CHRONICLES OF BLOG VISITOR NARRATIVE

Staring deeply into your eyes.........you know what?...Never love anyone out of pity,if you smell the coffee,pack your bags otherwise you will become one of loves heartbreak statistics.

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
DISGRACED OUT OF A CHILDLESS MARRIAGE,UPLIFTED BY GOD AND EX BOO COMES BACK CRAWLING

Stella Bae,

God bless you for the good work you are doing here. I want people help me with their opinion on this issue.

For 5yrs, I was in a childless marriage. And when husband left me in his right wisdom. I was already 3weeks pregnant, unknowingly to us. I was heartbroken, pained, you name it. Almost like I was a living dead. Then I fell sick only to be told I have taken in. Excitedly I called my ex to share the good news. But he slit a sword through already broken me. He said he was not interested, that how am I sure the baby was his. Then it was getting to 2months and we had been separated for a month and some days.

He never showed up again neither did he call. I went to his work place

and was told he'd been transfered outside Lagos. Then it dawned on me that he has had this in the pipeline for long. I didn't know about the transfer, of course he knew and never brought it up. He planned it all too well. Between his family and mine, we are officially separated. No holds barred. So, I was back to a single gal.

He's back now, pleading on all fronts for a re-marry. Inundating me with calls, sms, emails and emissaries. My son will be a year old this week. All these months he never sent me any upkeep, even #1. Call, sms, email nor sent anyone to us. Through anti-natal, post natal nothing nothing. It was agonising. Even during the naming, I sent message to his people to come and represent him. No one, not a single person showed up. I won't forget that naming in a hurry, because thereI was with no help.

 I couldn't even provide the pastors, friends and well-wishers with even #5 biscuits - it is well. It was tough o, toget drugs for my baby nko? Eeehn, then just out of the blues, this terrible ex wants in again. Now that he is jobless. How kwanu? I told him off without hesistation. That he can come around and visit his son once a month under my supervision. Afterall he bears his name.

Imagine the nonsense?

I have a man in my life again, who understands me and my situation. Though presently unemployed but with better prospect. Our marriage rites is almost concluded.

BVs please, how best should we tell-off this jackass..?

Make i read comments.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
MEETING LOVERS WHO DECEIVE YOU INTO MARRIAGE!

 I just read the story you posted about a woman that was deceived into marriage. I felt I should share my story, I was once in that type of deceitful relationship some years ago. I think I should share it so ladies can learn to follow their instincts.

In year 2000 as I was managing a business for my boss, in Lagos a fine looking gentleman walked into our office one day to use our services, very smooth looking guy every woman's dream. Till date I can't recall how his constant visit to use our services translated into a close friendship. He started helping us out when we have issues like power outage and generator issues. He will send people to help us out. By the time I knew it, he had told everyone around that  environment he was the owner of the business and I was his staff. People will come in asking to see my boss and I know nobody knows who my boss is, as he rarely comes there, until they mention his name. When I confronted him he denied. This guy can lie to high heavens.

Some how we started dating, but I notice he will disappear during working hours and show up in the evening well dressed as though he went to work. I asked him where he works he gave me one office name a popular one that I will not want to write here. He says he was in their ikeja branch, one day he forgot his diary with me, I called the office telephone landline the receptionist said no such person works with them. I should try their V/ Island office which I did the receptionist there also confirmed nobody with such a name works with them in their Island office. When he came back same evening I confronted him, he said is a new receptionist who is yet to get familiar with all their names, I should not worry myself.

He will come and tell me how he forgot his cheque book in the aircraft as he went for management meeting in portharcourt after he would have disappeared for 2 days. Requesting I borrow him some money not sure if there was ATM at that time. Not once not twice and I was wondering why he always forgets his cheque book in the plane.

For one year he did not allow me visit his apartment he felt comfortable at my house. As we approach the house where he was squatting, (as I later found out) he will tell me to stay outside let him quickly pick up some thing and join me. He will tell me his cousins think am proud and arrogant and do not like me to come to the house. 

I recall I came into that apartment only once and I wondered how they knew about my being arrogant. So I in turn I did not like his cousines  too. I later realised he did not want me to get close to them, as they all know he was deceiving me. And perhaps I may get to know he did not have a job and was also a drop out from school.

Stella, some how he now got a proper job with one of the Telcos, then, he became invisible this is a guy I was practically feeding all the while he did not have a job. Little did I know he forged certificates during his interview with the Telco. 2 weeks straight I will not see him, he will lodge in a hotel with different women. By then I knew I was in for a big scam. His younger brother came around from his village. I was also feeding him as his brother was no where to be seen. God helped his younger brother to open up to me, that I am too good to have anything to do with his brother, that the guy has been lying to me to get money off me. He said all these while he was not working and only just got a job with MTN with forged documents. 

I cried my heart out I could not recall how much of my money was in his hands. I called on God to repay him. January 1st 2002, I mustered courage and ended the relationship I could not live the lies anymore. I cried the whole of that month. Stella, this guy was mocking me and having fun with ladies. 6 months later I met the guy, whom I am married to now. One year later MTN fired him for false certificates.

Ladies when the relationship does not sound good to you, have the courage to walk away. It will only hurt for a while and you will heal.  

All i can say is that if you see the early signs,walk away before it is too late.most times it is not easy becos when a woman is in love she does not listen to her head anymore.I pray God rescues everyone in love's negative bondage.