Nawah oh,na by force?
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
LE BOO AND THE BAGGAGE CALLED MRS X
Hi Mrs Stella,
Please help me share this chronicle.
I Am engaged to a very nice and caring man to be married in October. Before we met, he lost all his belongings to an unfortunate fire incident infact it was only God that saved his life. During the period he lost everything, according to him, he met this woman i will call her Mrs. X(married mother of 3kids), Mrs. X was there for him, she will take him out to recreational centers etc just to while away time. Mrs. X also lent him some money which he used to rent a house.
While we just started dating, i noticed that someone (Mrs. X) will call him first thing in the morning, late at night infact sometimes by my counting up to 8 or 10 times a day. They call themselves pet names (like Honey), she will demand where he is and who he's with (he will lie that he's alone even when i am with him). Same thing when my man calls her. They monitor each other, get jealous, they practically behave like a couple. He hides Mrs.X text from me and quickly runs out to receive her calls.
When i couldnt take it anymore, i demanded an explanation, he told me its nothing to be worried about, that the woman is married, she's like a mother and sister to him bla bla. that even the Mrs.X's husband knows him to be family friend. So he promised to introduce Mrs.X to me to prove that there's no intimacy.
Meanwhile this is the man that wouldn't even allow me to pick any male friend's call, whenever we go out together, he would say i shouldn't wear makeup so i dont look too attractive to men, i am naturally beautiful that even without makeup i still get compliments from men. He would tell me to always look down (i shouldn't look men in the face lol). He goes through my phone every time to be sure i am faithful to him and if i dare miss his calls hmm heaven will be let loose.He will just conclude that its becos i am with a man that i didnt pick his calls, he will call me all sort of names.
Well, as promised, i was at home (his house) one morning when he brought in the woman to meet me. From the woman's voice, it's obvious that she cried when my man told her he has a girlfriend. So we met, she swore that she has never gone to bed with my man, that my man is a very nice guy and very caring. Meanwhile i later saw one of her text that she said to my man that she was very heartbroken to know that i exist, that she really loves my man and when i confronted my man, he denied knowing that the woman had such motives towards him. I always tell my man that Mrs. X is obsessed with him. Will your believe that there was a day Mrs.X husband was sick and admitted in the hospital, she left him in the hospital to be with us.
Mrs X tried to be friendly with me but i just wasnt comfortable with her, even my man also tried to make me see her as friend and sister but i just couldn't pretend to like her. When my man saw that she was going to come in between us cos we always quarrel whenever she calls or visit, he asked her to stop visiting and stop late night calls though i know they very much communicate when i am not by his side.
The situation now is that my man has asked Mrs. X nicely to keep her distance from us and she's really angry about it and saying after all she did for my man, this is how he pays her back!
She's now demanding the money she lent my man back asap and she knows that things are a bit difficult for us now financially. The last time she called my man, she asked if he was alone that she would like to see him. My man created time to meet with her and, according to him, the woman threatened him so i decided to call her and beg her to give us time but my man reluctantly allowed me to speak with her, the alleged woman was very calm like nothing happened.
I Am confused. I dont know whether to believe my man about the money he says he's owning her cos i think he kinda has feelings for Mrs.X and maybe just using the debt as an instrument to still be communicating with her. He makes contradictory statements most of the time. He always defends Mrs.X and says i should put all blame on him. How do i make him avoid committing adultery cos i am worried for him?
How do you make him avoid committing adultery?what if he already has?Why dont you try being friends with her and see if that will cool her down?Come on no one likes to be dumped even as a friend..she helped him when he was down and you spring from nowhere to end it all?Come on,you sef think am nau!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
COPING WITH A SPOUSE WHO HAS BAD BREATH.
Stella I hail oh, my blog family I salute Una too.
Straight to the matter, I met this really great guy two weeks ago on dating site.
He's absolutely adorable, opens doors for me, helps around the house, makes dinner for me and my friends. Hes such a gentleman,Really good with my kids and he's crazy about me.
Straight to the matter, I met this really great guy two weeks ago on dating site.
He's absolutely adorable, opens doors for me, helps around the house, makes dinner for me and my friends. Hes such a gentleman,Really good with my kids and he's crazy about me.
I don't even do much to impress him but he tells me how this past two-weeks is his best. He's American and I'm Nigerian and he said I make him feel so special that American girls treat there men like shit...
I really like him just that he has bad breadth it's not that strong but it's just there. I'm very passionate and I love stealing kisses and this bad breadth is something I don't want to ignore.
How do I tell him he has bad breadth and what can he use to get rid of it asap?
Thanks for your response guys...
Stella nothing do you...where do I send your kisses to?
I really like him just that he has bad breadth it's not that strong but it's just there. I'm very passionate and I love stealing kisses and this bad breadth is something I don't want to ignore.
How do I tell him he has bad breadth and what can he use to get rid of it asap?
Thanks for your response guys...
Stella nothing do you...where do I send your kisses to?
Just negodu!
ReplyDelete********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
Lol na to just drop comment be d in thing nw okwa ya? I raise ma left breast for u o
DeleteEm Jay na wa, I dey watch you in 3D
DeleteNegodu nwanne m
DeleteTaking bk ur possession.
DeleteN1: ur man is having an affair with a married woman and she's his financial backbone both then and till date. Step aside and allow him/her enjoy their sin while u find a less complicated situation 2 fix urself in.
N2: just 2 weeks n ure singing all this praises? Ure on ur own. Relax cos soon ull know him better, then u can decide if d breath is d biggest of all probs. As 4 ur question my answer is TELL HIM! Is it really that difficult 2 say?
October is already here and u are still having doubt bcos of Mrs x better start firing prayer! Lool!
Delete1) your man sounds very domineering, 2)he and mrs x might have been intimate in the past. 3)mrs x may have a pyschological problem
Delete4) yu need to know more about mrs x than already do. x
5) your man needs to slowly break communications with mrs x not just hey keep yur distance.....
Narrative 2: buy chewing gum that contains mints, start chewing it when u are about to get to his place, when u get to his place chew another and offer him some, if he likes it good, some days later, take him shopping, buy a couple of things, then make sure to buy sponge, toothpaste, mouthwash, sanitary pads or tampons etc buy it in doubles, give him half u take half. Make sure not to give him d pads tho. Lol that way he will surely use it since yu both bought it together and try to talk about everything u buy, how good the products are...
Lol.... na hw many times d guy wan brush teeth
DeleteFor Mr bad breath,Google oil pulling and encourage him to oil pull with coconut oil or sesame seed oil, Better still have the cloves soaked in the oil for at least 2 weeks ,he should be fine in a few days, except his bad breath is caused by a diet that doesn't agree with him in that case ,he"ll need to watch what he eats and isolate the cause
Delete@poster2 : deal with it.
DeleteIf he is in America n still have bad breath, den 4get it.
@poster1 : is he the only man in the world?
Can't you find someone dat worth the stress ?
I've noticed this girl is always 1st to comment with no contribution at all...... Dsnt she have sense?
Delete@ poster 1, forget about mrs x for now.
DeleteYour man seems excessively possessive and such people are dangerous to date.
I'd run very far from him if I were you, before he forcefully turns u to an SU or hajia. All the best.
