WICKED YANKEE SON
I never believed a mother I laboured so hard and almost had nothing on my own cos of sacrifice will see a day enjoyment and forget all my sacrifices.
My mom gave birth to just 2 of us, myself and my elder brother, we were raised closely even though she was a widow with limited resources,but she tried her best, we loved each other or so I thought...
I never believed a mother I laboured so hard and almost had nothing on my own cos of sacrifice will see a day enjoyment and forget all my sacrifices.
My mom gave birth to just 2 of us, myself and my elder brother, we were raised closely even though she was a widow with limited resources,but she tried her best, we loved each other or so I thought...
My brother was lucky to travel abroad 8 years ago, and since then he changed, he only calls to complain and we understand with him because we all know how abroad is to a newcomer. I noticed I don't see his status on WhatsApp because my cousin always gist me that my brother is enjoying in US o, that the kind of things he post on WhatsApp that he's living large..
He blocked all of us and by miracle my cousin escaped that blocking. Anyway,he called to inform us that he's marrying a lady from osun state, he came home for the wedding, even though the lady is in Nigeria we didn't get to see her until the wedding day.
Even after the wedding they left for Lagos immediately, I collected her number but she hardly picks my call so I stopped calling her too, but she calls mom once in a while and doesn't pick when mom decides to call.
We later learnt the girl has gone to meet him, all this while I never owe my brother 2k, neither do mum, she's always crying up to the extent of having bp, that a son she raised well has turned to her enemy-
I'm a state worker and I earn less than 50k yet I buy foodstuff and drugs from the money every month, I also have small gari business I do.
2020 December my brother surprised us with a visit, that Christmas we weren't even planning to do any special Cooking but immediately he showed I quickly went to my friend, God bless her and borrowed 20k , bought chicken and all just because of him, they ate,but I noticed the wife was just feeling herself and raising her nose at everything,we ignored her and welcomed her.
2020 December my brother surprised us with a visit, that Christmas we weren't even planning to do any special Cooking but immediately he showed I quickly went to my friend, God bless her and borrowed 20k , bought chicken and all just because of him, they ate,but I noticed the wife was just feeling herself and raising her nose at everything,we ignored her and welcomed her.
NEPA took light around evening time and he asked if we have generator and I said no, he then said he won't be able to sleep in heat o, we told him they'll soon bring light,he insisted and left for hotel. Next morning he came and told us they're going back to Lagos, handed 10k to my mum and 5k to me, promising to send more when he settled in Lagos.
My mom told him she'll like to have a meeting with him in order to discuss some issues but he said later and left, we were the one that call to ask for his journey and after that we never heard from him until he called to tell us he's back to US.
Back to US,he continued his normal routine no call,no message, mum always thinking and down, and I always make sure I did my best, only for him to start calling her 2 months ago,sent 50k and my mum changed mouth, anytime I mentioned his name,she'll shout at me infact now he's the oluomo just after 2 month and 50k, I kept my cool until she told me he's coming home for Christmas that I should collect loan so that we can buy gen to make him comfortable and also since it's 2 bedroom that I should go and be sleeping in my cousin house 2 streets away.
Back to US,he continued his normal routine no call,no message, mum always thinking and down, and I always make sure I did my best, only for him to start calling her 2 months ago,sent 50k and my mum changed mouth, anytime I mentioned his name,she'll shout at me infact now he's the oluomo just after 2 month and 50k, I kept my cool until she told me he's coming home for Christmas that I should collect loan so that we can buy gen to make him comfortable and also since it's 2 bedroom that I should go and be sleeping in my cousin house 2 streets away.
What kind of mother does this? That I'm not buoyant now does that make me less of a child? I don't even have a savings because of her expenses and I've never complained when she has a child that can conviniently take care of her.
I am just shocked that your brother is acting this way and so stingy with money....He does not owe you especially anything but not to take care of his mum? what a wicked man... And then you have to borrow money to entertain him and then he eats and gives peanuts and leaves? He married a wife and took her immediately with him and she is now the one enjoying?I dont know what to say but to advice you to work hard and better yourself financially so that you dont have to depend on anyone or care whether they bring money or not.......Imagine that your mother dies and your brother will bring in the dollars to bury her......God please spare us from wiced kids like this poster described.
