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STRANGE MOTHER IN LAW
There's something strange about my mother in law, I want to ask if I'm the one over thinking it and how to associate with her henceforth.
A time comes where someone will bring up something so strange and you are left with no choice than to let them unveil who they rare.
I got married to her son early this year and I' was not too close to my mother in law before the whole marriage thing.
After the wedding, my MIL visited and gifted me a set of baby bath then she started by asking me to give her pot and cooler from the gifts people gave me on my wedding day , so I refused to give her anything from my gifts.
After that she came up with me giving her my wedding certificate for prayers, I wanted to argue but I just said to myself let me allow her use this to reveal who she is bcos why would my mother in-law be asking for my wedding certificate??
I decided to give it to her cos I knew she was up to something very dark but I know myself and my worth so I just let it be.
She travelled back and boom she showed me who she is!
One month after she left with it, she called to say it's missing and that she visited a prophet who told her witches from my father's house came n took it.
I just knew what she was up to so I threatened her that I'll visit a priest and a black mass will the conducted over the missing certificate and whoever the witch is will die in 3 days...
My people, you needed to see the way she called my husband to report the black mass matter to him and she then asked that my husband come to the village so that they could search for it together.
He returned and brought back the certificate as fresh as it was...
Since that day I fear this people we call MIL ooh. I'm still trying to think on how to relate with her since then.
It's been almost 6 months now and I haven't called her or spoken with her.
I think you are the one that is overthinking it oh..
You shouldn't even release your certificate to anybody.
ReplyDeleteVery wrong move
DeleteFirst off, why would you release a document as important as your marriage certificate to someone? Why not give her the printed copy?
DeleteSexondly, you probably have been biased about MILs from the get go hence you look at your MIL's every action with suspicion.
Thirdly, concerning the black mass you threatened your MIL with, I hope you know that is witchcraft?
Please choose the path of love, get rid of your biased mentality and show love to that woman. She is your HUSBAND'S MOM. Please treat her the same way you would want your husband to treat your mother.
PICK UP YOUR PHONE AND CALL HER.
First off, why would you release a document as important as your marriage certificate to someone? Why not give her the printed copy?
DeleteSexondly, you probably have been biased about MILs from the get go hence you look at your MIL's every action with suspicion.
Thirdly, concerning the black mass you threatened your MIL with, I hope you know that is witchcraft?
Please choose the path of love, get rid of your biased mentality and show love to that woman. She is your HUSBAND'S MOM. Please treat her the same way you would want your husband to treat your mother.
PICK UP YOUR PHONE AND CALL HER.
Call her for what,pls go back and read again,MIL- dark powers working overtime,poster pls wake up and pray like a wounded lion
DeleteWahala dey sleep , you decide use broom wake am. If she wanted a cooler why didn't you just give itto her, but yet you gave out your marriage certificate and threatened her with a form of Witchcraft.
DeleteHmmmmm..
To whom brain is given, sense is expected.
SDK should probably open a chronicles file for you because the way you're going this na just episode1.
Just be cordial with her and mind your business.
ReplyDeleteI like as you used wisdom to get back your wc, she was definitely up to something . But I think you should call her and make peace with her, at least she had known that you seff no be soft meat , she had learnt not to mess with you.
ReplyDeleteGive her your marriage certificate for what exactly?
ReplyDeleteStella, pls this one is not overthinking o. Poster don't relent in prayers.
You’re not overthinking it oh
ReplyDeleteBut stop playing with fire
Stella how can she be the one overthinking it when her MIL took her marriage certificate ( which isn’t even supposed to be the case at all ) and lied that it was missing? Ah Stella
ReplyDeleteIt's Aunty Stella's Red Pen for me 😂. Wow mama needed a helping hand to search for certificate that she kept all alone by herself. You too entered the marriage readily. Way to go
ReplyDeleteIf it was me I wouldn't give it to her. How would you even give your marriage certificate away.
ReplyDeleteStella ! How can she be overthinking it when MIL took her marriage certificate away (which isn’t supposed to be the case at all) and lied that it was missing? Ah
ReplyDeletePoster be careful of your mil, she’s up to no good .
Hmmmm, They say, He who dines with the devil, uses a long spoon. Poster, next time, don't give her anything that belongs to you personally. Unless, it is something that you won't be collecting back from her.
ReplyDeleteDon't know what to say. You should not have to give anyone your certificate
ReplyDeleteYou sbould have declined giving her the certificate. What is your husband's position in all these?
ReplyDeleteWhy give it to her in the first place hian
ReplyDeleteI don’t think giving your marriage certificate to anybody is a good idea.