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Poster1,u should be worried abt the problematic relationship u are in dat is a bomb waiting to explode dan u worrying abt Mrs X,u should leave that man even without a Mrs X in the picture!hes an insecure,possesive liar.this man will accuse u of infidelity after marriage and divorce u!dats what I envisage due to his attitude.wth!is it by force to date?a man will tell u not to make up so men won't admire u more and u shouldn't look men in the eye,u sef dey happy say person dey dote u?what kind of foolishness is this on ur path?na wa o
DeleteHmmm Emjay has moved from "Jesus fix it" to "Just Negodu".....i've got my eyes on u girl!!!
DeletePoster one: your man has inferiority complex. He is jealous and possessive. He asks u not to wear make up, n look down when u see men. If u marry him, he will drain u emotionally, he will make u loose ur self esteem. He will beat u. He will cheat on u. That man is bad news for u. RUN FOR UR LIFE. There are several men who will treat u better than this man.
DeletePoster 2. Wao rather strange. Cos the Americans that I know are very particular about their breath. They may appear dirty and not even take a bath o, but a "funky" breath, as they call it, is dreaded much.
DeleteHmmm.. Biko forget mints, gum and all the temporary measures that would only make matters worse. I keep telling people that, those who suffer mouth odour should NOT think that chewing gum will kill it.. the bad odour will still ooze tru the mints and makes it more terrible. It's better to chew bone than gum.
Tell him, he may need to visit his dentist. Perhaps he has a hole where particles from food hide and it accumulates into a funky smell.
Since uv only known him for 2weeks, it could also be that the days uv been seeing him are just one of those bad days that he hasn't been active with his mouth before coming to u, hence it'll ooze once with u. Maybe he doesn't have permanent mouth odour since its not much.... let's pretend dude was having a bad day hygienically. Lol
Stella what are u on about? Regarding poster one o. Abeg which kind yeye friendship is that. So what if she helped him? Who says they have to be emotionally attached to the detriment of his supposed relationship, when she's a married woman?
DeleteListen poster....give him a gademn condition to choose btw his 'helper" or yourself. Let them not confuse ur brain, cos such things can drive a woman Kuku.. one minute they all platonic, the next, they are all romantic. They'll mess your brain up in no time if u do not vacate that atmosphere of confusion. Wetin? Because someone helped my man I can't enjoy my relationship again? Abeg act fast
Poster 1, mrs x is your least problem, except Jesus fixes your man's attitude before October, we might just be reading more chronicles form you in the future. Good luck though!!!
DeletePoster 1 is just a dum dum sha...plus she's settling big time...May Jesus fix your Brain
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Your man has been fucking her. If you are in her shoes you'll behave same way. She's feeling betrayed. I think you should threaten your man that you'll leave him or leave and don't talk to him for days and see his action. Poster 2, tell him anyhow, he's not Nigerian so he might not feel bad
DeleteWho you don help now?
DeletePoster 1 : why are you this dumb? Ehn? I'm sorry but e dey pain to see girls mumu. How old are you? 18? Jeez! Is it not clear that "your man" has been fucking Mrs X??? Mrs X is your man's sugar mummy. Does your man have a good job that pays? I don't think so hence the " things have been difficult". Its Mrs X that pays his bills and cos he is trying to cut her off he isn't getting as much cash from her as he used to. And NO! Mrs X is not asking for all the bullshit she gave him, he only wants you to be able to accomodate his seeing her or her calling him, cos when you feel she is calling cos she is vexed you won't have problems with her calls. Your guy is soooo into Mrs X and I'm sure Mrs X is even more experienced than you are cos you sound like a kid. If una wan marry where he wan get money from. Mtschew
DeletePoster 2 o jare: buy him chewing gums with strong mint and make sure you drag him to brush his teeth every night with you.
#DatAnonymous
Poster one, you are the reason people say women have fish brain. I hate to say that cos I am a woman too but again I repeat, you are the reason they say women have fish brain.
DeleteIs the thirst to become Mrs so real? How can you see red signs like this and you are saying marriage is in October. You don’t need a ghost or a soothsayer to tell you those people had an affair and are still at it. In addition you should know they had sex and are still having it. It is a shame you have chosen to ignore these warning signs.
Use your tongue to count your teeth. I wish women can be stronger than how they act. You are not married and see the drama that is coming out now. Imagine the heartache you will go through with this man and a child or children.
When you will be judging for people then, they will ask you, DIDN’T YOU SEE THESE SIGNS BEFORE? Then who will you blame? You will have no one to blame but yourself. Good luck
As for my dear Stella, your advise to Poster one nor work at all at all.
Chichi fly
But you saw all these and still stayed to marry him? Are you an aunt gwegwegwe?
DeleteLaFRESH but this woman is married...what's her P? Why should she feel betrayed? Does she expect the guy not to have a life? Ahn ahn
DeleteI agree on her leaving the guy for days...and babes,be ready to forget this guy cos he's stuck! He needs to know what he wants and cut all tiles without being told.
Stella,as a friend,the woman needs to understand more that the guy has to live his life...No one wants to get dumped but she didn't respect herself and respect the guy as a FRIEND but as otherwise,she better get herself another toy boy.
My dear,the ball is in your court,now is time for you to shoot! If he's serious about you and really has nothing to do with that woman,he'll do everything possible to stay away from here even without you asking.
Being friends with her will make her hide her true self. It's just best to stay away from that drama now cos marriage will be no turning back.
The bobo never get himself,by the time he realizes he's stuck,he sure will know what to do.
Some girls are just empty, Are u really saying u do not know Mrs X is in a relationship wit ur man? C'mon! You ain't matured enough to get married .....
DeleteFirst to comment....yayyyy !
ReplyDeleteKeep on dreaminh,em jay son tanda der gidigba.
DeleteWhich dirty first to comment
DeleteReally?? Hehe congrats oo
Delete1] Leave that crazy triangle now and move on with your life. Find a very rich guy and enjoy your life jare..
Hard truth... That woman is your boo's sugar mama! End of story
2] Tell him (gently), cos he might not know that he has a mouth odour!
You are not the first em jay is the first.
DeleteYes 1st to comment in your mind.
DeleteHahahahha no be only first to comment
DeleteVery interesting
ReplyDeleteEver heard of keep your friends close and enemies closer??? That way, you get to know their every step. It works for me!
DeleteMake her your friend to keep her close to you.
DeleteToday, I will read comments
ReplyDeleteSo u self dey read commented? Let me see you attack em jay again.
DeleteYou have commented already
DeletePoster 1
DeletePheww.....so much drama for a relationship
Dear, I think you should start referring to your boyfriend as 'Mr. Ex'.... reading through ur write-up, all I could sense was you condoning so much and still willing to condone much more. You referred to him as 'your man' all through and I see that as a psychological representation of the struggle within your mindset cos you know he doesn't exclusively belong to you.....He belongs to you and Mrs X.