Do not take any loan. I repeat, DO NOT TAKE ANY LOAN. At this point, my dear, focus on yourself. Put yourself first.
ReplyDeleteAs candy said do not take any loan.if he wants to feel comfortable he should send money ahead so that you can use it and buy the gen for him ,apart from that dont collect any loan just because of him..
DeleteDo not take loan to buy any gen and do not leave the house for anyone please. If he wants to be comfortable he should do the needful, if not he should continue staying in hotels when he comes to Nigeria
DeleteThis kind of mother's love is deep.
Candy is right, please don't borrow any money again.
DeleteTell him in a plain language that you don't have any money to host him, let him send money ahead of his coming, what nonsense!!
No go do pass yourself because of a stingy man!
If he buys the gen, send it with him when he is leaving
DeleteDo nor take any loan. Infact leave the house right now and stay somewhere else,till after his visit. Let your mum ask are darling son,to bring money for gen before is arrival. His wife should come and manage their stay,when they arrive. After all, them no send you.
Delete15:17, that is what he just did albeit non-verbally. The brother is crafty. The sudden 100k a two months to his arrival is all for his comfort.
DeleteHe has already factored in the price of generator and foodstuff they would be eating when they arrived inside that chicken change.
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The mother sef is not helping matter.
DeleteLike other BVs said Don't collect any loan for his coming, if he wants to be comfortable he should do the needful.
The 50k he sent is just once, he hasn't sent any since the first one, and the money was used to fix toilet and she bought a small mattress,cos it's not enough to buy Gen
Delete16:17 you see! I can't reiterate it enough. He gave your mom that money for his comfort.
DeleteYou already proved me right. Look at how you are repairing toilet and bought mattress so he could sleep comfortably when he arrives.
Your mother shouldn't have bought any mattress. She should have used the money for herself and let him sleep on the floor when he shows up. Don't bother being accommodating to him. Your brother will revert to his default setting when he leaves the country.
Very annoying
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Mama just want makeover of her house, your brother is not going to sleep in the house with his attitude
DeleteWoman tied your brother inside bottle 🍾. You know what I mean.
DeleteWhich gen is 100k? Abi I better pass my neighbour gen that sounds like grinding machine?
DeleteNa saliva dem go take fuel am?
Please oh,don't take any loan oh,if he cant stay without gen then he should send money for you to buy it or better still take him to the market so he buys it himself.
ReplyDeleteNah when u born finish and they grow you go know say na girl child be your original child!
DeleteIt is only a girl child that will listen and even reply to your stories even when she no dey feel your long stories
Na still girl go know when your mood change whether u are sad or happy
Not condemning the boy child but they are not wired that way for ages parents emotions!
If u are a single mother with a boy begin plan your PlanB because the arrival of a girlfriend or wife can make or marry you but if u are a single mother of a girl child you are blessed because that girl you go enjoy and whether she marry o! Or she no marry!
@NK, The guy had been like that before the wife came along, the wife might not like the whole situation but no choice especially if the husband can be this hard on his mother and sister
DeleteAt Nk you are very wrong, some girl children no get empathy and some men have empathy, I have seen so many ladies that don't have empathy towards family as you would think. Some will worship their husband's family and forget their own home
Delete@Nk, one of the reasons why my sister (who's a single mom) cried the day the scan showed her that she was carrying a boy.
DeleteSeun , he has not been like that. Poster said her mum raised them to be close, and now he suddenly changed to everybody's surprise.
DeleteRemember, he may not have proposed to her within a short space of time that he got to know her. You don't know when he got to know her and she may have caged his sense shortly after their first meeting.
It's not the sex that determines if the child will care for you, it's how the child is raised/nutured and if that child decides to be a wicked being when they start making money. Girls are mostly raised to cook and clean, care for younger siblings , nuture the family while the boys are not held to the same standards by most Nigerian parents.
DeleteThis your brother is callous o.
