My Boyfriend Of 3 Years Has Gone Cold On Me...What Could Be Wrong?
I have been dating my man for the past 3years,I have turn down more than 7marriage proposals this year just cos of him,and he has not said anything related to marriage to me. his people want him to marry,he want me pregnant first before he can tell me what he has in mind for me,OK nowadays he doesn't call ,neither will he take mine,we can stay for 1month. without hearing from each other but we reside in the same state and he pays in money for me for my up keep.
if I call to show appreciation he won't pick,he wasnt like this before, this is a new habit he just developed,but if he needs me he will call me to come and after doing my part when I try talking to him about the new style,he will threaten to leave the Room to another room,I can't get him when I need him,I can't share my worries with him like before.
I sent him a text that if I have done anything wrong he should forgive me and give me back the guy that used to love n adore me,I can swear that am sincere to him n he knows.
he takes my younger sister out ,talks to her but he won't let me know anything.I went to a church and they said he is my husband,what is keeping him?those I don't love are on my neck while my man is not doing anything.am not ready to get pregnant before wedding,it would imply he loves me cos of my baby.please help me get advice from your lovely and wonderful blog visitors,I await you and their response.God bless you all.
*Hmm your younger sister?Time to sit her down and tell her to stop going out with your man..hmmm your younger sister might be the other woman that is causing the problem.
Hmmm..your younger sister needs to tell you what she is telling him about you.,my two cents,i could be wrong.
Hmmmm I fear oh! Call me paranoid if u want buh this is exactly why I don't allow my sisters or friends too close to ma man.....na for hello\hi e end oh
Anon 12:07, a day is enough? I hv bin dating my bestie for 5years. Now u re making me feel like a juu girl. I love him & gave him my virginity in feb. He loves me, I know it but marriage will happen when I am ready. He did a grand proposal I accepted because I didn't want to embarass him. When we had our open talk day, I shared my fears with him & we agree. Marriage is not something u rush. Chai! I don write epistle.
Poster, talk to him about how you feel &. Don't call him for awhile, when he calls u to come knack tell him u re busy. If he loves u he will be scared of losing u & warn that your sister to back off. As in warn her!
Good advice stella. Or maybe you should try breaking up with him and see what happens. I mean, you aren't getting any younger. Besides, any man that has stopped talking/ showing love to you after 3 yrs is probably up to something or looking else where. Or has he been jazzed by another lady? #Just Saying
How can u be going out with smone for 3 yrs, where una de go abeg, una never reach thr??. Meanwhile dat guy is full of shit, drop him like he is hot, as far as am concerned, u r just one of his hoes, he sends u money to keep u loyal, calls u only wen he needs ur sexual services, he simply wants friends with benefits, u need to get that, he is not ur boyfriend and u r not in any relationship. Shikena
Ur funny @ anon 9.16...it cld either make or brk the relationship pata pata. I tried wiv ma boo tht was cheatn at the time n my dear,he accepted the break up!!!
Na wa o...... "younger sister" what re you doing with your elder sisters man!!! go and keep your own boyfriend busy. To the worried girlfriend ever heard of not putting your eggs in one basket? Don't let this your man yank the protective blankie off your feet. It's time you start considering other options... 3 years and you are uncertain about your future with him... time waits for no one!! #BeWise ( sometimes when you are in love, the lovely thing to do is be vigilant)
You aint wrong stella u re on point... I asked my bf of 5yrs to disconnect every form of communication with my friends, he thought I was joking, he continued for like 3times taking her out, calling e.t.c. I just dropped the mumu like a bad habit... I hate it wen guys think they re indispensable... My dear if he doesn't take ur calls don't kill urself, give him space, go on with ur life, go out have fun, do those things that make u happy, when he realizes u can do very well without him, he will come back for u...
Ps: don't die there becoz they told u in church that he's ur husband... Ladies and their fish brains sef
U need to find out what's up with him and ur sister. As for his change in attitude, don't let him treat u like an option. Stop calling stop texting, go out with other people that ask u out. Be your own person and show him u don't need him, then watch him sit up and start calling u. If he doesn't change after this, then honey u need to move on. No time to be begging the man when u have done nothing wrong.
Abi one babe don carry belle 4 am after all na watin him de find be that, he's just with u cos of wat u both used to share. My advice give him a break to sort himself out. Lol @ church telling u he's ur hubby.
His a problem but your younger sister is more of an issue.Why wuid ur younger sister be flocking around him in the 1st place?what gave her that room and she doesn't fill you in when she returns?You need to do some thinking,just because ur blood doesn't mean shit,it happens.Smelll the coffee.
When a woman is doing shakara, it's cos she wants u to notice her and pay her more attention, when a man is doing shakara for u, he doesn't have ur time. Time to re-evaluate that relationship.
You could talk to his family or friends, find out if he has told them anything in. confidence concerning your relationship. You can then continue from there. All the best.
Ok so unlike many other people...I wouldn't read so much meaning to him going out with ur sis. Since he doesn't tell u but u kno, it means your sis told u right?
Since he listens to and sees ur sis, as a sister wat I would do is ask him why he has changed towards my sister and do evrythn in my power to get to the bottom of the issue and possibly resolve it too.
As much as I don't want to be negative about ur sis, this brings me to ask what they discuss when they are together knowing fully well u both are not ingood terms...
Maybe u shld talk to ur sis first. I really hope she's not the enemy.
As for your guy, he has def heard somthing (truth or lies), or/and is seeing someone else (I hope that person is not ur sis)
I doubt it's the younger sister. It so happens I have an ex who still pays my sister's fees,takes her out and stuff. He's my rock in hard times but I'm certain there's nothing there. Its possible even if he doesn't want u anymore that he can't be bad to your sister also
I doubt it's the younger sister. It so happens I have an ex who still pays my sister's fees,takes her out and stuff. He's my rock in hard times but I'm certain there's nothing there. Its possible even if he doesn't want u anymore that he can't be bad to your sister also
It's clear u are the one trying so hard to make the relationship work,u need to chill,give him some space and totally ignore him for a while,even if he sends money,just ignore. I say so bcos he has found out u are bent on the relationship and will always be there no matter what he does,so he's using it to manipulate u!(imagine,ur statement:he needs u,u go:u need him,he's not there?huh?got me thinking if it's a money based relationship,if not bcos u said he's ur fiance) Also,Since u have apologised severally,and he's still not coming around,look at other aspects that may be distracting him,eg ur younger sis esp,warn her to stay away from him,its betrayal on her part as far as am concerned as long as she doesn't give u update of what dey discussed. Final warning is pls stay away from those churches that predict who ur husband is,they have misled pple into leaving good relationships to enter a bad one!i know of several encounters from friends and family,no be hearsay!dont know how dey do it,but it's false.pray to God for husband with ur eyes opened so that when u sense something u can't handle,u discard! See how u are already confused cos they say he's ur husband.forget those pple abeg.
