ADVICE NEEDED
My secondary school boo is back into my life, we lost contact some years back but just reconnected. The guy is still much single and i am very much single too but i am seeing someone who has promised to come see my parents this month.
My secondary school boo is back into my life, we lost contact some years back but just reconnected. The guy is still much single and i am very much single too but i am seeing someone who has promised to come see my parents this month.
Up till now no show of him coming as he claims the contract he is expecting has not come yet since January.
This my secondary school boyfriend is pressing me he wants to come greet my parents but i don't want to take him to see my parents cos once they see him it will be them asking when he is coming to do the needful. He may even ask for list cos we dated for years and did not sleep with each other, now that we have reconnected no s#x still
I have told him i am seeing someone but he is pressing me too hard to give us a chance, omg the old days are something i will like to have forever experience with but i don't know if he is still the same sweet soul, who was loving, showered me with love, care, gift and was so soft with me back then.
Should i reconsider giving us a chance or continue waiting for contract that seems like it was all staged?
*Hmmmmmmm you dont seem to like the person you are dating otherwise you will not give your ex a second chance or even allow him in......
The one telling you he is waiting for contract before he comes,may never come.....
It seems that your mind is more with your school ex so please go with him....
Dont keep two men or you will lose both.
How long have you been seeing the other guy?
ReplyDeleteAre your parents aware of him yet?
Or you suddenly think he is lying because your ex is back in your life and pressuring you to come back to him.
Obviously, the other guy isn’t doing well and you can’t wait to “port” to your ex.
Sluttychic.
for a year now
Deletemy parent don't even know him cos i don't want to introduce him to my family when we are not ready to do the needful. I have been patient with him all this while and just thinking if i should stop waiting and settle with my ex.
Poster times have changed...The man you knew in Secondary school cannot be the same person...So you have to start all over again to date him and know him well...You cannot vouch for his character until you guys date....And why are you so quick to offload the guy that wants to see your parents this month? I know those butterflies are in your tummy, but Poster use your head, relax and think deeply and set your mind in reality....
DeleteAll the best
Absolutely...
DeleteWhy are u in a hurry to have him visit ur parents? If it’s not working out with this other person, why not move on from him and spend some time actually dating this old one from school and see if he’s still that sweet person u once knew
ReplyDeleteCheck this poster. Get to know your old sweet guy before you conclude if he's still the sweet guy you once knew
DeleteGive your ex a chance if he was all you wanted. But first go for medical screening for hep B and C, HIV and syphilis.
ReplyDeleteIt's very easy to string the current one along, after all he's a man. He has no worth. He is supposed to be a robot, no emotions. He's not even a human being.
DeleteYou're double dating. No you're not. You're a woman!
If the roles were reversed, there'll be endless adjectives qualifying you, what you're doing, and what you're trying to do. Do men really have worth beyond their material status? I fear for my two sons!
The contract (money) is the only important thing about the current man, not his character, never his humanity. This isn't cold, is it?
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DeleteOnly men double date O!
Her decision is good for the current man because any delay in the next contract will see her in the arms of the ex or bring pains for the man in the marriage.
You can give your ex a chance, but don't be in a hurry to introduce him to your parents so as to avoid parental pressure and influence on your relationship.
ReplyDeleteif your present boo is not doing well and you feel his promises are not real please free him and do not just give your ex chance yet. Once you end things with your guy, just give yourself some time to get enough space before you think of starting another relationship.
ReplyDeletePoster you are clearly not in love with your current boo that is waiting for contract.
ReplyDeleteAnd e go even shock you say you fit no love this Secondary school boo again. It has happened to me🤣🤣,not saying it will happen to you sha, but things do change and memories are just what they are. Try your luck sha. I wish you the best.
Sha no make mistake.
You are in a relationship with this guy already, why throw it away because of an ex? Does he not mean anything to you?
ReplyDeleteLet you ex come to your parents
ReplyDeleteIf you have a good mum that understands, explain your dilemma and say I want him to come to the house so we can all SEE him together
There’s nothing wrong in bringing more than one man home. Don’t wait till you have a final decision. If your parents are good people they can help you see things clearly . No need for hide and seek
Just fyi that contract might be real. Tell him to come as he is just to visit your parents not to do intro. Sharp parents will be able to see through him and let you know if he’s playing you
If he refuses to even come say hello to them you may have your answer
May don reach oh. If you wan marry this year, be sharp
This one that both of them seem ready to settle down immediately. What if she brings them home and in one month the other guy fixes date for marriage, won't the next guy feel used by her and her parents? And you know, not all men can take such kind of betrayal that involves parents lightly. Poster, don't rope your parents into this for now until you finally decide whom to settle with
DeleteI feel if you're really into this present guy, you wouldn't be considering your ex.
ReplyDeletePlease sit back and think what you really want through, so you don't end up regretting
A bird in hand is worth two in the bush.
