The Rich Man, His Beautiful Wife And The Urgent Need For Her To Be Useful In His Empire

This write up will blow you away.....

It is not just enough being a pretty face who married a rich man, you also need to be useful, be productive, have a brain or his will will shock you....

The writeup by Tade Makinwa says...........

''There’s a hard truth many don’t like to hear, but I’ll say it anyway, being pretty may get you the ring, but it won’t give you the keys to the kingdom.

I have always maintained that if the only value a wife brings is her beauty, she would remain a wife but never a true partner. And certainly not the kind of woman a wealthy, visionary man can entrust with the destiny of his wealth. Marriage from my understanding is not just about love or looks; it’s a deeply strategic union, especially when wealth, legacy, and generations are involved. (The dynamics are different with two survivals).

I also maintain that most women who desire to marry a rich, powerful, and successful man lack the capacity to be such wives. They want the yachts, the vacations, the lavish gifts, the penthouses. But 9 out of 10 women who nurse these fantasies aren’t preparing themselves to carry what they’re praying to receive. They’re only preparing for luxury, not legacy, and that right there is a tragedy in waiting.

Every genuinely successful man, one who has toiled, sacrificed, and poured decades into building something of real value, is deeply rational in his thinking. Legacy is always at the forefront of his mind. That’s why such men are often prepared for death, not out of fear, but out of a sense of responsibility, because they are intentional about how what they’ve built will be preserved, passed down, and sustained for generations to come.

As I’ve always said here times without numbers, that, no man achieves success, become wealthy and powerful by being a weakling. Yes, they want a good wife, well-mannered, submissive, nurturing woman to bear their children, but what many women fail to recognize is that these type of men are also looking for a warrior in silk. Someone who, while being graceful and elegant, understands battlefields, business, strategy, legacy, and long-term security.

 (Trust me when I say, they may not even use this as a yardstick to choose you as a wife but when you demonstrate these qualities, you delight them in a way that is unimaginable).
The Bible says, “I will make him a help suitable for him.” Suitable does not mean decorative. It means strategic, it means someone aligned, someone who complements strength with strength, wisdom with understanding, and can shield what has been built.

A rich man will spoil you, he will meet your needs and lavish you with luxuries. But if he senses that you care only about luxury and not about preserving his legacy, something you must have revealed through your actions unknowingly, he is then likely to include stretch clauses to his will such as the example stipulated in the will of the man in the below picture that if his wife remarried, she would forfeit her inheritance.

Such clauses aren’t evil or born out of bitterness or mistrust. Sometimes, it reflect his observation that she might squander what he labored to build. Recognition that she may not have demonstrated the capacity to protect, multiply or sustain the wealth, and so he ties it to conditions. Parents do the same as well, they add conditions to a child’s inheritance if the child hasn’t demonstrated the maturity to manage it.

A man knows when his wife is merely a consumer and not a contributor. He knows when her eyes are only on the soft life and not the solid legacy.

Being married to an established man comes with costs that many women aren’t prepared to bear. But some understand the assignment: they become more than just wives, they become worthy partners and allies the moment they get in while majority relax and enjoy money, after all, it’s all about the soft life.

Hear me, ladies: there’s nothing wrong with marrying a rich and established man. Many do, and some even build with a man and rise to success together. But I have to be honest with you that your relevance in his life won’t be secured by your looks, bedroom skills, or being the mother of his children alone, what will secure your right standing will be your strategic alignment with his vision.

If you’re married to a wealthy man but never invited to his inner circle, it’s because you don’t understand how the money is made. You don’t share his vision or comprehend the pressures, the numbers, the structure of his businesses, and how money moves.

Shade Okoya married into money but earned her place as the Executive Director of Eleganza Group through competence and contribution, not just cosmetics.
Charity Maduka, wife to Cosmas Maduka of Coscharis Group.

 Together, they built an empire. She wasn’t just sitting pretty, she is Vice President and an integral part of operations, you can see the evidence of that in the name of the company.
Kay Ovia, wife to Zenith Bank founder Jim Ovia, led the bank’s ICT transformation through her own company, Cyberspace Ltd.

Dr. Awele Elumelu, wife of Tony Elumelu, is not only the co-founder of the Tony Elumelu Foundation but sits on the board of Heirs Holdings, leading large-scale healthcare and immunization initiatives.

Winifred Akpani, the formidable wife of Walter Akpani, invested a huge capital for what is now Providus Bank and remains one of its top shareholders, while she’s also a big dog in the oil and gas industry.

Now tell me, do you really believe that the husbands of these women would include a clause in their wills to strip their wives of assets or inheritance simply because they chose to move on after their passing? Certainly not. And that’s because these women are not just wives, they are co-builders and shareholders. They’ve earned their place, not through sentiment, but through substance. 

They have contributed, carried vision, managed empires, and stood as pillars beside their husbands. You don’t penalize a pillar, you preserve and honour it.
These women don’t need to hope for inheritance, they already co-created the system that governs it.

You also know why none of their husbands would do that? It's also because they’ve already set up systems and structures to manage their wealth in their absence. Only a pretty wife waits until her husband is gone before she finds out what’s in the will, how many businesses he had, what he was truly worth, and whether or not the will even favors her.

Couples who build together don’t wait until death to prepare or know things, they make plans long before that day ever comes.

Look at Heirs Holdings, Tony and Awele Elumelu sat down together and built an institution for the strategic management of their wealth. While others may be guessing their net worth, theirs is clearly declared before legal counsel. Their assets are well documented and continuously updated as they grow their empire.
The question is, if your husband were to pass tomorrow, would you be able to protect what he built? Do you even know where the documents are kept? Do you understand the structure of the business, or how funds move, or the culture he built with his team?

Far too many women are married to wealthy men but are not invited to the rooms where decisions are made. They aren’t even trusted with vision-carrying responsibilities because they’ve shown zero interest. They post about vacation spots and designer bags, but can’t read a simple profit and loss statement or contribute meaningfully to the strategy that sustains their lifestyle.

Let me be honest with you, if you want to marry into wealth and power, be useful. There is so much more to it than simply being beautiful. If you're building with your partner from scratch, you’re doing something noble. But if you come in when everything is already established, you must do more than look pretty. Otherwise, you’ll be left with crumbs, clauses, and conditions, because you stood at the door and assumed it was the room. It wasn’t. You never really entered into the place of power.

Don’t just be a consumer, contribute to your husband’s cause. Understand his business, add value, stay informed, be a thinking partner, have your own growth track, invest in the vision, and build your own identity too.

Just the other day, we saw a story about a wealthy man who left a large inheritance to his side chick. Many people thought she was just lucky. But I saw something deeper. You never really know how she may have served his cause, emotionally, intellectually, or even strategically, for him to leave her such wealth without attaching any clause that would strip it away if she remarried.

Rich men aren’t stupid. Trust me, they’re not fools. Yes, they love to spoil, pamper, and care for the women they love, but a seat at the table is earned, not given. That seat is your true long-term security, not the ring on your finger.
So, dear woman, by all means, be beautiful, be soft, be graceful, but also be strategic, insightful, involved, and ready to multiply whatever you’re handed.
Because in the end, wealth is not sustained by softness or sexiness, it’s sustained by structure, wisdom, and vision''.