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Wednesday, April 14, 2021

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

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Marriages Plans Squashed Due To Primary Ovarian Insufficiency



I met a nice guy in my church, guy was on my case the first time I started attending the church, at the point, I just came out of a relationship because it wasn't defined. I was skeptical to enter into this one, firstly, because of his educational level and secondly, because we attend the same church. 


I had to tell him it wasn't going to work, I used my non-existent relationship as an excuse, but the Bobo no gree, he used care to break down all the walls I was putting up.

I eventually accepted him and because of how transparent he was in the relationship, I had to tell him about my past as well. I've been married before when I was very young, immediately after my service year, the marriage lasted for 3 years, it was a very horrible experience for me, that's a story for another day, my parents had to practically drag me out of it. I had no kids, so the break up was easier.


He had absolutely no problem with it, he showed me so much care and I let down my guard, I never received any care in the three years I was married, didn't even know relationship could be that sweet.
He already told me he wanted marriage, because of my past experience I delayed because I met my ex in church as well, but I later agreed for us to go for our introduction last year February, the Traditional marriage (TM) was scheduled for August, after the introduction, we started preparations in earnest for TM.


While preparing for the TM, I decided to go for body check up, partly because of my impending nuptials and partly because I've been feeling strange for over a year now, he was in the know as well, been having hot flushes and irregular menstruation, I was told by gynaes that they were stress related, infact I was misdiagnosed up until three months to my TM when I was asked to do hormone profile test.


I did the test and the result had my world crashing around me. I was diagnosed with POI primary ovarian insufficiency. According to the gynae, my chances of conceiving naturally were very slim, IVF was my best bet. My FSH and LH were high.


I debated within me to tell him about this, but was encouraged by my pastor to do so, he advised me to tell after which both of us should come for counseling. I eventually told him and he went gaga, he accused him of being in the know since we started dating but decided to tell him now, because I feel he will have no option but to proceed. I was flabbergasted because I didn't know with the level of trust we shared he could think this of me, had to show him the test result, he changed his narrative again that I must have noticed some of the signs that I was too careless. 


Same week he called me that we were still going to proceed with the TM as planned, by weekend he called me again that pastor said we should hold on, that IVFs are very expensive, that we should source for alternative treatment or we should try having a baby before proceeding with the wedding. I knew he suggested the later because he knew I wasn't going to agree to it, we had a no sex till marriage policy in the relationship.


He stopped all communications with me and practically acted like the three year relationship never happened, it was a trying time for me and it took me a while to get to the point where I could write this.

I have made some research regarding the POI, there are no cures though, the available ones are very expensive, while I hope to God for a miracle I'm open to any suggestions as to how I can manage the symptoms, my periods are becoming increasingly irregular, I've been placed on contraceptives, I have done acupuncture as well, but I haven't been getting much relief.

 My family has been very supportive as well, but I'm still worried, this has made me very scared of entering into another relationship. I'm not getting any younger as well, I'm already in my mid thirties, even though I don't look it. When I told him I was married before, he never believed me until he confirmed from my family.


Note: During my first marriage, after the first year when I wasn't getting pregnant, I did this same test and it came out fine, infact we were told we had no issues, that it was only a matter of time before the babies start coming. It's still a mystery to me how it came about, but I know I will overcome at the end.




*WOW, so sorry about your condition and what a pity that he left you because of this... He didnt really love you cos when a person really loves you, they never leave no matter what.
if you do not have money for IVF or do not find someone, you can always adopt.

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  1. Im deeply sorry for what u went through but count urself lucky...imagine what he would have put you through if u had discovered this after wedding...
    Like Stella said if IVF fails try adoption...

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    1. Lesson of the day: always keep your health status to yourself...see what your pastors advice caused

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    2. Anon16:31, it would have been wicked of her to keep quiet after she knew. How would you feel if you got married and found out your husband was impotent or had low sperm count and he knew but didn't tell you?

      The way some of you reason sha! As if the marriage would still remain if he got to know after marriage.

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    3. 16:31, you are mean. For how long she for keep am? After marriage? And you think the guy won’t find out eventually? Nonsense.

