Hmmmmmm.....
I didnt post Chronicle on time so make we dey look ourselves until tomorrow..
Lets talk about how we give advice here....Some of you need to tone it down how you insult or call posters liars...NOT FAIR!!!
And those who always criticise my advice, you can do better by doing it respectfully......we dey fight?
Stella sometimes you’re very rude too in how you handle responses so if we no dey fight you too do better
ReplyDeleteChai...OK I Hear but make una do better!!!
DeleteLol 😆
DeleteLOOOL!
DeleteSometimes some people needs to hear truth in it's raw form. It doesn't mean that you hate them. A lot mistake bluntness for wickedness or cruelty, whereas, it is not so.
ReplyDeleteDoesn't matter if the criticism is constructive or not, I expect poster to take home the lesson.
You’re right, people like me only hear advice when you shout
DeleteTruth in its raw form is different from insults pls. Imagine the chronicle of yesterday where someone called the poster’s mother a mother from the deepest part of hell. I cringed when I read it .
DeleteWe can give advice without insulting the poster or their relatives.
18.44, don't mind the yeye person! He/she must be referring to her own mother.
DeleteAnon 18:44, I'm the one and I won't apologize about it, the only thing that can make me apologize and take back my words is if the father was unable to father any child biologically and he and his wife agreed to what their mother did, if not, she's from the deepest part of hell because she's evil.
DeleteMaybe you're in the same shoe and the insult also affected you.
Stella, you give advice or suggestion as if dem born you abroad. You traveled as a full complete adult so your opinion sounds off sometimes. I will give you an example: while always say a child or ward that was brought up, got sacrifice and denials made for don't owe his/her parents or whomever anything? We're who we are for fs. What if that child was or whomever was allowed to waste and the efforts made to him/her were diverted or used to drink and flex? Each time you write this and your a** lickers support you I just smfh and my day will be spoiled. We're not oyibo, children look after their parents and not dump them in old people's home. Be guided.
ReplyDeleteThank you for this pure truth. Sometimes Stella behaves as if she was born there and didn't grow up in Nigeria
DeleteYou want people that need give away to tell her the truth and not stand a chance of wining 😂🤣
Make una no vexs
DeleteI guess some people get too emotional with some of the stories shared.
ReplyDeleteYES. We need to look at the poster's level of understanding and with love guide him back to the right path. We are not here to condemn, neither to punish anybody, but to help one another see better ways things could be handled. And they are not going to change because we insulted them; rather, they will change because they had some honest conversations with us in the spirit of love and respect. If a poster at fault accepts the right path through your guidance, you win, the blog wins, the society wins.
ReplyDeleteThanks
DeleteSdk, some people advise based on experience. It may sound harsh but it's the truth no matter how you try to put it diplomatically 👌
ReplyDeleteRecently, one Mummy was speaking harshly to a young man in church...who happens to be her nephew. When her anger abated, she started explaining to us that the same habit that killed her 2nd son was what the guy wants to start 🥹 The incident made her sad & she spoke to the guy out of that sadness & heartbreak 💔
Stella, I won’t lie… some chronicles are written in such a way that it’s hard to believe, as if it is a fiction writer who is just sending the stories to rile up a group of people. This is not to say that incredulous things do not happen in this world, but it’s just the way some of these stories are crafted… they just make me go ‘hmmm’ and roll my eyes
ReplyDeleteI really don't like how people degrade others when they post their chronicles sometimes, as if they don't make mistakes of their own. Very funny
ReplyDeleteJust take the advice as it can be applied to you. Not everyone commenting is Nigerian or living in Nigeria. The advice may not even be practical for your situation. If you find value in it then work with it.
ReplyDeleteI like how some people say it as it is.. some get coconut head and painting the Truth isn't it at all.. keeping it real is the best.
ReplyDeleteAnon 16.27, yes, I will say it again, children do not owe parents anything ,that's why parents prepare for their old age,don't rely on ur kids to help through old age,.
ReplyDeleteThis seems to be quite the unpopular opinion but I agree whole-heartedly. The sooner we realize that we are merely stewards to our kids and that our duty is to shepherd them by leading with the truth that they owe us nothing and we are the ones in their debt for answering the call to be born to us. We are not doing them a favour by spending money to raise them, were they supposed to raise themselves from infancy till when they become self-sufficient? We have gotten so used to using them as our retirement plan that we’ve forgotten that they didn’t ask to be here.
ReplyDeleteTrue.
DeleteChildren are not retirement plans.
ReplyDeleteThey are not insurance policies for your old age.
They are not vessels sent to repay your sacrifices.
They didn’t ask to be born — we chose that.
So the truth?
They owe us nothing.
Not money.
Not loyalty.
Not a life shaped around our expectations.
Our role is simple, but heavy:
to raise them with love, wisdom, and grounding…
then release them without chains.
Culture can teach honour — and that’s beautiful.
But when culture begins to demand repayment, control, or guilt,
it stops being truth and starts being burden.
The same way we pour money into burials,
feeding crowds to honour the dead,
while the living struggle silently beside us…
We must ask ourselves:
are we preserving dignity, or performing tradition?
Raise children who choose to love you,
not children who feel obligated to serve you.Because love given freely
is worth more than duty forced through cultur