OMG!!!!
The Chronicles shocked me today....OMG OMG...You say he did what?He confessed? OMG!
Are you slim and beautiful and you think cos she is fat and ugly,Boo aint looking?LOL
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WHAT HAS BEING FAT GOT TO DO WITH IT?
''Stella, good day There's this heart breaking burden in my heart. My husband and I have been married for 8 years, we dated for 3 years before tying the knots. I am a regular size 10, 5 feet 11 inches tall. I am light skinned, well read and well spoken. We have 2 boys and 1 girl. Throughout courtship, my husband was sweet and what he loved mist about me was my physique, his hatred for fat girls was not hidden, there was a time I grew to a size 12 and he was mad with complaints and I had to drop to a size 8 and I maintained that size till after childbirth, now, I am a size 10 but I still look like a size 8. I am sure you will be wondering why all the long story, I will get there.
My husband started behaving funny, will come home late, not touch me, and even when I try to seduce him, he will bark at me to close my yeye body. He will not eat at home yet I keep preparing his meals and throwing them away after they get spoilt. I was worried and decided to pray about it, i didn't get a fast respite do I decided to find out anyway i could. Luckily for me, an old school me who works in the same building as my husband came in handy, it was discovered my husband has been cheating on me, he picks the lady up to work everyday and drops her off, they travel together, spend quality time together and even attend FGBMF together. I decided to see the lady who's turning my husband's heart away from his wife and kids.
What did I see?
A chocolate skinned woman, about 5 feet 2 inches, size 18(if not 20)
A FAT WOMAN...... looks somewhat older than me sef.
I am shattered. I just don't know what to do. What could have gone wrong? What's the catch? I mean this man hates fat babes, my informant told me they are always cooing and giggling like teenagers. Could it be juju? I just tire. Should I confront him? Should I leave with my boys?somehow, i just need some explanations, at least I deserve to know why he stopped loving me, abi I should go and get fat too? If I do, would I also reduce my height? This man just wan turn me to crase woman, i can't even think straight. Stella, this life na wa o!!!''
*Subtle confrontation
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO.
SHOCKING BOO CONFESSION -''I USED TO BE GAY UNTIL I MET YOU,MARRY ME!''
''Hi Stella...am in shock right now..dunno what to think or do. I would
appreciate other blog visitors thoughts and advice. OK here goes: Am
26. Been dating this wonderful guy for about 6 months now..He's
wonderful in every sense.Just my exact kinda guy.everything i want in
a guy. i have secretly zeroed my mind that's its him I wanna end up
with( and been praying for him to propose).Over the weekend while we
were just gisting, he told me casually he wanted to spend the rest of
his life with me but that he had something he needed me to know about
him as he always wants to be totally honest with me. He said he was
gay before! As in had sexual relations with men in the past!. but that
was then, that now he's a changed man. He went on about how he has
decided to quit since meeting me. how I have given him a new meaning
to life and all of that(honestly at this point I wasn't even hearing
any oda thing he said.)I was in utter shock. Stella am totally anti
gay! .the thought sickens me. And now how can I go ahead and marry a
guy knowing he once was gay..the thought! Anyways I told him I needed
time to be myself and think, we haven't spoken since then. am just
confused. He's a good man and I love him.But to marry a former gay
man? what if the tendencies crop up in future? I just dunno what to do,
been drowned in my own thoughts...''
*ah gobe!..I dont know well enough about gay people to advise you on this.I dont know if he will go back kpenshing nyansh or not but if i was you......i would look for my running shoes.
Stellz u harsh wit ya advice atimes,hw wld u knw ur hubby aint bisexual,
ReplyDeleteYes Stella is harsh in her advice but she dishes it like it is.
DeleteGist2: check him for stds then wait a month without communication. If u still feel like waking up to him every morning for d rest of your life then forgive an d marry him.
Gist1: don't frigging put on weight because of any man..i repeat Don't. Dress for u. Live for u. Make yourself happy. Invest in your kids. U came into this world alone and you will damn well leave it alone so don't go crazy because of someone.
#Ehugs
N2: I seriously advise against it. Only God can help him change. I seriously advise you pray cos only God sees the end from the beginning. He may have changed to get you and would revert back once you enter d house. Ask God to reveal his true nature to you. This is such a visible signpost on the way to a life time commitment. Don't make a mistake. E-hug
DeleteBest advise ever
DeleteN1) I just read d chronicle of 'Ada Solomon'..the wife who learnt to live for herself,some may call it being under handed or sly but il call it surviving and that's what every woman who feels under appreciated,cheated on,lied to et al ought to do: LIVE FOR YOURSELF if living for your kids sounds too cliché. But oh,dont let him think for too long that he's smart,Confront him and hear him out. My sis-in-law says many women lack confrontational skills, the end point of every confrontation should be getting answers. So go ahead and ask him all these questions bothering you and keep quiet while he answers them. He might be unrepentant and lie about it but girl,you alone should be responsible for your happiness. (I remember the fruit salad joke..when he's had his fill,he shall return home to roost...and if he doesn't? oh well,life goes on). Just Be Happy!
DeleteN/B: why this epistle? This month a vibrant,wonderful young lady would be buried. Died of BP complications but we know the real story. Do not let any man born of a woman drive you to an early grave.
N2) Everyone comes with their own. Share of baggage,can you handle his? There's always a 50/50 % chance to everything (his relapse or total recovery) You alone would be waking up next to him so you should decide.
Stella, poster number 1 is lucky o, very lucky indeed. At least she had the time to find out do she can actually take action. My own case was not so lucky. My husband of 12 years who has been forming quiet quiet mumu mumu pastor all these years had been cheating. The way I even found out, if I wasn't strong, i would have died of shock.
DeleteMy friend's child was graduating from school so she invited me over for the speech and prize giving day. We live on the island, while this friend lives on the mainland, tge school is on the mainland. On the occasion, a particular child with the same surname as mine was called up to receive a prize, i was excited for the child as per surname sake, so I stood up to cheer the child, then the parents came forward to support their child, a woman with another baby and the man who turned out to be my husband. My world, I crase na, in fact I died Stella. I walked up to my husband like a zombie,waved and left. Till now, i still wonder why I didn't cause a scene there and then. Needless to say, I suffered HBO for months till I got a. Hold of my life. Did I leave the marriage? NO. What am I still doing there? I don't know but at least my kids and I are fine. I have buried myself in my work and generally acquiring properties without his knowledge cus I really truly do not care anymore. Men are evil
Omg@anonymous 4:15!
DeleteI still stand firmly on knowing what is happening around me woohaa!
If I know,i won't be hit like a hurricane!
Gosh lady!Sooo sorry! Smh in disbelieve! Umunwoke!
@anon 4:15, you are indeed a strong woman.
DeleteChoi! I would be numb for d first few mins and thereafter show d stuff am made of.
Henhen, two kids and he's even attending graduation ceremony?
Am sure ur friend knew but didn't know how to tell you.
Pele. Can just imagine wat u went through.
Men, Men, Men. Hmmmmn
Anon 4:15, you are a strong lady, Damn! Some men are really terrible and heartless.
DeleteGist 2: pray well about it. In other news, That's why peeps prefer not to tell others about their past and leave them to judge them on their present self. Cos at times d paparazzi it causes can be too much. What if he did not tell u?
DeleteOmg.
Delete@anon4:15pm....you are strong o...daum.. He was running 2 homes....haaa.may God help us all....sorry.... With all these inputs am beginning to think between the devil and the deep blue sea...it's better you know the guy is a cheat before marriage...than thinking you entered a monogamous marriage when you so polygamous....Han Han....even with a baby on her arms.....na how my eternity go be like naim concern me because this present world ain't certain....haaa....I go just faint o
DeleteI will sit back and read comments. Honestly I don't know what to say
DeletePlease where can I buy corset in onitsha or Asaba
Please help
Anon 4:15, u r truly strong. I almost cried reading ur story, men are indeed evil Kai! Pls continue to stay strong. All these stories I read here scares hell outta me, I dnt pray for such to happen to me. God Pls help women!
