Thank God It is Friday!........hmmmm
PROBLEM 1
STRANGE HABIT FROM 10MONTH OLD BABY.
Hi Stella. I am an ardent reader of your wonderful blog and I always comment as anonymous. After two beautiful girls God finally blessed us with a baby boy who just turned 10months old recently. My problem is that since my boy was about 4months old, as soon as he notices his diaper is off, his hands reach for his pee pee and he starts fiddling with it till he gets a HARD ON and Stella the hard-on no be for here o!
The thing becomes so hard and almost as long as my index finger! The annoying thing is that he will be smiling while playing with it!
My husband says there's nothing to worry about but i am worried o. Truth is, am worried about masturbation. Though not now but if he continues with this habit won't it lead him to it soon?
Please do other mothers here experience the same thing? Is it normal? Please note that i am a diaper freak, I hate the smell of urine anywhere in the house so he always has his diaper on. Am also sure no one has molested him cos as at when I noticed the behaviour, I was the only one taking care of him. Please is this normal?
LOL...I have never heard of anything like this before but let me suggest something?why don't you give him toys to play with to distract him.i don't think or know if this is a medical condition but try distracting him or stopping him as soon as he starts,do not sit and watch him play till it gets to index finger size please...''A stitch in time saves nine''..
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PROBLEM 2
INDIGESTION OR WHAT?
Good day Stella,
I am an ardent reader of your blog though i haven't commented before.I also like the the doctors section on your blog which makes it different from others.I have a problem which started some months back and seems like its getting worse.
Anytime i eat no matter how little,it doesn't digest on time and my stomach always feels heavy especially in the morning.there have been days i couldn't eat at all because the last food eaten hadn't digested.At first,i thought i wasn't eating enough fruits but i realised fruits made the situation worse especially oranges.
Also,i don't have frequent bowel movement,it takes between 4-5 days before i feel the urge to pass out stool and that is also dependent on the laxative i use but now it seems nothing is working again.the symptoms i have are
bloating
excessive belching,
heartburn,
indigestion,
slight abdominal pain,
rumbling in my stomach and excessive gas.
I also feel tingling pain in my breasts sometimes and i have lost weight.
I would really appreciate a solution to this nagging problem as soon as possible,thank you...
All your symptoms point at Indigestion but for the tingling sensation in the boobs.....In house docs any tips?
Where is Orela sef?
10months old baby having a hard on? Is this possible? Wow! This is new
ReplyDeletePoster 1, its not as strange as u think it is. Its called the Anal phase. He will outgrow it soon
DeletePoster 2.. go do a scan quickly. It could be a cyst, fibroid or just your body reacting to some food. When a cyst becomes problematic, it causes bloatedness n all the symptoms u mentioned. And of course the location of the mound can cause these things too. I'v been down dis road, mine turned out to be both of them - fibroid n cyst.
DeleteMy cousin's child at 11 months any time she takes off his pampers, used to hit his dick on d bed, faced down like thrusting in and out, it seemed like a joke but I told her to stop him, I think these things come naturally with some male children but u need to stop them
DeleteLol,my son does that a lot,n he prefers staying naked so he can play with his penis.
DeleteI felt like he saw me holding his father's dick cos I do that a lot.but I doubt if that's d case.
Once u take off his diaper,if he is on d bed,he will thrust up n down.he has actually caught us in the act b4 and I feel like he times us wen we r in d middle of d act to wake up n there is no way I would stop.
This is why I always suggest to every new mom or mom to be to always register with a reputable motherhood website like babycenter.com. Sign up with their weekly newsletter to learn more about your growing baby's weekly development and other stuffs. Try and be informed about your baby development, cos if you were you would have known that you baby is passing through a normal phase of his life. Just distract him and pls don't smack that baby like someone wrongly advised.
DeleteLol,my son does that a lot,n he prefers staying naked so he can play with his penis.
DeleteI felt like he saw me holding his father's dick cos I do that a lot.but I doubt if that's d case.
Once u take off his diaper,if he is on d bed,he will thrust up n down.he has actually caught us in the act b4 and I feel like he times us wen we r in d middle of d act to wake up n there is no way I would stop.
Problem 1
ReplyDeletePlease try and see if you can stop him from always doing that so he don't grow up with it, and it becomes an habit and he becomes addicted to it. Just like stellastica suggested, maybe you should get him toys to play with.
Problem 2
I'll suggest you try using sodamint tablet, I'm positive it will help.
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I taught most of you went to college? Poster 1, what your spn is doing is completely normal, it is called ANAL PHASE which he will stop very soon. Psychology 101.