My advice ? Boot him.....he's baggage is within your sight....you already know that your husband-to-be is cheating on you and doing it in your face. C'mon, he has brought the other woman home.....thats the worse scenario, cos the next shocker you might get is that she is preggy or that your man is the father of one of her kids. He has shown no remorse and is rather making you look n think foolishly. His action is taking its toll on you and with time you'll lose your self esteem and nose dive into depression......Dude is controlling you already and I can bet my 2cents that you know whats going on can't process it cos you are entangled in this web of lies hence this chronicle.
step up your game dear and start thinking bout yourself, if you keep acting this way then you'll have more sad chronicles to send in. When a man loves you, he would be so scared to loose you such that he would sacrifice his excesses and only do things to make u smile all the time NOT INTRODUCING YOU TO THE OTHER WOMAN.
Li-yon Vls.
Which one is Stella saying now??? @ Poster one's advice. Give the guy space. Let him love his sugar mummy.....he should choose one oh, u or her
DeleteNo mind Stella jor
DeleteNarrative one free this man and ask God to bless u with ur own..
ReplyDeleteNa lie!
DeletePoster 1 you are SO NAIVE it's hurting my eyes. It's obvious YOUR MAN has been SLEEPING with this woman in EXCHANGE FOR MONEY. If you want to marry a gigolo and not rest all the days of your married life, go ahead. Mscheeew.
DeleteWisdom is the principal thing my dear, if the relationship won't give u peace you Berra zap
ReplyDeleteNo!
DeletePoster 1 your man has slept with her joor don't be deceived
ReplyDeletePoster 2 bad breath God I hate it,stay clear joor
Narrative 2 stellz has answered ur question
ReplyDeleteCopy copy answer your own
DeletePoster 1 your man is sleeping with Mrs X ......Open your eyes
DeletePoster 1: This your man wants to be here and there. I don't expect you to see what others see as you seem to be blindly in love but you need to remove yourself from that situationship.
ReplyDeletePoster2: So within two weeks, you've known him well enough because he's still opening doors for you abi? Ok...Kontinue! As for his MO, I no know abeg
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DeleteDon't mind poster 2. It took just 2 weeks for her to fall in love and she assume he feels the same. You can buy him breath mints and bubble gum. It's a subtle way to drive your point home.
Delete@p1: 'your man' is mrs X's man as well. They are F**KING! He obviously told her about you and asked her to placate you. She's married so she understands that he will do the same one day. Remove yourself from that situationship ASAP!
That your boo seems like a misogynist. He doesn't want you to look men in the eye but he's allowed to have a 'special friendship' with a married woman? Receive sense ! And good luck finding your self esteem.
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DeleteHmmnnnn. I feel u should dump that man, he's obviously in love with Mrs X. You ve taken enough sh*t and u are still going to take more. Just break up with him and tell him to sort himself out with Mrs X before coming back to you. Meanwhile don't wait for him o, prayerfully a well deserving man that will treat you right will find u. Take care dear
Deletehmmmm!
ReplyDeleteposter 1, this ur matter is serious.
for me o. I think ur man has slept with Mrs X!
its going to be very hard to separate them.
why not threaten your man abt walking away if he doesn't let go of whatever he has with the woman? or you threaten the woman about telling her hubby abt the affair of with your man?
poster2, Buy your man mouth wash...that shld help.
@1, are u so blind to see that ur guy is a gigolo, I laugh at all d married women who call single girls husband snatcher, so what do we call this married bitch who is trying to destroy a single girls relationship just bcos she has small money to throw around, ur guy is a lazy man dats y he's fucking a married woman for money, to even think that you are dying for a broke ass is so annoying.
ReplyDelete@2, tell him nicely there's nothing to pretend about cos I can't stand a guy with a bad breath.
See how proud and you rude you are! All these women remaining single since 1476..
DeleteI want to be your friend...
DeleteLwkmd.....the bestman...lol
DeletePoster 1, is the guy a yoruba man?
ReplyDeleteHow can he depend on a sugar mummy for money?
Advice : put it your prayers.
Poster 2, Tell him to see a specialist. It is curable.
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DeleteEwoooo... Throwing shade?????
DeletePoster 1,ur man n Mrs X have more than something going on... It's not about d money she lent him or whatnot. They have feelings for each other n are already probably having sex. My advice, find d money n pay her off n if she doesn't keep her distance, threathen to report to her hubby
ReplyDeletePoster 2, use style n take him to a dentist.u can go under d pretext that both of u r going for dental check up n I believe he'll get d help he needs
Poster1, are you a learner or you just enjoy being lied to korokoro? Your BF is obviously sleeping with her and he is an insecure,jealous prick too.. how can he ask you not to use make up and all that? Don't even know what to tell you o because that lady is his sugar mummy and neither she or him is ready to let go.. them just dey play you the mugu like ball. Use your head my friend.
ReplyDeletePlease why can't I comment from mobile version again? Have to use a web version to be able to drop comments and its only on this blog I have that issue.. anyone have an idea?
Poster 2, ask queen of this blog, im very sure she has the perfect answer for you. She is/was in the same boat as you
ReplyDeleteAnon 15:15, ashawo. How much b pull off...... Do you say N300?
DeleteStella you go kill me with that giggles!!!
ReplyDeleteposter one: your man is trying to make it right with her, right about now he is confused as to what to do with the both of you. don't leave his side if you truly love him. forget about him having sex with her or not cos he probably would have. all you need to do now is to make it right with Mrs X. call her always too, chat with her, be her friend you could occupy your man space in her life, she might just be lonely and needs companionship.
poster 2, drop hints. make sure he sees you brushing your teeth in the morning and at night. buy mouth wash too anything that can help. and place them where he can see. tell him hon pls teach the kids how to brush by showing them an example.
Stella im not so much comfortable wit dis ur advice to poster 1...
ReplyDeleteso because she was dia for him during his truama now means she is gonna continue having him as her escapade. ?
For how long will that continue. ?
wunt d man in question get married and move on anymore ?
its sad to say goodbye but the needful must be done to avoid dis hide n seek game.
Its high time she put an end to that illicit affair and face her marriage. .
#ka m jegodu n'shop mama ekpere.
Gbam!!!
DeleteU r natuarally beautiful,
ReplyDeleteU get compliments from men.
Which gal doesn't???
I hope u r beauty with brains sha, bcos apparently u r missin somt.
Their emotions isn't hidden but their isn't much U can do to curb it if Ur man doesn't wan to
Free thinz enslaves.
P2. U gatz tell him, Men don't feel too offended about such thinz. Tell him nicely n profer a solution. The feelins he already has towards U wil it easier to assimilate
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteGive him a break to sort himself out with Mrs X!Meanwhile,get yourself another guy...
@Poster 2
I can't deal!
Lol@ your advice to poster 1. She should just move on. She wants to marry a broke gigolo. # double jeopardy
DeleteYou met somebody (on a dating site) two weeks ago...he helps around your house? Cooks for you and your friends? Is good with your children?...all this in just two weeks!!!...but your main concern is stealing kisses and his "not so strong" bad breathe.
ReplyDeleteVery interesting.
Very desperate moves. In just two weeks you have introduced your kids to him. I'll be more concerned that he is not a serial killer!
DeleteAsin! The quest for a husband is making women do crazy things.
DeleteSpot the lie. Lol.