DeleteOh my Jesu Christi! Say wat @anon 415?? Chai women haf suffer!
DeleteMy dear, ur story/case is really pathetic, buh I ain't worried cos U gat ur (own) medicine (in a gud way), n dat med is being U, minding ur own business, spoiling ur self n d kids silly n while @ it, don't forget not to starve him ok. Yes. Let him eat n f*ck off . Adulterous pastor *rme*
Anon 4:15.....if there's anyword that is better than "strong" ,,i'll use it to describe you. You really tried.....kai,,some men are really terrible.....imagine a man having a wife and KIDS(not one ooo) and d wife never knew,,chai,,that man can kill. I am just glad u were able to put urself together and move on,,that's d spirit dear. May God be with u.....*e-hugs.
DeleteAnd to think the man is a pastor.....hmmmm. That is why we see that when most of these MOGs die,,so many scandals spring up and people begin to wonder how and why a "father in the Lord" could do such.
DeleteAnon 4:15- madam take heart!!
Deletemy mum's friend found out her loving husband had another home in Warri, while she was in Lagos.
Two homes, two women. My mums friend had five kids, while the other woman had three. Neither of them suspected oga had another family. He was shuttling btwn Lagos and Warri on 'business' trips.
Until that fateful day when my mums friend went to surprise her husband on his birthday. Bumped into his warri address somehow. She got to the house and saw a full family. The shock was record breaking. To think the other womans first son was older than hers. Meaning that was the heir.
Hmmm.... Immediately warri based woman of a wife found out, she entered jazz. (I am not insulting waffi ppl pls, just narrating a story). The once caring man became a beast. Abandoned his family and his 3 daughters in University.
Took his son from the first wife and even gave him jazz to come and kill his mother, on his return trip home. God so good, it didn't work.
The woman in question don turn prayer warrior, till now she's a pastor. She saw evil. Her brother inlaw who is a pastor kicked her down the stairs when she went to table the matter to him.
I advice u report him to the church authorities, and clean your hands from Gods judgment. He had no rights to lead in the house of God. Perhaps your friend knew and was trying to tell you....
Dear Poster 1- Please dont alter your looks because of him. He's not the owner of your life.
honestly,,l wish my hubby was gay,,,wont feel hurt if l kno he is cheating wiv a guy dan a woman like me,,l swear poster 1: story of our life,,dnt get cos of d moda fucker,,,b happy for u,,,cant unstand men,,,cant advice u cos my hubby too fucks outside reason l dnt kno,,,av decided to b happy for me,,l dnt complain again,,infact l act like d side chic he comes to b pampered,,,,just pray and b happy
ReplyDeletePoster 1:
DeleteMen are unpredictable..I don't think its juju..try and catch them red handed cos he must deny the affair...
Then sit him down and know where you have gone wrong...men sef smh..
Poster 2,there is something about gay people that I love...heheheheh...
I don't think he would go back to being gay since he has confessed to you..marry him joor..
@anon 1:14 don't wish ur hubby to be gay oh cos he might be worse than he is now.
DeletePls dont pray 4 any cos u will still complain that he is cheating on u,non is preferable!! POTABLE VIV
DeleteEiyaaa...sorry dear...this life na wa o
DeleteNawah! Cheating is d order of d day in 2day's marriages...
Delete*lips sealed and watching*
@madam Linda Eze, so the woman is always to be blamed. She shld ask where she has gone wrong? Dumb advice.
DeleteI found out my husband was gay 1yr after marriage , I got married as a virgin, in fact my husband is the chairman of the gay and bisexual association abroad even though he is originally from Africa, now he has infected me with STD, my dear dont pray to marry a gay man or worse still a downlow cos my husband lied and didn't tell me even when I asked him because my spirit was not ok with his inclination to guys he still lied and made an issue out of it now I'm heart broken because this has been his lifestyle for more than 10yrs, I don't know what to do, as for the 2nd poster better run for your life cos he can't and will never change except he goes for serious deliverance, it's very addictive as he said, when I caught my husband he confessed that sleeping with a guy is the same thing as sleeping with a woman and that he has unprotected sex with the guys, more of threesomes, machoism, sleeping with two guys at the same time or sometimes two guys in a girl or his regular male lover etc ewwww I'm homophobic and unlike you my husband didn't give me a chance to chose if I wanted to marry a man who sleeps with men. He lied to me and deceived me.I no longer feel anything for him cos I see he is more comfortable talking with men and relating with men till date even though he said he has stopped, when ever a cute guy pass instead of me to be the one checking out the guy instead my husband will be the one and will be staring at his yansh or his abs kaii I get so embarrassed and also he gets all emotional over guys even though he has no particular best friend, he actually goes to gay porn sites and gives them our house address and they come when ever I am not around or travelled and if I am around he will pay for hotel or take the guys out and then come home to tell me no money for my upkeep, I don tire I keep asking God is this the reward I get for keeping myself till marriage.Thank God he was honest with you.i had to find out about my husband the hard way now I wish I can turn back the hands of time.
Delete..n just when I tot I'd heard n read it all. .....???? @ 736 . * confused much*
DeleteSo wat in dis world r u still doing wit dat man? How long r u gonn' put up wit his lying-unrepentant-gay-ish- std infected a*shole ? Hissss!
(((O__O))))Hian!!!!!
DeleteAnon 7:36pm.
What did I just read?
Seriously you really do need an advice more these posters,cos yours is a combination of both.
Jeeeez!!!!
So what re your intentions now you've found out who your horse-band is?
You wanna stay put in that silly thing you call marriage?
God forbid!!
You better start using ur tongue to count your teeth and do the needful...
Abasi-akan!
And what are you still doing in the so called marriage? Is there anything you're not telling us?
DeleteI am so sorry ma'am @Anon 7:36.
DeleteI don't even know what to say...,
Anon 7:36pm this is a sad story. I almost teared up reading it. How come u are still with him even after finding out he is on the DL? Women, we rly go through a lot. The Lord is ur strength.
Delete@ Poster 2
Be careful bcos he might be lulling u into a false sense of security and marrying u to cover face so that he will not tell u in the future that "after all u knew I was gay and u still married me" ish! Pray for him tho whether u marry him or not.
@7:36 you are so disgusting for still referring to such a man as your husband. What a life, Kikelomo.
DeleteAnd the chronicles keeps getting more exciting..... Jst when u think you've seen, read or heard it all..... Life na wa
ReplyDeleteAs in I am shocked to the marrow. Stella blog on marriage mata Don poison my Heart
DeleteDon't be scared sweetheart, instead let the stories here motivate you to look prayerfully and carefully before you decide whom you want to get married to. Don't ignore red flags, never settle for less hoping he'll change (honey, he may even get worse) . Don't rush in because your friends are getting married or because of family pressure. Above all, marriage is hardwork, patience, forgiveness and maturity. Don't use other people's marriages as a yardstick for yours because a lot of people marry with the wrong mindset. Put in your best and leave the rest for God. Marriage is like a two-edged sword, it can be blissful or dreadful, it depends on how you wield it.
DeleteMy dear..Hmmm.
DeleteWhat is it by the time? *checks time* 10:03pm, my neighbour who's marriage is just 5months is still in the kitchen. I over heard her crying the other day how her back hurts, how she's been the one paying all the bills including rent etc.
Tomorrow these set of people go dey make shakara for single ladies for public, cos say dem wear ring for left finger, not knowing after the public show off, when dem enter house na pain...
Life!!!
Make una forgive my errors joor..
@ poster number why not go and get a weight on bottle since your husband is guess of your skinny ass. Thank God for my 48inches add because with it my man ain't going no where. Some anaconda don't want non unless you get buns on.. ..in Nicky minajs voice.
ReplyDeleteThere's a book called brighter grammar oo madam 48inches.
DeleteOdiegwu!!..be deceiving your self with your yokozuna body..
