask him abt what u discovered n after his ans, dts wen u will no ur next move. I wish u well but be wise.
ReplyDeleteWait o..poster 1..he didn't lie to u na..he just hasn't spoken abt it yet..i don't get d whole "lie" ish o..have u eva asked abt his past sef?it myt av hurt him so much dat he doesn't just go abt talkin abt it..or maybe he's scared of loosing u dats y he hasn't said it..y are u now heartbroken?no one is perfect unugo?nwannem..calm down biko nd ask him as a friend,lover and sister..don't act like he committed a big sin o..God will see u through
DeleteTrue @anon 16:17 he didn't lie. He just Craftily avoided d issue. Lol. Ram shit head man.... yeye dey smell
DeleteDear BV I know my comment is not related to this post but pls I need you guys to join me in prayers. I'm looking to God for a child, I've been to the hospital, I've prayed n fasted n almost at my wits end now. Please say a word of prayer for me today...
ReplyDeleteMay God bless you with kids until u want no more.. Amen
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God will give you children that will make you happy, smile and joyful all the days of your life. Amen
DeleteGod will grant u ur desires. Do not loose faith
DeleteAnd stop worrying. It'll come when u are more relaxed ok?
God will bless ours with fruit of the womb ,lets hold on to him. Am in same shoe with you
DeleteMay God bless ur womb to be fruitful, u shall bear ur own children in Jesus' mighty name.Amen
DeleteMay the Lord give you a son like Samuel in the Bible in Jesus Name. Amen.
DeleteMay God answer u @Omo, just as He has answered my prayers after 10yrs. U will bear fruits in ur marriage in Jesus name....Amen. hold on tight to God, there is nothing outside God's gift. I wish u d best sis.
Delete@P1. Let him know about your findings so you can talk about where the relationship is headed. Let him know that he has to open up to you if he wants you to be remain in his life. Divorse is not something one can hide forever especially one that produced children. Let's see his reason for not telling you. But wait oh the baby mam drama am not comfortable with....what is he hiding. @P2. What makes you so sure that he will marry you once you get pregnant. Be wise. People can tell you exactly what you want to hear. I would prefer you marry a single man . If you marry him you are destroying a home and trust men for what they are if he can have a 2nd wife then he can have a 3rd and a 4th. So to avoid storied that touch the heart don't think of marrying a married man except maybe a muslim that is entitled to more than one wife. My 2 kobo
ReplyDelete#1...he's probably waiting for d right time to tell u about his ex wife n kids ,give him d benefits of d doubt.
ReplyDelete#2...I wonder why some ladies rush into marriage b4 completing their education....why d rush,Dem tell una say una go die young?
Poster 1,no man is worth you giving up on life for..how can you say you want to die cos of a man?
DeleteHave you ever thought of the fact that maybe he wasn't right for you afterall?so if you give up cos of the wrong one,you'd miss out when the right one comes along..
I'd advice you confront your man,tell him of your findings,ask him why he never thought to tell you all along..maybe,just maybe,he was only bidding his time..
From his response,you'll know the next step to take..
Poster 2, you are already a home-wrecker for dating a married man..get your priorities straight..you are still young for christ's sakes!! why go after a married man?
U sound very stupid...yanyanyan I must type or else I die syndrome. Ekwesu. People have gotten married before they graduate and still made good with dere lives. Loose mouth soakaway face.
Delete@anon 15:38 hater alert!
DeleteHian, I just tire for today's chronicles.
ReplyDeleteU know how polygamous homes roll?
ReplyDeleteU ready to go diabolical? Cos u dunno if his wife can go diabolic or not.
If she does, God won't save u cos he won't give u another woman's husband. Take care.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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One: niceone gal and i think yu need to let him knw bcos thats the only way yu can be freed...