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    4. Yeah. If it's not life threatening the the less you tell a man,the better in my opinion. Let them be free to open up to you but don't let that make u think he won't walk away at the slightest inconvenience yes! Even if he has professed undying love for you. Most men are not built to stomach bitter truths and nurture their partners through trying times like women are. So when in doubt, shut ur mouth

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    5. The increasing cases of POI and PCOS is alarming, I even found out one can develop such even after children and the symptoms can be terrible...I don't know if it's in the food we eat or what.

      People react in different ways but I am happy he showed you who he truly was, imagine not knowing and going into a marriage filled with sadness.

      My dear, the Lord is your strength and is still in the business of miracles but I will also advice you to save some money for IVF even if it's not with this your present partner.

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    6. Telling him is a very good decision. Imagine if he get to know after marriage, he will so frustrate you before divorcing you. Be open in your next relationship about it too, the person that want to marry you will still marry you and treat you like the world best that you are. You never can tell, I have heard cases of people with similar fertility problem that got pregnant immediately after wedding.

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    7. I was diagnosed with pcos and hormonal imbalance, my period sef was not predictable, I was known at Luth gynecology clinic to the stage that cashier sef started praying for me anytime I make payment. My husband asked me to stopped all drugs( because of side effects) and we did serious prayers(coincidentally it was also during SDK prayer for people waiting) 5 month after I stopped everything was when I got pregnant naturally. The God that did mine is still very much on the throne, adoption too is still an answered prayer. Go and read GOD's WAITING ROOM by Yewande Zacheus.

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  2. Leave him the heck alone and face front..He possibly doesn't love you that much

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    1. (I'm already in my mid thirties)......dis is the reason you want to kill yourself about marriage..my sister remove your mind for marriage issue for now and plan on building your life,, before you know it, the right man will come...

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    2. go and watch the mount zion movies Gbemi and ignition( the ignition story is almost similar with your own..watch and you will thank me later..

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    3. Yeah, the Mount Zion Ignition movie is very similar to her case.

      Poster, I'm happy you were truthfully and sincere to him. If he want to go, let him be although its very painful but God will surely sort you out.

      Also, continue with more research , treatment and trust God for total healing. Don't give up..

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    4. No offense but I could tell from the beginning of her story that the man's love was not pure or deep. Most of these guys that will persistently pester, chase a lady, drag themselves on the floor and force themselves Into a woman's life are not genuine. Sorry to say. I can smell them from a mile away n usually give them time to drop the pathetic act and show true colors. Maybe cus I have seen many cases of such. It's even the men that show interest In a calm cool way while still allowing u space, that end up being deeper in love with you. Don't forget men are hunters n don't mind seemingly professing anything to get a lady. But time nd action reveals true Intentions. Poster Thank God for revealing this guy's true nature and feelings to you. So now u can move forward and please try to have options of guys that are potentials to avoid time wasters

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  3. It’s a pity, what women go through. It’s not easy at all but I pray it ends well for you.

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  4. Poster that man may have loved you to a point o, but I do not believe it is the kind of love that can stand marital storm. I expected a kind of reaction hearing that news but his first reaction was shocking. If he comes back to beg, I will not advise you to go back. A person who suddenly acts like a 3 yr relationship meant nothing is kinda off. I pray Gods healing upon your life. Goodluck.

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    1. It's well with you poster. Don't let it weigh you down. Believe in God for your complete healing and happiness.

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    2. Nah I think he was in lust or obsession.a man that had true love for her would have stayed. There are women in worse cases that their men stayed so what are we saying

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    3. The guy is just a predator that is all. Forget all that begging n chasing he was doing in the beginning. Any fool can be persistent. What stops him from staying n helping find a solution. Pls don't sugar coat it so that she can move on from this loser.

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  5. By Gods grace you will be fine. just trust GOD to change the whole dynamics of this issue. I believe you will overcome. All the best.

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  6. Heartbreaking story. It’s well with you poster. Keep up with the treatment and I believe Hod will come through for you.
    As for your ex, do not blame him. He got scared and that’s normal.

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  7. Please be assured you will find happiness soon,his love would not have lasted the test of time!
    May there be a turnaround in your health by Gods grace!

