This is a true story.....
''I received an inheritance of almost ₦35 million in cash from my late father. My husband knew about the entire process, so when the money came, he sat me down and asked what I planned to do with it.
I told him I wanted to buy land, buy a car, register for my master's degree, and invest the rest in my business.
He became offended and asked, "So where do I come in as your husband? What do I get?"
I was genuinely confused, so I told him I didn't understand. He said I should forget about it. I continued making plans for the land and the car.
He stayed quiet and simply watched me. Then one day, he woke me up and said he didn't know I was this stvpid. He said I had a husband and such a huge amount of money, yet I couldn't entrust it to him. He asked what impression I was trying to give people.
I was shocked. I asked him a simple question: "You expect me to hand over the money my father worked so hard for and left for me just because you are my husband?"
He flared up. The àŕgum£nt became so h£àted that he almost b£àt me. He told me to prepare myself for whatever happened next because he couldn't stay married to a w0man who was not submissive. He said he would bring another woman into the house, one who would listen to him and respect him.
A few days later, his parents showed up at our home without informing me. In fact, I had just returned from work when I saw them waiting.
They spent hours preaching to me, insisting that I should transfer the entire inheritance to my husband.
They said their family would never forgive me for such disobedience.
My mother-in-law added that she had been b£gg!ng her son not to marry another w0man because she believed I would eventually listen to her.
I felt extremely ùncomfortàble because it felt like an àmbùsh. I agreed with them and promised that I would transfer the money the following morning.
That evening, I carried my baby downstairs, pŕ£tend!ng I wanted to buy something. Instead, I left for a friend's house and switched off my phone.
Two days later, my mother came to my friend's house and stayed to help care for my son while I returned to work.
About a month later, I found a suitable apartment and paid for it.
I went back to my husband's house while he was at work and packed my belongings and my son's belongings.
I also took every single item I had bought with my own money. That was when I realized I had purchased almost everything in the house, including our bed, kitchen appliances, television, and many other household items.
Ironically, my husband earned far more than I did, yet I was the one who spent the most.
Looking back, I realized he had been freeloading off me.
I settled into my new home over the weekend. On Tuesday, while I was at work, the police came to arŕ£st me.
My boss accompanied me to the police station.
My husband claimed that everything I had taken belonged to him and demanded that I prove ownership.
However, he couldn't provide any evidence that the items were his.
One of my colleagues went to my office and brought my cooperative savings scheme records.
Every item I bought had been purchased through my office cooperative, with every single payment deducted directly from my salary.
The following week, I served him with div0rce papers.
That was when he started sending me endless messages, saying he couldn't live without me and that he had only thŕ£atened me because he wanted me to become more submissive.
We're now in court.
I'm done''.
I told him I wanted to buy land, buy a car, register for my master's degree, and invest the rest in my business.
He became offended and asked, "So where do I come in as your husband? What do I get?"
I was genuinely confused, so I told him I didn't understand. He said I should forget about it. I continued making plans for the land and the car.
He stayed quiet and simply watched me. Then one day, he woke me up and said he didn't know I was this stvpid. He said I had a husband and such a huge amount of money, yet I couldn't entrust it to him. He asked what impression I was trying to give people.
I was shocked. I asked him a simple question: "You expect me to hand over the money my father worked so hard for and left for me just because you are my husband?"
He flared up. The àŕgum£nt became so h£àted that he almost b£àt me. He told me to prepare myself for whatever happened next because he couldn't stay married to a w0man who was not submissive. He said he would bring another woman into the house, one who would listen to him and respect him.
A few days later, his parents showed up at our home without informing me. In fact, I had just returned from work when I saw them waiting.
They spent hours preaching to me, insisting that I should transfer the entire inheritance to my husband.
They said their family would never forgive me for such disobedience.
My mother-in-law added that she had been b£gg!ng her son not to marry another w0man because she believed I would eventually listen to her.