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Two: get the fuck out....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
P1 it is better you tell him and confront him in person so you can get to see his reaction and he wouldn't be able to lie. P2 of course not, do you think you will get peace at that. Right now focus on your son and building a career for yourself. Then you will see men. Flocking to you. Also check https://lifeofagirltryingtoreachherpurpose.wordpress.com
ReplyDeleteThe teamsnoop lady just be strong dont act like anything is wrong at the weekend tell him someone close to you has been saying she wants to see you, comeback tell him you heard something unbelievable that he is married or divorced. Play it well dont let on like you snooped his apartment ooo he would just lock up and up his game.
ReplyDeleteNa lie oh. He'll now turn everything against her and say she has trust issues and accuse her of believing what someone else told her over what he told her, then make her look like the bad person. You don't know how evil some men can be. There's no need lying to him. Let her tell him straight up. He should rather be the one ashamed of keeping such a secret and being found out.
DeleteSee how snooping has saved her life. Stella be shouting #teamNoSnooping. Follow her #teamnosnooping at your own risk oh.
Ms Gemini yes gbam. I ji ya. Just straight up tell or rather ask him why he never mentioned to you that he was once married and has kids. Which kind nonsense acting?
DeletePoster 1: just confront him and see what he has to say. Are you sure you are ready to be a step mother and handle baby mama dramas? Good luck.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I am with Stella on this one. How in God's name did you think it was a good idea to date married men and now trying to snatch one? Please, respect your self and leave these foolish men alone. You are still young. Get a job, take care of your child and yourself. 28 years is not the end of the world. You have a second chance to rebrand yourself and do things differently. Why settle for wahala? What about men that their wives are dead or divorced if you must go that route? If you feel you can't take care of your son now take him to his grandparents until you are fit. There is nothing wrong with staying at your parents home until you are stable.
Life is short...enjoy the best of it...there are no rules to life,,,,,,Stella u must enjoy me
ReplyDeleteThe teamsnoop lady just be strong dont act like anything is wrong at the weekend tell him someone close to you has been saying she wants to see you, comeback tell him you heard something unbelievable that he is married or divorced. Play it well dont let on like you snooped his apartment ooo he would just lock up and up his game.
ReplyDeletePoster1...I don't think that man has the intention of making you his wife, I mean he should have opened up from day 1,like stella said let him know u found out and then know where u stand with him.
ReplyDeletePoster2.....My dear don't break someone else's home haba, you seem like someone that can't do without a man,does he not have kids with his wife? I don't have much to say pls just let the other woman enjoy her hubby
Poster 2 fear God o! U mean u want us to advice u to go ahead and snatch another woman's husband??? Believe me if u go ahead wit wateva plan u av with dt man, u will never know peace in that marriage...haba! Why are some women selfish for crying out loud? Infact this ur chronicle is making me angry...mscheew!
ReplyDeletePoster 1, pls confront ur man and tell him ur findings, his reaction wi'll determine if he's sorry for keeping it away from you or not. These are some of the things ladies go thru. Take heart dear...kisses.
Will*
ReplyDeleteP1:some things are just so clear for ladies to see but they close their eyes and fall mugu months and years to come they will write chronicle..You discovered one has children without disclosing ,you still want to put your heart there all cos of stupid love.How sure are you hes gonna marry you. God is a faithful God he knows whats best for you and thats why he opened your eyes to know.Be WISE, all this advice from BV aint gonna help cos from the write up you have made up your mind on what to do.So Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteP2:Married ladies have to pray everyday cos there are evil ladies who will go to any length to take peoples husband not minding what the woman is going through,all i will say to you is that you are a very mean person.If hes a muslim no problem cos its allowed.Dont take a christian lady's husband cos the good Lord will not forgive you.
Narrative 1: Better look for a husband material and leave that handkerchief alone.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2: If to say na my husband you wan get belle for, i won't pour you acid o (won't go that far) i will drain shit from a septic tank and pour it on you. I won't stop there, i will ask boys to tail you and keep pouring you hot shit for as long as it takes. Stupid useless lady. At 28 you don't know your left from your right. come and chop dirty slap.
