This post is about in laws/relatives who do not respect boundaries in a marriages/relationships.
Some of them go the extra mile to destroy the marriage/relationship if the new comer does not worship them and heed to their advice....guess what?
It happens because you let them come in....I am not saying shut your in laws out oh but the truth of the matter is that most of us play the fool from day one and when we get in and try to prove a point,the battle begins.
My friend who just got married says her rich sister in law is annoying and complains about everything she does...complains that she spends too much time making up,how she holds the fork is wrong,how she sits is wrong blah blah and i asked her what her hubby thinks and she says he is indifferent but she is thinking of how to tell her sister in law off and put her in check.
Most marriages are having problems today because of poke nosing in-laws...yes you heard me right!
Mother in laws who will not give their children space and want to know everything going on....some even try to control their children's finances and try to dictate to the wife how to manage her home and kitchen...this is wrong.
who is going through a storm caused by poke nosing in laws?what is it about?
who has weathered a storm caused by poke nosing in laws?how did you sail through?
whose marriage was crashed by poke nosing in laws?what happened?
are you a poke nosing in law?why are you poking your nose inside another persons pie?
spouse,what are you doing about your family's poke nosing?
*I hope all those who are reading and are poke nosing in laws learn how to draw the line between what you should and what you shouldn't...just mind your business abeg!
My former mother inlaw moved in without informing me but her son knew, she lived with us for abt one year before i moved out, she sent my little cousin away, sent d gate man packing then i automatically became thr house help and no, her grandson will never go to creche, they kill children, all house helps r witches, so none was allowed, so it had to be only me n her, dat was how my going to work ended. Thank God i dumped thr ass and moved out. Today am married to d best man in d world and his mum is awesome.
ReplyDeleteYou luckily escaped.
DeleteGood for u.
My inlaws respect their boundaries.
Maybe bcos I keep them all at arms-length.
The issue is the man here.
If he doesn't hold his wife on high esteem,his people will of course disregard her.
Try my hubby-he'd be like,I need to hear from my wife first.
Thank God for u. My inlaws do not have the time to poke dia nose. Every aboki with him kettle. My mother in law treats me like her EGG and respects her boundary. I can't shout abeg
DeleteThey so know me, I give you the respect you give me
DeleteI'm so inlove with my inlaws even though my mum inlaw tries to convince you about her own decisions but I tell her what I would do and what can't
Like everything has to be on my terms and so we love eachother
I think the best thing is to show them who you are from the start so they would not feel like you are changing, if they do not like you the way you are they never will
Thank You Lord I couldn't be more grateful
My sister in as much as I don't support divorce there are exceptions, in laws can be from hell. I remember reading an article here where a woman talked about her husband buying himself and his father cars yet his wife was jumping buses. That article gave me an insight into evil people. God punish all evil in laws
DeleteAnd you stop @ m amie stop commenting on people's comments if it has no link.
DeleteMarriage wahala
ReplyDeleteHmmmm! Stella you are making me remember things I'm trying so so hard to forget. Anyway, thank God for my mum and her wonderful advice, if not...
DeleteMy hubby has 8 siblings and it is only one that stands up for me when my MIL starts. That woman wants to control my life by all means. This is how she controls my hubby's other brothers wives and it's annoying her that I have refused to be put under her armpit like her other daughters inlaw. She wants to control what I cook, how I dress, who I call, how I smile or laughn how I relate with hubby etc. The worst is that whenever she comes up with a wicked ideas, she tags it tradition. That she is trying to make me behave like them (since I'm not from their area), that she is teaching me their tradition.
Anyway, I thank God I have mastered the act of avoiding her. We don't even talk on phone anymore...as for my siblings inlaw, those ones are 2 faced. They only remember me when they beg hubby for something and he refuses, that's when they dail my number to beg me to help them talk to their brother. Whatever sha, my own is that I now keep them all at arms length.