I felt extremely ùncomfortàble because it felt like an àmbùsh. I agreed with them and promised that I would transfer the money the following morning.
That evening, I carried my baby downstairs, pŕ£tend!ng I wanted to buy something. Instead, I left for a friend's house and switched off my phone.
Two days later, my mother came to my friend's house and stayed to help care for my son while I returned to work.
About a month later, I found a suitable apartment and paid for it.
I went back to my husband's house while he was at work and packed my belongings and my son's belongings.
I also took every single item I had bought with my own money. That was when I realized I had purchased almost everything in the house, including our bed, kitchen appliances, television, and many other household items.
Ironically, my husband earned far more than I did, yet I was the one who spent the most.
Looking back, I realized he had been freeloading off me.
I settled into my new home over the weekend. On Tuesday, while I was at work, the police came to arŕ£st me.
My boss accompanied me to the police station.
My husband claimed that everything I had taken belonged to him and demanded that I prove ownership.
However, he couldn't provide any evidence that the items were his.
One of my colleagues went to my office and brought my cooperative savings scheme records.
Every item I bought had been purchased through my office cooperative, with every single payment deducted directly from my salary.
The following week, I served him with div0rce papers.
That was when he started sending me endless messages, saying he couldn't live without me and that he had only thŕ£atened me because he wanted me to become more submissive.
We're now in court.
I'm done''.
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ReplyDeleteWhen stories like these are shared, it's imperative to always err on the side of caution rather than jumping fully unclothed in bed with the bandwagon. Did the man make mistakes? He did. Did the woman make mistakes? She did. Marriage is teamwork. Any atom of selfishness and self centeredness kills it before daylight.
DeleteWhen you make money, remember it's for the team. But when you individualize it, then it becomes a business. It's no longer a marriage. The more we put money on the front burner in relationships, the more we reap failed marriages, broken homes, dis functional societies, and social paralysis.
A healthy society is a product of strong families. This fiendish glee in celebrating broken relationships will never bring strength to humans, male or female.
@Anonymous 19:46, I agree with one part of your comment. Marriage works best when couples discuss major decisions openly, especially those that affect their shared life. That was a fair point.
DeleteHowever, I think you took it further than the story supports.
Your comment suggests both parties were equally responsible for the breakdown. From the account we have, that is difficult to justify. The wife's plans may not have clearly included her husband, but his response went far beyond disappointment. He insulted her, threatened her, demanded submission, brought in his parents to pressure her, and later involved the police over property he could not prove was his. That points to control, not healthy disagreement.
I also wouldn't describe the woman as selfish simply because she didn't immediately set aside part of her inheritance for him. Outside the normal responsibilities of marriage, generosity should be given freely, not extracted through pressure or coercion. Love often encourages people to share, but entitlement usually has the opposite effect.
Even their first conversation revealed where things were heading. Understandably, she chose to protect her interests while trying to understand his intentions. Once she realised the issue was about control rather than partnership, safeguarding her assets became a reasonable response. Besides, only she truly knows the man she married.
You're right that marriages suffer when couples stop thinking as a team. But in this case, your argument downplays coercion and places too much responsibility on the wife. The real issue was not the money. The husband attempted to control it.
As today's IHN Man Crush Monday quote put it: "Surround yourself with men who celebrate you, challenge you, and never compete with your shine." Stella echoed the same thought: "If you are with a man who competes with your shine, it is pure horror."
A liberal, emotionally mature husband would have handled this very differently. He would have treated it as a conversation, not a contest over ownership. He would have listened first. If he felt left out, he would have said so honestly, without manipulation or demands. He would have respected that the inheritance was hers, while hoping they could discuss how it might also benefit their family's future. That approach would have built trust, his entitlement destroyed.
Smart woman 👌👌
ReplyDeleteNwoke onye anya ukwu
There was never a marriage between you both.
No love between you guys from the beginning...