DeleteI am from an humble background and packed my bags to live in the abroad way before japa was a thing. Struggled on my own until I started making it and I thank God that for the past 8 years...I have put my parent on a salary. I have never missed it for once. I made sure they are comfortable and managed to get them to visit me abroad every year and I intend to do this until they join their ancestors.
My siblings even get support from me and I have worked two of them to join me in the abroad remaining two which I am processing!
If only your brother know that by supporting his mum and you....he will enjoy a significant increase in wealth beyond his wildest imagination.
My family is not perfect....they annoy me sometimes...but I can never be callous to any of them simply because I am living in the abroad.
Lord bless me with kind children... With fear of God..
ReplyDeleteAmen and me too
DeleteAmen
DeleteThis is one underrated prayer.
Poster, lov3 yourself. I can see the gang up and it doesn't feel good wearing those shoes.
Don't become the doormat of the wicked. Try not to talk too much. Just tell them point blank that not one of your friends is finding it easy in this economy. Let your bro use his tongue to count his teeth and do the needful. Don't slave for the wicked. Infact return the dey your lane energy they are giving you.
Don't allow any bad label they are about to put on you get to your mental state. You have to be strong now for yourself and God will turn things around in His time for your uplifting.
Hmmm Poster I sincerely sympathize with you. From your post, I see that you have accepted your fate...Mama has been waiting for a glimmer of hope and now she has seen a silver lining, she is grasping as much hope as she can in whatever way...Please don't blame her too much but to ask for Loan, I will advise you not to do so.....Most sons don't take care of their parents like a daughter would do (Discussion for another day; I have seen enough for me to arrive at this)..
ReplyDeleteWith her health conditions, I won't advise her to have high expectations of her son...I really don't know why he changed towards you and your mom but it does not give him the audacity to treat you both this way.... I understand the excitement from your mom but he has disrespected you all for too long...You & Mama need to have a long discussion with him....He is acting in a very irrational manner and it is sad his wife just tagged along...
I pray he realizes what he is doing on time before he becomes a 'prodigal son'...Please just build yourself financially and learn from everything that is happening...
All the best...
Not only sons that act that way, even some ladies. Hmmm this life is full of mysteries.
DeleteNo, Phoenix. I know ladies that act that way. The mother called me to complain. My cousin and a family friend.
DeleteWords on Marble.
Abroad people can stingy hehn... I can't date anyone that lives in the abroad when we have better odogwu's for Naija that will spoil you silly.. I said what I said
ReplyDeleteNot all of them.This guy is just self-centered.
DeleteMajority are stingy sha.. Sis focus on yourseif.
DeleteThe guy is wicked. With the exchange rate , he's still acting this way. Sad
DeleteI know a Nigerian guy living in Germany. He's a selfless being. God bless his kind soul in Jesus name. And he doesn't show off nor brag.
DeleteNa lie. I dey abroad. Me and almost everyone I know give to family steady, like we are billed steady. Unless you're expecting from a distant relative or friend who may not see you as priority. Or you are expecting from them but not strategic or humble enough to ask.
DeleteMy darling sister, please fosus on yourself, build yourself up and plan to have your own family.
ReplyDeleteWith what you wrote up ,you don't have a family.
Who's brainwashing that your brother. Ahhh.. Since 2020 he noticed you people don't have gen, he didn't send money or buy it and this is 2023. Poster abeg put yourself first and leave that you brother to man up and take up responsibilities. It's just sad you mom is entertaining his bad behaviour.
ReplyDeleteAbeg dont try and collect any loan because of him..If he wants to act like a big man when he comes back to Nigeria he should send money ahead to your mum to buy him a big lister generator so that he can enjoy his stay,,apart from that abort mission I repeat abort mission..
ReplyDeleteYourself first my dear, your brother is so mean.
ReplyDeleteGo look for your own life. Since you have relatives close by then there is someone to look out for your mother. Again, go seek your own life and don’t let life pass you by and one day make the sight of you turn you to nuisance to her. Looking for your life may mean moving abroad yourself, moving to a different state…etc.
