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Tuesday, September 27, 2022

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE COOKIE JAR REQUEST.



Good day Mrs korkus,


 I have this issue bothering me, I need your red pen.

I'm 24, a graduate currently a Corp member and a Virgin. I held my virginity to a high status because I saw the level of immorality in this present day and I sort to be different by closing my legs. It was a struggle during my University days.


Right now, my boyfriend of one year is asking for the cookie, I crave for it too but I thought I could be a team "till wedding night". I love him soooooo much but sadly I don't see myself getting married to him because I see he lacks so many things like confidence, he's not really smart, doesn't understand things quickly, he's not ambitious, while I am overly ambitious, I want a comfortable future for myself at least. 


He's not working as he just graduated,

Do you and my fellow Bvs think that there's no big deal in this virginity stuff? Or do you think it pays to "close legs"?

What if at the end of the day, I don't regret it

What if at the end of the day, I regret not giving it to him?

He's been enduring since and I get the urge too..,. How do I go about this?

The response I get here will be my final decision. Thanks ....




Hmmmmm this a tough one but I am not a goodie two shoes, so i will tell you how it is.....Being a virgin does not secure a relationship or Marriage, if you know this you will have peace... Keeping your legs closed until you find the man that will marry you is good and saves you from pregnancy worries and s#xually transmitted diseases but you can marry as a virgin and have a hubby who gifts you STDs every other day or leaves you at home and goes after ahewos that have more experience..

If you MUST DO IT with the man you described up there , please insist on protection but please dont, wait for someone that is well put together as the one you described up there will bring regrets....

Still keep your legs closed for now..When you are ready, you wont ask anyone if you will do it or not, you will know what to do...

*Tight hugs*

97 comments:

  1. Well,if o had known I would have kept mine, it saves from a lot of headache, I hope you don't get to write your own if you had known

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    1. I am a virgin pls keep urs joor

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    2. I have just one advice, asides saving you from STDS, staying intact until marriage keeps your destiny in check. So many people out there waiting for who to jinx via sex.

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  2. He's not the type that you see yourself getting married to so why are you considering giving in to him?

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    1. Exactly! My dear you have been holding yourself for so long, I believe you can still do it until u find the right person.

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    2. Don't gift him what you have sacrificed to preserve. That thing you call love is just LUST.
      BY the time you have popped the cherry, you might regret it..

      Please, reserve it for your pleasure not to please any man but to satisfy your God.. Please God to displease man, it will benefit you Very much.. Hugs

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    3. Not worth it. Fashy him and be focus and prayerful.

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  3. Stella is right
    You don’t like this msn like that so find someone you like
    Also, don’t listen to his stories about holding since last year
    For one, he may be getting it elsewhere. For two, that is not your problem. As long as you were straightforward from the beginning, him choosing to wait is his choice too

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    1. This comment ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

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  4. You don't see yourself getting married to him, but you wanna knack him, is that not waste of sin?, with all the negatives you listed, why would you go ahead and off pant? Abi konji is clouding your senses? If you must knack, knack better person even if marriage is not in view. No waste your knacks abeg.

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    1. This is my advice too. Find better person to knack abeg. Meanwhile, Unless the person you’re marrying is a virgin, enjoy yourself my sister. Youth is fleeting.
      Knack responsibly with protection and std checks

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  5. Stella's red pen made a lot sense today. Take her advice and have peace.

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  6. What do you want for yourself? Good afternoon

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  7. My dear, since you have stayed this long, why not wait till your wedding night? You will be glad you did.

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  8. Poster, please read The Captive's Diary. Therein lies your answer.

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    1. Captive’s Diary by who?? The book no get author?? Una go just write incomplete comment sha

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    2. Author, pls?

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    3. @Anon 15:51; I can feel your anger from here. Oga/madam, abeg no vex. I am not the "causer" of your problems. "Tanz mah/sah"
      @Anon 16:20; Captive's Diary by Precious Obialor. (I'm sorry I didn't realise I had not added the author's name before I clicked on "Publish". When I realised, i tried logging in again with my ID but Opera is/was still acting up. I got busy with work along the line). I'm sorry.

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  9. Poster kudos to you for keeping your virginity ,please take Stella's advice.