You see why you should never reveal your financial worth to your spouse as a Lady…. It never ends well unless that man is from God to be your life partner!
ReplyDeleteBut a man should always reveal his financial worth to a lady?
DeleteNah!
It works both ways, bad person na bad person, it's not a gender thing
Mystic, when does a man ever reveal his financial status to his wife?
DeleteNice one 👍, ni be by force to marry
ReplyDeleteKoromoto husband
The way some men just feel cos a woman is married to them, she has stopped existing is baffling.
ReplyDeleteThe mothers that support their sons in this nonsense entitlements won't accept such from their husbands.
Whether this story is fake or not, this is not the way to go about issues like this. Ask nicely, plan well with your woman. Na wa!
After reading this story yesterday, I came to this conclusion. Some men need to understand that a woman is not obligated to give or transfer her wealth to her husband.
ReplyDeleteA woman can choose to support her man, but she should not be forced or subjugated against her will. The man and his parents were wrong. He wasn’t considerate. A sensible man would have asked for help politely, even if it was just a fraction. Not with a command. I believe the wife would have considered it.
Men should see their partner as an equal, not someone they can manipulate or coerce. His loss I must say. My wife get that kind money make I hear say I no worship her🤣🤣🤣
©️ TEEJAY
There is where and how you love a woman to that when money enters her hand, you are the first thing on her mind. Women sabi love mumu love o dat even they can't explain. Every woman has that one man. She doesn't open that door twice.
DeleteThe husband of the woman in the story above is very stupid.
Make sense TEEJAY..the guy is not even broke "my husband earned far more than I did" I think he's a user and a dictator..can't deal bro..
DeleteVery true @ Dog.
DeleteThe man is very useless for pressuring her regarding the money.
ReplyDeleteHe should have be calm with her and allow her do whatever she wanted with the money.
DOZZYBEST.
If this story is true, IF, then kudos to her. Money her Dad workedfor, uncle now wants a share, as per who are you? Good she left the gold digging kang.
ReplyDeleteAllah kiyaye bad thing.
ReplyDeleteIn Islam,a woman's money is her money,the man doesn't have the right to any penny unless you give willingly.If the husband even gifts you money or things,he doesn't have the right to ask for it or take them back.
The shameless parents even came to bully her into handing over the money to their son.Them dey threaten with another wife sef,very very greedy family. Submissive kor,Sub ni.If he had taken his eyes off the money,e sure me say the woman would have given him willingly.
ReplyDeleteI cannot stand men who look on what another man worked and earned. Go look for your own to achieve. Her father didn't know you when he was working to build his nest egg for the fruits of his loins, maybe didn't even like you but you want his labour....mtssccccchhhhwww
ReplyDeleteHe seems to forget that their assets,..like the car and business, belong to both of them in the marriage. Considering how much she already does for the house, his actions are really baffling. It makes absolutely no sense that he is behaving that way. He has no right to demand everything, threatening and trying to intimidate her. Even if he needed money, that is just the wrong way to go about it. e no make sense!
ReplyDeleteHer late father's money is legally hers, and she is not obligated to hand it to her husband. Who does that? He think say e wise.
Nigerian law allows a woman to buy and keep her own properties. Anything she acquires using her own independent funds belongs completely to her, marriage or no marriage. Her husband has no legal claim to it.
I am so proud of her for standing her ground and leaving that unsafe situation to protect herself, her child, her peace of mind and her future, Abeg.
The son belongs to you both not just you. As you are planning for divorce, also plan for custody. It feels awkward when one couple personalises a child. A child belongs to both parents. Not my child but our child.
ReplyDeleteSo in all of this what is most important is how she refers to her child? i dont think she claims the child is her only. We should learn to focus on what is important
DeleteThe child is the most important if you asked me. Money can never be more important than a child.
DeleteTheir son is now caught up in a fight between 2 greedy parents, whose greatest concern is money and more money. Oh! Chim.
