This one pass me..I had my mouth in the agape format whilst reading this...I dont know what your reaction will be but i ran out of red ink today...WTF!
NARRATIVE ONE...
THE MOTHER WHO TEARS APART HER CHILDREN....
I have a very lengthy story but in order to keep it short, I'd have to seriously summarise.
I am the first of 4 children, 3 girls and a boy....
I had a very sad childhood, I was abused by my very own mum, let me give you instances.... I remember when I had an allergy and I had to be rushed home from school.... No one was home so I had to stay with our neighbours, they were so worried, they took care of me... Within hours, I was covered up in rashes and serious temperature. by the time my mum came back and they narrated everything to her,she eyed me and told me to stay far like I was some leper.
She called pastor's and said I was the witch disturbing the house, serious deliverance on me o(I think I eat cocoa seed for the first time and I reacted badly) when my dad came he was speechless but as usual my mum had the final say. I was beaten.... I was just an innocent child at 10.
I remember when my dad bought me this beautiful knee length boot, my mum tore the boot to a slippers just cos she wanted to wear it out
I remember when I'd be beaten for crimes I never committed, I have a red spot in my eye for that
I couldn't ask my dad for jamb fee for 2years cos she didn't want me close to him....
When I had just normal rash and she said boys had started sleeping with me....
When I was sick, she brought out a big baby bath and told me to get in it that the witch in me will die today, I was traumatised, I couldn't even stand, she made my dad believe I was a witch, the beatings were so much I carry an ugly scar on my leg for that proof..... I was my dads favourite but she managed to "twist" his mind.
I can't even say it all o, I had to get a diary then, lol the diary put me into more troubles , I was beaten in advance and of cos it wasn't normal.
(how do I even start this) I and my immediate sister has had so many issues in the past and eventually when we settled we realised my mum was always behind it. My mum would tell my immediate junior sister that I am jealous she is married and wealthy and turn around to tell me my sister is rude and arrogant to me.
.... Its been going on for a very long time now and each time I get so confused why my sister still believes the lies my mum brings to her, she's actually very soft hearted and believes anything . So last year January apparently my sister had an issue with my mum's and she decided to cut all communications and ties with her. I tried my best and eventually they made up even stronger than before.....
Only for my sister to start ignoring me, I was so confused on why she decided to cut me out like that, I got pretty hurt cos each time I tried, it was like I was forcing myself on her, I missed my niece and nephew but I couldn't reach out cos she was avoiding me like a plague .... So I decided to move on. During that period My mum told me terrible things about her, she told me my sister was spoiling me up and down, she said my sister's husband said I am a pretender Bla Bla Bla so many but knowing the type of person she is, I didn't bother, I just turned deaf hear.
I eventually moved in full time with her cos I'd relocated back to Lagos, I finally graduated, I had always dreaded staying full time with her , I try my possible best to assist her in every way, I would squeeze my self to put food on the table, school fee of the last child, buy her stuffs when I see something nice for her, I don't understand why she hates me, I know I am very hard to understand, I keep a lot to myself, I was just getting my self esteem back cos my childhood was messed up, she made me feel I was ugly, I really believed till I got into the university and met my awesome friends and my ever loving pastor who broke that yoke...
Can't even tell you some ridiculous stuffs but reached out to her cos who doesn't want a mum? I want a mum too and I try my best.
After a month at home, my mum would just wake up nag and nag about how she sent me to the university and how she's yet to reap from her labour..... In my mind I'm like I'm the only one who's still helping out here o despite not having a serious job, I graduated late at 26, I intensified my search for a job, I had to stop selling shoes cos I really got broke. Life was hell, she'd scream, nag, fight, curse and all, she eventually told me to move out....
After a month at home, my mum would just wake up nag and nag about how she sent me to the university and how she's yet to reap from her labour..... In my mind I'm like I'm the only one who's still helping out here o despite not having a serious job, I graduated late at 26, I intensified my search for a job, I had to stop selling shoes cos I really got broke. Life was hell, she'd scream, nag, fight, curse and all, she eventually told me to move out....
My aunties advised me to move too cos I was getting suicidal each day,i was a mess..... I keep a lot to myself and it wasn't helpful then.... My mum would call my little siblings and poison their mind towards me but they aren't blind so we were always cool, she'd say "your mates are married, just take a look at your sister, you are just like your father, leave my house" ..... I called her for a mother to daughter talk(not the first time) , cos I had no where to go..... she just cries and cries that it's the Devils work she'd promise to change but she won't change, I felt sorry for her.....
I searched for her condition.... I found bipolar disorder but bipolar won't make you prefer one child to the other! She continued her ways, house was just meaningless to me.
Luck smiled on me, I Got a very Good job through my best friend , I just moved out of her place eventually.
Luck smiled on me, I Got a very Good job through my best friend , I just moved out of her place eventually.
Somehow she had a very big fight with my sister and in fact it's a matter I am not even proud to write on..... So last wk, My sister reached out to me and told me all my mum said which of cos she found out again they were all lies, terrible lies I was just crying the whole time worst part is she told my sister's in laws some issues that made them hate my sister ,I am like why would she birth children to scatter them and why would she wanna scatter my sister's marriage all in the name of vexing ....
I reported to my aunties and they confessed my mum told them she doesn't like me, that it's the way she's wired, she couldn't help it. So this my mum tried reaching out to me 4days ago,probably to spoil my sister again or try to use me to spite my sister, I just poured out my mind and told her to stay Far away, I didn't say more than that,she said she has disowned the both of us. I know it's a wrong decision, my fiance is worried that it will affect our wedding plans...I'm at peace abeg.
*Mouth agape*
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
GENOTYPE BROUHAHA
If you want to marry this man and do not wish to make babies with him later,then go ahead but if you plan to make babies,please FORGET ABOUT THIS RELATIONSHIP AND MOVE ON!
THIS IS A PAINFUL ROAD YOU WANT TO TOW,PLEASE TURN BACK.....However you can marry him but two of you can decide to go to a sperm bank and buy an SS free sperm to use when you ovulate.
Good luck.
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
GENOTYPE BROUHAHA
Dear Stella.
i started dating my boyfriend 8years ago, he had nothing but i stayed with him because i love and believed in him, i don't want to go into all the things we passed through together. Fast forward to 2015 we started making marriage plans, did i mention that my boyfriend is now a big boy, so as part of the marriage plans we went for a genotype test only to discover that we were both AS!!!
My world came to a stand still and he could not believe his eyes also, right now are both frustrated we are supposed to be married by now but we are terrified for our unborn children. Last month he told me about this doctor he talked to and the doctor assured him that there are ways to prevent having SS children that will can go on with the marriage plans and all that, my suspicion is that i have been telling him to take me to the doctor but he has refused and keeps telling me the doctor is out of the country.
I'm confused and i don't know what to do. Please is there anyone in this blog that know or have heard about it?
If you want to marry this man and do not wish to make babies with him later,then go ahead but if you plan to make babies,please FORGET ABOUT THIS RELATIONSHIP AND MOVE ON!
THIS IS A PAINFUL ROAD YOU WANT TO TOW,PLEASE TURN BACK.....However you can marry him but two of you can decide to go to a sperm bank and buy an SS free sperm to use when you ovulate.