ReplyDeleteWhy would you give your Wedding Certificate to someone in the first place? I suggest you should be extra careful with her as it is obvious there is more to her.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes you are not over thinking it.
Please you are not overthinking it, prayerfully address the situation with her. Accusing withches of stealing the certificate is ridiculous.
ReplyDeleteFoodie
Every lady plays to be a mothers in-law some day yet immediately we get married, our first worry is our mother in-law. I see nothing wrong in gifting your mother in-law part of the gift that you received during your wedding. It's her son's wedding you know.
ReplyDeleteIn as much as there are so many bad people, men and women alike but the rate women target their mothers-in-law after marriage is worrisom. This woman raised your husband. She went through it all to make him the man you married. A little patience dear.
My concern is how difficult it was for you to release gifts but rather effortlessly released your wedding certificate for prayers. Who does that?
In all she is your mother in-law. The mother of your husband. Show a little empathy and kindness.
Did u even read the whole write up?
DeleteThank you Zaram. The poster is not accommodating at all. Your MIL asked for pots and cooler and you refused to give her.
DeletePoster you didn't do well.
I completely agree with you, Zaram. Even if she didn't want to release those pots and stuff, she could have told her kindly that she would take care of her come her birthday or Christmas. There are ways to handle a situation without having to say a blatant NO, which can feel like rejection. The Mil probably wanted to pray on the marriage because she saw some things or felt that the poster lacking generosity would not make a good wife in the long-term. A man needs to marry a kind woman just as we preach a woman needs to marry a kind man, it works both ways. We all have our own mothers but there is nothing wrong with being kind and gentle to the mother of our spouse, considering without his mother you wouldn't have a husband today.
DeleteWhen I preach that parents need to have things sorted for themselves so that when their children go their own way as adults they will be fine this is what I mean. I couldn't imagine being old and feeling unwanted and unwelcomed in my child's home or fingered as a witch because I may not know the appropriate etiquette of the day or dealing with health issues related to forgetfulness. I don't have kids so my azz won't have to worry about finding out, thank you God!
Next time, go to a business center and ask for a coloured photocopy, so that u retain the original, she wudnt have known it is a photocopy since it would look exactly the same.
ReplyDeleteWhy should her MIL as for wedding certificate if she is not up to a mischief,na so witches dey behave,poster pls match jer fire for fire in prayers,she will run.
DeleteWhy asking for her wedding gifts?
Anon MIL isonu
18:13, I think she asked for the wedding gifts because she probably thought they were all one big happy family now and she genuinely needed those things. Many older folks come over and ask for things, especially if they think you have a lot and can part with some. My sister and mom don't play with taking my things if they want, they don't even ask. I have talked until I am blue, that's their style, annoying as hell, but I know they are not taking them for any ill intentions. I am certain that I'm not the only one with family members like this.
DeleteIt would have been better if you had given her the Pot and cooler,seeing that it's Simply Gifts from others than your Wedding Certificate which is a Personal Document .
ReplyDeleteYou can enter any open market to buy pot and cooler,But to get Another Marriage certificate,I don't even know if it can be re-issued again.
Madam overthinker, why did you release your marriage certificate to her in the first place? That's how we create problems where we shouldn't. Now is the time to stay in the place of prayers because you just started something, and I pray that you see the end in Jesus name. amen
ReplyDeleteYou refused to give part of your gifts and ended up giving her your marriage certificate?
ReplyDeleteYou're something else.
You gave out your marriage certificate like it's not important or you don't just value it, I'm surprised.
ReplyDeleteAll I will say is for you to be more careful next time and prayerful.
Dear Poster,
ReplyDeleteTake a deep breath and take it easy.....You just got married, and there’s no need to start imagining things.....You can have a genuine relationship with her without feeling suspicious.....Maybe all those daughter-in-law/mother-in-law stories you’ve read are just getting in your head.....
It’s a bit unusual that she asked for your wedding certificate, but giving it just to prove a point might have fueled concerns that weren’t really there.....Did you ask your husband about it when she made the request? Starting off on the wrong foot can make things more complicated than they need to be.....
Try to get to know her calmly.....You don’t need to assume the worst.....Maybe even tease her a little or engage in a friendly way; it can lighten the mood and help build trust....
Wishing you all the best....
For this same story wey we read?
DeleteEka u no see say na AI write am?? From the wordings that lack human touch to the way it is written like an official correspondence, that is a dead giveaway. So abeg dont worry ur pretty head.
DeleteWhy did you release the certificate?
ReplyDeleteAnyways, just keep your distance but remain respectful and cordial with her.
You couldn't give her pot and cooler but you released your marriage certificate to her?
