BREAK UP TIPS NEEDED
I got entangled with a married man and I want out now. Please I need tips on how to detach. I’ve tried several times but kept failing. I don’t want this for myself. I need help and not to be judged.
Be very rude and nasty to him without apologising, he will break up with you and block you everywhere...If you want it faster, you can insult his wife too....lol
In addition to Stella .. Block him. Try to engage in activities to keep you busy
ReplyDeleteYou don't need tips, just block his number(s).
ReplyDeleteDon't insult his wife o. Tell God to help you detach yourself from him. Self examine yourself and ask for forgiveness
DeleteYou should just close eyes and end it once and for all, no looking back. You know what to do, just that you are scared.
DeleteYou went and got infatuated with a married man? The only way to detach is to learn how to remove your eyes from what is not yours. Learn contentment. Your problem is covetousness. Go to God in prayer and let him release you from longer throat spirit.
ReplyDeleteThe funny thing about people like you is when you finally get married you would be hitting your chest and bragging that your husband is different and you are lucky to marry a faithful man despite sleeping with others husbands not because when your husbands go out they give you their private parts to keep hence your confidence but you brag and convince yourself they are different just because you can't stomach the thought of same thing happening to you. You can dish it but can't take it.
Anyways you said you don't want to be judged so I would tell you to pray to be delivered from covetousness.
Remove eye from another person's partner. If people are coming out to insult Nigeria government of thieving even you will show face and talk ba
I'm not the poster but let time tell you confidently that not all men cheat. Also, the fact that a lady dated married men while single doesn't make her husband cheat. He may remain faithful to her till death do them part.
DeleteAlso know that some holy virgins got married to cheats.
A man that will cheat will cheat.
Y'all should stop blaming a girls past for the wickedness of her husband.
I don't hear you people saying that a cheating wife is as a result of the gigolo lifestyle of her husband while single.
What is the karma of a cheating married man?
What is the karma of a young man sleeping with people 's wives for money?
Oh, Karma is a misogynist too.
LMAO.
Anon you may not be the poster, but you are the one that know why you were pushed to reply me, because there was no where I inferred everything you wrote up there.
Deletelet me tell you, I am the last person you should tell that not all men cheat because I know and see that, alright. I can't even count the number of times I have written that statement on this blog that faithful men exist. What I find hilarious is, every single lady, I repeat, every single lady who has slept with married men in the past, always coming here to claim that they married a non-cheating man, haba nah, you sef think am nah, lol.
When they are done writing about their past, the next thing you will see them add immediately is, and let me tell you, my husband does not cheat, lol. Every single one of them. Who is asking you for that piece of information? Even the ones whom are married to chronic cheats and does not know will rush to quickly vouch for their husbands at the end of their comments. Lol.
Is it reflex or justification?
Some will even make reference to one virgin they know somewhere who married an unfaithful man but common sense will not tell them that, despite the fact that not all men cheat, irrespective of that, the same way some virgins were unfortunate to marry cheats as husbands, past side chicks too will also marry cheats as husbands whether they believe it or not, it will also happen and happens to them. And the same way some side chicks marry some faithful men, also know, that many virgins also marry faithful men and not all good girls, virgins or whatever we call them are miserable in their marriages o . In the end, it go both ways so who is talking about Karma here?
The easiest way to get rid of a man is to have another. So stop accepting his calls, invites and block his number and start dating. Move to another place if you are able to move, change your number too.
ReplyDeleteI honestly don’t know how some of you say you are done with someone but they still can reach you. What is hard in changing your telephone number, shutting down your social media for a while, even changing the name, moving house. When you want to end something nothing will stop you!
Enjoy yourself my dear.. the issue is the lonely whenever you are alone and thinking about him being with his wife instead of you.
ReplyDeleteMen no dey again ooooo so enjoy this one wey you get
Have you tried stealing his money? As in really really steal a good amount that will leave him depressed for days. I imagine this should work. 🤣🤣.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, you must realise that the only thing that binds him to you is the sex you give him. You involve your emotions, for him you are just a cum reliever. Take away sex and he withdraws from you.
Make she try am with person like me if she no go land for cell and I go spread the news to the public too..
DeleteBro, you just advise a woman to become a thief.. you know how these people listen to bad advice,. Some would start stealing their men money saying it's cos they want to end the relationship.. stop am abeg
A fell in love with the senseless married man and unable to fall out. That's why she said "...but I keep failing"
DeleteShe can"t or does not want to do anything to hurt the man, because she loves him.
The poster may be a single mother.
Edit: *She*
DeleteStella 🤣😂😂
ReplyDelete😆 @ "if you want it faster you can insult his wife"
ReplyDeletePoster, just tell him you want out and mean it. If you don't entertain him in anyway he will stay away.