Genny baby, are you telling my mum's story? My paternal uncle and aunties are so annoying n I hate my paternal granma. Pity mum tho! I pray I don't have such in laws o
DeleteI don't like such person....over-sabi pple... Well I don't give room for such in my relationship. Itz just me and my babe, we quarrel, we handle it...no 3rd party...QED...#alinko
ReplyDeleteDis Stanley nwanze, did u understand dis post at all? Dis post is for married couples and not boyfriend girlfriend crap. Now run along, u dis kid
DeleteShush! MRS, they said marriage/ relationship. Old mama youngy
DeleteAnon 7:33 grandmothers drop comments here! Take a chill pill with the supposed insult
DeleteAnonymous 7:13, even married ppl get to call their hubby or wife babe if dey so choose. The fact Stanley said just he and his babe don't mean he ain't married, stop jumpin to conclusions!
DeleteWe all should just pray for better inlaws. Those that will treat us like family. I'll be back for the stories.
ReplyDeleteSumbo.
Sumbo as in 2face???
DeleteNa only she dey bear sumbo?
DeleteTell dem ooh, it's too mush
ReplyDeleteMy dear stella this matter no be today ooo . Dont even know where to start. One just needs prayers and divine wisdom. Simple
ReplyDeleteMy dear stella this matter no be today ooo . Dont even know where to start. One just needs prayers and divine wisdom. Simple
ReplyDeleteMa prospective MIL is d best fing datz eva happend..Shez so nyc 2 me n pampers me silly! Love her!
ReplyDelete*African Barbie..
African Barbie, marry first then come and tell us how wonderful she is.
DeleteHmmmm! Pray she doesn't change lata. My frndz MIL treated her so well b4 marriage. When my frnd put 2 bed and she came 4 omugwo come see changes. D day I visited I was like m sure ur happy cos ur sweet MIL u talk abt so much is here. Her answer was scary mehn! Evn d way d MIL treated me wasn't funny o! Her cold attitude scared me. She didn't last a month. My frnd sent her away
DeleteBabe, marry first and give her the much coveted grand child, then come back to tell us... Most of those women who pamper silly whilst dating their sons are great pretenders.. I know that firsthand..
DeleteMy front door is like a revolving door. As one leaves another is stepping in. Sibling o, mom o, cousin o...its non stop. For me its the attitude the hubby adopts once they are around. A totally different human being. I've complained as subtly as I can ee don tire me. I rely on God to give me serenity to accept these things...My advice to anyone with pokenosers, be patient and adjust yourself at all times. Be alert. Dassall
DeleteIts so dishearteninq. As if ur relations or friends were dere wen u askd her 2marry u. Or aqreed 2 marry him.
ReplyDeleteYou sound so single diamond,chill and get married then you will understand better.
DeleteI have oh!
ReplyDeleteMy sister in-law was like that,but I gave her a polite curse .
I told her "you are a woman,u will leave your parents home one day and get married and you wld be treated the way u are treating me and even worst" that was all I said,and today she still carries the curse like gala seller.
No rest of mind for her.
Her in-laws always fighting her for no reason.
Her husband's younger sister gave her hot and dirty slap one time like that.
Hahaha Karma is a Bitch!
Beware of my tongue
Lepa-Shandy,you wish....Story!!...your cuss dosent work....infact,all the blog cuss dosent work....hehehehehe
DeleteNo mind dem bitches!!! Wen Ada my only sis inlaw nd my mil want try rubbish wit me cos am not their tribe,,omo I gbege dem oh no b small!! Till 2day,my moda inlaw dey find apology letter!! No b only!!smtcheeeeeeew!!!.d one wey I dey plan now na one of my bro inlaw,I go show am say kaki no b leather......OKIJA WIFE
DeleteYinka Florens....shebi you use your bus jam the woman nii? Lol. I dey hail!
Deleteaunty stella no b small tin oo.dis issue is quite troubling.we almost had d same troubl wit one of ma uncle's wife-to-be.ds tym it was her mom who wanted to control her daughter's marriage and d whole family o.it was God dat rescued us frm her cos ma uncle wud hv bn a zombie for her family.am not married yet but i pray always for d family i wil enter,so dat i wil have parents-in-law lyk my own parents.ppl shud learn to draw d line btw givn wise counsel and pokenosing.
ReplyDeleteI will not treat my mother inlaw any how because i don't want my future daughter inlaw to treat me any how, we all know that what goes around come's around, i know that some mother inlaws are very difficult. I am not even the type that visit's people with out invitation not even my children. I give people their space and i expect to be treated the same way.
ReplyDeleteHmmnnn, same way my mil used to sound till I married her son and saw she is worse than her own mil she complains about...