DeleteLol @curvy
DeleteSay whaaaaat! Anon 01:16 iyaff kill me wt laff, where u cuming while typing ds... #dictionary needed asap#
DeleteBrighter grammer is too big, get the alphabet song and next time u want 2 write 'okpas', provide an 'okpas' decoder
DeleteAnon 1:16 Pls go back 2 school....couldn't understand a single tin frm what u wrote!! #olodo# POTABLE VIV
DeleteHaaahaaahaaa!! @ cuvy Z0 you are a clown walahai!! Some people self, mis yarning @ times. @poster 1 I would suggest you confront your hubby with that his gf and watch his reaction, meanwhile keep being happy and don't Ever think of adding weight for your hubby. And God so kind you are gainfully employed so keep looking gOod joor. Poster 2, mmmmmmmm! I'm so sorry for you on this discovery, aaaaaaah! Honestly I'm so speechless, but may God really help you to make the RIGHT decision @ the end of the day. Gooodluck shaa.
DeleteLol @ brighter grammar
DeleteI meant her husband is tired of her skinny ass. Team size 16 medium!
DeleteAnon 1:16 what are you writing?
DeletePlease write in English or beta still pigin.
I never knew English was a difficult language. No be only buns, na egg-roll
Delete@ N2.
ReplyDeleteSpeaking from experience, I used to b a les. But since I met my husband, things totally changed (13 years ago).
Since he was able to confide in you, I doubt he will return to his old ways.
Don't worry my husband is homophobic as well but I told him the truth while we were dating.
If he says he has changed, I believe he has. Then pls n pls don't ever bring it up or act like u don't trust him o.
Guess yours was just an experiment tin but i bet you if you see a chic that can make you swing back, you will.
DeleteSo stop decieving yourself.
Ur hubby tried o, as 4 me, I won't marry someborri dt was once a lez o
Delete#My opinion
Eesah baba I sight you.
Delete#i miss you man. #OneLuv
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Stellinbong Hahahhahahahahahaha the 1sst story is hilarious, men are so amazing,watch it any guy that says o I don't like this and that,its what they like.they know how to lie to their wives and. Deceive them. I know of one man. In my church his wife is my friend.the man always tells his wife how he hates very black girls and one particular sister in my church saying she's this and that but guess what? This man was screwing this day .she was his babe. I know the joint where they go to almost every weekends. I pity the wife Becos no be my mouth dem go hear say fowl de do abortion,especially say na my church people.abeg oooo. The wife once made a statement ' anybody my husband says he doesn't like I suspect' Hehehhehehhe. Abeg oooo ladies in the house MEN ARE FUNNY don't kill yourself pleasing them. Oooo please yourself first before pleasing any body
ReplyDeleteMen re very funny indeed! That's hw my hubby was fucking one girl in his office n he will come home gisting me about how the girl is disturbing him in his office. Na so one day only him open mouth tell me say he has been having an affair with the girl but his mind is disturbing him cos I ve been very gd to him n doesn't deserve cheating , that nw he want to leave but the girl, but the girl is putting pressure on him that pls I shld come n help him. My dear b4 nw I can swear that he has never cheated on me b4 cos I ve password to everything he has that is passworded,he even leaves his fones with me. My dear just leave men biko them no get spec abeg.
DeleteHaAhah I dated a guy who said he hates virgins. I promptly left him but in fact he told friends he would only marry a virgin. So he just wanted to f...K and I escaped. I can't forget the disdainful look on his face when he said fornication is an archiac word. Na them full church dey raise hand as if highly carried in the holy ghost.
DeleteGbam!
DeleteLadies please look good for yourself not because of a man. Because a man that will stray will.
N1 don't put on weight because of him.
I wish you all the best in your decision making.
N2, I'm as shocked as you. Gays disgust me. Pele dear.
Hmmm
DeleteAnother story about marriage.....
*sigh*
Men are like that, my husband said my maid smells like she goat, always telling me to tell my maid to go and take her bath, not knowing I was preparing her to be fucked, I was serious mumu, I trusted d 16yrs old maid with my life, becos I brought her from d village when she was 12yrs, I told my maid every thing in my life, I loved her with my life, she was d one dat carried my two children, my husband started fuckin her when she was 15yrs, my pple dis girl did not tell. Dis na man way get long and fat prick, even I d wife dey tire to fuck atimes, u know men, when something is free dey misuse it, he was fucking d maid like every other day, she got tired and fed up and confessed. Aunty, I don tire, brother don turn me to sex machine. I went crazy. To cut d long story short, my husband went for 20 stitches. He is like d mu mumu in d house. I hate him with passion. Now he is trying to make d marriage work, I will soon leave his sorry ass.
DeleteIt is well!! Poster 1 : you don't need to get fat or anything, your husband isn't under any kind of juju,na craze they worry am..There must be something he finds attractive in the lady, either her zeal, or she's warm, career lady, something sha!
ReplyDeleteN2 : 6mths isn't too long or short to move on, please move on. Not wen u start having male kids now he go begin chuk them.
=))º°˚˚˚°ÂºÐ½aĦaнaº°˚˚˚°Âº=)). @ na craze dey worry am. No be small craze oh
DeleteHaba..... Ada onyema being gay does not mean he is a pedophile ..chai... senator yerima is straight and a pedophile ...so who u prefer to marry .....person wey tell u say e be dey do guys or person wey fit divorce u marry your daughter
DeleteMost of them tend to abuse kids especially their own kids. A customer told me of her hubby who abuse her boys, she caught him several time with either of their sons in bed. He is gay and doesn't sleep with her anymore, I asked her what she is still doing in that house, she said she doesn't know what to do or where to go. I told her to start with police station, under bridge anywhere just get those kids out of the house, because if she doesn't they will hate her for not protecting them against this monster of a dad. I've not seen her in a while now, I wish we have social service in Nigeria I would have reported them myself, those kids stand a better chance in a foster home than with their parents.
DeleteBv2:i used to know one dat got marrry till he left hs wife of 5yrs and went back to hs old ways....my 2cent kip an open mind and pray to God.....
ReplyDelete#ok#okbye
As for the gay couple,careful because you might get infected. He might start having Anal sex with you since that's what he enjoys most. No go make your yansh tear ooooooo it's dangerous and not healthy I think.Be very careful
ReplyDeleteToday's chronicle is da ish...
ReplyDelete1] Madam i feel really sorry for u now, men don't appreciate good things, they will neva appreciate wat they hav until they lose it. From wat u wrote u clearly live for ur husband nd u love him, so why he would cheat on u is beyond me. But what I can tell u is to talk wit him about wat u found out nd pray ova it, cos running is not always the answer. ..its painful nd disgusting to think about but u will get ova it in time, just hang on nd have faith!!
2] Babes ur own case is equally hard , I won't even claim to know wat ur going through ryt now but all I can tell u to pray hard ova it, go see ur counselor nd discuss ur feelings with him, tell him how u feel let him advise u cos dis is not an easy decision to make. He myt hav truly changed or not but if u really find him nd wat he did dat appalling den I think u should end it nd move on...remember its a lifetime commitment. So think hard!!
Hahahahah@ N1 guys re confused being
ReplyDelete@N2.. sis if u love him marry him, d fact that he confessed it to u says it all
He laaaaavs u homey
Poster one,you wanna leave with your boys? What about the girl? Confront your husband with what you know.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha that second question tho. She probably activated some embellishment tactics and forgot.
DeleteThanks for this wide eyed! Whenever I spot an inconsistency in a story, I lose interest. This ain't no slip of finger!
DeleteN1: do take some time out so u can think clearly about this. Put sentiments aside and decide if u can cope with any fallouts in future. Only u can decide what to do.
She is scared of the man.. Plugging them....both narrators please take it to God in prayers
DeleteSo Nki, madam perfect detective, you believe the story is a lie now? There must be a reason why the poster wrote just the boys. When my husband and I started having issues in our marriage, he always told me I could leave with only the last child cus the one was still under 3 years old, he says I can never leave with the aolder ones who were still under 10 years o,i kept holding on cus of the kids till I could take it no more, I left with my last child and only began fighting for custody later.
DeleteThings happen o, if you are not wearing the shoes, please do not criticise. Then again, it could even actually be the slip of fingers you are disputing. Don't be too quick to judgement.