Make she post his wife for Whatsapp status but block everyone on your list just the guy with small eulogies.
DeleteYou want out.
ReplyDeleteBut you are not ready yet for out.
The lure of the lucre still holds you there.
When men like him are use to tar all or most men on this blog, people like you keep quiet.
You do not speak up that it is a twosome tango.
Instead of insulting his wife to his face, consider going to her face-to-face for advice on how to leave.
Some wives even pray impart marital during such meetings.
If you cannot meet with the wife, leave her out of your dealings with her husband.
And you do not have to insult him too.
Just tell him "no more, go back home to your wife".
And pray he is not one of those who ask for refunds.
Seeing that you cannot do without today's benefits and apparently cannot refund yesterday's portions.
Next time, men like him are called out here, speak up that women are involved too and unwilling to let go.
Wishing you a successful "un-entanglement" when you are ready.
Wishing him enough resources for his wife and children when you un-entangle him.
#Yinmu
She should go and confess to the wife? I want to imagine how that conversation will go.
Delete"Hello, I'm miss X. I'm your husband's cum reliever"
And the wife will open 32 with rejoicing ? Naaaa.
There is no universe in which she comes out of meeting the wife without she going on an inspection tour of the nearest hospital.
@DOG, not all women fight another woman because of a man. Say wetin happen nau?
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DeleteInstead of insulting his wife to his face, consider going to her face-to-face for advice on how to leave.
Some wives even AND pray impart marital BLESSINGS ON SIDE CHICKS during such meetings.
If you cannot meet with the wife, leave her out of your dealings with her husband.
Travel
ReplyDeleteBlock him everywhere, except he knows your house address, I think that should work for.
ReplyDeleteAnd if you have any other guy interested in you, then starting going out with him, have fun.
Insult his wife.He will stop taking to you.Talking from experience.
ReplyDeleteYou're not ready to come out, if you are, nobody will tell you, unless you don't want him to feel that you're the one that breaks the relationship.
ReplyDeleteBe detaching yourself from him gradually, stop picking his calls every time, be ignoring his messages almost every time, don't always return his missed calls, be demanding for outrageous money you know he can't afford, and if he didn't give you, change it for him and don't accept any lesser amount from him and don't accept his pleas.
I think I've tried for you, but please watch your back because men don't like rejection, it bruises their ego.
1) Inform him that you are no longer interested in the relationship.
ReplyDelete2) If 1) doesn't work, block him and stop interacting with him even if he calls with a different number.
3) If 2) doesn't work, then look for one of your good looking male cousins/relatives whom the man doesn't know; take photos together with this good looking guy and keep posting them in places you are sure he will see them. I believe after seeing these photos he will assume that you have gotten another man and moved on.
Best wishes.
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ReplyDeleteIf Una like make Una no use Una head correct the typos.. na the vex wey Una vex me I take type so
DeleteDante you hate women why
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DeleteHmmm for the girl to be do desperate to leave you speaks volume of the relationship.
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DeleteA person desperate to leave just walks away.
Those who find it hard to leave and those who want to pin their leaving on the man's fault are enjoying something from the man they are afraid may not be easily gotten elsewhere.
As with Poster here, she is enjoying the relationship. That is why man dey laff at all the "block him" advice. Block him advice is for a woman who has left but is being pursued by the man, not for a woman who whose eyes and throat are still there but her conscience or body is tired
See comments did he forced her ;the way you enter better get out through the same way, if you try any nasty way it could land you in prison or police station and all those advising you won't help you.
ReplyDeleteSee comments did he forced her ;the way you enter better get out through the same way, if you try any nasty way it could land you in prison or police station and all those advising you won't help you.
ReplyDeleteStella advise na helele
ReplyDeleteWalk away. He's not oxygen. Plus you're lying. 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteTell him you are tired and want to move on or will he be willing to get married to you? Make him understand you wouldn't want to break his lovely home.
ReplyDeleteif he still do not want to let go, then you have to let him know you gonna let his wife explain this to him better.
@Poster, let me tell you the truth no one here is saying gently: This isn’t about the man anymore - it’s about you versus you.
ReplyDeleteYou’ve tried to leave but can’t. That tells me there’s more beneath this than lust or loneliness for you. And whatever it is, your greed is insatiable. You’re emotionally tethered - possibly to how he meets your needs, takes care of you, or makes you feel seen, useful, or wanted in a way that bypasses your common sense. Do you think that's love? Or a loose loop of some form of trauma?
If you really want out, don’t look for quick, savage tips like "insult his wife" or "block his number". That’s surface work. And with the caches of benefits you are wearing daily from this loot, you need to dig deeper. To start with, you need to help that part of you that goes back, understand the following:
Why are you still in it?