ReplyDeleteYour brother is her child, no matter how bad he has treated her, a prodigal child will always get the party and celebration and the one on the ground becomes forgotten. You can never be only son and have that status in her eyes or the sight of the culture, so know yourself. Don’t stay there be poor for life and give your all to prove good daughter. Go seek for your own so you have something to say about your life one day and nobody can take your achievements from you, that will always be yours. So continue to take care of your mother and love her but do not sacrifice your own life along the way. She is not disabled mentally or physically, so seek for your own life and home of your own so that nobody can send you out of it as they feel.
15.25, these words hurt but you just nailed it without sentiments! Harsh but true. Poster. Sorry for all this but take this advice.
DeleteAnon 15:25 you're so emotionally intelligent.
DeleteThis chronicle upsets me greatly. If I say what's on my mind, it might be considered too harsh.
ReplyDeleteThe best way to treat people who cut you off is to cut them off too. Get out of that house and get a single room, even if it's a passage house with a shared toilet. Let your mum prepare a feast for her beloved, prodigal son. Nobody should be treated in such a way that they start feeling indispensable.
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DeletePoster,don't borrow any money to buy generator.
ReplyDeleteTell him to send money,so you buy generator and extra money to buy foodstuffs,so that he can be comfortable if he cares.
So suppose to send money so you can put things in order before he arrives..
Na wah ooo.
Can't deal
Well said.
DeleteOnly to add that you should tell him all in polite playful tones as you can manage no matter how bad you feel.
Fact is that he may not be doing well abroad. But he should have common sense to safe for a home coming visit. That is how most of them do it.
This is a tragedy really. I think OP needs to remove herself from that environment. Do not even go and see your brother when he comes.
ReplyDeleteHonestly the chronicle really saddens me, I pray help locate her, I almost cried reading her ordeal
DeletePlease don't take any loan for anybody to enjoy and forget yourself oo.
ReplyDeleteJust forget about those people poster.they are worth dying for so live your life and don’t go out of your way for anyone.
ReplyDeleteKaaaaiiiiii Poster please don’t get any loan ooooo if he comes back and cannot stay he should go to a hotel or better still buy the Generator himself. It’s really really sad that its ur own brother that’s behaving this way towards his own family. God will surely open doors of favour and blessings for you so you won’t have to care if he brings money or not.
ReplyDeleteThis will sound harsh but shey you see the way your brother distanced himself from you people ehn, that's the same way you should apply social distancing to your mom and brother. I am not even just about not sending money to your mom as a certified baller that they say he is; it is how his attitude stinks. Then he has also sold you people 2 for one kobo to his wife. If to say na the babe carry am go abroad sef, I for say but his wife has no single blame in this matter; na him be the problem through and through.
ReplyDeleteGet a loan and get a room close to.your office and dey your dey. Call your mom when you feel like it and don't pick when she calls first. Shebi she does not value your presence; so kuku let her feel your absence a bit. Shut out your brother (block his number, block him on WhatsApp and everywhere) and don't let him and his feeling funky wife meet you in that house when they arrive.
However, since this is so close to Christmas and you may not be able to quickly get a place, make sure you are in the room sleeping when your brother arrives. After the usual "welcome" to him and his wife, dress up and go to a friend's place for the rest of the day. No time to entertain anybody with food or gist. Since he has decided to be useless to you for 8 years, let him kuku complete it one decade so he can throw a uselessness party at his base.
Don't let them mess with your mental health; it's the most you've got right now. Send your mom 5k per month henceforth and face front. I know it may be hard to do but sometimes you need to excuse yourself from every table that serves disrespect and ingratitude even if the people involved are your blood.
Your brother does not even qualify as a prodigal son and this is different from you feeling entitled. You are simply protecting your mental health. Stop complaining about bim to his beloved mother and tell her straight up that you do not ever want to discuss him with her again. If you can, just do it! Everybody head go settle once. There is nothing as cold as calling the bluff of someone and his money/favours. I no wan vex abeg.
As for you, behold, your light has come. The set time to bless and favour you from the throne of grace is NOW! When everybody don hol their side for the family and there is a need for a family meeting and genuine reconciliation at that time, then you can attend.
