She said
“This book got to me because it asked the kind of question women feel in the spirit long before they say them out loud. What’s the point of being desired if you are not deeply chosen? What is the point of being chosen if there is no faithfulness?
I’m not even going to lie… this book touched a nerve. Because too many women have mastered the art of looking calm while emotionally carrying nonsense.
Pretty face. Good heart. Soft voice. Strong woman.
And still dealing with a man who wants full access with half intention.
Type shiit.
Very dark type shiit''.
I’m not even going to lie… this book touched a nerve. Because too many women have mastered the art of looking calm while emotionally carrying nonsense.
Pretty face. Good heart. Soft voice. Strong woman.
And still dealing with a man who wants full access with half intention.
Type shiit.
Very dark type shiit''.
What’s the point of being desired if you are not deeply chosen? What is the point of being chosen if there is no faithfulness?
ReplyDelete-AS WIFE NUMBER SEVEN OR SIX?
THAT'S UNFAIR TO IJAPA who transparently housed most contestants under the same roof.
Help me ask her, how can number 5 wife be asking to be solely chosen, na craze?
DeleteIts the fault of people taking her seriously nau.
Yet....So-called '"strong" women are basically expected to endure more, wasting their awesomeness and energy on someone unwilling to truly invest in them. God forbid bad thing!
ReplyDelete"Very dark type shiit" indeed.
You that opened your eyes and became wife never 6 abi is number 7. What do you expect when you are marrying another woman's husband.
ReplyDeleteI hope in your next relationship you don't go for someone's else husband again.
You wanted faithfulness? I doubt because if really wanted faithfulness you wouldn't have stopped to a polygamist.
ReplyDeleteStoop* as in stoop so low.
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@Godswill Baci, I heart you. ❤️ I always look forward to your comments... You, @Pheanix, and @Eka... I admire your unbiased disposition on this post.
ReplyDeleteYou have now turn motivational speaker on marriage after you openly with greed married other women husband.Abeg rest.
ReplyDeleteI can relate. I’m married to a Pastor and I can’t even talk about what I’m going through.
ReplyDeleteIf someone wants full access to you - your time, your body, your emotional space - their intention should be clear, consistent, and visible. Not implied. Not promised. Not “in progress.”
ReplyDeleteAnything else is a negotiation or transaction where you’re the one paying the higher price.
The truth in Regina's opinion is uncomfortable because it’s common. Such emotional imbalance. One person shows up fully - steady, soft, loyal, available. The other shows up halfway - inconsistent, vague, keeping options open but still expecting access, care, and commitment. That gap is where the damage lives.
A lot of people tolerate the "full access with half intention" because everything on the surface looks fine. Which is the misalignment - the assumption that you are in something enviable with no obvious harm. A false reality, with a subtle slow drain that is consistent.
You give, you adjust, you rationalise. Meanwhile, the other person never quite steps in properly. And over time, you start performing strength instead of actually being okay.
For me, the deeper issue isn’t even the man in her statement. But the tolerance. The decision - often quiet and gradual - to accept less than what you already know is right for you.
Because the truth is, people rarely hide their level of intention. They show it early. It’s just easier to interpret potential than to accept reality.
Nne why do you use AI always.
DeleteDo you ever sit down and just type like a normal human being
Or is this you submission? Correct me if I’m wrong
Like i really don't get the lady. Use of AI is good when necessary. But when someone can't put down their thoughts of a few lines without using AI, there's a very big problem with such fellow.
DeleteEbony Oge, please do not mind the naysayers. My name is Ngozi & I always read your writeups with joy. It resonates & makes a lot of sense.
DeleteI don’t care- her marriage to that ancient man has been a choice reflecting her type of person and her family. You made a choice to marry a man like that endure of shut up and leave us alone. I’m jot sure why his is news there are people dying that’s what we should talk about not hungry girls and their family making choices and forcing everyone to empathize I don’t no need you be sweet 16?? Stop disturbing us pls
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