DeleteWelcome 2 Stella blog hospital..
ReplyDeleteLwkmd @ ist poster!!!
ReplyDeleteSo effing funny
Poster 2. Biko go to a hospital.
Hmmm, as I no be dokitor, make I kuku wait 4 comments.
ReplyDeleteKehinde Ake step aside(This no be tohtoh matter)....Orela Dimples,you've been summoned!
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Hahahahahahahaha..... Oboy this boy don turn baddoo already... If his doodie can be as long as an index finger nw that means when he grows up he will be competing with the largest... Lol. But as stella says, distract him with toys....
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hello Stella...over to the Docs
ReplyDeleteLet me just wait and read comments. Don't av anything to contribute. #stella'slearning zone
ReplyDeleteI smiled as soon as I saw ur post. Cos my 10months old does same thing. As soon as his diaper is off he pulls on his penis. And laugh or giggle while doing it. I don't think its a problem. Believe he is just exploring and will outgrow it soon. All I do is take his away and say a firm NO DONT TOUCH. And then give him something else 2 play with.
ReplyDeleteU self na wah o. Lol. Masturbation never came 2 my mind
Same here, my son does it too,like supermom said his just exploring.
DeleteIt's called the 'phallic stage' (phallus referring to the male organ)..just like the 'oral stage' (where babies put virtually everything they see in their mouths...),he sure would outgrow it,it's an exploration phase!
Deletethanks mama in the house for shinning the light on this. I didnt think it was mastubation myself; my mind didnt even go there cos a baby that age is pure and undiluted.
DeleteMy son did same and has out grown it. Sweety he is 10months, he doesnt know what masturbation is, I doubt if he has developed sexual hormones yet(m not a doctor)cos he obviously hasn't attained puberty(Lol). Bottom line is relax your mind. He is jusy exploring
DeletePoster1. Lmao. @ the hard on no be for here. What if your child is a man trapped in a baby's body? Shebi you've watched nollywood movies or the 90s and early 2000's. It could even be a reincarnated ex boyfriend. I suggest you rub the baby's pepee with anointing oil, if problem persists, send SDK another post and we would think of another solution. Cheers
ReplyDeleteHahahaaha ex boyfriend kwa
DeleteFunny
DeleteVery funny!! Reincarnated ex boyfriend kwa?
DeletePoster 1. Pls do as Stella has advised. I don't really know what to say. The young child might just be playing but this really scares me. I pray other mothers advice you.
ReplyDeletePoster with indigestion, pls check the food that makes the indigestion worst. In my friends case it was Rice.
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ReplyDelete@1, does ur hubby like nacking very much, if yes, then u ve nothing to worry about, is purely a case of like father like son, dats y ur hubby is not worried, if pikin resemble him papa no be bad tin na haba.
Lmao. U are just sick
DeleteDis month my menses was so scanty and came early dan expected but normally I hav normal flow but dis month own was very scanty and towards de send of de period I notice dt it has a bad smell to de extend dt someone towards me can perceive it pls wt could be de cause of dis doh I had measles and took some antibiotics and 7kis, I dnt knw if dt could be de cause of dis problem. Pls who hav de idea of wt could be
ReplyDeletePoster 2, hv u xamined urself to see if u hv food allergy? U can also google Gastroparesis n see if u hav similar symptoms ....get well soon!
ReplyDeleteProblem 2 sounds preggers to me... Girl go take a pregnancy test and stop bugging Stella with your wahala Abeg!!!
ReplyDeleteIst poster
ReplyDeleteI can imagine how uncomfortable your boy must make you feel.lol
Anytime i remove my daughter's diaper(when she was btw 5-6 months) she would raise her two legs and hold each with her hands! Kai! It was unnerving and hilarious but with time,she stopped it.
@poster 2
Most of those symptoms are what some pregnant women suffer from especially in the 3rd trimester...
I know anytime I felt that way,i relied on garden egg(añara) for relief..it helps with the bowel movement too...
But let doctors also explain further to you in case there is an underlying problem...take care
I dont see any issue with what your daughter was doing. She was a baby for God sake. Its our mind that is polluted cos of what we as adults have done and then when the kids do it, our mind goes there and we get worried.
DeleteHmmmm that baby's own no be here ooo!Not heard of a tin like that before...