The kind of comment I can write. I totally agree to this. Needless giving him another chance to prove himself because, he can never change. He exhausted his chances long ago.
DeleteEither he's feeling aggrieved prior to traveling to cut you guys off or he's the unforgiving type that forgets good times and good deeds and clinges only on perceived wrongs done to him.
His actions are premeditated and no amount of reaching out or pleasing him will change his mind.
He's the kind of fella that will give a "befitting burial" to a relative he denied money for medication.
He wants to be worshipped for free.
Blank him and move on. He moved on from you long time.
See me crying for the loss of my mum someone has a living mum and they don't pamper her . This life sha. Poster I would've sent you money but I fear you may use it to buy Gen for that wicked brother of yours.
DeleteMy dear you caused it the first time that you went to borrow 20k to entain him
DeleteWho does that
Omo he for come then you tell him no money ooo
That he should give you money to cook for him..
Shebi is your only brother
He cannot take you to Abroad
But he marry carry stranger that did not suffer with him to Abroad..
You better dnt take any loan you will be the one to pay for it..
I have said my own..
This Life self na waoo
Thank you so much, for always being truthful and aptly.🙏
DeletePoster, read this comment repeatedly till it sink in your head.😎
Don't take loan to entertain anyone.when they come around,you can choose not to be home at that moment,let his mother entertain him anyway she can.
ReplyDeleteThis is the time to focus on yourself,hustle as if you have no one and don't kill yourself to feed your mom.
Stella said he doesn't owe you anything truly he doesn't but what is the meaning of family,if you can't give your loved ones little things to make them happy.
I don't know why your mom can't tell your brother of his wrong doings,so because of 50k now you are not good enough.
Plenty hugs to you.
Don't be angry at mama, she's desperate to be in her son's good books so that at least he'd cater for her. Don't take any loan. I pray God blesses you so that you can ignore and match them Shii for Shii.
ReplyDeletePlease poster do not take any loan,try
ReplyDeleteand leave that environment in anyway possible.
The bible says money answered all things. dont blame your mom. its the money syndrome. put yourself together. God will see through
ReplyDeletePlease don't buy the gen, and if it will lead to confrontation kindly avoid them both. Keep trusting in God, your story will be changed for a greater testimony in Jesus name.
ReplyDeleteLet it lead to confrontation so she can speak her mind!. Every time ignore, avoid. For how long??? What is wrong with you people and speaking you minds!!! Kilode gan gan!
DeleteThis kind of brother has taken his wife's siblings abroad, at least one. Wicked brother. Find a way to stay on your own and allow them live their lives.
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ReplyDeleteThe brother With all due respect, the brother owes him.
The brother owes him.
They are family for goodness sakes. What is the essence of a family if you can be there to ease each other's burden if you can.
I am sure they have been through thick and thin in life while growing up and would have gone through struggles and hardship with a single mom. I am also sure they would have sacrificed enough for him to be where he is today and one way or the other, they are part of his success story. So why stop being each other's support now that they are grown? It is not even as if he has been doing a lot for them financially and they have been wasting it so he got tired and decided to face front, in this case he has never done anything for his family.
Family are meant to uphold each other. How can an elder brother be abroad for almost 8 years and his younger one is still in Nigeria? Except you are not interested, poster, I see no reason why he hasn't supported you to come over so you both can work hand in hand and be there for your mother.
I am honestly tired of people talking like this. In a Nigerian setting, most times, to an extent nobody achieves anything while growing up without the help of the family. Most times, it is mostly a joint effort. The help may be subtle but some people from a humble background make sacrifices for their siblings and loved ones overtime.
Don't be mad at your mom. Your case seem like that of the prodigal son who has been there for his dad only for the long lost brother to come back and he lavished him with love.
Forgive your mom, she is just happy that her son has started to acknowledge her considering she has been waiting for long for that to happen. But what she failed to understand is your brother is a user and very calculative.
