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Dear Stella,
This is me awake at 1am Nigeria time, filled with restlessness, fear and ....
Straight to the point.
I'm in a long distance relationship with a 38 y/o man for a year and 3 months now,, i am 27..
2. His English is bad, they speak French over there and English is like a borrowed language to them, even though I understand him but what will my family say? What will people say?
3. He came to see me last month and even though we didn't gbensh, but there were lots of "rough plays" and he nutted on the entrance of it.. and since then I've been panicking. I don't know the possibilities but I was supposed to get my period on the 1st or 3rd of this month but no show yet. I even had all the signs, the sore boob's, acne etc and now all the signs are gone still no show. Am I pregnant already?
This is me awake at 1am Nigeria time, filled with restlessness, fear and ....
Straight to the point.
I'm in a long distance relationship with a 38 y/o man for a year and 3 months now,, i am 27..
He is from Burkina Faso and resides there though he comes to see me regularly as much as his work permits.
He is serious and we're hoping to be together as he's already talking in that direction".
My fears now are:
He is serious and we're hoping to be together as he's already talking in that direction".
My fears now are:
1. He has a child.(f) although he told me of her from the onset, he was never married to the mother..the mother is now remarried and the child is almost 10 yo.
2. His English is bad, they speak French over there and English is like a borrowed language to them, even though I understand him but what will my family say? What will people say?
3. He came to see me last month and even though we didn't gbensh, but there were lots of "rough plays" and he nutted on the entrance of it.. and since then I've been panicking. I don't know the possibilities but I was supposed to get my period on the 1st or 3rd of this month but no show yet. I even had all the signs, the sore boob's, acne etc and now all the signs are gone still no show. Am I pregnant already?
Could it be my mind or hormones? But there was no penetration Or is it my date changing? I still have the rest of the month to wait for....
He is a good man and he's proven to be a person and I know he loves me and I him.
I have prayed over him and I got peace.
I just need advice dear people of sdkville.
Thank you for this platform Stella, more grease:::
He is a good man and he's proven to be a person and I know he loves me and I him.
I have prayed over him and I got peace.
I just need advice dear people of sdkville.
Thank you for this platform Stella, more grease:::
Forget about hat people will say and marry your peace....The worries you have dont seem serious....
You might be pregnant oh, it doesnt matter whether he entered or not,if he CAME at the entrance and you are ovulating, my dear, yu don carry belle....
Easy solution. Take a pregnancy test
ReplyDeleteStella o o o o, as e dey got you talk'am
DeleteGo and do test
Somebody came to see you all the way from Burkina Faso and you did only rough play? No be waste of sin be that? And it's like you have get belle ooo, congratulobia.
ReplyDeleteWhy are you bothered about what people will say about his spoken English when English is not his first language? You can you speak French?
Na waste of sin in totality!
DeleteShe didn't even enjoy herself and him her and now she's pregnant.
No be juju be that!!😲
Aswear Miss Aboki @wasted sin 🤣🤣🤣
DeleteJust the tip has put her in the pit. He can't speak English and she can't speak french but they understood themselves enough to play 'rough' play. I think she and he are good to go.
DeleteBabe wey dey import dick. 🤭🤭🤭.
Mademoiselle,
ReplyDeleteBonjour, you better start learning French now.
What is difference between gbensh and rough play.. ?
Lmao @mme bonjour.
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Delete🤣🤣🤣just wait for some days more .Fear is a torment
ReplyDeletehow comes what family and peace will say is more important than peace of mind, happiness, love? you should come first no matter what before friends or family member. Remember everyone will be alright when you finally make your choice. You are the one who should ask yourself if you are okay with his English, are you proud of him, are you okay with his attitude and how he speaks? what your family will say is secondary to what you love or want. If you marry wrong person your family will still say something.
ReplyDeleteWhy are you afraid that you could be pregnant? Is a good thing and you should be happy. You played rough but expect something else, you should have think about it before you went ahead to play rough. Weather on top, beside, around, in and there is anything like baby coming please make sure you keep it. Do not touch that baby, you are not a child and should take responsibility to that.
Great opportunity to japa even your family member and you are lamenting. Go and start French class.
DeleteBonjour madame, cest pregnant, cest les vaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
I dey come
He nutted at the doorstep ni, I dnt understand some of you here
ReplyDeleteI tire Anon 15:19 nutted at doorstep, breeze fit carry am enter oo🤣🤣🤣
DeleteDid he even propose? So if it was hiv na so he for come deposit am for Nigeria. Congratulations
ReplyDeleteI was going to ask her if she knows his status and if they went for test. Poster, I pray he is clean and you are too. That's how some of you will just behave recklessly then scream don't judge. You are worrying about pregnancy ignoring other things you should also be worried about
DeleteWtf 😂😂😂😂
DeleteHe nutted at the entrance. Hmmm. Do a pregnancy test. You love him, he loves you. You have prayed over him, and got peace but you need advice from us. Do you really love him?