Well, 1, Pray . That said, call him for a sit down and tell him why u can't get pregnant before marriage and if he is not willing to understand, tell him not to send u money anymore and call it off. There r many other potential husbands outthere. But on the other hand if u regularly have sex with him, then y don't u want to get pregnant? I believe he wants to make sure everything is intact so he doesn't spend his lifetime hoping for a miracle. So at the end of the day, the ball is really in ur court.
You v 2 sit ur sis dwn nd talk sense in2 her head + ax her wat he has bin saying 2 her abt u n am wondering y she has not called u 2 tell u abt d happenings! E b lik say ur sister liks wat u lik BT dnt wanna conclude,jst ax her nt 2 mess wif ur bf n if she no hear tell ur dad or mum @least smtin can b done!
Stop calling n texting. Put aside what they told u in church. Be friendly with those asking u out. If u look beyond this ur guy, u will see others that will love n take good care of u. U re feeling this way coz u guyz have been 2gther 4 a long time. Also pray and give ur life 2 God. Best of luck.
Pls don't kill ur self over nothing, if he dosent pick ur calls or gives u atitude, give him space, hang out with friends, do things that make u happy, if he is really meant for u, he will come back but if he is not, my dear good guys full everywhere, pick one nd end d shit.
Beat ha sister bcos of a man? God forbid for u. What if he doesn't have anything to do with the sister? Na ur type De choose relationship over family. When it goes wrong u start running shamelessly back to family. My dear poster you should know that family is like water you need it in all you do. Man come man go, but family will always be.
Few yrs back in skool I had issues wit my bf n he tld me he talked 2my bestfriend 2 talk n advise me.I waited 4 few days 4 her 2 bring up d issue bt she didn't thn I called her 2 tell me wat d guy tld her 2 tell me.she said she wasn't in d mood n then few mnths l8r d 2 of dem started seein each.so my dear its gud u talk 2 ur sister.let her tell u wat dey talk about n if she refuse then try n talk 2 d guy n if he's nt sayin wat u want my dear move on wit ur life cuz dat guy is alrdy movin on witout u
U need to start watching ur sis very closely. It happened to me and this was my cousin who my parents took over their(she and her brother's)training and brought them to live wit us after their parents death. I took the girl like a sister cos I'm just a year older even though I was way ahead of her academically. I had someone serious I was seeing in my third year and I used to come to lag to see him frm my schl in d east and I'll invite her over,to cut d long story short,she started feeding him wit terrible lies abt me and the guy started acting funny. He managed to tell my brother that someone was telling him stuff abt me but he refused to say who it was. Suffice it to say we broke up a few months later,and then wen I knew it was her was almost 2 years later wen a family frnd who I kinda dated before he left d country came bk after 6 years. We had moved to abj so he came to see me and my parents were out of d country,so I asked him to sleep in my room,while in sleep in my parents room wit my cousin. My people before I woke up in d mrng by 7am my cousin was nowhere to be found. I still didn't suspect much even though I noticed they were touching each other unnecessarily in front of me. I wasn't interested in d guy anymore so I wasn't bothered. It was my mum's sister who had been watching them all this while,that called me and told me u are a very foolish girl,u think because u can't hurt a fly,then it means others won't hurt u. And told me everything she saw. By then d guy had gone so I confronted her,and guess wat,she said yes they were dating that after all I didn't sleep wit him and so d relationship I had wit him wasn't serious. Dude went bk to d US and dumped her. We still talk and we still live in d same house even though I'm away on masters bt I know things can never be the same again. I'm very sorry for d epistle bt please watch ur sis closely.
Dear stop making him feel life suck without him, be urself hero, men don't like women who look 4 self-pity in relationship. ...just fall in love with yourself and tell urself, u can be happy without him.
Pls free him start seeing sum1 else nd stop telling yur younga sista about yur man,I think she is behind it or he's using ur sista as a cover up,but he's cheatin on you with sum1 else sha...I had the same problem but I left without saying a word...am happy,pls role with guys you knw he doesn't like and show him u r always happy,make gud hair,always wear nice things,make sure u visit all the places you were goin bfor with him...pls focus on ursef...
My dear, talk to your sis. If negative, talk to your parents. Then ur bf. Dont let him see yhu as a desperado. Dont go to him when next he calls... I know it will be difficult to ignore his call, buh it worth it.... Pls, yhu are a lady of virtue, we ladies are of inestimable worth, so dont let him bring yhu down. And to the churches, dont eva eva mind them....... #TEEMAH#
Dnt ever Ʊ consider getting pregnant for him or any man b4 marriage! Wat if he dumps Ʊ after ∂ pregnancy tinz?? Have a hrt 2 hrt wit ur sista nd 4rm her utterances Ʊ'll knw if she's 4 Ʊ or against Ʊ, then go and meet ur man,if he's nt pickin ur call;go to his huse nd tell him ur mind. Whether to giv ∂ rshp a break or to amend it is in his hands. Abt ∂ church pple,pray ur way out God is nt an altar of confusion,if he's urs nothing will change dat. Pls dnt fight ur lil sis over a man,is nt worth it even if dey're going out nw. Family love is ∂ strongest nd protect ur image and dat of ur family. Stp begging him he's nt God! Ʊ ar a woman,∂ man shld beg Ʊ carry ursef we'll my dear.
