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Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE

THE CONFRONTATION


So guys, please i need your honest opinion on an issue.

 There is this my childhood friend (we were not too close then) that came back into town because of work, we reconnected, she was in my line of business too when she was in PH, being here now, she asked me to allow her use my poultry house and brood her birds since I was not using it for the mean time...


 I allowed her but with the warning that, she should come and stay and take care of her birds during the brooding period (brooding period is always 2 weeks max, very delicate period that can make or Marr the business ). 

She put the birds, came and stayed in my house, before she came, I have 3 chickens in my compound, so I started taking small portion of her chicken feed and gave to my birds (in front of her ooo), instead of her to tell me to my face to stop taking small of her feed to feed my 3 birds, she now went and bought locks and locked the poultry house....


This is someone that, all her stay in my house, she used my things and ate my food, when I killed one of the chicken during her stay with me, she finished almost all the chicken in the stew and I was busy accusing my help of stealing meat from the stew. 

When I confronted her about the locks, she said it was because I didn't help her to do anything that's is why she got angry and locked it, help that I warned her from the very onset that she has to come and stay and take care of her birds.


 Meanwhile she asked for only 2 weeks, now it's over 6 weeks she's not making plans to move, now I need to use the poultry house, how do I ask her to move her birds (she is done building her own poultry house but doesn't want to move) peacefully because I don't want/like trouble/problem. 

Was I wrong in confronting her?





Hmmm, what you guys have was tested and honestly you are not friends...Ask her nicely to leave that you need the space and be stern faced about it...This move will definitely end the friendship but please before her staying with you degenerates into fights.

You were not wrong in confronting her but you had no right using her feeds to feed your chicken... She also did not have any right to do what she did with your food and use your things at will.... With real friends all these things dont matter but like i said, you both are not friends.....

Get rid of her and move on!

78 comments:

  1. You shouldn't have started what you can't finish. Trust me, this won't end well. If you tell her to leave, you guys will be enemies for life.

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    1. Your First line πŸ‘Œ.
      Well, whichever way it won’t end nicely because already her stay isn’t going well too. so it best she tells the lady to leave before things escalate.

      Big Booty Mechanic

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    2. This friendship may sink after this but have an open conversation with her stating why she needs to pack up and go.
      You allowed her to stay and people can be different so she not wanting to share the feed with you may seem selfish but she’s allowed to hate what she doesn’t like.

      You on the other hand should let her know it’s time to pack up and leave, you should also learn to put “you” first.
      If after having a mature conversation with her and she decides not to be understanding then that’s on her.

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    3. Friendship is not for everybody. Sadly some don't realise until they experience it.

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  2. You took her chicken feed to feed your chickens, whether in front of her or not, you didn't ask her. Also killing her chicken to prepare stew, or whatever is wrong. She has also overstayed,kindly ask her to leave. Growing up with someone doesn't mean you're friends.

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    1. Not her friends chicken but she killed her own gan gan

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    2. I think she meant killing her own chicken and not her friend's own.

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    3. The friend did not ask before eating her chicken....come on!

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  3. Why is it difficult to tell someone how u feel???
    Like u don’t want trouble for your own property again.
    Tell her and face front,u shouldn’t have accepted her coming in the first place

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    1. The thing nor tire you? Straight talk wey you go use maximum of 2 minutes communicate unequivocally, una go dey dance atilogwu on top, dey write chronicle because you don't want to be labelled "a bad person" by an ungrateful and selfish person. Hian! Padlock wey you go don use mallet break, help her transfer her birds inside those local cage, call her to come carry them 48 hours after you play her the 411. It's not like she doesn't even have where to take them now sef.

      After some deadly diseases, na "mumuism" and "see finish" dey kill pass. Frenemies forming yeye friendship. Kuku wait till she changes the locks in your kitchen and entire house na. And next time, feed your birds as you were before you saw "awoof" because now, you have given her the opportunity to feel the (her) feed you fed your birds is payment already for her accommodation. Clear her doubt sharp sharp or keep sulking for peace' sake.