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  8. Who shall speak and it comes to pass when the Lord has not commanded it? Try reading healing balm, not only will you conceive naturally without help you will give birth without stress. Let him go, people process information differently,.God will come through for you?

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  9. Dear poster, Be strong it is not the end of the world. I wish he stayed with you to know that Faith can conquer anything.
    Husbands can pray their wives into ferlity. I saw it in the Bible and applied it to my life and it work.

    Just don't get depressed because of the situation. You are wonderfully and fearfully made....Thats the fathers decree over you.

    "Isaac pleaded with the Lord on behalf of his wife, because she was unable to have children. The Lord answered Isaac’s prayer, and Rebekah became pregnant with twins.
    Genesis 25:21 NLT

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  10. my sister i know it hurts..but o and thank GOD for everything, or do you want to make the same mistakes twice?

    how is your sisters and brothers doing in their marriage?

    please ask your parents questions

    Go to GOD in prayers

    He didnt really love you cos when a person really loves you, they never leave no matter what.

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    1. This comment : "When a person really loves you, they never leave no matter what"

      Abeg, is this when it's only men, or same also applies to women?

      Cuz I know if a man posted a story of having fertility issues, most of you would have encouraged the woman to walk away.

      Going back to the "When a person really loves you, they never leave no matter what". What happens when both partners are Sickle Cell Carriers or when one partner has AIDS?

      I wouldn't blame the man for leaving. They weren't just meant to be for each other, but that doesn't make him a bad person.

      It's easy to criticize when your'e not in the person's shoes.

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    2. I don't have sisters, and I have asked questions as well, there's been no such cases in my family, infact, my aunt had a first child in her fifties with no help. My brothers are still young, they're not married yet.

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    3. Noc-Turnal.. God bless you richly.. this shit ain't as easy as they quote the Bible here and form holy biko.. God is with you Poster..

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    4. Noc-turnal it is the man's ACCUSATION that poster knew but hid it from him that made him a BAD person.

      A woman that told him upfront she had been previously married!

      He is A SELFISH man and never loved her rather he was in love with his own imagination! 🙄🙄🙄

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  11. My sister as difficult as it might sound congratulations God saved you from marrying that calamity called a man. That man would have shown you hell if you had married without knowing you had this issue he never really loved you and only God knows the reason why he wanted to marry you because it seems like he had ulterior motives! Don’t worry you’ll be fine in the end and God will turn your story around and you’ll birth as many children as you so desire! Amen. Congratulations once more for dodging that mistake of a man he was just a calamity waiting to happen

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    1. Poster didn't reveal her financial status but she mentioned the guy is not too educated so I assume bobo was in it for what he can get it. Why won't he be caring when he knows he will eat bigger meat from.her later on? .poster please go down on your knees and Praise your Lord for saving you from gigolo tins..and pls don't be too eager to marry to avoid ending up dating or marrying down because it looked like that was what u were about to doo

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    2. 17:46 you said it AS IT IS!

      Poster exhale! 🤗

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  12. Poster dont worry, God will give you children not just a child.

    My elder sister had same delay and stories for 6years infact the doctor said her womb is leaking! Yes ooo! But at the appointed time babies stated coming. She has 3 boys now. God will do it for you.

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  13. My dear I don't know how yours will be but since, but in my own case my period cease and I went for a Scan and I was told I had PCOS I was told to go for homonial culture but I did go. I suffer no period from April 2018 to April 10th 2021 before my period came. How it came I traveled to the village with my mom she applied some herbs on be boiled some other herbs for me to drink I drank 2 pot of the herbs that was around January February and my period came out just last Saturday

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    1. Thanks, is it possible to get the herbs?

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  14. So sorry for what you went through. May you experience God's total healing in Jesus' name. Amen.

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  15. Sorry Poster, U dodged a bulletin jare!personally, I believe that having kids is strictly God’s decision, why do some people have a clear fertility slate yet can’t conceive ie unexplained infertility.
    After chemotherapy, I was told I couldn’t have kids ( one of the very top UK fertility experts diagnosed me nee o).
    I used frozen embryos saved pre chemo, everything failed.
    To cut a long story short, I v had one more child afterwards and by God’s Grace expecting another later in the year.
    My advise, marry who loves you with your fertility record and enter with a clear mind, you could still have your own kids.
    In my own case, I was told I could not even do a straight ivf, that I d be needing another woman’s eggs so your diagnosis is even better.

