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Sunday, November 28, 2021

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE.

TIPS ON MATURITY NEEDED



Thank you for being a blessing to this generation through this blog.


I need the BV's opinion about this...


I met a guy in the first week of January, and we clicked almost immediately, we communicate via voice call and video calls and all was good. He talked about liking me because I am expressive and fun to communicate with.


Few months down the line, we had a discussion and I asked further to get cleared about it, and he replied saying "my question was meaningless", I was shocked with his reply, afterwards i limit asking him questions to avoid such reply. Some weeks later, he told me I offended him and I asked why he said so, he said I didn't ask him about his ongoing project and I replied saying i didn't ask cos I don't want to ask meaningless questions.


Recently, we were talking on the phone and we had a disagreement and he ended the call. I called him afterwards for the week he didn't pick the calls neither did he reply my WhatsApp message.


A week later, he picked my call but didn't admit he had done anything wrong as he keep condemning me saying "I laughed whenever he is having a serious discussion with me, I don't act my age, I don't hold a reasonable conversation, I don't act mature etc. I replied saying, "I laughed cos what he said was funny and this life is hard already.


I have made up my mind to move on but my question is, how do I act my age(30), how do I hold a reasonable conversation, how do I act mature?



Hmmmm when you meet someone you sync with , you wont have any of these problems..... Dont let what he told you to affect how you relate with people or how you are.....No one is born with maturity and then again it is a subjective thing..... what is mature to one may be childish to another and vice versa....

Please forget about the hurtful things he told you and move on!

43 comments:

  1. That's humans for you. What might seem meaningless to you might be a big deal to others. Tou dont wanna walk on egg shells around him, do you?

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    1. I get you and Stella but the truth is that some people are immature and can’t hold a reasonable conversation no matter their age.

      I had a friend in Uni that her reasoning is poor like that of a little baby. She doesn’t just have sense and for someone like me that’s almost in the same category to notice, it means her iq is really low. Just imagine how I use to think and you then meet someone worse than me 😲

      My dear poster if true true you no get sense, I pray Jesus fix it for you because, my bible says, if anyone lacks wisdom let him come to God that gives. Meaning some people no jus wise!

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    2. He seems selfish
      He will call you emotional when you decide to talk about it.

      You will continue walking around egg shells when it comes to him and it will drain you, because he will never want to address it.

      About growing and acting mature, invest in books, reading is very important it opens up your mind to whole lot.
      Read books on character, self growth, self love, emotional control.
      Take time away from him and work on yourself

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    3. Fan abeg🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣.

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    4. This Fan ehhh, I don laugh tire🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣

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  2. Abeg forget the man jare, he doesn't want you periodt, may be he's there because of the cookies, complaining over littlest things

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    1. Thank you. He wants out and is just looking for what to point to.

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  3. Dear poster, dont hit yourself too hard on this. This us his real personality showing, unlike when you guysjust kicked off. People like this, you dont need to do anything before it becomes an offence to them . Keep being the bubbly and happy YOUand moveee on. You cant satisfy the world ! My one cent .

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    1. They also know how to pick you apart
      They mention your flaws so you spend more time working on yourself and not talk about theirs
      That's actually a narcissistic trait.

      Dear poster, follow and listen to mentalhealnesss...he opened my eyes to a lot I took from some past relationships.

      You do not need such relationships they will drain you.
      Walk away now when it's easy.

      It started beautifully cus that's when he was doing the chasing, it's called the "love bombing stage"
      Now you will spend so much time trying to get him back to that stage but you won't.
      Protect yourself now

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    2. Push up

      You gorrit

      Aunty
      He hasnt dealt with his issues so rather than work on his childishness his method of control is to make you so insecure about yourself and your capacity that he will sound and feel like a fountain of wisdom

      You need a man not a male adult whose emotional intelligence is that of a 6 year old

      E never lead himself finish e wan lead another person, imagine!

      E no reach to follow you talk less of him leading you
      E no get sense and no sabi how to talk
      Praise GOD say e show himself on time

      Block him everywhere
      Build your badly harassed self esteem, in the process pray hard about what you want

      Women stop installing fools as your head

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  4. Poster, let go off that man immediately before he destroys your self esteem. He is childish, petty and toxic.

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  5. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, that guy is sick in the head and using you to catch cruise.

    Move on sharp sharp.

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  6. for your peace of mind and sanity please stay away from him.

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  7. You sound like a free spirit. Don't allow a Man make you change.. I am looking for the immaturity in what you wrote.

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  8. From your comment you both were not even dating so why stress yourself about him? such a nag and petty man. he is even rude having the guts to tell you that you asked a meaningless question. Even if he felt that way there is a mature and kinder way to air his grievance not talking anyhow. He is lowkey abusive and mannerless. Don't let him give you low self-esteem. look at you. You are already here thinking he said something worth bothering your cute head over.

    If you thought it would lead to a relationship you are wrong, you both are not a good match for each other. Listen to this song title below and get your answer.

    ~ACCORDING TO YOU by Orianthi.
    This song will give you the remaining answer you seek.

    If we check now he is the one suffering from a double dose of immaturity. He just can't see above his nose. Don't let him gaslight you.
    When you meet your won it will flow naturally without hiccup.