Poster No 1, ask him, if he doesn't change, you can't kill yourself, please Move on abeg, sometimes, a man has no reason to cheat other than variety,which to me is stupidity. Most times, it actually is no fault of a wife that the husband decided to stray, yeye man na yeye man anyday.
Poster 2: Gay na blood e dey o, the man may still go back to his old ways after tearing your yansh apart. Love conquers all though, so you could stay, your love might win him forever and ever. Good luck
@ Widey: you're very observant, I was wondering why she wrote "leave with my boys" rather than "leave with my children" since she stated that she has 2 boys and a girl. Maybe she's too traumatised from the whole saga. It's ok to dress in a particular way to please your hubby but once it gets into the realms of the extreme like, drastic weight loss or weight gain, changing skin complexion, going under the knife to nip and tuck or add implants, that decision should be solely yours. Yours because, you want the change for you and not to please any man, nobody is worth that stress. Imagine going through all the painful procedures only for your hubby to wakeup 3years later, wanting a whole different look?
Delete@Ronalda..how u doing dear? I read your piece on Et-cetera and women wearing body magic..quite interesting,i liked the angle you took it from...cheers!
Delete@ Iphie : thanks my luv, I hope you're enjoying the holidays. #e-bearhugs
Delete@madam rhoda where in my write up did I say the story was a lie?
DeleteRead again. I said I lose interest.
Certain kinds of mistakes are understandable when one is in distress, but I do not believe a woman would ever forget the gender make-up of her offspring, except in a case of physical trauma leading to memory loss, or mental imbalance. There is no obvious evidence of these judging from the post.
I am no detective but that single inconsistency tells me she's not presenting the whole picture, there4 I choose not to bother with my time.
Besides, there is a difference between ur experience and hers. In ur case ur husband told u which child u could take. In her case she hasn't even confronted him with what she knows so why talk about leaving with only her sons when logically it's the daughter she should be more concerned about if the situation should ever arise where she has to choose who to take.
Hope u understand my point now.
Num 2
ReplyDeleteI was actually hoping to see that he realised it was not right and quit long before he met you..instead he says he quit because of you? But you are not God naaww..
This man should not be in a relationship right now..people come out of opposite sex rships and give themselves time to heal..this guy made a major sex swing/preference and he is READY?????it has to be a decision between him and his God not you...hunaay, you cannot change a man..a full grown man,trust me...especially not this early...I think you should date/court this dude for now...
I am taking my time to make you understand this because some habits..deep rooted habits cannot just vanish over night because he "fell in love"..i don't want you to wake up tomorrow and hear that he met this special man that made him decide to go back to his old ways!
Just focus on courting and praying..getting to know him better...put your antennas down and observe him,study him..get to know his family...take him to church or mosque..whichever! please don't think marriage for now....thank you!
Word @Iphie, some deep rooted habits don't jes disappear overnyt. He might even decide 2 start gbenshing her nyansh tomorrow sef
Delete*lips sealed and watching*
Well said @Iphie.
DeleteGbeshing.....that slang looks familiar....from Edo state LCIHS AND PNHS
DeleteYes so habit don't just leave like dat, my hubby is fond of watching pornographic movies like mad, when he is not in d office, Na blue film, in d room, in d toilet, he has so many on his phone, I come tire, when he watches d film, na so him go dey drag hus prick, @times d dragging of d prick wakes me up @ nite. I have sat him down to talk about, and he promise to change, almost 4yrs no changes, I don't think I can fuck everyday, so I don leave am make him pull his penis skin out, dat one concern am. I no go kill myself, so u can never change a man unless he wants to change.
Deletekpenshing nyansh
ReplyDeletePoster 1: you sure your hubby truly despise fat women? or tricks he played on you to distract you from noticing his fantasies/escapades with such.
ReplyDeleteI think you need to address this issue maturedly.
find out the lady's full name and other details .... then...
call him calmly and ask..who is 'Adanma Halimat Adeoye' to you?
Once you throw the full names to him, he becomes confused..and will most likely confess the truth to you...why? ...cos he doesn't know how much you know.
men sef! what do they really want? you fat wahala, you slim, nsogbu, u wear corset- story, u leave ur sef anyhow..the worst.
it is well with woman and the choices they make to please men.
Poster 2: I don't know if to advice you to go ahead or not. I am confused as you are,
@Bloglord...seconded!
DeleteBuahahahahahhahahhaa...fowl de do abortion?
ReplyDeletecraze full ds blog o! una no go kill person.
buahahhahahahahhahaa...hilarious!
kpenshing nyansh
ReplyDeleteLol. No talk am again abeg
DeletePoster number 1 ,confront your husband. ,tell him like you have been the spy yourself ,stand up to him and tell him to clear his mess or else you will clear it for him ,leave where with your boys ,don't even try it ,don't even try adding weight ,God punish satan .confont the son of a gun ,tell him you know everything how he picks and drops her off ,poster 2 ,Abeg stick with your man ,if he had. Hide the story from you and you hear it after marriage what will you do ,after una go say una dey go church yet quick to condem.if he goes back na your Anya dem wan gbench
ReplyDeleteBN1; its only God dat will help d woman race, we can't really satisfy a man. Dia lives revolves arnd exploration. Today its lepa dey want, tmoro its orobo. Can't men just stick t one woman n b satisfied? I just tire cos I can't stand a cheat. Wt stories I read on ds blog, I dnt think der r stil faithful men out der n its breaks my heart. BV pls just kip loving d size 10 u r are, take good care of ursef n kip going t God in prayer; Ur hubby wil com arnd soon. No need t confront him f now u wud end up hurting ursef d mor cos he might nt even knw wot he's doing. "Efo" is probably @ work.
ReplyDeleteHow abt I don't think there are faithful women out there either? (U inclusive).
DeleteU keep thinking dz way and u gon end up with the worst amongst men!
#1# pls don't get fat,i dont tink he was attracted 2 her due 2 her fatness...just confront him in a subtle manner n also pray 4 him cos juju might also b involved who knows.#2# think abt it very well oh cos if am in ur shoes I won't marry him cos 4 me,once a gay is always a gay.....the feelings might still crop up in future n definitely he is gonna cheat on u wit a follow guy in future!! POTABLE VIV
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ReplyDeleteWell nothing really surprises me these days..with what I read here daily,i am not entirely shocked!
Frankly speaking,i have a feeling that if you confront that man,he will turn on you,he might even hit you...he does not care anymore...people see them giggling and cooing..that means he does not even care if you catch him! he rejects food boldly? Cannot even bring himself to touch you? Put on your praying armour girrrrllll!
Before you speak to your husband,please embark on a 7days fasting and praying...midnight prayer in particular..please don't let anyone,even your kids distract you cos this is war! shebi you want to save your home from her evil grasp? Once your done,with enough praise and worship..you can visit the blessed sacrament if you are catholic.
Depending on the kind of family he has,you might need to invite them(that is,if they will not come and mock you or rejoice in your woes)....invite your parents....table the matter. i am advising you to invite 3rd parties because sister this is strange..it is not a one night stand or fling...it is deeper than that...I pray and have faith that her strong holds will fall off and his eyes will clear...you are definitely an observant woman! This is why it is imperative to put your ears down so you nip things at the bud when they spring up,if not one day your things might be thrown out before you make your own move!
Your family need to ask your horseband if he wants you and your kids out of his life..you can't continue like this now..but am hoping it won't get to that..am having faith that your prayers would have gone ahead to right all wrongs..please sit up,put money together and be extremely watchful! God be with you..we look forward to hearing your testimony...
And for this woman ruining your home I say holyghostttttttt!!!!!!
Faya ya ya ya ya (50x)
DeleteThis is WAR!!!
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FIRE!!! (seconded) na wetin nau??!!! Shuuu... Fat woman again.
DeleteHian! God I will stop boasting about my slim body. I shall continually ask for your Grace. Amen
The funny part of this cheating saga is the men that cheat if u see d girls they cheat wit, there wives re far more beta but dey wudnt stop. N1 try n ve a hrt to hrt talk wit him, choose a tym he is in a very good mood pure out ur hrt, if u wanna cry do so. Am sure it wud touch him n also remember him in ur prayers.