Madam pls take it easy on her!
Delete@ Poster 1, you really love this man so much that you are willing to stay back despite not revealing being divorced and having 2 kids already? Since you found out on your own and he's yet to tell you ( that's if he would ever do), confront him with your findings and ask him about his plans for you. Whatever he tells you, the decision would be yours to make. Personally, I wouldn't go further in a relationship with a man who has hidden such an important detail about his past. He is not trustworthy and trust is important in marriage. Be careful not to make a decision you would regret in the long run.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, I see desperation in your write up to the extent you want to break another woman's home. It happened to you doesn't mean u would do same to someone else. Get a job if you don't have any and get busy doing something dear. That way you would meet 'available ' men rather than being a 'home breaker'. A word is enough for the wise before an unforgiving wife pours acid on your face or kills you or lays a curse on you.
Poster one what's your bf initials. I think I know him n can help you.
ReplyDeletePoster, this is sounds like someone I know too well. Is he DA? I'm not surprised. Same script, different parts.
DeletePoster 1...confront the guy and whatever he says about should help you decide.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...Did your man just wake up one morning and decided to end d marriage? Your story is incomplete.....but as for that married man, please leave him. There's no way you chose to paint it, the truth is, that man belongs to another woman.
@1, U be mumu, why are u dying in silence, did i hear u say u want to die bcos of a man who has been deceiving u,give me ur address i will send otapia pia to ur house before u say jack robinson, instead of u to confront him u are hear crying, abeg shift....
ReplyDelete@2, u are not wise at all, like stella said, am not against u chopping his money ooh, but why u no fit chop clean mouth, what guarantee do u ve that he will marry u when u get preggy, are u a baby factory, ur major problem now should be how to establish urself and become #teamindependentwoman and not jumping into another marriage,u married a single guy it crashed after 2 yrs, what makes u think ur marriage to a married man will last for ever, babe shine ur eyes.
Chronicle of desperados!
ReplyDeletePoster 1
How old were you when you were busy rejecting suitors and how old are you now?It seems age is no longer on your side...See what desperation is making you go through in the hands of a man.You really want to settle down that's why you think your life depends on him.He is a "slow poison" and has so many skeletons in his cupboard(you are yet to discover shocking ones).Pls if you must confront him,do so with enough evidence or walk away...there are better men out there.I don't like people that are extremely nice,they can be very deadly!
Poster 2
Your failed marriage narrative sounds one sided.You haven't told us what exactly you did to ur ex-hubby that made him to frustrate you.Why don't you tell your married boyfriend to get you a job or give you money to start up a business?Pls don't poverty and desperation push you to marry that man,your problems will multiply if you do!Promise him that you would marry him,tell him to give you some time,save some money from what he gives you.When you have saved enough,tell him that you cannot be a 2nd wife.Meanwhile,always insist he uses a condom whenever he wants to sleep with you.Shine your eyes.Like Stella suggested,chop clean mouth and waka!Goodluck.
He dosnt even want to marry her...he jus wants to kip her nd she will b breedin like a dog...seriously i dnt understnd how sm women tink...the useless man dosnt even value her...honestly,that man will love his wife even more and u will feel miserable ur whol life...beta acquire sm brain nd mk smtin meaningful out of ur life...
DeleteNarrative 1...Hmmmmm, walk that walk if you cannot deal.Who told you they are divorced?
ReplyDeleteNarrative2...I suspect i know who this is. You really twisted some facts in the story. You better don't get pregnant for that married man, he will dump you like a bad habit. Do you want to train two kids alone?
Nne biko, etinyela ishi ma cha
God will give you a good job and a better man. Do not marry to escape your aunty's house...calm down(You and i know that you are not in your aunty's house),You added that bit so we can pity you.
The true story
He has rented a house for you and he has been begging you to get pregnant. Sensible women have advised you not to.
Do you know how beautiful you are?
It is not like you don't get single guys flocking around you?
