"I am separate and most people don't know I am separated. That has actually defined or shaped my life. It was circumstances beyond my control. But you know sometimes when you get into a marriage you don't get in a marriage to leave it.
Infact, it's a death in a way. When your marriage is over it's a death. I have experienced a couple of death. The death of my marriage, step mom, Dad's twin sister, dad and that happened in the course of 24 months between 2021-2023.
My ex husband is a great man but sometimes I just feel like.....if God doesn't ordain you to be together and you force fit yourselves the likelihood of you guys staying together is very very low.
If you guys are going on two very different paths in life, it's not like the person is bad they are good people but they are just not good for you. I was a good person I probably wasn't good for him and vice versa. To see all that coming together in the way it did, it really really shaped my heart. My heart was very broken by that. That happened in 2021, I was very broken by that and then everybody else I mentioned died because of sickness. When somebody dies of sickness, you see them deteriorate.
My mother passed suddenly. But when people are ill you watch them go from one stage to the other. We were praying. Sometimes you pray God answers but not the answer you were looking for and in those moments you will say okay if God doesn't give me this thing I am asking for will I still serve him?
My life has not been an easy one, it's not gone the way I planned it because I had dreams, vision I could see where my life was going to go but I tell you today what is happening now I didn't see it. The dreams and visions I had were all the way over there and I am over her. I tell God everyday I am in your hands oooo.
When you are not in a marriage anymore, you don't want to put yourself in center stage. You don't want to come out and say 'i am a senior pastor' you want to go and hide somewhere, under a rock. Saying let me figure out my life let me just be doing this small thing. When the call came I was like heyyyy God you know all the wahala, baggage I am trying to navigate I can't figure it out. But if you call me to serve maybe you have put something I will trust you enough to say yes. I am not saying yes because I have it all together."
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My life has not been an easy one, it's not gone the way I planned it because I had dreams, vision I could see where my life was going to go but I tell you today what is happening now I didn't see it. The dreams and visions I had were all the way over there and I am over her. I tell God everyday I am in your hands oooo.
When you are not in a marriage anymore, you don't want to put yourself in center stage. You don't want to come out and say 'i am a senior pastor' you want to go and hide somewhere, under a rock. Saying let me figure out my life let me just be doing this small thing. When the call came I was like heyyyy God you know all the wahala, baggage I am trying to navigate I can't figure it out. But if you call me to serve maybe you have put something I will trust you enough to say yes. I am not saying yes because I have it all together."
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Marriage I will keep saying isn't all there is to life. If it's no longer walking out, pls do take a walk. Some differences are irreconcilable.
ReplyDeleteIf I'm right her brother is that Nollywood actor that's also a pastor .
© TEEJAY
Few people really understand the tragedy and the emotional wreck divorce brings. Most divorcees out up a bold face but deep inside, they are hurting.
ReplyDeleteDivorce is your soul ripping in half. The scars from it last a lifetime. Even when the divorce is for your own good, it still touches you in ways you never thought possible. No one truly heals from a divorce. Unless you never truly loved your spouse.
That said, I'm happy she found the strength to pull away.
Hmmm,🤔that's why a broken relationship is much better than a broken marriage🙄
DeleteYou are so right Dogedity.
DeleteFinally have the courage to speak out. May God see you through.
ReplyDeleteBut, can she still remarry? Aspa pastor 🤔
I don't even understand what's going on,like she's been divorced for long.
DeleteThe drama during her dad's burial,also during her step mom's showed Olumide was no longer family.
This babe na another stubborn package, living on her own terms so make she face front.
Xhlrted P
It is well. I think her brother too.
ReplyDeleteYeaaa
DeleteHer bro the nollywood hunk? ? Na wao! Its well sha.
DeleteGod be with you both and heal your hearts. Her family has been through way more than most.