ReplyDeleteN2 my dear if think since he said he has changed he has, no one is perfect, am sure u wud ve given him d kind of love dt he hasn't seen in any man, dts y he has decided to change, pls dnt leave him so he doesn't go bk to his former habit n draw him very close to God.
@N2---4all u knw,he cld b testing ur luv 4him,if it will wither all storms buh den again u should b happy he told,what if u guyz went ahead n got married n den he never said a word,my dear u wouldn't hav had an inkling...2tell u d truth i feel he truely n deeply luvs u 2confide in u wv such a secret...Ps-ur anti gay!!!,d last i checked,dey r humans jst like u n b4 u say jack,im no gay buh den i bliv evry1 has a right 2dia sexual preference;2either luv d opposite sex or same sex or even remain single sef
ReplyDeletePoster #1, thats the story of our lives.Now this cheating event is an eye opener, that its time to face your God and your kids, you hear?? This is why women should not live their lives according to a man's taste or preference, just do you! Now do not confront your husband,let sleeping dogs lie, its good that the love making is non existent, so STDs and other rubbish would not be your portion.As long as you've been a faithful wife, take this matter up with God and let him fight for you.
ReplyDeletePoster#2, if you were a prostitute or had bouts of lesbian sex because you were single and wanted to experiment with things would you want the man you love to forgive you and look past it? Im sure it would be yes! My problem here is ask him if he has had any sort of emotional connection with any of his partners or it was just sex, ask him what he enjoyed and what thrill he got, confirm that it was just a phase in his life and he has no intrinsic desire to revert back to his former lifestyle when the chips are down in your marriage or when he sees a hot dude passing by.
IMO, this guy truly loves you, for him to open up to you and tell you the worst secret you can tell an Average African.He doesn't want any issue lingering when you guys tie the knot.He wants to start fresh.Just try and confirm that he is with you because he loves you (which i think) and he isn't trying to run away from his homosexual compulsion.
Where is my sweet heart bitchplis( in serious tears ATM).
Best reply for story 2. A Lot of people are bi curious, even the so called holier-than-thou church goers, some people just don't act on it. Some for fear, some for lack of opportunity because Nigeria isn't a place where you can advertise being gay, bisexual or bi-curious. She should ask questions and be absolutely sure that the guy isn't gay anymore and if she's convinced he's everything she wants in a man, she should marry him. What's d assurance that if she leaves him, d next guy isn't someone who's been a male, gay prostitute?. This life is too short abeg, we should be with people that make us happy, not judging them based on their pasts. As long as I won't have sex with another girl, I won't judge someone else for it and if they say the phase is over, then its over
DeleteTrue @oyeen. You have a point oh
DeleteI'm lost for words.
ReplyDeletePoster 1:thats d thing abt some men,dey just want fruit salad'!it might not be juju,he is just trying out the feel of a fat woman plus she's probably has a personality trait dat is charming to him:dats how it started!so don't go loosing ur nyc body shape cos of his unfaithfulness o!time him so u can catch him redhanded,dont create a scene,go back home,even when he comes home give him d silent treatment for days,of course no sex!depending on his reaction afterwards:if he's sorry and wants to make it up,forgive him and beg him to pls desist from such in honour of ur matrimonial vows.but if he's not even remorseful,u sit him down and warn him,let him know he's only destroying d family with this attitude,its only a matter of time!in all dis,no shouting and name calling pls!cos at dis point he's actually looking for what to use against u,so he can divert attention from the matter at hand!(dats men's trick).most of all pray for wisdom and grace to be a good wife to him,its not easy walahi!but it shall be well with u,#hugs#
ReplyDeletePoster 2:u should be honoured he could confide in u,means he loves and trusts u to watch his back!some pple will change o,but dats a secret dat will go down d grave with them!Stella,u wey wan buy running shoes,didnt d Lord Jesus say;he without sin cast d first stone'?don't scare the lady joor!accept him and always pray for him dat dose demons to leave him totally,and remind him to stay away from friends and activities dat can lure him back to that lifestyle.#best of luck
I love ur advice... So peaceful and soothing.
DeleteN1: see, don't add weight. Cos he would still leave if he wants to. Even as a married person, you would keep on getting attracted to other people, but you don't act on that attraction which is saying 'NO' to cheating. Fight for you marriage.. dont fight your man. Even if it's juju or not, I want you to pray with this verse prov5:18-29. Prophesy with it. Put your husband's name. Don't get discouraged wen it does not seem to be working g immediately. Do not be discouraged.. God is on your side. Physical alteration won't keep him for long. Only God can. And den loose him. You can talk to him about it, but do not, do not attack him. He would become defensive. God never fails.show him live and pamper him. Do your part and watch God do his part. Okay?
ReplyDeleteI have never been Attracted to any man since I got married, just saying.
DeleteMaybe I need to explain that word attracted. In this instance, I mean when u spend time with someone else, over time, u become fond of him/her. Buy you don't fire up that fondness, you flee so it does not develop into feelings. Okay? That's what I mean
DeletePoster 1, take heart, pele. Men hardly reject food, they are always hungry, may be u shd check urself though that does not justify his act. I have a feeling he is not having sex with her, may be he just loves her company. Get busy woman, he will be the one requesting for your attention when he sees u are strong and he does not validate you. Wharever you do pls do not confront the other woman. Confront ur hubby instead.p
ReplyDeletePlease does anyone know about the grail movement,how do they worship.Plz I need answer bcos am dating this guy and we planned on getting married but am a Christian and he is into the Grail movement so my family is against the marrIage.Pls I need reply.Thanks
ReplyDeleteYour husband to be is a cultist #fact
DeleteWhat has light got to do with darkness?
Hmmm. My dear. It's like a cult, in same boat with Amorc, Rosicrucian order. U better run far away if u r truly a Christian. I beg you. Talking from experience.
Delete@Anon 2.12pm...pls read 2Cor 6:14-18, 1st Thes 5:21,Gal 1:9.
DeleteGoogle them now. There are books you can read like grail message or you could accompany him to some of there meetings.
DeleteYou are asking us instead of u to ask the man. He can enlighten u on his religion n u can even go wt him to worship so u see for urself first hand.
DeleteReligion of Light n the truth.
DeleteNo go dia ooooo.
Grail movement ke? That's a cult please, just like Hare Krishna. If you value your sanity, run!
DeleteAsking him is d worst thing to do,cos he will only tell her d good part of d sect,infact before dat conversation is over,shes already convinced and initiated!
DeleteGrail message are a satanic sect dat claim they are worshipping God thru some ancient books'(written by who?i no know), light,sound,and some oda elemental forces.they believe in reincarnation,astral projection,visitations from d dead and a lot more creepy doctrines!btw they and eckankar are first cousins!#i rest my case and leave u to take a decision##bye#
That was how my boyfriend of six years who was even brought up in deeper life suddenly decided to join the grail movement in the name of "seeking understanding". Hian.. nobody even needed to tell me to start marching in the opposite direction sef. Sometimes too much book dey do more harm than good ni.
DeleteLol! the last line of your comments really cracked me up! I'm glad you were strong enough to leave when you did. Most ladies would have considered the 6years and stayed put, forgetting that is better to sacrifice 6years of dating the wrong person than to be trapped and and miserable for a lifetime.
DeleteSweety...RUN AWAY!!! RUN AS FAST AS yOUr legs can carry you...Dnt enta n strt sendn narratives 2 Stella later. LIGHT n DARKNESS has no bizness togeda. Dey dnt blive in d holy trinity simple. CULTISTS r wot dey r.
DeleteThe grail message is not a cult but a sect like Christianity is. They are called cross bearers when you have read their books to an extent. They do not believe that Christ died for our sins,but rather that man will chart he's / her course in life. Don't try reading their books if you are not grounded in the word of God as you just might get confused about your spirituality. They actually have answers to a lot of life's questions which I however consider as human wisdom,which the bible describes as foolishness. Think we'll and make up your mind. I know for a fact that cross bearers do not force anyone to join them, so you can be married to one and remain where you are.