Do not
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I said it before that single mothers and previously married women are very brutal in relationships and they prefer married men.
But do you blame them?
Isn't another woman married to her ex-husband? The world moved on, people will only say she did not keep her home that is why he is remarried.
Some married women will echo same thought.
There is no perfect home, an opportunist can always find a crack and enlarge it.
For a man not to cheat then it is not in his nature, don't ever deceive yourself that you are so perfect that is why he is sticking to you.
There are people that cant cheat on their partners because of who they are.
XOXO MYSTERY
A million likes for your comment xoxo mystery. They are very brutal! That is why married women stay away from them because they don't want their husbands to be their rebound. They take out their vengeance on other married women. I don't blame them, it's our men that cannot keep their wandering prick to themselves. Mschewww
DeleteThat is of she births one child, she might have twins or even triplets... Then you will raise four children by yourself, na that time your suffer go start..
DeletePoster 1, thank your stars that you made your discovery on time.
ReplyDeleteNow, let him know that you know, and no matter his explanations, or emotional display, honey.... TAKE A WALK. AND FOR GOOD.
If not, he'll be extra careful so that you don't sniff nothing.
Poster 2, raise ur hand up.
Raise it higher.
Now give urself a gigantic resounding knock on ur head.
E clear ur eyes? No?
Ua wondering why u gotta knock ur head?
So that we can be reassured that there's still brain in there, even if na tiny.
You had better not EVER think of marrying a married man.
If it's for financial gains, help yourself to someone's boyfriend, or a yahoo guy sef.
You go jus enta from frying pan to fire.
Be guided.
Poster 1:You just have to tell him anyhow,,if you are scared of letting him know you snoop..fix up a story
ReplyDeletePoster 1, just move on from him, you don't need such baggaes in your life. With time someone who worths it all will find you trust me.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 sit your bf down and tell him what you found out, if he denies it bike run fast as your leg can carry.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 like you said you are a graduate,look for a job and leave another woman husband,work hhard and stop depending in men.
#1, I didn't read where he proposed, cus u cry as if u re already his. If u snoopy n find out his secret, den ask him buh to me if he did not share wit U, datz his decision bc u both re not couple yet. May be he is stil weighing d relatnship, considering his previous experience. U play along too, snooping is good if u ve a good shock absorber dat wil help u pretend n follow him like mumu until u re done wit discoveries, n finally make ur decision, dnt give up,,, if u need more wisdom, ask 4 my contact. #2 plz marrying a married man 4 baby making reason wil destroy U.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: the man you dating is definitely still married. I think I know you. It's unfortunate, he's family lives outside the country and those trips he takes, he goes home to he's wife and kids.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: don't let your self esteem make you destroy another woman's home. Men are not loyal. You have a child doesn't mean you can't meet a single rich/comfortable man. Build yourself, take time off men. You have been married before. Take your time and find out who you are. Try to complete you.
Poster 1, did you hear? He is not divorced. Walk away NOW!
DeletePoster 2 like seriously are for real. Why should you even be thinking of taking someone elses hubby. That's d height of wickedness and senselessness joor. No advice from me for you cos ure not worth it.
ReplyDeleteN1- Confront him ASAP with your findings to release yourself of this torture! DONT DIE ooooo.Pray 4 wisdom to decide carefully (2nd wife & baby mama dramas?)
ReplyDeleteN2- @28, U have a lot ahead of you why no focus on improving your self-worth and giving your son the best of everything. Don't ever think of GETTING PREGNANT before any thing(with a single or married man), promises can be broke and you will be broken again next time might be beyond repairz. Well you can chop CAREFULLY remember you be woman tooooo(as he be anoda woman husband) and clean mouth! and DONT THINK HE WILL LEAVE HIS WOMAN 4 U!
Am not really sure people stop to think things thru before they form an opinion about an issue. Once Stella and a few people comment that automatically forms their own opinion.