DeleteTo avoid poke nosing,....don't make friends with your sister and mother-inlaws......let them be seeing you from a far...
ReplyDeleteYou are so correct, my two sister in laws are really bad, I tried to make them my friends but they ended up ganging up against me. Keep them far far away, if not for marriage what is the relationship? You wouldn't even speak to them if it is not because of marriage.
DeleteGbam!
DeleteI know some inlaws can b frustrating..but we just need to learn how to tolerate dem cos in reality we'll bcome som1's inlaw one day nd we won't want to b treated as trash..let evri1 knw their role nd things will work out! Ma grand ma wc is ma mum's MIL contributed to ma parent's divorce..nd I don't pray to have a MIL as such! May God rest ha soul tho she's gone but whatever it is she did can't just go or clear! @xclucivexter!
ReplyDeleteBest thing is to live far away frm everyone biko. Manage em properly d once in a blue moon they visit n everyone stays happy.
DeleteMine was horrible. Mom in law will say if my son slaps you don't shout. She comes into my bedroom without knocking. Sister in law was always saying shit n I told her u won't see husband n even if you do tears shall be ur portion.that was 8yrs ago. She is struggling to get married now. Like gala seller na so she go carry part 2 of the curse. Moved out of the shitty marriage n family sef.
ReplyDeleteLol.....am happy we r many in this wahala. life is way better without such shitty people biko.
DeleteTank God 4 my MIL am not aving any prob with her even though her son neva get job she dey try her best she no dey poke nose my hussy self no dey take shit 4rm anybody we just got married na my dad get dat kind attituide $ I don tell his wife (my mom) make she warn him nobody shld put mouth 4 our matter. Unless u a invited lip# sealed####
ReplyDeleteI think people enter into marriage with a preconceived notion to be wary of inlaws. I have been married for 13 years and my inlaws are my best friends, not because they are particularly good but because I decided to treat them as my family, no matter what. They pass through me to get anything from my husband because they know I will persuade him on their behalf. When you label inlaws as bad remember one way or another you are also an inlaw.
ReplyDeleteCount yourself lucky
DeleteMy dear u r jst lucky, i treat my inlaws lik my own family but sometyms its lik they r frm another world, but God knows im trying my best to be nice no matter wat
DeleteGod please bless me wit gud inlaws esp my mother inlaw(Amen). U knw i dnt have d strength to fight or quarrel..
ReplyDeleteMy mother in-law pretends to be good bt she's a devil's incarnate, always complaining about me to her son but I thank God for my hubby he shuns her instantly. Today na say I too dey waste money, the clothes I buy 4 the kids are too expensive, I wear skimpy clothes, I no dey do like say I don marry, I made her son stop eating her food #she's a terrible cook by the way# I think the way your in-laws treat you depends on the way your husband treats you, my hubby treats me like a queen so them no get choice.
ReplyDeleteYou made your husband stop eating his own morher's food? And you are proud of it?
DeleteDo you have a son?
Be careful, you will be a mother in law one day.
Anonymous 2:31, she's only listing d supposed sins her MIL says she's committin. She didn't say she did stop him. If only we can all just stop jumping to conclusions...smh
DeleteMy moda in law is d best moda inlaw ever liveth....am sooo blessed 2 av her n all my inlaws too. N am sure my dota inlaw will be d luckiest ever
ReplyDelete*mostly common* among the uneducated people
ReplyDeleteIf I hear.
DeleteNa lie mine are very educated with masters but like someone stated above they always look for faults like how you hold a fork, how you clean your fish, how you walk or even speak. God help us
DeleteTah!!! The educated are the worst abegiii!!! You never jam ba??
DeleteI have one. Jealous "bitch" of a SIL. ( Lepa shandy abeg borrow me the cursative word).
ReplyDeleteAlways talking behind my back, I heard, confronted her, and used that as a good ground to draw the line. Everybody maintain your lane.
Was just tired of the pretense in my presence and bullcrap she says behind me. Being hearing and keeping quiet but one fine day, monkey went to the market and never returned.
#distance maintained #no fake visits #no access to my personal lifestyle
*straight face*
When you've had enough, you throw the punch. Namsense!
Babe, that's the way forward! You mark your territory because their brother fit No wan talk. Let them know you ain't no fool. I handled mine in a similar way, no time...