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    1. Poster my heart breaks for you. This is such hard news to bear, for you and for your ex. However I don’t think he loved you. If he did, this would have been reason enough for him to do the marriage earlier so you can start trying to conceive. I guess his love has limits and conditions. But it is well.

      I don’t know how viable your remaining eggs are but you can consider freezing them. That’s if the technology is available in Nigeria and if it’s affordable.

      A lot of people in your situation, will be looking for who to sleep with them by now so they can conceive. I notice that I didn’t see you mention such and I’m floored.
      I pray that God shows you mercy, that he comes through for you in ways you don’t expect.


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  16. Oh dear 🤗 it is well with your soul, may God perfect your healing IJN Amen 🙏🙌

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  17. A reaction was expected considering the shock but then, afterwards, he became an ass. Let him bounce. The best he could've been was supportive.
    Concerning the POI, get a good gynaecologist and let him/her follow you up. Running from one post to another may not bode well eventually.

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    1. Thank you so much, have met with some gynaes, but I would still look for a very good one like you suggested.

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    2. He didn't want her like that. Bobo had done all the calculations in his head n saw that he will spend more than he is chopping from the woman so e japa. It usually happens when a man is dating a lady way above his league and he discovers he won't be able to chop as much as he had wished. Poster God save you

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  18. Well you are in your mid thirties explains everything, because thus indicates you will soon get to menopause soon . Some women like my mum entered meno pause at the age of 38yrs, so you can actually get pregnant if he's a good sperm count, meet without gynae and discuss with him or

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  19. Poster he never loved you in the first place. He saw you more as a bearer of children rather than companionship or a help meet to help build your future together. A man that loves you beyond will accept all your flaws. Cry cause i know it hurts, go through your emotions but dont be resentful or sad towards other men that will come your way. I know a relative that has almost same condition but she married a man crazy about her and thank God they are based abroad and they will together sort it out and surmount it with God on their side.

    So have faith my dear God is in the business of performing miracles. Just hold on and allow God work. Ehugs

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    1. Thank you so much 🙏🙏

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  20. I perfectly understand what you are passing through because I treated hormonal imbalance and it wasn't funny
    If I may suggest, have you heard about Rida bitters and their other supplements?
    It is nature's miracle to man
    Make your findings and get it, you would testify after now
    If you need my help and you interested,I would give
    Stay positive dear

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    1. Thank you, I'm actually interested, would need your help if you could spare.

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    2. Thought rida bitters is for fibroids?

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  21. All these brothers in the lord.

    Poster change church. Focus more on God and you will be surprised when things will change in your body and life


    God is with you

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    1. Damn!! i am shocked you said change church. The shock just made me laugh too and my colleagues are looking at me like i am one mad person. SDK people i hail some of una mindset o.

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    2. Mark Morgan I agree with the anon o. Brother in the lord or Pastor would have spread the gist sef so that he would not look bad. Some may even claim it's because she lived a wayward life.

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    3. She should have listened to her initial guts n avoided the guy from church. Most of them are big fakers

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  22. Sorry poster, I went for hormonal test also when I had same issue like yours and was seriously trying to conceive, yet nothing happened, I was advised to go for hormonal profile test which I went and the results came out bad, I took the result to a ghanian man in my area that has vast knowledge in roots, he gave me treatment,which I took alongside with prayers, one month later I became pregnant and this month I'm expecting my bundle of joy.. your case is not has bad as you think dear, talking from experience,don't give up.

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  23. Have you tried taking coq10 and DHEA.....?

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  24. I am very sorry for what you are going through. I just read about primary ovarian insufficiency. I guess you will need donor eggs even if the money is there for IVF. Only God knows why he allowed this and only Him have the capacity to provide solutions. I am pained, really pained that a young person like you is going through this. It is my hope and prayers that God in His infinite mercy gives you a very understanding man. From the little I have read exercise helps, so does vitamin D supplement and hormone replacement therapy. Goosh, why this? Again I am sorry, deeply sorry for all you have gone through and all you are going through now. Apparently our God who knows and sees everything knew this going to happen hence the early marriage. This thing dey frustrate me.