DeleteMy brother/sister I fear ooo. Hmmm people have got no chill these days. Just two weeks and you are already in love and stealing kisses smh. Maybe na this same awkward behaviour make the man wey you born 3 children for dump your sorry ass. Now you have become very desperate that you have lost your sense of pride.
DeleteWas wondering too. Perhaps she meant 2 months. Abi poster? Lol
DeletePoster 1,nne u are very naive.and ur Wayo man friend knows dis too.so itogo(u are in trouble)
ReplyDeleteHe wil soo "wash"ya head eh..if u don't leave now.
Hahahahhaha can't believe he told u he would bring d woman to u so u can see dere is nothing going on btw dem...chai...
And u believed dAt nonsense.
Two nonsense people dAt call demselves Honey and d rest and talk to each Oda at odd hours like couples do and u are stil dere.Hian!
Asides dAt,let me even ask u.would u sincerely like to be wit à man dAt has no confidence in himself and tries to CONTROL U???
He asked u to stop wearing make up? Ikwe.
he told u,not even asked u sef,to disassociate from male friends. Ikwe kwanu.
And dis same man told u to keep ur face down so Oda men won't see u... CHAI.
Nne eh,dis ur engagament makes dis thing I want to say,hard.Biko leave Mr Liar and His Married Mrs X and go work on ur self esteem.and while u are at it,a man dAt is Urs wil come.
Better a broken Engagement Dan a Broken Marriage.
Poster 2,when u guys go shopping or u go shopping,buy him a toothpaste and say nicely "this toothpaste is very good at taking away bad breaths.
Buy him walnuts too.plenty of Walnuts.
Good luck!
I miss you
DeleteNo!
DeletePoster 1 is a mumu raised to the power of 500 !
DeleteTGW please let me have your contact, you are someone I want in my life. Kisses
DeleteTHANK YOU!!!! Poster 1 please leave that lazy mofo ASAP
DeleteNa so ooo
DeleteP1
ReplyDeleteIf u are naturally beautiful, leave that broke guy for a while...which kind friendship be that....i can confidently tell u with evidence that ur guy is chopping her bear-bear meat....
Exactly.
DeleteI love sugar mummies o. No time. You cant dump a MILF. She wil' dump you. If u dump her,you will pay back ALL her money. So that she can find another sugar boy.
Poster1# ur guy is a liar nd has slept wit dat woman.if u want to continue wit him,dats ur biz. Poster2# I dated a guy once who had an offensive mouth odour,wen he opens his mouth for a kiss,i would give him my cheek. Jst didn't know hw to tell him,it was dat bad. I ended it wit some silly excuse. So I hv no advise for u
ReplyDeleteHmmm...
DeleteNarrative 1 has to be a fake story. One person can't be this foolish. Kilode?!
ReplyDeleteHehehehe....
DeleteApparently , some people are, ergo the narrative.
DeleteNarrative 2 sounds more fake.
DeleteNo be small fake ,lol,babe dump d guy ASAP. in this civilized world person dey mumu u like this.poster 2:buy lots of walnuts for him.I heard it stops bad breath.
Delete#Just Glamour.
Give them time to sort out things. If you still want to marry him after then, fine but if not I'll advice you stay away to avoid acid bath.
ReplyDeleteNo b only time na space
Deleteposter 1: i think your man is having a very 'secret' affair with mrs x, you either break it off with him or simply tell him it is you or mrs x...
ReplyDeleteposter 2: i once had an ex with bad breath, i think you should always carry a gum to share with him..you take one and offer him one, buy a mouth spray for yourself and give him one as well, before going to bed, brush then ask wont he brush as well...do all these together that way he doesnt feel as if you are saying he has bad breath.
hmm but what do i know......
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ReplyDeleteWhy?
DeleteWhy?
DeletePoster 1, biko gbafelu(run). poster 2, seems d mouth odour is not that badt i think u can start buying him mentor / mouthwash
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1: your man is not truthful with himself. Am sure he likes the woman. you can stay with him or leave him, the choice is yours.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2: God will help you with your bad breath. It is well
Lwkmd @ God will help u with ur bad breath.
DeletePoster2:book an appointment with the dentist for both of u,tell him u are very conscious of ur oral hygiene n u ensure u have routine checks,u can hint the dentist if u like,shd be easy 4rm here
ReplyDeletePoster 1 : Just be close to the lady for you to see the bigger picture you might need. I think your man loves you for him to introduce you to Mrs X.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 : you have to let him know but in a nice way. You can also buy him oral medicines for the breathe.
Seriously???u see that fake introduction as him luvin her?Abeg hw old re u cos boys go de use u play no be small!
Deletemadam first poster, abeg stop saying my man this, my man that. your man your man he keeps fumbling and finding reasons to communicate with her every time. If its true your so called man is owning him, and both of you seem not to have the money to pay her back, then try to be friend with her and watch your back at the same time. it pains to spend a lot for someone and then lose the person to another later. God will help me sha.
ReplyDelete1. Hnmm trusting this your man odi kwa risky. Let him pick a struggle biko. He's neither here nor there. Be watchful o b4 you'll start sharing him with a married woman.
ReplyDelete2. If you feel you can't tell him he has bad breath, why not get a mouth cleansing liquid or what's it called from a store and give it to him. You can even tell him both of you will be using it twice a day, that way you won't hurt anyone.
Poster 1; you said mrs x has been In his life as long as u have -well ur boo is a gigolo, she's definitely offerin him something your not ,which is money
ReplyDeleteNow am bothered your man could stoop so low as to sleep with a married woman (cos let's be serious they have been fuxking ) he definitely isn't God fearing - and now you know before marriage that he's okay with commiting adultery just know in ur marriage, he would be okay with it too .
I think you took the issue too lightly from the get go - imagine if the tables were reversed ,and one uncle was always calling you bla bla , with his jealousy & possesiveness ...he wouldn't have taken it calmly at all !
Anyway - threaten to leave him . U don't want a situation where y'll are married and that 'locust' woman (side eyes at Stella) is still in ur lives -then u wouldn't be able to do shit .
Poster 2: ask Linda Eze
That reminds me -
DeleteWhen I was in final school-we had a friend with a breath like a decomposing body .
We got a sim and sent her anon text to her ...
A year later we attended her wedding ..she came to us to thank us for coming ..and the smell that came out of her mouth..(.remembering gives me goose pimple) was worse than a decayed corpse ...I instantly had more respect for the word love .how her hubby continues to handle it amazes me
Arrrgghhhh Lmaoooo!!! I don die o. OMG u are crazy. Decomposing body smell from a living thing' mouth? Yulky. Her husband may also have bad breath, hence, or has gotten used to the smell. Ewwww. Imagine a pretty bride oozing on her wedding day.
DeleteCome to think of it Lola, I noticed that brides usually carry mints in their purse to church on their wedding day. Well, maybe the ones I know. Cos truly, they'll be mute most of the time and without eating their breath can go stale, even the groom. So they sneak in a few mints to refresh themselves momentarily, to avoid embarrassing mouth odour on such a day.
poster one: if its getting complicated pls leave the mofo abeg, shebi you said you are beautiful.
ReplyDeleteN1, free the man. He's not loyal and won't change.