DeleteWetin pesin no go hear. It's diff strokes for different folks. No.1it seems ur hubby is a confusionist and doesn't know what he wants. Take him to a spiritualist for deliverance.
ReplyDeleteNo.2 urs is a case of a leopard never changing it's skin, if u guys end up together, he wud cheat on you with another guy and not a woman. Yuck!
Hummm story dat touch. ...
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Ignore him and just do you. Make yourself happy however way you can. Stay looking beautiful. Save your money and get your finances in order. If at the end of the day he does not stop his cheating ways, walk away with your kids, dignity and money in your account.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: RUN, RUN, RUN faster than your 2 legs can carry you and don't look back. He will always desire men.
1: Are you a learner? Leave with your boys because of a fat woman? To where? You are coming here to narrate story, you have not even confronted your husband. When will women understand that men don't have formula? Confront the 2 of them together and report him to a respected family member.
ReplyDelete2- So he said because of you, his gay urges have stopped after several years? And you believe him? Go with your heart but personally, I won't go ahead with such.
He should have gone to his grave with that his dirty secret and I just wonder why he told you.
Poster one pls get a job, keep busy, dress well, hang out with girl friends and make yourself happy. Don't let him get to you he doesn't matter. When he is tired he will come home. You can confront him but not when you are angry just let him know that you knew simple.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 if you can live your life looking behind your shoulder all the time carry go, because I tell you when the honey moon faze is over, any change in his behaviour you would think he's gone back to his old ways.
Not every time a guy confesses that he loves you, sometimes, it's a reverse psychology thing to get you deceived.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: sit ur hubby down n have a chat with him. Tell himm wat u know about him. Make him understand how his actions r hurting u. I believe u know ur hubby's weak point, use that to ur advantage. Also pray before u chat wit him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: i honestly don't know wat to say about ur issue. Just pray about it n follow ur heart.
Poster 1, adding weight should be your least option. Chances are you are too focused on what you look like that yo forgot what he needs...If he giggles and all smiley with his mistress, could dt be what he is missing at home? leaving him with your boys will not solve the issue, and you can't keep leaving when things don't go well. Talk to him and find out what went wrong and focus on making hings right. Change is constant, we all change, so do you and so is our preference. At this point he is pro'lly looking beyond looks. I pray God grants you all the wisdom you need.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...Think very well about it(he might go back to his old ways) maybe, maybe not. If things change can u deal with it. Think and you'll have the answer.
Dear men,what do your really want?
ReplyDeletePoster 2 please look before you leap asin look very deeply and weigh the options to aviod stories that touch...
*Sweetness*
#1 pls confront ur hubby,talk it over with him n find out why he suddenly developed strong affection in orobo ince he hates them with passion b4s,maybe na juju d lady take hold am lol,God ll see u thru.#2 my dear there's every possibility dat ur guy has changed. Gud,on the other hand there' also posibility that he ll go bck in d near future,so d decision is urs,jst ask God 2 direct u on wot 2 do cos when d going becums wt u ll be d one 2 enjoy it n when it gets sour ,u r still d one to bear d emotional trauma,so think well b4 u enter Ooo弡 . .
ReplyDelete@poster 2, pls move on with your life. A pig is a pig, he must surely go back to his old ways and by then u'll come back here to tell us stories that touch the punani. Biko borrow tyre join ur legs and flee.
ReplyDeleteBV2- once a gay always a gay.
ReplyDeletePls dont venture into the marriage cos he can easily swing back
BV1- you should get used to the fact now that most men are cheats and your husband isn't an exception. I will adv you to stay in the marriage but have a sugar son that will make you feel good or leave the marriage with your kids if you can.
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LOl @have a sugar son that will make u feel good
Delete@Linda I guess that's why u re laughing cos @CP borrowed ur usual slangs... Lol
Aunty StellZ, I'm too ashamed to email you my story but I really do hope you publish it. When I was younger, like age 10, my uncle's wife and their kids came to spend their vacation with us... Two boys, one was 4 and the other ws a little over a year. I was always babysitting d younger one, cause his mum and my mum were always out. So sometimes when he poops and I clean him up, I'm always curious about his penis so I rub it until it becomes erect... Then I beat him for having an erection. Sometimes I kiss him and let him touch my breasts... It never went past that. At d end of it all I still beat him. But I'm writing this is cause, over d years, hv grown and seen the errors of my ways... I was only a child then and was naturally curious abt some things and I was also molested by neighbours n my cousins. Now I'm 23, I was posted to the state this my uncle and wife live in to serve... So I'm staying for the time being and I notice the boy is constantly aloof from me. He rarely speaks to him. His elder bro and younger ones always hover around me, he is the only that stays far, he hardly talks to me... He sometimes gives me this look dat makes me think, does he rmber all that I did to him? He wasn't even two then... I mean I can't even things I did when I was two? Ds makes me sad, I wish I could talk n apologise to him. Pls wat should I do? Anty stella no vex, d shame too much, I can't send an email bikonu.
ReplyDeleteCursed Animal. May you get what you deserve, Molester. Stella if you like don't post my grammar comment, use it to blow your nose you hear
DeleteIts not possible for a 2yr old to remember such. You have to forgive yourself and forget. But you are wicked! It didn't stop at sexual molestation, you still beat him. Ask God for forgiveness a beg.
DeleteThere is a ossibility dt he still remembers. I still remember things dt happened whn I was 3. I'd advice dt u ask him why he is constantly aloof 4rm u. If he tells u or u notice it's bcoz of that, jes ask him 2 4gv u. But if u realize it ain't coz of that, jes move on afterall it's not like u had sex with him!
DeleteHe might not remember exactly what you did, but he knows is something mean and it scarred him. You have to be extra nice to him, always include him into whatever you and rest are doing. Draw him into a conversation and ask him why he's aloof with you, why the distance. Assure him that you won't 'bite' anymore both in words and actions, do away with the guilt he will gradually warm up to you. It won't hurt to apologize for hurting him as a child.
DeleteMost people were either molested or they were the molesters at a very young age! Forgive yourself..don't you dare talk to that boy...you will just make matters worse.. I remember tiny flickers/flashes of my daddy's sisters being mean to us(gossiping abt my mom)...don't know details just that I didn't like them for a long time..is possible the boy knows you hit him a. lot..but he does not know why exactly.
DeletePs: making his dick stand and beating him? Abroad they would have treated you as a psychopath ooh..lol,don't mind me,but that is weird...
What you did to that little boy was awful and it would be in your best interest to apologise to him because apparently he remembers and see a psychiatrist/counsellor for therapy. I'm sorry for what happened to you, but molestation isn't an excuse. Why are you even staying in their home? Is that the only home you can stay in? Find somewhere else to live and let this young man have peace in his home before your secret comes out because what will happen then will be nothing to compared to whatever you're battling with now
DeleteBlood of Jesu! Na wah oh..Sooo speechless!
DeleteIts possible he remembers.
DeleteI still remember one hot spanking my dad gave me when I was two. He doesn't like noise or unnecessary crying, that night I slept with him and mum, had a bad dream,woke up and started crying. After several baby sorry, yet I refused to keep calm,dad turned me upside down and spanked me. I still remember Na. That's the only time he ever hit me tho. Lol. I was a cry baby Sha. Na so I use cry sleep.
I still even remember some irrelevant things like my class teacher in reception class, aunty Jennifer, she was always eating boiled egg. Anytime I think boiled egg till date, I remember aunty Jennifer. I was just two ooo.
So its very possible he remembers. Just try to be nice to him, not the suspicious kind of nice. But sisterly niceness. Try to include him in group gist and plays. If he actually remembers, he will feel deep hatred for you tho. Still ask God for forgiveness and keep praying too.
Abeg look for somewer else to stay. If ure truly ashamed u'll not even agree to stay der in d 1st place knowing wot u did.