ReplyDeleteThe lady that wants to marry another woman's husband, and u all are screaming steal another womans husband? Can't the man have two wifes?? What if he is a muslim and can have 4 sef?
There are technically are not enough men to go round all the women in this world so the sooner the married ones start thinking of sharing the better for the world.
See her! Birds of the same feather! Or are you poster 2? If he is a Muslim, why not ask her to marry him outright and do the nikkai? He wants a child only! He wants to tie her down as his permanent mistress for free fuck, so no other men can take her serious. Did your father marry many wives Cathy? Or do you wish this on your own mother or sister? Maybe you are a mistress yourself, so you see no fault in this Rubbish! Mschewww
DeletePoster one,pack ur dancing shoes and run.......
ReplyDeletePoster two,A married man is never and will never be ur hubby,free them....
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ReplyDeletepls let go of that man cos that is the only thing you have fine out about him........... my dear there are more secret that will kill you if you know them,pls its not too late back off,this same mistake landed me of being mother of one today.....pls biko run run make your leg touch ur head.
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gal at your age you are so desperate, please go get a job and take care of your son else if you continue like this, you will end in shame. Accept God, and he will direct you dear. stop man haunting.
#1: Baby, please calm down. I think you're overreacting. You've dated less than a year. It takes a lot to make a man open up and pour out his heart or reveal his secrets. Sweetie, when we are in love, we tend to overestimate how far gone or intimate our relationships actually are. Did he tell you he wants to marry you or his lovey dovey expressions misled you into seeing you as his future wife? My darling, please don't allow the intensity of your feelings make you get your wires crossed. Has he proposed in plain and simple English with a ring in toll? It's barely 8 months. That a guy talks about 2017 using the pronoun "we" instead of "me", doesn't necessarily translate into a marriage proposal. He may only want a long term relationship with you.
ReplyDeleteThey say "when your heart is on fire, smoke gets in your eyes", if not, why on earth will you chase all your suitors away for a budding relationship? So how do you expect him to be constantly on his toes when he has seen that in less than a year you've crowned him king of your castle? You've eliminated the competition, It's prudent to keep suitors around till the deal is signed, sealed and delivered. I hope you know keeping suitors around doesn't mean shagging them? Every woman needs options to pick out the right one for you. Sweetie, even I think you're moving way too fast and you are bound to crash if you don't slow down.
It's one thing to be silent about his past, but something else to deny his past. A shady guy will not give you a spare key to his house, knowing there are incriminating "evidence" there. You said you asked him if there's anything you need to know and he said no. Probably, he doesn't think it's time to open up to you. Clearly, you're not on the same page emotionally, you seem way ahead of him. It's rare to see a guy with baggage spill his heart to his new girl so soon. Men are like clamps, the more you try to force them to open up, the tighter they clamp up. It's best to chill and allow him confide in you when he is ready. I probably won't give this advice if you've been dating for 2 or 3years or if plans for the wedding have kicked off.
I honestly think you should calm down and get to know more about the guy. The more intimate you get the more relaxed he'll be. A divorced man with a couple of kids is more complex than a bachelor without kids. His kids will always come first and he may not be in a hurry to remarry, so be careful my love. Don't go building castles in the air. You say he has a baby mama, clearly, she was in his life before you came in. From deductive reasoning, "baby mama" means the relationship is at least 9 months, yours is about 8 months. So he isn't creeping on you yet( based on the fruits of your "forensic investigation"). You can't be upset that he was with someone else before he met you. If you're the type of lady that can't deal with dishonesty or secrets...maybe you should try "retrieving" some of your suitors and keep dating till you find the right guy for you. However, from experience, everybody lies. Men in particular are not known for sharing their worries or concerns with women, they feel more comfortable sharing with their guys, if at all. Sugar, please make sure you aren't setting unrealistic standards. Be mindful that you have your shortcomings as well. In my opinion, there's no cause for alarm yet. Chill and allow the relationship grow, don't chase him away with hyperactive emotions, let him be the one to love up on you. Never show your hand in the game of love.
