How can a mother sit down and watch her kids go to war on each other and all she does is to ''pour kerosene into the fire?''
What a shame!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
RIFT AMONGST SIBLINGS
Good day
My narrative goes thus:
I am the first born and the only lady out of four children and i am in
my middle thirties but not yet married(soon by God'd grace),also
graduated 10 yrs ago,no job but doing my handiwork now.
I have a younger brother who's the last born and the only one who's working in a good company,he just got married recently(not up to thirty yrs old though).
The problem is that I observe that my mum respects our last born a lot
and he's so proud and very rude.When my mum is talking to him and the
wife over the phone,it shows respect but she hardly shows me any
regard (i still live with my parents).
This my brother can shout we the older ones down,he doesn't care what you think about him.Before his marriage,we were so close and I was the one running helter skelter even to the extent of carrying his wife's load and washing the plates during the wedding but after his wedding,he became distant,doesn't
call or care and if I call him,he starts giving excuses why he doesn't
call.
He fought the older brother (first son) recently who prostrated
with him on his wedding day telling him he's jealous because he's not
yet married and he shouted his elder brother down.Anytime I try to
correct him,he doesn't take to correction and my mum will ever support
him even if he's wrong.
He came visiting on Saturday but we ended up disagreeing as usual in solving the feud and he shouted at me seriously in the presence of his wife saying that
i am 10yrs older!
I know i am not yet where i am supposed to be and God knows i am not jealous of him,even now as i am typing,any mention of him at home even if its good,my mum will say I shouldn't mention his name again that i am jealous he got married before me.
Only God knows I tried for him on his wedding day(teary eyes),God is my witness .I have also prayed to God to lift me up because everywhere I go,i am
always told that i am a glorious person and I know I shall be victorious
by God's grace. Please my BV's,how do we solve this upcoming rift
within my siblings because I foresee future problems and how can I
handle this rude brother in a way I can be respected?
I am always thinking but no solution is forth coming.
Note: I don't beg him for money neither does he give me oo before people start saying maybe we are collecting from him.The elder brother is working but not yet married and he's even the one who gives the little he has to our parents
Thanks and awaiting your comments.
Note: I don't beg him for money neither does he give me oo before people start saying maybe we are collecting from him.The elder brother is working but not yet married and he's even the one who gives the little he has to our parents
and he's still very humble.
Thanks and awaiting your comments.
Hmmm your mother in not a wise woman at all...How dare she fan discord amongst her children?
I know it is hard but you need to start minding your business and face whatever it is you call work....Advice your other siblings as well.
The situation might heal itself as time goes on but right now since the atmosphere is so hot at the moment and your mum is making matters worse,please abort all plans for a verbal confrontational reconciliation.
One more question...What is your relationship like with your brothers wife?
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
TWO EX'S STILL IN LOVE AND WANTING TO GET BACK TOGETHER BUT....
He is already indirectly hurting the virgin girlfriend by secretly coming to you.He should 'sit her down' and explain to her that his heart is still with you.
.........If he really wants to be with you,he should be truthful to the other lady.
Good luck to you both.
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
TWO EX'S STILL IN LOVE AND WANTING TO GET BACK TOGETHER BUT....
Good day Stella and blog visitors... Please I need urgent advice from you and other blog visitors... I'm in a very delicate situation. My ex boyfriend and I met in the university and we were madly In love with each other, everyone around believed we were going to get married, he was the one that dis virgined me and that was his first sexual experience too. After about 6 years of dating... His parents refused our relationship because of tribal issue (Igbo and Yoruba)
It seemed like a joke cos we have both gone through a lot together right from our undergraduate days. After about a year of trying to convince our parents and yet no positive response, we both decided to break up it was a painful decision though but we did. Three months after breakup, my ex boyfriend found someone else and they started dating and it's kinda a serious relationship and I on the other hand, I've not been able to get over him.
We still talk and he claims that he still loves me so much and there's nothing he can't do for me in this world and I'm his one true love he will never forget, same with me, I still love him so very much and I just can't seem to love someone else despite all the proposals I'm getting from guys, he recently told me that his parents have freed him and allowed that he can marry anybody he wishes to but the problem now is his current girlfriend, he doesn't want to hurt the girl because he claims the girl is a good girl and she's still a virgin and can cook well but his heart is still with me.
We don't know what to do, we didn't talk to each other for about 5 months thinking it's going to let the feelings go away but it's like it keeps getting stronger, we have secret dates where he has travelled to meet me once and then it was as if we never broke up. Please fellow blog visitors what should we do.... especially me I'm at a fix, I've not had sex with anyone since we broke up and he hasn't had sex with his girlfriend too NB: I've managed to start dating someone but my heart isn't just there. Please sincere opinions and advice are needed. Thanks so much
He is already indirectly hurting the virgin girlfriend by secretly coming to you.He should 'sit her down' and explain to her that his heart is still with you.
.........If he really wants to be with you,he should be truthful to the other lady.
Good luck to you both.
ReplyDeleteNa wa for some mothers oh!
Na wa for una mum, and I see a hint of jealousy in you poster 1. The way you keep referring to what you did for his wedding, and how you will soon be married (by God's grace).
DeleteYes, you're jealous, I just got the conviction in my spirit.
Nonetheless, he's a rude brother and he should watch it o. Igba o lo bi orere (things will not always be the same for everyone)
Mr X
Na real wa for some mothers, the wrongest thing a mother can do is "favouritism" amongst her children,it will cause all d evils among them.
DeletePoster ignore ur mother and her ways,talk to ur elder bro to be calm and matured let him not see his younger bro as an enemy instead as a spoiled kid who needs space to learn. Keep praying and God will ease all.
Poster 2: if he really loves u and hasn't slept with d new boo,then it shouldn't be a problem to leave her. He should sit her down and have a straight talk with her. Love is complicated
My mum acts this way too but my younger bro knows he can't disrespect me. It's my dad that acts exactly like your mum. My dad does not even call those that are not working. My bro is even planning his wedding and they didn't let us know. They even went for intro and didn't tell us. We have left them alone before they'll say it's cos we're not married we don't want him to marry.
Delete@anon 18:10 I can only imagine the pain this will cause. Don't let it bother u
DeleteWhy on eat wil parents show difference between their children, this wil do nothing but cause hatred between them.
Power of money. It's the spirit of money that is controlling your mum and not making her to judge wisely. Make good money and see how you will be your mum's Messiah
DeleteAnon18:10 be very strong. Fight through the pain. Parents are just being parents and humans. They can't love all their kids the same- it's impossible. I pray your breakthrough will come....and I'm sure they'll shower you with love all the same. Best wishes.
DeleteMr X
Some mothers are just like that.. Am experiencing something like that. Best thing to do is to avoid any confrontation of any kind.People will say u are jealous. Just keep doping what you know is right and leave your mother and her son. Time will teach them a lesson.