Been visiting stella's blog 4 a very long time now, buh have never passed a comment. I choose 2 drop my few advice cos this sound like my ex- and av been on this train ur in b4. Babe listen! truth is hard 2 take in buh in the long run, u will thank JEHOVAH u did take one. He used 2 love u buh no more, you've always loved him and u still do. He's seeing someone whom has taken over him already. He wants u pregnant and still wouldnt propose even after giving birth. He knows how 2 play his game and therefore smoothly disconnecting from u in style so as not 2 hurt u so bad, therefore satisfying his conscience. You are driving away ur potential hubby plainly cos ur so in-lost, dnt mean lust. He will never break up with you so u think u can make things work, but ur time is actually going cos ur losing other potentials. stop visiting pastors or churches to tell u who to marry. The bible said, He that findeth, not he that asked 4 pastors opinion. You will only be lead astray. see dear, av said my kobo 2 u.....pack up now, dust ur feet and know its over! all the best. p.s. The irony of life is that most ladies do not love the real men that truly loves them. all d best!
Pls dis WITNESS park well. How does that portion of d bible u just cited relate to the issue at hand now? Mtcheww! And besides not all Pastors and Churches are fake. BTW u have not given any advice.
Babe, Take a break to regain your dignity and self esteem back!
Leave him alone! Let him be! No one is indispensable; he's not into you like before. There's another babe in the equation.
Please do things that brighten your world; go on dates; hang out with friends; go shopping/window shopping; go for a makeover; look good for yourself. I bet you he will definitely contact you when he notices you aren't "crying" to have his attention.
About your sister, you need to have a serious talk with her; what's up with her and him? Please get to the bottom of it.
If I were you, I would forget all the "he is your husband vision" and meet other guys. When you meet others, you'll discover you have been tolerating enough nonsense all for love's sake.
I'm very wary about such visions; so many lives have been ruined because of that. With this vision, do you still think he is your husband with his attitude? Ask GOD to personally reveal yours to you.
Final word: Never let a man treat you like dirt! A man will treat you depending on how you carry yourself!
#1- You are not in a relationship...a relationship involves more than one person. This isn't your case. #2- Stop asking everyone who your husband is...how can some pastor know who your future husband is when they have not met him and do not know squat about your "situation" #3- Get a grip of yourself, a month of no contact means the person no wan do again. Haba how clear can it be? #4- If it was not going to be your sis, it would have been some one else. Any man that stoops that low is a dog, your sister could not have seduced him away...he willingly went away. #5- Do not ever go back to this man, whether he was told you are satan...he couldn't give you the benefit of a doubt to inquire from you...after 3 years. Abegi!
Hello dearie,I will try to make this quick and painless(hopefully). I underlined in my head,you go without talking to each other for a month at a time.He caters to you still. Hmmm.This man has a girlfriend he loves.You re a booty call that has lingered.He pays you so you ve no reason to complain or see him. Stop holding on to the last straw.By that I mean the predictions that he's your husband.Maybe these pastors know so well that that's what you want to hear. 7 proposals?in this era of husband scarcity? Pls recall the candidates and study their manifestos.Swear one into life time office biko.Don't even alert your "boyfriend" that you re done.He probably won't notice immediately,but he ll be relieved all the same. Mind you,like a cat playing with its prey,he will return to test his strength over your emotions.Be strong.Let your Nay be Nay woman! As for your judas of a sister,make her a prayer point.She's a household enemy. Hereafter,Plan your personal life outside her manipulations and machinations. Goodluck!
I totally agree wit u Wide-eye......dat guy is no good!! Plz plz n plz. Stay away 4rm all dis pastors dat tell u som1 is ur husband,dey re tellin u wot u wan' hear... I remba a friend of mine dat went 4 prayers in 1 church only 4 dem 2 tell her d dude she was datin isn't her husband,she wept bitterly so d "see'er" had 2 tell her dat if she wants 2 marry d man she shud pray hard lol! Mind u she n dis man can quarrel 4 a whole year...........plz. My dear use Ur tongue 2 count ur teeth!! As 4 ur sister,sit her down n talk 2 her n she shud stop hangin out wit ur bf weda he's wooin her or not!
Love ur comment. Babe stop running to pastors to submit anyone's name, dey wl tel u wot u want to hear. Learn to kneel and pray. God listens! My personal friend went to diff pastors to submit bfs' names,she got married to tthe man dat was pikd only to find out after d marriage dat d guy has 2children. Alas she was also pregnant n dia was no turning bak. The guys sleeps at home only wen he feels like,beats her and even brought his children to b stayn wit them. As it is now, they are no longer together(less than * yr) as she ad to move out due to d severe beating she recieved. Pls dnt biliv any pastor's story. Mk urself apy by getn into anoda relationship. Stop weepn ova smone who no longer cares for you.
The pastors that are seeing "your husband" and telling you, are they also seeing your sins and telling you? Like are they also seeing you have sex with him while not marrying to him i.e. fornication? Well, these "pastors" are not telling you about hell; it's a pity. Run away from iniquity dear! Run away from these kind of "pastors". Jesus says in John 10 . . . my sheep hear my voice and I know them and they follow me . . . if you repent, you will be his sheep, you will hear from him and he will lead you as you follow him. Regards.
Watch ur sista carefully,,,,if she's not telling u about the discussion she's having with ur man,,,then they are both up to something mischievous........its not a bad idea if u let ur parents know about it too and as for ur man,,,wether u evntually find out he's into some pranks with ur sista or not,,,,pls give him a long break,,stop calling him,,act like u dont care,,even if he sends money into ur account,,dont bother calling back to show appreciation(ajemonu tie niyen).....if he needs u to come over,,,tell him u're busy,,or u have an outing,,just give him an excuse why u cant see him......make urself unavailable for him too,,dont reply to text/chats from him,,,if he calls from a number u dont know sef,,,cut him off immediately u recognize his voice,,,,my dear try and develop a thick skin for him so dat u wont be hurt,,,,,and most importantly open up yourself for better suitors that will respect and appreciate u better.......and like someone said,,stay away from churches that will tell u one man is urs and another isnt,,,instead pray to God to give u ur own man.....it is well!!!