DeleteBabe, that's the way forward! You mark your territory because their brother fit No wan talk. Let them know you ain't no fool. I handled mine in a similar way, no time...
DeleteThat's my BLOGLORD!
DeleteI trust u jare
If she pass her territory just tell me to help u cuss her out
ReplyDeletemy mil and husband's sister are annoying nosy and forward.. They act as though they know it all and are eager to take over your responsibility if you allow it.. They know i am firm and put a perimeter fence around my marriage.. No one is controlling my marriage #aintnobodygottime for that# ..one needs to be form but polite and hope your husband realises they are manipulators whose only concern is to know every detail of your marriage
Annoyingly* firm*
DeleteMy own story is different, married a lousy hubby dat tlks carelessly, there is nothin you both do or he does dat his people won't hear, at times you Ђ̥̊α̲̅√ a little quarrel D̶̲̥̅̊ next thing inlaws are calling you, some things dey ask or tell you sef, you wil be suprise dat D̶̲̥̅̊ man told them all you are trying to cover É‘̤̥̈̊Ω̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ for you to bail urslf you wil now tell ur own side before you know, no secret for us. Soooo disgustin, please single ladies watch out for a man dat talks too much, a self centred man, É‘̤̥̈̊Ω̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ one dat reads meaning to any little word, please throw D̶̲̥̅̊ love away É‘̤̥̈̊Ω̴̩̩̩̥d̶̲̥̅̊ take off. For my inlaws I stil dey watch with 3d, thou we are all just there.
ReplyDeleteLol!!! Reminds me of a guy I know called Kenny. Good luck o.
DeleteThe same Kenny I know? Lousy bastard!
DeleteI know what you mean jare
DeleteI hp its nt d kenny dat stays @ Agege sha?
DeleteLike I was always tell my husband. It's how he places me infront of his family that they will carry me.
ReplyDeleteIf his people talk crap about me, is his place to correct them and let them know he won't take any of that. Him being indifferent will keep them going.
I keep my distance from them, & I tell him why. He doesn't have to defend you in your face as long as he defends you behind your back and they don't have the guts to say anything to your face again.
It's better to be cordial with them sha
I have one jealous bitch of a sis-in-law whose primary purpose is to control my husband just the way she is controlling her lousy husband. She may think she has succeeded in her evil plans but SIL you will shed tears over your daughter just the way you have made my mum weep over me. BITCH!
ReplyDeleteSome MIL are not bad it depends on your spouse the way they treat you if he let's them know you have a say then the respect will be there if not...n
ReplyDeleteMy mother-in-law not only poke nose into my marriage,,,she poke all her body sef and she almost ruined my marriage if not for God's timely intervention.....last july,,i had to put her where she belongs,,,,sometimes distant friendship is better with in laws than intimate friendship....now she hardly comes around....
ReplyDeleteImagine living in the same city with all of them, MIL, SIL, FIL, BIL, all the assorted 1st, 2nd cousins. That is what I'm facing and none of mine are even in the same state with us. I don't call, phone or text. Abeg I put all of them at arms length. After 9 years married, I'm sure even their complaints have started sounding stupid to them bcos I honestly don't care. They've put me thru hell my first few years married. 2 SIL, one receiving cap from her own in laws, the other not married hehehehehehe
DeleteSometimes people that have been victims of DV somehow or the other become manipulators themselves, take my MIL I know she loves me to bits but sometimes she passes statements that make her children go crazy and start wanting to fight and quarrel with you! Or sometimes it's her husband she says certain things to and he starts going crazy and yelling down the house and fighting everyone including she herself but especially we the daughter-in-laws!
ReplyDeleteVisit koolblend.blogspot.com for true life stories you can't afford to miss!
my mIl is an angel, she comes to take care of me after my deliveries. but its important ur husband family sees that u guys are united and speak with one voice that way they Will find it hard to Interfer
ReplyDeleteAbeg, it is a two-way thing. Some daughters-in-law are terrible and have made up their minds not to tolerate any member of their husband's family. Let's look at these scenes:
ReplyDeleteA lady was a prostitute, she slept with virtually any man who could afford her services and anytime she got pregnant, na abortions galore; not once, not twice, not even thrice. Later in life, she gets married and unfortunately, can't bear the fruit of the womb. The next thing she does is to take her husband to a 'prophet' who tells him his mother is the witch behind the inability of his wife to get pregnant. The son goes straight to the mum and called her a witch. The mom cries to God and this is the 6th year of their marriage and the lady is still not pregnant. She goes about telling everyone that her MIL is the witch, but she knows the truth and has refused to acknowledge it.