DeletePoster 1 and anon 18:10 God's delays are not his denials, surely your days of joy, laughter and dancing will come. You shall soon forget your days of sorrow forever. Stay strong and walk in faith
DeleteI am presently going thru the same at home. My mom n my last brother gangs up all the time against me. Ii don't even talk to him anymore n my mom n I live lik strangers now no thanks to our last born fueling every crisis. It's really a long story but I learned to keep mute n ignore.God will do the d best. Amen.
DeleteParents are usually like that, especially some mothers. I went thru something similar too. I used to work and go to Sch in uni to help me and my siblings With pocket money, food in the house, rent etc while we were overseas. I had to come home to serve after Sch but my younger one had a job there and stayed back. You won't believe how my mum treated and spoke to me bcos I wasnt bringing money in anymore and you shld have seen the respect and regard she gave my younger ones. It was so bad, she hit me once, tried to control how I dressed or where I went even tho I was the one responsible for my younger ones while we were abroad and I had always been responsible. You would think I was an indecent dresser but no, she just had a problem with everything I did and tried to control everything including to force me to marry sm1 I ddn't even know. (I think that was her main reason for the sudden meanness) while she treated my younger ones with dignity, respect and consideration. There were too many things and situations to even go into now. My younger ones also started extending that kind of treatment towards me too. It's very hurtful but you need to use that hurt as motivation to make something of yourself. That was exactly what I did and I'm still doing now. I now have a good job and an awesome successful fiance. She respects me and my wishes more now but my siblings sometimes just treat me rudely bcos it had become a norm for them. Sometimes I almost act out towards my mom when I remember how she treated me but I just pull myself out of that mindspace. To God be the glory. You should be thankful if you've always been successful and your siblings and parents respect you because you never know how they would be if that wasn't the case. I was shocked at my own family members.......
DeleteA mother us suppose to protect and nurture her child. Some women can be heartless.
ReplyDeleteck Jacob blog for fiction stories
@poster one.......my mum always say..."When someone insults u with or because of ur problems, know that d solution is just by d corner......cos that will be d end of that problem".....thank him for calling u a spinster....cos without his knowledge, he just brought your husband closer to u..........ignore him and ur mom......in d nearest future, she shall reap what she sowed.....cos he's got it going for him, doesnt make him better......"Aku enweghi be"......wealth has no home.......uwa na atughari atughari.....God's favour just heard ur name as next on its list.....UR TIME IS HERE
DeleteP1, your chronicle favoured you by shifting the whole blames on your mother and brother without taking responsibility for your mistakes. At the risk of sounding rude and insensitive, permit me to say that you're a very unserious person. How could you have remained comfortably unemployed for 10 years? What were you doing all those while? Should I call it laziness and irresponsiblity? Granted that your mother is supposed to caution your brother and call him to order, but what do you expect when its the very last child that she had to wait on to cater for her? What were you and the others doing all along? Let me be honest with you. Everybody wants to be identified with success, so the earlier you start playing your cards right, the better for you. Get up on your ass and stop being a dependant. Work and leave your family house for crying out loud. Finally, stop licking your brother's ass. No matter how much money he has, keep a straight face with him and don't ask him for a dime until he retraces his steps and starts respecting you duely.
DeleteP2, your boyfriend is using you. He doesnt love you. If he does, dumping the other chick will not be a problm for him. He has seen you couldn't find someone better so he's playing on your intelligence. Be smart.
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DeleteWill be back to read!! Una kpele oo
ReplyDeleteI feel u treat ur brother like a baby bcos hes d last born, forgetting dat hes old now. U cant expect to be close to u as before bcos hes married, his wife n family will take up his time.biko free d boy and let him concentrate on building his family
DeleteWill be back to read!! Una kpele oo
ReplyDelete1] My dear I think you should save up some cash from your business and move out! Even if it's just a one room apartment, it's what you need!
DeleteYou need to get away from your family for a while, for your sanity oo. Before you go crazy one day.. Kpele
2] Babes I think it's time to move on, that guy is just eating ur punani for free. He's not in love with you anymore!
But wait lemme ask u oo, is he a ritualist?? What's with him and virgins sef?? Nawa oh my
Crossing my legs...waiting to read comments
ReplyDeletePoster 1 some mothers are like that, they pitch tent where it's rosy. Just keep praying about it and ignore your brother as much as you can one day he'd realize his mistakes. Your mum is also encouraging his behaviour, so it's you against them. I pray God uplifts you far above your imagination.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 your bf like virgins o. Please move on he obviously likes his current gf. He didn't fight hard enough for you two else his parents would have granted his wish of marrying you before now.
It's hard I know but trust me you will be thankful later do not let him see you as an option, you're good enough for another man who will love you better without BUTS.
Stells, Adviser of the year!
ReplyDeleteLet me sit down and read comments
ReplyDeleteWill be back to read comments
ReplyDeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteHow can your younger one respect you when you are not rich and married?...it dosent work aswear...
Biko look for your own house and park out!...
Hian!!...
Poster 2,
How did you know that he has not had sex with someone else?...ohh is that what he told you?...
I laugh!!...
Please give other guys a chance...dude will never marry you...
Forget all those lies he tell you...
Move on biko...and stop putting all your eggs in one basket....
Good advice.
DeleteNarrative 1
ReplyDeleteTo earn Your respect back, forget that you're a lady and go get a house of Your own. Start living alone, call Your family members including Your mum when is necessary, visit when it's necessary, else just ignore Your mum and stay away from Your family members. I tell, absence creates value, scarcity creates value.
Narrative 2.
I'm Speechless on this.
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Confirm!!! My mum alwys told me dat i am nt a child,my younger brother is better. All bcs she married his dad.(my step dad) d day i moved out,it was like a dream. I go to my parenta plce like a visitor now,nd ita better cos theres alot of respect. I stay in a self con nd i av so much peace now. U needto b scarce to be valued. Poster move out asap.
DeletePoster one: that is the power of money. Even if it's a younger sibling that is the richest as far as he hasn't arrived family meetings don't take place. They always wait for his input because he will be the one to disburse the cash and that has gotten to his head. Too bad
ReplyDeleteSorry but that is the norm in Africa. Money talks whether from the youngest they don't ke.
Poster try and heal your heart and ignore. You don't depend on him. Face God and He will settle you. He will give you a husband far richer than your younger brother and set you up in your business that your brothers wife will say: na you be this?
Poster two: snatch him back. Tell him to break up with the Virgin girl after all he never sleep with her. If he doesn't break up now he will never be happy and will cheat on her if they marry.
Smfh@him telling u..He doesn't want to hurt the new girl, cos she is still a virgin and can cook....
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2: MOOOOOOOOVE ON na let this people enjoy their relationship, let the good girl enjoy her boyfriend. on the other hand, this guy may just be using you. He needS to have sex and you are available. The new girl wont allow him have sex with her.
ReplyDeleteThen he marries her and you start crying that he used you.
I think he is telling you what you want to hear cuz he knows you still love him and you will succumb to him. Who moves on just 3 months after a breakup from someone you claim is your true love #YINMU. I am sure he has been on the ladies case before then.
