ECHOES OF HEARTBREAK
Please I need help on how to navigate life now cos its seems I am hooked.
Last year an Edo man broke my heart and my world changed completely...I have tried to move on and see the better side of life but its seems I have a sharp cut in my heart..
The only thing ringing inside in my head is how to go to any river and seek justice and revenge. No matter how hard I try to over look how this Edo man betrayed me, my spirit is still thinking that he should not go unpunished...
Pls is there any remedy I can use to get detached from the act...
Awwww:....Please do not ever let your thoughts take you this far...I understand heartbreak but let me shock you....You will be fine and love better than what you felt for the heartbreaker....
Please move on from this thought as it will invite more woes into your life....
Please you people should give her some good advice.....
My own be say why you dey focus on the fact say na Edo man? Heartbreak pain na by tribe? 🤣🤣🤣.
ReplyDeleteI know it hurts and there's nothing you'll be told that will soothe and ease the pain you feel. So allow the pain wash all over you. Let it do its thing. Hold nothing back. With time, it will fade away. It always does.
Dissociate yourself from everything that reminds you of him and how you felt for him. I'd say go fall on a few d*cks but I don't imagine you are in the right headspace for that now.
Go on dates where possible, fill your time with activities that demand focusing of your mind. If you have to travel, do so even if it is for a short while. Heartbreaks are our brains grieving for losing familiarities and patterns we've built an existence around.
It is okay to mourn for a short time but don't dwell. Put yourself out there and come off better. You owe yourself that much.
Pls move on, get busy and pray.
DeleteI don't know your religious inclination but the word of God says: Vengeance is mine says the Lord and I will repay. Please allow God to fight for you. Bitterness and unforgiveness eats up the vessel that habour it; allow God to fight on your behalf dear poster. He will do a better job on your behalf.
ReplyDeleteWhen some people keep saying yoruba demon, I will be using corner eyes to look at them omo!! You don jam Edo guy? Edo guy go mess u up.
ReplyDeletePoster i felt this way back then but honestly you will be fine with time. Just give it time ok? Don't waste your energy on one guy. Sorry.
I dey tell u.
DeleteEdo guy show me shege last year june, dem worse pass yoruba guys.
Move the heck on biko
ReplyDeleteNa man the Edo man be no god.
Think of all the times you have disappointed God and your family and you are still thriving and breathing. How people give humans such hold over their life and emotions baffle me.
Take it easy, na your heart them brea, it's not the end of the world.
Please you better give someone else a chance and don't be like those people that got heart broken and remained single for 600 years.
If you like vex and start insulting me in anon mode na you sabi
Moving on from a heartbreak is not exactly easy, especially when you love with your whole heart and believed you have reached your final bus stop in the search for love.
DeletePoster, are you a water child? If yes, kindly use that energy to pray for strength to move ahead. If you decide to retaliate, you sef go tire for how the guy life go become.
Poster... I hear you and your emotions are valid.
ReplyDeleteThat said, this to shall pass. Seeking revenge like this causes temporary satisfaction but the hurt remains.
From experience, I can tell you to let it go, forgive yourself for seeing some signs and making excuses, someone better will show up and you wil look back and at the back of your mind thank him for acting this way now. It looks hard, bug I have been there and I woukd not be where I am today if I held on to the past
Nothing valid about her emotions. Is her heart the first to be broken? If you check, it is still the regular betrayal that we have all encountered. Did any of us go looking for a river to swear inside?
DeleteA Wicked, Vindictive person is a Wicked/Vindictive person, whether heartbroken or not and that's who the poster seems to be..maybe that is even why she was tossed.
anyway, I don't know names of rivers plus you didn't state your location so I can check Google.
