I told someone that they way i am eh,if i was in Nigeria,i would probably have 20 house helps attending to different things in the house and then I began to hear stories that made me look somewhat like the shocked meme i used for this post.
Got any shocking story to share from house help tales?Or you got good stories to share about house helps who came in and impacted your home and kids positively...
Anyone snatched your man?lol
This is not a post to be voted on but if your story is very sweet,i might 'grease your palm'' *wink*
This should be interesting!
Side eyes at Nnuku sexy pants
ReplyDeleteSomeone said; Not how long, but how well one lives his life that matters.
Delete*I read this off a site and maybe it's a mere coincidence that I read it some days ago...so why not share
I have tried everything possible to keep calm for this long. But reading and hearing all the negative things ‘you’ have been saying concerning us, I cannot but to speak up. Although some of us are bad, some of us are evil, in fact some of us are more than ugly, but at the same time, little out of the remaining some of us also are not as bad as you have branded us.
Have you ever asked why we (house-helps) act the way we do? Why are wethis wicked? Why is it that we behave as if we don’t have human feelings? Why it is that it’s most of the time, the children of our masters that we perpetrate our evil act against? I am not saying that what we do or are doing are ideal or should be applauded as the say ‘whatever that is evil has no other name than that it is evil’, but that you should see our plight from their own view point also and not always yours.
How many of you would like your children to end up in the house of another person as a house-help? How many of you would have loved to stay with a relation as a house help? Why do some of you if not most of you people hate the idea of taken your children to your siblings to spend some months without always calling or checking up on them? If you are confident enough about how they will treat them why then don’t you leave them without always checking up on them on announced?
Sir and Ma, I will not dispute the fact that some of you are kind hearted and ends up in the hands of some evil house-helps but I’m very sorry to inform you also that most of you ‘beloved Masters’ are evil too.
DeleteLet call a spade a spade. I know that some of you may not like what I’m about to say but it’s the truth. We don’t like it when you abuse us in front of your children, in the market places or anywhere possible just to let everyone around you know that we are your house-help, why do you always wait for your children to finish eating before serving us and then whatever they left is added a little on top for us to take? How will you feel if these same things were done to your own children on those occasions where you come to check up on them? Why do you take us to a class, different from the one your children attend on Sunday? Why do you lock us up at home while your children go to school? Why do you enjoy destroying our skin with canes but if they were to be your children you get angry and follow them to school whenever they were being reprimanded? Are you saying that we are not human being like your children? If you treat us nicely as you have always lied to people out there that you do, will we be treating yours in an evil mode any time the opportunity comes? You have forgotten that it is a saying that “what goes around comes around”.
Times without number you rob your spouse of his sexual rights and he takes it out on us when you are not around and promised to take care of us which he does occasionally and yet you don’t notice. We, from time to time do all this things to you just to pay you back for all the evil that you had been and will still do to us. Even if we tell you that your husband rapes or sleeps with us, what will be the outcome if not to be sent packing?
DeleteIt pains me to bear in mind the fact that I have aborted several times for him and yet you have no idea. He destroys your reputation whenever he is enjoying himself between our thighs, and then you want us to respect you when you fail to perform you duties as a wife to your husband. I am very sorry to inform you that a lot have been going on behind your back and you are the reason for them all.
Your children sleep in the room while we sleep in the sitting room or most times in the corridors. How humane is that?
We deer not come to the sitting room to watch the television when you are around and even if we show you reverence by switching it off when we hear your car horn, you will still come and feel the back of the television to confirm if we had been using the TV or not. Madam, aren’t we believed to be treated like humans too? Let me not talk about how act when you mistakenly see me making use of your dinning table even when it is not in use.
Where on the face of this earth is it okay for you to molest a young girl or boy with: hot iron, pepper, heating our heads on the wall, and cutting our skin with all sorts of sharp object just because we are not your biological children? What you say we did to deserve such humiliation, some of your children does more and you do nothing.
If you do not know, the people you contacted to bring us to you as house helps promised both we and our parents that you would take care of us. Not just ‘care’ but good care of us but instead, what do you do to us? Are the ways you are treating us the way your Jesus or Mohammed would have loved you to have treated us? What will you say to them if they were to be at hand when you do all this to us? Wouldn’t it be permissible if we decide to treat your own children the same way? Would it not be justifiable if you come home one day and find your children inside your microwave, refrigerator, but to mention a few?
I bring this text to your knowledge not to justify our actions but to let you know also that you are the motive for most of the things that befall you or your family. Remember “Do unto others as ye would have them do unto you.” Matthew 7:12.
@ Beloved, your write-up said it all. I hope people that maltreat their house helps will learn from it.
DeleteThis is true. But why not leave instead of repaying evil?
DeleteWow. Long interesting articles allover the post and I'm late. Will read tomorrow at leisure hour jare.
DeleteOur Efik housekeeper who's a graduate been doing us well 8 years on but she was gotten through a very professional agency. Her salary is huge. Hmmm, real take home worked out in many forms, the money isn't the only holddown, the rules are professionally tight and she knows " I say little and do more". She know me. So we are respecting ourselves and besides, some people come in to do one or two chores like washing, ironing, cleaning, gardening, sweeping, basically outside the house. She does not do much but earns a whole lot. In the long run, all I want is a squeaky clean home because I'm a neat freak. The issue of "gbab bobos" in the estate who try to corner her when she steps out during the day in my absence is a long story, saving those for the right post. My cameras work anyway, they work perfectly fine.
Only problem for now is that she wants to get married, one Bobo for Honeywell Group wan kolobi her and I feel like crying. Well, till Xmas is over, I wish her well. E dey pain me small because I don't know how to start applying and screening the ones the agency will send again.
God take control.
What's the name of your agency please?
DeleteOoooooooooooooooh Stella! I was looking forward to reading interesting real stories but now that you've promised money......
ReplyDeleteFiction go come enter
Email let the gist flow please Na. We will know the fiction from reality.
DeleteI tire for Eka. Share your own fiction, you will not share. Allow others to share theirs in peace, mba. You must be a witch Eka.
DeletePoint of correction please.
DeleteWerewolf not witch.
She is a witch. Wicked teacher
DeleteHehehe. See them. Ati werewolf oh, ati witch oh, all join. Except of course, wicked teacher 😆
DeleteHa, this is my post. This house helps are something else.
ReplyDeleteThis year alone, I have had 6 helps. Yes, you heard right. 6 good helps. And I am just tired
1. First help came in January. Came with big Big pimples and a lot of black spots. She started working, was a little stubborn but nothing I couldn't tolerate. She worked well and related well with my kids. But she was so forgetful, always on the phone even when feeding the kids, and a lot of other bad behaviour she had.. I got her treatments for her face issues and after 4 months, everything totally cleared. Her face became smooth. She all of a sudden realised she was so pretty, started having boy friends. Ills end her on errands and she will branch his place. And errant that should take 25mins started taking 2hrs.
Always making me complain. Because you tell her don't do this and she does exactly that the next minute.
Oh, her agent said her salary was 18k and I had to pay into his own account. That was there agreement before he came from the village with her. But if she needed anything, she should calculate what she needs and remove from the 18k and then I send the remaining balance to him
But from January she came to my house to first week of June she left, I always paid the complete 18k to the account I was giving. Then she makes her hair the same place I make mine which is always over 5k for braiding with attachment. I buy her pads, clothes, shoes, recharge card and still dash her 2k for her to get whatever she needs that she can't tell me
And. Oh, I never serve them food. They always go to my pot, take whatever they want..
When I couldn't handle her excesses, I just told her to go first week of June. She did something that day and refused to apologise.
Well funny how her agent didn't call me back to know what happened
Then my God of justice came thru for me, last week, he contacted me, apologising. Saying he has taken the girl to 3 different houses since she left my house and they all return her. That she was currently home now for a month, if she could come back and work for me as she said I was the one that treated her best among others and I said no. She shouldn't. Even though I currently do not have any help.
Hmm. I remember you said around that period that your house help did something that is making you so angry that ur anger was hot enough to boil beans, we asked you to calm down tho.
DeleteHow about the other five fab mama
I don't understand; is it that you are too trusting that you allow them serve their food themselves??
DeleteI remember one househelp we had, Her agent had just brought her in and were discussed terms with my parents...