You should advise her to be careful and not get too excited about the 50k because when he returns to his base the 50k she is getting will cease. He is only giving her so she would make his short stay in Nigeria worthwhile and when he goes back he stops and the ignoring continues. If he could get another place to stay, trust me he would. If his wife's family are in your location he would not bother coming over to your place.
He gave her that amount two months to his arrival so as to have a soft landing, calm her down and have an enjoyable stay.
He is very sly so don't let him have his way
I am even sure he gave her that amount so she could prepare for his arrival, ie. get a generator, so him and his wife would not die of heat, and buy enough foodstuff so they would eat and be filled. He sent the money ahead of his arrival so you could use it for him when he comes. That is why your mom is feeling guilty and looking for a way to get a generator before he comes because subconsciously she knows he expects to meet one.
I don't have much to say about his wife be ahse one thing I have noticed is, the way your partner treats you is how his/her partner would react to you and if they lack wisodm msot behave like your brother's wife. However, a wise lady would not follow suit in his wicked ways because she would be smart enough to know no matter what, deep down they would overlook his ways after all they are family and blood but with her it is different. The wife is not smart and also wicked.
Do not collect any loan. When they come let them have a taste of what you all have been going through.
Let them starve and be hungry
This should propel you to work harder and be focused in life. Also get close to God in prayer. Don't rely on him and if he gives kindly reject it and focus on your hustle. Watch God bless you.
One more thing, that your last statement is not necessary. She is your mom too. God will reward and uplift you. Be patient.
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Don't do anything for him and his wife. Come back and give us update.
P. S, I don't proofread. Make una no vex.
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I like your comment
DeleteThank you. Na real Efulefu
DeleteSDK thanks so much for posting this, I've been checking to see when it will be posted.
ReplyDeleteI don't plan to collect any loan to entertain him, and I already told mum that once I vacate the house for her and her son, I won't come back when he leaves, I've sacrificed alot and I'm not sacrificing anything again, she said I should do whatever I like, that I'm not reasonable. Anyway I'll put up with my cousin for a while till I find my feet, thankfully my cousin is very accommodating so I'm sure I'm welcome till I can get myself together. Let me give her and her precious son space. It is well, I know things are just like this for sometime, God will never forget me
Poster, pls give them S P A C E.
DeleteGive them space,the Lord will send your own helper to you in Jesus name.🤗🤗🤗
DeleteIt is well with you. Take care of yourself 💋💗
DeleteI'm so happy to read this. May God settle you.
DeleteBy the way, do send us an update.
The acts your brother is displaying is beyond the physical. His wife might also be a suspect based on the attitudes she is also manifesting, I bet you it's not ordinary. For your own sanity please don't take any loan, he will not appreciate it.
ReplyDeleteAbeg, please leave the woman/wife out of this.
DeleteIf all narrated by Poster is true, the brother is selfish and wicked.
A selfish man will visit and make them all comfortable during his stay and leave them hanging after.
A wicked person does not give, takes for his/her comfort and then piss in the bucket of help. That's what the brother is doing here.
Dollar is 1 = N1200 today. Yet he expects who to make his stay comfortable? A N50,000 salary earner?
Lady poster, in all you do, keep your head on, use your wits as a woman to get all the money needed from him. If you have to fake sweetness or affection do. Just don't tell lies because he or his wife would cross -check and justify his wickedness with the lies.
Simple: You cannot afford a gen; nobody to lend you now because of the Xmas season and rising cost of living; thank God you are coming Broda, please send so money for gen and put small on top so we can make the place comfortable for you and Iyawo; bla, bla
If he do well you can move for his comfort. If the bill is too much, he will run and you ensure your Xmas.
Mr. Mann
Nothing spiritual here. He cut the family off before marrying. Read it again how he blocked them viewing his status.
DeleteI Feel so bad about this Chronicle.
Poster, Don’t take any Loan.
ReplyDeleteYour Brother is a Selfish, Stuck-up and Stingy Fellow. He hates his Roots.
Please, Try and save money and look after yourself.
Some Mothers no be am at all, because she wants to be in sin good Book, she wants to destroy the good relationship you have shared over the years.