ReplyDeletePoster no 1, why reading meaning to what your baby is doing. your mind is corrupt please, I cant even begin to understand how stupid you are, My God, its normal, I have 2 boys and its so normal. Na wah o, the internet has really spoilt alot of people. Innocent baby, 10months, you talking about masturbation. you crazy abeg, so irritating to even think about
ReplyDeleteGod bless you Surest, though you are a bit hash shaa. But poster, just be assured baby is well no need to panic.
DeleteCan't u advice her without insulting her? That u hv knowledge on this issue doesn't mean she does. Learn to be kind abeg.
DeleteSurest whoever you are,the abuses weren't necessary at all and I suppose you are mature enough to know that and besides I'm certain you also thought about the most hideous things when you had your first child. So bear in mind that no one was born a parent and you should choose your words carefully next time.
DeleteIndigestion symptoms...you need proper medical attention. There might be a problem with your bowels.
ReplyDeleteChild fiddling peepee, I dnt think that's anything to worry about bt then I may be wrong. My lil' nephew(a year plus) does d same tho not always(never noticed an erection sha) and he even trys to touch his older brother's own if he gets the chance. But his mum usually beats his hand and tells him to play with his own alone.
Lol @ play with his own alone!
DeleteLmao!!!!!!
DeleteAt problem 1: it's nothing serious. But take stella's advide. Gdluck. At Problem 2: it's same symptoms. You have acid reflux. Try to take your dinner early and stay atleast 3hrs before lying down. Avoid oily foods and acidic fruits. And take gaviscon 15ml each time u feel bloated. Also drink plenty of water and exercise often. Goodluck!
ReplyDeleteIhekire Tony
ReplyDeleteSomething sounds funny here, 10months old baby having a hard on, I don't see anything wrong with that, what I find disturbing is that, he is the one stimulating it. Poster please get him a wife asap, before he start putting that thing in the wrong place.
Poster 2: Do u hate doctors this much? You have a serious problem which requires medical attention, yet u don't want to go and get one.
Pastor Tony? Get him a wife ke? Issorai
DeleteGet him a wife ke? Lol
DeleteI just want to be happy, why is happiness far from me?
ReplyDeleteIt is well with you in Jesus Mighty Name..... May the Lord give you the happiness you desire in Jesus Mighty Name.... Turn to Jesus tell him your problems and He will attend to them.. Jesus Loves You.....
DeleteP1: Well I am not a mother yet, but I have had the opportunity to take care of my nephew from 2 months. This is the thing if I were to be in your shoes, a little spank would do it for me, so next time when his hand is moving there he knows what's in for him. These kids brain are actually sharp from @least 4month
ReplyDeleteYou spank a two months old child? Before your reach for his hands to smack why not google this stuff. Other mothers here have said a thing or two about it.
DeleteGosh how do you spank a two month old child?
Why spank? You thimk his mind is as corrupt as yours.
DeleteThats cos he probably wants to pee
DeletePoster 1....try to distract the boy with toys, if you don't stop the habit now....hmmm
ReplyDeletePoster 11...get omeprazole what you have is gastro resistant, if not treated it can become chronic ulcer.
Stella ku ise o
Ok, let me read comments
ReplyDeleteNo 2) no go hosp stay 4 Stella's blog dey ask invisible docs u hear? Mschweee!
ReplyDeleteNo idea. Will Sit and read comments. Thank God is Friday!!! #HaahShokiHaah#
ReplyDeleteHmmn...
ReplyDeletePoster 2 it is well with u..
Poster 1 like Stella said u shd distract him with toys. Yes.
Let him always have something in his hands..I belive he will outgrow it tho
I hav a question for in house doctors oh..will send it next week
My son will throw away what ever he has on his hand just to hold his penis
DeleteFirst poster, I have seen babies play with their pee...., some go dey suck their finger and dey play with am, I don't read meaning to it because I feel they will outgrow it. But I always smack them anytime i see them doing it so i think you should start now to correct him.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. I'm not a mum yet and pray to be soon. I can say for sure that I took care of my younger ones from 3 months old when mum isn't at home most times and those period I do observe that my kid bro also touches his pee pee like u called it whenever his diaper is taken off but what I do is to take his hand off it (just like stella said). I feel its normal for babies to touch their pee pee due to fresh air they are getting since they are on few moment break of diaper usage but I can't really say about it getting hard. I think you should follow stella's advice.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, your baby is in the Phallic phase of psychosexual development according to sigmund Freud. This means he'll be playing with his penis and developing pleasure from it. He entered into this stage a lil early as its usually seen in kids aged 3-6yrs. He should outgrow this stage. Just like Kids outgrow the oral stage where they are always putting things(anything and everything,) in their mouth, sucking their thumbs etc. Its if he is stuck/fixated on this phase of development that you may be worried about masturbation, n other sexual issues. But its nothing to worry really, he'll still a baby and is actually not masturbating, he is just in a phase of development n it will pass.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, pls go to a teaching hospital and see a gastroenterologist 4 proper evaluation and managememt.