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    1. Thank you, I exercise and take a lot of supplements as well, but the hot flashes are becoming more frequent, it's really fustrating

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    2. Try the keto doet. In addition to weight loss some of the other effects peolle have found are improved mental clarity/prowess and homonal regulation. No harm trying it.

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    3. Anon 21:54 I'm sorry but I would not recommend the keto diet to someone that has hormonal issues. That diet is extremely low in certain healthy carbs that women need to have a healthy menstrual flow and cycle. Keto messed with my periods. Made me spot during ovulation, I missed some periods, my cycle was out of wack! If she is doing keto tho I suggest she goes for non processed meats and plenty fresh keto veggies and fruits.pls avoid all those cheese,keto snacks,heavy cream orishirishi

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  25. Poster,the man never loved you.
    Trust God,he will do the impossible.
    The man would have shown you hell,I know it's not going to be easy but please find happiness and be happy.
    I'm sorry for what you passing through.

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  26. You will be fine take it from me, I had hormonal imbalances, irregular painful heavy periods,and a lot of different issues that if I followed what the doctors said,I would never be a mother,had these issues from when I saw my first period,I didn't take drugs to correct it, lived a happy life despite the doctor's report, didn't even give it a second thought when I met my husband to do hormonal test or not,took in naturally without even knowing till I started experiencing tiredness everytime. Relax yourself is all in your mind, whose report will you believe, a doctor or that of your creator, just be happy,try I know say e no easy but that's the easiest way of overcoming all this negative report, you will be fine,your husband will locate you and you shall be a fruitful vine.

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    1. God bless you. Sometimes all.these hormonal issues are not as serious as doctors say. Sometimes it could be as easy as changing diet, taking specific supplements or avoiding stress. But because doctors wanna make monehhh they will prescribe all sorts of pills and surgeries that could make matters worse. Poster please take heart and do your own findings and searches. There are countless options esp on YouTube of women going thru your same issue detailing how they cured themselves. Most of these doctors prey on the desperation of women so pls pray, do finding n keep a positive outlook on life. Overthinking and stress too can affect hormones

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    2. I won't be surprise if this poster end up being 1 touch 5 pikin.

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  27. Dear Poster, I am so sorry about what you've gone through in the hand of men. This one is certainly not for you and you should be thankful to God. Forget age the right man will certainly come for you at the appointed time. Keep holding on to God and trust him whole heartedly, He will certainly sort you out.
    Regarding your medical diagnosis, you will surely birth your children, my elder sister even in her late 30s and non existent period got pregnant and had her baby even though they told her only option to having a baby is via IVF.
    I am very happy to inform you that she has tried IVFs after this miracle baby without any success.
    My point is, it is only God that gives children and that should help you put your mind at rest.
    cheers!

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  28. It's a pity what women go through, my sister the God of eleventh hour is still in the business of doing miracle this will end in praise and true love will find you.

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  29. Jehovah Jireh! Provider of new chassis wombs and body spare part has never failed.Tarry long in Prayer and Envangelism,Do a praise dance in your secret place every day. Trust God unfailingly,depend on God like never before, eat healthy and watch God turn your situation around. He may not be your God ordained husband,Did Joseph reject mary with pregnancy? Your own ordained husband will not reject you no matter what if he is truly the will of God for your life.

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  30. Poster you will be fine, I was diagnosed from my early teens with endometriosis, hormonal imbalances,and the one that breast milk comes out of your breast without being pregnant,irregular periods was normal to me,I didn't allow it weigh me down i know the diagnosis was for my enemy,not me I never took drugs to correct anything didn't allow fear to kill my joy, yes am in my mid thirties and pregnant with twins,so whose report will you believe? That of the world in white apron or your creator,relax be joyful again be joyful,your man and baby will come like a whirlwind and sweep all those negative reports of the world.

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  31. @ Dear poster, can you please explain why you are on contraceptives? I just read up on POI and it's basically, early menopause in women under 40. So, your ovaries don't produce normal amounts of the hormone oestrogen or release eggs regularly.

