Its time for us to find out if anyone connected from the last Stella's Singles Mingles post....
Are you still single or you found someone from the last Singles Mingles post?
Do we still have love scammers contacting people on the Stella singles mingles post?
Lets talk, a lot of female BVs are contacting me that they need husbands and i am confused, why are men running away from commitment these days?
What are people doing wrong on the singles mingles post?. let me tell you!
You sit down and wait for someone to contact you instead of reading through and sending an hello to a profile you like.....
You start expecting a proposal one week after DRY chatting with someone..
You expect them to be rich, handsome Or beautiful as if these things must be ready made..
You are proud and rude...
You are too shy to go after what you want...
what else?
lets gist!
Congratulations to those who found love on this platform.
Congratulations to all the engagements and weddings that have held this year, Please tell us your story under anon or send me a mail.
Congrats to everyone who has found love here. For those who are still searching, love will find you ππΏ
ReplyDeleteHi Richie
DeleteHi Ava, long time π
DeleteOya oo . Make una gist us.π€©π
ReplyDeleteI met wonderful people here and we are still friends.
Men no want commitment again cos all these feminism nonsense wey dey everywhere. And I no wan hear I don't even know the meaning of "Feminism" bla bla. That meaning una dey talk na the old school feminism but this modern feminism nonsense, we go see who go tire. Yeye women wey wan eat their cake and have it. Happy Easter to Dante, ceaser, chike, Don,Alexander and all the solid men out here. We wey dey background solidly dey being una. God bless you all.
ReplyDelete14:40 happy Easter
Deleteπ marry your fellow man nau. You are trying to convince your ignorance self that you are dealing with women by not marrying them because of ‘feminism’. Okpo, if you don’t marry them, a better person will. Please you, Chike, Dante,ceases should marry yourselves π€£π€£.
DeleteStella, it's not that men are running from commitment rather, some of the women in question have nothing to offer other than sex but you will see them itemizing all the qualities they want in a man. Very few quality ladies out there and those ones knows their worth.
ReplyDeleteNo man will like a woman that will be a total dependant on him. I won't settle for such either.
Relax. Make money first, then come back to this post. People wen dey feed their wives no get two heads.
DeleteLmao Teeπ€£
DeleteYou are not wrong at all.
At least they have something to offer
DeleteHonestly @SluttyChic.... I am must be frank.
DeleteLike seriously @pwetie no mind Teejay.
DeleteA lot of people are meeting the love of their lives and staying happy.
First thing you should consider when ou meet and start dating someone is the connection you both have, the bond, the feelings, the character, not the money she will contribute for wedding or the monthly home running allowance. The feelings should be priority that is why you have to concentrate on knowing her/him well enough
Do you know that once you both have a great connection every other thing will fall into place? That time you both will begin to invest in eachother in eachothers unique capacity.
Stop shaming people for not having great jobs or not having ill-considered in their account, that is how you miss a good partner. the time you using to chant she has nothing to bring to the table is enough for you to do reason something good for your life. Besides you only noticed she has nothing to contribute because you don't love or care or even attracted to her in the first place. & that means she is not for you.
Relax @pwetie, it's not your fault you lack self worth and ambition. The world is fast moving on from the leeching mentality you seem to have.
DeleteThe Lifted, I owe you no apology or any one who took offence. I stand on what I said and no I am not shaming anyone, for I am not a hater. Same way you ladies will castigate a broke brother.
DeleteAnon 17:38, it is also not ur fault that u don't have sense. Not everybody is expected to have sense sha. So feeding ur wife is now a leeching mentality. Na wah!
DeleteAnon 17:38 Just know that it is not everyone that have that ur poverty mentality. I know a friend that married a medical doctor, but insist she doesn't have to hustle. He gladly provide everything and they live happily. Stay there dey look for person pikin when go follow u enjoy ur poverty.
DeleteDon't mind them pwetie, and they will still be the one looking for rich babes o. Make them no go hustle by themselves, una go wait tire!
Delete@Teejey at odd 2.5, let's bet... E be like say @the lifted de the table way you de shake
DeleteGod bless you the lifted.
Delete@pwetie I find strong ambitious women attractive. Yes I categorise women with your mentality as leeches cos you feel entitled. You feel it's your right to be taken care off cos you are female, what a waste!!! From the way you type it's obvious you're not quite intelligent so aside being a leech you are a drain cos you can't motivate or inspire your man.
DeleteI do not think taking care of my wife is her leeching off me if I see her putting effort in her career or business, it is now at my discretion to provide for her needs but I need to see that she's doing something. Go and look for who will be taking care of you while you leave your brain fallow.