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  10. Your instincts are already telling you that you are not ready for this. So listen to your inner mind and wait for the right time.

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  11. Lets break it down,at least an estimate which is subject to change too..

    Ceralac Rice- #2500
    Cerelac Wheat- #2500 OR
    Friso Gold- #3000

    You buy weekly

    Diaper Maxi- #6300 (lasts two weeks)

    Hospital list for new born- 40 to 50k

    Vaginal delivery- 70k(at least)

    Caesarean Section- between 250k to 400k depending on hospital location,could be more

    Pregnacare #4500 monthly

    Antenatal and routine drugs???

    New born essentials from Bed,oil,baby wash,blanket etc;lets keep it 50k

    Omugwo collectively??? Food etc??

    Sorry poster,You say he doesnt have a job and lacks ambition?

    Copy and paste this somewhere;it will help you on the long run my sister in the Lord..

    @MARTINS

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    1. Well put together @Martins

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    2. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ CHAI!!

      Make me sef copy and paste this somewhere oh. I still want more babies biko.

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    3. Martin's o๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚. U is Wicked

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    4. ๐Ÿ˜†๐Ÿ˜†๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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    5. Don't I just love you Martins.
      Poster trust me, as someone who had sex for the first time at 27 with the man I married, wait.

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    6. Martin's the Encyclopedia, I hail oooo ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ

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    7. Martin’s ehh ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ cereac is even 3,500 not 2,500 NAN nko? Let’s not even go there ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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    8. Hahahaha. Martins this your list na 2014 list o. Poster multiply everything there by 3 and paste to your bathroom wall

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    9. Lol Martins you bad oo
      But that's just the Truth

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    10. Hahaha@ bathroom wall๐Ÿคฃ.She should make the words bigggg while at it so she fit read am even from her room and living room๐Ÿ˜

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    11. Martins ๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒนGod bless you

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  12. Whatever mehn,
    But dont give your virginity to a broke ass!..
    I hope you have a good character cos whether you are a virgin or not,your behavior matters..

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    1. Lindosky nwa Queens kedu nwanne?

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  13. It all depends on your why...For me, it's mostly for myself. I just do not want to do it outside marriage. And mind you it's not for my husband, it's for me. I suggest you find your why and hold strongly to it. Because Konji is strong. But if you want to go ahead, let it be from the bottom of your heart and not because your boyfriend is asking you but because you want to do it. That way if things go sideways latter on you can bear the consequences without regret, knowing that in that moment, you wanted to do it.

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  14. Poster, I must commend you for keeping your virginity till date. Losing it now to your current boyfriend or waiting for a future time to do so depends solely on you because only you know what you want for yourself. All the best.

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  15. Me I will be Miss Goody one shoe oh SDK ๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„.
    Poster I have a question;

    1. Why did you keep your virginity till now? I assume it is because you fear God and want to obey His commands, which is THE RIGHT THING TO DO.

    You see service year ehn, the temptation that comes with that 1 year, no be here. Thank God I pulled through be the grace of God intact, and so can and will you. This is the real test of your resolve. Trust me, you will DEFINITELY REGRET it if you do it now.

    Apart from the possible STDs etc. There are also spiritual implications of having s*xual intercourse (read up on that) and which is what God is trying to protect us from when he said "...flee fornication."

    Why are you asking SDK when you can ask your maker (God) for the right thing to do. Your Bible is there, your conscience is there, screaming as we speak, your mind is also talking. As Stella said, you already know the answer. Stand on your resolve, this man is even not your speck, tone down the relationship, or break up with him and engage yourself in activities that would keep you occupied and remove your mind from "cookie" sharing for now. If not, see you see increasing body count (God forbid).

    When you keep your virginity, it is not for anyone, but for yourself. You are important! You matter!! Your relationship with your Maker is sacrosanct! Don't jeopardize it due to pressure that is not even attractive to you.

    Some people will call it "waste of sin" ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

    S**?? Na you go tire oh. You go dey run sef when they tell you let's do the do ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿƒ‍♂️. Just hold on dear.

    BE STRONG !! YES YOU CAN ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช Receive Grace in Jesus name.

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    1. Amen thank you. I'm the poster btw.