17;51, pray tell, how is the woman greedy? Someone that did so much for a man that earns more than her? Na only the man greedy abeg.
DeleteHusband from the pit of hell. Thank God she left the useless man.
ReplyDeleteHorseband from Temu😅
DeleteVery greedy set of a human🙄
I'm Heart Broken
ReplyDeleteThe Man You Married Is A . Demon
Tueehh
Hello iya Boys
Demonlicious?? 😂🤣
DeleteThis type of man, he can kill his wife for money, even his mother have no shame.
ReplyDeleteYou are very correct anon 14:47
DeleteYes he can kill,she should watch her back.
DeleteShameless man
ReplyDeleteWhile she is not obligated to transfer that amount to the husband, she also went too far. You ended the marriage just like that!
ReplyDeleteAnd since he realized his wrong, forgiveness is key, and I am not sure he will try it again.
He would kill her or set her up.
DeleteMoney would make some people do crazy stuff.
This your mindset is what makes women end up dead in useless marriages. The red flags are there. This man can end her cos of that money. His greed is glaring. After everything including the arrest, you expect her to go back to that man? Marriage is not meant to be tolerated or stayed in with fear. Women are losing their lives everyday because of men like this
Delete@MichoHay, are you serious?
DeleteMoney has caused lifelong family feuds, even among siblings from the same parents. Yet you're suggesting this could simply have been settled amicably.
From everything described in the story, does this man come across as emotionally mature or self-controlled? His words and actions suggest otherwise.
This man is a diamond digger!
ReplyDeleteAs per gold na minor🤣🤣🤣.
DeleteAswear what a man
DeleteI pour him pregnancy spit tueh🙄
His parents are so shameless. No wonder their son is the way he is.
ReplyDeleteVery very shameless and greedy.
DeleteAll of you supporting this woman and criticising men that use their brothers as next of kin and their children as sole beneficiaries of their estates are hypocrites.
ReplyDeleteHusband and wife are one. The money they make during their marriage belongs to both of them. It is “their Money”. Unless the money was made prior to the marriage then it becomes individualised.
In the western world if there was no pre-nup, the money belongs to both parties.
I don’t know what the Nigeria law says about inheritance and what clauses the deceased person left for the beneficiaries. Some westerners controls their estates from the grave (if you know what I mean).
if I am married and have a child with my partner and we are in good terms and marriage is working, any money I make or inherited would be for my immediate family (husband and children)who else is there to share this life with?. Unless the deceased person states otherwise in his will. Or there is no trust, in that case the marriage becomes a circle of anxiety and constant suspicion.
This generation is trying very hard to upset our ancestors. Chukwu biko mere anyi Ebere.
My sister’s name is on all my stuff. I did not include her husband and I’m not thinking about him, lovely fellow but he is not my concern. I am ok with her turning it over to my nieces but I did not gather the little I have for her husband, it’s for her and my nieces and that’s the end of it.
Delete16.28
DeleteBut does it look like the spouse had good intentions towards her? Thank God you said "if they were in good terms." Than man has no good intentions for the marriage! Imagine leaving the wife to purchase most of the items in the house while he was the one actually making more. Even inviting the police tobarrest her!
Na people like you they look for where to reap without sowing. The land and car that she bought are these not for the good of the family? The masters she is going for will the husband not also gain when she starts earning better? Afterall, she pulls weight financially in the house while he does less even while earning more. I have seen men buy properties in their own names even while they are married. Why does a man do this? Because of lack of trust abi?
Woman, I commend you! I'd advise you to also purchase any property in your mother's name oh, as men are doing it too.
Good! Is your wishes and make sure you include it in your will and it be upheld because it is your last wishes. I will write my will such that my children spouses will not benefit from it unless they stay in the marriage forever.
DeleteAnonymous 16:28, may God bless you.