For every bitter and painful story, there will always be part be; if you can maintain right attitude towards the problem and succeed in keeping your heart free from complaints, murmuring, revenge and wishing him evil, a time will definitely come when you raised your hands and thank God for the way the relationship folded. My sister, please forgive that man and any other person for your own good. If you let go of bitterness, God will show you another way which he has already made for you. He left because he felt you do not measure up to his standard; kindly accept yourself and tell yourself repeatedly that he doesn't deserve you. Don't wait for his apology before you forgive because you are only doing yourself a favour by forgiving him.
ReplyDeleteSorry Darling.
ReplyDeleteEdo can be Extra, Your Best Love is Yet to Come.
You Will Get A Better Man that will Love You So Much and You Will be Grateful to God for Taking This Particular Edo Man from Your Life.
Hugs Babes.
Poster heartbreak dey painful.
ReplyDeleteAlignment with river spirit after revenge would introduce more problems to your life.
See it as tou dodged a wicked bullet meant for tour life and you will be fyn.
The thing with relationships is that both ppl may be having completely different experiences and view the union in different ways. Some of our little flaws are someone else’s red flags. What we will easily put up with would disgust someone else. If seck is involved someone may pretend to be interested in you but it’s just the free seck holding them there. If you are giving free housework, they make keep you around just for that. These may be viewed as labours of love, but the choice is there to protect yourself and not give away yourself like that. Choosing to do those things guarantee nothing. In some instances, someone may truly love you but do not like you, maybe cannot stand to be around to listen what you are saying, but love is really there, they genuinely have to walk away because even with the love they know that the day to day living would not work out.
ReplyDeleteThe above are all examples of why a relationship may not work out, none of these require entering into diabolical situations to seek revenge. You will likely be a mother one day, would you like someone to take your child’s name to the river because they feel wronged that a relationship did not end in marriage? Do not do actions that can have lasting repercussions on your generations. When you do that what will happen when your daughters can never marry or everyone who comes along walk away? Cry your tears one last day, feel your pain, but by God dust off yourself off, get up and move on. Face your God, your talents, your possibilities and go succeed in life. What you are here crying over may have opened the door to someone more suited for you and who brings a better quality of life your way. Instead of plotting revenge and simmering in hatred, say a new prayer a daring prayer. Thank God for letting the relationship end because you know it did for God to bring His great plans of love, peace, serenity and prosperity attached to a more wonderful man into your life. If you pray like that I guarantee you that someone you would never expect to look your way will enter your life before the end of this year, You would marry by three months and the marriage would last all the days of your lives. This I know for a fact! Pray a daring prayer and let everyone see the might of God. If we would only be daring and command the impossible, the pain you think you have today you would be jumping for joy that it happened to you.
EOD
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Well said. If not all said.
Sometimes revenge helps you move on
ReplyDeleteDid he steal your money ?
ReplyDeletePoster he broke your heart, why and what happened??
ReplyDeleteYou didn't give details to know who was at fault.
Hold that your thought,he may not be the one for you.
Please, do not allow the thoughts to take over you. Allow him go. The pain you're feeling inside your heart will do the work for you as long as he really hurt you
ReplyDeletePlease, do not allow the thoughts to take over you. Allow him go. The pain you're feeling inside your heart will do the work for you as long as he really hurt you
ReplyDeletePele dear. 🤗. God will heal you completely. Try and leave vengeance. The reason,you're not healing and stucked in your pains.
ReplyDeleteMay God heal your wound
ReplyDeleteLeave vengeance for God to handle and be hopeful for the best to come
Let go and Let God !
ReplyDeleteTime will definitely heal.
Try focus on YOU. Keep telling yourself YOU ARE BETTER THAN HIM.
NKIRU KA !
What is ahead is greater !!
Must every relationship ends in marriage?if not why are people so pained when a relationship pack up that they want to seek revenge? Some people forget that power is by rank, and that there is back to sender.
ReplyDeleteWhat about the price to be paid for services planned to be sought.
ReplyDeleteSometimes, these include the unmentioned covenants, sometimes marriage covenant with spirit beings?