ReplyDeleteMay the almighty see you through 🙏
ReplyDeleteOh well
ReplyDeleteMy wife and I had moments of disagreements and silent treatments, but God was gracious to us by unmasking the devil behind the scenes
I will never forget that day when both of us prayed together for twenty minutes and the TRUTH was revealed -- Believers in Christ can be possessed and influenced by demons
It then began to make sense why two people who once were lovers could suddenly become strangers
Both of us invested many years of friendship and sacrifices to become a couple after 8 years of delay - we would have thrown away a beautiful home and a glorious family life for reasons we cannot even remember anymore
I would have become a playboy with multiple sex partners and probably gone back to atheism and wife would have become a home breaker hopping from bed to bed, causing problems for married women, and advising women to sleep with men for money and fun
I shake my head for Christians who are oblivious to the fact that faith in Christ does not immune them to demonic influence - I was an ignoramus
If you don't want roaches, rodents, mosquitoes and bed bugs in your house, you have to keep fumigating your house - you must be watchful and prayerful to keep demons away
Evil spirits do not fear grammar, they fear power generated through prayers made in the name of Yeshua Hamashiach
Shalom
Your second to the last paragraph hits deep.
DeleteThank you.
It is good to pray and all but except your spouse shows the same level of commitment and interest in keeping the marriage, you will pray in vain.
DeleteYou gave me hope to believe marriage can still work out with God involvement....these days
DeleteCongratulations
Delete@Doggedity
Women do not agree to marry a man with the mind to misbehave and leave the marriage: something usually cause erratic behaviours
Adam and Eve may not have sinned against God without external interference
Both parties in the union must be watchful and prayerful to keep relationship intact
@Emerald and King Jerry: you are blessed
DeleteInfluenced? Yes, because you have free will. Possessed? NO, because you have been sealed with the holy spirit of promise, bought with a price and are now temples of the living God with a holy of holies.
DeleteSubmit yourself totally to God, resist the devil and he will flee from you.
As a couple ensure you have a strong family altar where you both hammer prayers.
DeleteYour fire against them evil people own. No budging.
That's how the marriage survives.
Welldone on your sacrifices of faith.
But errmmm Yeshua Hamashiach is not a Christian or am I seeing double?😳
Xhlrted P
Yeshua Hamashiach - is the jewish name of Jesus meaning Jesus the Messiah.
DeleteI read a lot of esoteric writings on things unspoken and there are demons whose specific responsibility is to rip apart families and destroy marriages.
DeleteOne phenomenon that I have experienced and witnessed made me to believe that happiness, joy, togetherness and love in families and marriages are a threat. You will see families have a happy occasion together, did something that made everyone happy and the very next day something happens to cause mayhem and division. It happens all the time and often folks cannot say what the cause was and if you dig deep enough it is always some foolishness. Folks better understand what they are up against in this world, especially if they have something good in their life. Spouses should never let disagreements fester and forgive quickly, do not keep malice and pray for their union and each other.
@Anonymous4 20:57
DeleteBelievers' spirit is rsealed but not the soul and the body - this is the reason demons speak through people (including believers) during deliverance
There is a painstaking process involved before believers can be clothed with the Holy Ghost that ultimately results in constant manifestation of divine power - until the believer's soul and body are clothed with the Holy Ghost, he or she can be possessed, although for a period that depends on his/her prayer life
Stella, please approve th is comment too
Ogun idile. This people need power of the Holyghost to fight thier foundation. The brother too is separated. This foundation fumigation its not by wearing the nicest clothes and having the finest church. Demons bow to the highest power (God's power, JehovAH sabaoth, baptism of fire and power of the Holyghost. I wish them all the best. Wondering why they are far away from winners and rccg. They are meant to have mentors in the ministry. They can't ride alone. It is well.
ReplyDeleteApart from wrong indoctrination, another reason many Christians are not aware that demons are dancing skelewu in their mind is because the demons don't cause them to pick papers in the street
DeleteMany believers have a long list of unresolved issues caused by
demons but unperturbed, because they are still rational enough to write and speak sensibly
Lol
Deleteit remains the brother to say his own story
DeleteYou may be right about spiritual foundation issues. Very important they come together as a family and fight it for themselves and their children. They need help from genuine fathers in the faith. Even just one.This is not about pride now but survival.
DeleteI agree
DeleteA quick analysis of the information made available
ReplyDelete1) The guy is a good man - says the ex-wife
2) Tbe wife is a good woman - says the ex-wife
3) The guy was not abusive otherwise the ex-wife would have said so
4) The ex-husband was not a philanderer, otherwise the ez-wife would have hinted in the press release
So what was the deal breaker
that could not be resolved?
They were not meant to be together as man and wife as she has found her root in the holy spirit.
DeleteNo be only Holy Spirit. Abeg they should park well.
DeleteThis afternoon is for Amanda Chisom and Barrister Ugwuonye.
It's a long day coming.