Good luck.
Oh dear!
ReplyDeleteCan't deal abeg!
Wow! D first narrative am dumpfounded! Sorry to say this but your is seriously sick. And u guys need to stay far far away to het a breath of fresh air. Send her money when u feel like or when it touches ur heart or not at all. She is evil and i feel like giving u a hug rite now cos u bore so much. jeez! Just be there for your sister. You sibblings should come together and promise each other to ignore your mum's word poison in future and always try to stick together no matter what she says. Soft heart or not, tell ur sister to receive sense! Shey she was avoiding u before, now your mum has done same thing she does to u she now remembers she has a sister. Rubbish! Just be there for her as much as u can and still face your life ie ur fiance abeg. you deserve d happiness.
DeleteWho is the Precious Ibk?
DeleteStella, na wa for your advice o.
DeletePoster 2, your fiance is right. There is what is called embryo selection or something that. It involves checking the genotype of ur foetus when you conceive. If its SS, it will be aborted. The cycle goes on until you conceive an AA or AS. Goodluck.
@ precious u are on point..
DeleteD annoying part of family ish is d low self esteem attached to it...it affects every area of ur life until God intervenes. My advice is dat u shud free her physically but remember her in ur prayers. Sometimes its even difficult to pray for family members causing uu pain cos dey are actually supposed to soothe ur pain, it is well with u dear. Poster 2, sdk don talk am. Dnt joke with ur future Oo. D ball is in ur court.
Delete@poster 2 : I am AS as well. If both of you have the money, there are medical procedures that can give you aa children. It's call pre-implantation genetic testing. Stella Abeg no dey give uninformed advise.
DeleteDumbfounded indeed lol
Delete@poster1 : you must be living in hell.....!!
DeleteWtf......
@poster2 : please go ahead and marry him.
You can prevent birthing ss children.
Make inquiries and settle down biko b4 another person will reap where she did not sow.
Many on this blog are worse parents or will be worse parents. Parenting is not for everyone. It is a gift that too many feel they are naturally entitled to.
DeletePoster 1.....Like u said, you are at peace at the moment. Build ur heart to accept the situation as it is, be constructive weneva ur in communication with mummy and also keep away necessary secrets. U have ur life ahead of you with your fiancee and that should be your focal point at d moment. Get married, have kids and use this experience as a learning point on how to be a good mother to ur kids.
DeletePlease, forgive your mum for she knows not what she doeth. Forgive her and donot desert her at her point of need cos she is aging and would need some love and care in the near future. We live in a modern society at present and society is a lil fair and developed in terms of rights, justice and how to act; some of our parents had a messed up childhood and the travails and turmoils they had to face while growing up might have affected their mental disposition making them psychotic, which they get to manifest in different ways.....some parents even feel their kids are a lot more priviledged than they were, some make negative comparisons even when you progress but despite all this mummy remains mummy......no matter the relationship uv had with her, u'll miss her when she's gone. Love her and always pray for God to direct her views to his path. Stay blessed.
Li-yon Vls.
Poster 2 don't listen to Eby, the pre screening is done 20weeks of pregnancy, are you prepared to have blood of inoccent aborted foetus trailing after you. The procedure is nothing but aborting of ss foetus. It's a calculated murder not an accident, move on already. You have been warned.
DeleteAm surprised @stella korks, u don't have to be ashamed that you don't know about something, rather than giving funny advice, u should sat down at a corner and sale popcorn as usual. Babe marry your man, there's solution to your problem, the world b has gone nuclear.
DeleteN u in turn shld nyash down,open ur brighter grammer in collaboration wit ur dictionary n learn English. Ewu Gambia.
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Delete"Many on this blog are worse parents or will be worse parents. Parenting is not for everyone. It is a gift that too many feel they are naturally entitled to."
Very well said.We need to be very cautious about our rights as human beings. Parenting is no walk in the parks.
Poster it is not easy but if staying away will help you,pls do that and while at it pray for her and be very careful and sensitive to your own behaviour too so you don't end acting same way as your mom ( you might think otherwise but trust me you might be hating her because she is who you are.with God and cautiousness you will be a better person).Pray for your siblings too not to inherit that spirit , your mom doesn't know it's hurting and disintegrating her family so you continue praying for her too.
God will help you.
Anonymous 19:27, pls go and do more research. Pre implantation screening is done as the name suggests before the zygote is implanted. Don't say what u don't know.
DeleteNa wah ohhhhh!
ReplyDeleteJust negodu!!!
********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
Your mum is a witch period! Abi are you waiting till you catch her dancing naked at night before you realise? Msheeeeew
DeleteAnony u are so on point o. Haba!!! Which kind mama be dat kwanu? Tufiakwa!!!!
DeleteToo long!
ReplyDeleteFix it Baba
Poster one is Oluyomi Odukoya
DeleteStella there are other ways o. Poster 2 if you know your boyfriend is a big boy, u can go for genotype selective IVF once to are ready to get pregnant . The thing is very expensive though, the test alone is 9k dollars minus the IVF itself o and it is done in Abuja. I can give u the name of the hospital . Just ask for twins and close up after that
DeleteAnon; if you get liver unveil yourself; why do you people come out to talk Rubbish ehn! Even if she's the one, can't you just waka pass.
DeleteAnon may God forgive you.
DeleteYou so wish Oluyomi is sad abii.
But she's one very happy woman, just felt you should know.
You may just be right, that's how long and windy her comments are
DeleteLaziness to read isn't a good thing lol
DeleteU lie anony!
DeleteOluyomi's only sister isn't married....
Stop this pull Down syndrome !
Anon u are very stupid
DeleteMtschw.
Poster 1
I have ur mother's type as a neighbour
Trouble maker and always jamming pple'a head.
Tell her to give her life to Christ
He is the only one that can fix her
Poster 2
How can u date someone for 8years
Without knowing eachother's genotype
I am sure u didn't know his HIV status too.
U guys ain't serious.
There is something wrong with ur head anonymous. So even if u know who the poster is must u be very stupid to write her full name
DeleteMay God have mercy on you @anon
DeleteMy dear Poster 1, plenty hugs love. The Bible says if your right hand would take u to hell, cut it off, my dear cut her off like a plague. U can send her stuff after praying on them, but do not invite her for your wedding, use someone else and don't even tell people too much, so nobody tells her. God that has kept you would be a greater mother to you, so your best bet is just to draw closer to God, Seriously. Everything will go well, fear not, God kept you through it all and you will never suffer again
DeleteMy dear Poster 2, dry your tears, some have dated for longer and split, as long as there is life, there is hope, u can meet someone better in less than 3 months. I know some AS that have married with faith and don't have sicklers but personally I wouldn't. If u see a sickler in crisis, u would constantly curse yourself for bringing such a child into the world.
Anon 15:33, it can never be well with u, and all your curses must go back to your head, In Jesus' Name, AMEN. U shall remain a faceless and nameless nonentity
Stupid anon......where is d advice you gave? No one asked you if it is Oluyomi or not.