ReplyDeleteposter you sound so confused. Why did you break up with the first one before??
ReplyDeleteThe one you are dating now, don't you trust him??
Both of them want to come and see your people, what for?!!
Has any proposed or asked you to marry him or you are just assuming!??
You didn't mention the one you love most or you are eager to get married .
She cant tell the one she loves most because she has not dated the new guy apart from their secondary school entanglement.
DeleteCold made decisions with self as prime beneficiary all time.
ReplyDeleteWhenever a typical woman talks about emotions and love being factored in decision making, she is not the decider and she knows she would lose if "love and emotions" are not considered by the decider.
They forget that men are human. She is excitedly ready to dump the current one seeking financial stability via a contract for the illusion of her mills & boon secondary school crush who may be a different person now. I’m a mom of both genders and I pray my adult children do not meet a user. Stop using others.
DeleteMarriage and money seems to be the only thing on the minds of many Naija girls. She may sleep with him even if she was married to this current one she apparently does not love. Selfishness and wickedness is not gender based.
I will advice you pray about the situation at hand, let God lead you, Prayer exposes everything that is hidden & gives you a confirmation to your decision. Let the Lord lead you Sis.
ReplyDeletePrayer is the key🗝️ . Pray and ask God to reveal who the one is
DeleteGod loves the current boyfriend too. I have both male and female and I fear for my sons who are well brought up, well educated with fantastic jobs that they don’t meet Machiavellian women like this and trained the ladies not to treat people as emotionless items. Many Nigerians are users.
DeleteYou are using the current one as a placeholder and would gladly sleep with your high school crush even if this one had married you! Not everything is prayer if your heart is not right with God and you are about using people. Gid is not a Nigerian messenger that you use to treat others as if they have no feelings. He cares that you are stringing the current one along. Btw I’m a married woman of 31 years and I love my husband and would never “use” people. Why are many naijas so selfish? You talk excitedly about a crush from your high school days without considering the emotional investment of the current guy who has no idea you don’t love him? No wonder many marriages crumble. Love is the first and best foundation of a marriage and this poster needs Christ first before marriage else she will be selfish in marriage or commit paternity fraud!
I once had an ex who was very sweet, beautiful, respectful, humble, and from a rich background; in fact, her father was a popular transporter back then in the east. We were madly in love with each other.
ReplyDeleteShe then relocated back to her base in the east. Even at that, we try to keep in touch with each other via post (letter); no mobile phones then, just the booth call, the one you get a call card from, and queue at the booth.
She made efforts to come to Lagos on some occasions just to see me; we were the talk of the town then.
She later got admission to the university, and gradually we lost communication for some years.
After a while, this lady just showed up at my door. To say I was overwhelmed was an understatement, because the love I had for her then just ignited, but I noticed something strange: her lifestyle changed totally; she became so wild; talks about her numerous escapades and travels to different states and countries with white guys; she now smokes and drinks to the extent that she would leave me at night to go clubbing till the next day.
" Na, so my eye open, OMO! this wan don turn OLOSHO oooo... In fact, the way I take break the relationship, and run "440" ehn...
Hmm... Youthful exuberance wanted to wound her. I know that she will latter regret her new lifestyle and by then it's too late . Had I known always come at last .
DeleteStory story everyday different people with different strokes those without ex then and now I salute you una ,no friend or foes that is the best
ReplyDeleteMen, I do hope Y'all can read this?? Note: women are only loyal to their feelings. Know this and know peace. This fellow can get preggy for her new found love and foist it on the sacrificial, lover-boy spouse. Carry out that DNA on your children today.
ReplyDeletePoster, please don't be desperate, just relax and watch the two guys; please do
ReplyDeletenot have sex with any. Take all your anxiety and fears to God in prayer. Be anxious for nothing through prayer and supplication make your request known unto God.
It's nice that you reconnected with your long time friend, we all need friends that knows us without any pressure.
ReplyDeleteHis presence is making you doubt the sincerity of your present relationship (contract that seems staged)... there's always that temptation to accept the available if the desirable is taking too long.
Question: do you really know your childhood sweetheart? People change, feelings need to be updated with current information.
Will you throw away your present relationship because this new one seems it can lead to marriage within days?
Beyond marriage, evaluate your true feelings for each one of them, maturity, character, values/life goals. Take some time (don't talk to either of them in 2 weeks), use the time to reflect, pray and then decide.
Sometimes the one we think is readily available/readymade may not be the best choice, likewise the one we hope for may need some prompting for them to come true.
Whatever your decision, please DO NOT STRING TWO MEN ALONG, it reflects badly on the one that does.
PCX
Nice one 👍 You are really an experienced woman
DeleteMake sure you are making a wise decision on who ever you want to settle.
ReplyDeleteGive this guy a chance. But don't take him to your parents till you're very sure
ReplyDeleteAsk your ex your ex bf if he have a baby mama in is life
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