U people ve come again oo, spell doctors and witch doctors, the other time it was one other idiot, stella please stop uploading this kind of comments aiming to Scam weak ladies. Take ur stupid Dr. Odige elsewhere. We aint buying b!tch
I don't know why I'm so convinced dat the enemy here is ur sis! It happened to me, but in my case, he was tryin to strike a balance and wl always report me to my lil sis. I observed dt weneva he came, she'll start frowning and sometimes get vexed and ask why it was only myself he was giving attention to. We had a little misunderstanding, he changed his line and didn't give me d new one but called my sis and gave her(she wasn't where I was @ dt time). I never knew he was already having sex with her!!! Infact, most times wen he wld b goin towards her area for a course, he'll tell me he wld b staying over @ where my sis stayed (my mum's family house).. Fast forward, we got married and abt 3months into d marriage, I found out their 'little secret'... I still hate him till tomorrow! Bottomline! Call ur sis, talk to her, if she doesn't bulge, threaten her! @ least to get to the bottom of it, cos I feel she owes u her loyalty and not that he-goat.. Don't let ur emotions becloud ur sense of reasoning biko! Cos if u force urself, u'll live a life of regret
This love spell is bullshit, dere's a woman in my church dat gave a testimony how her husband who was so nice to her and her kids suddenly changed, she fasted and prayed about it and a word of wisdom came to her in church dat her husband is seeing anoda woman and dat woman took her pics to a witch doctor to make her mad so dat she could take over her husband, having heard dis, she raised some money and took it to d altar in church, she sowed d money dere and told God dat, its His altar against d other altar. Lo and behold, the husband who hasnt returned home for months came home dat night and begged her to forgive him and dats not all oo, the next day an old was seen pursuing a lady around town and shouting u did dis to my altar to her, the lady trying to snatch anoda womans husband ran mad while d woman is happy with her husband. My point dnt go for juju, it doesnt end well. Ask God for His perfect will in marriage for u which is definitely not dat (tozo), avoid fornication it hinders prayers n blessings. Stay strong
This love spell is bullshit, dere's a woman in my church dat gave a testimony how her husband who was so nice to her and her kids suddenly changed, she fasted and prayed about it and a word of wisdom came to her in church dat her husband is seeing anoda woman and dat woman took her pics to a witch doctor to make her mad so dat she could take over her husband, having heard dis, she raised some money and took it to d altar in church, she sowed d money dere and told God dat, its His altar against d other altar. Lo and behold, the husband who hasnt returned home for months came home dat night and begged her to forgive him and dats not all oo, the next day an old was seen pursuing a lady around town and shouting u did dis to my altar to her, the lady trying to snatch anoda womans husband ran mad while d woman is happy with her husband. My point dnt go for juju, it doesnt end well. Ask God for His perfect will in marriage for u which is definitely not dat (tozo), avoid fornication it hinders prayers n blessings. Stay strong
Some sisters na enemies! I have a sister who mocks me with one bad break up I had each time we quarrel.....seems like she is happy I went through so much pain. My dear look at ur sister closely. coz personally i won't be nice or hangout with a guy who is making my sis unhappy n act as if all is well, that's pure wickedness.
Tell me about Sisters. I have had my fair share of Sisters from Hell. My Sister planned to kill me, and she slept with an old flame of mine. She is envious, wicked and dangerous.
Why take your younger sister out? I never get this 'family' relationship thingy. He is dating you, not your sister! Be careful o, before the wrong sister ends up with the pregnancy o. Meanwhile sit him down and talk.
If this is a dream believe me i don't wish to wake up,After 10years relationship with my lover Tom Walker he just decided to have a divorce with me because he was having an affair with another lady and the lady told him to break up with me so she can come and took my position when Tom told me that he was no longer interested that he is tired of me i was like after 10years now you are tired of me so the next thing was a letter from the lawyer saying Tom said he needs a divorce when i saw the letter tears rushed out of my eye i composed my self and said wow this world has turned round against me.So i decided to try all my possible best until one day when i was listen to the radio where i saw people giving testimony how there divorce was cancelled within 24 hours i was like this is same problem am having i just say people testifying in the name of this great man called Dr Uma sabo for what he has done for them how he has helped them to bring back there lover i waited for the problem to finish and they dropped Dr Uma sabo cell number and email,Immediately i gave dr Uma sabo a call and shared my problem with him he just told me not worry that he assures me that Tom will tell the lawyer to cancel the divorce within 24 hours really what Dr Uma sabo said came to past within the 24 hours was a call from tom crying that he is just coming from the lawyers office that he does not need a divorce anymore that he wants me back home that he is sending that lady away so when he said that i was so happy now Tom came home brought all document and told the lawyer that he is willing everything to me and that he wants me to be the right owner of everything he owns i was so happy,I bless the day i meant dr Uma sabo meeting him was never a regret please clean your tears dr Uma sabo is here to solve your problem you can contact him on umasabotraditionalhome@gmail.com Name:Jasmine Berries Country Canada
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Hmmmm I fear oh! Call me paranoid if u want buh this is exactly why I don't allow my sisters or friends too close to ma man.....na for hello\hi e end oh
ReplyDeleteTrue. Especially friends and cousins.
DeleteA day is enough for a man to know if you are going to be his wife. 3yrs? Hey baby..... Get a pair and run along.
DeleteAnon 12:07, a day is enough? I hv bin dating my bestie for 5years. Now u re making me feel like a juu girl. I love him & gave him my virginity in feb. He loves me, I know it but marriage will happen when I am ready. He did a grand proposal I accepted because I didn't want to embarass him. When we had our open talk day, I shared my fears with him & we agree. Marriage is not something u rush. Chai! I don write epistle.
DeletePoster, talk to him about how you feel &. Don't call him for awhile, when he calls u to come knack tell him u re busy. If he loves u he will be scared of losing u & warn that your sister to back off. As in warn her!
You gave him ur virginity???? I'm 1000000% sure u will regret it. U should have waited! Love waits
DeleteGood advice stella. Or maybe you should try breaking up with him and see what happens. I mean, you aren't getting any younger. Besides, any man that has stopped talking/ showing love to you after 3 yrs is probably up to something or looking else where. Or has he been jazzed by another lady? #Just Saying
ReplyDeleteHow can u be going out with smone for 3 yrs, where una de go abeg, una never reach thr??. Meanwhile dat guy is full of shit, drop him like he is hot, as far as am concerned, u r just one of his hoes, he sends u money to keep u loyal, calls u only wen he needs ur sexual services, he simply wants friends with benefits, u need to get that, he is not ur boyfriend and u r not in any relationship. Shikena
DeleteExactly,rubbish.