Well said the lifted π
DeleteBefore anyone comes for my head, I met my husband when we were both students, we married, "survived" I started working when I felt ready yet he never pressured me to work
Congrats to them
ReplyDeleteFirst time commenting o pls approve it
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DeleteI categorically stated the age range I wanted. Yet, guys 10yrs younger where adding me up! Is it that Nigerians don't read? Dem go come dey send your picture join.
ReplyDeleteMarried men nko? I no want married men, yet dem still add up.
Anyways, I made a friend from the lot and we are doing great.
Later they will come out with their Identities and be saying marriage is not their priority,we don't need men to live, divorce your husband yen yen yen.giviving advice that they cannot apply themselves and when they send in chronicles,they will beg for their Identities to bebto be hidden.women tell yourselves the truth.it is one thing to find a man in single and mingle and work with your spouse to keep it when you eventually marry.
ReplyDeleteStella...you go continue to wonder! Is it not these same woman on this blog that come here every day to insult men? We see them. Everything na gender war and yet dem still wan marry. Awon marriage-is-not-an-achievement.
ReplyDeleteThey shouldn't worry. God will give them mud to mold the kind of man they want. Yeye dey smell
Cool down you hear. This your angry birds association you belong to is not helping you.
DeleteThe guys I added are just something else, one is full of himself, just because what I say doesn't suit him, he just ended the conversation. Dude I don't have to agree with every thing you say. The other answers from time yo time. While the other one after chatting just once he wants me to come visiting haba.
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooo. Some guys don't mind gbenshing strangers immediately. That is risky ooo.
DeleteHow you responded matters. For me if I meet a girl now and she oppose me in a nasty way. I love forward. Continue you will find the man of your dream or stay single.
DeleteYou see offshore guys? Fear them
ReplyDeleteMe i dey find wife as you see me so but not the feminist one,ifo was here...
ReplyDeleteProud and rude is one of the main reasons.
ReplyDeleteA lot of toxic tongues.. Relationship experts can elaborate.
Happy Easter Celebration,commenting for the first time oo
ReplyDeleteHappy Easter Celebration Everyone,commenting for the first time oo
ReplyDeleteGet you an ID. Unknowns are legion in this place.
DeleteSomeone stored my name as 29, single and Stella. I laughed so hard and told him plainly that I wasn't interested considering that I have introduced myself severally. Next thing na insults. Didn't dignify him with a response because of his bruised ego. Blocked him and kept it moving.
ReplyDeleteLet me not talk about the one who said SnM is a waste of time. Someone I was vibing with and beginning to like, na to take my L and move.
As it is, I doubt I will participate in a long time to come. I appreciate Stella's intentions behind SnM but the men who add women up make it seem like they are doing one a favour since they are the ones who put their details on the blog.
It is well. Na single person single, no be person dem kill.
There really are some nice guys here but it's like 2% out of a 100%
DeleteIf he knew S and M was a waste of time, then why take part! Jeeez
DeleteHappy Easter Celebration,commenting for the first time oo
ReplyDeleteStella, wetin I do u naa? I posted and posted my profile yet u keep deleting it. None made it to the front page. Abi my village ppl dey still look me.
ReplyDeleteI met him here!
ReplyDeleteStella,I blessed day day u posted that snm!
G,u know ur d best thing that has ever happened to me, right?I know u will read this,I just want to say thank you for loving me!May u continue to prosper in all you do.Amen
Wow, this is nice
DeleteAmen ooo
DeleteI met the best man in the whole wide world during the last snm. Stella this guy is fine for days. Very soft spoken,kind,gentle and caring are his three names.
ReplyDeleteI never would have believed that one could see a guy that wouldn't pressure you into sex in this day and age. And before you think otherwise,he is very very okay there but we are not going that route. The way we converse eh and spend time together,time is never enough. Trust me the sexual electricity, chemistry, biology and physics π€£ is there but we have agreed on no sex. We both have gotten to that point where we have tried sex in our previous relationships and they all went south,we have now decided to do it right π€π€π€
We are both broken persons who found each other here.
Trust me,I have tried this snm post for about four or five times now. This didn't just happen.
Permit to add this at this point. We ladies/girls need to do better. Some of us can be so boring in conversations. If you are not very good in chats,at least try to be okay in voice conversations.
Don't make every conversation all about you. Be interested in the other person. Try not to monopolize the convo without allowing the other person space to talk.
There is no big deal in pictures do long they are decent.If you can put your number here for the whole world to access you,why can't you allow a guy to see your face.( I don't mean those ones that expect you to empty your gallery for them or ask for nudes)
I have learnt and met some funny characters here for real.
Is it the ones obsessed with nudes or the ones asking for live video s*x,the ones stylishly asking you for money that you do not even have?