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    1. Poster take this advice and listen to the song she recommended. Full of messages. Thank you Anony

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  9. One thing you should never settle for is a manipulative man. Imagine calling him for over a week and refuses to pick your call until it “entered” his own mind to call you and tell you how you offended him.
    From this chronicle, you sound mature.
    He has an inferiority complex. Playing the victim is his own way of drawing sympathy to himself.
    Men like this will drain you. All you’d be doing is trying to find ways to please them and you find yourself always on the defensive even when you have done nothing wrong.
    Before you know it, you’ve lost yourself, confidence.
    They wreck you emotionally and you’ll think you are no good. Sadness, bitterness and anger will take over you. Before you get to 32, he’d make you age faster. He should get lost.
    You deserve better .

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    1. Such useless men take advantage of women unaware of their antics to make them emotional wrecks always on edge and brittle

      Often they are like a bad radh, they spread themselves all over the woman's life till she can no longer think for herself and is fragile

      By the way insecure and manipulative men behave that way

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  10. Poster please don't waste your time and feelings on this one, the guy no too send you. Be wise and distance yourself from him now, he is bad news.

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  11. Don't let him be little your self esteem you guys are not compactable

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  12. Forget about the guy. He his playing a manipulative game with the agenda of reducing your self esteem. Immediately he achieves that agenda you will become his slave.

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  13. Dear poster, you are not the problem. Runaway from that man, he will demean the life out of you. He does not love you and has issues stemming from himself. You are about to enter into an abusive relationship. If you don't walk away you will soon start doubting your IQ level and every another thing. A man who loves you will never demean u, he will correct you in love, and not emotionally abuse you, even him not taking your calls for 2 weeks is emotional abuse. You will keep changing yourself and never be good enough. Babe, you are mature enough for the right man, who has understanding, patience, and u will be fun to be with. Your new man is a psycho, he is just testing waters by abusing you small small now, if you don't leave you will enable him and he will start with bigger abuse.

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    1. Thank you
      He will keep gas lighting her, and she will break and become his slave.
      Poster run for your dare life

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  14. You are allowing him get into your head.
    The society,your age,pressure,is make you vulnerable to get easily been emotional abused without you knowing.

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  15. πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚
    Me Ayam a mature childish person. And to crown it all I laugh a lot. His type go hate me be dat. Abeg I flow with those who flow with me.

    Poster just love yourself and keep it moving. Life is too short to kee yaself because you want to conform to someone's idea of who he thinks you should be.

    Me, I love people to let go and be themselves. I want to know the real you, warts and all. But I guess we all can't be the same.

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  16. He is not for you. See the stress he is already giving you. I hate guys like that.

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    1. Aswear.. the stress is too much. Poster run o for your own sanity, cos the guy will so torment you emotionally, psychologically, mentally etc that you will be questioning your own sanity.

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  17. The guy might be looking for a way to discharge you.. He is no longer interested but can't dismiss you directly.
    Open your mind for a possible replacement.

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  18. The guy might be looking for a way to discharge you.. He is no longer interested but can't dismiss you directly...
    Open your mind for a possible replacement.

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  19. Problem Is from the man not you poster.. he's egocentric abeg

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  20. Like madam Stella said when you meet the one for ,you guys will sync ,you are perfectly ok the way you are.
    Being a free spirited person and funny doesn't make you childish.

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  21. Is he the first romantic interest, friend and family member to tell you, you are immature, you don't know how to hold a conversation? If he is the first to do so at 30, please ignore him and stay far away from him. For some very insecure and manipulative men talking down on women is a thing. It is primarily to have control over you and your thoughts. Read about the power of insinuation, they plant words in your thoughts over a period of time. At some point you gradually start believing everything they have said about and they gain control over you

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    1. He is the first person who said I'm immature

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  22. I think you should forget this man for your peace sake, he is acting immature.

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  23. Be civil with him but pls avoid him like a plaque. Always place yourself 10times before him I promise you he will beg for your attention. Most guys always abuse affection shown to them by ladies who care for them.

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    1. Even he grovel , poster biko for ya peace of mind & sanity don't want his type oo

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  24. That man is out to destroy your self esteem and people like this will start small small before you know it,they're controlling even the quantity of water you should drink.
    If you truly blend together, all these talk of "meaningless discussions" wont pop up,so let him be and move on.

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  25. Toxic men always take offense in any and everything about you.He will so taunt you with all these subtle demeaning comments, until u begin to have a low self esteem and adjust ur character to be who u are not.
    Please and please,coming from someone who has been there,biko FLEE as fast as possible from him.In my own case I was yabbed about every little thing even my weight,a size 12 I was then,i resorted to dangerous desperate measures to lose weight,funny enough my "rivals" were big bummed thicker ladies.The guy is either looking for a way to discharge u,or to control u like a puppet with his harsh words.Age is just a no,pls dont allow ur desperation to make u end up in a hellish marriage.

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  26. Poster you just met a narcissist, meaning someone who has a personality disorder and mental illness. Kindly run for your dear life, cos he will never change for good. Thank God for revealing who he is early on for you before you make the mistake of marrying the psycho, so many of us made the mistake and we regret it now.

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  27. The guy is not into cos if he is he will correct you in love, teach you how to have reasonable conversation with him or teach his woman how to have a constructive convo.

    Just give him one space is possible you are chocking him with your calls and friendship.

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  28. All this immature men sef, that's how one was asking me out vex say I use my cousin as dp and I didn't tell him first before using it.
    I immediately knew this relationship can't work.
    Thank God, not too long i met my hubby
    chai I felt dis inner peace. Abeg the story Long nor be today talk.

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    1. Immature men are always looking for who to control and manipulate

      Or the ones who torture or play games to entertain themselves or feed liability egos

      Abeg such people GOD please let me and them be ike parallel lines in Jesus Christ name Amen

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