#e-bearhugs.
Poster 1.
ReplyDeleteThe guy aint divorced except you saw divorce papers.
Lots of men these days leave their family abroad and say diff stories to girls here.
Some wld tell you they are divorced or separated sef.
I once met a guy who had 2 face book accounts. One his names the other a twist to his name. He added me with the twisted name. (Hadeybayour)... as a team snoop i looked up the page but it seemed too good to be true..
So i turned to google alas the real name with family photos etc pooped up.
Forget about love oooo. If he breaks up with you you would not die...
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ReplyDeletepls run o na wetin land me wey i be born one today ooooooooo...... dear there are so many secret out there that you are yet to kn.
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gal you are too desperate for your age, cos i believe it that desperation that made you to marry the first man. gal go for God, and stop dick hunting else it will end you in shame. go get a job and look after your son.
What's wrong with my gmail account?
ReplyDeleteOluyomi Odukoya
Poster 1.confront your boyfriend about your finding and don't be suprice you guys can still get married... Poster2.just listen to your self.if you were my sister I would get upset with u for this rubbish you just said....you want to get prego for another persons hubby.u are sick,wake up pls do not try it.
ReplyDelete@ Poster 2, You are just 28. My dear get a job and train your son . what I see here is that you just want to get back at your ex-husband ,because he is married,you too wan marry???? Please leave another woman husband oo and do something meaningful with your life. when you have a good joy even at 30 year,you will get a good man with God's help.... please dont throw yourself at men..
ReplyDeleteStella don't apologize for being hard on poster 2 she deserves it..all u desperate single ladies wrecking people's marriages..when u get married and it doesn't work u wonder why... Smh u will not find peace no matter what
ReplyDeletePoster 1: love is about communication, so please confront him about it and pray for the right time and right setting before you go about it. And be ready to do what your mind tells you to do afterwards.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: seriously another woman's husband is the only male specie that you have seen in this whole wide world.
I have got no words for you...get pregnant for the man and suffer, good measure , pressed down, shaken together shall be your suffer and burden in lifr for making another woman cry.
P1-Your man does not see you as a permanent fixture in his life, just forget all this English
ReplyDeleteP2-You are so desperate. Leave another woman's husband alone before you mess up your son's life.
@ Poster one, ask him please! If he could hide something as heavy as this from you, then he is capable of doing worse things, forget all the niceness. The foundation of every relationship matters a lot. I prefer the truth no matter how bad! I'm not comfortable with pretenders or liars..... BTW, what could have caused the divorce between himself and his wife? #smiles..... Babez, honestly, there is still more to know from where those other ones came from. I advise you do not take that relationship so seriously.
ReplyDelete@Poster two- u have issues honestly! I am sure one of the problems u must have had with your ex was adultery and now, ur target is someone's husband? U nerd to have a rethink cos, honestly, I feel women that come out of supposedly bad marriages should be extremely wise and cautious in their dealings (relationship and otherwise) Good luck to you in whatever decision u take.
For today's chronicle? I jump and pass.
ReplyDeleteSometimes is okay to snoop at least to know ur stand in a person's life. As for me I must snoop to assure my stand
ReplyDeletePoster 1 & 2.
ReplyDeleteTake d advice given to you here. All have been said.
#1 no die because of man o. You guys need to talk. Women do not like to talk abt their past likewise men for same reason. Use your head but stop chasing suitors away.
ReplyDelete#2 You are already a home breaker. Why not get money from him, start a little business then quit the illicit affair so that God will remember you for good. If you becomes pregnant for him and his wife places a curse on you, you think say e no go work.
That was how one Kogi chic got preg for my boss then, trust d man wifey -prayer warrior, she got another preg making it 2 and later d man contacted hiv, passed it to her and didn't infect the wife and died leaving all to his wife and kids. Where d chic dey now... ABUJA dey infect men... chai! ihe neme.
Pls respect yourself, start a business and viam, waka pass.