Mum was frying meat in the kitchen when they came and she asked the girl to help her check the meat... The girl happily went to the kitchen and was eating the meat😂😂
While they were still discussing, mum had the urge to go to the kitchen and she saw aunty munching meat she doesn't know anything about... Mum slapped her immediately and sent her and the agent out😂😂😂.
I always believe that as much as your appetite is.. You can never eat us out of food... plus where will I get the time to be scooping food for you now?
DeleteThe only day I do this is one fresh soup/stew days... Just like my Mom. Lol
Fab Mom, let me scroll down and continue reading your stories.😁😁😁😁
@greatlady,it wasn't even this one that was annoying me that time. It was the one burning my clothes
Delete@rocky,not like I'm too trusting, but I honestly can't dish food for them. Because I'll feel I'm not making them feel comfortable. So I tell them to take as much as they want. Plus I always cook plenty, I end up packing in the fridge or throwing away. Even after they dish their food, I still keep asking, are you sure this is okay. I even beg them to eat meat. Some will come and not take meat, when I notice I tell them to always take food with meat please
@iphiey,exacrly.im too lazy to be dishing food for someone. Especially as some of them dont even eat same time as me or the kids. I can't be neck dip into a movie and then you are suddenly hungry that time. I can't stand up o
Fab mum, you just described the one I brought in may, I had to let her go even though I really needed her just for the kids but I got someone better who I even treat like my sister and she appreciates it, I pray she comes back January. It's so painful that after doing so much they either waste your food, ruin your things or just do something ungrateful to you, and even though I spank my kids I can't spank them. Bad helps really exist
DeleteWhat’s your point. Even I used to steal meat from my mums pot. No biggy
DeleteMy mum adopted one grown up boy from orphanage... Hmmmm...that guy is nothing but a monster. God forbid.
ReplyDeleteDid he molest you? What makes him a monster?
Delete*hangs leg on the wall*
2. Second help came 3rd week of June, she came on a Saturday. We went to run test same day. Hep B, HIV, Pregnancy and one other thing. All test came out same day except for the Hep B. They said we came late and the person who was going to give us that result had gone home. Doesn't work Sunday so we had to come Monday. By Monday, we went, she had Hep B. And I already liked her. Because she seemed so calm.
ReplyDeleteOh, it made me go to the hospital for 3 months checking my kids to be sure they were safe. Seeing she fed them on Sunday and bathed them on Monday. I was that paranoid. I went to the hospital to run test on the kids even though I was told I shouldn't worry since they were still kids and I gave them the full dose.
Well she left my house that same Monday.
3. Third help came last week of June. When she came, I asked if she had worked in any house before and she said no, but she's willing to learn. One week later, she said she can't do house help Job. That shey I remembered she told me she hadn't worked any where before. That it's not the house work that is the problem, but she couldn't handle kids.
I said okay. I already noticed that. She didn't even like working. I was doing most of the work to avoid wahala
So she left first week of July as she came last week of june
About the Hep B, Is not even the kids that are at risk. Its the adults.
DeleteKids already completed their dose.
I heard of a lady that got this really good girl.. went for tests and she was HIV+, she didn't take her back home.
She kept her and registered her for counselling and drugs. The point here is that the girl is really good and might not have intentions of deliberately exposing them to the virus.
The lady works in an NGO and knows a lot of these things.
Hmm, honestly, even that my girl didn't know. She cried eh. She was like how and is it, I told her it was like hiv but even more dangerous as contacting it is easier than hiv. If it was something I could treat, I would have treated that girl. I even took her to 2 other places same day just to be sure they were correct and not making a mistake. I really liked her. She seemed really good
DeleteThe 2 and 3rd help, their salary was 20k according to the agent. I never bargain price. Her salary was supposed to be 20k also
ReplyDelete4. Fourth help came 2nd week of July. She came on a Tuesday. Did all test and it was fine. I clean wendnesdays and Saturdays. Sweeping and other chores is daily. So that Wednesday, I showed her how I clean. My house is tiled. So I dip mop on the bucket without squeezing the water , wash tile, dip again, squeeze this time to clean, then dip again, squeeze and dry. I practically cleaned the whole house that day showing her. She said she understood. She only cleaned the kitchen and corridors. On Saturday, she went back to her style of cleaning which was really bad. I told her but I thought you how to clean already na. The next thing she started speaking calabar, I didn't sha hear her so I just told her to clean how I thought her. When she was done cleaning. She came and met me and said oh, she doesn't think she can clean my type of cleaning. That it's too stressful for her. So she wants to go. Hian. Just 4 days?? I then asked her what's in the cleaning that it's hard. Telling her how she watched me clean the whole house on Wednesday. I just said okay, she should wait let me call her agent. He came around for and was quarreling her saying how she always leaves any where he gives her work over flimsy excuse. I was like oh, if she's like that, let her go. So that I don't come back one day and she had ran away leaving my children alone. That's how she left with him
The annoying part is the monies spent on Tests🙆🏽♂️🙆🏽♂️🙆🏽♂️🙆🏽♂️
DeleteLMAO@She can’t clean your type of cleaning...🤣😂😂😂😂😂
I'm telling you. Test charges don't come cheap.
DeleteThe excuse shocked me my sister
This is exactly how I clean... Wash and dry twice. I don't know what's so hard in that
Delete5. 5th help came in August. This one came with her Mary a mama skirt, like she didn't know anything. With her very old hair tucked in a berret. After all test, it came out clean. I told her she needed to loose her hair abeg, and make another. I gave money for that. I got her deodorant as she came with heavy smell. I get others deodorant too but this one smell was just too much. After 3 days, the smell left. She was good with chores and. Kids but really slow. Like so slow
ReplyDeleteShe can do 2 chores from. 10am till 12am no joke. And I hate going to bed before helps. I will complain and complain. I hate it when they don't sleep immediately the kids sleep. But this one 11pm,shes till working. If you ask what she's doing, then it's a chore that should have ended like 5hrs ago. I kept telling her she was too slow for my liking. The reason my son left for school early was because I dress him up myself. If she did, I'm sure he will leave by 12pm no jokes.
Them she started showing her true self. Oh, she was igbo. I'm never getting another igbo help. When she saw that oh, madam was nice, calm and I treated her as my sister, because sometimes, if she didn't want to braid, I'll make. Her hair myself. She decided to start showing her true character. From her Mary amaka gowns and skirt to wearing bumshort which I never complained about.
Then she started throwing small tantrums. Hian. I'll complain to my friend and she will say ah ah, is it not that girl I saw that act like she knows nothing. When you are quarreling her, she started rolling her eyes and hissing. Hian
Madam, you can't do that in my house. Immediately I cut down on all good tidings. No hair money. No dashing money I always do. Strictly her salary jare.
I don't talk. I don't shout. I don't even quarrel. So when someone starts making me do this things, I don't find it funny. She starts burning my clothes when I give her to iron. I stopped giving her, but she still went to take the other day and ironed and burned it. Hian. But I told you not to iron my clothes again.
I'll finish cooking and everyone will eat and shr will wait for me to go and wash the plates. One time I was quarreling her about not doing the dishes, after I had cooked, madam almost wanted to fight.
I just told her to leave.
After she left, 3 week later, she called me, begging me she will change. She wants to come back. She's not like that. She didn't know what happened to her. I didn't let her ojare.
She left in October
Lol. Enjoyed all. I vote for you😅
DeleteWow you are really accommodating and have tried so much for all of the previous helps...
Delete🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂
DeleteThe reason I am reading this calmly is that im almost like you.. My Mom and Mom inlaw says they take advantage of me.
And honestly, no matter how many times I experience the not so good ones.. It will never stop me from taking care of their every need.
I know a friend that has paper and pen where she writes down expenses and deducts from her lady’s salary and that lady stayed for 2 good years... Very slow but good with kids and so truthful.
Haha, great lady, I'm just seeing it came with voting. Juan. I thought Sundays were free.
DeleteIsaac, you don't want to know believe me
Iphiey, my friend will say, I hope this next time you are not over doing yourself and I'll say no, I won't. But I still do. I can't help but be nice and do them well.
Ah, you are so lucky. I wish I could get same. My friend said if I start shouting and quarreling very well, they will last longer. Is it true??
DeleteDon’t mind your friend.