Delete#1: Who told you the attraction is her fatness? It could be for other reasons. I have seen very beautiful women whose husbands go for something less. Don't make the mistake of getting fat. Confront him with what you know. Take good care of yourself and your children. Tomorrow will be better! Rose
ReplyDeleteFor every beautiful woman there is a man out there who is tired of fucking her.-Charlie Harper
DeleteAunty StellZ, I'm too ashamed to email you my story but I really do hope you publish it. When I was younger, like age 10, my uncle's wife and their kids came to spend their vacation with us... Two boys, one was 4 and the other ws a little over a year. I was always babysitting d younger one, cause his mum and my mum were always out. So sometimes when he poops and I clean him up, I'm always curious about his penis so I rub it until it becomes erect... Then I beat him for having an erection. Sometimes I kiss him and let him touch my breasts... It never went past that. At d end of it all I still beat him. But I'm writing this is cause, over d years, hv grown and seen the errors of my ways... I was only a child then and was naturally curious abt some things and I was also molested by neighbours n my cousins. Now I'm 23, I was posted to the state this my uncle and wife live in to serve... So I'm staying for the time being and I notice the boy is constantly aloof from me. He rarely speaks to him. His elder bro and younger ones always hover around me, he is the only that stays far, he hardly talks to me... He sometimes gives me this look dat makes me think, does he rmber all that I did to him? He wasn't even two then... I mean I can't even things I did when I was two? Ds makes me sad, I wish I could talk n apologise to him. Pls wat should I do? Anty stella no vex, d shame too much, I can't send an email bikonu.
ReplyDeleteNsogbu. Ngwa Sterra make this a post. I'm speechless
DeleteNa wah ohh..
DeleteFainting mode activated!
Delete#1 Let him know that you are aware of his cheating behaviour n d type of lady he's involve with. Try ignore him, look good, pray n be focus, he will come back one day.
ReplyDeleteNAWA men eh!
#2 When something pass us, we go echo, just dey pray in 'Africa' voice
Poster 1: I don't think cheating is logical. I think you should confront him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Please for goodness sake don't marry someone that was in the closet. From the closet he came and there he will return to. HIV is real.
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Poster 1: I don't think cheating is logical. I think you should confront him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Please for goodness sake don't marry someone that was in the closet. From the closet he came and there he will return to. HIV is real.
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God forgives and totally forgets,y can we humans do that.he has confessed and he is a changed person now.so pray bout it and go ahead with the marriage plans.@narrative 1,pls mk ur self happy cus ur husband will still go outside.even if u decide 2 go fat.so b ur self.he isn't worth d stress.
ReplyDeleteNarrative one - when you go looking you'll definitely find something unpleasant. Said you prayed & afterwards, due to perceived 'slow' response from God, you decided to probe further. My advice - don't confront your husband with what you discovered. Might make him more careful with his extramarital affair. Respectfully ask him where you've 'erred' & how you can make amends. If he isn't forthcoming, I'd suggest you keep praying & being the dutiful wife your narrative says you're. May God remove every strange woman, fat or slim, making your husband blind to you - his wife. And no, don't add on the extra weight coz of the problem at hand; it ain't worth.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2: sometimes or rather mist times, ladies say they want a 'honest' man, and when they eventually do, they're scared. Isn't that an irony? Having said that, I can understand your fears dealing with a man who just revealed he used to be sexually & physically attracted to fellow men; eew! He might be pretending that he's a changed man until you two get married or he might be honest & needs your total support & prayers, seeing that you said he's a husband material. Cutting off communication with him just like that IMO was not the best. At least, you should very kept that channel open while you figure out your next move. And what's that move, be committed in prayers towards knowing what his motives are & if truly he's God's choice of a life partner for you. Don't rush yet into saying 'I do' & watch closely his behavior or reaction around men, the tell tale signs, if he's lying, might just still be there. All the best & a general advice to all ladies & gents, never ask for honesty in a relationship if you know you don't have the stomach for all the cockroaches that might crawl out of the closet.
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DeletePoster 2 it depends on what brought about the change o. If he just decides 2 stop becos he met u, then he might meet another guy who excites him someday and move on. Cos his orientation on homosexuality has nt change. But if this change is brought about by meeting jesus. Geting saved then I can assure u that u have no problem. Cos he won't be going back 2 that.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 don't know what 2 tell u o. Do have a conversation with ur husband.
N 1, Men dont cheat because their wives are ugly, fat, tall, short fair or dark. The ones that will cheat, cheat because it is in their blood to cheat, they cheat because they want to taste another body and pussy. Don't put on weight or loose weight because of another person but yourself. Finally let him know you know what is going on. N 2, Once gay always gay..
ReplyDeleteMrs Wife, you have been bamboozled. Your man played on your senses. He has women of different sizes, shapes and colours. You are the slim, fair one. There is a fat fair and short one, etc.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, please don't put on weight o, bcos to loss it is 10 times harder
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Since you know where this pick up and drop off zone is why not go there and confront them? Let mister okon bingo know you are aware of the affair and just wanted to know what made him change his mind since he clearly hates yokozunas let madam fatimo know he always tonguetrash fat girls and you are surprise he is sleeping with her despite the fact that she is clearly not his type then just walk away calmly no scene created.(2) you can find out where the fgbmf takes place,just go there then calmly seat by their side or right behind them. My opinion though.
Instead of giving them the pleasure of walking away,stay there and live for you,please youself, improve on yourself hang out with your girls and be fly. NoBody is worth pleasing except your God. Your bingo husband wants a stepford wife at home while he runs around town with a whale he badmouths.
Poster2
Mmmmm don't know what your decision is but gays have a tendency of going back to their vomits because their partners never relent in their effort to woo them back especially where a business deal is involved,money or contract. Will you always look over your shoulders to see what he 's up to?
What about when he decides to hang out with boys will you trust him or when he keeps late night and comes back with an excuse will you believe him?
Decision is yours. They are counselling centres he can attend if he wants. Peace!
Ladies, do i need to repeat it that men do not know what they want.
ReplyDeleteThey are very confused.
They will torture your life until you slim down and the next thing, you see them with the fattest lady in the world.
Very soon, he will start torturing the fat lady to be slim like you.
They just want to taste it all.
That is why i said on that etcetra's post that you should do whatever you want for your own peace of mine not because of a man.
Sometimes see-finish can worry them.
You have to realize it is not about you or the fact that the lady has a better character,it is the way most men are.
People always equate plain janes and ugly girls with good character and warm personality...na lie ooo,they are just good pretenders.
Check the history of your husbands ex and you will understand that some men are confused.
The main reason they can desecrate a 9year old house-girl who hasn't reached puberty.
Nne, dry your tears...go to God in prayer.
Narrative2...What made him to change?
If he changed because of you then it is just a matter of time before he will go back to chronic homosexualism.
It is only constant hearing and reading the word of God that can change a man.
XOXO MYSTERY
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If I were u,I would run without thinking twice.A gay can not change cos of a woman.it takes the grace of God and the power in the blood of Jesus for a man to be free from being a gay.Communication is very important in any relationship.if ur husband is cheating on u,pray before confronting him.God will direct u.
ReplyDelete#N1: What can I say? The ways of men are unknown!
ReplyDelete#N2: If you see nothing wrong in anal sex then I think you can cope with this new revelation, but if you're anti-anal please find your square root.
If I were you, I would run away as far as I can.
#1: unfortunately, some men are like that. They love all shapes and sizes of women but they marry the most "presentable" by the standards of society while they keep the others as side chics or mistresses. I couldn't help but smile at the way you described yourself vis-a-vis the other woman, some men get turned on by other "feminine qualities" that have very little to do with looks. Please don't blame yourself and don't add weight because you'll only be supplying him ammunition. As heartbreaking as it is, you must calm down before you make any decision so you don't make a mistake. I don't know the type of relationship you guys have but the best approach will be to have a talk with him, communication is key. Be very prayerful because these are the tricks the devil uses to cause mayhem in marriages. Personally, I don't think leaving with your kids is the way to go. A lot of women fail to realise that life after divorce, especially in a country like Nigeria, comes with a lot of challenges. Divorce should only be considered where your life is at stake or where you've tried all you can to make a marriage work but it only gets worse.