We girls so do not even try. You meet a guy today and three days after you are asking him for money for rent. It only takes a good natured guy to look beyond that. Bottom line,we should all do what works for us.
Those small boys coming here to look for wetin no loss,kwantinue till you see wetin pass you.
For me, wherever this friendship is leading to,I can't say. For now,I am going to enjoy it to the max. I love this feeling
Bikonu ignore the typos. Stella biko no post if I'm not anonymous o
This is so nice to read. Congratulations to you both.
DeleteThis could have been me but shy shy, doubts and procrastination don't want me to be great.
I have been single for 12years now, now I'm hoping for a relationship even if it starts with friendship, I wouldn't mind. I don't know how to be in a relationship,been single for too long and in my life time, have only had a relationship,so, I won't mind being friends first.
I pray God hears my heart desires.
Congratulations again to all the wonderful guys and ladies who made SnM worthwhile.
Congratulations dear thank God for you. Even when you have interesting conversations,some of them are not just serious. Me i have tried and I have given up totally. There are a lot of immature guys that will add you: some outrightly rude. Sometimes doing all you said is not enough. My prayer is every single person will get the love they seek
DeleteIs not about been single for 12yrs have you been gbeshing ?
DeleteI specifically stated here in the last single and mingles that i wanted a particular age range and i didn't want a man who was a single father or from another tribe except from mine for reasons best known to me, guess what guys? These coconut headed men with the qualities i didn't want, called me. One had a son and didnt let me know until i found out myself,one was from another tribe and not my taste at all,while one was about the same age with me and doesnt really know what he wanted relationship- wise, so i let all go and i'm living my best life. I promise not to participate again although i met wonderful people here.
ReplyDeleteStella please when is another SM?
ReplyDeleteI met one,so annoying, to top it all ,his family does not approve, it hurts me so bad, and dude sucks real bad.
ReplyDeleteGod give me my man cos I would definitely leave him, just here for now for the comfort I am getting.
Stella I had over 50men living in Nigeria contacted me on that diaspora S&M even when I said I only want a man in the diaspora. One pleaded to the point of saying, if I can’t date him I should help him come abroad.
ReplyDeleteLmaooooooo help am if you go fit na
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Deleteπ€£π€£lol I know how frustrating this is
DeleteSame with me girls from nigeria bomb my email ,after I stated us, canada ,uk.i understand love can happen in the least expected places.
DeleteWetin I do, men just no bother to contact me. Na old I old, I no kill person
ReplyDeleteYou are still beautiful regardless. Just live your best live. Dress fine. Put on a huge self confidence and carriage and pray also.
DeleteWhen the time is right,yours will come.
You have to see the beauty in you before you expect others to see it in you.
Best regards
Awwww. God Bless you Darajah. You made my Easter Sunday. ❤️
DeleteStella my brother participated in the last single and married after I told him to check it out since I got my hubby from here.Lo and behold the 2 ladies he chatted up said they can't marry some one that earns 250k after getting familiar and chatting with them.Bro don give up.Say he no do again..
ReplyDeleteHe shouldn't give up. I think it is mere coincidence he hasn't met a cool one. Remember scammers are here too. I may have applied now sef, but I am guessing he may be too young for me. π
DeleteI met an old schoolmate here, we are yet to meet but he has been helping me grow in every way.I have met men , been disappointed, this seems like the answers to my prayers.I met him on snm at a point where i was fed up .to think i was just interested in making friends.we are yet to meet in person since we started chatting .I don't know where it's leading yet.I am going along prayerfully and no sex.he went all out for me during my last birthday. I was overwhelmed. God bless stella.
ReplyDeleteEyaaa all da best!
DeleteI saved some numbers. After contacting 3 of them..
ReplyDeleteI decided this is not for me..
I need a matured person not some silly ladies who is looking for money.
My father is sick, my brother's car broke down on Benin Ore road. He is in a very tick bush and needs 50k urgently.. Habaaa kilodeeee
Some babes just believe they should not do anything but just sitdown and be taken cared of. Nothing to add in a relationship only sex.
Me i don give up oo.
Abeg Stella find me one American make i settle down
Sorry you encountered scammers. You don't waste time chatting with such...........just unto the next................
DeleteWhat’s your age range?? I have a single friend here
DeleteI sent in my profile during the S and M of last year December that i was looking for a serious minded man who is ready for commitment and a man by name Joseph J contacted me on the 18th of December last year and we have been chatting since then till untill 30th of March when he lied that he was travelling to Abeokuta to solve a land dispute his younger brother had and he will be back the next day
ReplyDeleteI wanted calling him on the 30th to ask about how his journey went only to discover that this man had blocked me on Whatsapp,i tried his two phone numbers but discovered that i have been blocked as well.