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    2. This your comment cracked me up i swear

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  4. Poster you could have asked her before using her feeds,Since she asked for your permission for her own needs aswell.
    But that your friend isn't nice,You sacrificed all of that for her and she couldn't look away from ordinary feed.Abeg tell her to move to her tent ASAP.

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    1. He didn’t ask because he thought they were freely using each other’s things
      How can you eat someone’s food and be shocked when they use your feed

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    2. Exactly anon 15.33 . She stayed rent free and utilities free oo nawa

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  5. Anything you can’t afford to give ,don’t borrow it out to anyone.Apartmtnt o,money o,poultry farm, don’t even try it.

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  6. Politely tell her and whatever the outcome is just maintain

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  7. I believe she’s an ingrate. You are using someone’s facilities for free and the absolute least she could do was let u feed ur chicken from her feeds.

    Tell her, it’s way past 2 weeks and you already planned to use ur stuff. I don’t like people that don’t appreciate favours at all

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  8. Ask her to leave or give her terms and conditions after all is your house and your the 1 feeding her las las you guys won't be on talking terms again...
    Just remembered when I accommodates my friend, I saw hell coz I was practically a slave in my own house, providing for food, laundry both our clothes, until God gave me Sense, just my attitude alone made him to leave my house.

    #Razzy

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  9. Just tell her to leave and that you need your space. Good afternoon

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    1. I just remembered when allowed my friend to used the front of my shop to do fast food she turned my shop to some thing else... To add salt to the sour this lady Left everything she used, for Arab country with out telling me and came back after a year that she wants to start where she stop I said no enemity start but I still gave her another potions ... to God be the glory she doing fine now , to you poster tell your friend to move

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  10. You didn't say whether you you told her and she refused to leave.

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  11. You should have bought the little feed you need in feeding your 3 chickens. No excuse for that.
    She is probably a user and not your friend.
    You saw her as a friend, and you assumed that since you were helping her out with poultry to keep her chickens, taking little portion from her stuff to feed your chickens was ni big deal. She showed you its a big deal by locking up the place. Thats what creating boundaries mean. Apparently, she does not see you as a friend, she just needed help with where to keep her chickens.
    I will advise you to keep thesame energy politely.
    Since the time you gave her is up, tell her straight up to leave.
    There is no gain in suffering in silence. I understand you dont want drama, but drama will eventually settle this as she has exceeded the time you gave her and she is not ready to move.
    She is a firm person. She locked up her chicken feed when she didnt want you to take it, and she was not sorry about it. She told you to your face that she did it because you didnt help out in taking care of her chickens.
    Return the energy!!!
    Tell her the time is up, you also need to use the place.
    There is no sin in that.
    If she wants to continue with the ‘friendship’ after moving out, fine. You guys should continue. If she feels the friendship is over, fine then. Move on.
    Stop this unnecessary question and do what is right by you.
    You first. She showed you that already.
    Sista Jane.

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    1. πŸ₯°❤😍 @Sista Jane.
      No long thing. Or better still, tell her that it's 5k rent per day for the use of your poultry henceforth and she'll need to be paying a week's rent in advance. Add Netflix drama by typing out the agreement and ask her to append her signature. If I hear say she no use keke NAPEP come meeeuve her things and padlock within 30 minutes, we go know wetin cause am.

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    2. Amebonawork you is wicked 🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣

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  12. Regardless of what relationship I have with anyone, I make sure I ask first before using anything that's not mine. You should have asked her first even though she was living with you and using your poultry πŸ—. That's what courtesy and self respect entail.

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    1. Some asking is actually annoying
      If I’m using your stuff and you start asking before using mine, it’s like you’re sending a message

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  13. Tell her you want to use your facility and she should move. You should be serious about this. Remind her that your agreement was. It six weeks, that she had over stayed.
    A relationship that does not give one peace is not a good one. It is better each of you go your separate way.