DeleteDon’t change for anybody.. Your goodness comes straight from the heart.
Oneday, God will bless you with a good lady.
I'm enjoying you tale. Let me stroll down to read the last and current help
DeleteMy story is similar to yours. I've had 4. I eventually brought back my old maids cos I got tired.
DeleteStella, I vote for this lady. Interesting and heart wrenching stories
DeleteMy househelp has spent 5 years with me and she's getting married on the 30th of this month and leaving.
ReplyDeleteShe takes care of my 2 girls like her own, my first daughter was 2 when she started.
We fight o and sometimes I have to repeat the same things all over again.
We started off at 15k and now 30k with plenty benefits. She's God sent.
my girls and I will miss her so much.
I just got another one 2 weeks ago to work with her before she leaves and my girls haven't warmed up to her. I pray she's at least half the person the old one is.
Aww
DeleteYeah, they are a few good househelps
DeleteMy aunt in Enugu has one of such. NK has been with them for as long as I can remember. NK went to secondary school, all thanks to my aunt but my aunt didn't put her through university - she really doesn't owe her that.
My cousins grew up seeing NK as a big sister... NK is just great
That's good God will bless you not to be changing them like pant
DeleteYou are so lucky. God bless her.
Delete6. 6th help came ending of that same October. This one came on Monday. Test was fine. Very fine kogi girl. But my mind didn't just accept her. I kept feeling like she wasn't ordinary. And her moves where just funny. One minute she's here, another minute, she's not there. I had to ask her one time how she passed me as I didn't see her
ReplyDeleteBy Tuesday, we went to morning church together. After which a prayer warrior who wasn't a pastor told me I should take her to the pastor so she could pray for her. And till then, I should be anointing my kids. In my mind I was like hian. Is that why I have been feeling uncomfortable with her
When she came, she came with nothing. No soap, cream, pad, nothing. So I gave 5k to go buy all she needed. Wasn't part of her salary.
By Wednesday, I told her we were going for evening midweek service and after which we will see the pastor together. She said okay. No problem
So I sent her to the market. When she came back, she said her daddy was sick. I. Asked how did you know seeing she doesn't have a phone. She said she saw someone that knows her and her village and he told her. I laughed in my mind. I called the agent, she spoke with her, she said she had to leave, that her dad is sick. I said okay. You will leave tomorrow
We sha went to church that day. After which I saw the pastor and he confirmed what I had in my mind. And the next day she left. So she spent 2 days in my house.
Oh, I forgot she told the agent later that her dad is sick, if she could come back to my house and now work for me. Seeing that I was good to her. When the agent asked me, I said please o. Let her not come. How did they dad get well after one day.
DeleteLol
DeleteI remember this one from your earlier rants a couple of months ago...lol
You have seen something sha...e kpele ma
Maybe the universe is trying to tell you something, six in a year is just too unfortunate
Delete🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteCan’t you get someone through referrals?
These agents sometimes work with the girls.
They collect agent fee from you.. let the girl go for 2days.. get her back and use her to collect agent fee from some other person.
6 helps in one year is suspicious ooh.
The funny thing is how they always want to come back
DeleteWhat you need is a nanny or someone that comes and goes. No sleepover @fab mum
Delete@Fab Mum, maybe you should try bringing in somebody within your family. It could be a distant relative's child. I really must say, you have a heart of gold to have been able to put up with all those dramas.
DeleteWhat seem like a horror movie about house helps became reality two weeks ago....this is a true life story...
ReplyDeleteOur landlady got murdered 1 week, 5days ago by her male house help. The help was brought in on Saturday and he killed her on Monday night by 8:30pm......
Details in full...
The landlord and landlady are elderly couple living together, a year ago, the man had stroke and became a vegetable...he couldn't do anything nor function properly,so they got help to assist the man et al, this landland and landlady kept sacking and hiring new helps every month (all males) for reasons best known to them....
The landlord and tenants had no relationship whatsoever, they were so formal with their tenants...so everyone minds his or her business...
Fastfowarded to that faithful night, the male house help, the landlord and the landlady were watching TV in the living room, the house help stood up, went into the kitchen and brought out knife!!!!......whilst this was going on, their generator was on,so no one suspected anything.....the help threw the landlord in the floor and ordered the landlady upstairs, he followed her and tied up her legs and hands and gagged her with a petrol socked clothes.....the help ransacked their house, stole monies and other valuable and quietly disappeared...
On Tuesday morning, the daughter of the landlord who usually come check up in them every morning came and met the door open, she called on the tenants to come o, they followed her and met the landlord gasping and pointing upwards, they ran up the stairs and met the dead body of the landlady tied up...... I was traumatized to say the least...
She was buried that same Tuesday evening according to Muslim rites....
That was how the house help killed the landlady...
The landlord was able to give account of all that transpired to his children when they came....
This landlady was always security conscious but she never knew who will kill her had just been employed by her.....
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DeleteFabu
DeleteFateful not faithful, you went to school na
DeleteThelma,you are a LIAR!!!
DeleteThis story happened on my street on the island!,why don't you just write copied instead of trying to own the story!!
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DeleteThis is terrifying!!!!
Lady bug. Good to see u
DeleteLady bug... How dare you call me a liar!!, Must you comment under my comment? Why not state your own correct version of the story since you claimed to know the couple I'm talking about...... nonsense!!
DeleteLol one waz giving my boy breast to suck..another was an errand gurl to their village shrine... i hv seen some tin. I no get strength type details abeg. This present one is doing well for 9months now. God has answered my prayers coz i prayed prayed prayed
ReplyDeleteJesus....breast kwa??
DeleteBreast kwa? Village shrine kwa??
DeleteCome and finish this story!!!
I hope you tied that breast with wire. Imagine?
DeleteI don't see my house girl as a maid, I treat her like my sister, she attend school, eat what I eat and share a room with my children. Once in a while when she misbehave I reprimand her and we move on.
ReplyDeleteShe has been living with me for 4years and travels to see her people every other year.
I believe your house help should be treated with love to get the best result from them although there are some help from hell that no matter how good you treat them ,will still misbehave.
Just
I think it's best to always keep it professional... Maybe NK and your househelp are one of the few good ones but you still have to be very careful.
DeleteMost of the girls (13-18), once they have a boyfriend, they'll start misbehaving
We have the same story, mine's been with me for 5years now and she's just like my baby sister. She goes to school with my children and they share the same room. She came to my house when she was 12 and she's a big girl now. She's more of a family member now. She has travelled three times since she came and the other two times she didn't go was because things were a bit rough and we didn't have money for her transport fare. I explained things to her and she understood; her travelling usually costs about 50k cos after paying for transport, we have to buy stuff for her mum and also give her some cash to give her mum. Did I mention that I don't pay her a salary? She's Godsent.
DeleteAbeg make we hear word. Will she cook a seperate food to waste your gas??? She is probably sharing same room cos there is no extra room abi how is sharing room with your kids a good way of treating your maid?
DeleteThe ones that go to school know they need to finish school.. It kind of ties them down.. They have friends in school and if you treat them right they stay.
DeleteBut I don’t take girls of school age.
That is my principle.
That's not true my dear. I treated one just like my sister and she shared a room with my kids. But guess what? She was molesting my daughter! Details down.
DeleteBitter leaf Anon 16:54, I live in a 3 bedroom apartment and I have an empty room. If she was being treated badly, she wouldn't travel and still come back to my house. Bitter soul,may God grant your bitter soul succour.
DeleteExactly Iphiey. The ones that go to school stay calm and don't misbehave. Because they know they have to calm down and finish school. But the ones you pay,misbehave because they know when they leave, they will get another job in less than a week.
DeleteBenny, why can’t your kids sleep in their own room though?
DeleteNo cousin or distant relative should sleep in the same room with your kids except you will do vigil there.
If you have a spare room..Let them be on their own.. Sleeping in the same room is not a sign of how good you are to someone.
At a particular age, some of these people are sexually curious.. They really want to experiment and what other time is perfect than at night, in the dark.
I have learnt to be extremely careful.
Afang leaf Benny Amadi, abeg I was replying saltish okay. And by the way, why would you have a spare room and want your help to sleep in the same room with your kids? Are you not afraid of molestation? Children means more than 1 child so even if you have 2 why would you want 3 people sleeping in 1 room with an empty room in the house? How big is your 'football field' room that 3 beds fit in or is she sleeping on the floor?