This reminds about the story of that Bv who went for washing of her head at the riverside and went home with a spirit husband that tormented her human suitors and her for years until she got her freedom by a chance meeting with a person in a bus who witnessed her sorrowful weeping in the bus.
Please pardon my questions and re narration of what was read here O!
This idea of giving tribal coloration to everything na wah, na you know why you agree to date the man but the only thing you describe him by in this story is his tribe. Na Edo people break your heart?
ReplyDeleteHello Poster,
ReplyDeleteMany of us have been there, serenaded by the echoes of heartbreak. And that feeling isn't madness. It is simply an emotional injury. And with juries, they heal.
When someone we love betrays us, the brain reacts as if we are under threat. The attachment is broken. The future we imagined collapses. Anger steps in because it feels powerful. Revenge at that point feels like control, and it gives the illusion that we can balance the scales.
But revenge does not repair attachment trauma. It only keeps you tied to the person. The more you rehearse punishment in your mind, the more you rehearse him. You remain hooked, not because you love him, but because you have not metabolised the loss.
First, remove the tribe from the story. Pain is not ethnic. Nor is heartbreak tied to tribe. It is personal. Reducing him to “an Edo man” is your mind trying to simplify the hurt. It will not help you heal.
Second, understand what is really wounded. It is not just your heart. It is your pride, your trust, your sense of safety. That is why the urge for justice feels spiritual and intense. But chasing spiritual revenge will only deepen the wound. You do not cure betrayal by injuring yourself further.
Detachment is practical, not mystical:
Cut contact.
Remove reminders.
Stop monitoring his life.
Interrupt revenge fantasies the moment they start.
When the thought comes, do not argue with it. Replace it with action — a walk, a call, work, prayer, exercise, or talk to someone who understands pain without it hurting. Your nervous system needs regulation, not ritual.
Most importantly, accept that he may never be punished in a way you can see. Healing begins the day you stop waiting for his downfall to feel better.
You are not hooked to him. You are hooked to the story that you were wronged and justice is pending. And it should come now. Close the case internally. Grieve properly. Let your ego ache. Then rebuild quietly.
Heartbreak have never been passed as a life sentence. It is a withdrawal from attachment. And withdrawal passes — if you let it detach from the pain.
Choose your own peace over his punishment. That is the only revenge that truly frees you from this deep hurt.
Poster you have two options. Spend your energy time and money destroying him or spending your time energy and money improving your self in every way. Me, I won't let a b@sta@@d win twice. I speak from experience. I was abused and left in the most terrible way. After I spent a few years recovering, from what many believed should have driven mad, I levelled up seriously. I went back to school and poured my energy into building up myself, my contacts and networking. I landed a great job and ended up with an incredible man, they type my ex used to dream of licking their shoes. I am now 60 and I look back and thank God for my decision and His grace. So once again, the choice is yours.
ReplyDeleteAmen. You repositioned your mind and reaped your harvest. It is so good to read your story.
DeleteThe only thing I will tell you is that time heals all wounds
ReplyDeleteLas las you go dey alright
So sorry about everything, don't revenge please life still far nah go in and cry enough then drain your eyes baby girl 😘
So just be still ok E hugs 🫂
No vex aunty . Please move on and allow love lead
ReplyDeleteNah, not worth it , sweetie.
ReplyDeleteAnger is one of the stages of grief but don't act on it.
Make absolutely sure you are still enjoying life.
Continue doing all your hobbies. rant to Friends and family . in 1 year you will struggle to remember his name .
say No if he comes back, its not worth it as he is a bad person
"Not all relationships end in marriage, my dear. There are things God prevented us from knowing. You don't know the battles ahead of you in that man's life; you don't have the strength to withstand, but the God of Genesis and Revelation has seen it all and decided to stop it. Why give glory to the devil by going to the river? My dear, in every situation, give thanks to God and expect the best from Him
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