All man for thyself, sometimes, Be selfish too and take care of yourself before others.
It's like you guys are building your life and hope around your brother. You especially must stop that. Just as Stella said, build yourself up and focus more on yourself. Don't be gingered into collecting loan, even if your brother says he will pay you when he come. Don't fall for it.
ReplyDeleteThe mother and son fit each other
ReplyDeleteMany of our mothers prefer their boys to be successful . They are just managing girls success. Once the boy settles a bit, they will say he is greater than you and like him more. It’s complicated but those who know know
My sister go online and find you a nice guy. Don’t borrow money. Ask your brother to send money if he wants gen and good food
My dear please listen to all the advice given above.
ReplyDeletePUT YOURSELF FIRST BEFORE ANYONE
I am shouting yes i am
Your mum should have a meeting with him when he comes.someone needs to talk sense to him.if the mum and siblings doesn't eat his money,I wonder who will.
ReplyDeleteThe sudden change of your mum's attitude is painful there s nobody that will not feel that kind of deep pain, just don't worry some mothers will be like so you want me to reject my son at least he has come around to show love forgetting that all those dark days you re there for her
ReplyDeleteDon't worry too much ,but how can you take loan for generator when someone in abroad is coming just to make him comfortable when the repayment period comes nko na for your head e go land, as it is start making plans for yourself no time I pray your brother change cos even to appreciate you that's taking care of your mum no matter how little he should try since it's like this no too worry yourself
Good luck in your endeavors
Focused on yourself poster.
ReplyDeleteCut both of them off after telling them your mind..
ReplyDeleteNonsense
See as the thing dey vex me,.
ReplyDeleteYou even went to borrow 20k to impress the knuckle head..
Asin to impress someone who treats you like sh!t,. For what exactly? As thank you for treating you like sh!t or what..
I feel like slapping some senses into your hrad..
Tell both of them today right now..
Text/chat your brother and give him a load down of his fvck up.. clear momsi doubts too. Make sure you tell momsi to tell him to ce and take her overseas and find who to be taking care of her cos you're leaving the house for her..
Your brother must have taken his ungrateful traits from her.
Mtcheew
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DeleteExactly the brother took that trait from their mother. The mother totally forgot all hr sacrifices...
DeleteGbam. Just like he forgot all his mother’s efforts growing up. Poster needs to get up and time to shift focus on her. Be selfish for once lady!
DeleteWhat an ungrateful son and mother
ReplyDeleteIf na me be you, I go just Carry my bag find somewhere out of their sight stay for some time, for my sanity sake.
ReplyDeleteI used to cry sometimes for being an orphan, but with a mother like this, is better to be motherless.😎
It's well poster.your reward from God will be greater.Your brother wife is as heartless as your brother, a good woman can talk Sense into her hubby. I have witnessed what my cousin brother wife did to her mother inlaw,I fear some women( I'm a woman) that woman died she did not attend her her burial.
ReplyDeleteSorry posteri can understand how you feel. But it's high time you started Putting your own interests and happiness first . Your brother is very wicked !!
ReplyDeleteI don't even know what to say... Poster pls focus on yourself I pray God bless you just move out of that house first and start taking care of yourself let your mummy face her wicked lovely son .
ReplyDeletePlease speak to your brother when he comes. You don't have to tell him you are having discussion. Once he comes let him know you're not happy with the way he is treating you and your mum. Tell him you are tired and have to plan for your life,he should pick his mum to abroad. Do it calmly without a fight, when you are done pick your bag and leave the house for a day or two then watch what will happen. Its not good thar you waited this long to speak with him.
ReplyDeleteThank God you've decided to leave. May God send helper to you, because your mum is gradually becoming toxic so leaving with her will drain you, move far from her and she'll know your impact in her life
ReplyDeleteYour brother is a very wicked human being.His wickedness should be graded the highest.I also see you and your mum are very humble people,Una no Dey mad for Una house.If not by now someone should have locked him inside bottle or turn his face towards his family. Go to any spiritual church or meet a strong Alfa to find out what the problem is and seek for solution.