DeleteAbeg I insist, giving a house help her room if there is a spare room shows more care than sharing room with your kids.
If she is a teenager, does she know she should ask your son(s) to excuse her when she wants to dress? What if they refuse.
Abeg I insist with the kind of happenings in today's world, it's better to protect your children while showing care to the help.
And just in case you insist on being stubborn and think your approach is the best, install a 'nest' camera in that room. Thank me later.
Iphie you dey mind the Aunty, you have a spare room and you choke up everyone in one room without even caring for your own kids.
DeleteShe's probably sleeping on the floor there or is she also sharing bed with your children? Nothing wrong with it but safety for your children first
Why can't she sleep in the free room?
DeleteGbam @Iphie. Mine, a 14 year old girl, wanted to start experimenting with my daughter's genitals.
DeleteBut then, the theory of their being in school tying them down is not true. Mine was out of school b4 I took her and got her enrolled into JSS1. I would coach her, go through her notes and help with homework often but it still didn't work.
See ehn, it's just an individual thing.
I don't understand most of them. No matter how nice you are, they will still leave like their village people are chasing them. My mother had one, she said she wanted to learn hair dressing, mumsy got her somewhere to learn. One week before she was supposed to do her freedom she ran away beacuse mumsy found out that she was carrying my kid sister to her boyfriend's place and scolded her for it.
ReplyDeleteWhat this lady didn't know was that mumsy already bought dryers, rollers, washers e.t.c and was going to open a saloon for her the next week. Mumsy dashed the stuffs out.
I was little then but that was the last time my mother bothered with any maid.
When my sister gave birth one girl was brought for her she put her in school, takes her everywhere, my sister's husband sells chicken so they was always chicken in the freezer, this girl takes indomie and chiken to school, she serves herself, e.t.c.
People were now coming to report to my sister that the girl was threating kids in school. Long story short the girl was in a secret cult (8 year old). That the only reason they didn't hurt my sister's baby was beacuse my sister was very nice to her.
But what makes me go crazy are people who treat their maids like trash, it makes me mad as hell.. I can never be like that by God's Grace. I don't even want a maid ever beacuse I hate seeing people treat someone's kid like trash. It's not right, If you read this and have a maid you treat like trash, please stop for one minute and think, what if this is my kid, will I be happy if someone treats them like this.
An 8 years old is a child...
DeleteOh, how did I forget the last help. Not 6 helps but 7
ReplyDelete7. 7th help came second week of October. First question I asked her was are you sure you re 18yrs old.?? She said yes. Because her face looked like she was 14. That one didn't even know how to do house work. She will wash plates, when you touch it, there is oil. Hubby will say are you sure she's 18??ill go and ask her again and she will say yes. She washes inside of pot but doesn't wash outside of it. Inside of pot will be clean and the back very dirty. Me ill carry it and wash. When it's cleaning time we do it together. Only time I left her, cleaning was a disaster. Hubby came back that night and recleaned.you tell her she's not doing things well, she will start crying. Ha, serious cry o. I'll leave the quarreling and start petting her. Serious petting. Even singing those cry cry baby song for her. Lmao.
There was no day I didn't call her to tell me her real age. But she kept insisting she was 18. But her attitude didn't show that. She always leaves the house to go buy things like biscuit, sweet, gum and all other rubbish. And when she's going, she won't tell me. 3 times I was looking for her like a mad woman. Because I went to her room to pick up something, saw my kids sleeping but she wasn't there. I called her name, no answer. I opened all the doors in the house, no answer. Hian. I went outside, started asking all the gate men outside if they saw her, went to the other side of the crescent, didn't see her. She didn't have a phone. How do I want to explain this. After about 30mins of searching, see her coming from no where saying she went to look for where to fix her slippers. And I. Was like, why didn't you tell me?? She started crying. I have not even. Quarrelled o. Me that was already angry started petting her. She did it again, left to go buy biscuits without telling me. I looked for her again. There will be food and she won't eat. I'll be the one begging her, go and eat. It's time to eat. Go and take food. Wake up and eat. Hian. You send her to buy something and she won't come back with complete change. You give her 1k to buy something of 550 and she will bring back 250 change. Wherr is the balance, she will say they didn't give her. Oya, go and collect it. She will start crying. I'll say okay, next time you go towards that side collect the change for me so that there will be peace.
One Sunday, she came and said she wants to go. That she has never done house girl work. It's her mom that said shhe should go and work so they can feed. But she's tired of all the complain. That no one complains about her at home. I asked her if I have ever quarreled her, she said no. Have I maltreatment you, she said no. So you reason for going is complain, she said yes. Have I ever complained when you did something right, she said no. After talking to her, she wanted to have a change of heart and stay and I said no. Just go. Because when someone tells me they want to go, that means they thought of it before saying it. Don't let my conversation change your mind.
She said no, she doesn't want to go again. I said no, she has to go. Because I wouldn't want to come home one day, and find my kids home without her in it
Oh did I forget my baby has iron burn In his hands all because of her. I told her never to iron when my kids are in her room. Let her send them to the parlor. But she went ahead and ironed. She didn't use ironing board. Only to leave hot iron, went to the kitchen to bring something and by the time she's back, my baby fell beside it and the iron that she kept in a standing position fell on his hands
Well, she left. After one month which was in November. 3rd week I think
And I have been doing it alone for now. January we will continue again
Most house helps behave the way you treated them.
DeleteREad and learn from others that had a good experience.
You will not tell us the details of how you treated them no matter all the essays you typed.
Madam, if I was bad to any help, 3 out of 7 of them won't be begging to come back. For a help to want to come back to your house despite the fact that they could easily get jobs any where means I'm good
DeleteSo go chew on that
😂😂😂😂😂😂. Fab mum come and employ me ooo. I won't give you trouble
DeleteAnonymous forget it... I'm not speaking for only fab mum (I mean, I don't know her personally) but I can relate with most of what she said... She hasn't said anything extraordinary with how she treated them, maybe she doesn't just have that luck with househelps
DeleteYou are margret thacher, with the way you are going you will have 500, dear tolerance is the key without it no way, you see people with their househelp 5,7,10. you think their helps are the best no it is TOLERANCE go figure
DeleteFab mum, you need one now? I think i can help with a very good girl
DeleteOh, how did I forget. This one will watch movies till 3am. Because there is a TV, dvd in their room and it's also connected to dstv. She will watch till 3am.even when you switch off dstv from the sitting room, she will switch to dvd. When you now wake her by 6:30am,ehen everyone in my house wakes up, she starts crying. Serious cry o. How she has not slept well. How she's still tired. Hian. It's another round of petting.
DeleteGreat lady 😁😁😁. I think why they do that to me is because I don't have that madam look. I'm 5:6. So I'm not short nor very tall. I'm average. You can't call me short but you can say I'm a little tall. And I have a very young face. Like when you see me, you will think I'm younger than my age. Plus I'm slim. And I have a very small, babyish voice. So they just say in their mind this one can't do anything. That's what I feel
And I think this agent also use them like Iphiey stated above.
Yorubachick, I do need o. But that will be first week of January not now as the year has ended. And you know Xmas and Xmas trips na
Anon,Fab Mom employs adults... Most of them at a certain age can’t be corrected.
DeleteSome have even started having sex, aware of their charms and become uneasy when a ‘small’ madam is giving them orders.
When you hear that someone stayed with people for 5-10 years.. They usually come at a tender and not everyone takes under age girls.
Since Fab Mom is the type that pays.. Sometimes they are not loyal cos they are financially independent.. Plus nothing is tying them to your house anyways.. No school, no school friends.
From the stories she posted here, I have not seen anything she is doing abnormally ooh.
These adults, you don’t even beat them sef.
Fab mum I can relate had 4 last year, the last 1 eventually stayed, although she's acting up now. 1st one had massive hips she could barely even bend down to sweep, if I tell her to clean somwhere she will say maybe tomorrow, she had Terrible or BO gave her a perfume she never used. She was arrogant and lazy. Let her go, even she was relieved to stop. She felt I was too young to probably scold her. 2nd person. Hmm came with all her church members to check the house, 3 different people and we always needed an interpreter cos of language barrier. The 3rd was perfect but fell ill. Her daughter is currently working for me, i prefer them to come and go home. It works for me
DeleteMadam, sorry oh, I know it is tough. I really do but can you just manage your home by yourself? You seem to be a full-time housewife any way. Can you just try and manage. God bless
DeleteMy friend will say, with all this experience, shouldn't you stay off help. And I'm like naaah, I can't do without them. This past weeks has been the toughest for me. Anyone that knows me will tell you that. My own life basically stops when I have no help.