Wasere jare...a baby goes thru different stages of development.oral, anal,phallic stage..notin to worry about
DeleteOya dockies....
ReplyDeleteI really love this Inhouse Doctors section. @Poster 1 that might just be a habit you have to put under control now. he's just a baby. @Poster 2 i do experience exactly all the symptoms you just listed. waiting patiently for doctors advise; Dr. Kehinde & Dr. Oreola pls to the rescue.
ReplyDeleteStellz pls post my comment
Poster 1, I don't think its abnormal, my 11months old son does that too, as soon as I remove his diaper, his hand will just go to his pee pee but I always remove his hands. I believe that with time they'll outgrow it.
ReplyDeleteI KNOW A 3 YEAR OLD WHO WAKES UP WITH A HUGE AND SOLID ERECTION EVERY MORNING
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteHow can a mother watch his 4months old son plays with his equipment till it becomes hard?Madam,u no try.Let that child know that it's wrong by beating his hand whenever he does it.He will cry but with time he will know the reason why u beat his hands and he will stop it.If u give him toy to play with inorder to distract him,he will still misbehave if u do the toys are not there so pls,let him know that it is totally wrong.@poster 2.Go to the hospital and see a medical Doctor.
ReplyDeleteLocal naija sense, smack him for what? Does he know what he's doing abi u don't know that punishing a child about something he doesn't understand would only arouse his curiosity..... SMH for ignorant Nigerian parents
DeleteDoc, I can't retain water. Once I drink water, I pee almost immediately. If I drink again, no matter how little, I just piss it out. Is it normal?
ReplyDeleteWaiting t read comments!
ReplyDelete@poster 1, distract him with toys and smack him whenever he touches his peepee, I think that will stop him from doing that.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, The Lord almighty will heal you IJN. See a doctor as well.
@Stella, you are doing a good job on this blog. Well done.
'Mide.
Poster 1: that boy go be real Mr Nackson o, Dauda the sexy guy in the making.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure e take am resemble him papa,lol.
From 10 months? Boss, I hail o
1] I'm sorry oo madam but ur story is really funny...hahahaha
ReplyDeleteHe is a child nd what he's doing is a normal thing among children; I have 2 boys now nd they both liked playing with their pee pee. Only difference is that mine didnt get hard ons while doing it...but I slap their hands away nd caution them wen I see them doing it...nd gradually they've stopped. So I think its d same thing wit ur baby but u shouldn't let him do it anymore, just like Stella said buy toys for him nd monitor him too...dats d only way he'll stop!! Or maybe oo his father likes masturbating lol Its well
2] As much as I appreciate the gud work Stella is doing here....I wonder why some people won't go to the hospital first nd get checked out by d doctor b4 sending emails to Stella. Poster u have a huge problem like this(which has been going on for months) nd instead of you to rush to d hospital first nd see a doctor to do some tests to know what's really wrong with you; u are here sending emails seeking for advice. I'm sorry if I sound harsh but I just feel like ur playing wit ur life nd its really pissing me off...pls go nd see a qualified doctor first!! Ndo nnem
My dear, the baby will stop it once he's potty trained and stop wearing diapers. I have 3 boys and they all did that when they were babies. it's the feeling of air enter their bum and the sense of freedom cos trust me, u don't wanna imagine being stuck on diapers almost all throughout the whole day with no air. its like most ladies being on their period and wishing it stops so we can go pantless and enjoy the freedom and air or our boobies beung caged in a bra and the relief one gets when its removed. Its nothing to worry about, even my last baby still does it. Its funny a times but I just remove his hand. Their papa too does it when he removes his briefs and when I asked him why they all do that he said its freedom and air biko, let the thing breathe and stretch. So worry not ok, just remove his hands. When he stops wearing diapers he will stop doing that. And when hes trained biko dont wear him pants that are too tight.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 like stella said, distract him with toys and always try to divert his attention each time u re changing his diaper.Dont let him continue with that lest it escalates to something else.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Hav u tried taking Gelocine after meal?
Hi Stella,
ReplyDelete10 months old: this is very normal as kids at that age tend to explore their body parts and those of their friends.