But when he marries her your eyes will open. WHEN WILL LADIES LEARN? Just move on and try to love someone else before you loose all your suitors and end up alone
I tell u...who moves on 3months after??
DeleteI couldnt move on 1 yr after sef.
Ur comment is spot on...he needs her 4 d sex his present gf wont gv him, if he truly wants her, he wld break up with d gf and come and marry her.
GBAM! Very well said @Ambitious Woman. Poster you better advice yourself! Use your hands and hold your ears and speak sense to yourself o. Hear his excuse sef - she's a Virgin and can cook. Is it not him that 'un-virgined' you? Just wait, he'd soon release wedding card. He's sleeping with you cos new go won't let him. Advise yourself oh! I've said my own.
DeletePoster one i can relate cos my mum is just like your mum just because my younger sis married before me she suddenly became her favorite child. When she talks to her and her hubby on the phone its like she worships them but she talks carelessly to the other members of the family and its not like my sister married a millionaire o. I just pray and beg God daily to change my mum's heart. And also perfect what he has started in my life( faith) after countless heartbreaks and marital disappointments but i am still trusting baba God
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteCut him off! No time.
Poster 2
Which one is you haven't had sex & he hasn't too?
Are you guys "Re-Keeping" yourself for each other again?
P2 The guy is in more dilemma than U r.
ReplyDeleteI really pity him!!!
Help him get through this phase if he's truly sincere about bein with U.
What happens to the virgin gal???
Tough decision!!!
Poster one leave your brother alone, it's not by force to be close. If he doesn't want to respect you, you can't force him
ReplyDeleteLive your life and ignore him
Poster 2; he wants to fuck and leave you or keep you on as a mistress while being married to his tribal virgin wonderful cook babe. If you like stay and remain sloopy seconds.
Low self esteem women everyday
@1,Some mothers are demons, can't deal abeg, like Stella rightly said mind ur bizness and forget abt ur brother and ur mum.
ReplyDelete2, tell ur ex to call off d relationship with his girl friend if he really likes her cos, d worst thing dat can happen to a man is to marry out of pity.
Angel ray for Sdk, how many times do you hear of cases where men marry out of pity? It's only women who do such nonsense. P2's ex knows what he is doing. He eating his cake and having it cos P2 is drunk in love. Since when did breaking up become so hard for guys? Guys that can move on so easily like he ddid after breaking up with P2. Poster dear, oge does not wait fofor anyone. Cut your losses and move on before all your suitors leave you on the shelf. Pray about it, cut off all communication with him and open your heart to other serious guys.
DeletePoster 1: please don't stop trying to make it work o, remember u r d first child and if ur mother passes on today, u wld be their mother nd if there is rift amongst u now it wld ve gone out of hand by then. So please it can be discouraging bt don't stop trying to mend things just do it in a more peaceful way.
ReplyDeletePs 11:3 if the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do...
God help and guide u right.
Poster 2: I would ve tot u were me at the start of ur story bt the tribe thing confirmed it wasn't me. I advice you to stop hanging around him and allowing him to hurt his current babe by meeting you secretly.
IMO, if he really wanted you, he wld stand up for you when his family disagreed at first... we r now in a civilised era babe, back when was such stories acceptable.. now it's greatly reduced.
Goodluck in finding a love
Poster 1 - You & your siblins should mind your business & ignore your younger brother (it looks as if its the small change that he has that is giving him life) . If your Father is still alive, he should intervene in the issue but as of now give him a wide berth, pack out of the house (there is nothing as dignifying as that) & always show your mother her due respect.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- if your man claims he is that crazy about you the he should have severed the r/ship with his gf a long time ago since the coast is now clear for you guys to start your marriage rites & the fact that its still an issue means that he's taking you for a ride. Wise up now before you spend 3year as a side chick without knowing it.
Stella, to you words of advice for the two posters, I say I concur gbam.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 pls mind ur business..ur mum is just making matters worse..keep praying and continue ur handwoek and God ll see u tru..stop calling him and anytime he comes around DO NOT try to settle anything...
ReplyDeletePoster 2 ow r u sure he hasnt slept with d bae?will he tell u? If he rily wants you he ll look for a way around with quitting the relationship with the gal...just b patient but alert. God help u too
Yimu raised to power 2, who says he hasn't had sex with his current GF, u knw the truth, u jst don't want to admit it to urself, you better withdraw ur heart & gv it to the right man, right now he has a strong hold of u, if u don't forcefully let go, u'd continue to be his side chick, cus that's wat u are right now.... Trust me as a man that hv double dated n picked my favorite, I must tell u if h really wants u evn boko haram wld nt prevent him frm coming to meet u in chibok.
ReplyDeleteLooool so funny. U cracked me up big time
DeletePoster 1, Stella just hit the nail on the head, its high time you started minding your business. Put your lil bro in a non existence list, ignore him as much as you can, don't keep malice ooo. You know that kind, i see you but i cannot be bothered.as for your mom, don't bother discussing it with her, since she has made up her mind that you are jealous. God will definitely open doors for you and bless you with a man after your heart very soon in Jesus name.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, your boyfriend should sit the babe down and just speak the truth, its better than for her to find out. he obviously cannot marry that babe because he will be unhappy. Best of Luck.
Poster 2: You are a side chick!!!!!!! He is coming to you for free sex cos the woman that is good enuf to marry is saving herself. You are only good for fucking but not good for marriage. Move the fuck on!!!!!!!! Get on with your life. If he can do the world for you , he would be with you damning all consequences. Move the fuck on sister.
ReplyDeletePoster one na see finish syndrome they worry your mum. Im sure your other brothers are still living at home too? Your younger brother is getting 'respect' from your mom because he is seemingly the matured one. If you can, please move out of the house.
POSTER ONE, That is just how this life is. At ur age u shld even know this. Every1 wants to associate with whoever is successful and making it, even parents/siblings same thing.
ReplyDeleteIf tomorrow you become a governors wife, its dis ur same broda that doesn't call u, will be visiting ur house daily. Calling you sista dis, sista dat. Even ur mum will claim room in state house.
I know its difficult, but pls overlook this. its life,just ignore and concentrate on making urself better and praying for ur own spouse, so u get ur own home and move out. My sista ignore them. You no get choice, afterall u cant afford ur own place.
It was when I resigned my job and was jobless for abt 9mths, I saw hell in d uncle's house I was staying. I became a nuisance dere, dey wld accuse me of all things, weda its iv eaten too much, am lazy etc. This is me that back then wen I was workn I earned like 250k monthly, I don't even see them. I enter d house 8/9pm. But soon as I became jobless, problem start. Dey just see u hanging around in d house all day, and disrespect enter am.
Luckily I got anoda job after 9mths and I moved out.
JESUS fix it in Emjay's voice.
ReplyDeleteGive a good advice and leave emjay alone. Lolz
DeletePoster 1, pay a deaf ear or blind eyes to him and your mother. Anything that consigns them don't put ur mouth. Just keep prayer God will answer ur prayers and u will av ur own failmy soon.God bless u.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 , just like wat Stella said , advice ur ex to sit his present gf down and talk to her, am sure she will understand. Goodluck
Concerns... thank me now.
