SERIOUS ADVICE NEEDED
Hello fam. Please I need your input here.
My ex is reaching out to me. He wants us to "talk" he has pushing for over 6 months now. Honestly,I don't see anything to talk about.
We dated for 7 years and it ended .
Why?I don't know
I told my family a fabulous story when they kept asking, because he has come home for marriage proposal. Guess they picked it up.
Do I like him?NO
Do I want to see him?NO
Do I want to talk about anything?NO
Do I want his "friendship"NO.
He's asking for an hour to talk. I have nothing to say.
How do conveniently not show up. Because saying no hasn't stopped him from calling. Or I should just go and sit mute?
Why?I don't know
I told my family a fabulous story when they kept asking, because he has come home for marriage proposal. Guess they picked it up.
Do I like him?NO
Do I want to see him?NO
Do I want to talk about anything?NO
Do I want his "friendship"NO.
He's asking for an hour to talk. I have nothing to say.
How do conveniently not show up. Because saying no hasn't stopped him from calling. Or I should just go and sit mute?
Why dont you just go and see him and hear what he has to say?Meet him in a public place and go with someone you can trust.....Do not eat or drink anything, just go and hear him out.......Whatever he has to say may help you both find closure...
Give him 30 mins to hear what he has to say and please come back to tell us what he said cos I am really curious.
As Stella said, give him the space to say whatever he wants to say. The fact remains that he can’t pressure or force you to say yes.
ReplyDeleteAs Stella said, meet in public and hear what he has to say.
ReplyDeleteBlock him everywhere and face front.
ReplyDeleteI am a male above 18 (old enough to vote in your country's President).
ReplyDeleteWith all your No, do not go.
But you want to go for a reason - To taunt with the final no? To find out if there is payback for years wasted? To see his tears on rejection of his proposal? To ...?
You need encouragement to go.
So go.
By the way, why does he not believe your first no to his offer of the sit-to-talk?
I would have asked why you gave him so much communication access to you? Then I remembered that a break in a relationship is not enmity or a break in friendship - you do not want to burn bridges, you do not want to slam the door, and you do not want to shut the door. Lukewarm No.
So go.
Because your Nos are a yes seeking validation.
Do you still like him? Yes. All those your plenty NO there is because you're hurt. 7 years before break up. You liked & still do like him.
ReplyDeleteDo you want him back maybe No.
If you've truly moved on seeing him shouldn't be a problem.
See him but don't take him back. You deserve better but matters of the heart can be very anyhow. Goodluck to you.
Dear Poster,
ReplyDeleteI dunno the new thing you want to hear from someone who dated you over 7 years and you claimed gave you a fantabulous story....Closure is very overrated...However you claimed not to like him and still giving him audience....
One would have expected that you have restricted all forms of communications, learn your lessons, heal wholesomely and move on to better things....You strike the iron while it is hot and be assertive in your decision....
If you want to listen to him, hear him out for that purpose....You are the architect and driver of your life....Left for me, I won't give you that audience because I have seen all you have done...Words can't describe them...
All the best...
What about if he rub "see and follow" powder for face come the date?
ReplyDeleteJust pick a new wedding date soon lol....
Why did this make me laugh out loudly 🤣🤣🤣. I've been following your thread of comments recently. You play too much 🤣🤣🤣
DeleteI worry about that too
DeleteWhen someone that went away shows hack up many times they want to finish the bad job
16:28, I cracked up too
DeleteI have never looked back when done with an ex. When I leave, I take every pieces of me. Take a cue.
ReplyDeleteWhat if he has a std and wants to talk. Please go hear what it is about, it may not be about rekindling. Do like Stella said, go to a public place that is safe and do not eat or drink anything.
ReplyDeleteI don't know why you still want to go and see him after all the no you've said to him, let your no be no, and if truly you don't like him back and you don't have anything to say to him, block him everywhere.
ReplyDeleteMy ex is an ex for a reason, I don't entertain any ex in my life except it's strictly on business, don't let any okafor's law set in, before he will cook up a sympathy story and you will fall for it.
What does he want to say that he couldn't say in 7 years and why is he still having access to you if you have no feelings for him at all?
ReplyDeletePoster, PLEASE DON'T GO, IF YOU VALUE YOUR LIFE!
ReplyDeleteThere was a case exactly like this, where the lady honored the invitation, not knowing the guy was looking for an opportunity to kill her.
After the meeting, they got back together, and he killed her and went on a run...
Even if he is eventually found one day, will the dead come back alive ???
Run for your life. But I know you won't, until we start trending #JusticeForLagbaja..
Please, don't go ooo
ReplyDeleteI hope this is not an opportunity to get back at you ...
ReplyDeleteI don't think the move is pour o.
ReplyDeleteIf na me, I no go honor the invitation o. The world is evil
ReplyDeleteI have heard of a case like that, and the guy ended up killing her shortly after they reconciled...
ReplyDeleteYeah, I have heard of something like that
ReplyDeletePoster,please don't see him anywhere. Since you're no longer interested. 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteI don't think you should be seeing someone you've stated NO to almost everything about him. Please try and move on. It's well with you.
ReplyDeletePoster don't go anywhere,he should say whatever he wants to say on phone .
ReplyDeleteIf truly you don't want him back and you don't wish to see him, block him .
I believe you should hear him out. Don’t eat or drink and no hugs.
ReplyDeleteMy sister was pregnant and about to wed with everything set but the groom absconded. ..no texts, no messages nothing was heard from him and his family for several years.
She and my family raised the girl child alone.
Imagine our shock and anger he came around and we discovered it was her closest friend who told the guy that my sister’s ex came from the UK and my sister followed him to the club and house for the weekend.
Sadly, this didn’t happen because my sister and I lived together…the guy never bothered to confirm, he just believed and disappeared.
Fortunately, my sister had already gotten married, the ex too but the said friend was still very much her best friend.
We wouldn’t have known her kind of person if my sister didn’t grant the ex audience.
You are not ready to let go, when you are, u know what to do. U r a woman, when women don’t like a man, they know what to do, but this one that u keep saying NO yet leave all communication channels open sotey he dey reach you all the tym, na u know wetin u dey find. Whatever it is, i wish you all the best.
ReplyDeleteYou are not a kid poster. You don't want to go, so why are you asking if you should just go there, sit and keep mute?
ReplyDeletePoster, deep down, you want to go 🙄
You can't block or ignore his calls and messages?
He should tell you on phone
ReplyDeleteWhy must he see you to say it
Abi he wants to rub juju on your body
Just don’t loan him any money
Will read bvs comments later
ReplyDeleteMy take
You can meet and talk on Whatsapp video chat or Zoom
What if he is planning to bathe you with acid OR kill you?
Will be back to read bvs comments
Drama Queeen. Looks like you are enjoying this attention.
ReplyDeleteAnyone I repeat anyone who is not interested in the next person will not entertain them. You came to.ask us cos what? Were we in the relationship with u two? You know how u were treated and vice versa. You should be able to decide if u want to have a conversation or not. No one here can decide for you. I repeat no one can.