Indigestion or what: I think that you may have GERD. Do your research and educate your self. Antacids may provide some relief but a more potent medication may be prescribed by your doctor. These medications are generally taken before meals to help alleviate symptoms.
Emma.
Poster 2 u nid 2 watch what u eat n also take in more fibers..after my heamorriod sugery early dis year I wasn't discharged cause I couldn't pass out stool n the doc adviced I shouldn't take laxative so I don't get dependent.I had 2 do it on my own.my dear almost one week I no fit shit was takin jus custard(pissing tins).ate all fruits 4 wer no show!then a young doctor told my mum 2 get watermelon plenty of it,n dats one fruit I hate.after eating like 300naira watermelon I nor knw wen I find mysef inside toilet n d next day I was discharged...try it + stop eating late,take a lot of water.
ReplyDeletePostal 1 I suggest you study this link VERY WELL
ReplyDeletehttp://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychosexual_development
Hahahahahaha…Madam, that your little boy ehn! Kai that guy go show girls pepper. lol..Never heard of that before.
ReplyDeleteMy baby does that too, my sister will tell me not to worry that it shows that he's a man that if they didn't do so that's when a mother should worry. But now he has stopped it
ReplyDelete#2My dear see a doctor.
I'm present o...I read but I'm pretty busy.and Im currently working on my blog where advise can be given on lifestyle modifications in tackling common ailments.the link to my blog is easier when.you.click on my name
ReplyDelete@ poster 1 no cause for alarm. Distract him with toys if you are so bothered.
@ poster 2..I'm no magician but most likely you are having dyspepsia plus gastroeosophageal reflux disease that's if you admitt to regurgitating at times.
You need to see a doctor meanwhile you can make use of caps omeprazole 20mg twice daily..
Avoid large meals
Refrain from eating food within 3hrs before bed time
After eating don't lie down until 3 hours later at least
Use a lot of pillows to prop up your head while asleep
Instead of oranges get a lot of water melon
Reduce the intake of alcohol and gas containing drinks like coca cola
Abeg if your maternal instinct tells you its not okay pls do the needful to make him stop that
ReplyDelete. The rate at which strange things are happening left, right and centre in this world, pls help him to stop it. Whether it means something or not.
It is normal@ poster no1. Poster no 2 pls go nd see a doctor.
ReplyDelete10 Months old? Haba, I do not think there is anything to worry about; he is just been playful.. however, always try and remove his hand from dia anytime he puts it dia!if it persists, then try consult a pediatrician!
ReplyDeletePoster 2:Nonyelum Alfred said: you r having hepatitis A! That's the inflammation of the liver. This happens wen u eaten something which has affected ur liver by making it increase in size dan normal. The most common reason 4 ds r alcohol, though food poisoning is also a cause of it. Just contact your doctor, they know better!
ReplyDeleteNormal for baby boys to do that...just take his hand away
ReplyDeletep-flav, God bless you. My son is 4 years old and when he was a baby, he did the exact same thing. The baby isnt masturbating, hes simply touching a body part. People tend to attach negative connotations to anything sexual. If he was touching his elbow, will you be worried? but all of them follow for body part so why cant he touch his weiner? if you make a child believe something is taboo, theyll try even harder to do it more. my son stopped doing it for almost 2 years and recently started again. When i see him, i just ask him: do you have to pee? is that why youre touching your chicken? if he says no, i say ok and leave him alone and he leaves his weiner alone. sometimes they dont even realize they r doing it. just bring their attention to it, but not in a negative or reproachful way. as for 10 month old baby, just playfully remove his hands , play or tickle him, and move on. dont smack him...it'll make him believe he has done something wrong and he hasnt.
ReplyDeleteU are very smart, i will start watching out for your comments.
DeletePoster 2. I wish I had more details like ur age, sex, previous bowel habits, previous weight and present weight to know how bad the weight loss is; if you have blood in ur stool and so on. You need to see a doctor ASAP pls. Do not take OTC drugs and ignore your symptoms.
ReplyDeleteNice one Voltron
ReplyDeleteVoltron ur head dey there
ReplyDeletePoster 2, u re suffering from gastric outlet obstruction which could be from different causes. I pray it's not gastric cancer seeing u re also losing weight. U need to see a surgeon ASAP
ReplyDeletePoster No1, It is completely normal for children to touch themselves, I work with children and I use to tell a 3 years boy that it is dirty until I learn about it in during course that it is normal. Like Supermom said, just try to distract him with a toy during nappy chaging.
ReplyDeletePlease DO NOT SMACK YOUR BOY.