DeletePoster 2 am AS and the only AS out of 5kids, d rest are AA. My patents where beyond lucky to say the least but having attended meD sch I realised its all probability....d chances of getting all of SS, AS,AA is the same. There's a testing method called chorionic villius sampling(CVS) it test d fetal genotype in d uterus, once SS is suspected, u evacuate. My kweshion is for how long?let alone d pains n trauma, besides its expensive n I don't know of a Hosp in naija yet that provides such services. U can decide to go SDK way but u shld b emotionally n psychologically preped for it. Cos at times love is not all that matters. Goggle well, weigh the odds n think it out. Listen to both ur head n heart....Genotype ish is a long term if not lifetime wahala.
DeletePoster 2 am AS and the only AS out of 5kids, d rest are AA. My patents where beyond lucky to say the least but having attended meD sch I realised its all probability....d chances of getting all of SS, AS,AA is the same. There's a testing method called chorionic villius sampling(CVS) it test d fetal genotype in d uterus, once SS is suspected, u evacuate. My kweshion is for how long?let alone d pains n trauma, besides its expensive n I don't know of a Hosp in naija yet that provides such services. U can decide to go SDK way but u shld b emotionally n psychologically preped for it. Cos at times love is not all that matters. Goggle well, weigh the odds n think it out. Listen to both ur head n heart....Genotype ish is a long term if not lifetime wahala.
DeletePoster 2 am AS and the only AS out of 5kids, d rest are AA. My patents where beyond lucky to say the least but having attended meD sch I realised its all probability....d chances of getting all of SS, AS,AA is the same. There's a testing method called chorionic villius sampling(CVS) it test d fetal genotype in d uterus, once SS is suspected, u evacuate. My kweshion is for how long?let alone d pains n trauma, besides its expensive n I don't know of a Hosp in naija yet that provides such services. U can decide to go SDK way but u shld b emotionally n psychologically preped for it. Cos at times love is not all that matters. Goggle well, weigh the odds n think it out. Listen to both ur head n heart....Genotype ish is a long term if not lifetime wahala.
DeleteAnon may God forgive you. Instead of you to advice the poster you are calling names. Poster1 is your dad still alive? If he is then your mum doesn't have a say when its time for you to get married but still apologise to her and pray for God to touch her. Poster 2 I am currently in your situation and my fiance is saying we would adopt children. I am so confused because I lost a cousin to sickle cell aneamia.
Deletehow do you know it's Oluyomi anonymous the name dropper.?
DeleteEven if it's her, so bloody what???
Some of you are just filled with evil. Demons. Smh!
Anonymous amebo....shut the fuck up !!
Delete1) It's well with you!
ReplyDelete2) Move on! God will send your own an your. Kpele
@poster 2: it is true that there are medical ways of preventing SS babies. So true...very true. However go to the hospital yourself, meet with a gynea you can trust to confirm this.
DeleteBesides, the chances of having SS baby is just 1 out of 4. And medically they can help you prevent this once chance of SS. So I advice you to go ahead with your marriage abeg. I will just want you to start the campaign for your children early, once they start attaining Puberty.
DeleteGoodluck!
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Which kain evil mama u get so Narrative one...
ReplyDeletePoster 1: your mother may or may not be bipolar but she definitely has a Personality Disorder, either Borderline or Narcissistic or a combination of the two. Pls Google these conditions and educate yourself.
DeleteAs you have discovered for yourself over the tears, your mother is NEVER going to change. This is the way she us wired. For your own sanity, cutting get out of your life is a good thing. Do not let anyone mske you feel guilty about that. You wear the shoed and you know where it pinches. People who have not been in your shoes will come here and spill nonsense about honor your mother and father ish. Don't listen to them.
Protect your soul and your emotions. And I pray for Gods healing for all you went through in your childhood. Since you now have a good job, pls seek counseling from someone who understands the nature of personality disorders. *omojeje*
Iphie congratulations!!!!!!!!! Ine I'm so happy for you. Ine you're blessed! Your kids would make you proud IJN I sent you a congratulatory message but it seems I was a tad late and you didn't see it! Ronalda sweet heart, where art thou??! Its been cold and lonely without you. I'm sorry couldn't read the narrative. Just wanted to relay my message to my loves. I'm quite busy these days. Hi Stella
ReplyDeletePoster 2, move on pls, it's a hard nut to crack but you will be glad you did.
DeletePoster 1, your mum needs serious deliverance
P1, what you told ur mother is the best. Keep her away for like six months. Don't pick her calls. When you're set to talk to her, call her, sit her down and admonish her in a very serious tone. She wil learn after that.
DeleteP2, I can bet my last card that you're the one that made up this imaginary doctor and not your boyfriend. You just want to kno if BVs will encourage you. Leave that guy for your own good, to prevent crying had I known when its too late. Its entirely your fault. How can you date a guy for 8 solid years without asking his genotype when you know you're AS? Sorry, its painful, but let him go. Pray. God will send the right person for you.
Narrative 1....na wa ooooo
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2 just quit the relationship cos it's not worth the stress,God has the final say,if it's meant to be,it would work out well, don't bring in kids into this world to suffer them and the only way you can prevent it is to test any pregnancy and if it's positive,they would remove the baby. Are you ready to go down that road?....
Poster2, are you ready to live with the quilt of abortions???
DeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteYes, my wifey may beat my child in the form of correction. But for every strike, se would provide justification and beating objectives and outline a safe way to do this. We, men, need to pay closer attention to these emotional women folks in te form of wives. I dont even know how to describe ur mum's problem sha, because it looks like a combination of illiteracy, religion, some mental loose nuts etc.
Keep a positive relationship with her, but from a distance. This is the modern age, them no dey quarrel with anybody. Intelligent ISOLATION is priceless. When una manage to see, una go talk like say una love each other and after then, back to status quo.
POster 2
I dont know where you worship or the positive testimonies you have heard, or whether God told you himself to go ahead, but i will be frank with you. Despite all the euphoria of positive thinking, if you give birth to an SS child, the newly acquired sense you will have by then will be too late to turn back the hands of time. Use your brain now.
Ehen.... Who wants me to change my blog ID? Is it that it is a lie or it is too much of a truth? Tell me, so i can change oh. I no wan hear anything like it is disrespctful. That wont fly
Lmfao! Spot on ! I like your advice.
DeleteChange your blog ID because it's true! #Tongue out! We know. We've accepted the point you've been trying to make so let's move on.
Its true but its also not cos sex is sweet u should do it in d middle of a busy road. Apply decorum dats all.
DeleteIntelligent ISOLATION is priceless. GBAMMMMMM
Deletethis is what I have with my mum because I cannot shouttttttt
Do u truly have MONEY (not money)?
DeleteHow many women have u f**ked?
Answer those question first.
Mr Money makes you do, I must confess I am one of your fans. I always look out for your responses as you are always on point and one of the most intelligent bvs here. In regards to your question on your blog ID, I would say it will do a lot of good if you change it not dt it takes anything from your brain o. In as much as there is a lot of truth in the name, it's a bit hard to take in being a woman myself. But mind you its purely your decision, after all I don't know you and you don't know me.
DeleteYou ve been missing in action for some days. Welcome back.
