Why is it a problem to date a Baby Mama or a baby daddy?Are they not people that made mistakes? Are you of the school of though that someone who can have a child out of wedlock is a red flag person? Why has the Nigerian society branded out of wedlock parent with negative tags? We need to discuss this!:::
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That thing you called a mistake. Couples married are on Hallelujah Challenge begging for it, Dressing like miracle for it.
ReplyDeleteOne of your relatives is praying non stop for it
Your daughter, your in-laws, your siblings too.
Be careful how u condemn pple.
Your horrible mouth maybe what is holding your own person back from having their own offsprings.
Baby mama or not, if your heart is good, I will date or even marry you.
Your horrible mouth maybe what is holding your own person back from having their own offsprings.
DeleteStop deceiving yourself people dnt suffer for other crimes or perceptions and can you allow your son marry babynama? If you can give a yes then its cool.
My dear no be lie.
DeleteMy sis is married almost 3 years everyday, classmates married years no kids. I am 37 years now got pregnant as a single woman this august and wanted to abort. I couldn't stop imagining what those wonderful women would be going through and I am jejely managing me and my belle.
Because the man would be accused of molesting the step daughter
ReplyDeleteStep father and step daughter mnovie?lol
Deletepeople often say 89% of babynamas can never be faithful and they place their kids over the union. Does it mean that your are dealing with another man's red flag? I can date a BM but can't wife one. Their baba papa might have left them for a reason, but few are OK.
...and the baby daddy's may actually molest your children!
DeleteThe child is not a female in all cases
DeletePearl, you think it’s only females that are abused?
DeleteAnon he said the man will be accused of abusing the stepdaughter that's why I said the child is not female in all cases, so we're both saying the same thing
Delete"Are they not people that made mistakes?"
ReplyDeleteSome did not make mistakes. They (men and women ) calculatedly and intentionally did it for selfish reasons. Some don't look for marriage afterwards, just to play around with other singles and or people spouses. Some later desire marriage still selfishly or because their plans failed or they see that married friends or family members got better than they thought they would have.
Summary = no mistake by an adult baby Daddy or Mama.
Well! I have no idea about this topic but this is one of the most interesting topics I look forward.....for/ to
ReplyDeleteI'm here to learn...
Reading comments from the ⛰
1. Okafor's Law is a POSSIBILITY.
ReplyDelete2. New partner is not a priority.
3. Secret agendas which may include tossing the partner to the curb after goal is achieved.
4. High risk of STDs due to multiple sex partners.
5. Possibility of previous partners showing up.
6. Possibility of false allegations against new partner.
7. High possibility that new partner is a means to an end.
Interestingly, many Nigerian women (single mothers included) frown at the thought of their son (s) dating a single mother.i
The underlying reason why baby mama/daddy should be frowned upon is that it is the result of irresponsibility. Outside incidents of rape or divorce (clearly these don't qualify), why should any adult bring a child to the world and not be ready to give that child the right to have a home where the father and the mother are present?
ReplyDeleteIf a man or a woman is not good enough to get married to, then why is such a person worth sleeping with in the first place? That is irresponsibility.
Furthermore, if any man or woman consents to having sex outside marriage and has unprotected sex at that without taking measures to mitigate the likely result of sex, which can be pregnancy, what can be more irresponsible than that?
There is nothing like the pregnancy was a mistake. Clearly, the erection and the opening wide of legs for penile insertion wasn't a mistake so how can the pregnancy be one?
Our lives are an expression of the choices we make and our choices reflect the depth and soundness of our sense of judgement. I will be hard-pressed to believe any baby daddy or mama is someone who possesses a sterling sense of judgement.
Let's see this troubling trend for what it is. A generation of failed and selfish men who abhor responsibility of any kind and a generation of women who fail to demand better, expect better and place little value on themselves that they can't demand to be more than a baby factory, is what is behind the trend.
Some may argue that women who give birth outside wedlock should be commended for not aborting the baby. That's fine but it doesn't negate the fact that her irresponsibility from the beginning, put her in that situation.
The only thing I see wrong in baby mama thing I will say is the luggage(s) some of them bring into the relationship with the new partner.
ReplyDeleteI'm actually writing one of my experiences with one which I will share in my corner before the month runs out. Twice I have dated baby mamas and I'll say I have gotten my own share of their shenanigans.
© TEEJAY
It’s baggage not luggage…
DeleteThe Akwa Ibom one you were calling your wife recently is one of them abi?
DeleteWhy exactly should I date a baby mama? Is it my business that she made a mistake, if she stayed away from pre-marital business, there won't be any of such conversation. No real man like an evening newspaper, right?
ReplyDeleteDibia
....and no real woman with a sense of self-worth likes a man who has dug his member into so many holes, infact no real woman with self-worth likes a 'dog'!