DeleteLol
DeleteSOME MOTHERS ARE LYK DS...WAT NOLLY SHOWS SOMETYMS IS HW SME FAMILIES ARE..D GUY GET UR MUM RESPECT CUX HES WRKIN N NOT STYIN IN HER HOUSE, ONCE U GET A JOB OR A GUD HUSBY NOW U WIL C HW UR MUM WIL CARRI U LYK EGG REMYNDIN U DTU R HER ONLY DAUGHTA...I UNDERSTND UR PLIGHT BABE AND PRAY GOD TO VISIT U AND UR OTHER SIBLINGS TOO..UR LAST BROTHER SHUD BE KFULL SO HE DOESNT REGRET TOMOROW OR WEN DE TABLE IS TURNED...NARATIVE TWO IF UR PARENT WILL ACPT HIM, LET HIM COM DO DE NIDFUL N U KNW U GUYS ARE ABT TO SETTLE..HE SHUD TOLD DE OTHER BABE WAT HE FEELS DE EARLIER DE BETTER..WSH U BOTH LUCK.....TOMJERRYSWIT
ReplyDeleteLol...take am easy. It's free to comment, this one you're shortening every word like you're paying for the space
DeletePoster 1,nne sorry.I felt ur pain reading ur narrative.
ReplyDeleteIf u ask me,as it is now,I don't think dere is anything u can do to change d way ur brother is.
Reading from u,u come across as respectful n calm.
People are born to be respectful.Buh some are not! Cha cha.and infact talking to dem is like pouring water on stone.dey just don't get it!
U can't do anything about it.just pray and ignore his rudeness.ur mom knows what she is doing.and her behaviour wil come back to bite her.
Ignore,ignore and ignore.u and ur Oda sibs.
Dere is dis prayer dAt I love...
May GoD grant me d courage to change things I can.and d serenity to accept things I cannot.
Poster 2,dis Ya boyfriend dikwa nwa cunny and funny if u ask me.
Shebi he said he loves u.
his folks have given him d go-ahead.
he hasn't slept wit d Oda girl.meaning dat her "person" hasn't bn compromised.
yea she is a good girl and so are u.
he didn't promise her marriage.
they are just dating.
AnD u are STILL free and STILL in love wit him.
SO WOT IS KEEPING HIM FROM BEING WIT U??
Read above very well once more and slowly dis time around and u wil see dAt dAt Ya boyfriend DI nno nwa cunny.
Mr Man looks like he has gotten over u o.
I might be wrong though buh nne shine yr eyes.
Talkative biatch
DeleteEka joy respect yourself, last warning.
DeleteNarrator 1 .. Feel your pain. That was how our late former landlady when i was staying in Ajegunle some 17 years ago did to her children. The one that has money pass is her friend and confidant and the one that dont have money, she will hate them and cause enmity between all of them. The children were in enmity even after her death.
ReplyDeleteJust being yourself and go for deliverance since everyone keep saying you have a glorius star. i hope no one is using your star to shine. Ask your mama oo.
Poster 2.. i did not read because it was too long and boring to me. God will help you all.
THELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeletePoster1--your brother is being cocky,y'all should ignore him,its like he has forgotten the days of humble beginning so soon,as for your mum,she's tryna be an 'OBIOMA' in the eyes of your younger brother,y'al should face your lives and share love amongst yourselves...may God satisfy you poster.
Poster2--enough of the xcuse on his behalf poster,if he truly loves you,then let him break up with new babe,its as simple as that,hope your bobo nor wan play mario on you oO..
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
THELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeletePoster1--your brother is being cocky,y'all should ignore him,its like he has forgotten the days of humble beginning so soon,as for your mum,she's tryna be an 'OBIOMA' in the eyes of your younger brother,y'al should face your lives and share love amongst yourselves...may God satisfy you poster.
Poster2--enough of the xcuse on his behalf poster,if he truly loves you,then let him break up with new babe,its as simple as that,hope your bobo nor wan play mario on you oO..
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
THELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeletePoster1--your brother is being cocky,y'all should ignore him,its like he has forgotten the days of humble beginning so soon,as for your mum,she's tryna be an 'OBIOMA' in the eyes of your younger brother,y'al should face your lives and share love amongst yourselves...may God satisfy you poster.
Poster2--enough of the xcuse on his behalf poster,if he truly loves you,then let him break up with new babe,its as simple as that,hope your bobo nor wan play mario on you oO..
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
I"m tired of reading your thesame comment three times can you reset your phone please?
Delete1. The best way to conquer all these rifts is being successful and minding your business, trust me. Don't force your opinion on your mum. Let things roll and your mum and bro will come around. I believe she's taking sides because he's the only one doing very well which isn't nice at all. Some mothers sef!
ReplyDelete2. He should talk to his new girlfriend if he really wants to be with you but from all you've said, its like he'll still keep going back to her after settling issues with you. Will you be able to trust him that he will leave his girlfriend completely?
Poster1.if am your senior bro i will beat hell out of him,Nonsence!!!
ReplyDeleteWhy disrespecting your seniors because you now have a good job or you got married first
Mtcheeeeeew
Poster2.call the virgin girl on phone
Let her know what's going on
Kelvin, so poster2 should call d virgin girl on phone kwa!!!
DeleteDear poster2 if dat guy still loves u as he claim,he would leave d other lady without giving u excuses
She has absolutely no business with the other girl, its his job not hers. In my view he prefers the other gal because I don't see a problem here.
DeleteIgnore the hell out of your brother and his wife. Face your means of livelihood. It's normal for respect to be given to the one who provides sha but your mum should learns to strike a balance. U don't need anyone's respect, at least u don't need to struggle for it. Poster 2, please do you have a job, something that keeps you active and financially stable, if yes...please face it. As far as I'm concerned the guy is the lucky one here. If good food is all it takes for him to marry someone else, please face your life. Food? Jesus.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: lol@ he hasn't had sex with his GF, clap 4 urself.. Like u planted a hiden cam in his apartment, he shld break up with his present GF for starters if he really wnts u back, till then cut all forms of communication & build a new r/shp, he's eating his cake & having it.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Concentrate on getn married and leaving that house.
Every mallam with him kettle.
ReplyDeleteI have my own problems to solve so I have no advice for you posters. From the bottom of my heart I say SORRY!
Otele obene lol!
DeleteLmao This Lepa na case oh u have your own problem?
DeleteSome mothers
ReplyDeleteLmao... this lady is just epic. Lool
DeleteOn both issues, I'm with stella's opinion!
ReplyDeletePoster 1.
ReplyDeleteSiblings rivalry is as old as cain and abel. I don't know why your mother is treating you that she carried for 9 months this way, but why? I think you should move out of the house asap.
Narrative One.
