After reading this story, you will check again to see if your genotype is compatible with your partner?...You will check!!!!
She posted...
''A Long Post.....
On Sickle Cell Awareness Day, I shared my story, hoping to spread awareness and connect with others. Instead, I was met with hu.rt.ful words and cr.u.el comments, both publicly and privately.
Yes, even in my inbox.
The audacity!
I wonder who dey sell audacity for some people.
Some people have no limits.They called me
A w1ck€d mother, sensel€$$.
They said I should have known better about genotype compatibility.
"Why preach now?" they asked. "Why not preach to yourself first?" they accused. "An innocent child is paying for your stupidity."
One person even said I don't deserve help because I brought this on myself.
I was p.ai.ned beyond words.
For a moment, I started to believe them. Maybe I am a wick€d mother. Maybe I should have known better. Maybe I deserve this.
I was tempted to leave social media, to delete my account, to just disappear and rest.
But I said No.
I won't let their words define me.
I refuse to give them that satisfaction.
I am one of the best mother any child can ask for.
And yes I have paid, and I am still paying my dues.
Yes, I made a mistake, but I am paying for it every single day.
Do you think it's easy to care for two children with sickle cell, plus three others? Ask any single mother how they are faring, even without health issues.
I am out of a job.
My business is gone.
Now I can't even leave home because no one will take care of my girl.
I have lost myself. I was broken.
For years, I hated myself. I have been shamed, embarrassed, humiliated, and stripped of my dignity.
Not any more please
Do you know what it's like to go from eating at a table to eating on the floor?
To once pay others' school fees, and now beg for my own kids' fees? To have my children stay home because I can't afford their education?
Do you know the humiliation of being indebted with nothing to show for it?
The sh@me of asking for help in people's inboxes?
Do you know how many times some of the other gender have tried to take advantage of my situation?
The sh@me of asking for help in people's inboxes?
Do you know how many times some of the other gender have tried to take advantage of my situation?
Do you understand my daily sacrifices?
Do you know how it feels to meet people who knew me as a banker, now seeing me doing menial jobs? The looks they give me?
I do anything legitimate to care for my kids.
I am 100% responsible for them: feeding, rent, medication, clothing, hospital bills—you name it.
Do you know what I deal with daily?
My life has never been the same since this mistake. Those who knew me before now can attest to that.
I paid and still paying......
So I won't let anyone add to my pain. You will not drive me into de.pr.e.ssion.
My kids need me. My family love me.
I have friends and mentors that cherish me.
I have gone through this phase and have forgiven myself.
God has not given up on me.
He is not co ndem.ning me.
I choose to rest in His love.
He is with me, and He will help me fix this me$$.
If He can turn the valley of dry bones into an exceedingly great army, my situation is a small case for Him.
My life may look like a me$$ right now, but the Potter is putting me together again. I believe this.
You know He is good at making something out of nothing.
The earth was formless,void and there was darkness ....Abba called forth LIGHT.
My testimony is on the way...e go happen..
That been said......
Ladies and gentlemen, this woman is not giving up. I am here.
I will keep talking about genotype compatibility. Will continue to create awareness and encourage Sickle Cell Champions and caregivers.
I will also carry what is left of my foodstuff business on my head, and you will patronize me.
Please do..
I will keep looking for other legitimate means to earn money.
I will not relent.
I know it will end in praise.
God bless you.
Lest I forget to ask Have you checked your genotype?
Is it compatible with your partner?
By Ebele Mercy Chukwuma
Yea, one needs to know about genotype compartibility. You are AC/AS and then go ahead to marry your type because of love, and then birth innocent kids to come suffer. 👎
ReplyDeleteIt reminded me of my hubby...back then, I hardly even knew, just a familiar face ,only for him to ask me of my genotype one day. It sounded strange, but he encouraged me to do that...he made sure I had it done. I am AA, he was like he his AC and then the rest history ...All our children are healthy and almost dont fall sick, just normal common cold, once in a while. It is pertinent you figure your genotype put and your partner, before things get serious. It will save you from guilt, anguish, regrets, unnecessary hospital bills and the likes
DeletePoster madam do YouTube or Facebook page and be doing say in the life
ReplyDeleteTurn your sorrow to money to take care of your children
They are already abusing you so getting abused while making money will be better
She sounds determined and focused, she will make it.