Poster1.....y do wanna die because of a man? Confront him with ur findings, whatever he tells u, make ur decisions from it
ReplyDeletePoster 2. At 28 u want to be a second wife! It's ur choice.....hope u know how them roll in a polygamous house.
Aunty Stella....I Love Your Judgement mbok!!** Poster 2.... You NEED JESUS ASAP!!
ReplyDeletePlease poster 2 marry the man if he is ready to make an honest woman out of you
ReplyDeletewe women think we can get married and go and give a man living hell in his house, if he gets tired of our shit and goes outside, we start complaining
pls marry him u hear, women are just selfish and dont want to share their man but its really up to the man at the end of the day.
As for poster 1, mind ur business, if he feels its necessary to tell u he will
I want to believe this is sarcasm right?
DeleteIf not, if women are selfish and don't like to share, men are likewise! We should all be cheerful and generous givers and everybody will be happy! Mschewww.
Poster 2
ReplyDeleteYou cheated on ur husband and he threw u out. Now u r fucking another woman's husband. Haba!
You spoil ur marriage, you spoil another person own. I can't say if u r better married or single.
To me, u r a very wicked person.
Poster1) are u sure the guy's first wife isn't abroad? Don't u think she's angry over d baby mama stuff, hence d issue in his marriage. Why do u think he doesn't want to share d secret with u? Maybe u are d one taking d relationship ti another level. Do u think he's that serious with d affair and he's not sharing his past with u? Look well o. Polygamy doesn't pay especially d children. Slow down d love abeg.
ReplyDeletePoster 2) are u kidding me? Finish one before u jump to another na. U can't take care of ur boy and u want to be a baby mama? What if he abandons u after birthing d child?
P2. Let go and let God do His will. Stop trying to play God
ReplyDeletePoster 1: divorcee and a baby mama, until you really confirm, if actually this is the case, these excesses? How mature are you to handle these complications.
ReplyDeleteWell personally, I can't. This is already a deal breaker for me.
Poster 2: you have inferiority complex.
But seriously, why is it that Single mum, and divorced mum are sought more than the single ladies?
Men pls answer?
I keep reading of stories of women who have been married before, some more than once , still been chased, and remarrying.
Whereas singles ladies been single since like forever!!
Abi married punani is sweeter than single punani( sabo this is stupid insinuation).
Sabongida, the answer is favour.
ReplyDeleteA relation of mine is a single mother, you need to see the men lining up for her.
They rush to profess love for her and rush to pay money into her account. Na she dey chase some away self.
When i mean men, i mean men.
The tall, dark and handsome rich ones,fair rich ones,short rich ones, good men e.t.c
The thing amazes me ooo.
It is all favour of God
My uncle got married to a single mother of twins, they are still married.
Rebellious men likes rebellious women.
If you know a single mother that has not remarried, then know ye that she is still in love with the father of her child and is using bitterness to chase away suitors.
XOXO MYSTERY
You don't mean it.
DeleteTo all B.Vs cussing out poster 2,you all shud rmb that it two to tango.If d married man did not consent to the relationship it wudnt b apinin.In as much as d poster was wrong for dating a married man,am 99.9% sure twas d man dat made d first move.Y cant d man also be cussed out??? Y must it be only d poster bin cussed out.Y'all shud rmb dat wateva curse is heaped on d woman wud be doubled on d married man too nd in turn affect his family.Poster,pls just let go of d married man ur Boo z gonna come sooner than u fink.#E-hugs
ReplyDeleteMz boo, she is a divorcee who knows the pain of a broken home, then she wants to do same to another woman? Thinking of getting pregnant for him? Is this not wickedness? Just @28? How long does she think she can keep him before he finds the next willingly woman? She should use her tongue to count her teeth!