ReplyDeleteI know one can't get a perfect help. But can I get the one that I won't just quarrel too much. I hate quarreling. Like shouting and all that. One time, another friend heard me quarrel on the phone, I. Was quarreling my staff and she was laughing. She said is this how to quarrel. That it looks like I was just having a convo.
I can't quarrel. So when a help starts getting me to quarrel too much, then it's time for her to go.
You were on phone with your friend and quarrelling with you help at the same time hmmmm
DeleteSo true. But from your write up it seems you are like me. I'm a neat freak, but I had to cut down because these helps don't understand why they should do some things a certain way.
DeleteHahahahahahaaa FAB MUM ooo sweet househelp memes u wanted a fast house help na kogi fine geh was very fast Lol u made me remember one movie desperate househelps
ReplyDeleteWe had house girls all my life as a child. My mum was always traveling and my dad was a very busy man (now he's more present at home- as per retirement)
ReplyDeleteAnyway our first house girl was yoruba. That one was very nice to us and used to tell my siblings and i stories. But she hated school. My parents tried to enrol her in the school we attended but after my mum drops off, she would run away. Eventually she was enrolled in a saloon, she didn't still stay. She ran off with one man and eventually they got married. My mum says she calls once in a while but...
The second one we had was from edo state. She was ok.. i really can't remember much about this one. She stayed with us for 2 years. One Christmas we traveled home for holiday. My mum let her stay with her family for xmas. When it was time to leave her parents told us that she had gone with somebody to italy and they would give us another person but my mum refused so we left
In 1999 my mum gave birth to my brother, she needed help so someone got a girl for her. Shes from delta and had one weird name which my siblings and i used to make fun of so my mum named her grace.
Grace was trouble from onset! She steals and lies alot. Usually when she steals small things like meat or pomo she'll beg me to tell my mum that i took them. I usually lied for her until the day my mum told her to buy cane for me that i was getting used to stealing. Our dear aunty grace went to buy the thinnest cane and even soaked it in water before giving my mum. My mum now told me to pull all my clothes that she was going to beat taking things without permission from my body. I had to quickly confess that i had never taken anything o.. it had been grace all the while. Grace started denying and wven swearing. I cried that day. My mum still beat me o, for covering up for aunty grace.
Aunty grace used to masturbate alot. I caught her one time in her room fingering herself so i quietly went to call my mum to come and see that aunty grace has injured herself. Lol... i was about 8 years old then. My mum came in and saw grace touching herself. Grace said she was scratching. Lol... she received beating that day
When my mum traveled for over a year, grace became the hoe of the estate. Everybody was sleeping with her. One time my dads barber told my dad that he's a good man and cant let my dads name be tarnished so he told my dad everything. You know how guys go to the barbing saloon and talk about girls they sleep with. My dad was so angry. He came home and told me everything. I was 13 years old then and i knew what sex was. As at 13 i was in ss1 and we were already taught sex education... also my dad and i are pretty close. My father called her and she denied everything till he carried belt (my dads beating is worse than being hit by a trailer ) then she confessed that she has been sleeping with another houseboy in the next compound, a driver that used to supply one woman in the estate drinks, our electrician, one jobless guy in the street, our gateman and another guy in the next street. My dad was short of words. He told me to call my mum and tell her everything. Aunty grace knelt down and started begging me. She begged and begged so i let it go and didn't call my mum. I begged my dad too so she continued staying with us and my mum never heard of it.
That was not all o.. my mum traveled again for like 6 months one time when she started receiving calls from women in our estate. Mama ruth and mama seyi are the number 1 amebo in the area. Jobless housewives. They called my mum and told her that grace is pregnant. My mum called my dad to ask him if its true. My dad had no idea too cuz he's barely home. So he called me. I was 16 and i couldn't tell if she was pregnant or not. My dad came home that night and called grace and i.then he asked her if she was pregnant. Grace started crying and swearing that she wasn't. My mum came back that weekend and one look at her she could tell that grace was pregnant. So they went to do a test and grace was 5 months gone.
😂😂😂😂
DeleteYour parents were really busy!!
DeleteWhat was the aftermath for Grace?? Did she give birth to the baby in your house?
Thank God she wasn't practicing her mastubating skills on you little ones.
DeleteNawaooh
This one, we have always had witch craft girls . But let me just talk about the last house help .
ReplyDeleteThe girl said she is from the north so she does not understand or speak English . The very day she came I was instructed to use sign language since I don't speak Hausa. So I can guide her on her job. That night I slept and had a dream . I saw her in my dream and we communicated in English. I ask her why she lied about not being able to speak English . She said because she is in this house for a mission. I wake up very shock . Looked at her . Went to meet my mom and told her exactly what I saw in my dream . She said seriously the girl does not understand English language . I said ok o. I want to the room and told her to go wash plates, sweep and mop the house without using signs. She went straight to do them without talking. She was perfect with that. I was like how did she understood what I said. Day two, As I was sleeping, i was disturb by a noise, when I open my eyes. Behold , she was sleeping on the bed next to me and was snoring. Not only snoring, she was moving her legs like she is running on the bed in a contant motion. I had to wake her up. I ask her why her leg was moving. She no answer as per someone who does not understand what I am saying. When she went back to sleep. Deep inside the sleep she started snoring again and moving her leg. Kai I could not sleep. Day 3,I didnot go to work cuz it was Saturday. So after the entire gra gra I was tired and decided to take a nap. This girl went and turn on the gas bottle. One bunnet was on fire and the other was just on but no fire. While I was enjoying my nap, a strong voice ask me to wake up n check the girl. We were home alone. So I sluggishly open the door to my room,the entire house was smelling gas. I ran to the kitchen I saw what she did. I turn the gas bottle off and called her . She was outside. I ask her why she went to the kitchen? She was speaking haussa. So out of anger I said , if you are here to set this house on fire,God will arrest you,evil child. She started crying. This is someone who does not understand English. How she understood that and it hurt her is beyond me . So when mom return from her outing, she told mom she doesn't want to stay again. So after explaining to mom what happen I took her back to the lady who brought her. The lady ask me what happen, after explaining everything. The lady ask her in English why she is behaving that way. The girl did as if she is not understanding. So I told the lady she doesn't understand English. The lady gave her a dirty slap and ask her again why she is misbehaving. That is she aware her dad collected money on her behalf to work. How does she intend to pay back. She started crying and said in English that she want to work for that lady not my mom, that our house is too hot for her. And that she is willing to work for the lady. The lady gave her the bearing of her life. Took all the cloth we gave her during her stay in our house. Left her with just the shirt and rappa she came with. Then took her to the bus stop. Put her in a bus going to kaduna. Later the lady that brought her further explain that the girl said the picture of our pastor which was in the sitting room is making the house hot for her. If you leave in Abuja,you must have heard about Fire house church. The pastor's name is Bishop Emmanuel Esezerbor.
LIar ... u attend olumba olumba
DeleteIn the first place, why did you bring in someone you can't communicate effectively with to work for you??
DeleteBTW, I know the Ezesebors in Lagos... Very very educated family - you know that situation where both parents are professors in their respective fields...
This is super storyyyyyy, I'm sure you're from my AKS. You program your mi d to see what you saw. Abegi
DeleteYour gbagaun na die!
DeleteYour English is poor.
DeleteLet me be anonymous for this.
ReplyDeleteI hate how my mum treats people. Like I don't understand why someone should do things like that. We have had more than 5 maids and they all left beacuse of her character.
Things that we her kids do and she overlooks she will deal mercilessly with the maid if she does the same thing. Not only maids, even when people come to visit, and they are less privileged or depend on her, the way she treats them makes me want to scream at her to stop it. That is just being evil, it makes me look at her differently and resents her for this.
