Hmmmm.....
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSEDI started dating someone whom i found out is the ex of one of my new best friends.....
We are getting serious and i kinda sought permission from her and she gave me the option of her or him...I am shocked!
What do i do?
We all live in Lagos and i was Initiating a hang out to do an intro when i found out.....
She told you to choose between her and him? please dump her at once...Even if the relationship does not work out, it doesn't matter...what a jealous human!!!
Leave that friend of yours without looking back. She's terrible
ReplyDeleteWho is she kwanu to dictate for you?
DeleteNa that attitude made them to break up. Leave the girl
While giving you options..who you decide to date is none of her business. I smell jealous and she might still be emotionally attached to the ex
ReplyDeleteYou shouldn’t be friends with such a person,.flee
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteThis is indeed a quagmire for you...If you have values you hold dear without consulting your friend, I would not date that guy.....
I have noticed that most of you like to tag people FRIENDS when they have not truly earned it or they see you as a regular hangout buddy? Are you sure you are friends with her and not an acquitanace? You need to define it very well....
It's your call to make but be careful so you don't become the musical chair with my best friend ex ex situationship....Find someone else...
All the best..
Please dump her
ReplyDeleteYou don't need her permission. You shouldn't have even informed her. For her to be giving you such a condition means she knows he is a good man and will treat you right. She is a small minded person I'll say.
ReplyDeleteIgnore her and go get a taste of that good dick. Do a video of it and make sure you are moaning as if you want to die. Make sure she watches that video. Since she doesn't want to have sense.
She’s kind of right sha
ReplyDeleteIn reality how do you expect to date him and build a friendship with her
Would be different if she was already your friend
As the friendship is just starting, she’ll excuse herself and you can pursue this relationship without the awkwardness
My point exactly
DeletePray to God for direction if you are a believer in Christ; otherwise weigh your options and choose wisely.
ReplyDeleteIf I were you, I would dump the friend and pursue a relationship with the guy.
Why?
I relate with people on my terms.
Written by a man.
Jealousy at its peak. Why giving conditions, as if she's the one controlling you.
ReplyDeleteChoose anyone that suits you better.
Who friendship help?
Jealousy all the time
ReplyDeleteThere’s no jealousy here abeg
unfriend her
ReplyDeletemake sure you close your legs till you are sure this guy is not here to taste and move
he may be here cos he want to have some share of your cookies, that your friend might have said somethings about you and he want to come and see for himself. Just be careful while you stay far away from her. Do not give her any response with her option just pretend you did not hear what she said, avoid her from now.
It's a dicey situation, You wouldn't expect her to approve of it, it her ex nau. But how do you value your friendship? , do you have anything to lose or gain?
ReplyDeleteBut most importantly, If you love this guy and you feel he's the one who for you, Pls choose him again and again.
Poster tell your boyfriend about your friend and see his reaction. It will show you if he is worth dating or if you need to dump both of them.
ReplyDeletePoster, do what makes u happy....she isn't your friend at all
ReplyDeleteYour story kinda doesn’t add up
ReplyDeleteYou are getting serious but you were kind of asking for her permission
“Permission” is requested prior to dating the guy
Did you already know of their past before you started dating. That’s the only case in which any kind of permission might even come in
This is weird. Try to avoid these situations if at all possible. Men, especially young ones can be brutal when they start mocking sleeping around with friends. So, it depends on the nature of the man and whether he is sane person or a playboy.
ReplyDeletePoster pls read this comment well.
DeleteSome men see it as a flex to sleep with friends.
Hope he is not a Playboy?
She deliberately befriended you. Women like that are very devious. You describe her as a new friend and already she is giving you conditions. Dump her. The guy may not be a good person but she is an awful 'friend'. Very controlling. Reminds me of years ago when someone who unbeknown to me was a friend of my ex husband. She was so pushy and my spirit did not really take to her. For some reason the Holy Spirit told me to check her facebook friends. Lo and behold there he was. I dumped her sharply.
ReplyDeleteDump both the man and the girl. You could be in the middle of a "Gossip Girl"/ "Cruel Intentions" situation where both sides want to display their power. Don;t let them use you to prove a point.
ReplyDeleteRead up this advise
DeleteCut off from her totally. Are you the cause of their breakup? Why is she trying to made you feel like you were friends with her when they were dating? Please cut of from her so she doesn't harm you out of pain and jealousy
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