Poster1, everybody wants the love of a mother but bear in mind that ppl loose their mothers to death. If you have a mother who is alive but her actions are more painful than death, it will do you a lot of good to delete yourself from her corner, unless you are not telling us the truth, you shouldn't be in anyway close to your mum and secondly your mum should be receiving some mental health treatment.
DeletePoster2: hmmm, if you have witnessed a sickle cell patient in crises you will never want to impose that kind of wickedness on an innocent child. You and your boyfriend need a rethink. Love can be very difficult to walk out on but sometimes, some decisions can be very helpful. If you are not aware of the dangers, it's different but now you know because you are educated.
After stella u r my favourite prsn on dis blog..alwz makin sense si ce 1890
DeleteMmyflawws,oya we gree say ur ID na true,but just change d name cos as a matured man u should know there are truths that are better left unsaid. #yimu#yeye person.lol!
DeletePoster 1,ur mum is either a phsycopat or she actually believes u are possessed cos pple that keep so much to themselves are easily misunderstood as witches,as they can't understand wats on ur mind.aside that,ur mum is someone that thrives in d confusion that trouble bring!so she creates d trouble,she needs help.but till den,thread softly with her,pretend u are in peace so she can support u unto ur marriage preparation and rites,after then keep her at bay,u can send her money,call to greet her once in a while and don't mix issues while at it,btw I tot u said u are a quite person, how come u are always in d mixed of their bullcrap talk,tot u should be able to discard such talks easily?hmmm u sef.
Poster 2,i will say never say never in dis case cos I have close family friends,dat were both AS,they staked it,now they have 2kids:a boy and a gal and both kids are not SS!its a gamble,u can try it and beg God it doesn't go bad.u need high faith'.best of luck.
Lol.....it's too much of truth hun !! You know that truth hurts like hell ....#sobs#
DeleteI have a crush on u!
DeleteIntelligent Isolation, Gbam!!!!!
DeleteChai!!!! Wicked mothers everywhere. God bless my mum! God bless her so much. Reading these stories about a mother's wickedness to her kids baffles me a lot. God bless and keep my mum abeg for me, she deserves d best.
ReplyDeleteIs it not interesting that you are nothing like her, by choice?
Delete200000 likes
DeleteChai poster 1,
ReplyDeleteYour story is so sad...
I don't know why some mothers are like this...
Biko move on with your life afterall,there are some people whose mothers are dead and they are still living...
Keep her at arms length and hide your fiancé from her...
Her type will even tell your man shit about you...
May God continue to guide you in making the best decision...
Poster 2,
Please cancel any plans of getting married to him...
Go and ask people that has SS kids what they are passing through...
Don't use because of love to endanger the lives of your unborn children cos they will grow up to hate you....
Your man should settle you with some cool cash...
You know what I mean...
Move on move on!!...
Let me perch here.
DeletePoster 1:
Keep praying for your mum.
This world, a lot of things we see in the physical are manifestations from the spiritual realm.
She is in bondage. Bondage to tear her very Own family apart with her hands.
Someone may have placed a curse on her due to jealousy or she may have offended someone wayyy back who swore that she will never have a cordial relationship with her kids.
This world is a wicked place. Caution! Careful! Be prayerful. Above all, never stop loving her
Keep some distance from her but help her by asking God to break every yolk of hatred placed on her.
Hugs dear.
Poster 2
This genotype issue is overflogged here
Pls google "Awele's diary" and watch the vid.
If your mind tells you to still go ahead to marry your incompatible boo afterwards, all the best.
U are correct @bloglord
DeletePoster 1, you need no advice.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, how can u date a guy for 8 years without checking genotype? Oshisco
Did I beat Emjay to it?
SDK's Love child is back!
Poster 1: Please keep being at peace. I don't really know what to say cos your narrative made me shudder....Jeez!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: This your narrative sha. Why didn't you ask him what his genotype was when you met him, knowing that you are a carrier,or is it that you didn't know yours too? Hian!
Please, in addition to going for HIV test, those that don't know or aren't sure of their genotypes, should take tests,to avoid dilemmas like this.
I think your guy wants to get married to you,without minding the implications, hence the story.
Stellz has made a suggestion. One of you should consider a bone marrow transplant, if your love is the kind that cannot be destroyed, except by death.
Use your head here,abeg.
Goodluck.
#WhiteDiamondOut
P1: sometimes family is overrated. Respect and love your mom but do so from a distance.
DeleteP2: Love will fly out the window when death comes from the SS kids you may have, leaving only regret, contempt and resentment. Be wise! You'll learn to love again.
None marrow transplant at what age... Abeg what type of advice is this
DeletePoster one. Are u 100percent sure that that woman is ur mother. If u ask me I don't think so.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 pls don't marry him i have friends facing same situation and there is absolutely nothing u can do, u just have to breakup and move on wit ur life. Sorry.
Sarah , I was in the same situation with my mom ..mine was so bad that if I am like 10 min late from school my mom would ask me to lie down so she could use egg to check my virginity ...dont allow me to play sport or get involve in anything successful .she is good at ruining my plans and castigating me.."there is no way you'd be better than your younger siblings"
DeleteShe made my half sisters hate me so much ..and always blame me for my dads abandoning her ..
I get beaten just for anything ..several a time she decide to sell me off to some old men cos she is tired of me ..
My grand mother was the only back bone I had,stoodby me .fund my education(from Nursery up on till my masters) before she died ...
Wouldn't want to talk much I know some Bvs might know who I am ..
I'd say move on ..dont look back .dont try to reconcile with her ..as she would do more harm that you can imagine .
Sarah be making sense since 1660
Delete... Poster 1 can't even read the handwriting on the wall!! That woman is not your mother ....a guy she loved might have impregnated her and dumped her , so she used your father as a rebound and to cover up shame. So she is pouring the hate on you !! Or you were adopted....
Anon 16.27.... I'm inspired thanks so much
DeleteSo this egg virginity test thing really exists? People really do it? Wow
DeleteAnon 16.27, may God bless and heal you. Chai can feel ur pain. But why? Why are some mothers like that?
DeleteP2 it's hard o...but babe u gotta sacrifice for a greater good! Don't live d only life u have running helter skelter...I remember a Bv who posted how they aborted a 5mnth pregnancy cos d foetus was ss..i was terrified mehn..dont play gamble..
ReplyDeleteAborting a 5mths foetus?
DeleteThe pain + the guilt. OMG!
Poster2, please don't do it, the pain isn't worth it.
Chronicles used to be about bad husbands...now it's drifting towards tales of bad mothers
ReplyDeletePoster 1, is your mum related to Patience Nzokwu?
DeleteHahahhahaggagahahah....bitch please.
DeleteTHELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeletePoster1---sowi to say this but your mum is a witch,she's an enemy of progress,she's a destroyer,her character is snake-like,for your own gud,stay clear her before she kills you one day!!..
Poster2---that lane is a NO GO area,count your losses and MOVE ON WITH SPEED!!..
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
THELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeletePoster1---sowi to say this but your mum is a witch,she's an enemy of progress,she's a destroyer,her character is snake-like,for your own gud,stay clear her before she kills you one day!!..
Poster2---that lane is a NO GO area,count your losses and MOVE ON WITH SPEED!!..