What are you feeding emotionally from it?
Your honest answers will guide you on how to build back the parts of you that made the decision to eat crumbs from someone who you know may/will never give you the full plate.
So forget revenge. You don’t need to be rude or play games. That’s unhealthy, you need healing not theatrics. Quietly, but deliberately, detach. Cut access. Starve your greed and needs. Like someone spiritually fasting and starving their flesh of its weaknesses. If you must, disappear - from his reach. Heal in silence, without shame.
Also, forgive yourself without excusing yourself. Shame feeds the cycle, but taking responsibility breaks it - choose your path.
You said you want help, not judgment. Here’s further help:
Get a journal. Write down what you lose and gain each time you return to him. Then choose yourself - daily, with trembling hands if need be. That’s how women become free from their amoral allure.
Wishing you strength and clarity.
And to all of us - may life never test your weakness in the same room as your hunger and thirst, with a parched throat vulnerably famished.
I jus dey tink am say
ReplyDeleteIf na man write say he wan leave but no fit leave.
I siddon dey tink how comments for be today .
Una wey dey fair and unbiased against men no plenti for this blog.
Even sef e fit be say the man too don taya, but na Sister Poster tie am put for work.
See life.
Sister Poster, ask yoursef
You pray for your husband to do you wetin the man dey do to him wife?
You pray for any woman to do you wetin you dey do to the man wife and, yes, him children.
The answer is clear now?
The answer suppose to be NO.
So free the man.
Free your sef.
You no need any tip.
Just ghost him. He will get tired eventually
ReplyDeleteThis is coming from a 50 years old lady.
ReplyDeleteTo Poster and other young ladies dating married men,
A married man has nothing to lose in a relationship with a young lady. Absolutely nothing. Any married man sleeping with a lady that is not his wife is utterly selfish to start with.
That is why they stall your life by showing you love and showering you with presents, just so you don’t think of dating a young man. Before you know it, you are in your late 30s and time has passed you by. I have series of experiences and stories to illustrate my points but I will share one of the stories to teach some of you young ladies something that no one ever taught me.
In my university days, I had a classmate that was very beautiful, tall, curvy, everything in the right places. She was dating a wealthy married man. She had a school boyfriend who’s got prospects and was prepared to marry her as soon as he graduates which wasn’t long then. But she called him a chewing gum boy and always traveled around the world with her married man on business class.
Her married man bought her gold, diamond and designer clothing (this was in the 90s when designers wasn’t even a thing) she uses Clinique products, everything about her screams luxury and class. She was the envy of all because she looked and smelled different from the rest of us.
After graduation her married man got her a job in a multinational company (she is now high up in her career) By then she was already in her late 20s. Her school boyfriend got married to another girl immediately after graduation and travel to USA to live.
Now she is in her 50s, no husband, no child, she has got the money but not fulfilled. She is at the pinnacle of her career but no family of her own. She doesn’t want to be in our class WhatsApp group because some of our mates are judging her. She regrets her life and wishes she could turn the hand of clock back.
Poster, make hay while the sun shines because as you make your bed so you will lie on it.
@your last part, is it everyone that wants to get married and have kids?
DeleteIf she wanted kids, couldn't she adopt?
Did she tell you that she was sad and regrets her life?
Mtcheeeeeeew
Anon 22:40, thank you. I'm a lady and 36. I don't want kids or a husband. I don't understand how some people think at times. Everyone doesn't want the same thing.
DeleteThe poster wants to leave the married man. She should make hay (leave him ASAP). that’s what Anno~1951 means.
DeleteAnno 22:40~who told you that everyone that doesn’t have a child wants to adopt or bring up someone else’s child? You are accusing someone else what you are guilty of.
DeleteI don't think you're ready to leave tbh..both of you have no conscience and deserve each other..better repent and end that relationship ASAP..you know what to do to end that thing!
ReplyDeleteAnno~22:40 and 11:25. My last part was addressed to the poster and not you lots who do not want kids or marriage.
ReplyDeleteBesides 36 is still early for life regrets. Wait untill you get to your 60s-70s. By then your bones will be giving way, you have to think about it before you get up from a chair. By then Some of your friends may have gone to the great beyond while the others will be talking about their grand children and Omogwu, travelling all over to see family, then we can have this discussion.
This has been an ongoing issue in the western world, where a lot of people are regretting not having a family in old age. They are lonely and miserable.
It is different when it didn’t happen for you but to say you don’t want something that is so natural, definitely comes with its consequences.
Anon,21:21, you will be the miserable one when you get old. Haven't you seen those that have kid's that still suffered in old age. That's if you get to old age sef.
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