Secondly, a couple has a son and have been married for some years now. The husband strayed and impregnated another lady who bore him twins. The wife decided to go diabolical and reduced the husband to nothing. Poverty now stares them in the face and the wife is satisfied with it. According to her, shebi it is because he has extra change that is why he impregnated another lady?
Cyber bullies are on blogs and 99% of them are women. I just imagine the type of mothers-in-law they will be to their daughters-in-law.
If your mother-in-law doesn't like you, check yourself. How do you behave with her? Are you two-faced? Are you honest with yourself? Are you trying to separate mother and son? Do you have a dirty past and now you're trying to pin it to your MIL?
As for me, I am not married yet, but I know I'm treating my MIL with a plain mind. She isn't my enemy and even if she is, the God I serve will give her much more than she bargained for. I'm out.
Idiot
DeleteComing from a wicked SIL. Marry ist and come back with this BS!
DeleteU̶̲̥̅̊ aren't married yet but U̶̲̥̅̊ know all d solutions abi??? Issorait!!!!
DeleteFoolish comment. I married my husband a virgin,I worship d ground his mum walks on,bt even this didn't work. She removed some of d traditional bride price goods my husband bought with his money. Her only duty was to bring it in wt the other family members. Her reason: it was too much stuff.now,I'm yoruba,so these were just stuff like wine,yams,drinks,vegetable oil,not ipad,gold or money. You definitely have no idea.
DeleteChenille, nor mind am, na mumu.. Biko, go siddon and leave this topic for your seniors... Singles know all the theoretical solutions to marriage.. Yeye
DeleteForgot to add she earns over 250k per month o,so she's not poor perse,plus she has NEVER bought me a gift in the 9yrs I've known her.
DeleteMy dear marry first but i am not praying for u to have poke nosers as inlaws.
DeleteOmo,stay dey yarn dust,madam goody goody,my only prayer for u is to get into a gud family and have gud MIL,else these ur words u will eat them all and drink water on top!
DeleteMost inlaws are usually jealous and ungrateful,no matter what u do for them,u will never know they still hate u for no reason!just learnt my lessons lately and have decided to 'mind my own bizness and not to ever try so hard to impress anybody!its strictly 'what u see is what u get.!BS
Barefaced, are you sure you didn't borrow my story word for word? Lol! Down to the bride price thingie fa, even removed part of the money given me on my wedding day!!!!
DeleteMy MIL s two faced, she tells my parents she loves me and says otherwise to me but my God will pay her in her own coins.as for ada nd others one day una go marry I pray u dont go thru wat ur mum has caused for me and hubbby. I never prayed for my MIL to be dead nd all that, I said ii wanted a woman that is alive nd healthy nd someone dat will bring peace to my home as a mother but I cant even open up to her.wish them well but am out. DEAR LORD MAY MY HEART DESIRES BE MET AMEN
ReplyDeleteAnon 2:34, your entire dogon turenchi was disqualified with...I am not married yet. You are not in a place to comment, I apologize really. People are here telling real stories, and you are bringing up the stories you heard in the beauty salon. The Inlaw struggle is real, people are suffering because of very cantankerous inlaws and you are here being judge and jury. You are an example of one of those sisters in law that will be dealing with the wife because she "must be doing something wrong". You do not know our struggle so please just read and keep it there.
ReplyDeleteWasere! NA real salon eavesdropping...
DeleteMy mother inlaw is a witch,I dnt like her at all she complains abt everything. She wnts us to visit every weekend cos we stay in the same city,and it's not like she'll act happy to see me or anything. She complains abt my dressing,the fact that I fix my nails even though this is what hubby wants,she sees me as too sophisticated for her son and suspects I starve him. She makes jokes about hoping we dnt do noodles and fast food all the time and whenever she comes visitin,she brings me NOODLES I dnt even eat that stuff,I dunno how she made it all up in her head,bt even her son is fed up. So am I.