God bless u for not supporting evil
DeleteGalore is this you? Sounds like you though
DeleteMy got a 15 year old girl from kaduna.we all speak hausa at home , so we were able to relate with her.After a month my gold jewelry went missing, myself and my sister searched the room we did not find it.Told my mum she said we should ask the maid, we felt my mom was been dramatic thinking the girl took the gold.After few days my mom asked her and her respond was she never saw any jewellery . Mom sent her on errand and we went to check her belongings saw it in her jeans skirt pocket.we decided to be calm in our approach in questioning her , she denied it.mom just told her never to take anything. The following morning we noticed she did not come out of her room by 7am so I went to check her, she had gone with her bag.how she jumped the high fence with bar wires is still a mystery till date.the gate was still under key and lock.we had no gateman then, just four of us in the house. The phone I gave her to use, we called her number switched off, called the brother that brought her , he had no information were she was.A month after my mom went out for an event, close to the place there was a brothel and she saw this girl with an okada man taking her inside the hotel and holding her waist. A town we thought she was new to.Her brother later said she went to stay with her friends.
ReplyDeleteHehehe.Fab mum you have really suffered ooooo
ReplyDeleteWhat seem like a horror movie about house helps became reality two weeks ago....this is a true life story...
ReplyDeleteOur landlady got murdered 1 week, 5days ago by her male house help. The help was brought in on Saturday and he killed her on Monday night by 8:30pm......
Details in full...
The landlord and landlady are elderly couple living together, a year ago, the man had stroke and became a vegetable...he couldn't do anything nor function properly,so they got help to assist the man et al, this landland and landlady kept sacking and hiring new helps every month (all males) for reasons best known to them....
The landlord and tenants had no relationship whatsoever, they were so formal with their tenants...so everyone minds his or her business...
Fastfowarded to that faithful night, the male house help, the landlord and the landlady were watching TV in the living room, the house help stood up, went into the kitchen and brought out knife!!!!......whilst this was going on, their generator was on,so no one suspected anything.....the help threw the landlord in the floor and ordered the landlady upstairs, he followed her and tied up her legs and hands and gagged her with a petrol socked clothes.....the help ransacked their house, stole monies and other valuable and quietly disappeared...
On Tuesday morning, the daughter of the landlord who usually come check up in them every morning came and met the door open, she called on the tenants to come o, they followed her and met the landlord gasping and pointing upwards, they ran up the stairs and met the dead body of the landlady tied up...... I was traumatized to say the least...
She was buried that same Tuesday evening according to Muslim rites....
That was how the house help killed the landlady...
The landlord was able to give account of all that transpired to his children when they came....
This landlady was always security conscious but she never knew who will kill her had just been employed by her.....
Thelma ONIRO!!!
DeleteThis is not your story,this happened on my street on the island,I know this elderly couple,and it didn't we quite happened the way you formulated it😎
Your head nor correct at all.... Since you know how it happened,why not walk through the gate of the said house and come show yourself to me......
DeleteWe never had a househelp.. We are enough to take care of every affairs in the house( Four girls).
ReplyDeleteBut I have a coursemate in school who was working for a family as house assitant(Let me call her that). She told me that she started living with them when she was little(She is somehow related to the husband of her madam, same household). They trained her right from secondary school to University level. She attended one of the best secondary school in PH. The couple are working class, so they don't have much time for their kids and are both stinkingly rich. The had to employ another house help when she gained admission to baby sit the children. U need to see both of them, they look like Aje butter children. The madam is a born again christian and my friend said the only problem they about her is that she doesn't like people wearing trousers or heavy makeup and listening to worldly music. The day she invited me to her son's graduation party. My friend was the one that sat with her in the front seat of her car with the last born while the rest children sat behind with me and the other girl. You need to see the way she relates with them like her younger sister, seeking for their opinions in some matters and the way they relate freely with her. I respected so much for that and pray that to be like her someday..
Most Women do not understand that the way you treat your househelp is the way they treat your kids..
Such a nice woman. I enjoyed reading this.
DeleteContinuation of my gist.
ReplyDeleteLol... this is the interesting part.my mum came home with grace and a soldier man. Then she chased us to our rooms but as an amebo child.. i hid behind the curtains. They asked her who was responsible she mentioned an igbo guys name. My mum told her to call him over but she shouldn't mention why shes calling. Meanwhile she confessed that they usually met in my house and they slept in my younger sisters room so my mum told the soldier man to go wait in the room. So she called the guy and told him nobody is around that shes missing him. In less than 10 minutes we saw a guy walking towards our house. If the guy flew, i don't know because he lived far from us. Ok.. we were watching through our window when the guy went through the back door of our house and entered my sisters room. The soldier held him by the trouser.. lol.. he was surprised and started begging. They led him to the living room and he saw all of us there waiting for him (by this time i had forgotten i was hiding and already sat down. My mum was too worked up to notice )
Anyway my mum told him congrats o that he now has a wife and an unborn child. My mum now asked grace if she was ready to marry him, grace said yes. The guy knelt down and was crying that he wasn't responsible for the pregnancy and he doesn't want to marry grace. He started telling us that they've been doing it in my house every month for 5years!!! Then he mentioned other guys that grace had been sleeping with. Grace couldn't deny it but she insisted that he's the one responsible for her pregnancy. My mum was weak.
My mom locked the boy and her up till the boy called his family. They bluntly refused grace and said they'll take the baby. My mum asked them who would take care of the pregnant girl. Before we knew it they said the guy ran away... it was not a funny thing o.
Grace started begging my mum later than she would like to go back to her village that my mum has tried for her and all that crap. My mum sha gave her money and baby things so she can go back.
After a while grace father called us o and told us that grace lost the baby and can grace come back... lmaooo
My mum said come back to finish what she started or what? They begged and begged but i refused o... yes, i refused. My mum forgave her and almost accepted her back but i said no. I agreed to start taking responsibility as the first child and start doing chores. I could cook a little then and i was willing to learn. I didn't like aunty grace at all.. she was very mean to my siblings and i especially when my mum travels and i used to fight her alot. I am already tired of typing if not if i start telling stories of what she did to us i wouldn't end the gist today.
Sorry for all the typos, na gist i dey tell no be essay, correct me in your head. Lol
Wooow, your parents should have sent her back when they noticed her bad behaviours. They allowed her overstayed. She was even masturbating and sleeping with a guy' in your sisters room?
DeleteWow... Just wow
DeleteGrace was even bringing them into your home!!
DeleteMogbe!🙆🏽♂️
I have two in my house right now.one is from Benue,she is really trying and one is from Kaduna feeling sharper.the one from Venue is reaping the fruit of her labour .
ReplyDeleteAh! My pple are loyal oh. That's if u find the good ones. The idomas and igedes. If you bring a Tiv girl into your home, pray she has the fear of God....
DeleteWow! Fab Mum, you have real experience ooo. My one and only house help was a boy. He came through MIL and had to be taught so many things.
ReplyDeleteHe lied about his age,said he was 11 but he was 16; said he was in primary 4 but never went to any school. We enrolled him in primary school, took him shopping and many other things.
He dishes his own food then, he started lying...stealing and started using our name to collect money fraudulently from neighbours and the neighborhood.
Eventually, I had to let him go and persuaded my hubby to allow him go home because his mother taught we were punishing him.
I gave him cloth materials, beads and gele for his mum and hubby money to start something meaningful with his life.
His mom called 2 weeks later to beg us to take him back but hubby refused. He also called to ask for money and my hubby asked him what he did with the large amount of money he gave him.
Last I heard, he impregnated 2 girls in their hometown. Since then, I've refused to take house help and all their headaches.
Ah, you mean he didn't stay.? I always feel those ones you bring to train I'm school stay longer because they behave to achieve their aim
DeleteLet me talk about the help I had 2 yrs ago,I liked her so much and treated her like mine.people thought she was my hubby's sister.i bought Jamb for her and told her I will assist if she makes it,she chosed a school in the east and I told her to choose a collage of edu close by so that she can be going from the house, she refused and said collage of edu is for local people,then I asked her when she goes to the university afar does she have any one to pay her bills she said no, and still insisted,then at that point she changed and started talking back at me and I sent her home.And today she is still nor in school yet
ReplyDeleteWhy will she go to college of edu. will you children attend college of edu. treat other the way you want to be treated
Delete😂😂😂😂 good for her
DeleteMay Amadioha fuck you bloody loud moutu Annoy 15:45!