DeleteWhat's with been a side chick please? I need to know the benefits because this is getting annoying. I'm married and married and single men flock around me wanting to spend whatever it is they think they have on me and I simply tell them no I'm married. Or just no without stories. You are making it look like you are the only divorcee been chased around by married men. You are even considering getting pregnant for another woman's husband? Really? Are you sure you are okay? How did you envisage it will end please? That he will marry you and ask his wife to leave? And you are here saying you don't want to break another person home. When all you are is a home breaker.
ReplyDeleteYou have been whoring around with him and collecting money to sustain you child. Don't you have shame? You even have a place to put your head everyday but no, you want to move into heaven.. You lot disgust me.
Poster 1: you make me laugh, you are such a child. Your man is married and has he's family abroad. You are he's naija side piece. Women can be so gullible. If you were that important to him and he really wants to marry you; trust and believe that he will tell you. If really he's divorced, that's nothing to hide honey. I actually think I know you. Infant I'm sure I know.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Your Self Esteem MUST Be So Low DAT You Believe You Are Only good for number 2. Your being married and having a child will not make a serious single man that loves you leave you. You married early, use this time to build yourself. Make some money, become somebody your child will be proud of. Leave another woman's husband alone. What is wrong with us women, we need to be our sisters keeper. You all wanting to live a fake life, Gucci bag and business class. How about work hard and treat yourself when need be. When your single man comes along he compliments you and not complete you. Complete you.....enough said. I'm so irritated. BBM1
Poster #2 on behalf of the woman whose husband you are sleeping with walahi God will punish you
ReplyDeletePoster 1 a relationship based on lies cannot work
Well Stella, as you can see that sometimes snooping is good. If she hasn't snoop about her suspicions, she would have maybe married to this guy and end up trapped in his lies and then people will now be asking if she didn't see the writting on the wall.
ReplyDeleteWell....Everybody cannot be the same hence the reason we have two sides to a coin.
Poster 1, No matter what his response, a lie is a lie. Lying is a no no, this will continue even to a bigger one.We are talking about being married with children and baby mama, common.
ReplyDeleteHe knows that you really loves him and want the relationship to get dipper before he mention it to you or hear it through other people, which is what is happening now.
Either ways, you still need to talk to him and find out why the secret.
By the way, you won't die, you will only cry and not able to eat for days and move on like some of us have done in the past.
Besy of luck
Poster No 2, Just leave the man alone and face your son before embarking on the journey of settling down again.
Poster 1,dont tell him you searched his house,just say something like after put his ppicon ur fb or bbm or insta some one sent u a private message that be careful this guy has been married n has a baby mother n even sent u proof of pics n describe what u saw, if u say u searched his house u will sound crazy,or say u had to go his flat bcoz o f somethinf u left or couldnt find either way sha, u have to say u know
ReplyDeletePoster one ,this man has been married and doesnt want to marry for now,no way in hell a guy will ask to have ur baby before marriage n he wil marry u later, u will have a baby n if u fight ur a baby moma plz run,God will give u a guy who does not lie n cant hide ur own children,would u like him to hide ur own baby? Plz wise up
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeletePls don't listen to Ronalda on this one (and I love you Ronalda)
Don't build ur relationship on secrecy, dishonesty and deceit. It takes time for some men to open up??? This is BS and u know it, I know it. This is not the kind of info that you withhold in a relationship heading to marriage. Plus d fact that he never intended on telling you? This is a NO NO for me. But it's you who'll decide. I say walk away.
Poster 2
You are the type that creates problems for herself and for others. You really need to work on yourself and the way you see life. You have no moral compass i'm sorry. I don't have any advice for you. Goodluck ruining your own life. But leave others out of it.
Poster2..u are just a thief and lazy person u only have a son so wot.abeg go and put him in ur inlaw ous and look for job jare..if u get preggo for him u will only be his mistress and remain the other woman.
ReplyDelete#1 Sit him down and talk it over and if he doesn't wanna talk about it, the ball is in your court.
ReplyDelete#2 You've already said what you are... abeg leave the man alone so that God will give you peace of mind. You can get money from him and start business while searching for a job. #Leavethe married man alone.