ReplyDeleteN2, tell him jokingly or buy packets of mint for him.
poster 1,just dump him he is not meant 4 u
ReplyDeleteposter 2,just in two week u are already sleeping with him,what kind of a woman are u
Sharrap there!na ur type de open leg same day,cme de form saint.
DeleteThis ur man seems very controlling o. U shouldn't wear make up so other guys won't notice u? And to think ure putting lol when he says u should go with ur face down, taking it as a joke is disturbing. What kind of human being does that to his lady, that is the height of insecurity. Marry this man and he will lock u inside and carry the key when he's going out so u won't come in contact with the opposite sex. Discuss this issue with him abeg, if he can't loosen up and trust u, better to move on o.
ReplyDelete---Pesticide
poster 1. may God fix the situation, poster 2. take stella's advice
ReplyDeletePoster 1 : Just be close to the lady for you to see the bigger picture you might need. I know your man loves you for him to introduce you to Mrs X.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 : Tell the man but in a nice way. You might need to buy oral medicines for the breathe. Good lock.
Luck*
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Hmmmmmm, poster you situation is complicated.. I don't trust this man of yours at all
ReplyDeletePoster 2: tell him his breath stinks... Easier said than done I know but you have to do it
P1: I hope this is not a format to collect money from you o. All his things got lost in the fire, it may be true but mrs x may also be his partner in crime and that may be their format of getting people to part with their money. Whatever you do, don't attempt to say u will lend him money to repay that woman. The whole thing just sounds like baggage to me. How did you get caught up with all these mess, let go abeg and clear your head.
ReplyDeleteP2: Google and then buy him stuff from the pharmacy and tell him that's what you use too and it makes the mouth fresher. Watch how it goes. Don't forget to put it in his bathroom so that he can start using it immediately.
Poster1...You want to make him not to commit adultery, as in what....
ReplyDeleteThis is a woman who helped your man when he was down and flat broke, you want to end their friendship just like that. I ask you, if you met that man when he was down and flat broke, would you have stayed?
Why didn't they commit adultery when you were not in his life? Do you have a magic wand that can prevent them from committing adultery? He is a grown ass man, not a child. Let a man be a man.
I don't care if she is married with thirteen children, maybe she is lonely. Married women deserves love and friendship too. If you force yourself into these situation and make your man chase her away, your man will go ahead and marry you, after he will still continue the relationship with the woman , this time you can do nothing but cry.
How to win; Be friends with the woman, then take a step further by becoming friends with her husband too. Make all of una become family friends. Sometimes, you have to apply wisdom in dealing with certain situations. Now, if she is a wise woman and she knows you are close to the husband...she will respect her boundaries. Your boyfriend may not like it though.
Poster2...Always wear a mask whenever you are with him. You gotta compromise na.
Hahahhahahhahahahahahahhahahha .
Sometimes men that likes to give "head" to all and sundry always have mouth odour.
Does he like to give you "head",if yes, then the fault is from you. The germs from your punani has infected his mouth. Tell him to always use mouthwash after giving you head, make you no go give someone's son bad market.
XOXO MYSTERY
Ns Stella side eyes I de giv u 4 dis ur advice o
DeleteXoxo mystery, so you think becoming family friend with them will make her know her boundaries? Odiegwu woman wey cheat must cheat no matter what you do, is her husband with her 24/7? Na Im be say you never see coded women.
DeletePoster go and look for where you will get "obanye otor" I don't know if they have it in Naija, I know they have a lot in Gabon, rub it in your guys undies, any day has sexual contact with that woman, they will never separate unless you appear on the scene, you must catch them yourselves.
I don't agree with the forming by force friendship. It won't stop anything if they are already banging. And it won't stop them from banging if they are yet to start. Matter of fact, the closer they are, the neater the cross fucking. Even those who were family friends from the onset still do it without a conscience, not to mention a total stranger whom u owe no loyalty. She'll do the guy if she wants, no matter what the poster does. The only remedy is if the Mrs X loses interest on her own.. Mrs X seems to be the strongest link calling the shots, albeit subtly.. even the guy doesn't seem to have a choice in the matter. He's on auto pilot.
Delete1st poster:
ReplyDeleteI couldn't get past this statement
"Mrs. X also lent him some money which he used to rent a house."
An obvious, blatant lie. (and it proved to be so by the later part of your narrative)
Have you read 50 shades of Grey?
There is a 'Mrs X character' there. Read and see how it unfolds. That woman won't stop at anything to bring you down. Mark my words. Getting close to her is of no-consequence even. Her script is the same. The outcome predictable.
The clues are staring you in the face but you want to believe the best because the human mind is conditioned for optimism.
How will you even believe they never had sex?
Do fairy godmother just spring up from nowhere and help Mr Cinderella? The poor guy who lost his home...Tales and Fables. they refuse to divulge this because the news that they had sex(and might still be having consolation sex) will help no one's cause. Not him, if he wants to ever see her again and not her, being a married woman.
What happened after the fire was that this bored married woman in love with your fiance was sleeping with him to comfort him. The love of a married woman is usually strong because it's desperate! She's bored and your man became her lifeblood, her escape from her misery. And they decided to play the fairy tale game and pretend they are chic and guy. Questioning each other about who is there with them, asking each other if they have eaten...
In the throes of this sweetness, she gives him money. He being a proud blackman insisted it's a loan and he would like to repay. Smart Mrs X decided to use the loan as leverage at a later date but for now, life is sweet...
In comes Miss poster, pretty, young, charming and the fairy tale comes crashing. The man realises he has to live his own life, he no longer submits his phone to Mrs X for her love inspections. Suspicions. And finally he told her you are dating. Don't be surprised he hasn't yet told her how serious you guys are. Why is he sos suspicious of you? Why does he inspect your phone and why should you bow your head when you see men? BECAUSE HE HAS SLEPT WITH A MARRIED WOMAN! He knows what he has done, he even suspects his friends, family, shadow of making passes at you. His greatest fear is that you will cheat on him when you get married and he devices these means of curbing it.
Problem: is he ready to cut off ties with Mrs X? The first step a man takes to cut off his exes is admitting the truth about the nature of their relationship. Especially a taboo one. But can he be forced?
Solution: one day, bring up the issue of Mrs X, while he's making his excuses of how they were just friends. Tell him calmly that even if they have never done anything, you have already made that assumption for him and can't judge him. He is a man, has a past and was down at the time. And now he must move on and by so doing cut her off completely. She makes you uncomfortable and it's not too much to risk her to make your marriage work. Afterall, you try to obey him and always do things in a way that he doesn't feel threatened by other men. So he must do this one thing for you. As for repaying her, you will be in charge of the savings you both will be making to repay and you will call her .
Stella, you can't seriously be saying no friend likes to be cut off? Marriage involves two parties to the exclusion of all others. When you have external parties still questioning your husband of his whereabout, calling him 'honey', asking for him to give her some of his time. Will you say this lady has not tried? Didn't she give them time to sort out the whole thing? Even willing 2 be friends with her? Willing to agree they did nothing? Stella please. If there is any time for ultimatums, it is now before the marriage. If not, when you're married and there is any little 'fire' in the house, he'll keep running to her for favours and 'comfort'.