According to him he said he is based in Benin city and am based in Lagos,we have never met yet,we planned meeting during this Easter period until he lied about his Abeaokuta trip
I noticed there were so many inconsistencies in him,if he tells you something today,ask him that same thing a week time and he will give another totally different answer,example was when we just started chatting and he told me his age,i recently asked him his age again and he gave another different age,also when we just started chatting the profession he told me he was into was totally different when i asked him the same question last month,
i noticed he tells so many lies
To think that i turned down several other men because of him after he told me that he wanted us to get serious, I feel soo heartbroken this Easter period
I never forced him to start a relationship with me, he could have told me politely and respectfully that he was tired of the relationship rather than blocking me
Am still shocked that a matured man well over 40 years could do this
From the day 18th of December last year that he chatting chatting with me,i have never asked him for a dime and he has never ever given me a pin,even on one occasion when he asked why i couldnt call him and i said i had no credit to call that i could only chat on Whatsapp ,he told me shame on me for not having a credit to call
Joseph J,i know you are reading this,i leave you for God and your conscience to judge you
It's possible he is married or engaged. It could be his wife or gf or fiance that blocked you and also deleted the number on his phone. So sorry
DeleteMe Ayam thanking God on your behalf sey you no enter one chance.
DeleteDouble shame on him... my dear forget him.
DeleteWhy exactly would you focus on only one person when there’s no concrete relationship. You definitely messed up. You went in too fast and got too too clingy and maybe a bit desperate to settle down based on your narrative. Madam calm down and keep your options open (not talking about sex) before defining a serious relationship. Good lord!
DeleteStella, thanks for the opportunity. I posted my profile. Two ladies added me up. They were both great ladies, we exchanged over 300 mails, (both of them.), mind you, none of those mails had sexual tones.
ReplyDeleteFinally, I chose one, even with her baggage, she's a sweetheart. We are getting married quietly soon.
I sincerely explained to the other why I took my decision.
B***n, thanks for your understanding, wish you great luck in life
All the best and I appreciate your honesty. I am not her ooo
DeleteHope you chose correctly o and not letting go of your wife. This one you’re saying she get baggage. Hope the baggage no go frustrate you. Also did you get to meet both in person before making your final decision? And no I’m not B***n. Just speaking out loud and stating my own opinion. Good luck!
DeleteI almost gave up, after I had horrible experiences here, you can imagine someone contacting me on the SNM that was posted last year December and led me on , i even dropped other persons i was chatting with so I can concentrate on him, only to later find out he had a serious relationship, then I equally met some Yoruba demons here who can lie for the world, met men who basically had no job, one was asking me for money to cut his hair 2-3 days after we started chatting, haba!!!! person don suffer but in all I am not giving up on love but one has to be very careful because there are lots of scammers and gold diggers looking for women to extort and deceive. For all those who found love you give us hope that we can find ours despite all we have been through and may God bless you all. We keep up the hope.
ReplyDeleteI met some sweet guys and some annoying set of guy here,jeez I feel people no longer take there time to read.i specifically wrote the qualities I need in a man,yet some people still went ahead to add me up.SMH
ReplyDeleteEven a popular blog I.D added me up and started given me different format just to extort money from me.'I don wise biko,I be lagos babe'
I met a sweetheart here Mr.Oπ am so grateful for the gift and I wish you the best in everything you do,'But e pain say you nolonger reply my whatsapp textπ₯π₯'.
Since Mr.O didn't reply back then I switched to Mr.T π,omg I liked him at first oooo but guy man has one problem,he can nag for Africa,I can't deal abegπ.
Met Mr.D he complained about not replying back(text) so I had to concentrated more on him but each time we talk ,all he talks about is how to satisfy he's woman on bed etc,but we still get along with other discussions and I liked him,suddenly I woke up to a long note of complain,omo the guy finished me off with the note ,even wrote how I refused him to touched me or kiss me,or even complained on how I made him an option i was so upset, but what he doesn't know is I already plan to settle with him (before the note),but he ended the relationship with he's own hands.
Anyways I already given up on love,so am enjoying myself and am minding my own business.π
Cheers
I met a guy here too and I’m confused on what to do. He has been separated from wife for almost 3 years and I visited him to confirm this. He has 3 kids who come on weekends and I have also met them and all his friends. I am a medical doctor and I have e daughter as well. He is so loving and caring and talking marriage.
ReplyDeleteSeparate is situationship
DeleteLeave trash for Lawma
I pray love finds me
ReplyDeleteI pray and hope my next sNm post will be the last one
ReplyDeleteFinding love here is like searching for a diamond in a thick forest because most of the ladies here are not serious and genuine.
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