ReplyDeleteI consider all of you complaining lucky. My case is horrible. I caught my hubby and MIL having sex in our matrimonial home. I am completely devastated.
ReplyDeleteHAAAAAAAAAAAAAA.... Pls shed more light. this is so hard to believe. how? jeeeeez!
DeleteIm surprised no one commented under this.Babe,ur MIL and hubby r into jazz,if ure still in dat marriage,pls can u give Stella ur sister or friends numbers and tell dem to contact Stella via e-mail or whatever if/when u die coz they will use u soon.u r devastated ko,devastated ni.ode
DeleteMother and son? Nne, don't just shout, ring alarm! U knw d marriage has ended right? Don't bear the pain alone, make it public and put them both to shame
DeleteOMG!!! Almost unbelievable.
Delete-Phantom-
Asin mother and son???
DeleteHAaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
DeleteOMG!!! Pls,give us the full gist.send it to SDK let's learn frm it
DeleteBlood of God! Jesuuuuuuus. Your husband and his mother? Jesuuuuuuuuuuuus
DeleteWHAT!!!!!! Abeg dust your legs coot for there fast!!!!!
DeleteAnon 9.42 jus ask for d full gist and spare me 'the lets learn frm it BS'.... wetin u wan learn. *rme*
DeleteI've already left the house with my 2 little kids. I'm staying with my parents. He's threatning to brimestone and fire if Idon't bring his children back but I won't because the house has been defiled.
DeleteA woman that sees no wrong in what her son does is a very bad woman ,and thats obiinnas mother for but in all.Gods knows best
ReplyDeleteAnony 22,wen i saw dis topic,i was dead sure u ll comment and u didnt disapoint me.to all inlaws&ml.stay far far away fm dem.zip ur mouth,mind ur bussines.leave dem alone,let them paddle their cannoe,if dey landashore,to God be d glory,if dey sink,another one bites d dust.let dem not use u as an alibi for anytin.we all must live wt d consequences of our actions.na matter of time.d young wife ll soon become a mother inlaw.experience has taught me to mind my fucking life...nkechi
ReplyDeleteMy mil and sister inlaw's are not nice, but we are just civil to one another. My problem is my brother in laws wife. She's so cold and mean and detached towards me and u would think that we would be close cos we are married to brothers abi?. I even noticed that she deleted me from her BlackBerry cos I can't find her and I didn't delete her but me I no send o! I know that with time all the mysteries of this family go unravel. They don't tell me nada! I'm always the last to know anytin. God dey!
ReplyDeleteHmmm!!! First of all you are a liar. You are the snitch of the family!!! Do you know how many years you spent washing , cooking and doing ralia the slave girl before you married that your husband? Or you think I don't know the role you played when our mother in law came to fight with me. Just in case you didn't notice I also deleted you on Facebook not just blackberry. You are a wife just like me so you need to stop among like you are superior to me or more advantaged cos I really don't give a fuck. I operate on my own levels and am glad you are all realising that I would not act a fool simply because I am married to that family. Abeg no time for your rubbish.
DeleteMake una show una face o.
Delete@ano 2.34pm Well said gurl.God bless u big. U said it all.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately, majority of the guilty won't read this post.
ReplyDeleteMy own in-laws are very bad. They pretended to love me before I married their brother, always asking for one help or the other which i willingly gave in cash and other assistance and they praised me to high heavens. Now they don't want to see me with their eye. They have not even seen me in 2-3 years and don't care whether I die sef. They gossip about me and I hear it. All because I have no child yet. They now ask their brother to marry another wife. Because of this, I know its time for God to bless me and they will meet their waterloo once this happens. oshisco people
ReplyDeleteMy sil is just a funny babe tho am not married to her brother yet i am preggers for him but she doesnt know yet & we will be getting married before the baby comes which go shock her real good (we planned our baby & marriage like that). My sis in law is ok but when i spent christmas with my inlaws she was shouting about her wedding sep2014 all over the place like me no get brain to won marry i just laff in my head cuz my baby will be here way before that which means i will be married way before her. E go shock her with her fake self. I just dey look her make she marry cuz her hubby's sisters are waiting for her if she doesnt like me they will not like her kmt. She no go av peace if she tries any shit with my marriage. As for my mil she is relocating back to naija from uk in march i wish her safe journey which means no inlaws in uk since my fil lives in naija n sil lives in canada. As for my hubbys lil bro olorigbeske i will soon put him in his place with him sharp mouth e go shock him cuz i no be his mate and i am two years older than his brother(hubby) mtcheeww i dont av time for shit. I keep them all at arms length i dont try n be anybody's friend rara i no fit pple are too fake.