Abeg chop better kiss 💋
DeleteShe should go and get "obanye otor" aka. "Segbourn"and that woman will say byebye.
DeleteAll you weakling in this blog wake and grab your man by force.
It is written, the world of say that the kingdom of God suffereth violence the children of God taketh it by force!
You're the smartest person on this blog.
DeleteGbam
DeleteBonaParte NN.....very nice and thoughtful response. Nah u biko.
DeletePoster 1. Ur boyfriend is Mrs x sugar son.
ReplyDeleteSimply put
DeletePlease Blog visitors, I need suggestions of a very good cream that will tone my skin (not bleaching o) I'm not dark and I'm not fair. Thanks a lot.
ReplyDeleteYou should have included your budget...
DeleteIf it's from 5000naira below,i'll suggest you use QEI carotte lotion or you can use BEDON caviar lotion..
They are both very good...
Poster 1: just leave the relationship. Ur man is 'doing' that married woman and u won't av peace in d relationship as long as she's there
ReplyDeletePoster 2: hahahaha, sorry I had to laugh. Just say it plainly
Still in men and cheating
ReplyDeleteLike I always say, men don't cheat. They only share their had end money as they choose. Only women cheat because they live off men and still look elsewhere. No agitation or campaign would stop it. Those that would do it would and those that won't do it won't regardless. But while reflecting on this last night, I started recollecting some of the advice women give to their fellow women on this blog and I said 'WHY NOT'. Women whose husbands don't satisfy sexually are adviced by their felloe women to go ang get good dildos rather than find men outside. The same women who catch their husbands watching porn secretly cry and raise dust on this blog. I don't see any woman amongst you who stays in front of her husband to get fucked by I vibrator rather they do it in secret. They want a man who is not satisfied sexually by the wife to watch lorn openly while the wife is there but use duldo secretly. Is it cheating or hipocicy? Now I tell myself that my wife had no right the get sex elsewhere whereas I have because she didn't pay my parents to come to my house but I did.
Okay, I work for my mo ey and spend it to get a wife and I spend my money to maintain her. My wife spends her own money to get a dildo and spend her money to maintsi it. Now my questions are. .. Would I be wrong to accuse my wife of adultrg with the dildo. Does my wife have right to get sex from two sources while I lose the right to get sex from two sources. Would I be wrong to divorce my wife for having sex with dildo(adultry) and telling to go and live with the dildo since she she spends money on the dildo and get sex and I spend money on my mistress and get sex. Please u need answers
Hahahahaha! My dear feel free to get your own sex toy. There are some special ones for men you know? Don't try to rationalise having an affair. You should be glad your wife is compensating your shortcomings with a toy rather than a real man who will drive her wild and crazy. Do you think men are the only ones who crave variety? Go home and give your wife some good d**K . Make that dildo redundant. # tongue in cheek!
DeleteIt's not adultery if it's not sec with a human being u silly man ! It's masturbating...
DeleteYoungman,with ur drunken english',u made some valid points on this ETC argument.the first defence in favour of male folk for cheating dat makes sense.but that not withstanding shut d f##k up bro!a dildo is an inanimate object so why should it become at par with u(d man),abi are u also objectifying the male folk?are they dat little or unimportant #rme#
DeleteU've just shown ur inferiority complex!
DeletePoster 1 you still want to marry a man that can't celebrate your beauty. This your guy's insecurity comes from his infidelity. If he's not sleeping with that shameless married woman he won't be accusing you of cheating. The one that's even paining me sef is the make up. Guy never marry you he don dey give orders. Madam it seems like you spend a lot of time at his place, nne you no get house? Abi u guys live together. Pray to God to lead you right
ReplyDeleteI love your name Nwakaego! If ever ever I married an Igbo lady that's going to be my daughter's name in honour of her mother..
DeletePoster 1:don't come with another chronicles when he dumps u.how will a man take possession of your whole life when he's not yet married to you.and who says he has not being committing adultery. please his baggage is too much.forget about him .
ReplyDeletePoster2:buy lots of walnuts for him,read about it on this blog sometime.
#Just Glamour
P1... You strike me as a naive lady and your man can see this too and thinks he can get away with anything he does...and he's intimate with mrs x even a simpleton can see that....what do I know
ReplyDeleteP2... Will read comments as I'm in a similar situation...having conversations with him is war for me talk more of kissing. Still searching for a subtle approach to express my concerns and its eating me up cos I'm usually reclusive when we are together... we live in different states maybe that's why I'm been relaxed on the ish and I don't look forward to seeing him as a result of his breath.
Just Negodu! N1 u are a big FOOL. Who does that? My dear run b4 a heart attack or acid bath. N2, just tell him politely n recommend solution.
ReplyDeleteStella, ur Bv's will finish u today for ur advice to poster 1.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: madam, you have self esteem issues and on top of it very naive. I am married and have male friends whom we have all come along way. I don't call the guys every week, neither do we chat and visit each other at home or go to the park. Our communication starts dwindling once they have a serious girlfriend. So I put it to you that ur BF and his woman are madly in love with each other, you are just ur boyfriend's side chic. His main chic is Mrs X. Leave that relationship and improve on ur self. Do things for You and not because you want to answer Mrs. If you think he loves you,then wait till he gets married to you,he will then tell you to cover up completely or don't smile in public so as not to attract men. Learn to stand up for ur self and be YOU.
@stella I just hate you for ur advice to poster one . So u condone adultery !! Smh for you.
ReplyDelete@stella I just hate you for ur advice to poster one . So u condone adultery !! Smh for you.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 - Don't just assume. Your guy has slept with her and he's still doing so.
ReplyDeleteTell him straight in the eyes that you can't cope with such behaviour and if you can't face him, send him a text - period. I guess you're naive and still young but do not let guys use your head all in the name of marriage. You need to give him break, stay off him for weeks. ALWAYS VERY HARD FOR THIS KIND OF YOUR MAN TO LEAVE SOMEONE LIKE Mrs X. One more thing, if you can cope with heartbreak then STAY if not - give him space and watch him.
Poster 1: What actually caught my interest, was not what is going on with him and Mrs X.
ReplyDeleteIt's that you probably have a complex or esteem issues.
Not wear make up,so men won't look at you?
Not look men in the face?
Not have any male friends?
But he's allowed to do as he pleases.
And you're more concerned about what's going on between both of them.
Babe,i think there are bigger problems than Mrs X.
Meanwhile, I beg to differ with Stellz.
That she helped him, when he needed it,doesn't mean she should be on his case all the time.
What's with the pet names and morning and night calls?
Abegi, your man isn't just friends with her.
Poster 2: Hmmm
There's no way to say it without hurting his feelings, so just say it.
You can't stand it, right?
So,tell him so that he'll get rid of it.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster 1 look at how two foolish people are including you in their foolishness. Do you need a soothsayer to tell you that your man and the madam X are lovers? O ma ga o. Anyway I will advise you to firmly plant yourself inside their relationship, no communication between them except through you. Be civil to her, let her go and face her husband and let her know that you know she is married. What nonsense, Infact uou man is a very lazy idiot for living off a woman, when you marry him don't you think he will live off you too? Lol this marriage matter is wah.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 you have to tell him, probably one night after hot sex, just find a way to include it in the conversation. Then present him with very strong mouthwash , toothbrush and toothpaste and tell him you have booked an appointment with the dentist. Let him see how it will help your romantic life and relationship better. But do it very soothingly so he won't get offended, he will thank you afterwards.