ReplyDeleteCandy crush no mind her jaree hanty better go learn bonjour Mon Ami 🙄
DeleteCongratulations for your rough play result, happy married life in advance since you both love una sevles
What can I say again
Good luck 👍
Just like that? 😳😔🙄
ReplyDeleteAll the way from Burkina Faso no gbensh!😫😫😵
ReplyDeleteWhat a waste of effort and love.
Las las Belle still enter.
Ife nkea o Rice!!!😬
Do pregnancy test first so that your mind will not be allover the place.
ReplyDeleteYou can use the pregnancy to text him and see if he really wants to marry you
ReplyDeletePoster do a pregnancy test to be sure if you are pregnant. If he is your peace,why are you bothered about what people will say? Please do what will make you happy.
ReplyDeleteTake a pregnancy test first, then follow your heart. People won't live with you, just know that.
ReplyDeleteFrom the moment you are worried about what ppl will say it means that you feel somewhat ashamed of him. Listen, when your heart is 100% for a person, even if he looks like Shrek and speak like he has a month full of marbles nobody is going to be able to say anything bad about him around you, you will not have it and you will not care what anyone thinks. Please stop wasting this man's time if you know that you do not want him for the long term, have your fun but do not have him thinking there is a future with you if you know that you cannot accept him with his lackluster English and child.
ReplyDeleteNow, at 27 years old I would expect you to have a better idea of how your body works. Even if a man touches the tip of his penis and there is precum there and he uses that finger anywhere close to your opening you could get pregnant. Many a virgin have gotten pregnant from playing around because they had clue that penetration does not have to happen for pregnancy to occur. Sperm is potent, even precum has live sperm in it, pregnancy can happen with just the touch of a finger.
What's your business with what people will say? Marry him if he's a good man, according to your story.
ReplyDeleteWhat you should have solved with PT strip, you are getting unnecessarily stressed.
ReplyDelete😅😅😅😅 What a funny chronicle...I no get advice...Me want to laugh...
ReplyDeleteFinally! Thank you Stella for posting...and to y'all beevees thanks too for your contribution/comments lol I had a great laugh!!
ReplyDeleteI'm the poster. And oh I finally got my monthly visitor...
Someone asked you up there if you knew his hiv status, hepatitis etc. It's good you are not pregnant but go for other tests.
DeleteHahaha 🤣 🤣 🤣, You are safe now, I'm happy for you. But seriously, if you like this guy, pls forget the English matter and marry him.
DeleteAh good news. Please be careful next time, also this is a good time to do some deep soul searching and know if he's the one you will like to marry. Remember marriage goes beyond just the 2 of you so make sure his people are good people. Also consider asking yourself if you see yourself settling in Burkina and have those conversations with him.
Deleteo a blood pregnancy test it can detectven 3days old foetus.......
ReplyDeleteIt means you're willing to move over to his base when you finally settled, love conquers all fear if you truly love and want to be with him.
When I married my bekee, everyone was saying, is Bekee the only one you see to marry? Tufiakwa, I won’t marry onye ocha. Now they want their children to marry my children.
ReplyDeleteMost of them now says if I know I for marry bekee. My husband is this…, my husband is that…
Forget people and follow your heart. In the next 10 years, the opinions of those people you hold in high esteem will mean nothing to you anymore.
Can you speak French? If you can’t, then don’t judge his English. It is just a language that can be learned. Teach him.
You’re not pregnant with a child yet; you’re pregnant with fear (questions that your body and mind are both trying to answer in their own messy ways), which is causing you not to think straight: fear has a way of hijacking reason.
ReplyDeleteTake a deep breath. If there was no penetration, the risk is extremely low, not zero, but low. So take a test and reclaim your mind with the truth. And if it comes back negative, don’t just breathe easy and forget. Let the scare you felt remind you that even “just the tip” is enough to rewrite the script of your life.
Now, about this relationship: loving someone doesn’t mean losing yourself in the process. It’s okay to feel deeply. But it’s not okay to silence your self-worth for the sake of that feeling. Love is beautiful - but it’s not a life plan. You’ll need more. Shared values. Patience. Cultural understanding. A mutual vision. Can the two of you hold all that without silently resenting each other five years down the line?
And please, forget what people will say. They will always have something to say. Rather ask what your future self will live with. Because in the end what people will say will remain a wind. But what you live with will be your weather through and through.
So, if you love him, teach him your world as he teaches you his. If you don’t, don’t hide behind shame, walk away whole. As for your body, trust it. Listen. And next time, play safe. A healthy love deserves clarity, not crisis.
Poster, what matters is your happy not what anyone else want, please do a pregnancy test.
ReplyDeleteThis language barrier. What's the longevity of the love/marriage if there is not enough communication. That's my worry. Una dey waka o
ReplyDeleteI read the update from the poster but my contribution is still valid. Poster, he once impregnated another woman without marrying her. Please make sure you are on the same page as far as marriage is concerned before your next “rough play” so you do not become a baby mama. Don’t assume he wants to marry you, make sure he really wants to marry you. Women assume a lot.
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