    Female contraceptives stop the release of eggs, hence why most will typically not get pregnant whilst on it. Shouldn't you rather be on hormone replacement therapy, to help boost up your oestrogen levels?!

    Please clarify, if you can.

    Ps. Marriage should be between 2 people that have unconditional love for one another. Clearly he didn't, so I don't see it as a loss! You're better off!!

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    1. Because most doctors don't know what the hell they are talking about! That or they wanna make their own selfish gain without regard for how it affects the patient down the line. Pls when it comes to fertility abeg rely less on doctors and more on your own research and your God. Imagine contraceptives of all things!! That even hinders some women from getting pregnant later. Kai! Some doctors are wicked

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    2. The contraceptive is to serve as a form of jump start and hopefully the body follows the rhythm...the contraceptives are usually taken for at most 3 months and stopped, the patient is then monitored to see if her cycle will be regular...it isn't wickedness...it is medical practice, you just are not learned in that area. In other cases, instead of waiting to monitor, the patient is asked to do ovarian reserve test( AMH) that gives a clue about the presence of eggs or not...and if the test comes back very low, or zero in the case of menopausal women, the patient can achieve pregnancy using donor eggs and IVF.

      So anon. 18.01, it is not a case of most doctors don't know, rather a case of you not understanding the rationale behind that.

      @anon16.43...the OCP is to serve as a Jumpstart...it will be stopped usually after 3 months almost...
      The HRT boosts oestrogen which is meant to assist in reduction in incidence of osteoporosis and majorly reduce the hot flashes, it has nothing to do with conceiving. The side effects of the HRT like blood clot is the reason for not instituting it and the short duration of ocp in such patients.

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  32. Egg donor - IVF
    Adoption

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  33. Chai it's well poster, the good lord will give u the best husband don't worry, that report will turn to testimony. Don't worryooooh.

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  34. Poster, kneel down and praise God for you knowing about this before you married that man. He never loved you. He just saw you as his meal ticket and bearer of the children you would have trained. Yes, I said it. Even see the idiot's suggestion. He wanted to sleep with you so that his efforts for 3 years wouldn't go for waste, not because he's trying for a baby. Pastor no tell am shishi.

    Please take care of your health first. Also, if any man comes into your life, tell them about your challenges first and continue to close your legs. I know couples who were TTC for years and their husbands were such loving examples. They never joked with their wives. It was even their wives that were worried about TTC sef.

    Don't lose hope. A man that truly loves you is out there. Even if he is not, God would give you the strength to cope and be genuinely happy.

    Also, if you get the opportunity to adopt, please do so. God would bless you for opening your heart to a child

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    1. Gbam! He saw a meal ticket but wasn't ready to pay the price it took. Any fool can chase a lady for yearssss, n show care especially one that has no other choice playing humble and meek cus he knows the payout will be heavy. Unluckily for him God had other plans and poster has now learned from this experience not to date down or present herself as an easy prey. Once them run u street usef go dey wiser. They may start with showing small care and spending small money here and there but next thing turn around and make up scenarios where your heart will be touched to give them more money than they spent. Marriage is a transaction to such men. Please don't fall for this con! Give them a blank stare or a sympathetic Eyaaaa

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  35. Thank you all for the kind words and suggestions, I'm overwhelmed. May God bless you all immensely 🙏🙏🙏

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  36. He loves the babies you will born for him and not you.
    You do not seem to love and trust Jesus enough to take care of your challenges.
    And that your "pastor" advising you to get pregnant is bad news.
    Study your Scriptures and trust in the Lord.

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  37. eyah.........so so sorry about this

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  38. The man doesn't love you blah blah blah is damn annoying.. I believe in miracles and I trust God but imagine your kid bro coming home to tell you and your mum about his fiance being in this condition.. it's not easy and leave God aside and please remember we all are not that strong at heart.. guy man might be somewhere crying and sad right now.. what's yours won't leave you regardless of how it goes.. ish or no ish.. your miracle is on its way poster..

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    1. He doesn't love her, he doesn't love her no de ni. Take it like that. It's not by force! Or did they tie her placenta to his?