ReplyDeleteAll I can say to you is keep trusting God. I was once in your shoes, I was jobless, but my younger brother had a good job. My dad would call for family meeting and ask me not to be involved cos i didn't have a job and wouldn't contribute in any way. My brother was so disrespectful to me, sometimes i would hide in the bathroom just to cry.
I kept praying and believing God and he answered me. I now have a good Job, married, and have my own car. My dad now associates himself with me and says my brother is too arrogant and selfish. Lol. That's parents for you, they always want to associate with the successful one, which is very wrong.
Poster 1, the first step to earning respect from your mum and brother is by moving out of your Parents house. How can you still be living with them? Trust me, your problem isn't that you are yet to get married, you just don't command respect!
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ReplyDeletePoster 1.
I can feel your pain and could view your mind from the heart of the spirit that you mean well for the family but you are not privileged to show it due to your financial and marital status.
My advice for you is to leave your parents' house. Struggle to make money through your business, etc and discuss less about any family member especially your mum and your last born brother.
Familiarity breeds contempt is an old saying and it is very true. When God blesses you, your mum will beg you and explain the whole thing to you.
Finally, you need to pray more. Your mum might have some spiritual understanding about the lives of all the children she gave birth to ie she might know who will be most successful, the most powerful, etc among you through her spiritual background checks and that may be influencing her way of behaving unknown to her, however, if you can pray very well-just like Jabez in the bible whose mum called a child of sorrow, God can make you the most successful because He can do all things.
Poster 2.
ReplyDeleteYou're living in lala land. You've not gotten over him because you don't want to. Why is he still with her and still seeing you? I can't deal.
Why didn't he stay and fight back then? Use your tongue to count your teeth.. Nobody, I repeat nobody is indispensable!!
Poster 1 - I empathise with you. You are in a delicate situation but sometimes things dont go the way they ought to. Any further discussions or family meetings to talk sense into your mother and/or brother will still be viewed as you doing it out of jealousy. As painful as it is, some relationships never stay the same as they once were (and i am referring to when you guys were growing up). No one can force a sane adult to be respectful. Please avoid those discussions that stir up arguments whilst being cordial. The respect he has refused to accord to his older ones cannot be bought in the market but neither can it add a job or husband to you or buy fish in the market. Please concentrate on yourself - your handiwork, getting a job, getting married, generally progressing... Hopefully, mom and bros will learn that no condition is permanent as God lifts you up.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - A yoruba adage says 'ni gbawo ni ma'iku o ni ku' meaning when will entreaties of 'dont die' not end with death'. Whether your first love tells her now or she finds out in 5 yrs time that he is cheating on her, the end point is that she will get to know and will be hurt. You and 'first love' are already hurting the girlfriend sef by wasting her time. He should tell her already. Even if he marries her, he will still cheat on her with you. He should beg for her forgiveness and let her move on.
Dude found himself a new gf only 3 months after they broke up ooooo...The other girl has always been in the picture...Dude just wants to disvirgin another virgin..abeg...Girl, move on..The guy only wants u for sex
DeletePoster 1, free your brother and give him space, scarcity brings respect
ReplyDeletePoster 2, he should break up with his babe only if you guys are ready to get married, life goes on
Poster2 u said he doesn't want to hurt the Virgin girl abi? but he wants to keep you as a side chic, be deceiving ur self with I love him, he loves me abeg he should stand like a man and make a decision I hate men dt r indecisive.
ReplyDeleteimagine
ReplyDelete#GODWIN™
@narrator no1,with prayer,God will unit your family back
ReplyDeleteJust be patience,pray more and be good to all.
Poster 1, Ur mum is mean and wicked. No matter what, she should never tell u that u are jealous of Ur own brother. Where do these kind of mothers come from sef. Very wicked heartless thing.
ReplyDeletePoster, if u have a little money, leave dat house for her cos personally I'd rather stay in a face me I slap u than collect such insult from my younger ones. Ignore Ur younger brother totally until he realises d folly of his ways and come to apologise.
Keep quiet talkative.
DeleteI know a young girl who already acts like your mum. Blinded by material possessions.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, take Stella's advice and mind ur business. Keep working hard and praying to God to show you mercy.
I don't know, but I see d tables turning in your family. Leave your brother alone. No more meetings. Be nice to him when you see him but still maintain your role as d eldest amongst ur siblings.
My dad trained 7 of his younger ones to the detriment of us his children and even my mum his wife. When they graduated and got good placements and my dad's company crumbled, they insulted and neglected us.
But today, they can't look us in d face. Tables have turned no matter how long it took for them to, they eventually did. Now they are trying to rebuild relationships after about 20 years. No joke with this life oh!
Ignore your brother. He will learn. Just remember him in ur prayers and the rest of you continue working hard.
Poster 2- biko can u ppl get married already? What's all this suffering? Thankfully he hasn't slept with the virgin girl. She can be apologised to I'm sure she will forgive.
He simply wants to fuck poster.2. His girlfriend no dey gree fuck he needs someone to give him sex till she is ready. Sadly many low self esteem women won't see through his bullshiot
DeleteGbam@Anon 16:56
DeleteNarrative No 1.
ReplyDeleteThe issue here is nt becos u re nt working but becos he got married be4 u. This kind of issue in ur family is common among frnds, they see their self as the superior ones cos they re now married but hearing this exist among siblings it's strange. Just like what stella had said be minding ur own business, when it comes to his issue don't ever contribute to it, even wen he is around be in ur room, they should be d ones to come look for u inside to say hi nd make sure to be answering them very politely ,nd continue whatever u re doing inside. As for ur mum, most mothers re just like dat, very very partial. My sister keep praying to God for ur own life partner becos wen one is due for marriage and still eats from mom's pot, this are some of d few insults one gets. So one thing I believe ,nothing its impossible in d hands of God. Also learn to encourage yourself dats what u need in life at this ur trying time and don't let ur kid broda issue be a prob to u. Be ignoring them and focus more on urself on how to be a more better person in life and to get ur own life partner . Stay well and be bless
Poster 1, I will advice u let him be and avoid anything dat will bring discussion about him and his wife , he will surely come around when the time is ripe . Poster 2, is he trying to say dat " u don't cook very well" if I were u I will park my laod and go . Just after three months he found someone and u still believe all the I can't do without u pls wake up . Babe na one chance u dey enter so ohhhhhhh
ReplyDeletePoster 1: don't involve urself with anything that has to do with him. What I means is dat, just avoid confronting him. Do what u think is right and don't confront him. Let him be. With time, he'll come to his senses.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: that guy will not marry u, sorry to say. He will 'chop and clean mouth'. Forget about him. Let him go and meet his fiancee and channel ur energy into finding the right one for u
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteHmmm...that kind mama, it is obvious that her belly is her 'god'. She loves money and will show love to the child that can provide for her. She does not deserve to be called a mother. My dear poster, God will open a book of rememberance concerning you, He will wipe your tears away and answer your prayers.