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    2. Hugs from me poster ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

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  16. Dear poster,

    Please kindly keep your legs closed for your own sanity and dignity.

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  17. Don't give in and it be nice you continue being you.

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  18. If u want to loose a virginity u have kept for long,pls do it with some one who u are very sure will be getting married to you.if u aren't ok with this guy,let him go and don't be tempted to loose ur virginity..u have kept ur body for long without s*x,then u can still pray and be strong while waiting for the right one to come.

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  19. Hmm Poster I would want you to understand something: There is a difference between Virginity and Purity...What is the purpose of keeping your virginity? Only you can answer this question...

    However I will not advise you to sleep with the guy you described up there because you will regret it...Even you must do before marriage, why not do it with someone that meets your criteria and qualities; where there is a real commitment with you....Even if you want to fornicate, do it carefully and not with just anyhow persons...

    Remember there are STIs that are worse than HIV e.g chlamydia, herpes e.t.c. which condoms will not efficiently prevent...Sex is more spiritual than physical; there is an exchange of energy so you really need to think straight....My dear I will advise you; don't do it now, save it for later....All the best...

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  20. Okay I think if u do not want to keep it for yourself please do cos of God except you don't fear him

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  21. Being a virgin doesn't guarantee you a happy relationship or a perfect union. But it saves you a lot of stress.

    1)Stds/stis
    2)feeling of worthlessness
    3)unplanned/unwanted pregnancy depending on how to want to call iy
    4)Baby budget
    5)Emotional dependenxy
    6)Indecisiveness on whether or not to end the relationship.
    7)sexual guilt.

    Nobody says keeping yourself is easy. It's the hardest thing I know. Because what should one do with all the hormones and urges?.

    I won't say pray about it. Nah!!it's very natural. All that can be done is burn that energy on something. Exercise, walk, clean etc. Distract yourself.

    And these urges will always come when you are with someone you "love".like it's said, the best way to avoid sin, is to avoid the occasions of sin.

    Don't stay in secluded area with him. Or anyone else you intend to date. And yes, it is very possible to keep yourself till marriage.

    What's your definition of a virgin by the way?

    And now to him. If you don't vibe with him, please let him go. Because if you give in to sex thinking it will make things good, I'm sorry but it'll be a disaster.
    Go for someone who operates on the same frequency or even close.

    One year is a lot of emotions, but don't tie him and your happiness down because you feel it's a long time together.

    Wait, is your reason for keeping yourself for moral reasons as you stated earlier or because you haven't seen the man you like? Be careful

    ๐Ÿ™‹OK bye

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    1. You said it all. Poster the choice is yours. Free yourself from fornication

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    2. Gbam. Nice one๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿพ

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  22. Please don’t give it to that efulefu. Keep it closed pls like superglue

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  23. Is your virginity an air for him to breathe for survival, because I don't understand "he has been enduring since" you added to your chronicle.
    Don't let anyone guilt trip you, close your legs to avoid unnecessary stories.
    Experience is always a sweet way of learning if you're learning from somewhere else's story.
    It's better you start planning for marriage if you both can't hold it up again but don't make decisions solely on your current sexual request because it entails more.

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  24. I was hoping to see comments like - this girl should be protected from Dante and Ceaser at all cost๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

    Anyway, see ehn, virginity is big deal, I no go lie for you,. Don't listen to those that'll tell you it doesn't guarantee a successful marriage, like it's ahewo lifestyle that guarantees ๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„

    In as much as I'll advise you keep till wedding night as it's something your husband would be proud of, a bragging rights to yourself, an example to your kids, spiritual blessings etc.. I'll also tell you to do what would make you happy.. just be careful in whichever choice you go with.

    Good luck

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    1. I read your comment till the end today Dante. Good words coming from you. ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ

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    2. The law, Don't come for my head o. I just want to explain something. Ehen.

      It doesn't guarantee a successful marriage In the sense that, I can't be having the character of "woke girls"if you understand what I mean and then fold my hands and say to myself

      "I am a virgin, that will do. My husband should be proud ". No, I still need to work on my character and attitude

      Same way, some may say, they are true Christians and cannot be sick. But we all know that if we don't live and eat healthy, we will fall sick.

      Our commitment and God's grace by the says whether or not we have a successful marriage. Not because we got married as virgins.