DeleteCarrot oil" tried for offering to train her in a college of Education .
How many people ve you sponsored in salon training??? Please just keep quiet
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Her house help is nt her child so she should never expect to share the same privilege with her Kids.
If its easy, her parents should train her in HAVARD!
NONESENSE.
NWUNYE KORKS,please approve my comment.
Anonymous. Lucile apparently got the girl to help out at home.
DeleteSo how will she help her in faraway East?
She offered to sponsor her education in a nearby Col of Edu where she can be going from home and still doing her chores.
How is that bad?
Nothing Lucille did was bad. Some of you just want to find fault
DeleteAnon 15:54. Are u d house help? How wont she go to coll of edu?
DeleteShe was brought in to help with house chores. So her madam is doing her a favor by sending her to coll of edu.
Sometimes, some people's reasoning na wah.
DeleteSome one graciously offers you eba when hungry and you refuse, that it must be rice, when you don't have hope of getting that else where. Is that not stupidity?
Shebi she don see University now?
She doesn't owe her anything apart from her salary and meals. Anything extra is out of the goodness of her heart. She should be appreciative and not choosing. When she goes far who does the work? Some people are just not smart.
DeleteThere is this elderly man I know. Wifey and kids stay in the abroad. He has had this househelp for the past three years. Sometime last year, she told him she was relocating to the village to get married. The man seeing how valuable the lady was rented a two room and parlour apartment for her in the cheaper part of town. She travelled to the village, got married and came back with her husband. The husband does menial jobs. The lady comes to work in the main house in the morning and go back in the evening.
ReplyDeleteShe got pregnant along the line and when the pregnancy became advanced, her employer asked her to bring any trusted person from the village to help her out. That was how aunty went and brought her bosom friend from the village. Aunty travelled to the village to give birth in July, came back after 3months and the friend has taken over her husband. The friend is even pregnant!!! Now serious war is going on in that house, their employer has given them till december ending to sort themselves if not he is going to sack them and evict them from the house. This story is ongoing. I will bring the concluding part as soon as anything happens.
The only house help I had masturbates every night. I stay in a two bedroom apartment, a room for my hubby and I and the other for the children. But when she came I was still breastfeeding so we all sleep in the same room.
ReplyDeleteI am the type of person that do not really sleep deep coupled with the fact that I have to nurse two kids.
She will sleep faced up and start doing that nonsense and she will be Fast asleep, at first I did not know, until I confirmed well.
She spent just one month and said her mother was sick, that was how she left without coming back.
Ever since then, I have been managing myself with my chores. I target when we have light for the cloths, it has not been easy but what will I do?
She masturbated right there in your kids room? You should have sent her away immediate you discovered. Some of these kids are being corrupted by helps. Imagine if you had grown kids watching her doing that. They will pick not up. Some kids become gay and lesbians because of house helps. This is why I will never employ house help. If I have more kids and I need additional hand, I will get someone that come and be cleaning and then go that same day.
DeleteShe masturbated right there in your kids room? You should have sent her away immediate you discovered. Some of these kids are being corrupted by helps. Imagine if you had grown kids watching her doing that. They will pick not up. Some kids become gay and lesbians because of house helps. This is why I will never employ house help. If I have more kids and I need additional hand, I will get someone that come and be cleaning and then go that same day.
DeleteMy own gist o.i had one help i so loved,she was very pretty with open teeth,whateva she wore fit her n she knew how to care for the kids.she stayed with me for 5years,we had lived together so long that when i give her eye signals,she understands.
ReplyDeleteOne night i couldnt sleep,final trimester stufg.i went to check on my kids n found one of my huby's boys in my kids room,i asked him what he wanted in kids room,he said cold water even when they had a fridge in thier room.i got close to my girl,hmmm she was naked waist down.I grabbed d boy,he mentioned others o.All 4 boys in my house were sleeping with her,i took her fr test n she had nothing,hubby said if she leaves all boys will leave too,to avoid partiality.we fogave her,she finally left bc she started dating a local scruffy nebor.i had no choice but to send her away.The day she left i cried so hard,i was preggy n i missed her so much.she is d best ive ever had but i knew she wud corrupt my kids,i had to let her go.six months after she left my house,she got preggy.i had told her that after she goes she should come bk fr any monetary assistance,if need be,bc of d pregnancy she never came back.i heard frm her siblings
For real? They f+cked her right there in your kids room? They ve corrupted your poor kids already cos I'm sure some times they will pretend to be sleeping and be watching blue film live. This is why I will never employ house help. If I have more kids and I need additional hand, I will get someone that will come and be cleaning and then go that same day.
DeleteHmmmm...hope oga no dey lick her stew too
DeleteHahahaha lucky she no carry belly.
DeleteHa. Wow
DeleteThe help I had last year came in April and left December. I cried eh, that girl was good but I understood why she was leaving. She already learnt how to sew, came to learn help work so she could settled her madam that thought her to to start up. So from April to December, she had more then enough. I even dashed her extra 20k to grow her business
I loved that girl. She still calls me every month to greet me. Every blessed month she calls. When she left, I cried like someone died. Serious cry.we didn't have any single issue. She just knew me. Sometimes, she does things even before I think it.
No maid will ever sleep with my kids. I no want such stories
DeleteHahahahahahaaa FAB MUM ooo sweet househelp memes u wanted a fast house help na kogi fine geh was very fast Lol u made me remember one movie desperate househelps
ReplyDeleteLemme start from the maid that came to stay with us. My mum had a very big business, plenty money, as soon as brought in this maid, 2 months later my mum had stroke from nowhere, business started going down, money cum dey lost, cut story short, my mum became really poor, den one mfm pastor came home and told my mum that the girl is a witch and she took my mother's wealth to her coven, after much prayer she confess that 2 other witches on our street told her to steal my mum's wealth. We chased her away and never had another maid till I got married. My wife got a maid from jos, she said she is 16 ooo and we took her in to take care of our son and the house,we asked her if she ever worked anywhere, she said no but dis girl sabi use explorer, she can record movies and when she starts changing stations, you will be amazed. I told my wife dat dis girl is not a novice oo, my wife being a working class felt I was joking, till this jos girl started making passes at me, if I come home, she will be d first to ask me how my day went and if I had eaten, I go just shock say wetin dis one sabi, den constant quarrel in my house, I and my wife would keep malice for week, na dis maid go dey gimme food. Den God opened the eyes of my wife, d maid knew I slept in d living room Bcos of malice so one night, she came out of her room naked and was surprised to see my wife with me in the living room. My wife was shocked, she asked her why she was naked, maid lied that she doesn't know what happened to her, my wife when no get chill, d next day, she put her on d next available bus to Jos with her salary, tfare and extra money. My wife told her she can do all the work in d house now. Now we don't need any maid, iyawo says it's better for her to be alone dan lose her husband to Jos maid. Sorry for my typos, I dey watch liverpool match
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DeleteExplorer maid. 😂😂😂
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DeleteMy mom got a help sometime last year, she has already planned that the girl will go to a private secondary school so as to make her waec sharp sharp, she paid the school fees, 35k. Only for the girl to start complaining that she wants the public school, she has her friends there, finally she accepted the private school. The next thing we know, fiam, woke up one morning and said she wants to get her birth certificate, the dad called that he will get it for her, she insisted. Mom gave her transport.
ReplyDeleteIn the evening, mom came back to find her bag was not there, called the agent, agent said the girl was complaining that she is not free in our house. Free ke, that was how the 35k school fees went, to think that I contributed to the money, onyeoma cy.
Yes, I hear another thing that pursues them is the lack of freedom.
DeleteMy friend says they even prefer going to a stall to make their hair than home service.
If only they know the vices you are averting for them.
Fab Mum or whatever, I raise Beyonce hands for you, you can sha tolerate. Good help will come next year, no worry.
ReplyDeleteWhen the time comes and I get a help, I will give her days off o, let her go n oil her engines except she's a virgin. These girls get horny too, they are adults, if u cage them toomuch, they will use any available man in the house to cure konji.
ReplyDeletePeace!
Mine went for her off on friday.. came back two weeks later looking disheveled like someone that was sleeping in the forest.
DeleteSaid she was ill and couldn't reach us.
So you don't have what to use your money for than to be doing HIV test every 3 months abi will you also buy condom for her???