      That is how u people will make people have false hope and stay in disastrous relationships. Give the girl advice that will help her n push her to meet a better more deserving man. N if u too are in a similar situation n that is wat is annoying, pls stop having false hope. Any man that will leave u or fight u at slightest sign of trouble does not love u.esp after all his chasing, he Is a con artist. You sef toughen up and leave and know you can do better!

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  39. I love your sincerity and honesty poster. Not everyone will do what you did and it's commendable.
    I believe God who sees in secret will reward you and heal you. You dodged a bullet in that guy,better things are coming your way.

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  40. Hormonal imbalance is the manisfestation of problems in the reproductive tract...so know that it is not a singular diagnosis with a single cause...it is a manisfestation of different disorders...
    Ovarian insufficiency, pituitary tumor, PCOS to mention a few all present with signs of hormonal imbalance...in this poster case they have cited ovarian insufficiency...poster go have an AMH done to check you ovarian reserve...if it is very low, your best bet is IVF with the limited reserve left or donor eggs...and yes trust God for even the IVF to be successful too.

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  41. My dear you ate lucky you told him and did not end up marrying him. Can you imagine hiw mean he would have been if you did not get oregnant quickly. Your peace of mind is most important.
    I was also disgnosed with PCOS, but I went on the keto diet for weight loss reasons and a pleasant side effect was that my body reset itself. I cannot pretend to understand how it worked but it did and I learnt from lots of pther people that it is quite common. The bad news is that it can be tricky to do the keto diet and actually be in ketosis. To do it right you need to eat low carbs, morderate orotein and high fats/oils. Every time you give in and eat lots of carbs, your body stops producing ketones and you are back to square one. If you do manage to get going and keep at it for a month your appetite dissapears and you are fine. Switching to intermittent fasting alias one meal a day helps as well. My advice if you want to try it is to ask everybody you know who is on it for meals they have, draw up a list of about 6 meals you can tolerate and make easily, drop breakfast, introduce a bit of excercise and keep yourself occupied with work or a course so you stop thinking of food. Easiest meals for me were some keto swallow like coconut flour, garden egg etc with a soup like okro, egusi, ogbonno, vegetable or groundnut soup. All are keto compliant and easy to eat. You dont have to stay on it forever. A year of being on the diet properly should be enough to reset your body. Good luck and thank God for your lucky escape...

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  42. Poster it is well with you. Personally I disagree with most comments up there that the guy doesn't love you.

    If the tables were turned and the man was the one with fertility issues, how many ladies will remain with such a man?

    Most of the ladies blasting the guy here, won't remain with such a guy if he's impotent or he has zero/low sperm count.

    Look up to God, while you try available options both in orthodox and unorthodox medicine.

    About relationships, you can keep your options open; Not only single guys but also consider single dads, widowers or divorcees, as these set of guys won't put pressure on you to have kids, since they already have.

    May God turn the whole thing to a testimony for you.

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    1. For a guy that chased her that long to suddenly dump her all of a sudden, u would know he is a con artist. Please u people need to start telling people the real deal and stop using rose colored glasses so they can heal and move on to better. There is always better. If he didn't love her that is perfectly ok, so no need sugar coating it

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  43. God gives Children. Poster relax when His time comes everything will align. He did for women without womb not talk of you that has. Remember with men it is impossible but with God ALL things are possible.Cheers

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  44. How can you be looking for children and still be practicing no sex before marriage,don't rush into another marriage, just try to get pregnant,Nigeria men marry cs of children and not for love

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  45. Why are we like this? Why would you take a purely medical problem to a ‘pastor’? Is he a doctor or you were expecting a miracle?
    It beats me how clearly intelligent and well educated people loose their senses when it comes to religion. It is part of the reason why nothing works in this country!

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  46. If Mother Mary can conceive by the Holy Spirit and give birth to the saviour of the world, our Lord Jesus Christ,without knowing no man, how much more can the same God do for you. Poster, you have no problem/challenge. Read your bible from genesis to revelation, know God for yourself and be confident in God cos whatsoever good thing your heart so desires, God will give it to you. Your miracle is here already. That guy had to leave, so you can receive your miracle. Go and praise God poster and please update us with your testimonies. It is well with you in Jesus name, Amen.

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