Women Only Read- : Spotting A "Financial Willy-Willy"

This is not a men-bashing article..It is the simple reality of today.It is a must read for the women,however if you are a man and you poke-nose in here,be nice!

''Hi Stella, wonderful blog visitors. .......
 I was kinda led to put up this little write-up inspired,by the heartbreaking narrative of Saturday. I totally loved some of the practical pieces of advice given in the comment section. Though that story has passed, it is the reality of many and would be the reality of much more hence, these yarnings.

The financial willy-willy encompasses the terms....Scrubs, Leaches, Stingoids, Gold-diggers, Sharp guys,Oka nma n'ezi's...it's endless really.

        Rise in awareness, education of the girl-child, improvement in gender rights etc have increased the number of empowered women. Women who threaten weak men in a still heavily patriachal society, brimming with determined misogynists. 

Also, the misplaced notion of what gender roles should be have, led to a rise of mentally prepared women who are near perfectionists and, men with the exception of "a sensible many" grappling with the reality of living and loving in a 21st century world with an archiac mindset.........thus, we see men who fall into the dangerous comfort of misogyny and cheap tricks to satisfy egos and false lifestyles.

No need further lecturing on the consequences or the dynamics of irresponsible fathers and enabling mothers......Re-occurring stories in the chronicle section of this blog has exposed how that evolves and eventually plays out.

         This is not a men-bashing article and, there is no particular pattern these breed of men follow....... however a few pointers enumerated here and hopefully others who have lived the experience would help.

RED FLAGS ARE RAISED WHEN:

1.A man subtly or comes out boldly trying to know your exact earnings, financial capacity of your parents and siblings, which family member is based abroad, how financially responsible your family is to you? Your future financial prospects in a way it will benefit whatever position he chooses to occupy in your life.......Nothing wrong with it really  but watch when it becomes a near-obsession or a routine inquisition.

2.Isolation: Abusers use this to gain control so why not a financial willy-willy........ This is employed especially when a lady is a major breadwinner in her family. The deal is to cut off everyone who can have access to her resources. It can come subtly as OVERLY FREQUENT helpful suggestions to cut off funding to her family by "saving and investing for future of both of you."

3.When he makes no effort to impress on dates, make available decent transport for you, frequently forgets his wallet, is very keen on splitting bills, very anxious about your expenses and general business transactions and frequently borrows from you.

4.When he is a big activist of joint accounts in words but one-sided deposits in said account in reality.

5.When he is a big fan of that bible verse that says"women submit to your husband" and never goes beyond. Also, when he jokingly or seriously talks about women who hands over their salaries to their hubbies or superwomen who pick all the bills at home.

6.When he encourages you to buy gifts,send monies to his family members without making at least double efforts for yours..........You are being primed for MAGAition.

7.When his words and actions are parallel...... that is, a man of big dreams and no action. A visionary man is not one stuck in his dreamland. Do not be that girl who serves food to a man and, punches figures day and night with, a man calculating goods in a container on a ship that would never dock.

8.When an under-achieving man always hails you with words like....... Olowo mama, Okpata-aku, Miss Independent, Oprah Winfrey.......even Feminist...yep, mostly tongue in cheek words prepping their future ATM.
Watch out for words like....''i sure say if i check your alert, my head go explode''. Or casual mentions of expensive acquisitions  and your supposed affordability of them with intent to estimate your financial prowess.

9.Watch out if his father is a Leach and his mum a classic enabler. Note if he has sisters who are breadwinners in their homes.........It will likely slip in his words if you are smart. The tendency to replicate such relationship is high.

10.When he compares you or makes statements about Exes who buy him things to ginger you to enter an unnecessary competition.

Hmmmmph.......i can't have covered everything at all. Hopefully more pointers will pop up and from others.

          As much as a lot of strong women are making giant strides globally and even in our society.........It sadly is largely still a Men's world....but thankfully, A tilt is happening. Women are becoming more aware of a greater calling for them and their existence.......The patriarchal society with it's unfair rules is increasingly being shown a middle finger.

There are many fishes in the river true.......but smarter fishes will not bite the hook.
Protect yourself!!!''
        
       HAVE A GREAT WEEK PEOPLE!!!!!!