ReplyDeleteMy elder brother travelled last year and I can attest to what he’s done for the family.No cap
Don’t you ever take any loan for anything .He should get the generator then he should buy one
.He should also provide money for foods.Don’t spend your 1kobo on his head.
Since your mum supports him ,reduce the way u spend on both of em.
He’s such an ungrateful person.
Follow him the way he wants to be followed.
Poster don't dare take any loan.
ReplyDeleteInfact leave the house for them this Christmas period. And only come as a visitor when he is around and you can tell him to his face why he has been so wicked to his mother.
If your mother can't talk to him then she must be a really weak person.
She needs to talk sense into that unfortunate, ungrateful and wicked child she bore. If she doesn't and cannot open her mouth to make demands and correct his way, then let her continue living in tears. And if after she talks to him and correct him but he isn't willing to take it then you all should ignore him and take him as he is, stop expecting anything from him anymore.
He is a wicked person.
I’m sorry this might come out harsh but this is exactly what i noticed. Poor people mostly lack dignity and even Nigerian politicians know this that is why they take us for a ride. They do their rubbish and after every every, they come and share soap and 500 naira, and boom! They are forgiven all of their sins and atrocities.
ReplyDeleteIf not what is this? After all the rubbish he did, he came and gave u 5k and u collected? For God sakes would u have died if u had rejected his 5k? He left and didnt call u guys and u kept calling him? Op u guys enabled him, including u.
So if u like, have some dignity and self respect. If u dnt, continue following him like fly, it is up to u.
I dont like it when people say siblings dont owe each other anything. Please, they do. If you are doing well and have sense, you ought to help/assist your sibling(s) that are not. It fosters love and unity in the family. That evil statement is the cause of the mayhem happening in the poster's family right now. Siblings owe eachother please.
ReplyDeletePls poster forgive your mother but as for brother do not borrow any money to make him comfortable.
ReplyDeleteAnytime I read stories like this, I just cringe, especially as a mum of boys. My brother is fortunately is the opportunity. Very family oriented. I pray my children don't end up being this wicked. It's terrible
ReplyDeleteChronicles on be a first born is sometimes overbearing. Please poster do not that borrowing. You brother doesn't owe anything too, but have a discussion with him too.
ReplyDeletePick up your self esteem on the floor and go to where you’re appreciated. Go and find yourself! Abroad is not only meant for your brother. Stop waiting for him. Hussle hard and travel out as well. And NO, don’t take out a loan for your useless brother! I also blame your mother. I bet you, she over pampered him growing up because he’s a boy child. Now she’s reaping the consequences. Hopefully she’ll be able to handle whatever he throws at her. For you, it’s time to focus on YOU and stabilize financially. Abi you no wan marry and have your own family??? This chronicle pissed me off. 😠
ReplyDeleteYour brother is a Stingy person; It's not fair what you're facing, but life isn't fair too! People have already advised you to face yourself and move on with life, I also advise you to do likewise. It will be HARRDDDD But eventually you WILL SUCCEED.
ReplyDeleteI know of a guy that did the same to his family, he did not help any of his siblings after moving abroad but guess what??? Almighty God blessed the father so much that all his siblings moved to the same abroad and no one needed his help anymore. Now he wants companionship and relationship, but who wan listen to am?
Your brother may not be financially stable because i don't understand why he hasn't built a house in Nigeria after 8 years plus abroad but wants to be discomforting you and mother. Most people that are stingy like this end up blocking the blessing God has planned for them because of their lack of foresight. His wife doesn't help the situation too since she's aware of the issues on ground but wants to play dumb.
Poster, leave your mother for a while and focus on your life. Ask God to bless you abundantly, continue to work hard, continue to keep in touch with your mother from a distance, and watch God work his wonders.
Lastly, not everyone abroad is doing fine ohh...some people are in debt, some are poor, and some are in regrets. They are just too ashamed of their circumstances, and so they pretend to be what they are not by oppressing those at home-unfortunately, i think your brother falls into one of these categories. "You cannot give what you don't have"...he no get money to give, so he's giving crumbs.
Rely on yourself and most importly, rely on your God!