DeleteUr funny @ anon 9.16...it cld either make or brk the relationship pata pata. I tried wiv ma boo tht was cheatn at the time n my dear,he accepted the break up!!!
DeleteNa wa o...... "younger sister" what re you doing with your elder sisters man!!! go and keep your own boyfriend busy. To the worried girlfriend ever heard of not putting your eggs in one basket? Don't let this your man yank the protective blankie off your feet. It's time you start considering other options... 3 years and you are uncertain about your future with him... time waits for no one!! #BeWise ( sometimes when you are in love, the lovely thing to do is be vigilant)
ReplyDeleteHowmany basket she wan come put her eggs? Abi u never hear say door wey diff key dey open na public door?
DeleteBabe talk to ur sister ask her wat dey ave been discussing about u mayb they planing to suprise jst like 2baba and Amir, though na Annie buy d ring .
You aint wrong stella u re on point... I asked my bf of 5yrs to disconnect every form of communication with my friends, he thought I was joking, he continued for like 3times taking her out, calling e.t.c. I just dropped the mumu like a bad habit... I hate it wen guys think they re indispensable... My dear if he doesn't take ur calls don't kill urself, give him space, go on with ur life, go out have fun, do those things that make u happy, when he realizes u can do very well without him, he will come back for u...
ReplyDeletePs: don't die there becoz they told u in church that he's ur husband... Ladies and their fish brains sef
U need to find out what's up with him and ur sister. As for his change in attitude, don't let him treat u like an option. Stop calling stop texting, go out with other people that ask u out. Be your own person and show him u don't need him, then watch him sit up and start calling u. If he doesn't change after this, then honey u need to move on. No time to be begging the man when u have done nothing wrong.
ReplyDeleteOne chance!!! NO advice. Use your tongue to count your teeth.
ReplyDeleteAbi one babe don carry belle 4 am after all na watin him de find be that, he's just with u cos of wat u both used to share. My advice give him a break to sort himself out. Lol @ church telling u he's ur hubby.
DeleteHis a problem but your younger sister is more of an issue.Why wuid ur younger sister be flocking around him in the 1st place?what gave her that room and she doesn't fill you in when she returns?You need to do some thinking,just because ur blood doesn't mean shit,it happens.Smelll the coffee.
ReplyDeleteWhen a woman is doing shakara, it's cos she wants u to notice her and pay her more attention, when a man is doing shakara for u, he doesn't have ur time. Time to re-evaluate that relationship.
ReplyDeleteYou could talk to his family or friends, find out if he has told them anything in. confidence concerning your relationship. You can then continue from there. All the best.
ReplyDeleteOk so unlike many other people...I wouldn't read so much meaning to him going out with ur sis. Since he doesn't tell u but u kno, it means your sis told u right?
ReplyDeleteSince he listens to and sees ur sis, as a sister wat I would do is ask him why he has changed towards my sister and do evrythn in my power to get to the bottom of the issue and possibly resolve it too.
As much as I don't want to be negative about ur sis, this brings me to ask what they discuss when they are together knowing fully well u both are not ingood terms...
Maybe u shld talk to ur sis first. I really hope she's not the enemy.
As for your guy, he has def heard somthing (truth or lies), or/and is seeing someone else (I hope that person is not ur sis)
I doubt it's the younger sister. It so happens I have an ex who still pays my sister's fees,takes her out and stuff. He's my rock in hard times but I'm certain there's nothing there. Its possible even if he doesn't want u anymore that he can't be bad to your sister also
DeleteI doubt it's the younger sister. It so happens I have an ex who still pays my sister's fees,takes her out and stuff. He's my rock in hard times but I'm certain there's nothing there. Its possible even if he doesn't want u anymore that he can't be bad to your sister also
DeleteEfe, dnt be surprised if that guy is knacking ur sister codedly. Dey there make pant dey wear you. Kmt
DeleteYou have no man. You're single.
ReplyDeleteIt's clear u are the one trying so hard to make the relationship work,u need to chill,give him some space and totally ignore him for a while,even if he sends money,just ignore.
ReplyDeleteI say so bcos he has found out u are bent on the relationship and will always be there no matter what he does,so he's using it to manipulate u!(imagine,ur statement:he needs u,u go:u need him,he's not there?huh?got me thinking if it's a money based relationship,if not bcos u said he's ur fiance)
Also,Since u have apologised severally,and he's still not coming around,look at other aspects that may be distracting him,eg ur younger sis esp,warn her to stay away from him,its betrayal on her part as far as am concerned as long as she doesn't give u update of what dey discussed.
Final warning is pls stay away from those churches that predict who ur husband is,they have misled pple into leaving good relationships to enter a bad one!i know of several encounters from friends and family,no be hearsay!dont know how dey do it,but it's false.pray to God for husband with ur eyes opened so that when u sense something u can't handle,u discard!
See how u are already confused cos they say he's ur husband.forget those pple abeg.
Seconded*talking drum*
DeleteWell, 1, Pray . That said, call him for a sit down and tell him why u can't get pregnant before marriage and if he is not willing to understand, tell him not to send u money anymore and call it off. There r many other potential husbands outthere. But on the other hand if u regularly have sex with him, then y don't u want to get pregnant? I believe he wants to make sure everything is intact so he doesn't spend his lifetime hoping for a miracle. So at the end of the day, the ball is really in ur court.
ReplyDeleteCall him to sit down whr, u no hear say d guy no de talk to am. He only calls her for sex n afterwards no more communication, right from d bedroom.
DeleteYou v 2 sit ur sis dwn nd talk sense in2 her head + ax her wat he has bin saying 2 her abt u n am wondering y she has not called u 2 tell u abt d happenings! E b lik say ur sister liks wat u lik BT dnt wanna conclude,jst ax her nt 2 mess wif ur bf n if she no hear tell ur dad or mum @least smtin can b done!
ReplyDeleteIts well
ReplyDeleteStop calling n texting. Put aside what they told u in church. Be friendly with those asking u out. If u look beyond this ur guy, u will see others that will love n take good care of u. U re feeling this way coz u guyz have been 2gther 4 a long time. Also pray and give ur life 2 God. Best of luck.