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
Only retarded people comment twice religiously!
DeleteDon't mind her...the mother must have been trying to kill her with witchcraft powers but ain't succeeding because of her spirity'al powers , that's why she result to hate.
DeleteEasy on her. It might be network
DeleteStella nwunye Korkus ds genotype issue is really a serious matter. I think it deserves a stand alone post. I dnt knw why ppl wud b in a serious r\ship n years down d line der are likely signs they wud end up together yet they wud not check for genotype compatibility till wedding plans are in progress. Mschew! Dats arrant nonsense. Its not even expensive t check f genotype\blood group. Infact every one who has com of age shud hav such vital info @ d fingertips. Weneva am in a r\ship, I don't fail t ask d guy what his genotype and blood group is oooo just incase. Stella nwunye Korkus abeg use ur blog t educate ppl especially we ladies cos wen AS ends up wt AS in d name of "love conquers all" na d woman go suffer pass. Sickle cell is a no no f me. Why bring a child\children into d world t suffer? Wisdom is profitable to direct, @ POSTER 2: use ur tongue count ur teeth now for d Now but for d future except say na God giv u n leboo go ahed. Ciao
ReplyDeleteI dont ask about any genotype nor blood group. Thank God we are perfectly well and in good health.
DeletePoster 1....Pls stay away from ur mom....I repeat,stay away from her..she is not worthy to be called one..She has mental problem and isnt gonna stop till she kpeme.. Also becareful with ur sister..She will soon make up with ur mother and they will team up against u again..I have a sister like dat..No matter how we make up and resent our mom for trying to tear us apart,she will always make up with mom and thereby leaving me to my fate It has happened countless times.Though we both are living in our different husbands house,mom still managed to cause problem between us...Now i have learnt my lesson.I dont get too close to either of them so dat i will have peace of mind..
ReplyDeleteAs for ur marriage,it wont cause any problem..Just let ur guy know everything..Take him to see ur dad instead..Organise a lowkey marriage and court wedding...U dont even need ur mom's assistance cos she is not d one dat will give ur hand out in marriage.
Where do you people pack all these baggage from in the form of a family !! Nawa ooo
Delete*confused*****
ReplyDeletePoster one:if u want to remain at peace..keep your distance from your mum..or she will destroy this your soon to be marriage
Poster1 This your story be like Nigerian movie aswear.Your mum case is so beyond us.like you sure she's your real biological mum tho.
ReplyDeleteBe calm and let God intervene,continue to pray for God.It doesn't sound ordinary..
Poster2: You mean,you both dated for 8yrs without finding out what your genotype was..Its quite pathetic,cause you both just have to let go.Yesss! You wouldn't want to get married without raising up ur own biological kids,and also not going to bring up these innocent kids into the world,just for them to suffer..
For the sake of your unborn kids please don't go ahead with the wedding plans.Bear the pains now, wail all you can,if not, years to come,u'd wish you moved on.
Poster 1: Your mother needs serious deliverance because this is a spiritual battle. I still think you can still be in a talking terms with your mum and still keep her at arms length. Anyway just do whatever gives you peace.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: There is modern technology that tests the genotype of the foetus during pregnancy. If it's SS you induce abortion to terminate the pregnancy. If you are ready to go through the emotional trauma of several abortions, then go ahead with your marriage. On the other hand you can have faith, engage in continous fasting and fervent prayers because there is nothing greater than God.
I don't know why even with the rising statistics of sickle celled kids, some people allow "love" to becloud their sense of reasoning.
ReplyDeleteLove is not selfish. Why not think about the untold hardship these kids will face? I am AS and once we start getting serious, I ask for your genotype. I no dey for yam no done abeg.
P2
Wow wow wow...
Mothering is no profession really, it is a function, a wonderfully important and divine function and sadly, many women have not recognised this.
I'm trying to type something but I'm lost really.
Poster 1.
ReplyDeleteI have been watching Emmanuel TV ..and this past week I have seen the way demons operate.
Trust me when I say this- there are demons in your Monday . Evil spirits, spirit of hate ,spirit of anger, in fact they could be a legion .
You and I know this is not normal ...she is not herself . I advise this -if you can team up with others bundle her for deliverance .she is not in control of herself ..before you know it she would put a gap before you and ur fiancé .
Do not seize praying for her. Get closer to God . Diligently seek him . Pay your tithes regularly and challenge him. All the best
Love your comment Lola
DeleteOur reasoning are one and same on this matter
POSTER 1: its well wt u. I wish I kud get ur contact. I hav sth t share wt u. drop ur email if u please. Ciao.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm...poster 1,are you for real? It's difficult to fathom that a woman who carried a child in her womb for complete nine months would end up with such hate and distain towards the child.
ReplyDeleteAre you sure she is your biological mother? I doubt!... Sweetie,stay far away from her as possible.That doesn't mean you shouldn't carry out your role as a daughter to her..send her gifts,call her,ask her about her welfare and the most important of all,pray for her:her case could be spiritual..
Just keep praying for her,the Lord may touch her heart one of these days..
Poster 2,the Lord is your strength..
Don't let that worry you(doubts)Is it not a proverb that says,"is who knows you that hurts you"?
DeleteWe leave in a strange world my sister, if not for new age and the fact that we tend to ask, is it normal for a mother to be so cruel even to her own children, things like this won't be known or heard but I tell you, there have been "women" not Mothers who are like these since 1900 and they will still exist.Ours is to watch and pray and be sensitive to all that we do not only to our children or future offspring's but to humanity as a whole.
In short words, some mothers are structured like this and they don't even know it because they always think it is their right to be mothers and what ever they do is always RIGHT!
Wtf! Poster 1 the lord is ur strength I feel for u, pls stay calm n keep on praying n talk 2 God to touch ur mums heart. But ur mum is wicked let re disown u, she's coming bAck to beg u. Poster 2 so fe gbo leave dat guy alone if u don't want to suffer n b nusing a sickle cell child, pls live him asap God will give u anoder man.
ReplyDeleteTHELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeletePoster1---sowi to say this but your mum is a witch,she's an enemy of progress,she's a destroyer,her character is snake-like,for your own gud,stay clear her before she kills you one day!!..
Poster2---that lane is a NO GO area,count your losses and MOVE ON WITH SPEED!!..
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
THELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeletePoster1---sowi to say this but your mum is a witch,she's an enemy of progress,she's a destroyer,her character is snake-like,for your own gud,stay clear her before she kills you one day!!..
Poster2---that lane is a NO GO area,count your losses and MOVE ON WITH SPEED!!..
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
My dear I know a character like that. I use to pray for something else and something use to tell me snake snake mermaid. I was still a baby in Christ. This character also use to say I Can help it. She fit destroy another person name. I use to loik at her like .. And she will go your strong woman of God. I cut all soul ties with this initiator... God saved me. She did still spoil my name to rekindle friendship.. May the Holy Spirit destroy all soul ties IJN.
DeletePoster 1 this I your mum you pray for her. As for the above character the parents are aware and do not want to do anything about it.
P2, the solution your boyfriend is talking about is, when you are pregnant they will do test for you once the pregnancy is about 10 or 12weeks old, if your unborn baby is ss they will flush it away. Do you want to live that kind of life? How many will you flush? You will suffer it not your man.a friend is in this shit, now the love no come sweet again. Think!