But you need to be very prayerful - pray for a good job and financial empowerment. If you have enough money, move out of the house for peace of mind. Atleast if husband no dey, you can still be happy. Marriage is not a solution o so don't jump into a relationship to escape your issues at home. when you are happy and it radiates, it will attract good men/women.
And I pray for you today that the Lord who has made you will be the head and not the tail and God will give you that which will make you to be respected in your name. Pele!
Poster 1 na inferiority complex dey worry you and your brothers, how can your younger brother be treating the whole family like that, dont you know what it means for someone to mind his/her business. You guys should respect yourselves and get busy, show him and your mum I dont care attitude. You complained of him not calling you on phone as before, u dey craze, what are you doing with his call, you guys gave him that hand that is why he is feeling so important. Respect yourself and age that is what I have to say.
ReplyDelete#2-" his current girlfriend, he doesn't want to hurt the girl because he claims the girl is a good girl and she's still a virgin and can cook well but his heart is still with me."
ReplyDeleteHow do you know that he hasn't touched her? You better wake up and be serious with yourself.
Like what Sterra said, he can sit the current gf down and end it if he really wanna be with you.
Lastly, be hoping until you'll see an IV then your eyes will clear.
#1- All these years no job and you expect your mum to respect you? Some mothers are like that too but if you travelled or got a job in another state, she'd change. Your mama never dey see coins for your side that's why. Go for deliverance and be prayerful
Poster 1 -respect is reciprocal.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - no comment
Poster 1 u ned to leave your parents house asap.
ReplyDeleteCheck my blog pls.
Poster 1, mind your business. Give that rude younger brother of yours some distance. Ignore whatever he says or does, don't allow it get to you. Very soon all these would stop and start working towards getting a place of your own so your mum can give you some respect.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, Be wise and don't be too trusting and avoid putting all your eggs in one basket. Your else has another option,his current girlfriend. So my dear be wise. He loves you (so you said) but reluctant to break up with his current girlfriend, claiming she's a virgin and cooks well. Like for real! Girl, the dude is yet to choose any of you. He's just playing mind games with you knowing well women are emotional beings (well,am not). So, you have to brace up (not easy I know), get to meet and possibly date other people while He makes up his mind on who he wants. You should show commitment only when he has broken up with his current girlfriend with proofs so you don't become a side Chic that would be dumped a second time.
*Ex
DeletePoster 1: U need to get yourself a place and move out. That's the surest way to get your mum to start valuing you. Then you guys should give that brother of yours space until he starts realising hos mistakes. Not saying keep malice but give him space. Hello, hi, how are you doing, etc. Nothing deep. Your mum will come around when things get better with you people that's a sad truth.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 : If his parents have freed him like he said, he should break it off with the girl she will get over him. She is a virgin right? Good. If not you will end up being the big time loser in all of this.
Gbam on poster 2:stella.spot on.
ReplyDeleteOmo see gobe Chronicles
ReplyDeletePoster1: Your mama is d cause of every damn thing, just talk to ur other siblings nd make u guys leave mama's boy alone. Your mum nd him will soon understand dats if is not too late for them.
Poster2: lover girl pele, love is not an easy thing, if truly d dude loves u has u said den telling d Virgin girl should not be an issue. You better be sure on time b4 wasting ur precious time. Pele
Poster 1, please try and face ur business like stella said. No confrontations. And also see if u can move out. I don't know how but stand on your own so that this insult will be reduced. Stay away from them and confrontations. Focus on u and prayers abegi! They are distractions. Goodluck and sorry about ur family. God will do it for u.
ReplyDelete@poster 2. Please stop sneaking around. Tell him exactly what stella has said. Break up with her or I walk. My dear, it's not easy I know but to get what u want in this life, u have to be assertive. No blurred lines. Just give it to him straight up!! Nothing good will come from this sneaking around. Unpleasant things happen to good people but for a good reason. The girl will get over it and find someone deserving of her. Goodluck!
@poster 1.. Stella has given u d best advice dere is. so mind ur biz and keep praying for him.
ReplyDelete@poster 2.. if a guy wants to be with u, he wouldn't make excuses, get over him already. if he is not making commitments, then he doesn't want u. stop having secret meetings with him. if he is serz abt u, let him prove it. if he can't leave d "good gal" now, what make u tink he will do that later. #shineUrEye gal
walk away and find urself a better man.
Poster 1, make una tie that smallie, beat am well well, make e know say people senior am... Poster 2, I'm suspecting this ur ex's new gf is rich, coz I see no reason why he shudnt end d relationship wiv her and come back to u,
ReplyDeletePoster 2: stop making a fool of urself,if d guy truly loves u lik he claims he should let go his new girlfriend since dey v never had sex before, considering d fact Dat he deflowered u.i see him trying to use to satisfy his seal desires and at d end he's gonna tell u he doesn't wna hurt his new girl.would strongly advice u to stop being a side chick to him.Be wise.all ds nonsense love stories sef!i tire.@ poster 1:as we all know money is d root of all evil.face Ur job lik Stella adviced nd pray to God to Giv u back Ur position as d eldest in d family.it is well with u ijn.
ReplyDeleteP1,
ReplyDeleteYou people should leave him alone
Ignore him
He is behaving like this cos he now has a resident pu**y. When he encounters any problem,he will crawl back home.
Were you born a learner?
ReplyDeleteGet over your ex-boyfriend
He is traveling all the way to Jupiter because he is sex starved and you are an easy access...remember Okafor's law. He will not leave that girl.
He is telling you all that just to sleep with you while he is still with his girfriend.
How can you turn yourself from the main chick to the side-chic?
Why cant girls get over their ex? Why cant they move on? Move on with your life, nobody cares, your ex dont care, the world dont care if you have slept with anyone since you left your ex(Punnai has no mileage).
Move on.
Don't allow that man to dump you the second time.
Poster 1...God will dry your tears In Jesus Name, Amen.
XOXO MYSTERY
I love you xoxo mystery..I always look forward to you comments,always filled with humor and at the same time intelligent..
DeletePoster 1; The problem with your brother is called "deceitfulness of riches"; Look at the Jesus parable of the sower! Imagine if that boy should simply lose his "good job", become broke and cannot afford daily bread anymore etc. He will just become humble and behave. There is nothing God cannot do; seek him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Please let me ask a question; how much is "virginity" worth? Yes 'cos the rate at which girls give up this thing is alarming. He has moved on (doesn't want to hurt the other lady and you're the "secret date"), you have not moved on due to the "ladies' open leg syndrome". Both of you should come clean.
P2,he's not having sex with the other girl,right? Dey there. This guy you are dying for,is he that good in bed n rich?.
ReplyDeleteDoes he respect you?.
If he wants you badly,he should discharge the other virgin n be with you.
Don't mind that Learner.