ReplyDeleteChai😭😭😭. May God come through for her and her kids.
ReplyDeleteIn my family. I'm the only sickle cell patient. Although my other siblings are AS.
ReplyDeleteI have suffered for what could have been avoided.
Whenever I cry, my mom cries with me. And when I'm happy she's always happy.
Pls compatibility check is very important. Do you know the kind of pain we go through? Sometimes getting relieved only when my legs are tied like ram, ready for slaughter.
Depriving me from studying. I'm thinking of dropping out of school.
What about the drugs? Expensive.
What about the rejection? Hurtful.
Etc.
Sometimes I go into crisis often because I'm managing my drugs. Last week when I was admitted my sister almost got raped because she went out of her way to beg for money.
Jesus Christ! So sorry about what you're passing through @Cherry. May God come through for you
DeletePeople really needs to be more aware of this compatibility stuff in this age and era. That was how one of my brothers said he won't care about the outcome of him and his ex-girlfriend when they went for their genotype tests and waiting for results. That they must marry ni oo cos he loves her. I told him point blank, that except he first killed me then that can happen but that I'm still breathing ehn? I no go open my eyes for them to make that happen because when the matter hits the ground, even family members won't be spared
So sorry sweetheart.
DeleteI have two close friends that are champions.One often goes into crisis,and the other is married with 3 kids and rarely gets sick.
Oh, my darling. 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗. May God come through for you. I believe you'll pull through. I know it's hard but don't give up. You're always in my prayers.
DeleteIt's well with you
DeleteLost my only brother to sickle cell
The lord is your strength
DeleteIs never a funny experience, God will be with you and your family 🙏 🙏
🫂..God is with you, YOU have been a great fighter. I admire your resilience, kindly, do everything it takes to remain resilient. I pray you soar above all your crisis and may your health experience stability and God will give you peace always. Warm 🫂.
DeleteBear hugs dear, God will come through for you to be able to get you meds on time, keep fighting because you're a champion.
DeleteE hugs to you Cherrybaby. May God continue to strengthen and see you through it all.
DeleteWhere is the man in all of these? Has he suddenly become a sperm donor no longer a daddy? Women forget love when the going is good. Watch out for the red banners but ultimately try to Marty a kind man.
ReplyDeleteHi ! I’d like to bless you with some money to help you out. Your determination warms my heart and I pray God heals your precious daughter and makes her great. Kindly share your bank details or maybe if Stella can help.
ReplyDeleteI feel bad for anyone suffering through any illness, but the world is full of any possible number of diseases that an individual can become afflicted with, we just have to accept that being born and being a human on earth is a highly risky venture. We can either decide to stop procreating altogether or accept that we are mammals and part of the animal kingdom, one of many species living in an unforgiving ecology.
ReplyDeleteAnybody dreaming of being a parent and creating children must be conscious that anything could happen to their creation. Life on earth can be brutal and it is not always a bed of roses. So procreate if you desire it, but don’t get angry when pain comes for your child. The earth promised us nothing and spit us out when it is tired of us.
The woman has learn from her mistakes, she is only sharing her experience so that more people will not fall victims. Why do people feel that adding more salt to injury is the best they can do for someone. Why don't you pray for her than make terrible comments.
ReplyDeleteI feel for her,we have lost two cousins who are SS warriors and there's one remaining.Each of the times she witnessed the death of her siblings,she will cry and blame their parents.Their crisis is something else, It's not something I wish on my worst enemy.
ReplyDeleteTheir experience made me very careful as an AS person, once you say I love you, I ask about your genotype.I lost good men, even men who wanted to marry me knowing that we're both AS but my sisters kept reminding me that when it happens,love will fly out of the window.I'm happy with the choice I finally made.
The world is already hard enough, don't intentionally or unintentionally bring in children to come and suffer.
Thank God for blessing you with your choice.
DeleteThe hospital runs with sicklers isn't worth it in the long run.
This poster get bad mouth sha.
I lost my second cousin to this dreadful disease just last month, I watched as he was lowered to the grave .Rest on Gift,till resurrection day🙏
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