ReplyDeleteIgnorant goats everywhere. How about cvs test for pregnant women to know the foetus genotype?? Ur fiancé is a big boy u said,so he can afford it . Come to London Abeg I will put u thru . U must register with the hospital before u take in o . The procedure is done at twelve weeks gbam. I did it and my boy is as . Don't dull o ,to have ss children is the beginning of the end .
ReplyDeleteMadam everybody knows about this test u are talking about. But what about the emotional drain involved, carry a child for the whole of first trimester only to have to flush it out. That is one serious ish I would never wanna be involved in, again what if it takes her a while to get pregnant and then finally does only to have to flush it out
DeletePoster 2, this is not the best option pls... If u r rich go for the IVF that selects genotype or forget the relationship
We all know that there are ways to avoid having children with sickle cell. The question is can the poster handle what's involved ? It takes an emotional toll of both spouses and can even make them resent each other. Can they afford the options they'll be given ? It's easier said than done. How many men are patient enough and willing to go through all of that because of love ? It all depends on patience, money and level of exposure. I won't advice anyone to go into it regardless .
DeletePoster 1... When your no 1 enemy is your own mother then the prayer you should do should pass mountain on fire type..hian! Your mother sef!
ReplyDeletePoster 2 ..Think of the future you want for your kids... choose not to be helpless that road is traumatic...Find closure with your fiance nd move on..not easy but you can try!!
Hi Stella, I think there's a way around it,i mean SS marrying SS but they won't have more than 2 children. Please let the doctors in house advise on this. Or better still do your research
ReplyDelete@poster 1 sorry to say buh ur Mum needs Jesus!!! Gosh pls forgive her but avoid her Stay away frm her plssssssss. @Poster 2 I hear there is a hosp in lagos where they can detect if d baby is SS or not dunno d name though jst ask Around, Buh it's risky sha to get married to ur fiancee Love is Nt enof oh wen SS pikin dey the regrets no be here!!! God help u
ReplyDeleteI have heard that there are procedures to select a child's genotype just like there are procedures to select the sex of a baby. If he is rich and can fly you abroad, I think these things can be fixed but then your pregnancies will be through ivf. No accidental belle o
ReplyDelete@P2. IT IS POSSIBLE. don't mind Stella. It is possible but really expensive. You will have to conceive using gene selection & IVF. Therefore, ur eggs and ir hubby's sperm will be taken and the sickle cell gene will be scanned for. Only those without the sickle cell gene will be implanted into u. Or something like that. My sister did it in the states. It's really expensive though. I think she paid $36k for that. And that's not including other prenatal and delivery costs. So u need to think properly and research well. Before u do anything, be sure y'all have put aside a savings for that purpose. Otherwise when u get married, he might start asking u to try on faith. Good luck!!
ReplyDeleteDelivery costs could run up to $10, 000 . Can she afford that and the cost of the IVF every time she wants a baby ?
DeleteP1- That was long men! when I got to the last paragraph I had to ask what the chronicle was all about? just negodu di long epistle.
ReplyDeleteP2- my dear you really don't want to come here after some years to write another chronicle. some have succeeded, some haven't in this journey. pray and think hard before you decide ok.
Hmmmmm poster one, nnem oyi akuko gi atugbue m oooo. I open mouth fear no let me close am,!!!!!!! Pls borrow legs and join to the one u have already, run for this woman u call mother!!!! Are u sure she's actually ur mother? Poster 2. Stella has said it all.
ReplyDeleteNa wa oo...Jesus fix dem.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Pls keep your mum @ arms length. If there is anything you need to do for her as a mum, please do it but avoid any close dealings with her. Be close to your siblings but be mindful of the things you discuss with them. Be strong and God will make your life a surprise to them all.
ReplyDeleteI wish you all the best.
Poster 2. Nne please if you desire happiness leave that relationship now.
You cant stand the stress that comes with sickle cell. Its not the end of the world.
Please,please i beg you in the name of God.
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteAm so sorry uve suffered this much in the hands of ur evil mother.Pls stay far away from her and don't you ever tell her about your marriage plans...not even ur sis cos she might end up telling her.
Keep your fiance far away from her bcos she might tell him terreble things about you so that he won't marry you.I wish you all the best.
Poster 2
I don't know what to tell u, bcos it seems you won't leave your fiance because he is loaded...take care.
Poster one: I think your mum needs psychiatric evaluation, there's something about you that unsettles her. If you think she is bipolar, try and confirm it medically (don't ask me how), maybe use someone she agrees with to get her to the doctor's.
ReplyDeleteI know she put you through a lot, but we as children are obligated to HONOUR our parents (honour here is different from obedience), please do the much you can to help her, let it be that you tried your best ok. In all apply wisdom, may God heal you of all the pains she caused you.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
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1. Pls disown ur mum abeg bcos sense she no get at all....
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2. Forget it....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
I am very sad today something terrible happened to me chai na me be this, world people are wicked o.
ReplyDeleteposter 1 God is your strength. Could it be she isn't your biological mother? Well take it easy, everything would turn out good.
Poster 2 A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
@,poster 2, how can u date a man for 8 solid yrs without knowing his genotype bcos am sure u know abt us which makes it important for u to know his in d beginning of d rship..
ReplyDeleteNa wah for uuuuu.
Respect ur self & take a walk to avoid stories DAT touches d heart..
Poster 1 avoid ur mum.
She's evil..
Make sure u give her pocket money & stay on ur lane always.
My mouth still open @poster1 some mothers are worst than a witch you guys should stay fa from her you yourself nobe course .
ReplyDelete@Pos2 is tooo risky ooh. but God is a miracle worker
My mouth still open @poster1 some mothers are worst than a witch you guys should stay fa from her you yourself nobe course .
ReplyDelete@Pos2 is tooo risky ooh. but God is a miracle worker
Poster 1,pls stay away from ur mum,be very diplomatic with her,she can participate in ur marriage preparation n stuff,but be wise,still be respectful tho.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,u dated for 8yrs,only to find out this,so sad,my elder sister had the same issue and both of them had to go their separate ways,d guy got married after 8months while my sister got married after 11months,its been 5yrs now.
There is nothing God cannot do if u trust Him. Am sure that wat ur guy want to do is DNA for d foetus when u eventually marry him n get pregnant, and if d foetus is SS,the doctor will abort d child,my sister was promised this but she made a good choice by opting out. Its ur choice,u can stay maybe because of the 8yrs u hv sacrificed or leave bcos of the risks involved.
Oh dear! Poster one I feel so sorry for you! Was heartbroken reading your story! I'm just imagining the hell, brokeness and emptiness you passed through these years. May God completely heal you and give you more peace; that which the world can't give Amen.
ReplyDeleteMine gave me serious mark on my wrist with pressing iron and a deep knife cut on my left eyebrow ...she tried to abort me lol I didnt die, my granny was the only guardian I knew yet this wicked mom still find time to come to our house to torture and remind me how I ruin her life , my childhood was a disaster ...
ReplyDeleteNow, 28 working great job, married,mother of two biracial kids ...