ReplyDeleteThere is 'NO ONE MAN' for 'ONE WOMAN'..... Mary Wheelchair (I hope I sed it rite, an old book my dad bought me)
ReplyDeletePls don't kill ur self over nothing, if he dosent pick ur calls or gives u atitude, give him space, hang out with friends, do things that make u happy, if he is really meant for u, he will come back but if he is not, my dear good guys full everywhere, pick one nd end d shit.
ReplyDeleteAs for sis, if my bf say that kinda shit to my sis, am sure he will get a hot slap from kid sis tho or a walk out!
ReplyDeleteSend him a text and tell him u want to breakup with him, if he's yours he will come back. Because there's another woman having his attention
ReplyDeleteText him? Don't pls. Just ignore him compltly and see his reaction. Ladies, don't be too hyper inluv wt men cos some r nt worth it.
DeleteHe seems to only be available for sex??
ReplyDeleteAs far as I'm concerned, you are single.
Your boyfriend is just a f**k buddy.
Obviously ur sis is replacing u honey, ignore the fool, beat d crap outta ur sis n find anoda man sharply!!
ReplyDeleteBeat ha sister bcos of a man? God forbid for u. What if he doesn't have anything to do with the sister? Na ur type De choose relationship over family. When it goes wrong u start running shamelessly back to family. My dear poster you should know that family is like water you need it in all you do. Man come man go, but family will always be.
DeleteFew yrs back in skool I had issues wit my bf n he tld me he talked 2my bestfriend 2 talk n advise me.I waited 4 few days 4 her 2 bring up d issue bt she didn't thn I called her 2 tell me wat d guy tld her 2 tell me.she said she wasn't in d mood n then few mnths l8r d 2 of dem started seein each.so my dear its gud u talk 2 ur sister.let her tell u wat dey talk about n if she refuse then try n talk 2 d guy n if he's nt sayin wat u want my dear move on wit ur life cuz dat guy is alrdy movin on witout u
ReplyDeleteU need to start watching ur sis very closely. It happened to me and this was my cousin who my parents took over their(she and her brother's)training and brought them to live wit us after their parents death. I took the girl like a sister cos I'm just a year older even though I was way ahead of her academically. I had someone serious I was seeing in my third year and I used to come to lag to see him frm my schl in d east and I'll invite her over,to cut d long story short,she started feeding him wit terrible lies abt me and the guy started acting funny. He managed to tell my brother that someone was telling him stuff abt me but he refused to say who it was. Suffice it to say we broke up a few months later,and then wen I knew it was her was almost 2 years later wen a family frnd who I kinda dated before he left d country came bk after 6 years. We had moved to abj so he came to see me and my parents were out of d country,so I asked him to sleep in my room,while in sleep in my parents room wit my cousin. My people before I woke up in d mrng by 7am my cousin was nowhere to be found. I still didn't suspect much even though I noticed they were touching each other unnecessarily in front of me. I wasn't interested in d guy anymore so I wasn't bothered. It was my mum's sister who had been watching them all this while,that called me and told me u are a very foolish girl,u think because u can't hurt a fly,then it means others won't hurt u. And told me everything she saw. By then d guy had gone so I confronted her,and guess wat,she said yes they were dating that after all I didn't sleep wit him and so d relationship I had wit him wasn't serious. Dude went bk to d US and dumped her. We still talk and we still live in d same house even though I'm away on masters bt I know things can never be the same again. I'm very sorry for d epistle bt please watch ur sis closely.
ReplyDeleteDear stop making him feel life suck without him, be urself hero, men don't like women who look 4 self-pity in relationship. ...just fall in love with yourself and tell urself, u can be happy without him.
ReplyDeleteBBhugs!!!
DeletePls free him start seeing sum1 else nd stop telling yur younga sista about yur man,I think she is behind it or he's using ur sista as a cover up,but he's cheatin on you with sum1 else sha...I had the same problem but I left without saying a word...am happy,pls role with guys you knw he doesn't like and show him u r always happy,make gud hair,always wear nice things,make sure u visit all the places you were goin bfor with him...pls focus on ursef...
ReplyDeleteMy dear, talk to your sis. If negative, talk to your parents. Then ur bf. Dont let him see yhu as a desperado. Dont go to him when next he calls... I know it will be difficult to ignore his call, buh it worth it.... Pls, yhu are a lady of virtue, we ladies are of inestimable worth, so dont let him bring yhu down. And to the churches, dont eva eva mind them....... #TEEMAH#
ReplyDeleteYour use of punctuation is poor. I can't understand what you've written.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, it's so appalling.
DeleteDnt ever Ʊ consider getting pregnant for him or any man b4 marriage! Wat if he dumps Ʊ after ∂ pregnancy tinz?? Have a hrt 2 hrt wit ur sista nd 4rm her utterances Ʊ'll knw if she's 4 Ʊ or against Ʊ, then go and meet ur man,if he's nt pickin ur call;go to his huse nd tell him ur mind. Whether to giv ∂ rshp a break or to amend it is in his hands. Abt ∂ church pple,pray ur way out God is nt an altar of confusion,if he's urs nothing will change dat. Pls dnt fight ur lil sis over a man,is nt worth it even if dey're going out nw. Family love is ∂ strongest nd protect ur image and dat of ur family. Stp begging him he's nt God! Ʊ ar a woman,∂ man shld beg Ʊ carry ursef we'll my dear.
ReplyDeleteBeen visiting stella's blog 4 a very long time now, buh have never passed a comment. I choose 2 drop my few advice cos this sound like my ex- and av been on this train ur in b4. Babe listen! truth is hard 2 take in buh in the long run, u will thank JEHOVAH u did take one. He used 2 love u buh no more, you've always loved him and u still do. He's seeing someone whom has taken over him already. He wants u pregnant and still wouldnt propose even after giving birth. He knows how 2 play his game and therefore smoothly disconnecting from u in style so as not 2 hurt u so bad, therefore satisfying his conscience. You are driving away ur potential hubby plainly cos ur so in-lost, dnt mean lust. He will never break up with you so u think u can make things work, but ur time is actually going cos ur losing other potentials. stop visiting pastors or churches to tell u who to marry. The bible said, He that findeth, not he that asked 4 pastors opinion. You will only be lead astray. see dear, av said my kobo 2 u.....pack up now, dust ur feet and know its over! all the best. p.s. The irony of life is that most ladies do not love the real men that truly loves them. all d best!