Pheww.....so much drama for a relationship
ReplyDeleteDear, I think you should start referring to your boyfriend as 'Mr. Ex'.... reading through ur write-up, all I could sense was you condoning so much and still willing to condone much more. You referred to him as 'your man' all through and I see that as a psychological representation of the struggle within your mindset cos you know he doesn't exclusively belong to you.....He belongs to you and Mrs X.
My advice ? Boot him.....he's baggage is within your sight....you already know that your husband-to-be is cheating on you and doing it in your face. C'mon, he has brought the other woman home.....thats the worse scenario, cos the next shocker you might get is that she's preggy or that your man is the father of one of her kids. He has shown no remorse and is rather making you look n think foolishly. His action is taking its toll on you and with time you'll lose your self esteem and nose dive into depression......Dude is controlling you already and I can bet my 2cents that you know whats going on can't process it cos you are entangled in this web of lies hence this chronicle.
step up your game dear and start thinking bout yourself, if you keep acting this way then you'll have more sad chronicles to send in. When a man loves you, he would be so scared to loose you such that he would sacrifice his excesses and only do things to make u smile all the time NOT INTRODUCING YOU TO THE OTHER WOMAN.
Li-yon Vls.
Poster1 I think you are caught in between two people who have feelings for each other but has barriers,so I would advice you to either...
ReplyDelete1 leave the guy with this baggage,he is out cheating and he is being possessive of you which is not good..or
2 try and meet with the woman and plead with her to see reasons with you before she arranges for u..
Poster2 tell him in a subtle way to curb it or get a new toothpaste,mouth spray and mouthrinser then tell him they are your favorites and you want him using them...That should make a difference...
Poster one- your man tells you not to wear make up, you should always look down when walking on the road, but he has the guts to be calling another woman 'honey' right in your presence?
ReplyDeleteJust negodu!
That your fiancé is an insecured being..Sweetheart,just remove yourself from that triangle you've entered or you're about to enter..
Poster 2,there is nothing in it..just tell him.you can go like;
Hey darling,there is something I wanna tell you,don't take it personal.. Your breathe stinks,am telling you this because I care about you and so that we can both find a solution to it..
See? There is nothing there..you can text him if you're not bold enough to tell him to his face..
OK,ciao..
Em JaY and AmySweet, what is the meaning of "just negodu". I don rack my head tire. Stella sef, don ask sometime ago, I no see answer ooo, only that she now posts a picture with a cat and the inscription "just negodu" lol
ReplyDeleteJust negodu means just imagine.
DeleteYou met a guy two weeks ago on a DATING SITE and you've taken him home to your kids. No amount of lonliness warrants such carelessness. You don't know if this guy is a killer, kidnapper or child molester. We keep saying God forbid bad thing and yet our carelessness is amazing. Buy him mouthwash since you re more interested in his breath
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot for observing. Is it a surprise she is a single mother. No matter how bad a man is he will not ignore a good woman. That's why I always ask why people in this blog just jump into giving advice and blaiming the person complained against without accessing the conduct of the complainant as if a complainant always wins s case
DeleteP1 when I say that women are dependent on men shout. A man tells you all the does and donts you have no choice but to accept and then run to people to complain. Obviously you want to have him all to yourself then give him the money to pay back since you said you told the woman to give 'us' time instead of give him time. If you are not comfortable with the situation leave but I guess you won't because that would mean going to begin another round of waiting for a man to notice you.of course every woman that brings a complain here is very beautiful and has loads of toasters. I always wonder why all the urgly girls I see everyday on the streets refuse to join this blog. If on the other hand you can risk leaving him even though he can marry one he chooses, the live with it.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 since he has been opening and closing doors and cleaning your house for you for the past two weeks, then use a solution of jik,bimbo detergent and camphor to be washing his mouth every day. But if you problem is courage, then put you'd head on the ground and raise yohd legs up and in that position tell him that his mouth smells and you want him to do something about it. That way he would know you told him so in a loving way and he won't be hurt.
READING UR POST IS ALWAYS A CHORE!!!
DeleteLearn to use punctuation marks or stop commenting !!! What the actual fuck !!!
Lmao!!! This youngman na real case!!! I enjoy his comments anyway maybe he should join me in answering my name ENGLISH NA MY PROBLEM lol!!!
DeleteApart from the fact that Poster 1's man is obviously dating this woman, I'm most concerned by how he treats the poster No makeup etc are warning signs of a man who will be abusive in marriage. Those aren't the acts of a man in love but of a control freak. He's also very manipulative going by his presentation of his relationship with Mrs. M. I do think you were quite immature refusing to be friends with Mrs. M. Next time such an opportunity presents itself with a different man, biko, use it. As for this man, let him go jejely. I'm married to just such a man and I can't tell you how many Mrs. Ms are in his life. I've never gotten to speak with not to talk of meet any of them. They call first thing and last thing and throughout the day. They go out to eat and buy him gifts. They even go on vacations that i find out about while I'm here with no honeymoon yet. of course he's sleeping with them. It doesn't get better except by the grace of God.
ReplyDeleteStella sometimes ehh I don't know how you reason, how can you say that to poster one..can you share your husband or even child with any other woman..Please kindly sit on one of those your dick chairs..
ReplyDeletePoster 1- I'm sorry for you, so you don't know that the guy is a gigolo abi..stay there and be doing my man..efulefu
Poster 2 - just 2 weeks..He cooks for you, open doors, he's good with your children, you totally let a stranger into your home, your bed and worst of all your children's life. hmmmmm women! When will we learn..
Wisdom is profitable to direct...
LMAO.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 - I am really wondering what you are still doing with him with all these nonsense he is exhibiting. I bet you he is having an affair with Mrs X so forget that lame excuses they are feeding you. Go ahead & marry him but have it in mind that you may end up sharing him with several Mrs X & as for demanding no make-up, not looking up as you speak with any man etc... My sister na alarm signs be that oh! This is how abusive relationships start & before you know it you will turn into a shadow of yourself. He should be proud to show you off & be proud of you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - Tell him he needs to see a doctor simple unless you don't like him as you profess... but you need to pick a good time & gently break it to him.
Hian!Stellz wich kind advice be that?It's so obvious they re fucking na,and u advice her to chill?.Nne don't walk pls run away from the insecure liar before its too late o.
ReplyDelete#1, He is sleeping with her!!!!!!!
ReplyDeletePlease wear your make-up o jare and look good! He is exhibiting a dominating trait, trying to control you! He wants to eat his cake and still have it! Password your phone also!This is 2015, please, don't be so trusting and accept another serious suitor if any comes you way abegy!
Poster 2, encourage him to chew gums. This will allow air in and out of his mouth. Maybe he keeps quiet a lot.
ReplyDeleteLulu how far? I miss u.