As he say e no dey hear word, Chisom don pour his atrocities for tray, hawking it from junction to junction.
We here for the game, duuuuh!
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Xhlrted P
It is well with them.
ReplyDeleteIt is not annointing that makes marriage work. It is knowledge. Premium knowledge. And even if God ordained both of you to be together if you still don't get the required knowledge. Oyo is the case.
ReplyDeleteThe way a man and a woman thinks varies from each other in so many ways. One thing with believers especially ministers of the gospel is they are under exposed. They streamlined major aspects of their lives to just bible and prayer.
Inasmuch as these things are good, they are not what makes a relationship leaves the ground.
Marriage like any other thing requires skills. I can't shout this enough. You can't drive a car by observation. How much more forever with someone who has a totally different background. Selah.
Is it a lack of knowledge that prompts some married couples to kill each other either by food poison or violence?
DeleteYes.
DeleteThe knowledge to manage their emotions, compromise, forgive etc. We tend to build our relationship from the roof. Gap tooth, six packs, bum bum etc. These are the wrong buy in choosing a spouse without considering the foundation of discipline, anger management, emotional intelligence, temperance etc.
Every problem is an idea problem. It is always about knowledge or the lack of it be it in spirituality, relationship and finance.
There's no devil any where. Every man's ignorance is their own mountain.
DeleteHappy Sunday.
De play @Mindset Akporoghene
ReplyDeleteYour statement that "there is no devil anywhere; every man's ignorance is his or her mountain " was coined by a bishop who recanted his words when the devil wanted to kill his wife, The woman was so possesed and afflicted that tbe husband begged God to show the world that HE sent him
Besides, the Scripture warns believers to be sober and vigilant because the devil is roaming the earth looking for whom to devour - 1 Peter 5:8
Maybe you didn't get the point I was trying to make with that statement. There's no devil any where was figurative. It all boils down to the subject of discuss. Ignorance.
DeleteRemember I said in my initial comment that even if both were destined to be together and don't get the required knowledge they would still meet with a brick wall. The major problem with relationships today is ignorance. The devil has his place but I can tell you without bathing an eyelid that 90% of the hide my ID we read everyday is what a good book would solve.
Understanding the purpose and power of woman.
Understanding the purpose and power of men.
The fatherhood principle.
The purpose and power of love and marriage
Manual.
5 love languages etc.
@Mindset Akporoghene
DeleteGod bless you for the reply
I agree with your submission about the role and the place of knowledge in building and sustaining a marital union
However, you took a simplistic approach to the subject of marriage in light of numerous forces and factors that can cause partners to go their separate ways - factors like temptation in the face of lack obedience to God's leading that can lead to deprivation and temporary pains, career choices, location, ancestral forces, unresolved foundational problems, satanic influence, parental influence, inability to meet societal expectations, pinfertility, peer pressure, adultery, etc
I can give a long list of reasons that make it easy for the devil to manipulate the flesh against God ordained institution - Marriage
I appreciate your time and particularly the spirit behind your submissions - Much respect and God bless you
Foundational battles needs to be addressed here. The patterns are clear and will keep repeating until addressed and stopped. Social status, english or polished life cannot handle this.
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ReplyDeleteHer parents didn't have a failed marriage. If she were to have lost him to death, I would understand the pattern you are talking about. Her mum died in a plane crash, then dad died, and step mum died again.
Just so you know her parents marriage was next to heaven on earth. It is the only reason she believes in marriage even though hers didn't work out. She calls her dad her guy. In her words: "He's a mothering father." Ever present. There's no conversation he didn't have with her.
I am simply saying annointing isn't a guarantee for marriage. You can be annointed highly with capital tounges and still fail woefully with a life partner. Dr Murdock, Benny Hinn, Paula White just to mention a few. It is where you invest you would harvest. If you don't invest in your love life, you can succeed in your ministry or finance. Wherever you invest in. Except marriage. Ignorance doesn't have mercy.
Na only XP sabi as e dey go. I am family and if we talk wetin we know with receipts, internet go blow. Tolu knows this hence why she was gracious in her interview. Olumide was pressured into marrying Tolu. He didn’t want the marriage. The marriage was DOA. I sincerely hope Tolu has repented and changed her ways, otherwise God’s judgement is coming. God is merciful indeed. I will dignify her and not say much.
ReplyDeleteShe outgrew him. Obviously.
ReplyDeleteShe lost 3 of her family and he could not offer support