When I look back, I wonder!
Sadly my granny is now with the almighty she didnt get to see her great grand kids ...
Oh my so called mom died a year after my granny died ...its was a mix feelings dou ..but hey ! I guess it was great she (mom) died I dont have to feel the need to reconcile with someone who wasn't planning on changing ..
Okay Poster 1, pls I want you to put behind your past experiences with your mother. Forgive and let go. Datz stage 1. Stage 2: live your life, feel @ peace with yourself and do things that make you happy. Stage3: silence! Do not involve yourself with quarrels between your mum and and your siblings. When either parties complain, just preach peace in d CALMEST way you can. As for you getting married am sure your mum will be happy about that. Have all your wedding arrangements in place so you won't have to compromise or be washed down by her again. Finally when both of you have conflict of interest concerning any issue that involves your happiness, maintain your stand respectfully. Don't be harsh in your tone, try to control your facial expression when angry but say your mind in a firm way stating your reasons.
ReplyDeleteI wish you all the best dear. It is well.
Poster 2: both of you should have checked this genotype thing b4 now! C'mon we aren't in the dark ages! 8yrs??? Well the deed has been done. Marriage is a lifetime journey dear. Your guy probably doesn't want to lose you but I will advise a breakup. Don't look at the number of years. He loves you now; when the heat comes, you will be at the receiving end o babez! Will he be able to comfort and console you? Think deep. This issue coming up now might just be a blessing in disguise o! Break up and move on pls. I know it is hard. I know you don't want to leave, but there is something my Father says: you only know your mind, you can never figure out the mind of the other person. It is well with you.
Poster 1: Whatever makes u have peace of mind, pls give ur mum a little space, when ur inlaws are ready for intro or trad wedding, you can involve her.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: if you love him & you know it wld be hard to replace him, pls go ahead, My Parents are both AS, have 4 kids, the 1st is AS, d 2nd & 3rd (dats me) both AA while the last was AS until 2months ago when his Doctor said he changed to SS, he's 23years old so he's not @ risk, he's a very healthy & fine guy *winks*. Pls research & get a good Doctors advice & most importantly, do whatever will make u happy, marriage is a beautiful thing when you marry right.
Poster1
ReplyDeleteI'm glad upon all the trauma you never denied she's your mum.
My dear, I think you will do best to stop seeing her for now, if you have her account number send her money for upkeep. Dnt give cash, she may tear them out of anger.
Team up with your sister and pray for your mum, I don't think her case is bigger than God.
Poster 2
Are you aware that Love will and can fly out of the window when you start running to the hospital every second cos of crisis?
Well now you know.
Seek caution.
Hmmm Stella the adviser!!!! They do a test in LUTH on early pregnancy if it's free from SS or not..... If you have your money.
ReplyDeleteP1, your mum is a strong member of the *Dark Night Risen* maabasi emi. If you don't cut all communication with her and even your siblings that have access to her, by the time she finishes with you eeennn you would know that Nigeria is the giant of Africa. P2, leave love out of this please. Some things weren't meant to be, this is a perfect example. I had to go back and read the first narrative again, what? Your mum is a member of Isis. What can best describe this woman ooooo
ReplyDeletei am AS, bae is AC and we are getting married,, IVf is 4500 pounds,, chicken change IJN
ReplyDeleteI laugh when I read your comments. All will be well with you I pray for you because if you know what's up,my dear using 4500 pounds to select your baby would be the last on your mind.But like I have prayed for you, all will be well with you.
DeleteLemme tell u the truth poster 1 ur Mum is either a witch or she is possessed, at first I wanted to say maybe cos u're the first child she prob had u when she wasn't expecting u and u prob shattered her dreams or something hence the hatred towards you but this one she dey badmouth ur sister to her inlaws then it's prob nt that. It cld also be she's a witch and she's been trying to initiate u the 1st dota buh ur spirit too strong either way ur mum is either a witch or possessed.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, u dated for 8yrs without knowing the genotype just negodu. If u know what's good for u don't marry him cos the pain, stress and wahala u'll go thru as a mother to a sickler is nothing compared to what the child will go thru and that love that is blinding u and ur bf eyes so go run commot when the stress starts. Pls have mercy don't birth a sickler o and don't let any pastor convince you that prayers...
Poster 1....hmmm I think your mum has an issue she isn't tellin any1
ReplyDeletePoster 2...I don't think it's possible,i had same issue but am married to som1 else now.may God direct you
Poster 2 what I'm going to write wil sound really harsh. But if u ever get married to this guy, u have the option of checking the genotype of the foetus after some weeks and u can evacuate if the result is not pleasing. But uve got to have the heart for this, in this age when people are trying to conceive, only the bold one can walk down this selective abortion road. It has worked for some, it can work for u. We need an S'S free generation I beg u.
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Which kin name be this nau? Abeg no fumigated us for this house.
DeletePoster your mum is bipolar and it's a mental issue.... We shy awY from such issues in this country....she needs to see a psychiatrist ASAP so they start therapy and medication.... It's not only when someone goes naked or talk to themselves that they have mental issues.... Keep her afar for now but be praying for her
ReplyDeletePoster 2: There's this thing you can do, very early on, when you get pregnant, a few weeks....they can check the genotype of the child and if its SS, you can get rid of the pregnancy. It sounds really harsh, but you don't want to bring a child into this world to suffer, in fact, that's the solution people with your type of problem in the developed world go for. Also, you can do artificial insemination and they can check the genotype of the fertilised egg before implantation. I don't advice you to throw away relationship of 8 years away tbh, especially as you were with him when he had nothing...now someone else would reap the benefits of your patience. This is the 21st century, there are now ways around this problem. Just use the Internet to explore your options. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteStella love,what P1 wrote she's going through or went through is child's play compared to what I went through from my biological mother!. I m 33yrs Old now. My torments started from age 9 when a fake pastor told my mum I am a witch. I m also AS genotype with my child's dad and my baby is AA. I sent you my unbelievable story in Feb. This year but never posted. I thought for a while you edited my story into two posts.
ReplyDeleteWith your dad's child?didn't get that.
DeletePoster 1....You have really passed thru a lot. Every child deserves a good mother,, and mother's love too but this ur mum is far from being good and she has no love to give, not you alone but to everyone around her.
ReplyDeletePls my dear, stay away from her. You already know she hates you. Keep her at an arm's lenght before she will kill u out of hatred oooo. If u have anything to give her, give her from afar. Work on urself and be determined to make it in life,, if you become great today, the same person who disowned you will re-own you again. You have tried ur best by loving her against all odds, move on with ur life.
It is well.
Poster 2......you know the options you have and d consequences attached to any option u go with. Make a choice but be wise and reasonable enough to make a good choice.
Best wishes!!!
Stella cool down with that your advise. Lady if you want to marry him you can go ahead, it is better than before when you get pregnant they can verify the childs genotype and terminate it if the child is a carrier so since you said his a big and you both are willing to go on you can, so long as he can afford that. God bless you lady.
ReplyDeleteDear poster 1, it's sad that you have had to go through this. But you see the bible says God declares the end from the beginning. Your best days are yet to come.