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  14. Poster, you two weren't and aren't friends. First,you should never have used her feed without her permission. Na you start the see finish and she helped you complete am. Then, when she began overreaching, you should have been very serious about it. How did two weeks get to six weeks and you just kept quiet? Then to crown it all,she locked the place with her own keys. Una two never see anything. She won't leave until her brood is completely grown. So just be patient and wait for two to four more weeks.


    Next time when helping people, don't start what you can't finish. If you won't be happy when your things will be misused, don't misuse theirs. Na so wahala dey start.

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  15. Don’t force this friendship
    Tell her politely and after that you both should face your lives

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  16. Declare to your tent oh Israel. Let her go peaceful. The beefing have started let it not degenerate into something serious.

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  17. If her own poultry is ready, let her move naa. Tell her to move her birds.

    All these generated from when she locked the poultry since you were using her feeds, Abi you dunno feeds are expensive now? Two of you were using each other. She used your poultry, you use her her feed. You kill fowl, she chop am well, you vex as she lock her feed, oya usage is complete, both of you move.

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  18. Pls poster, always remember people aren't perfect and can sometimes make mistakes.u allowed her to stay with u in the first place cos u felt she was ur friend and u could accommodate her,so y complaining now?
    My advice,u should ignore whatever she's doing presently and allow her leave in her own time while u keep reminding her peacefully. like u say,u don't want trouble.we should all realize,we are humans and imperfect,inviting someone to live with u,u ought to have been ready for bullshit even if it's was a blood relation,it would have been same cos human aren't perfect

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    1. She should allow her to leave in her own time?
      On top of her property? Are you serious? Can you take that?
      So you are saying the poster’s need does not matter, as long as her ‘friend’ is pleased? She wants to use her space, the borrower should move. This is not even an issue.
      Sista Jane.

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    2. This is how u people enable ingrates πŸ™„

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    3. Her own time? My own house? My fren leave my house abeg!! From 2wks to 6wks. Annoying me already! I hate users!

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    4. Na laminated visa BV Ross go take enter paradise laslas. Abeg come tutor me for Peace 101 o.
      πŸ˜„πŸ˜…πŸ€£πŸ€£.
      Na the day wey she gather kidney buy padlock lock up my poultry she for don move commot. Not an hour more.😏

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    5. Dear poster
      You see this advice, don’t follow it
      Learn to set boundaries, I used to complain about people not treating me right but when I learnt that it was my fault, I started to demand better.
      No one will disrespect you if you don’t give them the chance, stop being nice to people who do not deserve it, cus na you go be Mumu, you will end up complaining and insulting them in your mind while they continue to flourish…if trumpet sounds na you no go make heaven.

      I have learnt to set boundaries, even Jesus set boundaries in his fathers house when they wanted to turn it to a place of business, it’s part of being an adult. Learn it


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    6. See one of them. Awon users. Poster, don't listen to this advice o.

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    7. You will always know a user from how it speaks.

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  19. Next time ask before using something that belongs to someone else. It's not the difficult to ask her to leave abeg

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    1. Na only that one you see? Did she steal the feeds? She took the feeds in her presence na, na wa o

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  20. Using her feeds to feed your own just 3 birds isn't a big deal to me not that you're stealing it or something you're doing it to her face, someone that gave you an apartment including access to everything in it even 'apartment' for your birds the least she can do is to be feeding her friends birds together with hers. Just tell her to vacate that you want to use your poutlry, simple

    NB that your friend is a user!

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  21. Did you tell her it was only two weeks
    Cause it seems uou are changing the plan now out of annoyance
    If you’re really ready to use your poultry, go buy the chicks

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  22. I don't know why people overstay their welcome, tell her frankly that you need your poultry, if friendship wants to continue or not, fine.

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  23. This is why i hardly start what i cannot finish.I don't know what is wrong with some people these days, small help you want to give them they start showing themselves.What is chicken feed compared to chicken accomodations and her own accomodations with feeding that you gave her.Please just tell her to leave since the energy between the two of you is now bad.

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  24. Wahala wear long agbada.

    You two are Neighbour's..
    Don't start what you cannot finish.
    See finish has already enter,since you take from her feed.