DeleteI wonder what this life is going to. A woman just displayed lack of love and all some people could think of is blaming the husband alone.
The man is just an enabler, because the woman has already killed the home and everything there through her selfishness.
If you are a man and you are reading this, be rest assured that majority of ladies get married to tick off the box and have children. They don’t have your best interest at heart.
DeleteI have always told all my brothers to make sure the protect their children, God forbid if anything happens to them.
No matter how many years a woman married her husband, she appreciates her mother’s children more than the father of her children and her in law. So men protect your assets if not, they will give the money to their siblings, their mothers or their lovers.
Were ututu chowanu ewu oji bikonu.
21.07 lol onye aguu go make money
DeleteNa wa
ReplyDeleteANON 16:28. God bless you. How much is 35million? The story seem so fake but the message should not be ignored. In marriage man and woman are one. end of story. all these silly imaginary stories are what misled some girls to think money is everything. As for the story teller, after buying TV and RENTING apartment , how much come remain ? The boss that follow you to station go pay pikin university tuition later ? na when she dey outside she go know say all these men outside are worse, the 35 million no do them anything to collect . some go do juju sef...It is not good for a man to be alone and but it is worse for a woman.
ReplyDeleteThis case shows that women actually enter into marriage to cheat their partners (husbands). Do you think if a good husband receives an inheritance of N35M, he will not put his wife into the equation?
ReplyDeleteSo, you actually received N35M and you planned for yourself ONLY? You must be wise in your own eye. I say no more. You ruined your home by yourself. Even if you want to spend it alone, why did you not buy a car for him too or you take maybe N25M and give your husband maybe N10M?
It’s an inheritance passing from a parent to their child, it should continue to pass on to the grandchildren. The money is never intended for the other spouse.
DeleteMoney reveals what's hidden inside the heart.
ReplyDeleteReading in between the lines one can tell that they both were together when the inheritance money was being processed, sprinkle of support here and there but immediately the money was released it became evident that she only had plans for herself..my land, my car, my degree. Hubby had asked a valid question, do you have any plans for us, for which she took as (he's entitled, although in the real sense married couple are not wrong to feel entitled to their spouses money).
Notice the narrative quickly changed to "my son, my friend's house, i moved out" my mum came" with no conscious attempt at involving other people who can help resolve the problems.
She had reasoned that she doesn't need a man now that she's settled which is okay....just don't kidnap the child.
You didn't discuss that bit with him before taking the child away.
Who paid for the house rent during the marriage? She was silent on that, na TV naim concern my gender. She's always had it in her that her property is her's to keep.
PCX
Whether this story is true or not, I would be cautious in drawing conclusions because we have heard only one side. Even so, one thing is clear: respect cannot survive where fear exists. Money may test character, but power often reveals it.
ReplyDeleteA thoughtful spouse would naturally accommodate their partner or hope to be part of such an important conversation, not because they are entitled to the money, but because marriage is built on sharing plans. Even then, disappointment never justifies insults, threats, intimidation, involving parents, or using the police as leverage. Those are attempts to control, not to resolve a disagreement or invite an inconvenient conversation.
Most people are more willing to share when they feel trusted than when they feel cornered. For all we know, she may already have intended to use part of the inheritance for the family's future. Before the husband's bold altercation. While money can sometimes stir pride or ego, a woman who had already been carrying much of the financial responsibility at home is unlikely to have forgotten her household.
Even if he felt hurt that she never mentioned him in her plans, a supportive husband would have treated it as a communication issue, not a challenge to his authority. He could simply have said that he felt left out and hoped they were still building their future together. And there is room for their household in the bigger picture, no matter how little. That invites a conversation instead of creating a power struggle.
In many marriages, money is rarely the real issue. It simply reveals whether the relationship is built on trust, respect and shared purpose, or on entitlement, fear and control. A healthier marriage would have protected the relationship first and discussed the money afterwards. The two are not mutually exclusive.