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HUSBAND WITH THE BIG NON STANDING GBOLA..

Pls keep me anonymous..my story is quite a lengthy one
I have been married for 2yrs+ and i wont say i have had the best of marriages..

I am currently having intimacy issues with my husband...usually we hear cases of men disturbing their wives for sxx but mine is the reverse

I dated my husband for about a year and in all honesty the intimacy wasnt really on point..i have dated guys before my husband and i didnt have sxxual issues with them(at least not enough for me to pinpoint)with them,id be crazily attracted,the "proverbial butterflies in my tummy" before the relationship starts...but my husband's own wasnt like that...i was a bit hesitant towards dating so i gave it a bit more time before we started dating
Eventually the attraction crept in...not with the force i expected but enough to start..so i gave it a go...

Fast forward to a year later,he proposed...

I was a bit hesitant cos the sXX didnt have a "wow factor" but then again,how shallow can a full-grown 30 something year old woman be to reject a young, responsible man just cos the sXx isnt wow"...

Genotype issues has already made me lose some good relationships,would i make sXx also make me lose this one...
So i accepted..with the mindset of we have forever to make the sXx wow...

As God would have it,i got pregnant immediately i got married(always been my dream)Throughout my Pregnancy,MY HUSBAND DIDNT SLEEP WITH ME.

Before you tell me how unappealing i am hence my husband doesnt find me attractive....no worry... I SET...Pregnancy didnt steal my glow..

Back when we were dating...i cant count how many nudes and "bean-flicking videos" i sent to my husband...that shows the level of sXxual confidence i have 

Pls let me throw us back to our dating days....

I noticed my husband comes quick...i said it was quick ejacXlation...but baba said its how his body was programmed but subsequent rounds he stays longer...(To me sha,the recovery time takes a while and even the 2nd round isnt as long as id want)

Lets bounce back to the present...

Even on our honeymoon...under 10 thrust baba don pour everywhere...(All my hopes and dreams of heavy pounding,axx-spanking just went down the drain...me wey don gather brownies...say we go die for this 3 honey moon night...i throway the tin laslas)
I was getting angry cos during the wedding planning i wasnt really getting good sxx...he attributed it to stress work,changing apartment and wedding...so i just pushed all my sxxual desire to honeymoon and there was nothing sweet about it...

So when i got pregnant at about the first few weeks(i am usually horny in my first trimester) i even went to meet him as the horniness don dey make me visit brazzers anyhow...Baba as usual came early and i was angry and reminded him of how this happened when we were dating and how its still happening and how i havent been enjoying sxx even from relationship days..

And this is all strange to me cos i never had this ish with guys i dated in the past...Baba said i shouldn't be angry that he has a lot on his mind..i sha let the matter rest...

Fast forward to 2nd trimester...NO SxX...3rd trimester Still NO SxX..

It even got worse...like he doesnt even come close again...no intimacy..no cuddles...no kissing(when no be say my mouth dey smell)..

I pleaded,cried,begged,apologised for whatever wrong i might have unknowingly done...he just said he has heard and he'd make amends....even Tailor no forget to make amendment reach my husband
When i was about 8months preggy,i couldnt keep quiet anymore...i confided in my Mum( shes my confidante)....my mama shock and decided to speak to my husband about it...only for my husband to tell her that i compared him to my previous relationships,so he decided not to sleep with me...pekele pekele..arugbo je gbese...

After much talk,my mother said he should prioritise my pregnancy and forgive whatever i said wrong. and me too apologised

During my doctors visits,i was past my EDD..i hadn't gone into labour,doctor asked about my intimacy with my husband and i told him and the man was shocked and requested to see my husband immediately...

He saw my hubby and told him my baby has been faced down for a long time but my cervix isnt opening and sxx would make it open fast so he should do what he's meant to do and i should come back a week later

Throughout that 1wk...NO SxX...i reminded him of what the doctor said...he said he's heard...as the sxx didn't happen...i went to the hospital and doctor ripened my cervix with a catheter Before i gradually progressed into labor.. i didn't even take long one push and my pink jet came out.

Fast forward to 3 months after childbirth....body don dey scratch me but my hubby still didn't come close and at this point,i told my Father inlaw and the  man said he'd talk to him to find out what the problem was..

After much talk my husband still didn't sleep with me...

I told my mother in law and the woman was just displaying theatrics saying its not possible .how can her son behave like this and why didn't i tell her before now...that she'd nip the situation in the bud(i pray say she nip am)

Fast forward to like 6 months post partum konji don squeeze my intestine...i practically get wet by everything and anything.

I told my husband he should see a doctor cos this has taken too long...he said he has no medical problem, he just needs to unclog his mind and he'd be better...Oga when You turn plumber.? I gave it some time and still no sxx...i insisted on us going to a fertility clinic and he agreed.

They ran some tests on him - cholesterol,testosterone and others...they said his oestrogen level was a bit high hence the low testosterone level and invariably the low libido...They prescribed some drugs and he took them for like 2wks...I was here waiting to be turned upside down BUT nothing happened..

he complained the drug was giving him headache and he stopped taking it:

Pls let it be known that between my wedding in 2023(also the year i got pregnant) and all through 2024 my husband only had SXx with me THRICE..twice in 2024and once when i just got pregnant
And even the Twice sef it was after series of talks...

Early 2025 both families now know the situation at hand...they had series of talks with my husband and still no sxx.

he went to another fertility clinic and was given another drug to use for a month...he used the drug said there weren't any significant changes in his erection...

I am a natural nudist;so to naked no dey hard me..i change in front of my husband and even talk with him naked....i cant recall the last time i saw an erection or even morning wood..

Everyone is tired of talking to him Since my body wasn't properly utilised for horizontal refreshment...i told him i needed another child cos i was gradually become cranky and a bitter woman with a truckload of sxxual frustration...so i took the matter to the pastor
The man was shocked and counselled him and kept tabs with both of us..las las my hubby sha manage to do something...i get belle...

Someone that sees the way i get preggy easily would think we have a robust sxx life but my body na magnet for belle...(Past relationships has taught me that)...my husband just did something under 12 thrust...baba don pour and that was it.. all through my ovulation window,

Currently,I am in my 2nd trimester,about 5mths gone...and I HAVENT HAD SxX Since i got pregnant..so lets say..in this 2025,my husband only slept with me THRICE
I am EXHAUSTED...i dont know what to do again

PS:For those who might say my husband is cheating on me...i dont know about that..naturally,i dont snoop but even those wey dey cheat stil dey nack their wives naaa...Asides financial issues which everyone is facing and Thank God i'm working and i contribute to a large extent in the house.

my husband is a good man with big gbola sef and i dont know why he is under-utilizing it

Pardon my epistle
I hand to summarise 2yrs wahala

I am so sorry, I know that this is a serious chronicle but your words were hilarious...

That reporting your man up and down, did a lot of damage to him and you know that nacking is from the mind...you killed his mind and you need to revive it by giving him self confidence..he feels less of a man around you...Kai, do you know telling others must have shamed him? I felt so sorry for him that you could notkeep his secret your secret.

You can still work on him with nice words...respect him, make him feel loved,pet him, call him sweet names and watch him come back to life.....SXX is not everything oh......Yes you are beautiful but mouthy and you used your bad mouth to kill hi male pride..please revive it cos only you can do that....