ReplyDeleteI think u are the 1 with the problem @anonymous 7:37pm
DeleteBad wife alert!...really pity the man dt fell into ur trap.
DeleteI dont have a problem & i will neva be s bad wife. I only wrote less than half of the story, i learnt in laws are not your friends the hard way from them & previous experience.
DeleteAnon 3:58
ReplyDeleteWTF did u say *shines eyes*/suprise look
Ur mil N ur hubby
I ll so use the pain and create a jagantic scen wtf smh Oh
My inlaws re trying
ReplyDeleteBut I fear when my husband tell me say
They re like a mini God to him whatever they tell him is what he ll do
If u see me ehnnnn cold catch me I suprise I com they wonder say na wetin com bring dis kind talk
MARIAGE
Anon 3:58
ReplyDeleteWTF did u say *shines eyes*/suprise look
Ur mil N ur hubby
I ll so use the pain and create a jagantic scen wtf smh Oh
Hmmm....... If my father in-law was a woman, I for c wien... Like seriously. I rmber wen I told him dat hubby always says he'll send me out n marry another wife n all he said was n I quote "if he wants to marry another wife, I won't stop him.If my son says u always disturb him. N if u want to b a second hand wife it's up to u. "Dat was wen I got married newly. Hubby bought a new car, making d cars owned two. All he culd say was dat hubby should drive both cars. I still dey fly bike n bus. Told me I disrespect hubby cos I feel we both v bsc.s, he should go for masters. Dis is a man who said I should be a SAHW. A man whose son-in-laws ll do anything for. Doesn't want another person to enjoy d benefits he enjoys. Heard him bragging at a ceremony dat he thank God none of his daughters complains abt deir husbys dat dey r at peace. Mwh, all his daughters in-laws suffer domestic violence at d hands of his sons. Dats wat dey grew up in. Wanted to publish my story on dat but alas entries v been closed. Hmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteHmmn..reading all dis makes me go sceptical....my future MIL n SIL luvs me as a daughter infact dey've sworn dat my guy must marry me...although my guy loves me madly and places me high...I'm so dear to d mum dt people tinks I'm her last child...I so wanna be her daughter inlaw...my guy doesn't tolerate sha and hs people fears him.infact they hardly know anytin about him...they can only get little info frm me cos I know I'm d closest person to him in d world...we don't do 3rd party unless wen is crucial,he complains to my mum...I pray we get married soon cos we love each other madly..but when I read wen people say "marry first n see if she doesn't change" I get scared....I believe she wouldn't change..she is naturally good cos she is a good xtain and everyone talks good of her.......but my Ex mother is a witch so I understand b/tw having a good Mil and a bad one......nothing pleases d bad one..May dat evil woman rot in hell #spits#...mtchewW......Nurse yalo!
ReplyDeleteAfter my college bf of 7yrs broke my heart, I vowed not to marry a Nigerian. It was too much of a betrayal. But God blessed me with a British man. So the case of mother in law na long distance relationship...... from a very looooong far. we talk on phone but na whats up whats up we de yarn. Nothing more nothing less. If i go to the Uk, i see her for like 1hr Max! and i ja. If she get 10 head make she come 9ja.By the time i feed her akpo and draw soup, she will fade back to where she came from. I love her by extension of the Love i have for her son. But na there e end. My mum isn't mean to any of her daughters in law... so i won't take forming from my MIL cos say she be oyibo. I guess i am lucky.
ReplyDeleteBut my friend isn't so lucky. From courting the guy mama show her 9 9. and she still entered the marriage with her eyes wide open even though she knew the guy's mum despised her. now she is reaping and sitting on a very loong unhappy marriage. But she can't leave as she argues she has invested too much in the relationship. so she eats the guy's mum's shit for breakfast, lunch, dinner and dessert. I feel so sorry for her.