      And yeah, it's a bragging right for herself and himself

      And a loose lifestyle isn't one that we celebrate. ๐Ÿค—

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    3. Hydrogen..

      Cool,. Also if there's any complications after wedding like delay in childbirth, God forbids, the man won't start thinking it's due to her past life style..

      Having said that, I don't remember saying I'm a lawyer here or anything, please don't give me a title I didn't claimed abeg๐Ÿ™

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    4. *claim

      Mehn, typing without typo error on this space is a miracle

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    5. oh, don't get upset please.

      You are argumentative, I say this as a compliment. I just have the habit of calling people who argues that.

      I take it back. ๐Ÿšฎ

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    6. Lol..
      It's cool..
      You know how people are here, if I don't stop it, they'll take it up as my new name and I don't want that.. you're not the first to insinuate I am one..

      Enjoy your night ๐Ÿ’š

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    7. @Hydrogen ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ face front. Una no dey ever hear word.

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    8. Keeping it till now, it's wonderful. Your hubby will always be proud of you even if he misbehaves.

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  25. Why are you still with him if you don't see yourself marrying him?
    There's a very thin line between love and hate.

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  26. Poster if you have kept your virginity till now, what is the point of giving to someone you're not sure of spending the future with?
    Just keep it for a better man instead. All the best to you.

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    1. Exactly. Even if you no end up marrying the better man, at least you know say na better man you give am to with no regrets. I’ll say still wait sha.

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  27. You will resent him after fcking him watch. There’s a reason why you waited 1 year. You for don have sex with him if he’s someone your heart wants. This is all pressure from him not you. You’re also horny because you probably see his big dick all the time, always going through thoughts of how it’ll feel like(and let me tell you, with the right man, you go enjoy the big warm dick weller๐Ÿ˜). My suggestion, end this relationship and stop wasting your time. Go out and meet new people with potentials and who’s ambitious like you. Meet men and ambitious women like you so they can introduce you to a good life partner. Sex with him shouldn’t even be on your mind right now when you know you don’t see a future with him. Time to move on.

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  28. Keep it until whenever you're ready,don't compromise your values because of anyone else,no matter how worthy the person is.Also follow and make friends that align with your values for motivation and encouragement,because peer pressure can be very detrimental.

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  29. Poster, I'm 28 and a virgin. You're not alone, hormones runs in us but there are decisions you make not just because of today or feelings that doesn't last forever. Keep it, you'll be glad you did

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  30. You're keeping it fir who? Buahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
    The person you are presenting this put of the universe gift, what is he giving you.
    Brand new wan give im self to fairly used chassis. ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ
    Better keep yourself for yourself.
    When you feel like finally doing the do, you do it with someone who you actually wants to do it and actually regards it as a gift.
    Most guys don't, they just like the bragging rights.
    Most guys come as fairly used, quarter to knock so I don't see why they should make those demand if any.
    Keep yourself for yourself boo.

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    1. ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ which one is quarter to knock again

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  31. Please just keep it for own your heart wishes

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  32. Poster keep your legs closed and wait. You will regret it if you go ahead.

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  33. Marrying as a virgin is both godly and morally right. It's something you will be proud to tell your children someday. Please do not give in to the sexual demands of your boyfriend. If he loves you, he will wait and hustle hard. The man who will eventually marry you will be proud of you in front of his family and friends. Please do not feel guilty about keeping your virginity till marriage. It is something you should do. Sex is too overrated; it's just a five-minute pleasure. Forget about the views of those that will advise you to do it. You'll be glad you did if you wait until marriage. 

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    1. The only thing he will be proud of in his lazy little head is that he disvirgin you. (if he did not eventually marry you).

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    2. Aunty

      Cut off from time wasters like him

      Make yourself available to direction filled person not NFA
      No
      Future
      Ambition

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  34. Boyfriend just graduated and jobless but he wants to eat cookies. Instead of him to focus on job hunting. If you don't value the cookies, you can dash him! Nonsense! Tufiakwa.

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    1. My dear
      Don't cast your pearls to swine

      Cross leg and lock up
      No time for entitled efulefus
      Dem no dey take to compensate vulture

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  35. Don't do it, but if you must,wear a condom/ use protection. I really wish you would still wait till wedding night ๐Ÿ˜”

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  36. My advice please close leg till after marriage e get why.

