Married In School,Single At Home.

Thinking about this topic, i have been wondering who the focus should be,- the guys or the girls or the parents or all of the above. 

Time to sit on the couch and discuss serious matters

If you have noticed in almost every university in Nigeria you would find a lot of 'undergraduate couples'; i.e, male and female students living as husbands and wives. You find a lot of this misguided people in virtually all schools, it is so bad that they are duly recognized and acknowledged as couples by fellow students, lodge mates,neighbors and even leaders of various students unions.

 Little wonder there are awards like 'best couple of the year', 'most stylish couple of the year' e.t.c, shamelessly and thoughtlessly received by students. 

Like i pointed out earlier i really don't know who to focus on this topic but let me keep typing.....

 The rate at which girls live with their boyfriends in their various off campus hostels is painfully alarming.

     Most times, these young girls are very beautiful, smart with a bright and promising future.They cohabit with this boys who are their fellow students 'small boys' as roommates, surprisingly and often times very funny the silly girl would always introduce the small boy as her fiance and then one begins to wonder if they have an idea the meaning and weight of the word fiance??. 

     Our society is really sick courtesy of those that live in it. these girls collect either hostel fees or house rent from unsuspecting parents and most times struggling parents and end up in the house of a boy.

     Hold up girls ,lets reason together, because most times you girls are at the loosing end; You struggled possibly for several years to gain admission, then you suddenly became a prayer warrior posting and shouting 'Amen' at the slightest provocation, you fasted and sowed seeds in different churches, you had only one prayer point filled with promises of your loyalty and devotion to God, 'if only HE would answer your prayer' and now that HE has done HIS part  and you have gained that admission don't you think HE is expecting you to fulfill your part too??

Many of you just got your admission, mostly diploma students and once you just settle down especially from your second year, crazy thoughts would start creeping into your head, by then the heat of the rush would have been over, and if God didnt capture you possibly through any of the campus fellowships, the boys would have caught you.

     In most schools there is an unregistered, even unrecognized by the school authority but well offered course for the boys of course and for most boys its a course that should not be carried over. they start with the normal toasting and soon they would persuade you to move in with them, and trust boys they could give you a thousand and one 'logical' reasons to make you give in. Wait..hold up again, before you agree to move in to move in and live with a boy in campus, ask your self these questions; 

Why are you in school in the first place??, would the boy marry you in case you get pregnant??, are you ready to go through series of abortions like many girls before you??, what advice will you give to your children in future??, and most importantly, after school what next??, will the relationship lead you anywhere??. oh boy!! this post is finally addressing the female folks, i didnt plan it this way but then they are the worst hit by the consequences of illicit sexual relationships, they are the once that turn out sore losers and in the end this misguided females are the first to cry out there is no good man out there when they are the once who gave in to misguided teen lost, underage and illicit sexual relationships.

Let me remind you that part of the reasons you are in school is NOT to get the husband and wife experience; to see what it feels like for the boy to provide money for food and for the girl to go the market for food stuffs and cook.that's a total misplacement of purpose, a guy when asked said he was learning how to be a romantic and caring husband, shame!!!,and then you would hear the girl say they are not doing anything o, and they are just roommates yet she commits countless abortions before graduation.

      It it true that gaining admission into the university gives you unlimited freedom, your parents are not there, no blood relation or even distant relation around to guide and monitor you, but what about giving your womanhood some respect??.

 Sent in By Chukwuemerie Emmanuel Okoye{concerned citizen}.