DeleteHope you also stay away from pre-marital business? How I wish my gender will learn
DeleteAnon 15:39, they are even the most sought after. No woman wants a boring Jew man that other women don’t want. Why do you think players are the ones with so many baby mama dramas and all kinds of women fighting for them???
Delete18;34 you clearly don't have sense
DeleteIt's okay to make certain choices(a child isn't a mistake) in life;but the harsh reality is that for some choices you have made in the past as a young lady;it's very difficult to erase yourself from it's repercussions in the future;so there isn't much options aside living with the consequences of it.
ReplyDeleteThis topic is a very sensitive one,so my only advice to anyone not yet a Baby mama is to avoid pre-marital sex and be selfish with your womb.
A man has nothing to lose after ejaculation;but you as a lady? Your life changes and there would be no going back.
You can ask those with responsible husbands how difficult it is to raise a child as a family;then imagine what you alone would go through doing it alone for years.
Be selfish with your privates and womb,any child coming from you should be worth the stress.
@MARTINS
In Nigeria, because of our cultural beliefs, we often see having a child outside marriage as a sign of irresponsibility, that the person is reckless, comes with baggage, or will have drama from an ex-partner.
ReplyDeleteAs a result, we judge them harshly.
However, having a child out of wedlock is not a red flag.
The men call out here today lol
ReplyDeleteIn my own part of Igboland, they are strict on marriage procedures,you see that stage called IJU ASE(Verification of Lineage) once they hear IME MKPUKE(Baby mama or After One)? Everything takes a sharp dive. Either for good or a delete 📌
ReplyDeleteA young girl who was raped is not a baby mama.
A young girl who was left halfway into traditional rites is not a baby mama.
A divorcee with a child is not a baby mama.
A widow with a child is not a baby mama.
In fact, women in this category marry faster than teenagers sef.
One of my brothers married one in the second category after it was found out that the guy had a wife in Netherlands, came to deceive her during Xmas , today she's in a good region no longer frying akara with her mom in the village, trained medic and her daughter is 23, graduated from university.
God save you,that you have tattoos,you'll hear "o workuró(Kole work). She's under the control of Ndiafu(those people)🧜🧙😂
This epidemic going on is because many families lack value, why would your daughter be bragging with a baby she can't point her daddy if you and your wife are not a FAILURE?
And y'all take Holy Communion in church every 1st Sunday? Hmmm
Xhlrted P
That's why I hardly post "congratulations " to them no matter the celeb.
DeleteWe glorify sin a lot.
Mao Akuh
I wouldn’t call choosing to give birth a mistake because the could have easily terminated the pregnancy without anyone knowing. Choosing to have their child in a culture where they will be stigmatized is an act of courage.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong with dating someone with a child. A child is not a disease or a death sentence, it’s just a child. Some of them who would never date someone who is a sole parent will happily take help from that same child in their old age. When they are old and cannot do shyt for themselves will they ask the caregiver if they were born in wedlock, some will be lucky to find one adult born out of wedlock to change their filthy dirty diaper and roll their bedridden old body so they don’t get bedsores, will they care about how that person got on the earth? Some are in for a rude awakening in their old age, let them continue to look down on and puff up themselves now. Life will humble and humiliate those who think they are better than others.
Our society has mastered the art of judging people for the very sins it commits in secret. Everyone suddenly turns holy when the topic is baby mama or baby daddy - forgetting the married desecrating their vows, or the religious do-no-wrongs praying for “fruit of the womb” after years of quiet immoralities in their youth.
ReplyDeleteLet’s be honest. Having a child outside marriage doesn’t make anyone less human. Some of these so-called baby mamas are raising their children alone with the courage that many married women can’t muster. Some baby daddies are more deeply present in their child’s life than men sleeping beside their wives every night.
The real conversation should be about responsibility, growth, and character, not stigma. Morality isn’t the worry but how innocently we take to the art of hypocrisy. We pretend to protect values, but what we’re really protecting is image. In a society that shames women for getting pregnant yet mocks them for not having children, what exactly do we want?
A child isn’t a mistake. Life happened, as it often does - sometimes through recklessness, sometimes through love, sometimes through betrayal. What matters is what came after. Did they take responsibility? Did they learn? Did they rise? Did they take accountability?
Before you mock a single mother, remember: her story might carry more grace and discipline than your own. And before you dismiss a man because he fathered a child, ask yourself - are you condemning him for his past or your own fear of being judged?
What’s wrong isn’t being a baby mama or baby daddy. What’s wrong is living without compassion, pretending perfection while drowning in private sins only God knows about.
Why should my past dictate my future?so many negative views here but I choose to look at my life from God's perspective.
ReplyDeleteSo many single mothers and fathers later married well and right,so I choose to look at the positive side.
Yeah. A babynama should marry a baby papa. Balanced
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