DeletePoster 1: Haba....open your eyes nauuuu. Apart from the fact that ur man and mrs X obviously dey hide something; the guy will most likely crush your spiri after u don marry am. Na your fault say you fine? Why will he be telling you to look down? Think, my Dear.....Marriage is an eye opener only if you close eye b4. You still have time to decide with all the signs creeping up small by small b4 u. Goodluck!
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Stella stella stella....I dont want to cuss you out....your advice is not good at all....poster 1....leave the guy and move on...so stella u want her to leave her man bcos of a married woman...gush...nne leave the guy and trace her husband and tell him...den ugba gbawa ha there...poster 2..onu ushi.....fix it jesus....
ReplyDeletePoster 2 -
ReplyDeleteIf that bad breathe na oburu puta uwa nko?
Stella, you SURPRISE me for dat first narrative!!!! You mean you don't know the guy and the Mrs are sleeping together????? Why not just calmly ask this lady to turn a blind eye to HER MAN's sexual escapades with the Mrs! In the meantime, I hail the lady who gave the narrative. She is sharp. She thinks the man is using the debt as an excuse to continue seeing the Mrs. That is sharp. And she knows the people are sleeping together. She just thinks it will be more embarrassing when her HUSBAND sleeps with a married woman, i.e, when she is married to the man.
ReplyDeleteWait o, Stella, because the woman help the guy mean say e don become slave to her? Na im be say we all for don dey lick people feet every day o. You know. You know say dem dey sleep together. You just feel say dem suppose be left alone to enjoy themselves. Well done o.
ReplyDeleteP1- This woman is not your issue, your man is A HORRIBLE choice for a partner. You are way too desperate. My man my man meanwhile, he is sleeping with aunty and controlling.
ReplyDeleteP2-2 weeks and he has met your kids and is cooking for you with his bad breath. Suggest both of you should go to the dentist.
Poster 1 receive sense in Jesus name.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,ur lazy guy is an idoma guy,his things didn't get burnt,he is a liar,he is a parasite,looking for who to run dry,seems u are always with him counting how many calls he recieves,that means u dnt have a job,neither does he,so both of u are living on the married woman's husband's hard earned money.
ReplyDeletePlease get a life.
Those that say that stella's advice sounds like she is supporting adulterous act,u all commit fornication,that is also a sin. Mk una go sit down.
Poster 2: ur case is critical,I cnt stand bad breath.
My advice to u is to get a clean guy without a horrible breath,I cnt deal. Except u hv lost ur self esteem and lost hope in urself that u cnt get any man u desire. Men are not scarce,they full everywhere, choose wisely.
Infact,I want to ask,wat has come over ladies of these times??? They are now loosing demselves for men dat end up treating dem like trash,kpila nu onwe nnu ugwu bikonu(give urselves respect) make una no dey fall women hand,why will you ladies always make men feel like heroes after disrespecting u people to ur very face???
So many things I cnt stand,when ladies go get sense self??? Poster 1 says her marriage is October, wetin she wan marry? That good for nothing lazy parasite,cheating on her right in her face,she is just too dull to see it.
I nid to see chronicles of men wailing and gnashing their teeth over women.
Haba!
Poster 1 is a child that is why the guy and Mrs x is using her head. Little girl, your man is also mrs x man, if you make the mistake of marrying that guy just know you will be 3 in the marriage. He doesn't want you to wear make up and doesn't want you having eye contact with guys right? So he think's he can fuck another man's wife and go free abi? SMH..How selfish.SMH. Your man and that woman are having an affair. #fact. If you still want to marry him O.Y O.
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteYou just dey eh guy de use u de act suspense thriller,my friend gerrrrrrrr out from der,dat guy de jonse and u de mumulishly follow am, u r just a side chick Mrs x is d real deal for him,even if u marry him,u r still option 2,october na wedding and u r still having babe issues,find ur level o!better guys will come along....imagine I'm no even fear to introduce una two...WHAT RUBBISH
Poster 2
See as love de shack u...anyway tell am sha cos most people dat ve mouth odor,dnylt knw until u tell them.
My Two Cents
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ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteNa eh....see as d guy dey use u de act suspense thriller....y friend ind ur level b4 we go hera say and he broke my heart...stories that touch.._ur guy de yansh d woman,u de here de form novice,de plan wedding for october...u be option 2 o,na Mrs 8 be babe no 1,u de even look down so dat men no go look u for face...na babe u need seasonal slap to rest ur brain
Poster 2
see as love de shack u...anyway tell d guy o,cos some people wey get mouth odor no de knw.
My Two Cents
Narrative 1 - I am surprised you still call him your man...he has stopped being your man since...
ReplyDeletePoint 2 - He is already sleeping with her.
Point 3 - Ask him if he really loves her, and if he does, let the 2 of them be. After all, you are not married to him.
Point 4 - Open your eyes and open it well.
N1, the man is insecure where u r. If u miss his call wahala, put ur face down etc. Is that what u want in marriage for the rest of your life? My dear he can't change o. Am speakin from experience. Run now!
ReplyDeleteBv Bona has served me the stress of typing all that info for poster 1.
ReplyDeleteTruth is bros will change but not for you. The fact that he isn't afraid to loose you says it all.Better a broken engagement than a marriage to avoid chronicles tomorrow this thing with this your " man" is deep. I pray God gives you a better man so you can tell the difference. That's all.
EHM life.. my dear let me be kind. when I was in your situation only God was kind to me.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 sorry to tell you, you are bonding with a guy who can present you as his wife to his family but his heart is with a married woman. He is a gigolo trust me. He is. Now do you want to continue in a relationship which already has a sketchy foundation.
1. did your instincts or God give you the go ahead to embark on this relationship from the get go when he started approaching you.
2. Fornication not good, soul ties are formed. Please you are in relationship with two people. Their baggage alone. Start off by fasting and praying. Breaking every soul tie and take some time off from this guy. Your eye go clear and the mumu scales go fall off. During this time off focus on Jesus Christ, not on the fuck or companionship you are missing. Surround yourself with love.
3. Stay clear of fornication have a relationship with God.
The signs are written you are clouded with infatuation.
Poster 2 dental odor is myriad. so either pay for dental cleaning or ensure he has a good balance diet during the week. to ease digestion. But being friends you should be able to tell him. Not in a condescending manner. it's also a test how you handle him. this will also open a door that both of you can confide in each other and find solutions to problems without being judgmental.
I had a similar situation and the person who ministered to me was so God sent. I had tried to handle it but would not go away. This person was so God sent ministered to me and gave me solution and told me not to be worried.I cried because of this person's kindness.
Meanwhile someone who was claiming to be my friend sat in places to laugh mock and me use me as the point of contact for insults. I don't label people my friend in a hurry. that was a journey and lesson that exposed "the friend " was fake and cunning. God loves me so much to be in that toxic environment. The person is trying to reconnect. Thank you Jesus Christ. Amen.
Poster 1 - The writing is on the wall. They have a bond you and ur man don't have. After he marries you, here's what will happen
ReplyDelete1. He and Mrs X will continue their affair
2. Mrs X will not let him go
3. You will be heartbroken and miserable and lonely cos he won't have ur time. He's probably collected a lot of money from her
But the "good news" is that you are MARRIED. Sebi marriage na do or die na. You are seeing the signs but you are scared to pull out. Get ready to spend the rest of ur life in misery