DeleteThe poster 1 is so sad, dats. Wat parents du and when they start making money siblings act very funny, av exprienced all dat, and even my inlaws av all dat shit running in their family, my dear you old enuf, gather money and get your own place, it would give u d respect u want and peace, I no how you feel, leave ur youngest sibling alone, e go clear from him eye soon, I hope d wife isn't part of d rubbish, as for d mum sorry about dat she wld regret later. Pele be strong. Hang on. To God
ReplyDeleteAs for Poster 2: dat tin Love eehn no get shame, tell ur bae to settle wit d virgin girl, and free her, pls put all ur decisions b4 God oh! All d best
Am out
Poster 1, your mom's character is not uncommon. I have woken up crying everyday since the last phonecall I received from my mother last week.
ReplyDeleteMy mother is a chronic nag who can never say anything to encourage me. I had a good banking job and travelled out for my masters hoping to get a better job when I come back to Nigeria. This was a very bad decision because since I came back, I have never gotten a good job offer. I even have to beg relatives to pay rent. I can't afford to even change clothes and I hop buses.
My mother has never stopped to ridicule me at every opportunity she gets. I stopped calling and picking her calls whether good or bad. She now found a way to call me using my sister's phone and was even comparing me with my sister's househelps whilst pretending she was advising me.
She never asks if I have any jobe prospects. She never asks about the outcome of any interviews if I have any. She is never bothered if I am unable to pay my debts or even feed. She only nags and claims she prays for me.
I sometimes look at people who are craZy about mothers day celebrations and wonder what all the fuss is about. Even my friend's mums call me and pray for me but my mother's call is a catalyst for me wishing I was never born.
I'm done deceiving myself that I have a mother cos honestly speaking, I don't.
I just wish my father was still alive.
Eyaaa..
DeleteCHAI.....
Deletenne m it's well.
Just be strong.
This too shall pass.ok?
Choi
DeleteHmmmmm. You will be fine.
DeleteOuch! E-hugs. All would be well in due time sweetie.
DeleteAwwww that's bad, how about telling your mum how u really feel about her attitude towards u, its better out than in u know. sit her down and talk to her like she's your friend period. Don't suffer in silence
DeleteMy dear,
DeleteMy Mother is the same way and even worse. But guess what? When it was getting out of hand, I had to cut her off and severe all relations with her. Not all of us will enjoy our mother. I cannot die on top say I get Mama... Did I also add I am doing better since the severance?
@ Optimistn please forget it.
DeleteMy mother doesn't 'do' friendship. She only accepts friends from her children who are successful and who don't tell her the truth about her attitude.
Favoritism is her middle name.
@ Anonymous at 20:02, I have stopped calling and taking her calls long ago but she will still find a way to get me and spew her evil talks/daggers.
She knows I won't pick her calls that's why she used my sister's phone to call me.
If I avoid her wahalla. If I don't, wahalla.
Wow!!! Nobody deserves this. Take heart dear... I know how you feel, because when she unleashes she makes you feel miserable and like a failure and that can ruin your week and self esteem. Please avoid her at all cost, nobody should make you miserable.
DeleteHugs.
Hmmm.
ReplyDeleteThese chronicles are gbengen.
My Advice to 2nd poster, let you ex read the comments/advice from your chronicles if you think he wouldn't take offences so that he can realize that he does not have to hurt the other girl to please you even though he loves you. He should explain to her now before its too late and u are being tagged a boyfriend snatcher and things get worse.
Poster 1
You should pray about this seriously. Firstly for yourself, cos as soon as you leave the house, get fixed and start living comfortably, you do not need to demand for respect from your younger brother, situation will make him succumb and respect you and same to your mum.
All the best posters
Poster 2 wat i think is yeah he loves u, but not enough to leave his gf.. hmmm trust me that guy is lying if he wants his gf of 6 years back he can without sweating it. He'll be eating your cake until he invites u to his wedding... ive seen this happen to about 3 friends. . Please let him go..speak sense to urself no one is indisposable. Cheers
ReplyDeletePoster one: keep to yourself, learn to leave people who don't wanna associate with you, your brother clearly doesn't respect you so ignore him....let him go! you just focus on being successful.
ReplyDeletePoster two: if the guy really loves you he should be honest with the other babe.
N1, leave your youngest brother alone.
ReplyDeleteIt's not by force.
Haba. It's when you show people how important they are that they start messing up.
Put them at arm's length, then they appreciate you more.
N2, if he really loves you, he will do everything to be with you. Virgin girlfriend or not.
Nawa.....abeg stella gimme pop corn
ReplyDeletePoster 1 your mom's case is favouritism..and she's handling it badly..free ur brother for some time..most family ish have a way of sorting themselves out..no need to call family meeting jare
ReplyDeletePoster 2,your guy just dey shine your congo..he's never gonna break up with that girl. Instead na wedding IV you go see..she's a good cook and virgin my flat ass..he's just telling you that rubbish cos he wants you to feel sorry for the girl..so that u no go too ginger am to break up with her..some girls dey sabi mumu sha..you're slowly becoming a side chick
N1, stay on ur own. Mind ur biz n ur respect will return back to u. N2, move on bc d guy av. Don't listen to all his rubbishes bc dia is no big deal in cutting ties with someone u haven't slept with.
ReplyDelete@poster1 : sorry to say,your mum is a not a good woman.
ReplyDeleteWhat she respect is the money.......the fact dat he is doing well and also married.
Hope she can be able to quench the fire when it gets out of hand.
You mum doesn't respect you cause you still live with her,not bringing enuf money n also not yet.
married
If you can afford to move out, please do n stop communications between you n your last brother.
@poster2 : move on biko......look at the excuse he gave you.
If he truly want to be with you again, he won't yarn dust.
Hmmm
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, if you know you have tribalistic parents, and you can't make them see reason or disobey them, avoid dating people from other tribes,to avoid stories like this.
Poster one,y'all should leave him be.
Perhaps, his wife is a contributing factor,since you said he changed after his wedding. Perhaps not.
Just mind your business, and hopefully, you'll be concentrated enough to know when the right man comes along.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster 2-Your boyfriend is looking for free sex. What does he mean she cooks well and is good but he loves you and can't be with you. Please be sensible and do not sleep with him before you enter the never ending cycle of side chic dome.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,please take your mind off family issues and focus on yourself,you are not living your life,you more concerned about family than about you,if you can afford to move out please do,but if you can't try as much as possible to engage yourself,my mum did this to me also but it wasn't until when I started dropping money that she gave me my respect,so please concentrate on other thing not family issues
ReplyDeleteP1-i think you should ignore ur mum...focus on empowering yourself both financially and spiritually.
ReplyDeleteP2- I know that deep down in your mind you know the way forward.
Poster 1. I feel you. It's tooooo bad, what your mum is doing.
ReplyDeleteBefore I got married, I bank rolled my mum and dad. Even after I got married I continued bank rolling them
Then the kids came along. 1,2,3 ... It was no longer convenient to keep my job, so I quit.
Hubby doing well, taking good care of us, my kids and I lack nothing.
But, I could no longer bank roll, the way I used to. We still settle them very well, money wise but not the way I used to ..
You should see my mum's attitude towards me now .... Unbelievable.
I just ignored her drama and faced my family, one time.
My advice? MOVE OUT! and Ignore your childish brother !