    Just bone and tell her you want to make use of your poultry house..

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  25. Dear Poster,

    Nawa ooooo you both ain't friends at all.
    Please kindly inform her that you want to start using the space.

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  26. poster you don't have a friend in this person at all, just talk to her nicely while smiling to ask her to please move her birds that you want to us your space to put your birds as season is fast approaching.

    No need to fight with her oh cos i know in the nearest future you will never assist her again. You should have taken permission from her before using her feed even thou is your house and her she is your friend.

    most times people abuse opportunity and privileges, pele..

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  27. Poster tell her someone else paid for your facilities and she needs to move before so so so and so date. Let her know you now rent it out and you used her to see if such business will work, that’s why it was free for her.

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    1. Are you sure we are not related? Typed the same thing πŸ‘†.

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  28. Poster, just tell her you want to use your poultry so she needs to vacate the place. Tell her calmly but know that your relationship with her won't be the same.

    She's just an ungrateful person. With all you did for her, she should have at least looked away. Since she wasn't comfortable with you using her feeds, why didn't she vacate the place? She's just a user abeg.

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  29. Poster, you started using her feed because she was eating your food and you thought it was trade by barter. She didn't ask you to feed her. You feed her of your own volition but decide to indirectly make her pay for the food.

    I have met people like you. They give you something and then they start taking from you just to recoup what they spent on you.

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    1. What are you saying. Feeds for 3chickens only and feeding someone for 6weeks in this buhari. How can you compare. That lady is selfish and self-centered. A user, simply put. Chase her out immediately

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    2. Jesu πŸ₯ΊπŸ™„πŸ˜

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  30. Politely tell her you want to use your poultry and give her a week to remove her birds .

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  31. @ sista Jane...am not saying the poster should allow her friend keep living with her.but the poster wants to resolve this issue without problems..so it's best she allows her friend leave in her own time while she keeps reminding her peacefully.

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  32. Not everyone is your friend, some are colleagues, some are church members, some are compound neighbors,some are people you have met.Revaluate your stand with people before calling them your friends, some people are just users and will use you to the last, u can’t benefit anything from being close to such people,they use you as long as they can before dumping you when they notice they can’t benefit anything from you anymore. Remind her of ur 2weeks agreement and let her know she needs to leave, it will ruin ur closeness but it doesn’t matter.

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  33. POSTER, You should have asked before using her fowl feeds.

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  34. Seeker of God's presence5 August 2022 at 17:03

    Sister poster,follow your heart.you started it,sort it out please

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  35. Poster l doubt if she's your friend, she's so ungrateful.
    Tell her to leave.

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  36. Poster are u afraid of ur friend remind her that the 2wks has over expired and give her 3days to vacate ur house with all her troubles.

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  37. Dear Poster, politely and firmly tell her her time is up and you would want to use your facility.
    You two can still be friends from afar.


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  38. The normal me will give her 72 hours notice of eviction. But the born again me will confront her politely and tell her to vacate the place coz you want to use your place.


    Either ways just know that relationship is gone.

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    1. Situations expose who people really are

      Were they really friends before?

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  39. One PSquare song says.... No start wetin you no go fit finish, I no be George Finidi oh oh oooo☺️.Poster dear una so called friendship has just been tested. Sorry no true or real friendship here. Pls do the needful.

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  40. Poster you did wrong by taking her feed without permission. She took permission before using you facility to brood her birds and your agreed. You know how expensive chicken feed is now.
    Since shes done brooding her birds just tell her you want to buy birds to brood so you need her to move her birds.Right now your friendship don get k-leg so no need pretending.

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  41. It's your poultry house right? Ask her to leave na, if she refuses, do it by force, why allow anyone take you for granted, ontop your own property, Madam you are not ready to do your business. Haba!!

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  42. Hmm you both are not friends abeg.
    Ask her to leave and say goodbye for good

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  43. Call another friend of yours or wicked sister in law wey no dey look face to act like she’s renting the place or leasing it tell her to leave before the end of the month you’ve rented it out non refundable fee

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  44. Please give us update o.

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