ReplyDeletePls dis WITNESS park well. How does that portion of d bible u just cited relate to the issue at hand now? Mtcheww! And besides not all Pastors and Churches are fake. BTW u have not given any advice.
DeleteYou must a fool to comdemn this wonderful contribution.
Delete@Anonymous 3:11pm. God's name is JEHOVAH. That Someone calls God his name - Jehovah, doesn't necessarily mean the person is a Witness.
DeleteBabe,
ReplyDeleteTake a break to regain your dignity and self esteem back!
Leave him alone! Let him be! No one is indispensable; he's not into you like before. There's another babe in the equation.
Please do things that brighten your world; go on dates; hang out with friends; go shopping/window shopping; go for a makeover; look good for yourself. I bet you he will definitely contact you when he notices you aren't "crying" to have his attention.
About your sister, you need to have a serious talk with her; what's up with her and him? Please get to the bottom of it.
If I were you, I would forget all the "he is your husband vision" and meet other guys. When you meet others, you'll discover you have been tolerating enough nonsense all for love's sake.
I'm very wary about such visions; so many lives have been ruined because of that. With this vision, do you still think he is your husband with his attitude?
Ask GOD to personally reveal yours to you.
Final word: Never let a man treat you like dirt! A man will treat you depending on how you carry yourself!
Gbam! You have said it all.
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#1- You are not in a relationship...a relationship involves more than one person. This isn't your case.
ReplyDelete#2- Stop asking everyone who your husband is...how can some pastor know who your future husband is when they have not met him and do not know squat about your "situation"
#3- Get a grip of yourself, a month of no contact means the person no wan do again. Haba how clear can it be?
#4- If it was not going to be your sis, it would have been some one else. Any man that stoops that low is a dog, your sister could not have seduced him away...he willingly went away.
#5- Do not ever go back to this man, whether he was told you are satan...he couldn't give you the benefit of a doubt to inquire from you...after 3 years. Abegi!
I could kiss you for this. My dear salvage what's left of your dignity, that guy is an Ass/Arse (both describe him perfectly)
DeleteHello dearie,I will try to make this quick and painless(hopefully). I underlined in my head,you go without talking to each other for a month at a time.He caters to you still. Hmmm.This man has a girlfriend he loves.You re a booty call that has lingered.He pays you so you ve no reason to complain or see him. Stop holding on to the last straw.By that I mean the predictions that he's your husband.Maybe these pastors know so well that that's what you want to hear. 7 proposals?in this era of husband scarcity? Pls recall the candidates and study their manifestos.Swear one into life time office biko.Don't even alert your "boyfriend" that you re done.He probably won't notice immediately,but he ll be relieved all the same. Mind you,like a cat playing with its prey,he will return to test his strength over your emotions.Be strong.Let your Nay be Nay woman! As for your judas of a sister,make her a prayer point.She's a household enemy. Hereafter,Plan your personal life outside her manipulations and machinations. Goodluck!
ReplyDeleteThe best comment so far!
DeleteUr head is there nne! Gbam u've said it all!
DeleteI totally agree wit u Wide-eye......dat guy is no good!!
DeletePlz plz n plz. Stay away 4rm all dis pastors dat tell u som1 is ur husband,dey re tellin u wot u wan' hear... I remba a friend of mine dat went 4 prayers in 1 church only 4 dem 2 tell her d dude she was datin isn't her husband,she wept bitterly so d "see'er" had 2 tell her dat if she wants 2 marry d man she shud pray hard lol! Mind u she n dis man can quarrel 4 a whole year...........plz. My dear use Ur tongue 2 count ur teeth!! As 4 ur sister,sit her down n talk 2 her n she shud stop hangin out wit ur bf weda he's wooin her or not!
Love ur comment. Babe stop running to pastors to submit anyone's name, dey wl tel u wot u want to hear. Learn to kneel and pray. God listens! My personal friend went to diff pastors to submit bfs' names,she got married to tthe man dat was pikd only to find out after d marriage dat d guy has 2children. Alas she was also pregnant n dia was no turning bak. The guys sleeps at home only wen he feels like,beats her and even brought his children to b stayn wit them. As it is now, they are no longer together(less than * yr) as she ad to move out due to d severe beating she recieved. Pls dnt biliv any pastor's story. Mk urself apy by getn into anoda relationship. Stop weepn ova smone who no longer cares for you.
DeleteWide eyed, you are tooooo intelligent ! You are tooooo much ! I LOVE YOU !
DeleteOops! Turning red. My boo thinks am a dumb blonde cos he's a "wole soyinka" o.Maybe someone should tell him am a closet ITK? Love u too.
DeleteThe pastors that are seeing "your husband" and telling you, are they also seeing your sins and telling you? Like are they also seeing you have sex with him while not marrying to him i.e. fornication? Well, these "pastors" are not telling you about hell; it's a pity. Run away from iniquity dear! Run away from these kind of "pastors". Jesus says in John 10 . . . my sheep hear my voice and I know them and they follow me . . . if you repent, you will be his sheep, you will hear from him and he will lead you as you follow him. Regards.
ReplyDeleteThis man is not into you, forget what the pastor told you , your sister is the enemy.
ReplyDeletePls do not mind the prs dat said u should beat ur sister. Na ha type De forget family n frens after marriage
ReplyDeleteWatch ur sista carefully,,,,if she's not telling u about the discussion she's having with ur man,,,then they are both up to something mischievous........its not a bad idea if u let ur parents know about it too and as for ur man,,,wether u evntually find out he's into some pranks with ur sista or not,,,,pls give him a long break,,stop calling him,,act like u dont care,,even if he sends money into ur account,,dont bother calling back to show appreciation(ajemonu tie niyen).....if he needs u to come over,,,tell him u're busy,,or u have an outing,,just give him an excuse why u cant see him......make urself unavailable for him too,,dont reply to text/chats from him,,,if he calls from a number u dont know sef,,,cut him off immediately u recognize his voice,,,,my dear try and develop a thick skin for him so dat u wont be hurt,,,,,and most importantly open up yourself for better suitors that will respect and appreciate u better.......and like someone said,,stay away from churches that will tell u one man is urs and another isnt,,,instead pray to God to give u ur own man.....it is well!!!
