Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

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NARRATIVES NUMBER ONE

WHEN PARENTS STEP FORWARD IN TIME OF NEED...HOW DO YOU FEEL?

Stella,
All my life,I have depended on my parents.
Even though I dated/had boyfriends, I never went for/had anyone to take care of me nor buy me gifts, I was so concerned about love, prospects and building a life with someone that money and fancy things took a back seat. I still believe in these things.

My daddy has never minded providing for me, I am his only daughter and there is nothing he witholds from me especially since I am just leaving Law school but deep inside, at 26, you wish your daddy was not doing everything for you

Today,I have met a great man with ''prospects'',  young, a graduate yet to find a job but I know he will and become great someday, after all,he is only 30...... we have had our traditional marriage and court but my parents seem to be the ones funding our white wedding because my husband is meeting dead ends on raising money, his father is late, he is an only child, relations are all saying they do not have money, he has a land he is willing to sell but we cant find a buyer and our wedding is just in a month's time

I didn't mind not having a white wedding until we could afford it, but as an only daughter of my proud parents, their daughter must have a white wedding and they are so understanding funding this(though not so happy about the situation) because they started their life from nothing so they understand and are so good to my husband but still, i feel so ashamed of myself besides its not like my family is so wealthy, we are simply middle class

My mum always told me that as pretty as I am, I dated only guys that had nothing and now I feel I have finally insulted her

My husband is still running around and is so wonderful and hoping something comes up so he can reimburse my parents but my heart is so heavy, I feel so ashamed even though daddy has told me not to worry

Did anyone have their parents fund their wedding?and how did you feel?

This question isnt for me *BBM smiley*

Make i siddon read comments....Efe come and sit down cos na so so to siddon read comments you sabi type...lol

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

WALKING ON EGG SHELLS IN YOUR MATRIMONIAL HOME...

Good day Stella, help me post this on your blog so I can get counsel that matters.

I just got married to a good man, we love each other so much and are good friends. But none of us is rich yet though educated and graduates(I read Law and he computer science and mathematics) so we are basically starting life from the scratch which I don't mind at all...however, because we are not financially buoyant yet, we are living with my mother-in-law which is typically my husbands house anyway, in our big nice home, just the three of us.
My father in law is late and hubby is an only child

My mother-in-law is a good woman and so I thought this would be easy at first but now, I resent it because, I want my privacy and control...to be the woman of the house, to run it to my pleasure and do things when I want to do them and not be under her authority so to speak

My mother-in-law is there when i and my husband fight, she is there when we are loved up, when we go out, when we return, she is basically in our faces and I feel like my every move is watched by her which I resent even more

  Another thing that bothers me is that, she brought no maid to assist her (which every woman living alone should)so it is basically up to me now to be in the kitchen whenever she is there even if I don't feel like it and do all that needs to be done(my mum is trying to get me a maid though because i can't keep up)


My husband adores his mum and would not stand me doing anything negative to her of which I don't plan to, but I can tell you right now that, living together with her would cause a strain on my relationship with her(which I dread) because that is what happens when people live together, conflicts arise so I am walking on egg shells here, and God! 

I WISH I didn't HAVE TO WALK ON EGGSHELLS IN MY HUSBAND'S HOUSE NOR HAVE HIM STUCK BETWEEN ME AND HIS MUM

She has this hold on her son, (which I wish she didn't because he is a grown man now) he is all she has so she loves him to death, she can cook something else for him if I cook something that she feels is not good enough for him.
She has a lot of time on her hands so is at home mostly, even when we spend too much time in the bedroom which I could do all day as it is something I did in my father's house, my husband would suggest we go and sit with his mum so she is not lonely.

 Honestly, there is just petty stuff I could write here but moving forward, I just want advice on how to cope and be a good daughter in law while we are at the house with her especially considering the fact that  I am a private person and now I don't seem to have that...somehow I feel, even when we can afford it, she may not want us to move out because of how  much she holds her son close...

I have spoken to my husband about my concerns, he says we will move out when we can and expects me and the mother to be in love with each other, I don't think he really gets it, men do not get this sort of things

Anyway, we will be here for a while. So while we are here, how do I do this without continuously being resentful??

I only have one question to ask you...Would you feel the same way if your mum lived with you and your hubby?

You havent said that she is troublesome but her presence disturbs you?...Lucky you,you need to hear some people's mother in law story.

If you do,you will pop champagne for yours!

You said she has a hold over your hubby?When you have kids,how would you like it to be?

My mum in law was exactly like yours when i just moved here and we lived in their flat....but i handled it well and today we have moved out and we are still best of friends oh....use your head and stop complaining!