DeleteMy maid get 1 or 2 days off a week, they way she updates her Watsapp status on those days ehn😁
Delete#The best daily routine is to review your day & then plan the next day for about 10 minutes, a few hours before you go to sleep*
ReplyDeleteStella what will you be doing with 20 helps? I don't believe in live in helps,I'll find a way to juggle biko
ReplyDeleteI was like you. Till I had kids and almost fainted.
DeleteMy older sister used to have a helper then. She was eight abi ten. Her mother had her out of wedlock and due to very tough financial state, had to send her to my mom. Well seeing that my sister needed someone to be with her kids, not doing house chores ooo (the girl was just a kid na), but keeping the kids company, staying with them while she dashed to the market or keeping an eye on them while she cooked in the kitchen (you know that kind of stuff).
ReplyDeleteAnyways, it happened that the so called 'innocent young girl' was fingering my nephew who was just three years. She would fondle the penis and watch it rise n then would start all over as soon as it deflates (things she later confessed to when interrogated). How was she caught???
It happened in the sitting room. You know how kids will always mimic things even when they don't understand it? Everyone was in the sitting room, then my nephew went to where this girl laid down and was trying to lift her gown up!!...she was brushing his hands away while furtively looking at my sister's direction. This drama caught my sister's attention and when she questioned her, she broke down in tears and confessed. It was then my sister understood why my nephews fingers would sometimes be smelling yash yash. Where did the little girl learn that?
She herself had been abused in the 'face me I slap you' house where she was born. So you see, the circle continues. She was sent back of course, but my mom made sure she educated the girl's mom on her to protect her child from sexual predators.
Imagine that she wasn't caught on time!!!
I don't know how that and other sob stories made me renege on sending her back (big mistake!!!). I thought returning her meant sending her back to her abuser. So I forgave her.
ReplyDeleteFive days later, this girl absconded early in the morning while we were away and gave us the burden of finding her. She lied to the father that we had accused her of something she didn't know about. We finally located her, and her father who claimed he didn't know her whereabouts orchestrated it. Good riddance!
Just as I was smarting from that, I asked them our question today. Surprisingly, my 4-year-old told me now that her classmate (Bessy) put her hand in her pantyhose to touch her peepee and she bit her arm. This was during their siesta. She told me the teachers flogged her.
I'll see how I can talk to the Bessy's mum cos it's evident someone has been molesting her.
My 6-year-old also added just now that the beastly Janet asked her "Is it sweet?" when she molested her in her sleep. The nerve!!!
Please once your children get to 3 years, teach them to:
- bite (hard) anyone who puts his/her hand into their pants/briefs
- shout loudly
- run away
- report to mum or dad.
I usually practise these steps with my first two kids.
Then, remember that kids are kids, the quiet ones may not tell you of any act of molestation unless you ask them like I experienced.
So you should ask them routinely "Did anyone touch your peepee (or whatever you call it)?"
I am now vigilant more than ever.
Where is the beginning of this story?
DeleteI ve Stories to Share but I am tired.
ReplyDeleteI have 1 now she's generally a good girl,at least she was, her mum had worked for me until She fell ill,God bless her soul she later died. She was a Godsent, elderly sickly elderly looking woman but thoroughly apt and hardworking. I was preggy and desperate for a help. Her daughter took over when she fell ill, started off like her mom,spot on, until recently she got an android phone and realised social media, every minute she is on her phone chatting away, she pauses her chores and now ignores my baby to reply her messages,sent her last week to get baby bips at the balcony she went and stayed there continued her chats, was so angry. She will hold my baby awkwardly n be smiling sheepishly at her phones. I have warned her that if my baby sustains an injury cos of her phone she will be sorry ! It seems to have fallen on deaf ears, dont know what to do yet. I treat her like my younger sis, she's great with my baby N she likes her alot, I gist with her, give her money and stuff my mum said I overdo it reason she will take me for granted, I should be more firm. But its not me I want her to be happy and comfortable , i know she has been through a lot. but this Her recent lackadaisical attitude to work is unbecoming.
ReplyDeleteGreatlady who asked you to vote? Besides even if we are to vote why vote for fabmum? She is a big woman and doesn't need the prize money. Vote for someone that needs the money.
ReplyDeleteGreatlady who asked you to vote? Besides even if we are to vote why vote for fabmum? She is a big woman and doesn't need the prize money.
ReplyDeleteFab mum u have really tried with these ur house helps. May God give u a good one next year.
ReplyDeleteAs for me, I don't need help. I do my chores myself. Even when I was doing my biz, I plan myself in a way that house chores are done at my convenience.
Me and hose helps are two parrarell lines.
The first help i had wanted me to pay her 30k but the agent wanted 20k from the money. I just told them bye after 3days and gave her 5k for transport!
ReplyDeleteThe second was not living with us,she goes to work with me,chill in the call room with my baby and i drop her off after work. I used to give excuses why i couldn't do call coz i didn't have accommodation but finally the hospital gave me one. My first call,hubby was working late so i asked her if she could sleep over in the hospital accommodation,she agreed. I even agreed to pay extra . That's how i got hungry and strolled to my room to eat,sat on my bed and was about putting my first spoon of cereal in my mouth. I just heard a deep angry cough,i was shocked and confused. This nanny kept coughing. Prior to this,in the car she coughs but i assumed it was regular cough,we even bought her oranges ,honey and medication still this cough no go!so back to my story,as she was coughing,my head went 360 to all i learnt in med school. I woke her up and asked her how long has she been coughing,she said it's for a while that she has pneumonia. I told her i don't believe her ,i called hubby to start coming to the hospital to hold our baby coz something is wrong. As early as 7am we got dressed, i called my radiology friend that she needs to do an emergency chest x-ray on the nanny,am suspecting TB!
X-ray was done and she her lungs didn't look good. That's how this girl started screaming that her madam is forcing TB on her , that people should come and hear. Hubby was angry that i should let her go,i said no i LL get to the bottom of this case. I took her for sputum test and it was positive for TB! I cried my eyes out because of my baby. This girl na started begging that she is sorry that her cousin that passed had TB/HIV and they lived together and she took care of her till she passed. I asked the nanny,i have never treated you like a stranger, i feed you breakfast ,lunch everyday and dinner if you wish. I give you clothes,we pick you up n drop you off so what wrong have i done to you???
Mind you ,i ran all the test and missed TB. My daughter n i had to go for test just to be sure we were not infected,even here my daughter has done d test twice coz it's a requirement for school enrollment and she is negative!
Last month, i had a blood test,2 x-ray and 24hrs sputum test to be sure i was cleared.
Last week i went for ultrasound to be sure my baby was fine ,since it's not advisable to do x-ray in pregnancy. Baby is fine!
The 3rd i had ,test showed hepB,i told her it's not a death sentence but i just dealt with TB scare and still running test i can't join another. She was 16 but sexually active!! Told her to go to d hospital in village!
The 4th was God sent, she was proper village girl,used rag as pad i nearly fainted wen i found out. I got her new undies and showed her how to use pad, she was small so i gave her some clothes i was gonna give out,but bought footwear coz she was a tiny feet n came with a torn flip-flop. Somedays hubby n i remember her n we are like that was a very good help. Infact i treated her like my younger sister! Even her mom thanked me so much when we were leaving!
I thought you live abroad?
DeleteJeez! You guyz are scaring me with all these stories. Na wa o
ReplyDeletethe best is to have someone come in the morning and leave in the evening.
ReplyDeletethere is this lady in my area, she had one daughter of about six months. we use to greet each other anytime I am passing by her shop, so for some time I stopped seeing the baby in her shop and I will just greet her go my way. so one day as I was passing by after our usual greetings, something just told me to ask about the baby. behold my people.. she just said to me she's no more.i practically froze and turned back to ask her what happened and she said their house help was poisoning the baby little by little until the baby died, and that it was after the death of the baby that her eyes became clear and started confessing that she was sent to kill the baby. if u see this baby very chubby and beautiful that I always admire her when passing by
ReplyDeleteSince its house-help stories,I won't share my ordeal with my niece that was brought from the village,its almost 5years of correcting round the clock,several deliverance section to get her out of village meeting(lol)I don't want to letgo because her mom lived with my mom and ran away to get married at a tender age,will be the same circle if she goes back,her kids would bother my kids too because we are family!
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