I pray that single ladies here reading all these comments will learn and be wise. If the guy's mum doesn't like you as his girlfriend or fiancee... she definitely won't like you as a daughter in law. NO WAY IN HELL! once her mind has been made up about u..... nothing will ever pacify her where u r concerned.
Like they say wetin elders see when them siddon, pikin no go see am even from the mountain top.
Nurse yalo,I guess its pretty easy to ask sm1 to rot in hell...why not? It wasn't ur blood that was shed for her,no one flogged u till ur skin fell off and gave u vinegar to drink and then proceed to nail u to a cross,jst so that evil woman can live,anyways HATE THE SIN,NOT THE SINNER. All the best wiv ur new bf's family.
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ReplyDeleteHmmnn.. my own is the fire of God will strike down those evil people from my dad's side that said my mother won't enjoy her marriage. .. those people are pure evil, my dad is a wealthy man but he people ve used jazz to turn him away from my mum he doesn't give her nothing, stopped her from working even the business he opened he's still collecting the money. My siblings and I literally ve 2 give be giving mumsi money from the pocket money my dad gives us but I know one day all this shall pass. My dad will turn away from the wicked ways and his eyes will be cleared. But I low key blame mumsi she allowed them in too much, imagine u r sister in law struggling u r kitchen with you to make food for your husband and you won't say anything. Mumsi is too quiet and I pray God restores her marriage, amen.i reject evil in laws for me, my sister and everyone else, amen.
ReplyDeletepls fellow sdkers is it by force to live in d same hse wt ur MIL. My mil refuses to stay in her hse always going from one persons hse to another......d pro b is when she comes to my place she wants to stay permanently.i serve her and attend to her properly when she,s in my place but she alway s has smthing to gossip wt when she leaves despite her age.she,s a second wife in her hse she always acts as if u and her is dragging smthing when she comes to her son,s hse. Recently,we hv a new hse we,re suppose to move into but i,m scared of going there cos she,s going to move in permanently taking a room for herself,pls what do i do abt dat.i dont hate her but i just want dat distance.......
ReplyDeleteI hv the best mother inlaw in the world she no get problems,i'v been married to my husband for almost 5yrs ,av spoken to her a few tyms on the fone.we called her on new year all she said was how una dey una no dey call me hw my grandchildren mk una dey call sometyms mk we know say una dey okay.bt my sil ,she be serious witch o she want dictate wetin i go wear,how much cloth i must buy,hw i mst eat,imagine her tellin me wen i was pregnant wit my first child dat i shouldn't buy cloths dat is waste of money dat i should send 50euro home forcheap Kaba dat i'l wear through out my pregnancy,na him my husband say shey na kaba she dey wear if he get belle?i gbege her no be small,right frm wen i was datin my husband i always put her in her place .he tried to put trouble in my marriage bt God no gree then she started sayin am usin jaz then i tell her na prayer be my jaz. i no go lie she almost ruined my home if nt for God ,i and my husband lost everythin she thinks by doin dat i'll leave my husband if moni no dey again,bt i stood by him we went through alot.she use diabolical means i almost begged to eat .we'v relocated sha so she knos nothin about us again nobody to gv her gist hw we tk dey live the mistake i made was my husband's younger brother was livin wit us so he informs her of everythin bt today nko?am happy na she and her husband dey live like enemies
ReplyDeleteshe once jokingly told my husband nt to hv children dat he should adopt 1 of his sons,he was choppin his moni den now so she no want mk him marry talkless of hvin kids.apart frm her i hv no problems wit any1
ReplyDeleteshe once jokingly told my husband nt to hv children dat he should adopt 1 of his sons,he was choppin his moni den now so she no want mk him marry talkless of hvin kids.apart frm her i hv no problems wit any1
ReplyDeleteInlaws Inlaws..... My MIL anytime she comes to my house my hubby and I must get quarrel, the Sisters, the elder one wants to dominate and is envious while the younger ones tow her line. I try my best to handle it with maturity but at times i jst flip my top and gv them a pc of wat they dish out. Told my hubby that if marriage breaks am sure it will be on issues concerning them. 2014 is year of keeping distance, no wasting of time and resources on pple u cant ever pls
ReplyDeleteAbeg i don forgive all my in laws all the wicked things dem do me,but the distance na intercontinental measure. Make i no dey where i dey quarrel in laws matter rapture come take place. Heaven at last.
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