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@poster...see ur kportor-kportor mouth like fat!!! U tink say men get choice?? Dey dia make paent dey wear u!!! My sis on d fat side but beauriful,she com dey say she want lean,na her hubby begin shira 4ram o say if she lean na dat day she go pack comot 4 hin house,dat he loves fleshy women......na so one legged Nduka guy go dey beat him wife say hin hate fat girls....d wife was slim bt bcame fat after child birth,sotey hin nor dey gree waka wit d wife.......if u see d huge girl wey d smelling Nduka dey pursue up nd down ehn,wit money nd gift o!! If u like be tin like bonga fish,notin wey man nor dey furk o!! One imbecile girl like dat 4 kiri kiri town 4 magbesa street called Amurebi...nor be one cute guy like dat dey furk am sotey belle cum!...smtcheeeeew...........................OKIJA WIFE
ReplyDeleteTough narratives.
ReplyDeletePoster 1;pray earnestly b4 u confront him.ask God 4 wisdom n strength n pray that God turns ur hubby's heart back to u.
Poster2: walk away dearie.the tendency for him to return to his gay ways later in the future is veryy there.
Anony 3.05:simply ask him y he is aloof to u. I doubt he remembers sha. Its most prolly ur guilty conscience that's hooking u. Kpele.
#2: Sweetheart, you are treading on dangerous grounds. A person's sexuality goes beyond the physical, it's embedded in the human spirit. There are men who got molested by older men when they were just kids, these same men grow up dating women but deep down they still crave homosexual sex. Even some so called straight men indulge in homosexual sex every now and then, these are the bisexual guys who are even more than the straight men. My dear, it's just by God's mercies because, nowadays you can't tell who is whom. Some bisexual guys may not allow anal sex but they do oral sex. My concern is, your guy may have good intentions but he may not even know the hold his proclivities have on him. Homosexuality isn't what you will away or just go cold turkey because you've found an amazing girl. Please, date him for at least 3years if you must and be very vigilant. That's no guarantee but you'll certainly notice a couple of things. I applaud his honesty though but, honey, your life is at stake.
ReplyDelete@narrative 1,her toto must be FIRE!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteGrail message is a cult not a church. be warned!
ReplyDelete@ Poster 1, its so sad to read what you are going through in your marriage, but one thing i want to suggest to you is that sometimes, these things are not ordinary, a lot of women/girls go out of their ways to get a man they want, not minding if he is married or not, your hubby might not know what he is doing until it is too late, i don't know how prayerful you are, it only takes the grace of God for a good man to resist some of these women outside their matrimonial homes, i would advise you to take the matter to the Blessed sacrament if you are a catholic, otherwise, go on your knees, fast and cry to God to bring back the man you used to have as a loving husband, as you do this, continue to be a good wife and mother, and watch how God will restore your marriage. trust me, the scale will fall off his eyes. @ poster 2, be very careful, because a lot of gay peeps are at high risks of contracting some diseases, even HIV because of anal sex, and he might be tempted to go back to his old ways when you think everything is going on well. if you decide to marry him, before you do, ensure he goes to the clinic to run tests on most STDs, and HIV to be sure he is ok first. good luck as you make your decisions.
ReplyDeleteHmmm...sometimes it gets tiring you are too fat or you are too slim or you are too tall, too short in fact never try to please someone with your physique, my dear #N1 just try to be happy with yourself and just keep praying #N2 in fact throway ur shoe n pick race o this one that he's changing cos of you and not God hmmm maybe a sexier guy can come along and he'll change back so I'd advice you runnnnnn without looking back o
ReplyDeletePoster one I think u should just concentrate on making yourself a better woman,get busy Takia of your kids,you go see say once your husband notice say u no get him time e go re-boot him brain
ReplyDeleteAs far as I'm concerned poster 2 as a homophobic woman it is your responsibility to marry your gay boyfriend abi na fiance. If it's your opinion that being gay is bad then do the good thing of making them good after all he claims he wants to change so be the catalyst.
ReplyDeletePoster 1.first confront him and let him tell, if he denies run for your life, if he confess and apologize try to work through it.
They always go anon to reveal their iniquity .
ReplyDeleteOhhhhh shattap Sinless one!!!!
DeletePoster 1: Your situation is so sad. Honestly, you need to confront him, and please do not sleep with him unprotected. You deserve to be happy, so try to work it out, if he cannot end the outside affair and refuse marital counseling then at that time you can choose to leave, but you need to try to see if there is any hope left for the marriage.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I am not sure what to say, that is one of those confessions where you wish you were not being told this. Your decision is yours to make. You must ask yourself if his past comes out one in the future if you will be humiliated for others to know his past. If you can live with that possibility then you can continue with the relationship.
Anon. 4:15 PM, In your own case you have every right to keep secrete from your husband, buy properties in your name but please get a good lawyer and write a will, if i were you i will will all my properties to my children, if you don't write your will if anything happens to you ( God forbid ) your husband will enjoy all that with his mistress and kids ( God forbid ). Your hubby is an EVIL man to do that to you i swear! Grail movement is a cult let that guy go.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, I will advice you to talk to your husband .don't dare confront the woman o, she might disgrace you. Just be following up on him and get his family involved. Then pray hard, remember a soft answer drives away anger. Don't add any weight. Infact just love yourself and take care of your children , o garach o ga lotakwa. Of course
ReplyDeletePoster 2 u better leave that homosexual. Abeg no go put ur hand for wetin you no understand, whether or not he had told you, if you are a good Christian, it would have been revealed to you. Your husband will come.
Anon@3.05p.m.
ReplyDeleteThe boy still remembers in his subconscious. Age two is what it is-an age already, not a newborn baby. Look at it this way-At age two you started learning your a-b-c. Do you still remember it today? yes. He remembers you used to beat him and probably associates you with some kind of wickedness. I still remember the teacher who used to hold a cane every time in class when I was age two. And I used to be so scared of her that one day I pooed in my pant because I was afraid to get up from my seat. The cane was so scary! I was only age two and I remember till today. If that teacher was a member of my family, I would still keep some distance. Even if you apologise, it wouldn't really do much. The harm has already been done. The best you can do is ask God for forgiveness and pray that He will help the boy forget whatever wrong you have done to him. I'm glad you can see the reward of wickedness staring at you. We all need to be very careful in life.
Poster #1.
ReplyDeleteYour narrative depicts you have no mind of your own to be yourself and that's unattractive. Husband said I don't like fat then I remain thin just for him.
You will agree that being yourself is far more attractive than being what others want you to be. It's oozes confidence and that's an attribute of one who is self assured.
Your husband might just be attracted to the fact that this so called voluptuous woman carries herself well and comfortable in her own skin. She seeks no approval to live or breath.
Poster #2
Most men are in the closet, either married, married living single, and single living single. They live a double life. At least your boyfriend confessed. The answer you seek lies within you. Dig deep within yourself. Alatise lo mo atise ara e. Good luck.
Stella many thanks in advance for posting. God bless your hustle.
Anonymous 1:21pm,what are you saying?
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HELLO SWEETIES, WE ARE ALREADY ONE FAMILY, RIGHT?
ReplyDeleteCAN WE ALL EMBARK ON A 7DAY FAST FOR THESE LADIES AND ASK GOD TO STRAIGHTEN UP WHATEVER ISSUES THEY ARE HAVING/FACING NOW AND MAYBE COME BACK WITH OUR REVELATIONS IF ANY.
MAMA IYABO
I just love this blog so much...thnx anty stella....so much fun here
ReplyDeleteI realy do like Stella Dimoko(As a person not sexually ooo)
ReplyDeleteReally, I am patiently waiting for the day I will read beautiful and inspiring posts and comments on this blog about marriage. the posts I read here scares the shit outta me. Am getting married in a couple of months, and I can't help but wonder if it's going to be all hell as portrayed in these posts. God help us!
ReplyDeleteN1, pls cofrobt him without trouble and if he doesn't change just live your life for God, you and your children. One day he would come to his senses. N2, even if he has stopped being gay which I doubt one day in your marriage he will ask for anal and if you refuse he uses it as an excuse or something.
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