ReplyDeleteWhy would she ask and you give her your cert? Those things you gave her pray against ttc oo
ReplyDeleteStella, I don't think she's over thinking it. Why would her mother in law asked for her marriage certificate, for what, no matter how the mother in law want to paint it, she's not her biological child, there shld be boundaries.
ReplyDeleteWhat prayer! Pray in , my presence, noting my absence.
Stella she is not overthinking nothing
ReplyDeletePlease be cordial with her but be very careful around her, please poster be prayerful.
Na wa!!
she was up to something but thank God you acted fast.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, everything is weird on all fronts. I feel that giving her what she requested from the wedding gifts is not a big deal. It's funny that you rated those highly than a very personal thing like your wedding certificate.
ReplyDeleteAs if her asking and you giving her is not strange enough, the events afterwards are even 'stranger'. From her telling you it's missing, to you threatening her and boom, it resurfaced. Everything is just somehow.
However, your marriage is still very new. You don't need anything like this to get you worked up and create tension in your young marriage. Try and be as cordial as you can be with your MIL. But you need to be watchful, careful, and prayerful.
Your husband is in on it. The marriage certificate missing is to use later to say you are not legally married or for you not to apply for visa. as a married woman. I would advise you not to change your name.
ReplyDeleteNigerian parents are truly a handful. Are you currently pregnant why she brought the baby stuff? Asking for something out of wedding gifts does not indicate bad intentions, just need, you could have told your husband that she needs pots and to get some for her for Christmas. Then needing marriage certificate to pray over is a bit much. This lady should live her own life. Newlyweds don’t want their parents around like that. I’m not sure if she is up to anything, but what I’m sure of is that she needs to find things to do with her own life to occupy her time. Nobody wants to be seen as the busybody old person. Maybe she is interpreting the marriage as God sending her a daughter and crossing boundaries. I hope she has her own daughters and your son is not an only child. This is why I don’t buy the overly closeness thing, and prefer to keep a distance with everyone, cause I don’t want to overdo and next thing my actions get misinterpreted.
ReplyDeleteYou're not overthinking. She doesn't mean well. However, in this type of instance, you'd have photocopied the certificate to look original and give her that copy. Only God knows what she wanted to use it to do. Na wa
ReplyDeletePoster why give it to her at frist?
ReplyDeleteYou could not release pots and coolers but you released marriage certificate. See how you referred to your own marriage as ' before the whole marriage thing'. You never talk true CP. Does your husband know the thing he married? Fear women indeed!
ReplyDeleteVery materialistic, cant give out of the gift she got; but can give out marriage certificate. Boom mother in law is a witch.
ReplyDeleteI will be more worried about the impression I have created on my husband's mind (a wife that is quick to invoke witches prayer on his mother at the drop of a bat)...I see a wisdom deficiency here, it is possible that just as you are sceptical about her likewise she's about you.
ReplyDeleteYou felt pressured to release a personal document, one would think you'd express your concerns to hubby after it was lost and get him to go retrieve it since he knows her better (there's absolutely no relationship between both of you from this narrative).
I was wondering about your motive for sending this chronicle, is it guilt? Are you seeking validation for your actions? Are you wanting people to shame MIL as someone who is fetish and lives in a village?
How's the current situation affect your home when your kids are born? What's your husband's view on what happened.
More importantly: how would you handle this situation next time without destroying the relationship if it were to happen again? It takes reflection to improve.
PCX
Both of una dey craze. Wetin come be black mass? Who asks for peoples wedding gift?
ReplyDeleteI m giving it 2 years. Dont unpack your bagsbecause your husband is wacky too
MIL INLAW IS VERY FETISH
ReplyDeleteYou would have given her the pots and coolers when she asked you. She might need them to do business and maybe, she’s asking because you got a lot of them. Can you finish using all the pots and coolers you got as gifts? There’s nothing wrong in this request but for the marriage certificate, you would have politely declined it. Also, your mindset about your mother in law is wrong. You’re supposed to treat her the way you treat your mother for your own good. I see nothing in what you’ve described up there about your mother in law and at the rate you’re going, you’ll have problems with your in laws and you’ll be the looser.
ReplyDeleteYou would have given her the pots and coolers when she asked you. She might need them to do business and maybe, she’s asking because you got a lot of them. Can you finish using all the pots and coolers you got as gifts? There’s nothing wrong in this request but for the marriage certificate, you would have politely declined it. Also, your mindset about your mother in law is wrong. You’re supposed to treat her the way you treat your mother for your own good. I see nothing in what you’ve described up there about your mother in law and at the rate you’re going, you’ll have problems with your in laws and you’ll be the looser.
ReplyDeleteNothing like over thinking, be prayerful
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