ReplyDeleteA lot of us went through one form of difficulty I remember I had to ask my mum if the father I knew was my real dad. It was tough. I hated him. There was nothing good he saw in me, but you see at some point I made up my mind to forgive and that was the beginning for me. Am still not very close to him but at least it wasn't so bad after I took some steps.
1. You must ask the Lord to help you forgive her. Ask the Lord to remove the scars and effect it has on you.
The Bible says to honor our parents, it's the first commandment with a promise keep the line of communication open cos she is your mum. But most importantly keep your boundaries. Then you must pray for her. I sense something went wrong in her childhood that has affected her and she behaves the way she does. You may need to find out.
However, Proverbs 21:1 says The kings heart is in the hand of he the Lord, like the rivers of water; He turns it wherever He wishes. Ask that her behavior will be favorable to you.
Ps 46:9 says " He makes wars cease to the ends of the Earth... ask the Lord to end the wars and fighting amongst you.
I know the Lord will help you but you have to pray. The good part is you are the first its very significant cos you stand as a watch.
All the best to you.
P2: If you can afford the cost, PGD before IVF is the option. Aborting the pregnancy after some months is not a good option. With PGD, non SS embryos are implanted through IVF. Google is your friend. All the best.
ReplyDeleteHello poster 1. Your mother has confessed. If I were you go to a Christ believing church and intercede for your mother. Prayer fasting. She said she been wired that way. Which is true,manipulative,lying etc. You stand in the gap for the family. I believe that's why you tormented bc there is grace on you to set the family free. So the are attacking you to break you. The truth will all be revealed. In Africa most first borns have a strain relationship and also those God has anoint within the family as the head with their parents. See David they even forgot he existed. Curse that spirit at its very root. My dear its not that you have to drag her church for deliverance. God meets everyone wherever they are you stand in the gap focus on Jesus Christ and ask God for help. Healing of past present future. Avoid gossiping abt your family. Be still and know God is God. Midnight 3am curse that manipulative spirit at its very root IJN amen. You won't be disappointed. Come and tell us gist of testimony. Don't even confide in anyone this is what your doing. Fast and pray. Hear from God. She has confessed she crying for help. What if you mum was initiated, or generational spirit established bc she doesn't know how to rebuke. She is crying for help. God bless
ReplyDeletePoster 2 please pray and fast for direction. Good luck. Yes heard of selective embryo which includes aborting
ReplyDelete@money makes you .....Please, am female and l know that is so true. Women love money nor be small. Your comments are always on point. But, l am sure every BV here will be very happy if you change your blog ID. We know say na true and we agree so PLEASE change it. Thank you in advance.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, I am happy you got a good job. Please, your mom is not a Witch like some have put it. She is just being mean and wicked. You will be surprised to hear that, there are so many other women out there like your Mom. A friend of mine even experienced things worse than yours. My friend wrote a farewell letter to me and tried to kill herself but luckily l went to visit her same time and rushed her to a nearby clinic where they flushed her stomach. She is still alive. I told her a get a separate place for her Mom and not live with her anymore in the same house. She pays her Mom's rent yearly, sends her money monthly but all from a distance. As sad as this sounds, there are lots of Mothers out there who pit their kids against each other. My MIL, is like that. She knocks her children's heads one against the other. Apart from one, they are not on speaking terms with my Hubby. Me, l just de here de look.
Poster2, Please l know love Nwantiti de don you but you need to look for offsprings of such union and hear their story. I feel bad or you but the ultimate choice is yours.
Money makes, still thanking you in advance fir a change of blog ID.
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ReplyDeleteposter1 are u sure she is your real mother,becouse l dont see a reson why a mother like me who carried u 4 nine months and want through labour pains will allow her child to suffer like this,pls if possible stay away from her 4 sumtimes,till she understand your worth.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. As for me l will advice you quit the reltionship to avoid future regrets,l know iu will be painful,but is for your own good.
Love u stella
Poster 1 I think ur family need prayers especially ur mum At poster 2 u Ned consider d future of ur unborn babies becoz it will not b funny wen d both u get married with DAT and start making babies
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I don't really comment but I understand your plight. I'm a doctor and there's hope. Since your fiancé has money, you can go for IVF. Your fertility doctor will explain things better for you. If you don't live in America, try and get here and it's possible my dear. With IVF, the doctor can select embryos without the SS trait. Otherwise, whenever you are pregnant, I believe from 12wks or so, your doctor can run a test that will determine if the fetus has the SS or not and you may decide what to do then. I advice IVF so you won't have to go through the agony of terminating a pregnancy. If your man can afford it, it's doable my dear. I know it runs about 20 US dollars and more. Good luck!
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Everyone know the kind of mother he/she has. I'm sorry you had to go through that but please don't let her that close to your future husband and in laws before she goes to spoil thing for you but I'd say try and maintain a cordial relationship with her at least because she is your mother.
Poster 1.I wish I can gv u a hug.i knw wat u r going thru parental trauma is d worst.just handle it with wisdom nd pray for her she might be going thru a lot psychologically.u might not knw.show her love as much as u can.i wish u d best.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. My own mum was mean to us growing up and didn't miss an opportunity to rain curses on us her kids. She gives us advices which if you take you will find yourself in a fix. I don't know if its always deliberate but I'm sure of one particular advice she forced upon my sister knowing fully well the outcome would get her in a fix. She constantly causes fights to divide the family and make everyone fight. Early this year I decided I don't want to be part of the drama again. I dont call her or spend time with her. I feel at peace. Life is too short my dear, face your life and worry about only important stuff.
ReplyDeleteWho is the ode who says I am the poster? My only wish for you is that all you wish for me will be your portion a million folds.
ReplyDeleteBloglord, charming, viva Ciara and others who stood up for me, thanks a mil.
Who is the ode who says I am the poster? My only wish for you is that all you wish for me will be your portion a million folds.
ReplyDeleteBloglord, charming, viva Ciara and others who stood up for me, thanks a mil.
@poster 1, I felt really sorry for u. I support ur decision 100%. Wedding Wetin? U will have peace of mind.
ReplyDelete@poster 2, Stella is right. Forget all these stories people here are telling u. There is a family my doctor has seen that has 7SS children. Even if u will do testing or whatever u wanna call it, it's expensive. How many babies are u willing to abort? Just asking. That love u guys have now will not last cos all these will put a strain on you. Move on!!! U will find love again. success!!!
Poster 2, just to add to the solution to your problem there is now a cure for SS, it is done with Stem cells but very expensive. You can google more on this.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: You can do IVF genotype selection. It is available in Nordica Fertility centre. Go to d website and check.
ReplyDeletePoster one I had similar case like yours. My mum dealt with me, seized my month transport money that I had to trek everyday from rumuodumaya to rumuokoro where my secondary school was. If I am laughing and I see my mum I will frown. If my dad want to give me money she will collect it and say she will give to me and when she gives it to me, it won't be complete. I used to have to diary where I wrote down things she does to me but then in my 3rd year I had to move on. I tore the diary and I burnt it. I forgot about everything. I took it as training, I am now pursing my masters programme now.
ReplyDelete1- fear not for your mum will come back and beg for forgiveness, just be prayerful.
ReplyDelete2- na only God go fix am.