Poster one.... Your solution lies in you. Get out of that house. Go rent your private place. God help u.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, the first step to earning respect from your mum and brother is by moving out of your Parents house. How can you still be living with them? Trust me, your problem isn't that you are yet to get married, your personality just doesn't command respect!
ReplyDeletePoster 1; If U have money to get apartment of your own just move out and mind own business, the best you could do is to pray that God should enlighten your mum so she she can stop what she is doing right now, as long long as you,ve come of age and you still eats from your mother's pot without a husband, just move out of the house God will definetly sort you out.
ReplyDeletePoster 2; Just move on and forget about your ex if he wanted you he would have fought for you, love is not enough sometimes give someone else a chance biko.
Narrative 1- I understand what you are going through. I will be 42 in August and a first born not married.i want you to know that it will be well.As it is I work in the banking industry where I have been on a level for 8 yrs . Before I got this job ,I was at home girl 7 yrs after graduation .it us a tough world .My junior sister that I am eight years older an was very mean to me but I kept holding on. Eventually I got a bank Job and even went to LBS that is after qualifying as a chartered accountant.
ReplyDeleteThe story is plenty but what I want you to do is to ignore him and your mother .A time will come and he will be so sorry for all he is doing at the moment. I am not yet there but you will not believe all that I have gotten through the help of God. Very soon ,God will do proper rearrangement.
Chai!.,,
Delete42 years?....
Try born pikin nau...atleast you won't be bored during old age...
You think is easy like that? People just spew any how...
DeleteQueen and boss...that wasn't necessary abeg!!!
DeleteHonestly she didn't have to, Its ppl like her that make others frustrated over their situation
DeleteAnonymous at 18:01, you have lifted my spirit with your testimony. I pray God also hears my cry for employment and remembers me for the sake of His son Jesus Christ. I am just tired of living from hand-to-mouth compiled with insults from my mother.
DeletePoster 1, God has seen ur tears and am sure He will help u but help ursef by moving out if u can afford it.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: shey Na like this u go de dey? Loool. #MainChicTurnedSideChicRealQuick#
Oooooooooh my...!
ReplyDelete@ poster 2
Oya slap urself twice cos u are a real mumu
Ennnh he loves me bt doesn't want to hurt d virgin girl blah blah blah....
Who told u dat he loves u?
Don't u know dat love doesn't hurt?
Which simply means he truly loves d other lady that is d real reason why he can not leave her.
(B4 I open my eyes shey u don run, or u want to b his sex tool abi?)
poster 1:these kind of things happen in most families. Mothers being blinded by material things and using it to disintegrate their families but for now,you cant change the situation.Only time will do that by humbling your brother and by showing your mother the damage she has created in her home.Move on with your life.Face your work and look for another apartment.Play your role by making sure that others do not get entangled in this web to reduce future damage and pray for your mother to see the harm she is doing in her family.All the best
ReplyDelete@poster 1 if u are financially capable move out and live on your own. Remain positive.
ReplyDelete@poster 2 Hmmm gal u r damn toooooo naive, he said she is a virgin, so where u when u met him, he said she can cook, is he indirectly sayin u can't cook? Lol . So she goes to his house to cook ( I am assuming )and he hasn't slept with her, don't u think the problem is he has slept with and doesn't k ow how to now tell her he is no longer interested, it should be easy for him to break up with her if at all he hasn't slept with and he loves u as much as he claims. Its shocking to me that he was able to move on just 3 months after u broke up. Gal use ur head to think not ur heart. My advice is close ur legs meaning no more sex, give him an ultimatum, Yes I mean that, if he doesn't do anytin forget the sweet talk and move on. I know when a gal gives her virginity to a guy she would want the relationship time work by all means, well gal not all do, than for u to be used, walk out. Its hard but u can,get a new boo it wil help u move on but u have decide that. don't be a learner biko
My point exactly, I think its actually her that he doesn't know how to tell its over cause he doesn't want to hurt her. Close ur Legs babe.
DeletePoster 1.... please cut your brother off completely.. he is a fool.. God blessed him with a good job to enlarge the family but today he is feeling like God.. ordinary employee not that he is the owner of the company. NONSENSE.. How many years working experience does he have in the company? less than 6 years i suppose... there are people in that same company with 30 years working experience with better pay and yet humble.... stop saying that you tried for him at his wedding. its your duty to do that..family helps each other.... cut him offffff..if i were you i will start by deleting his number and next avoid going to anywhere he will be present. God nor dey sleep. He will crown your effort and whatever your brother feels he has will be worthless to you.. pls trust only God
ReplyDeletePoster 2... you need a slap to reset your brain.. you want to be a side chick.. devil clap for yourself...
Poster 2: I don't know why everybody is typing plenty. Your matter is very simple.
ReplyDeleteOne day just casually mention to mr X that you are celibate and you are saving yourself till your wedding night. And watch him vanish into thin air.
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ReplyDeletethere are 2 kinds of family the one You have no choice in making and the one you have a choice. However God gave you both. Painful as it may be you need to remove yourself from caustic environments. Life is too short to have rude people around you in your inner circle. Put them on the our circle. Take my advise. You will be happier for it.
Babe jst relax God dey,I know exactly how u feel. I be orphan I had 2 stay wiv pple so I knw exactly d way it,my aunt use 2 threaten me so much on how she will kick me out,I did all d useless jobs in the house, it got 2 a time my back bone shifted due 2 carrying heavy loads,I dey do some small jobs on my own, dem go still dey jealous d small money again, it got so bad I moved 2 my next Aunty hse Omo dat sef Na kolo n I use 2 sort dat one out well wiv money o, cos I went 2 manage wiv her in are miserable one room she turned 2 queen Elizabeth, I was always miserable my tears where endless .but one day God remembered me n I suddenly got money 2 rent my own apartment ( dat was wen I knew dat anoda life existed) I grew so fat coz I no longer wake up 5am 2 do hse gal duties again. I had time 4 myself n my beauty came out ,my job is going on well, I have more time 2 pray n my testimonies are endless. Jst remb dis joy comes in d morning & God is not dead be encouraged boo.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 this is what I have for you, if you are working related with your other siblings and live your mom and your brother alone act as if the don't exist they the best answer to a fool is to keep silence,I'm not calling them a fool I'm only saying you should mind your business don't talk to them cos one day they will come to their right senses poster2 if I may ask who tell you he still love abeg live him cos as far as the other girl is still a virgin he will not married you.beward dear
ReplyDeletePoster 1: mind your business... KARMA will soon visit your brother and mother when you least expect... trust me...
ReplyDeletePoster 2: if your ex loved you so much as he claimed, he would have fought for your love THEN and should also fight for it NOW instead of sneaking around like two COWARDS... Let him PROVE his LOVE for YOU... unless he is a MAMA's BOY...
#1, This is so sad when mothers do this! I have 2 suggestions for you;
ReplyDeletei} Move out.
ii} Stay out of their way completely!
#2, Please, move on and let go! Before you get heart broken again!