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  37. Poster don't do it. Keep your virginity till you marry.
    And you people that are virgins should stop telling people because a girl in my area told his yahoo boyfriend that she was a virgin, omo, the guy show am love and spending big time,. Aunty go loose guard and the guy used her. Today she is behaving like a lunatic. L

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  38. Poster I must commend you for keeping your virginity till now it isn't easy, but make sure if you want to do it it should be that you really want it and don't do it because one boyfriend pressure you to , so you won't regret it later.

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  39. Poster close your leg or else you will regret it

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  40. Hmmm poster if you must keep the coochie sealed till wedding day let it be cos you want to obey Baba God.
    Aside that,being a virgin will not automatically mean your marriage life will be heaven on earth or that it will be hell.
    And finally this person you described is a no no for me.
    You must move on from that relationship before you begin to hear stories that touch. Don't stay cos you loooooooooove him soooooo much.
    It's good you already know what you want.
    And also whenever you decide to do it with whoever make sure your partner is STD/STI free, use condom or contraceptives to avoid pregnancy, cos I tell you unwanted pregnancy and disease is the worst nightmare.
    Enjoy your life babygirl

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  41. As you've stayed this long, just keep it my dear

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  42. Poster I encourage you to hold unto the word. The word says to flee fornication and avoid sexual immorality. If you're a child of God, I adjure you to shun the world and abide in Christ. Pray for a suitable spouse and the marriage you desire, but be willing to wait for God's will and timing. Following the Lord may cost you something but as you mature in faith, you'll learn to love and obey him no matter the cost because his presence will fill you up. The Lord will not withhold any good thing from those who fear him. Just believe and he will grant you that which is good for you, at the right time and for the right purpose. Remain blessed!

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  43. Poster, abeg close ur leg til you meet the right person, to avoid the story that touches the heart. Abi you want to be a single mother.

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  44. Like you, I dated a guy and told him I am team no sex, he agreed. He was still trying to find his feet, so we dated for almost 6 years. I am 31 now and the relationship is plagued with a lot of problems, ranging from Infidelity on his part to other things.

    I don't know if things can still be salvaged, but whether or not things are salvaged, I know that I am not and will not be acutely heartbroken, even though I am a little distressed by the number of years invested in the relationship that may come to nought and the fear of when I will meet someone else and get married.

    We never had penetrative sex, but did all that hovering around rubbish. I don't know if that is why I am not so heartbroken.
    Sex is now a norm in society, but you don't have to join the bandwagon, especially since you have the power and choice. Obeying God always brings benefits.

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    1. My dear

      End the thrash and on
      Stop trying to shape shit into clay pot

      Throwing more time at it won't make it clay

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  45. Poster I waited till I married. And I’m very glad I did. I did it for myself and my God. No regrets whatsoever. I will like to encourage you to hold on to your values and find some one with similar values it would be easier for you. Before my hubby I met a couple of guys that would initially agree to the arrangement but just bid their time n gradually start making move, once they start pressuring I just remove my mind from the relationship and move on because I was very sure of what I wanted for my self and never ever deliberated on settling.

    when My hubby finally came he never for once bothered me about sex while we were dating and courting.
    6 yrs down. In VERY happy and fulfilled.

    Also as an ambitious woman you really should not end up with what you described up there as that love you feel you have for him now will eventually change to resentment when real life hits you both.
    Hugs ๐Ÿค—

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  46. The reason why you're keeping it, should motivate you.......not some excuses.

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  47. Keep it pls...it is a big deal.

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  48. Since he has started mounting pressure on you to give him please have it at the back of your mind that he want to chop his share and run.

    Is time you need to end that relationship and wait till you are emotionally ready. Have it at the back of your mind cos this guy can drug you if time is bit taken to have a taste. Do not be carried away cos you are still a virgin, you can give it to that guy without him asking anymore.

    Concentrate on important things since you are not ready for marriage.

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  49. Virginity is not a prize you award someone. If you feel like you can start having sex, find someone you feel comfortable with and have sex with the person please. Geez!.Its not that deep.

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