ReplyDeleteWow dat my fwend....hv tld her 2 find anoda man nd stop dis luv luv tinz dat will nt work...mehn I feel 4 u plz luk 4 anoda man#rollin eye#
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ReplyDeleteU people ve come again oo, spell doctors and witch doctors, the other time it was one other idiot, stella please stop uploading this kind of comments aiming to Scam weak ladies. Take ur stupid Dr. Odige elsewhere. We aint buying b!tch
DeleteI don't know why I'm so convinced dat the enemy here is ur sis! It happened to me, but in my case, he was tryin to strike a balance and wl always report me to my lil sis. I observed dt weneva he came, she'll start frowning and sometimes get vexed and ask why it was only myself he was giving attention to. We had a little misunderstanding, he changed his line and didn't give me d new one but called my sis and gave her(she wasn't where I was @ dt time). I never knew he was already having sex with her!!! Infact, most times wen he wld b goin towards her area for a course, he'll tell me he wld b staying over @ where my sis stayed (my mum's family house).. Fast forward, we got married and abt 3months into d marriage, I found out their 'little secret'... I still hate him till tomorrow!
ReplyDeleteBottomline! Call ur sis, talk to her, if she doesn't bulge, threaten her! @ least to get to the bottom of it, cos I feel she owes u her loyalty and not that he-goat.. Don't let ur emotions becloud ur sense of reasoning biko! Cos if u force urself, u'll live a life of regret
And u are still married to him? Hmmm marriage and desperation. Pls forgive him and let go, if u must be happy for life.
DeleteAnd you still married him ?!! Na wah ! HOW DISTASTEFUL ! Dysfunctional Sisters !
DeleteAnd you still married him ?!! Na wah ! HOW DISTASTEFUL ! Dysfunctional Sisters !
DeleteGood advice! Investigate your sister's intentions properly. Most times the enemy lies within....
ReplyDeleteThis love spell is bullshit, dere's a woman in my church dat gave a testimony how her husband who was so nice to her and her kids suddenly changed, she fasted and prayed about it and a word of wisdom came to her in church dat her husband is seeing anoda woman and dat woman took her pics to a witch doctor to make her mad so dat she could take over her husband, having heard dis, she raised some money and took it to d altar in church, she sowed d money dere and told God dat, its His altar against d other altar. Lo and behold, the husband who hasnt returned home for months came home dat night and begged her to forgive him and dats not all oo, the next day an old was seen pursuing a lady around town and shouting u did dis to my altar to her, the lady trying to snatch anoda womans husband ran mad while d woman is happy with her husband. My point dnt go for juju, it doesnt end well. Ask God for His perfect will in marriage for u which is definitely not dat (tozo), avoid fornication it hinders prayers n blessings. Stay strong
ReplyDeletebella ragazz...
This love spell is bullshit, dere's a woman in my church dat gave a testimony how her husband who was so nice to her and her kids suddenly changed, she fasted and prayed about it and a word of wisdom came to her in church dat her husband is seeing anoda woman and dat woman took her pics to a witch doctor to make her mad so dat she could take over her husband, having heard dis, she raised some money and took it to d altar in church, she sowed d money dere and told God dat, its His altar against d other altar. Lo and behold, the husband who hasnt returned home for months came home dat night and begged her to forgive him and dats not all oo, the next day an old was seen pursuing a lady around town and shouting u did dis to my altar to her, the lady trying to snatch anoda womans husband ran mad while d woman is happy with her husband. My point dnt go for juju, it doesnt end well. Ask God for His perfect will in marriage for u which is definitely not dat (tozo), avoid fornication it hinders prayers n blessings. Stay strong
ReplyDeletebella ragazz...
Dear poster try by all means to talk it over with ur bf and be prayerful
ReplyDeleteYour sister is ur Rival.
ReplyDeleteSome sisters na enemies! I have a sister who mocks me with one bad break up I had each time we quarrel.....seems like she is happy I went through so much pain. My dear look at ur sister closely. coz personally i won't be nice or hangout with a guy who is making my sis unhappy n act as if all is well, that's pure wickedness.
ReplyDeleteTell me about Sisters. I have had my fair share of Sisters from Hell. My Sister planned to kill me, and she slept with an old flame of mine. She is envious, wicked and dangerous.
DeleteHmm na wa ooo
ReplyDeleteWhy take your younger sister out? I never get this 'family' relationship thingy. He is dating you, not your sister! Be careful o, before the wrong sister ends up with the pregnancy o.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile sit him down and talk.
If this is a dream believe me i don't wish to wake up,After 10years relationship with my lover Tom Walker he just decided to have a divorce with me because he was having an affair with another lady and the lady told him to break up with me so she can come and took my position when Tom told me that he was no longer interested that he is tired of me i was like after 10years now you are tired of me so the next thing was a letter from the lawyer saying Tom said he needs a divorce when i saw the letter tears rushed out of my eye i composed my self and said wow this world has turned round against me.So i decided to try all my possible best until one day when i was listen to the radio where i saw people giving testimony how there divorce was cancelled within 24 hours i was like this is same problem am having i just say people testifying in the name of this great man called Dr Uma sabo for what he has done for them how he has helped them to bring back there lover i waited for the problem to finish and they dropped Dr Uma sabo cell number and email,Immediately i gave dr Uma sabo a call and shared my problem with him he just told me not worry that he assures me that Tom will tell the lawyer to cancel the divorce within 24 hours really what Dr Uma sabo said came to past within the 24 hours was a call from tom crying that he is just coming from the lawyers office that he does not need a divorce anymore that he wants me back home that he is sending that lady away so when he said that i was so happy now Tom came home brought all document and told the lawyer that he is willing everything to me and that he wants me to be the right owner of everything he owns i was so happy,I bless the day i meant dr Uma sabo meeting him was never a regret please clean your tears dr Uma sabo is here to solve your problem you can contact him on umasabotraditionalhome@gmail.com
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